It is really interesting how things shift once you get into a serious relationship. The very thing that has drawn you to someone, suddenly is a big problem. Perhaps the best example of this is when a man meets a really sexy woman and once she becomes his, he isn’t comfortable with her displaying her beauty as much.
Raqi sent me an interesting article that mentioned singer Shakira and her boyfriend. Apparently, Shakira’s man saw a recent video of her dancing in a cage in a neutral colored bodysuit. He made a remark about how she needed to “put some clothes on” and tone it down a bit. I’m assuming that when he met her, she was no wallflower. This is the “hips don’t lie” girl, right?
Raqi wrote: “We know that men are very visual when it comes to their attraction to women. It’s what they see that initially attracts them. So what happens after you two have formed a relationship and he tells you that he now wants you to dress less sexy? It’s now a matter of “For his eyes only”. Does a “boyfriend” have that right? ”
I am not sure what I would think if a man wanted me to dial it down a bit for his personal taste. I believe I would wonder what made him so insecure about how I carry myself. If that was a real issue, then why would he be with me in the first place?
Why do you think we are drawn to people for certain things and then when we get in a relationship, our perspective changes on these same things?
Guys, if you date someone who dresses “provocatively” would you want them to take their sexy down once they are in a relationship with you?
Ladies, have you ever had a man tell you that he was uncomfortable with the way you dressed or carried yourself?