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Men of a Certain Age

Last night, TNT premiered it’s new one-hour show, Men of a Certain Age, starring Ray Romano, Andre Braugher, and Scott Bakula.
Men of A Certain Age
Photo Credit: TNT

I haven’t seen the pilot show yet but it certainly looks promising, if just for the peek into a fictional male psyche, alone. There are a lot of things men simply don’t speak about publicly (or to womenfolk): their insecurities, frustrations, or motivation of why they do what they do.

When it comes to getting older, men are notorious for reacting in the most bizarre and outrageous ways*. Hey, I’m not judging, I’m just saying. What is it about getting older that “men of a certain age” seem to struggle with the most?

That will probably be the most captivating part of the show, gaining some insight into what some men have to deal with as they get older. Not to mention, how women and their relationships with us fits into everything.

After dating a younger guy, I admit that there are differences in dating “men of a certain age”  but I wouldn’t necessarily say it is better or worse. In my experience, it seems that the maturity level of a man determines how well (or poorly) he handles a dating relationship. What do you think?

Ladies, have you noticed any differences in dating men in their 20s versus dating men in their 30s, 40s, or 50s? What were they? How did you relate to them in terms of communication?

Guys, is there a particular age that a woman should take a man more seriously when it comes to relationships? How do you think a man’s age impacts his dating behaviors? At what age do men usually change how they relate to women?

*Disclaimer: Of course women react to growing older in bizarre and outrageous ways too. It’s all about the fellas today, though. You’re welcome.

316 comments Add your comment

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:39 am

FIRST! Ah… it feels so good… :lol:

Brad in Jasper

December 8th, 2009
8:42 am

Case by case, really. I’ve known 18 year old guys that were very mature for their age, and 50 year olds that are terminally adolescent. I’d say that applies to the fairer sex to a lesser degree.

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:42 am

Okay, now that that is out of the way… Morning, people!

On Topic: Eh… I don’t know. Personally, I think age is just a number. I’ve seen 40 (hell, even 60) year-olds act like teenagers, and vice-versa. All depends on the individual.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
8:42 am

Well dammit Swiss, I thought I was gonna be first!

Oh well, I dont have much on this topic so I will lurk

Morning All

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:47 am

I will say this, however… I have noticed that men & women tend to differ in their respective M.O’s when it comes to hanging on to their youth. Seems like women tend to focus more on their appearance (anti-wrinkle cream, cosmetic surgery, coloring hair, etc.), while men tend to focus more on lifestyle (going out drinking with the boys, driving sports cars, chasing skirts 1/2 — or 1/3 — their age, etc.). Don’t really have any where to go with that… just an observation… :)

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:49 am

Ah, you see, Mo… you made the rookie mistake: You actually took time to try to think of a relevant post. There’s no time for that. You’ve just got to type “FIRST” and hit that submit button ASAP! :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
8:52 am

Im Swiss – yeah, yeah okay you got me! :mad: Its all good, guess that whats I get for trying to have something to say on this topic

William

December 8th, 2009
8:57 am

I think men at the age 40 really appreciate the opposite more but will not necessarily act the fool.

AlphaDog

December 8th, 2009
9:05 am

Please cease with the “I’m First” postings. It doesn’t do anything for the discussion of the day. Also, if you have nothing to contribute to the topic don’t waste our time and space on the page. We don’t care for your “good morning” greetings or wishes for a good weekend. Stay on topic. Just a rant from a man of a certain age!

phil

December 8th, 2009
9:21 am

Saw the first 30 minutes of the show. It was slow! So slow, I couldn’t finish the hour. It seemed they were trying to do an “HBO” type show, but without the freedom that HBO brings. The story line was predictable, the characters are not really that likeable, etc. This was a good opportunity to bring something interesting to the screen, but from what I saw, a bad miss!

LeeH1

December 8th, 2009
9:23 am

Women and girls used to look at me as a man or a possible date for them or a girlfriend. Now I’m looked at as a non-possible. I have more authority and power, but less sex attraction and side-long looks.

Girls used to dress attractively to attract men like me. Now that I’m older, I’ve found that women dress attractively for younger men and flirt with others younger than me.

This doesn’t matter so much since I’m over forty, out of circulation and comfortably married, but it is something that I’ve noticed. Women and girls are very age conscious in dealing and acting with men.

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
9:24 am

Alpha — It’s called sarcasm. Have a Prozac & chillax, dude.

Sandy

December 8th, 2009
9:26 am

We thought it will be our favorite show (me and my girlfriend). I’m 58 and she’s 46 by the way.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
9:32 am

@AlphaDog ~ what’s wrong with saying Good Morning or wishing one a good weekend to people you speak to everyday????

GOOD MORNING EVERYONE AND ENJOY THE WORK WEEK!

Sue

December 8th, 2009
9:32 am

Couldn’t find it on our TV – we live in Toronto, Ontario

Timeless

December 8th, 2009
9:41 am

LeeH1, some women are very attracted to characteristics of older men. Some older men have no problem attracting much younger women…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
9:42 am

Its your state of mind.. If youre happy and you know it clap your hands.. I feel now Im a heck of a catch. Street smart and book smart with a healthy respect for relationships. No longer do I think and I quote Snoop “B’s aint sh!t”. I think they are beautiful flowers that need my water.. Let the soiling begin..

Luvbug

December 8th, 2009
9:45 am

Jim

December 8th, 2009
9:46 am

Guys, wait ’till you get grey hair. Then you become invisible.

P.S. I like it that way.

Max Talbot

December 8th, 2009
9:46 am

I am in my late 30s and can definitely see how my perspectives on dating and relationship have changed over the years. I wasn’t as serious in my 20s – just wanted to get laid – but now am thinking more along the lines of getting married and staying with one woman.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
9:47 am

CLAP, CLAP, CLAP!!!

Wonderwoman

December 8th, 2009
9:48 am

Somewhat agree with the maturity (key word) level of a man (heck any person really) determines how well or poorly he handles a dating relationship. But to me maturity is not based the age, people mature at different ages.

From my experience dating a men in their mid- to- late 20’s is not so much different from men in their 30’s or 40’s. It depends on what you are looking for as far maturity!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
9:49 am

my thoughts are late 30s and 40yr old have just has much mind games as the early 30 and 20 yr old men…age is just a number its expericence I feel that brings out certain behavior along with childhood experience…so the older the better is just like taking a risk like any other choice…

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
9:49 am

INFAMOUS “No longer do I think and I quote Snoop “B’s aint sh!t”. I think they are beautiful flowers that need my water.. Let the soiling begin..”

This statement did have a sense of poetry to it, but I couldn’t help but to immediately get a less than poetic visual image in my head. SOILING?? LOLOLOLOL! (pls excuse me while I go wash my hands) ;-)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
9:50 am

CLAP, CLAP, CLAP, CLAP, CLAPPITY-CLAP!

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
9:50 am

DK, couldn’t agree with you more (hell, I read your posts and think I coulda said the exact same thing, sometimes)….but you’re right, after having “been there, done that,” you gain a newfound respect for a lot of things….relationships, notwithstanding.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
9:52 am

Clapping, clapping, clapping…I can’t stop clapping!

abc

December 8th, 2009
9:53 am

I didn’t watch the show, I doubt I’ll make much effort to do so — I’m not a TV type of guy. It’s just TV, and doesn’t necessarily reflect real life.

Most people will gain maturity as they grow older. Maturity is gained at different rates and to different extents, varying per person. Maturity’s biggest effect on relationships is to bring an aspect of putting another person’s interests before your own; that’s something that’s rare in 20-somethings. I can say that age has had that effect on me, or maybe I just finally got together with the right woman.

“Men of a certain age”, which I gather to be around late 40’s and early 50’s, have hopefully learned to move beyond the superficial, and with impending mortality becoming a clearer concept, pursue that which leads to contentment, happiness, and fulfillment in such a way that it isn’t just all about themselves, but rather for the benefit of all those around them, too.

NY2GA, Inc.

December 8th, 2009
9:56 am

I personally like men that are a bit more seasoned than I. But yeah, when some of them get in their 40’s they can get a little weird sometimes.

It’s called “male menopause”-

Morrigan

December 8th, 2009
9:59 am

LeeH1 – “Now I’m looked at as a non-possible. I have more authority and power, but less sex attraction and side-long looks.”

Welcome to the world that women have suffered in since time began. I used to be able to get away with anything, anywhere; now that I have gray hair and wrinkles (though still a hot figure!), I might as well be invisible. Or a (figurative) punching bag.

Timeless

December 8th, 2009
9:59 am

Wonderwoman, are you serious that dating a men in their mid- to- late 20’s is not so much different from men in their 30’s or 40’s? There’s a world of difference…

TT

December 8th, 2009
10:00 am

Thoiught the show was boring. Was disappointed. Not sure if I will watch again. Don’t think it is worth being tied to the TV for the 10-11 hour.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
10:00 am

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

Good Morning Everyone!… (even you Alpha :wink: )

We can go in a circle about the subject of maturity. While I believe wisdom is gained through experience. Maturity can be gained at just about any age. And age is just that a number. I have friends that had to step up and take charge of their household @ 17 because the their father chose to run out. They got jobs to help out their mother and went on to become the surrogate father for their siblings. I know women who had to step up at a very early age b/c their mom was on drugs and didn’t care 2 sh!ts about if they went to school or not, but they did.

I don’t put too much into age. I put more into the individual and how they react and cope with certain situations presented to them.

Timeless

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

I’m not sure why you guys think grey hair makes you invisible. Most women I have met love grey/pepper hair. They say it adds a sense of maturity and sophistication. Of course, the women themselves have to have some maturity to realize that… :)

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

@NY2GA, Inc. they really are I feel are testing if they still have but tring to be the mature guy they are but the mix is throwing me as I communicate with one…it is weird…I am like ok…moving right along but he doesn’t disappear still there but won’t chose a side to play….lol

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

hair flip to the ladies! pat on da booty to 2C! lol. good morning!

older men . . . for me to date them they can’t look their age. i don’t wanna date my uncle, k.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
10:02 am

Hello, Grace. Welcome back!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:05 am

I love a salt/pepper beard not full but a few hairs here and there is cool and in the head too…@ any age though I’ve seen the 20s, 30s, and so on….

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:06 am

**Maturity can be gained at just about any age.** yep! i know a guy who is 30 yrs old and acts my age.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
10:06 am

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:06 am

@Timeless

I have to agree…. I love salt and pepper hair on a man. Hell I’m young. I’m usually attracted to older men… 35 and older.

Now there are men in my age bracket that exude maturity, balance, and respect also.

NY2GA, Inc.

December 8th, 2009
10:07 am

@Lady J

LOL! So you’ve got one of those, too? My man of a certain age is 44.

Ben

December 8th, 2009
10:07 am

Lots of questions put out there by the blogger and I can’t speak for anyone but myself. There is no certain age that men change in their behaviors. It is completely dependent on the individual. In my 20’s I had 2 relationships that lasted 2 years and 5 years respectively but my behaviors were that of a guy who was still in college and living life much like that. Looking back I certainly wasn’t at a maturity level to nurture a real “adult” relationship. It wasn’t until I was 31 when I began dating my girlfriend that I felt like I had my first “adult” relationship. I’m sure that totally has to do with experiences and maturity and being able to communicate better. Also, she was old enough (29) and secure enough in who she was to bring her experiences into the relationship. The fact that she was her own person and had her own life was extremely attractive. Not to mention she’s super cute.

God, I feel like I just posted on an Oprah message board or something.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
10:09 am

Morning hu hu,huhu Alpha Dawg!

hey folks…

For men,20s is geting laid,late 20 and 30s settling down..40s is reflection as u are settled,late 40s is panic time..this may be the last time to Git It Up without too much adoo so u wanna be taping it once more as u go in the sexxual twilight zone! :arrow:

Thats my sense!

Again Morning folks! :lol:

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
10:11 am

I like a little salt-n-pepper in a man’s goatee. I thinks it adds a sexy-mature vibe to their look.

However, within the last 2yrs I’ve noticed a more frequent amount of ‘numerically mature’ men trying to approach me. Now I don’t necessarily have an issue with dating an older man but not someone who is older than BOTH of my parents. I think it helps to not have such a large generation gap between myself and someone i’m dating. My cousin’s real estate agent who is almost 60 just called me out the blue a few days ago asking to take me out….Can you say “Hibbee Jibbees!” I’m not interested in dating a guy that is almost twice my age (i’m 31) :shock:

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:12 am

he isn’t my man but he is 43 and lets say I am being patient but lol in the inside…I think we are both on emotional rollercoasters….damn laws of attraction bc we have a similar past….LMAO!

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:15 am

**I wasn’t as serious in my 20s – just wanted to get laid – but now am thinking more along the lines of getting married and staying with one woman.**

that’s just a given.

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:19 am

**I think they are beautiful flowers that need my water.. Let the soiling begin..**

that’s nice!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:20 am

lol @ “Hibbee Jibbees:… I haven’t heard that phrase in so long Slim

Every time this subject comes across I have to bring up two individuals in my life. My siter’s boyfriend who is 25 and just attained his master’s degree in business. He is very intelligent respects and admires the hell outta my sister. When he first took interest into my sister, he was ready to meet my parents and express his interest in getting to kow our fa,itly. He is truly a stand up guy.

Then I lok at my uncle who is hitting 40, with over 20 kids, from different women. This guy is still trying to be a playa. He can’t gt a legit job b/c child support will kill him. His BM’s come around for the holiday trying to see who is closer to the family. He doesn’t have an intmate relationship with all of my cousins and it’s quite sad. He still relys heavily on his looks to get him by and whnever he comes around it’s his show. He talks about nothing.. mainly about what new car he has, how much he bench pressess, and a bunch of nothing, ( I told you about this one Prof)

I love him to death, but he neeeds to grow up.

So I don’t necessarily equate maturity with age.

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:21 am

it snowed here in cali yesterday! :o )

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
10:22 am

I have always admired a salt-n-pepper man. I think he’s sexier than a bald headed man. However, not all gray comes in nicely! Maturity is not necessarily acting your age but instead acting responsibly and honestly with the people you encounter. Maturity is putting the board game of life away and handling situations with as much aplomb as you can muster while always being respectful.

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:23 am

@Dream_n
great example!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:25 am

Leggs great 10:22 post! Well said!

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
10:29 am

@Ben

“I felt like I had my first “adult” relationship.”

How exactly can we define an adult relationship? I asked because there were times when I dated an older female and I expected things to be a lot more straight forward and with less games right? That was furthest from the truth….the older females were flaking out, playing games, disappearing, etc.

I think as a younger guy, we have to watch out because sometimes older females treat you like a new shiney toy and then throw you to the side. Sometimes, they also just want to see that they still have it and try to compete with younger women. Just to show themselve that they can compete with them still. Then they just keep it moving forward.

Does anyone think relationships with significant age differences can genuinely work? Like more than a 5 year age range?

Regarding older women and younger men I say no because it’s always going to turn to a mother-child relationship. And there will never be an equal level of respect level.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
10:29 am

20 kids Dream_n!!!???

ur great grand, grand parents must have been from southern africa then…possibly zulu,shona or ndebele..

can you and i schedule a DNA..we cld be very close relatives? :lol:

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
10:31 am

Dream_n, in reference to ya playboy uncle….he continues to act this way because he’s been allowed to; if he can find a gullible lady to fall for his antics, then he’s going to continue to act this way…..the adage holds true for him,”if it ain’t broke……” and to him, it obviously ain’t broke.

roc

December 8th, 2009
10:33 am

where are all the old guys in this blog?

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
10:34 am

It may not be broke, but bet he is with 20 kids. (Sorry, couldn’t resist)

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
10:34 am

@Leggs “Maturity is putting the board game of life away and handling situations with as much aplomb as you can muster while always being respectful.”

Love your definition!!!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
10:34 am

They went to buy some Grecian Formula!

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
10:35 am

M., I disagree…….if you allow yourself to be disrespected, then you gon’ be disrespected……be a man, and let ya nutz hang, and I guarantee that shyt’ll stop!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:35 am

@M. (pronouced M dot)I can’t even entertain the the younger guys….Some women love it like I love the NFL!!! LOL

Does anyone think relationships with significant age differences can genuinely work? Like more than a 5 year age range?

I am not sure but want to test the theory….LOL….a 13 yr differnce to me isn’t a whole generation but one is older but I feel with much work and give and take it could just like a normal age realtionship…One has to be less power hungery to be in control though but both experiences should be respected…and not be used agaisnt the younger or older for that matter….Just be secure with yourself and age I say…

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:36 am

@ Melo… Yes, 20 or more.. He’s been birthing kids since I can remember. We always makes fun of him b/c we think it would take a school bus to fit all his kids together…

@ 2CPTG.. I also agree. These women are very gullible. I’m sure he doesn’t , come out and tell how may kids he has off top…. but I think even if the women fall for the okie doke, he should be tired. The youngest I know of is 5, a healthy lil sum thing…lol… but he should just give it a rest.

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
10:36 am

@M. Like I said in my earlier post…having too many generations in between both parties seems like a relationship doomed from the start. I would not want to go outside of that 5yrs age radius, personally!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:39 am

Does anyone think relationships with significant age differences can genuinely work? Like more than a 5 year age range?

M.~~ I believe it can. My ex was 10 years older than I. Now you may laugh and say, he’s your ex so it didnt work… but minus a few obstacles I think it would’ve worked.

MrHughes

December 8th, 2009
10:41 am

I don’t know if it’s just older man = mature man. It’s not like you get a “I’m a mature man” certificate that you can carry around on your wallet because you’ve reached a certain age. I feel like I’ve always been more mature than my peers.

But, that doesn’t mean that I’ve not grown over the last few years. I’m now 31 and did things in previous relationships that I’d frown on now. For example, I when I was younger I prided myself on getting laid as often as possible, but never was one to womanize or cheat on partners. I still love sex, but my goal today isn’t just getting laid. I want more than that! Maturity is all relative. Hopefully, we are all on a journey and striving to be better tomorrow than we were today.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
10:42 am

roc?? how old u gunning for?
Lady J how old are u??

Slimone,i wld say go for the 60 yr old guy..thats less wear and tear..yes tear and more social security for u….

The man jus once to experience a lil more oral,thats all…! :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:44 am

Hopefully, we are all on a journey and striving to be better tomorrow than we were today.

Well said MrHughes…

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
10:46 am

who defines “maturity”…..like DK said, and Mr Hughes touched on, it’s all relative….to some, a dude who enjoys his “toys” and loves his bachelor lifestyle could be construed as immature; but to him, he’s content and happy within..So, is up to “us”, the proverbial masses, to determine if he’s mature or not?

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:46 am

proud 30 yr old Melo and I know a baby in your eyes but I can hold my own and rock and roll with the best of them and no I can’t even entertain a 29yr old man…I tried and my adult adhd kicked in…I’ve been told by many I have an old soul and far ahead of my age…especially can’t and don’t roll with my age group @ work either…no interest to me…

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
10:51 am

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

Interesting point. So question, was there alot of baggage and also how did you handle it?

@SlimOne

I agree with you. Remember we were talking a few weeks ago about how alot of older guys come off as know it alls? I think if they have a couple of years over you, they will always somewhat put you in a “You dont know what you are talking about position” and you should listen to me.

@Lady J

What is your biggest problem with the young guys? Are they not old school enough? They dont want to “court” like the old days?

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

As I told slim, it really wouldn’t be about allowing yourself to be disrespected, I think subconsciously she will maybe think that because she is older, that she has to lead and if she is leading you are following :)

Let me ask you and the blog a question, can an younger guy and an older woman be together and can she genuinely still be submissive? Not a doormat but submissive?

PSA

December 8th, 2009
10:53 am

Heads Up:

AlphaDog sounds like a known Stockbridge-BM, known to ruin blogs.

He is best flat-out ignored.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
10:53 am

no u not a baby Lady J,u st8 with me…

I luv baby back ribs,baby corn,baby potatoes etc..baby comes with many positives,u know that vitality and good good stuff,makes ur Ego go oomph!..so u good! :lol:

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
10:58 am

” I think subconsciously she will maybe think that because she is older, that she has to lead and if she is leading you are following

Let me ask you and the blog a question, can an younger guy and an older woman be together and can she genuinely still be submissive? Not a doormat but submissive?”

I’ll say it again, bruh, that woman ain’t gon’ even attempt to “think, feel, or act” like she can get away with certain things if she knows she ain’t dealing with a doormat! If that man handling his “grown man”, and walkin the walk, then she gon’ follow; However, the minute he stops being a leader, he gon’ revert to a follower. Then that just opens up a floodgate for other stuff……

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
10:59 am

Three Words Daily – Yes. I’m happy.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:59 am

M.

You know what, no. He didnt have alot of baggage from previous relationships. It wasn’t his past that split us, it was anger that divided the relationship. And I’ll leave it at that.. I don’t want people thinking I’m trying to throw him under the bus. But minus the anger situation which was on the forefront of our problems. We were good together. Da!mn good. :wink:

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
11:01 am

yep M just that….I hate to always revert back to my failed marriage but I have to to give this example….It finally came out during the seperation period from my ex husband how he hated the 70s, 80s, and some early 90s music that were played @ our wedding reception….I got n his ass stating none of the music you wanted to play wouldn’teven be with out the Frankie, Luther, Natalie Cole, etc….There was no appreciation and hell no I wasn’t having a hip hop jay z concert @ my reception yeah he’s from Brooklyn….I was raised on that stuff it is in my blood….My dad wasn’t perfect but he did right with making us appreciate music…

And M get out my head….I love to be courted and chilvary isn’t dead it is just lost by many and now you have some 40 yr old men getting away from it bc competion is so fierce that they don’t have to put out bc it is not being demanded…I love that song Treat her like a Lady….I love attention with kind acts from a man and most men my age just don’t have in the blood and I get frustrated bc I feel there should be more of a chase…

Sometimes I just wish I was born in the late 60s early 70s then it to me was a since of pride

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:01 am

Older men does not = maturity, as there are some older men who act like “boys”. However older men does = to life experience and how they adhere to it will personify their maturity level. I’m not looking forward to dating older men solely because most of the men I’ve met single or divorced over 40 does not want to settle down, raise a family and have a happy, committed relationship. Either the men have been married and don’t want to marry again, or have never been married and don’t intend to in the future, or they’re just looking to have fun. ohh and I’m so tired of hearing “been there done that” too. So what is a girl to do? Date younger and maybe there’s some hope there or should I contiue on my quest and hopefully I will meet an older guy who have muscled up and have left all the past hurt behind ready and willing to venture into something new? At this point I just don’t know…the stain seem to be rubbed completely thru that even spray and wash can’t clean.

Keith

December 8th, 2009
11:02 am

Does anyone know the name of the song that played during the closing credits?

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:03 am

Have dated a men of a certain age, men my age, and men younger. It depends on the man.

As to M.Dot’s submissivity in a younger man/older woman relationship, it depends on the woman….and the man.

TheDude is younger than me by 5 years. Not only does age not even come up with us, I don’t even think about it. He’s a man worthy of submitting to…regardless of the year on his birth certificate.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
11:03 am

People seem to let everything and anything get in the way of whats important. Like you whereever you are.. I like me where I am at this stage and many more to come.. I have a hint of grey in my goatee and in my hair but will I get a silly looking dye job.. Nope.. I know I have a journey and the goal is to keep smiling along the journey. I like where I am now and will continue to like where I am at different stages.. Steady Mobbin.. Ha!

Deb in Kansas

December 8th, 2009
11:04 am

I have to post something this morning because you are talking about a subject that I was very confused about. I am moving on from a very immature guy. I like(d) this 48 year old…very gorgeous. However, he gives me the impression that he likes to jump from one woman to the next. We both work in the same building so you can imagine how delicate of a situation that is. Now, I am hot too for 44, although most think I am in my 30s. We have great chemistry…sparks fly when we are together (well on my part anyway, never asked him about it). But he’s gotta feel it because I have skillz in that area. Anyway, he constantly texts me without calling (how childish, right?). Yeah, I know someone posted a comment last week saying that a guy who texts without calling is empty inside. (Now I know why.) I am currently at the stage of ‘moving on’ from him (this is my third try), but it has only been a week. He is an Aries and I am a Leo so we are constantly both trying to control the situation. He is definitely not mature. I guess he is at the stage that Melo described as panic time. So my mature advice to myself is to ‘keep it moving’. There are other guys in my repertoire but this guys just does it for me. Maybe it is just the challenge.

Timeless

December 8th, 2009
11:05 am

Dream_n, approx how old are you?

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
11:08 am

Hey –

Well, after a certain age there is that “set in ways” thing going on. I’ve found some things younger men, do that older men don’t want no parts of…I can appreciate those “ways” as long as he thinks outside the box every now and then.

btw – The only relationship to date that has been the most gross to me is…Morgan Freeman dating his step-grandaughter.

Yea…perv..

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
11:08 am

Thanks Melo!!!!:)

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:08 am

can an younger guy and an older woman be together and can she genuinely still be submissive? Not a doormat but submissive?” 2CPTG for some but for me, I don’t think so, because it’s going creep up in my head that I’m older and you need to respect your elders… LOL seriously though…

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:08 am

Oh…one thing about dating older men (especially those that want to be players) in addition to sometimes coming across as know it alls, they also have a tendency to think that the can run ‘game’ on you because they think they have all this life experience. Especially if they are a bit older than you.

Oh…and as to the tv show, didn’t watch it. Am not too crazy about that particular type of cinematography choice so it made me not want to see it.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:09 am

can an younger guy and an older woman be together and can she genuinely still be submissive?

the way he came into the relationship is how the relationship is gonna be defined.If the woman was aggressive in getting him and he wilingly succumbed to her “kill”,then she may use him however way she wants based on her initial gangster move.Toy, my boy,my youngie etc..Women usually approach younger guys for ceratain specici and targetted goals. :???:
If he made a bold and mature move stepping to an older chic, and she was smitten,she will expect him to continue to lead the way he snatched her and he must…if he falters in that regard,that may cause problems for them,especially her, leading to the demise of the relationship….

Men shuld neva be followers expect for special circumstances..thats for chapter 2…

Qstions class??? :lol:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:10 am

@Lady J

I know that’s unfortunate because our society is built on instant gratification. Also another thing that young guys are not fond of is the word chase. To me chase is synomous with games. Pursued is one thing but me chasing you around I-285 just to stroke your ego is not cool and I have noticed alot of female in atlanta want to be sweated for ego boosting. They give their phone numbers out, never answer, etc. So chase is not a good analogy…lol

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

If he got help, would you give him a second chance?

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

I was saying doormat in reference to the woman not the man. Also what if you have a woman who never really had a male figure in her life and never learned how to respect a man? You know she is going to have a natural rebellion so how do manage that 2CPTG……grown azz man! ? You dont go to the boot like Ike do you? lol

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:11 am

@ Timeless… approx 2 years above the legal drinking age……

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:11 am

Having lived with a serial texter/cheater, texting and never calling is also a way to manage multiple chicks while thinking your main chick don’t know what’s up.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
11:13 am

Again.. Age aint nothin but a number and gettin down aint nothin but a thang Thanks Aaliyah.. I dont care if she is 50ish (hey Leggs Boo) or if she is 25ish(dream) if you treat me with love honor and respect we are cool.. Everybody wants love no matter how hard we act.. I wanna be loved but its gonna be a great love and nothing else will do. Until then I’ll keep ridin, sidin, whippin and dippin.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:13 am

Having lived with a serial texter/cheater, texting and never calling is also a way to manage multiple chicks while thinking your main chick don’t know what’s up.

And there it is…

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:14 am

@Melo

Well said…

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:16 am

singing *I’m gonna text that man right outta my hair*

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
11:17 am

…never gotta worry about me EVER wanting to lead a man nowhere! Why is it that we have these wanna be alpha-man-women? Forget all that! I am going to be the precious flower that i am.

I am not trying to be above my man…dag.

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
11:17 am

Ok cool but they aren’t even hearing courting so again we are left with nothing bc games go no where for most….I just don’t have time for pulling teeth and dating shouldn’t be that hard bc most don’t change and you will have that same person later down the line….just be who you are and handle it grown woman and man style….if you mulitple date say it…if you want just one say it….if you want to hit it and quit it don’t decide for me ask me…we all do what we want as adults no matter what we type or try to be behind the computer screen or sitting at the bar…Infamous put it out there yesterday the real you will come out and it comes sooner than later these days…

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
11:17 am

@Melo If i was the gold digger type chick with no type of conscience then I’d go for that 60yr old dude. But I’ve never been that type of person, nor can I force myself to be with someone physically that I can’t stomach…that’s just YUCK! This dude had touched my arm once and I immediately felt the need to shower. LOL!

@M. I of course cannot speak for all, however, any guy friends that I’ve discussed dating an older woman with said it was sort of as if she took the lead…ESPECIALLY if she was well off $$$. They all did say that the women were pretty upfront about what it was they wanted which they appreciated (a break from the game playing normally done by younger folks) as well as whatever tricks or whatnot the chick taught them. I find that men see it not only as getting an older lady but also as an opportunity to add to their bag of tricks. I guess there must be truth that older women go into a Sexual prime period and the men their age cannot seem to hang with their stamina…so they seek out the young tenders to fulfill their needs/desires.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:19 am

Anyway, he constantly texts me without calling (how childish, right?

Deb,why are u not simply communicating to him that u dont like texting??

u have great chemistry..so why do u ge the impression of jumping from woman to woman thing?

u got great chemistry,thats a good start, i wld think!!

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:19 am

Oh, and Deb – Take your own advice. It’s solid.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:20 am

Met a guy round 50ish we exchanged numbers, the next morning I was overthrown with chain text messages….aaaaaaarrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhh I nipped that in the bud really quick! :mrgreen:

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
11:22 am

@Infamous ” I have a hint of grey in my goatee and in my hair but will I get a silly looking dye job.. Nope”

Mayne I wish my stepdad felt the same way..He dyed his hair, eye brows and mustache jet black and to me he look like a dayum fool! Bruh, it’s just not believable. LOLOL! I’m jus’ sayin doh

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:22 am

Hey Cee! I’m missing my fish and grits :evil:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:23 am

You know what,

That’s something that I’ve heard alot. Texting instead of calling.

How can you genuinely get to know someone through text msgs. You can’t hear their tone, the way they laugh….

I text my friends, I wouldn’t text a potential mate I’m just getting to know… seems silly.

Deb in Kansas

December 8th, 2009
11:25 am

I’ve communicated to him that I don’t like texting but somehow he always goes back to it. I get the impression of multiple dates because we can be good together for two weeks, and then all of sudden, he does something to piss me off (he may be testing me but that is immature also). I have women in the building looking at me strangely, and he says that they are just ‘hating’. These women have seen us in the hallway talking. The chemistry is great! Last time we were together I stated that it had been a long time, and he said “well, it didn’t feel like it”. So I know he feels the chemistry too. I just don’t like the way he runs hot and cold. One week he is chasing me, and the next week he is pissing me off. I am looking for a serious relationship, and not looking for someone to put me on the emotional highs and lows. Feels like a game is being played.

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
11:27 am

Good Day All!

ditto Cee. very well said.

I gladly submit to a man who can lead me with sincerity and confidence. His age is irrelevant. It only matters that I can trust and enjoy them …. and vice versa.

Hey Leggs, Dream_n, Mo, SexyC, Melo, DK :)

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:29 am

Again, Deb – Trust your instincts.

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:31 am

I don’t have a problem with some text communication – but, if that is your only method of reaching out to me – Houston, we have a problem.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:31 am

Deb I’m echoing SexyCool on that one.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:31 am

Deb,talk to him str8 up and say,”why u bloweing hot and cold on me,whats up”

the answer shld tell u if hes seriuos,lying and just doing games….

has he taken a sip yet?? :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:33 am

Morning czBrat !!

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
11:34 am

Hey Grace hey czBrat.

My grandfather told me a man will lead and respect his women/family and for me to just be a woman. Not to be trampled on by some knuckle head, that doesn’t know his role…just know mine.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:36 am

@Slim One

“I of course cannot speak for all, however, any guy friends that I’ve discussed dating an older woman with said it was sort of as if she took the lead…ESPECIALLY if she was well off $$$.”

What if money never came up and it wasnt a matter of who made more, like you guys never even knew who made what but just careeres, but when they went out, she paid at times, he paid at times and it’s cool? Could this still work? I know you could check salary.com and get an idea but what if genuinely she didnt know how much he made, but just that he was younger but still pulled his weight?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
11:36 am

CeeZy Peezy cover girl what hannenin

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:38 am

M.

I’m getting the feeling that you are into older women, but feel that they are using you as a boy toy??? :wink:

Professor

December 8th, 2009
11:38 am

Wassup Alpaha, Dream and Melo

…sorry to step in so late, but there must be a full moon out there shining!

***As for a grown azz man or woman texting like they are tying on a 1970s typewriter is indeed a sign of something. I knew of a dumb azz cat that would text worst than a high school girl and I asked the dummy about it…sometimes you have to call them to the carpet**** Stop all that dayum texting and lying NOT cool.

Dream~girl your uncle is the truth…get him tested against Melo so we can confirm that Zulu warrior and get the tribe going strong.

On topic: I have dated older and younger. The older one tried to be young and the dayum younger one tried to be old. Hell I just wanted them to be themselves. Riddle me this: Why is that this young fella will not stop calling me…I paid for a service and he received my number on the invoice and has been calling for a couple of weeks? I really do not want to call and complain and he gets fired, but dayum I don’t want some snotty nose kid dialing me either :???:

Willie Dynamite

December 8th, 2009
11:40 am

Morning All,

Good comments from most in here.

Deb – You are officially in the Rotation. Accept your position and come off the bench when called or become a Free Agent and hit the Market.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:41 am

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

I am afraid you are wrong..lol I really dont deal with women on a relationship level who are over 30. :)

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
11:41 am

Hey Ali.

Covergirl?…man, if you knew the day and the life of for real.

Professor

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

Deb

I have women in the building looking at me strangely, and he says that they are just ‘hating’.

Well Lady, I will tell you this when women start acting crazy throwing insults and acting a fool it is over a man usually. I have seen this in person and online. For some dumb azz reason you have immature women that get mad at the woman instead of the man keeping it moving.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

Hello czB. Hello InfamousD! Gray in your goatee sounds strokable!

@Professor ~ why can’t you simply call him back and ask him to stop
calling?

@Deb ~ you’ve been given some wise advice, take heed! You already know what you need to do.

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

M., sounds like you’re asking for advice on how to handle ya stable……

Bruh, listen to me..a woman gon’ peep yo game…from head to toe! Now, if she’s never had a male role model and shows no respect for men, then you’re fighting an uphill battle! Can that mountain be conquered? of course. How do you do it….easy…..first of all, YOU have to be confident in who you are! Meaning stand your ground…ALL the time! Yeah, you gon’ do some compromising, but compromising ain’t a sign of weakness; You also gotta know with whom you’re dealing with, and how to finesse her into buying into your program…..if she ain’t buying what you’re selling, then you gotta be man enough to know when to cut your losses. BUt it’s when you try to force feed her, is when she’s going to rebel; It’s like coaching a team – only one person is the head coach; Everyone else has to fall in line with his program – yeah, he’s gon listen, and take SOUND advice from his assistants (if he wants to be successsful), but ultimately the success of the program rests upon his shoulders….if not, you’re destined for anarchy.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

opps.. I guess I do not have a career in psychology. :lol:

I’ll stick with the teaching thing..

What’s your age M.?

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:45 am

Well, WillieD..u have gone there..

I was trying to eliminate the possible reasons then come str8 at the issue…talk of taking it slow….

Did the panties come off slow Deb??

Hey czBrat/Proff..hey beybeees! :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:48 am

Hello InfamousD! Gray in your goatee sounds strokable

Well Alrighty then Leggs!! :wink:

What’s up lady??? (Professor)

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
11:49 am

Professor I know you dont want to cause probs for the kid, but you may have to bring that to someone’s attention. They cannot have an employee accsssing a customer’s info for personal use. There is some liability there. He’ll have to learn that lesson the hard way. Be smart & safe … NIP IT!!

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:49 am

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

Good tips.

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

Coming up on 27. Curious, what does it matter? How old are you?

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:49 am

yea M,i wanna know ur age too…

a chic did not have a daddy growin up and she rebeliious?? either u can handle her or u cannot…
If u cant,just move on….no,i mean tap it.then move on…..(thats good for ur experience too,by the way.its not all selfish as some ladies wld have us believe) :lol:

Dont make it ur responsibility to teach a grown woman how to respect a man..she will get that from her dating experiences if she truly wants to learn.
Unless ofcourse if u are a gluton for girlfriend drama! :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:50 am

Well let me call on all these offiicers and detectives that try to use their position of power to get numbers.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:52 am

@Melo

LOL that is some hilarious advice. Thanks…

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
11:52 am

BTW Deb, those women are’nt looking at your “hating.” They’re looking at you because he’s feeding them some off the wall BS about you. As WillieD stated, you’re about to be put into rotation and the best thing for you to do is become a Free Agent and hit the Market = keep it moving!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
11:54 am

@Dream_n ~ alls good in my world…I’m still clapping!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:55 am

Melo u are so silly!!!

@ M~~~~ just asking.

I’ll catch up with you in 3 years. The bday is in 19 days and counting!!!

I have to give a hearty shout out to my Capricorns Sassy/Professor :mrgreen:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:57 am

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

Its all good. Just was wondering…Dating in Atlanta is a trip. And Im a capricorn to.

Professor

December 8th, 2009
11:58 am

@Professor ~ why can’t you simply call him back and ask him to stop
calling? Leggs the first time he called me I told him the unit was working well and thanks. Well when he called again I told him look I am not interested and he said there is something about you that I cannot describe, but I really like. He went on to say when he saw my face he said please dont let her be married! Well I had enough and I cut him off and told him not to call me and he called two or three times yesterday.

~czBrat–you are right I need to nip it!
Well let me call on all these offiicers and detectives that try to use their position of power to get numbers. I can at least respect the real officers that use their power, what bothers me more is the fake azz officers that pretend :mrgreen:

Did the panties come off slow Deb?? Melo stop smiling and get back to work!

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
11:59 am

M., I normally charge for that kinda knowledge, but since you’re genuinely seeking advice, you get a pass……

Professor

December 8th, 2009
12:00 pm

Thanks for the shout out Dream Capricorns in the house!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
12:03 pm

Aww shucks M.

Older than me (check)
Capricorn (check)
From the Chi (dbl check)
What else you need to know. I think we gotta blog match!!!!

lmao :lol: :lol: :lol:

I kid I kid!!!

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
12:05 pm

Deb’s issue is that she has already did the lay-down with this dude, it was good and she genuiunely likes him. Deb also probably feels as if she is mature enough and has experienced enough that she can play this game on her terms. And perhaps she could if she were not already caught up.

I have been in Deb’s exact position. With Shthead, I saw the bllsht coming. Problem was, I wanted to believe that the bllsht was cotton candy. In the end, my choices left me cheated on, lied to and having wasted damn three years of my life.

Live better. Learn better. Do better.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
12:06 pm

I see we have a professional in the building…2CPTG what do you normally charge? I have a few dilemas I need sorting out…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:07 pm

Professor – Tell him your boyfriend works for the UFC andhe doesnt like men trying to holla..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
12:07 pm

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

Thanks man. Any other advice? I am single with no kids and would like to avoid as many mistakes as possible. What’s your feeling on Church women?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

Dream – Thats why you should thank your lucky stars for this blog and the info you get for free.. This is stuf that should be in self help books.. I know mine should..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

Lol Im Jan. 7 and I have a twin sister

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

And my brothers are twins also. No joke.

Deb in Kansas

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

@Melo. The panties were slow enough…fifth date. We have been hot and cold for almost a year, so it is definitely time to get off of rotation, and become a free agent. I have dated others since we’ve met but only to get over him. However, as you all have advised, I will definitely (try to) move on. (At least give me an “A” for effort.) There are plenty of fish in the sea. I continue to read your blogs on a daily basis, so if anything changes, I will keep you posted. BTW, even though we are on the same floor, I stay hidden in my cubicle to avoid running in to him. So at least I am trying. Peace.

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:10 pm

Dream_n….ask away….cain’t charge my kinfolks; I was just kidding with M., cause his emotions are clearly evident.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:10 pm

M. – The thing with church women is this.. Yes get ya one that loves the lord but not a bible thumping, holy roller zealot. You have to sex any babes mind before you take her under your wing..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:12 pm

M. – Dang well you should tell a chick about the twinsssss thing immediately cause she might have a gut full of humans instead of a human..

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:14 pm

M., “church” women are still women aren’t they? Don’t be intimidated, nor apprehensive to approach them; however, if you’re not on par with her spiritually, then don’t try to be. Be YOU, young bruh….nothing more, and definetly, nothing less!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
12:14 pm

M.~~~

Wow having a twin, that must be interesting. Then having twin brothers, I bet you guys had fun growing up.

@ DK~~ I don’t know about thanking my lucky stars, but I have taken heed to some good knowledge given.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 17days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:15 pm

Wise I’m tryna figure out if you’re somehow following me cause these last few topics have been my experiences as of late.

When it comes to dating men of various ages for some reason I usually end up with someone younger than I by ~6-7 yrs. Sumtimes I wonder if I have some type of sticker on my forehead that says I only want to date younger men but oh well. I agree with some of the earlier thoughts in that age is only a number b/c the younger men I’ve met have it together(the majority) BUUT for some reason some of the older guys are either stuck in perpetual adolescence or acting like they already have one foot in the grave and that’s boring. I’d like to find a happy medium with someone who knows when to be serious and when to let go, a man with book/street smarts that handles his bidness and can handle me ’cause I take work but for with the “right one” it shouldn’t be an issue……seen?!

Melo

December 8th, 2009
12:16 pm

Good luck Deb!
(for a moment i thoght Deb was intimidated coming back,coz of the true comments)

str8 up chic!
u see, Proff..us guys knbow when a chic is asking a ceratin question,what the underlying message is which remains unsaid…..

i mean grwon grwon man,that is..

M..all women are good untill u strt dealing with them,so “Church women” or not,its all the same..

Treat everybody the same untill they show u a different side.
The only women i wld advise u not to date,at ur age, and in-experience,are strippers and pros…..

shove strippers my way! :lol:

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
12:18 pm

Deb – Wishing you the best, babygirl.

Wise Diva

December 8th, 2009
12:22 pm

Hello everyone! Fantastic dialogue going on today…sooo enjoying it

@ Mr. 2. Clearly it’s time for another guest post :)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 17days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:22 pm

….Capricorns in the house!

We all over the place!!!….belie’ that :mrgreen:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
12:25 pm

Sassy

i think I’m going to put my counter on too… :mrgreen:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:29 pm

Do it Dream guul(said in my best ATL twang)….do it! :)

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:29 pm

Hey Diva…..got plenty of time on my hands these days, so holla at me…..

Willie Dynamite

December 8th, 2009
12:31 pm

M-Dot – Just need to re-read anytime you are in doubt.

M., “church” women are still women aren’t they? Don’t be intimidated, nor apprehensive to approach them; however, if you’re not on par with her spiritually, then don’t try to be. Be YOU, young bruh….nothing more, and definetly, nothing less!

Professor

December 8th, 2009
12:32 pm

Deb, you can do it, and by it I mean whatever is best for you and will make you happy. “It” is difficult to feel all good and giddy when you know games are being played. So stay strong

Melo I agree when I feel BS is being played I ask straight up and I am very candid…if games are being played I want to accept the game or walk away, but not knowing I am in the game is not good. At least I want to decide to play or not.

M. are you two identical? I used to read and study up on twins all the time back in the day. I remember those Time Life books that talked about strange things and there was a case listed where one twin felt labor pains when her twin sister went into labor…how many twins have a secret language early on etc.

Cee's #1 Fan

December 8th, 2009
12:34 pm

Miss Lady you are on point.

A true woman!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
12:40 pm

Sassy – I feel you on this chica…”Sumtimes I wonder if I have some type of sticker on my forehead that says I only want to date younger men but oh well.” Ex-SO was younger than I and sometimes I feel like I have a stamp on my forehead that attracts younger men. I swear I think ex-SO put voodoo on me, him being from the N.O and all. :smile:

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:41 pm

#1 Fan, I concur…..you can tell Cee had some old school upbringin’….then, on top of that, talkin bout she knows how make giblet gravy from scratch (yeah, I remember)!!!!! shiiiid, tell me what dude wouldn’t appreciate that……

Melo

December 8th, 2009
12:41 pm

Is Raqi ok..she aint on duty yet!

how about Kimmie,Foots,Tazzee etc??

Melo

December 8th, 2009
12:42 pm

Cee’s #1 Fan??

she got a man! :lol:

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
12:45 pm

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:48 pm

Sexy, that’s some “get-back” for ya!!!!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
12:50 pm

Damn.. Is it ever THAT serious????

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:54 pm

2Can – on top of it all Cee calls her guy “her old man”.. Thats old school

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
12:56 pm

SCool – well dayum….you just never know what some folks will do. WOW

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:59 pm

I swear I think ex-SO put voodoo on me, him being from the N.O and all.

Mo you didn’t have one of them Creoles did you?….lol
I’ve been told that I have a young spirit and I’m like uummmm okay…I’d rather have that than a granny mentality. Over the weekend two guys BOTH almost 9 yrs my junior commented on the fact that I look young(I do get that often) and I said thank you and silently thanked God,my peeps(I got good genes) and Oil of O’lay cause I do believe in taking care of myself. As a matter of fact my paternal grandfather looks the same now as he did when I was a child….the same!

JtJ

December 8th, 2009
1:01 pm

Hey Leggs, Slim, SexyC, Melo, etc.
@ Slim & M. —Questioning if a relationship with more than 5 yrs age-difference between them can work.
I believe a relationship with an age difference of ten years or less can definitely work. My fiancé is 8 yrs older than me and we have a very good relationship. I have found that at his age (38) he definitely has more patience for things in his life, while I just turned 30 and desire to be more patient with all aspects of my life. I personally know of a couple who have a 20 yr age difference, they started dating when she was 29 and he was 49, and they have been together for almost 20 years. I can’t say that their marriage hasn’t had its ups and downs, but “ they’se still be together!!! If you truly love/care/committed/understand/- a person and they love you, then the relationship can and will work.
When the age difference is that great, I can’t see it working when one person is barely legal 18-20 dating/marrying someone who 40+. The balance is not there because one person is just starting to understand life and being independent, while the other has experienced 20 years of independence, careers, relationships, etc and have somewhat settled into their own.
Happy Birthday to all my fellow Sags!!!! I plan to celebrate my birthday this weekend !!! YEAH!!!

JtJ

December 8th, 2009
1:02 pm

Oh….Hey Cee!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:06 pm

Sassy – You were talkin bout me in your earlier post.. Street smart and book smart.. Just thought you should know

Melo

December 8th, 2009
1:08 pm

hey JtJ!! we looking frward to that wedding girl..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
1:10 pm

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

LOL thanks for the advice, I was just dialoguing. No emotions are evident.

@Professor

We are all fraternal.

@THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

Thanks lol. The reason I asked about the Church women because I know sometimes people like to put them on a pedestal like they dont have a past or havent made mistakes. I dont want to turn the topic to dating and Church but in the dating arena, it is an area that comes up. I try to stay away from them anyway until somebody decent steps up. I met 1 so we will see…

Tazzee

December 8th, 2009
1:10 pm

Afternoon folks.

They spelled ‘heifer’ wrong in that article. That is all

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
1:15 pm

DK I just described what I would like…but if that’s you ¿Cómo estás Papi?…..how YOU doin’ :)

Got a date with the gym read y’all in a lil bit…..

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
1:20 pm

Hey, JtJ. I agree that dating someone 10 years and under may put less strain on the relationship. Glad to read that the couple w/the 20 yr age difference made it work for them. That was a good read.

As being stated over and over, it’s not really about the number, but more about the amount of brain cells one wants to use to make the relationship work. I have a 60 year old interested in me, but he’s 60 and oldish acting. I need someone who can dance and walk briskly w/o throwing their hip out! :cool:

No one has stepped to me in my church, but have been told a few have asked about me = punks!

Sagittarians rock and sometimes Capricorns. :wink:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:26 pm

Mannn….. R.Kelly’s TP2.com is in rotation right now..

Forgot how good this CD was.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
1:27 pm

hey Tazzee! Hw Mr You??

Aquarious….is the shizznit,as Lioness wld say!

Tazzee=taken

Scool=taken

Cee= taken

JtJ=taken
czBrat=taken
Melo=taking :lol:
Deb=going

MIA is the bizzness! :lol:

Grace

December 8th, 2009
1:34 pm

No one has stepped to me in my church, but have been told a few have asked about me = punks! – :lol: :lol:

Tazzee

December 8th, 2009
1:34 pm

Hey Melo! He’s doing well, thanks for asking.

What in the world are you taking? :lol:

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
1:37 pm

Anything he can get, Taz. Anything he can get.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:38 pm

Melo what is going on over there in Uganda????

They’re proposing the death penalty for gays/ Heard about that yet?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:40 pm

Grace – You have to be careful getting at women at church. Its a very delicate balancing act that goes on, so dudes have to ask about you in hopes it gets back to you.. This way you can smile a little more when you see them.. I call it LRIF (Long Range Innocent Flirting) or LHPF (Little House on the Prarie Flirting)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:41 pm

Grace – Besides no one wants to be known as the church house whuore..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:44 pm

Melo – You are right. Aquarians rule the world..

Hey where is Lioness? If youre reading get your butt back in here and holla at cha folks..

Melo

December 8th, 2009
1:45 pm

Tazzee..taking left overs! :lol:

Dream_n? had not heard about it but….
In africa in general,they are not that tolerant on gays and lesbians…the societies are not as permissive as well as not educated..

The more educated pple are,the more liberal they may become or if not,at least,more tolerant of other views.

African govts are more dictatorial,corrupt and not tolerant..They use ignorance to misgovern,manipulate and misinform so as to remain in power.

Not surprised Dream_n by that extreme measure.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
1:45 pm

I see it differently. I wouldn’t smile at them any harder than normal. They should smile at me more in the hopes I notice them. They were quick to let someone know they were interested. Well, if you think you’re interest in me was conveyed, show me your pearly whites!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
1:48 pm

hmmmm Aquarians rule the world???? They are too nice and passive for me then come with a bomb of wrongs when stuff pop off….well I shouldn’t say they maybe him…lol

I’m a Leo/Lioness lololololol

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:48 pm

Leggy Poo – Come on now.. You cant be doing al that in the church house.. You have to be subtle, advances have to be warranted and wanted.

Professor ~ :evil:

December 8th, 2009
1:49 pm

DK Ali

You are on it! LRIF (Long Range Innocent Flirting) or LHPF (Little House on the Prarie Flirting) that is what happens at church! well said

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:53 pm

Thanx for the insight Melo… Man you have me reading up on things I wasn’t really too open to reading or trying to think about!!!

(Long Range Innocent Flirting)…. that’s funny DK.. plus you don;t want too many nosy church folks in ya bidness… they can get messy!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:54 pm

kinderbabe

December 8th, 2009
1:55 pm

hey, Leggs! and what do you mean sometimes Capricorns rock??? what’s up w/that man?? lol Now, I know how to close out the year, new year’s eve baby!! Capricorns all day!

o.k. i didn’t even read all the posts…lol

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
1:55 pm

Of course I know that, but since you’re asking others about me, how about showing me your interest YOURSELF. I don’t like standing in the greeter’s hall hearing “girl, did you know so and so was asking about? I think he’s interested. So next Sunday in church make sure you fan yourself and bat your eyes a little more so he’ll know you’re interested to.”

If you aren’t married, I see nothing wrong with you coming up to me and saying hello!

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
1:56 pm

Went on a few dates with a church dude – a minister. His ass was as crazy as nuts I’ve met on the street. Come to find out – he was projected this successful Godly image in church, but didn’t have a job, a car and was ‘renting a room’ in this older lady’s house.

See SexyCool run!!!

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
1:57 pm

Thanks Fan & 2C.

Old school… :) .

Melo

December 8th, 2009
1:57 pm

Leggs,its hard to date in church coz for once,if the realtiosnhip fails and u go to the same church,thats very uncomfortable..

2)all pple going to church are sinners and some are more undercover sinners than others..so its kinda hard to play that dating game and running rings round ur fellow church member, all the while coming to church on sundays and coming to the alter,kneeling and doing the speak in tongue thang.
3) and u date in church u take it there then break up???ho ho ho ho ho,u have started another one there coz the tongues of most male members will be waxing lyrical,having heard of ur howling ways in bed,even the minister will be in on ur nocturnal tunes..not a good look :lol:

u wanna shake that booty..find smeone from another church! :lol:

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
1:58 pm

awwwww. I luv, luv, LUV aquarians! :razz:

Hello Professor. sorry i missed the blog awards.

JtJ

December 8th, 2009
1:58 pm

Hey Lady Leggs……lol….at the church punks!!

Hey Melo…….I see you aint’ changed a bit! The wedding plans are coming together slowly but surely. We found a nice place in Roswell. Booked & ret-2-go!!!!

kinderbabe

December 8th, 2009
1:58 pm

hey M./Sassy/Professor! Capricorns rock! i’m in the club too.:)

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
2:01 pm

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
2:01 pm

Aww man, I’m in staight music mode.

Marvin Gaye.. When Did You Stop Loving Me, When Did I Stop Loving You…

That song is straight classic!!!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
2:02 pm

Melo you are a dayum mess!! LOL! So dramatic with the interpretation of church romances!

I once dated a guy that went to the same high school and church as I (this was well after high school)and when we broke up it was no problem.

Now when he got married…..issues arose cause wifey wasnt exactly fond of my presence (and she went to our church too). LMAO!

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
2:02 pm

Melo – So none of these men are taken? Where is that list?

Tazzee & JtJ:) sending some romantic holiday cheer ya’lls way.

weeee…

Melo

December 8th, 2009
2:03 pm

Dream_n??

democratic govts in africa…??

south africa
botswana
ghana
tanzania
mozambique
malawi

i think..the rest,a bunch of old cleptocrats,geriatics,..corrupt,dying in power.
Kinda ashamed actually!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:04 pm

@kinderbabe ~ hello. Just making fun @ Capricorns since most of the month of December belong to Sags!

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
2:06 pm

Ali You’ve been flirting with Laura Ingall dude? lol…lawd!

Melo

December 8th, 2009
2:09 pm

So none of these men are taken? Where is that list?

Cee..well,u know these afr/america guys better than i do..

u heard Dan the other day(where is he?) saying well,he dont wanna comropmise some lady security by saying he got a girl or not……

thats a new dating game to me… :lol:

so the male list will have to be done by professional auditors! :lol:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
2:10 pm

@SlimOne

“I of course cannot speak for all, however, any guy friends that I’ve discussed dating an older woman with said it was sort of as if she took the lead…ESPECIALLY if she was well off $$$”

I meant to ask this…with these older women/younger men situations, do you think the woman will try to change the guy in some capacity or mold him into what she wants him to be?

Grace

December 8th, 2009
2:11 pm

so dudes have to ask about you in hopes it gets back to you – DK that’s a cowardly way out…there’s a guy in my church who is always eyeballing me during service, after service he makes sure he sways his way to give me a “close” church hug, and holding my hand will smiling and gazing in my eyes mumbling on and on about nothing as far as I’m concerned. I say if you’re interested, then step up, let it be known or you’ll get left behind.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:12 pm

@Melo ~ no doubt I understand how hard it’s to date at church. Not sure if I would even want to do that. I’m not one to go to church every Sunday because it’s Sunday. I go because I want to be closer to God and be in his house, worshipping him. I don’t want to go just because it’s Sunday so don’t expect me there all the time. I was just going with the flow of someone showing interest by talking to another in the hopes it gets back to me. Hell, the one he’s telling is probably talking to other chicks in the church spreading the rumor of a relationship before one even starts.

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
2:13 pm

@ Melo – Professional auditors? lol you silly!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:14 pm

“so dudes have to ask about you in hopes it gets back to you – DK that’s a cowardly way out…” Thank you, Grace. That was my only point! (lol)

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
2:15 pm

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:15 pm

Yeee Haawww!!

Grace

December 8th, 2009
2:16 pm

Leggs,its hard to date in church coz for once,if the realtiosnhip fails and u go to the same church,thats very uncomfortable..- I second that Melo same goes with co-workers, neighbor, and anyone in a close knit circle….

all pple going to church are sinners and some are more undercover sinners – well I thought that was the main reason behind going to church becasue you’re a sinner and want to learn to live right, just like when you’re sick you go to the doctor…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
2:17 pm

see ya’ll not knowing hoe he asked.. Im sure it was a casual “Oh who is that, she sure can pray with the best of em” He cant say he would like to see her on her knees for other reasons..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
2:18 pm

Professor

December 8th, 2009
2:19 pm

czBrat~ we did not hand the awards out. After careful consideration we decided to do them at the end of the year around 12/30. Stay tuned!

Grace

December 8th, 2009
2:20 pm

Leggs do you know who this guy is? Have he given you the church hug?

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
2:21 pm

hmmm…………… Church romance

Melo

December 8th, 2009
2:22 pm

just like when you’re sick you go to the doctor…

Grace??

so u date the church guy during the week then on wednesday,ur girl tells u,ur man was getting outa the aprtment next to hers with this girl..she a known heifer…and u and ur guy have words on thursday,friday and saturday..str8 up muther^&%$*(^$9 u heifer.!! :shock:

Come sunday,when the pastor calls all those who want to take the sacramento to come up front and kneel to the Lord as they receive it…ur man is no#1 on the line and u 5 slots back!

Hwz that for how we are living?? :lol: :evil:

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:22 pm

“He cant say he would like to see her on her knees for other reasons..”

Now that was the funniest thing said today!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:25 pm

@Grace, I have no idea. I asked the 2 ladies who told me someone was asking about me not to point them out to me. If they’re interested, they would simply say hello. I see no harm in saying hello. I doubt he would stand there undressing me. If you need a “middle man” to get to me, I don’t necessarily need to know you.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:26 pm

I meant to type “undressing me with his eyes looking all forelorn!”

Grace

December 8th, 2009
2:27 pm

I’ve yet to see a man in church that have peeked my interest. And please let me not start with the roaming eye pastor, you know the ones who always wanting to come over to your house to “bring you closer” to the Lord but the only thing he wants to bring closer to you is his(fill in the blank)

Grace

December 8th, 2009
2:29 pm

For Real

December 8th, 2009
2:29 pm

Snotty Nose: Hey Ms. Mam Professor.

Prof: Um hey..

Snotty Nose: What be wrong with you? Yo mamma made you go to bed early?

Prof: Um no I’m gown and don’t live with my mother.

Snotty Nose: Den what wrong with you? You didn’t wipe yo butt all the way? I do that sometimes and den it start itching and den I grind my butt in the chair to scrat…..

Prof: NO! Look don’t call me anymore OK! I am too old for you!!

Snotty Nose: Why you breven so hard?

Prof: Look boy, Im hanging up and I don’t want you to call me anymore!!

Snotty Nose: Ok Ms. Mam Professor but can I say one thang?

Prof: Sure..

Snotty Nose: Look at what my pee-pee do when I do this

Prof: OH MY DAYUM!!! 3200 Can I Touch It Drive!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
2:30 pm

Professor, the car will be fixed in 2 hours!!!!!
Finally!!!

Grace

December 8th, 2009
2:32 pm

On Sunday’s granddad always took a back seat to the pastor….and he got the big piece of chicken too..:lol:

Melo

December 8th, 2009
2:36 pm

Huh? Melo

exactly!

Grace

December 8th, 2009
2:38 pm

LOL…Melo I’m not messing with you today.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:40 pm

All I see w/that snotty nose skit is Martin Lawrence as the snotty nosed nasty no legged kid!

Melo

December 8th, 2009
2:41 pm

Its always funy how the preaching clergy wants to arrange how pple sit in church……

the dude knows of the few ladies who sit with their leggs wide open and he be on double duty..preachig and peeping…

Preacher: yes mrs shanneka and ms roblets and mrs shaznet,please come fill up these seats on the front and u the others,u can take the other ones,behind these.

what has that to do with preaching the word?? :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
2:44 pm

Melo you are a fool…

I’m out.. gottta get ready to pick up the re-newed vehicle!

Night Professor/Leggs/Melo/!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
2:46 pm

Nite, Dream_n!

Professor

December 8th, 2009
2:50 pm

Dream~Zoom zoom zoom that is great news!

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
3:03 pm

can i just say that the s/o is still winning me over day by day. now he has taken to getting a supersize McD meal once a week until he gets me a complete set of those coke glasses … and that man does NOT do fast food! :)

Professor

December 8th, 2009
3:06 pm

czBrat~that is soooo sweet of your SO to collect those coke glasses for you.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
3:16 pm

who does fast food czBrat..U?

coke glasses??

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
3:31 pm

Did everyone take a leave of absence at the same time?

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
3:34 pm

no Melo. we both try to eat healthy, but i commented how much i like those vintage-look coke glasses that McD is giving away with supersize meals, so now he buys the junk food to get the glasses for me.

so nice to have met a man who spoils me like the Brat that i am :oops:

has everyone fallen asleep??? where’s the random blog chatter??

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
3:38 pm

Well, one thing for sure, Tiltilating Tuesday didn’t rear it’s head this week.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
3:39 pm

Did everyone take a leave of absence at the same time?

No Leggs not all of us. I’m lurking,posting and analyzing scientific data at the same time. Anyhoo, THEY SAY THEM CAPRICORNS ARE BAD MUTHA… shut yo mouf….but I was just talking ’bout them CAPS :mrgreen:

All this rain is makin’ me wanna backslide but I ain’t gonna….I ain’t

Read y’all tomorrow!!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
3:39 pm

Or is that Tantalizing Thursdays???

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
3:43 pm

Well, one thing for sure, Tiltilating Tuesday didn’t rear it’s head this week

I’m almost glad it didn’t cause somebody would’ve been in trouble toniiight!

Okay now I’m out.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
3:44 pm

Yeah Im still lurking as well, must be the rain. I could really go for curling up with a blanket and chilling

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
3:52 pm

i guess “aging men” is not a sustainable topic? :(

A few men that i think have age gracefully and the older the get the better they look.

Samuel Jackson, Will Smith, Sean Coonery, Pierce Brosnan, Richard Gere
Ice Cube…LL..and found out Russell Simmons is 52 y/o…

Oh, my grandaddy aged gracefully to…he had white hair, salt n pepper beard with chocolate mocha skin…wore suspenders with his suit..not like Mr. Brown though…

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
3:53 pm

@ czBrat – that was cute. you like Coke? and you said that around all the Pepsi fans?

lol

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
3:55 pm

Cemeeli – LOL! Yeah all these pepsi fans in Coke territory! :smile:

And I love Will Smith! I like the other guys you named too but not like Will

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:00 pm

@ Mo – Will is wearing grey like, seriously.

…hhmmmm…there are some more…note readily coming to mind tho.

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
4:00 pm

he!! naw Cee can’t stand coke, but i do like those glasses. i’m a northern pepsi girl all day :)

dunno what to say about Samuel L. and Russell, but i do like what time has done for the other names on your list.

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:06 pm

@czBrat – Russell doesn’t look his age. And Sam is just real cool. Hes a December baby too. He’s older than my moms…Sam look good to be 60! I like his style, he cleans up well…wears light color on dark skin…nice.

Oh, so you’re going to have Pepsi in you Coke glasses? That is funny!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
4:06 pm

And that Ice Cube = HAWT!! All day!

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
4:10 pm

LOL @ Mo. i dunno how old (or young) Ginuwine is, but time is being VERY good to him as well. kills me that he looks so much like the ex-hubbs :mad:

Melo

December 8th, 2009
4:12 pm

ur mum is how old CEE??

Russel looks folded a lil bit…

Samuel surely has an old bone in him but he acts real cool

Melo

December 8th, 2009
4:17 pm

Berry Gordy can still wrestle with a 35 young chic but i think Quincy’s pimp game is gone now,jus like the Soul train man…

qstion…u all dont think James Brown and Micheal Jackson daddy have same father..1/2 brothers those 2, i think..

:lol:

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
4:17 pm

don”t leave out the ladies that have aged well, also……Angela Bassett, Jasmine Guy, Debbie Allen to name a few……

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:17 pm

lol @ Mo–Girl – Wake up!

Melo My mother is 57.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
4:22 pm

and u 31 Cee?

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:23 pm

Debbie and Phylicia’s relationship is a cool.

Phylicia looks good too. Patti Labelle looks good, reminds me of my mom…

Patti & Phylicia are good friends…they are just a doll.

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
4:23 pm

One of my bff’s was telling me about a spray that you can buy at ‘novelty’ stores that will numb the back of your throat and it will stifle the gag reflex when you go deep. Anybody know the name of it?

Melo

December 8th, 2009
4:25 pm

SexyCool..when u what, go deep,doing what?

lurker

December 8th, 2009
4:26 pm

all this talk about aging. if you keep living you’ll be there too, and sooner than believed. get off of looks and body parts. have more going than that. work that your name is written on high because our stay down here is but for a brief moment. where we’ll spend eternity is what we should be concerned about.

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
4:27 pm

jeezus SexyC :shock:

my mommy is aging beautifully at 76 and counting!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
4:27 pm

And here I thought we would go out as Twiddle Your Thumbs Tuesday! SCool vamping things up!!

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:29 pm

qstion…u all dont think James Brown and Micheal Jackson daddy have same father..1/2 brothers those 2, i think.. well dayum

Jasmine Guy looked a little washed up to me

Ginuwine is, but time is being VERY good to him as well… I cannot get over the dancing and processed hair

, THEY SAY THEM CAPRICORNS ARE BAD MUTHA… shut yo mouf…. yes ma’am

For Real

December 8th, 2009
4:29 pm

“Anybody know the name of it?” – Cheese in a can?

LURKER ( Cobweb Remover)

December 8th, 2009
4:29 pm

So Ceemeeli….. Your Pops is Mr. Brown? That dude is funny! :smile:
Leggs…. Can you find out what dude is taking to last 4 to 5 hours! I your gurl might have some magic puddy!

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
4:31 pm

don’t nobody catch up like Professor :lol: :lol:

ciao!!

Luvbug

December 8th, 2009
4:31 pm

Chloraseptic

…j/k

Melo

December 8th, 2009
4:32 pm

SCool vamping things up!!

Leggs? what she talking about..is that some female thang!?

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
4:32 pm

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
4:33 pm

Professor, I’ve been in love with that gal ever since she was Whitley Gilbert!!!!!

Lord Velonese (insert trendy quote here)

December 8th, 2009
4:34 pm

I know as I have gotten older I have been more saught after, cause I’m dead sexy and very care free. As for an age for a man to be more desired, I’d say thats on the ladies, I know men older than me in their 40’s that act like they are 2 so good luck on that one. As age of women that I desire that’s even tougher since you’re all crazy. Go figure

P.s Those guys in the picture look like straight up homos.

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:35 pm

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:38 pm

@ LURKER – No Mr. Brown is not my pops. :lol: My dad is country, very old school country.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
4:39 pm

when i lace u with the melo

when i feed u with the melo..

lubing me,lubing me lubing me….baby

u lubing me…

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:39 pm

@2CPT…that is a long crush.

@cz yep trying to catch up…LOL

@Lord V…we finally agree on something P.s Those guys in the picture look like straight up homos. I did not want to say that and be negative..

lurker

December 8th, 2009
4:41 pm

I did not want to say that and be negative

say what you feel. that does not project negativity. it projects honesty

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
4:43 pm

@ForReal ! Wiz Cheese

@Melo ~ oral sex and not choking/gagging when you trying to make it touch the back of your throat.

I agree, Jasmine isn’t aging well.

@LURKER ~ I’ll ask her tonight (lol)!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
4:44 pm

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
4:46 pm

oh yeah, Professor…Jasmine is my boo!!! Next to my current Boo -who be “irkin” the shyt outta me sometimes, but she know I got mad love for her……

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:46 pm

Well lurkerit is not that serious. Plus I know it is me if I see some pictures of some dudes at nine in the morning they need to be hunks not punks. Hey just because they were not eye candy to me is not a valid reason to start ranting about it….

I can only imagine the side effects and what that mess is made of…monkey nuts and chipmunk azz stifle the gag reflex when you go deep. Anybody know the name of it?
:shock:

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:47 pm

Lol…my dad is so country he still wears straw hats…When i was little he was scared of my grandmother though…my mom’s mom…i dont’ know what happened cause she was sweet as pie….he rarely came inside grandmas house to pick me up when i’d be over.

…just thinkin’…funny now.

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:48 pm

@2CPTG…I will make sure I don’t talk about Jasmine because I don’t want you talking about all the sexy men I oooohhhh ahhhhhhh over. :wink:

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
4:49 pm

Actually, Melo, I do fine without a spray. My intent is to by it for said bff as a ‘gag’ gift. (Pun intended.) ~lol~

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:49 pm

Oh!…my uncles…duh!

Melo

December 8th, 2009
4:49 pm

Im laughing so hard as i picture the ambulance pulling up at Grady and they are picking uall up on the stretcher!

School loking up sleeping on back and dude,kneeling/crouching atop..going into surgery!

:lol: :shock: :evil:

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
4:49 pm

matta fct, one day I’mma drop a bomb and tell y’all who my is…..you’d be shocked shytless!!!!

no time soon though, cause she be reading this, and I wanna get some, so…….lemme hush..

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:50 pm

careful going to Grady with that home concoation!,with dude dyck loadged in the throat!

Melo, I knew a lady that worked the ER as a nurse in Grady and she had some late night sex tales for you…

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:52 pm

Im laughing so hard as i picture the ambulance pulling up at Grady and they are picking uall up on the stretcher!

School loking up sleeping on back and dude,kneeling/crouching atop..going into surgery!
LMAOROTFL

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
4:52 pm

I’m sure it’s made of the same type stuff as the throat spray – Chloraseptic – that is made to numb sore throats.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
4:53 pm

Good night.

If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

Keep on trucking, baby!!!

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
4:54 pm

Of course, Melo, I am less than surprised at your adolescent response. Maybe I will buy a bottle to send to Queen.

Professor

December 8th, 2009
4:55 pm

Sugar Ray Leonard used to be so hot! He did not look as good the last time I saw him. Blair Underwood still got it, along with ________fill in the blank.

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
4:55 pm

Cee, I’m still chucklin over your phrase, “coot on tap,” I’mma ask ‘ol girl do I have her coot on tap…..

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
4:57 pm

any of y’all Monk fans? the finale was a tear jerker. very emotional. a must see!

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:58 pm

see i told you Melo has some perversion. Who visualizes someone going into surgery ‘cuase there member is stuck in the girls mouth!??

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
4:59 pm

2C Yea, coot-cat…My 2 year old neice says “Auntie no one touches my Gina, auntie?!”…now i really grin when she asks me…too cute.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
5:00 pm

see uall tmrw..good nite!

numb throat,numb throat…

:lol: :lol:

lurker

December 8th, 2009
5:03 pm

2CPTG’s crush is one of the old heads i’m gonna go for WD

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
5:06 pm

Tazzee

December 8th, 2009
5:10 pm

Beautiful – I hate that Monk is over. I taped the entire season and watching the episodes slowly – I don’t want it to end. With that said, I’ve been VERY careful not to read any spoilers.

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
5:12 pm

@Tazzee
gotcha! can’t wait until you see the last episode. omg!

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
5:54 pm

y’all go home!

an80sreaganite

December 8th, 2009
9:05 pm

Awful. I had high hopes, as it has a strong cast, but the timing was off & it just wasn’t very good.

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