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Go Deeper

One of the best part of going out with someone new is exploring their personality.  Not only are you putting in face time to determine how strong your attraction is, you also get to discover the way they think.

When things are going well, you move past the shallow conversations and small talk. I love to go deeper in conversations and find out how much we are alike, how we differ, and even learn something new.

Once you go below the surface, you find out what a person is truly passionate about. In my experience, this is how you manage to get to a second and third dates.  You both are so captivated by the conversation, you can’t wait for another opportunity to, well go deeper!

It is always a great sign when you can have a great discussion with someone you are attracted to.  I think that a person’s dating conversation can make or break a date.  Have you ever been  on a second date with someone whose conversation left you confused, annoyed, or bored? Trust me, if you struggle with this, it’s something you should work on.

What do you like to discuss on a date? If you find out that you are intellectually unmatched, do you think your attraction to the person would fade?

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493 comments Add your comment

kinderbabe

December 10th, 2009
1:29 pm

@dream_n–that is so true about someone giving the word “love” meaning. you know where they say “the greatest love of all” is.;) we look so hard and search so far and the love we want is within. the mate we desire simply is a mirror of the love we are and feel.

LURKER

December 10th, 2009
1:30 pm

It’s only hard because you’re watching. Stop watching and watch it get easier. Out of sight, out of mind.

LURKER

December 10th, 2009
1:31 pm

Only a dummy would watch and is a glutton for punishment. What do you say Dream Girl?

kinderbabe

December 10th, 2009
1:32 pm

@cemeeli…it’s gonna be that cold! wowzers! i might need to get my longjohns out…lol

Professor

December 10th, 2009
1:32 pm

Dream I am loving the quotes…yes the meaning behind the word love is what counts

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 10th, 2009
1:32 pm

Question for everyone:

Are there certain topics off limits for the first date? Also what happens when you hear about someone’ s ex’s? Do you form an opinion on them?

Quote “What’s worst than a man/woman who is garbage, is somebody that will date them”

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:33 pm

LURKER…. why so negative? Just quotes.

Oh and thanx MO for the info!

For Real

December 10th, 2009
1:34 pm

Dream: “One of the hardest things in life is watching the person you love, love someone else.” – But if you loved them wouldn’t you want them to find love? Kind of like “If you love someone set them free”

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
1:36 pm

Professor/Dream_n/Cemeeli – glad you ladies liked the site, here is another one http://www.bottlemeamessage.com. I have used them both and was pleased with both. Its something different, ya know?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 10th, 2009
1:37 pm

I used to rule the world
Seas would rise when I gave the word
Now in the morning I sleep alone
Sweep the streets I used to own

I used to roll the dice
Feel the fear in my enemy’s eyes
Listen as the crowd would sing
“Now the old king is dead! Long live the king!”

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:38 pm

Don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s
called falling in love, because you don’t force
yourself to fall, you just fall.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:39 pm

It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy
with someone else, but it’s more painful to know that
the one you love is unhappy with you.

Demi

December 10th, 2009
1:39 pm

Nas is a dumb a$$…

What’s the topic?!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:39 pm

Who do you turn to when the only person
in the world that can stop you from crying,
is exactly the one making you cry?

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:40 pm

He taught me how to love,
but not how to stop.

St. Mary

December 10th, 2009
1:40 pm

love that song Viva la Vida

I use to ruuuule the world
Seas would rise when I gave the world
Now in the morning I sleeeep alone
Sweep the streets I use to oo oo ooown

St. Mary

December 10th, 2009
1:41 pm

listening to it right now

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:41 pm

Okay I’m done.
I love love, even when it hurts!

Demi

December 10th, 2009
1:41 pm

But if you loved them wouldn’t you want them to find love?

You would think, but Hellz to the Naaaaaw…part of the reason there are so many crazy EXs floating around in the world.

LURKER

December 10th, 2009
1:42 pm

What’s the topic?!

The sappiness of love as viewed by women

Demi

December 10th, 2009
1:42 pm

He taught me how to love,
but not how to stop.

Who? JESUS?

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:42 pm

St. Mary

I agree, that song is great.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
1:43 pm

kinderteach cold weather keeps me in and watching some good movies…I organize a full nights worth of movies and make some good eats…i need to bake some cookies too.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
1:44 pm

@MO,so what happens after u make the purchase..??

They get the message in a bottle mailed to them??

@M Also what happens when you hear about someone’ s ex’s? Do you form an opinion on them?

depends on ur intentions buddy…

If u just want to be on girl’s good side and get the coochie real quickie,what better way than to trash the previous guy..u score major points!! :lol: good short term strategy!

U just say:

M: next time he does that again or if he calls u to want to meet u,lemme know right quick so i can be there and escort u (u proly have it literrraly delivered to ur spot that nite!)

Best thing on a date is jus be ur self..dont practice any plays…either u are a good guy with lots of pull factor or u dont…

most women are enthralled by guys who seem at ease and with a lil mystique in them….u know..jus like me :lol:

If u dont have it,yeah,keep asking qstions M! :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
1:45 pm

Cee,

Have you ever tried to make the peanut butter cookies with the hershey in the middle.

We used to bake with our neighbor across the street and those were her favorites. The lil one and I intend on making them Chritmas night.

For Real

December 10th, 2009
1:46 pm

Alright DK I’ll take that raise you this:

Add a little sugar, honey suckle lamb
A great big expression of happiness
Boy, you couldn’t miss with the dozen roses
Such would astound you
The joy of children laughing around you

These are the makings of you

The righteous way to go
Little one would know
I believe if I told them so
You’re second to none
The love of all mankind

Should reflect some sign
Of these words I’ve tried to recite
They’re close but not quite
Almost impossible to do
Reciting the making of you

Demi

December 10th, 2009
1:46 pm

The sappiness of love as viewed by women

Sounds depressing…shot of Grey Goose to all the fellas…Tangueray for the ladies.

now borrowing For Real’s camera

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
1:48 pm

Cee

I like snickerdoodles. :grin:

I’m putting my order in now.

:lol:

Just playing..

I gotta chop lumber for the fireplace. Chopping firewood really works.

kinderbabe

December 10th, 2009
1:48 pm

@M. well nobody’s garbage. i’m an earth girl i believe in recycling…lol. most items can be revamped and made into SOMETHING useful.:) one’s trash is another’s treasure.

on a first date, i would not set up convo about past relationships. if we wound up going there, so be it. i also would not talk about sex or religion.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
1:48 pm

Nas is a dumb AsN…’a

:lol:

Jayzee is the only one who made a good gamble on marriage.Good risk.
These other mfckers just throwing away their retirement money for these good for none hoochies!

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
1:49 pm

It’s December, it should be cold…I just cain’ deal in the 20s though… i can deal in 40s & 30s…but 20 degrees is unbearable. not okay for a southerner.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
1:51 pm

Oh – but when i went to DC for Obama’s Inaugural last winter it went from GA’s 40s to 8 degrees in the same day!. …that ain’t fair!…

Hey PoppaG! and i saw some snickerdoodles at Publix. :lol:

Sam

December 10th, 2009
1:51 pm

Jayzee is the only one who made a good gamble on marriage.Good risk.

How would you know? Based on bootylishousness? Cause you’re the thirdwheel ther? Just tryna see how you came up with that rationale.

mqew

December 10th, 2009
1:52 pm

CeeMee why in the world you mention cookies… (on the way to the kitchen to see if I have the stuff to make oatmeal raisin…)

Demi

December 10th, 2009
1:52 pm

Jayzee is the only one who made a good gamble on marriage

Yes, success should marry success.

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
1:53 pm

Their snickerdoodles aren’t my favorite.

I like to bake my own.

Actually, I have sugar cinnamon pecans in the oven. I got little mason jars from Michael’s. The wife does the pretty girly stuff with ribbin and crap.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
1:54 pm

Just tryna see how you came up with that rationale

the woman has her own money and the bootylishousness is a bonus.If they were to go to a divorce,and they have a kid or 2,she will proly even be so disugusted to even go ask for child support.

Now Kelis….she is scrapping by,proly selling dope on the sly! :lol:

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
1:55 pm

Have you ever tried to make the peanut butter cookies with the hershey in the middle.

@Dream – Not with chocolate…jus regular peanut butter cookies.

@PoppaG – I’m jealous…you have a fireplace. I should have did that!

2CPTG......smart azz!

December 10th, 2009
1:56 pm

afternoon, y’all…..

cain’t deal with dumb chics…..(original topic)

If the person I love is lovin’ someone else….she ain’t gon be my love for long…gon’ have to “let it burn!”

what else y’all talkin bout…..

kinderbabe

December 10th, 2009
1:56 pm

@cemeeli–it is good for staying in watching movies and eating freshly baked cookies…o.k. i have my weekend plans now…lol

mqew

December 10th, 2009
1:57 pm

Melo ur butt is funnE —>Now Kelis….she is scrapping by,proly selling dope on the sly! <——-

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
1:58 pm

Cee

We have two fireplaces.

One in the living room and one in the dining room.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 10th, 2009
1:59 pm

@Melo

LOL Well I was asking from a standpoint of this, lets say you meet a woman and the more you get to know her, you find out that 3 of her last 4 boyfriends were all abusive to her, after a while, arent you going to start asking questions about her like, this girl must be into this or something….how does she constantly gravitate towards these kind of guys. More than likely, thats all she is used to and cant embrace or recognize something better.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
2:00 pm

I have sugar cinnamon pecans in the oven. I got little mason jars from Michael’s. The wife does the pretty girly stuff with ribbin and crap.

PoppaG Like the onces they sell in the mall…you know how to make those? Well then, i’m putting in my order.

Speaking of the wifey…i have not gotten my cards out for the holiday. I’m behind… :(

mqew

December 10th, 2009
2:01 pm

ATTN ALL – ANYONE HAVE A GOOD OATMEAL RAISIN COOKIE RECIPIE.

I don’t bake.

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
2:01 pm

Kinderbabe….It is gonna be rainy and cold this weekend. Inside work is best.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
2:01 pm

Melo – when you purchase the message in a bottle you chose where you want it to be delivered

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
2:02 pm

mqew….I love Costco’s oatmeal raisin cookies.

They are great and you get 36 of them at a time.

Poppa Grande

December 10th, 2009
2:04 pm

Cee…

Like the onces they sell in the mall…you know how to make those? Well then, i’m putting in my order.

Yes, I do. I make a huge Mason jar full for my dad on father’s day and they almost caused my parent’s to divorce because she was eating them. I had to make some for her after that.

The wife asked that I make them for some of her workers to put in holiday giftbags with their gift.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
2:05 pm

PoppaG okay…okay..you have 2 fireplaces…alright alright! :roll:

they are worth every penny to have put in the house!… my c-worker found came home last week and a squirrel had feel down in her’s and had ramshacked the house.

now that ^^ is the bad part.