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Go Deeper

One of the best part of going out with someone new is exploring their personality.  Not only are you putting in face time to determine how strong your attraction is, you also get to discover the way they think.

When things are going well, you move past the shallow conversations and small talk. I love to go deeper in conversations and find out how much we are alike, how we differ, and even learn something new.

Once you go below the surface, you find out what a person is truly passionate about. In my experience, this is how you manage to get to a second and third dates.  You both are so captivated by the conversation, you can’t wait for another opportunity to, well go deeper!

It is always a great sign when you can have a great discussion with someone you are attracted to.  I think that a person’s dating conversation can make or break a date.  Have you ever been  on a second date with someone whose conversation left you confused, annoyed, or bored? Trust me, if you struggle with this, it’s something you should work on.

What do you like to discuss on a date? If you find out that you are intellectually unmatched, do you think your attraction to the person would fade?

Update: Check out our fabulous Atlanta Bargain Hunger blog! Today, Miss Cash covers  Cheap Date Ideas perfect for the holiday season!

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kinderbabe

December 10th, 2009
11:35 am

cemeeli–yep, my last day is next friday. all praises to God!!:) i can’t wait…lol

mo–nothing like being sleepy for a good cause…lol. makes you feel all warm inside.:)

professor–now that would be a beautiful gift. something to treasure always. that’s much more meaningful than a card.:) i think you should put that on your wish list to Santa.

Melo

December 10th, 2009
11:37 am

Hello folks….

Going deep ha WD…U dont like going deep tho..

I doubt discussing deep politics,finance,ur job etc wld be an interesting Deep subject(s) for a date..
I agree with Proff/School..lets just take it easy and let the conversation flow..
If u 2 pple vibe,sure enough some interesting things to talk about will come up..there is so much deep stuff going on in Atlanta right now for example that u bound to touch on them and get somebody’s interst level,intelligence and position on those matters without having to force things.
A date “interview” too is a turn of. You hate to be under the spotlight as it were,like u being asked to pass thru some test.

And i agree that somebody’s intelligence level,etc is something u kinda gather upfront based on ur initial discussions on the phone, what they do for a living,where they went to school etc.
Deep to me and what i may want to find out about them is how they interact with their family,where they going for xmas/thankgiving and why,where their daddy/mum is at and when they last spoke and their justification for that foreclosure mishap,their circle of friends,who married,who is not etc and where they hang out on the regular on weekends…
It wont be an interview..we chopping the brisket,she driving and im drinking the liqor,she on some wine and she getting a lil animated but still in control and talking…we going deep(ur three words for the day)

How dee folks!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
11:37 am

@ Professor: Yes, a heartfelt letter would be great to recieve as opposed to a Halmark card. (although there are some very good ones)

Leggs: Yup, I agree, I think SexyC touched on that the other day.

Professor

December 10th, 2009
11:41 am

That seals it…I am adding the letter on my list for Santa!

Wassup Melo! I totally agree with your postIf you can find out about their family during the conversation that is deep it says a lot…school, friends, hangout spots.

Professor

December 10th, 2009
11:52 am

Off Topic: I cannot think of anything that I really want for lunch lernch. Part of me want some spicyyyyyyy chicken from Popeye’s but I really try to keep away from that stuff.

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
11:55 am

Go to American Deli and get a philly steak n cheese.

@Raqi ~ are you going to re-send?

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
11:57 am

Professor – I love letters. I remember I sent my ex-so a message in a bottle, complete with a heartfelt note and had it delivered to him. I like the sentiment, its so personal.

And I am trying to decide whats for lunch as well! Im starving!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
12:00 pm

@ Mo,
I like that concept, might have to steal it for the new beau!!! lol

Lunch time= A simple salad w/turkey & a bottle of ice cold water.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 10th, 2009
12:01 pm

On topic.. I just talk and let the conversation go where it goes.. If its awkward its awkward and I dont force it.. The more comfortable I feel with you the more I’ll chit chat it up.. I just dont think this dating thing should be hard.. If ya’ll click ya’ll will chat with ease.. if not those awkward moments will fill the date and thats when I cut it short.. I’m not rude about the cutting it short but I’ll politely let myself out of the date.. Im not investing time or money on a date to get you to talk..

For Real

December 10th, 2009
12:02 pm

What’s the matter with your life
Is the poverty bringing U down?
Is the mailman jerking U ’round?
Did he put your million dollar check
In someone else’s box?

Professor

December 10th, 2009
12:02 pm

Mo~ I love the message in a bottle. Now that was so sweet.

Leggs I don’t eat beef or pork. Maybe a chicken n cheese philly style? I want something good I worked about 15 hours yesterday so I am low on fuel.

kinderbabe

December 10th, 2009
12:02 pm

mo, professor–what areas are you guys in? if you like sushi, rusan’s always makes a tasty lunch. i also like noodle on peachtree across the street from vortex.

Professor

December 10th, 2009
12:04 pm

Dream~ I should have made me a salad I have some grilled chicken. I just wasn’t in the mood last night, though.

For Real

December 10th, 2009
12:05 pm

I agree with Dream a witty chick is very attractive to me and speaks volumes of her intellect. Speaking of intellect here is some of mines:

In the movie Purple Rain, what name did Morris Day call Prince when Prince showed up in the alley where Morris Day and Applelo, Applela, the light skin chick where?

For Real

December 10th, 2009
12:07 pm

Tell me, what’s the matter with your world
Was it a boy when U wanted a girl?
Don’t U know straight hair ain’t got no curl
Life it ain’t real funky
Unless it’s got that pop
Dig it

Professor

December 10th, 2009
12:08 pm

Kinderbabe today is one of those days that I want something quick and a little greasy. I want to take a quick power nap after I eat lunch.

For Real

December 10th, 2009
12:11 pm

Pop life
Everybody needs a thrill
Pop life
We all got a space 2 fill
Pop life
Everybody can’t be on top
But life it ain’t real funky
Unless it’s got that pop
Dig it

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
12:15 pm

Professor I’m trying to get into the “eating healthy” thing while trying to minimize the amount of money I spend on fast food and dine in restaurants.

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
12:17 pm

@Raqi, the only email out of the ordinary in my junk file was a valued customer coupon for Viagra.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
12:17 pm

Im not investing time or money on a date to get you to talk..

Nothing worse than trying to pull teeth to get someone to talk. If it’s not there it’s just not there.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
12:17 pm

Professor/Dream_n – i found a website that does the messages in a bottle and they decorate them really nice too!

Kinderbabe – im off Lavista Rd so I think Jason’s Deli is in my future

Infamous – I hear ya dude, ^5

Leggs - F and F

December 10th, 2009
12:21 pm

@Raqi ~ I just received it. Thank you very much. That was cute and very sweet of you!!

Professor

December 10th, 2009
12:22 pm

Dream~ I agree with the healthy eating thing. I try as well and I hate fast food, because I don’t do burgers. My guilty pleasures are lemon pepper wings, sometimes I crave Popeye’s and Chick-fil-a milkshakes. Hopefully I will get back on track Monday.

Dan

December 10th, 2009
12:22 pm

@Mo

Wouldn’t that take away from it a little?

Nothing like writing it in my own chickenstratch and putting it the Crown Royal bottle (with decorative bag) myself.

JtJ

December 10th, 2009
12:23 pm

Hey MIA gang,

Deep convo’s in dating/relationships….they defintely have their time & place. When I was dating……I always got hit with the “why is such a pretty lady like you single”….I hated this question with a passion!!!Uuugggh. As if to say ” what’s wrong with you?”. Some people just don’t know how to let it flow naturally, they get all uptight and do the practice drill line of questions from Dating 101.

In dating, especially in the beginning, just keep it simple and it goes into deep topics, let it flow or just know when to change the subject if there is something you don’t want to talk about at that time.
My fiance and I text each other alot, even when we are home together. Sometimes, we text while we are sitting next to each other just to say something fre*ky so we the kids don’t hear.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 10th, 2009
12:24 pm

Real – Come on with that Prince Good Sir..

Professor

December 10th, 2009
12:25 pm

Wouldn’t that take away from it a little?

I think the true essence is the thought and feelings behind it…so I don’t see anything lost. I wish more people would get out of the box and do acts like that…the idea was superb in my book!

Wise Diva

December 10th, 2009
12:26 pm

hey everyone! Check out the post, I’ve updated it with a link to our Atlanta Bargain Hunter blog. Great cheap date ideas !

For Real

December 10th, 2009
12:27 pm

Kissing like a bandit stealing time
Underneath the sycamore tree
Cupid by the hour sends valentines
To my sweet lover and me
Slowely
Surely
Yours appetite is more than I know
Sweetly
Softly
I’m falling in love with you

SexyCool - Favorite Color: Red

December 10th, 2009
12:28 pm

Tiger has a new name.

It’s Cheetah.
:)

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
12:28 pm

Deep to me and what i may want to find out about them is how they interact with their family,where they going for xmas/thankgiving and why,where their daddy/mum is at and when they last spoke

Melo – well you know how i am about family! so same here. to just sit around me and my family will gives me much filled conversation time & cool insights. I enjoy talking about everything…I definitley do not care for surface people…

Ali Those awkward moments…yea…cut that mess to the left!…I can go home and stare at the paint on my wall instead.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
12:29 pm

Dan – I dont think it takes away at all, plus it would help if he could actually read what I am telling him! I think it just adds a more personal touch. But I do see how you could question that. Like Professor though I believe its the thought that counts. But you can send me a note in a Crown Royale bag! :smile:

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
12:29 pm

…somebody jammin’…is that…?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 10th, 2009
12:29 pm

SC – Youre about three days late on that the Cheetah one.

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
12:30 pm

Tiger has a lot of cars, but now he has a hole in one.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray/With 17 more days til my Bday

December 10th, 2009
12:31 pm

Kissing like a bandit stealing time
Underneath the sycamore tree
Cupid by the hour sends valentines
To my sweet lover and me
Slowely
Surely
Yours appetite is more than I know
Sweetly
Softly
I’m falling in love with you

I can get with ^

THE INFAMOUS DK aka MR. FRESH BAKED BREAD

December 10th, 2009
12:32 pm

SC – Youre goin downhill fast..

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
12:32 pm

Mo – Awww…you’re so cute…message in a bottle. Send me one…see if a Jason’s giftcard can fit in it. :wink:

…baked potato sounds good right now.

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
12:32 pm

The difference between Tiger and Santa.
Santa stops at 3 h*’s.

JtJ

December 10th, 2009
12:33 pm

Speaking of conversing……..
I recall so many times telling my fiance how I don’t like Spas and barely can stand getting pedicures cause I can’t stand for people to touch my feet and what did he get me for my b-day?????? A Spa day gift cert. for a hot stone massage, facial, and pedi/mani………..the look on my face : PRICELESS! And you know they are non-refundable….lol
I guess this would fall into another category: LISTENING!!!!

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
12:33 pm

Eany meany miney mo.
Catch a Tiger by his h*.

For Real

December 10th, 2009
12:34 pm

Girls and boys!

He only knew her 4 a little while,
but he had grown accustomed 2 her style
She had the cutest ass he’d ever seen
He did 2, they were meant 2 be
They loved 2 kiss on the steps of Versailles
It looked like rain, mama, birds do fly
I love u baby, I love u so much,
maybe we can stay in touch
Meet me in another world, space and joy,
vous etes tres belle, mama, girls and boys

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
12:35 pm

What’s the difference between chopped beef and pea soup?
Everyone can chop beef, but not everyone can pea soup!

kinderbabe

December 10th, 2009
12:36 pm

@mo—jason’s deli sounds good.
@professor—i understand what you mean. i think i’m about due for some fried fish tomorrow. nothing like a little grease…lol.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10th, 2009
12:36 pm

For Real – loving the Prince!!

Cemeeli – im such an artsy chic! so that message in a bottle was perfect to me

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
12:37 pm

Why does a squirrel swim on its back?
To keep its nuts dry.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
12:37 pm

JtJ – now see!..i’m laughing at chu’….and i’m mad at not you liking him to touch your feet! Now what nightmare, or twisted foot story, or what foot doctor messed the baby’s head up??

…Cee is now stuck.thinkin. – foot run is not a turn on for all women?

SexyCool - Got Jokes?!?!?

December 10th, 2009
12:37 pm

heello, iss tthhatt thhee sshhoop iii boouugghht thhee vviibbrrattorr ffrroomm. yes. ccaann yyoouu tteell mmee hhooww ttoo ttuurrnn tthhee *g tthhiinngg ooffff.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
12:39 pm

correction on the foot rub…yea…foot rub.

Cemeeli

December 10th, 2009
12:42 pm

The difference between Tiger and Santa.
Santa stops at 3 h*’s.

…this one got me….