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Men of a Certain Age

Last night, TNT premiered it’s new one-hour show, Men of a Certain Age, starring Ray Romano, Andre Braugher, and Scott Bakula.
Men of A Certain Age
Photo Credit: TNT

I haven’t seen the pilot show yet but it certainly looks promising, if just for the peek into a fictional male psyche, alone. There are a lot of things men simply don’t speak about publicly (or to womenfolk): their insecurities, frustrations, or motivation of why they do what they do.

When it comes to getting older, men are notorious for reacting in the most bizarre and outrageous ways*. Hey, I’m not judging, I’m just saying. What is it about getting older that “men of a certain age” seem to struggle with the most?

That will probably be the most captivating part of the show, gaining some insight into what some men have to deal with as they get older. Not to mention, how women and their relationships with us fits into everything.

After dating a younger guy, I admit that there are differences in dating “men of a certain age”  but I wouldn’t necessarily say it is better or worse. In my experience, it seems that the maturity level of a man determines how well (or poorly) he handles a dating relationship. What do you think?

Ladies, have you noticed any differences in dating men in their 20s versus dating men in their 30s, 40s, or 50s? What were they? How did you relate to them in terms of communication?

Guys, is there a particular age that a woman should take a man more seriously when it comes to relationships? How do you think a man’s age impacts his dating behaviors? At what age do men usually change how they relate to women?

*Disclaimer: Of course women react to growing older in bizarre and outrageous ways too. It’s all about the fellas today, though. You’re welcome.

316 comments Add your comment

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:14 pm

M., “church” women are still women aren’t they? Don’t be intimidated, nor apprehensive to approach them; however, if you’re not on par with her spiritually, then don’t try to be. Be YOU, young bruh….nothing more, and definetly, nothing less!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
12:14 pm

M.~~~

Wow having a twin, that must be interesting. Then having twin brothers, I bet you guys had fun growing up.

@ DK~~ I don’t know about thanking my lucky stars, but I have taken heed to some good knowledge given.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 17days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:15 pm

Wise I’m tryna figure out if you’re somehow following me cause these last few topics have been my experiences as of late.

When it comes to dating men of various ages for some reason I usually end up with someone younger than I by ~6-7 yrs. Sumtimes I wonder if I have some type of sticker on my forehead that says I only want to date younger men but oh well. I agree with some of the earlier thoughts in that age is only a number b/c the younger men I’ve met have it together(the majority) BUUT for some reason some of the older guys are either stuck in perpetual adolescence or acting like they already have one foot in the grave and that’s boring. I’d like to find a happy medium with someone who knows when to be serious and when to let go, a man with book/street smarts that handles his bidness and can handle me ’cause I take work but for with the “right one” it shouldn’t be an issue……seen?!

Melo

December 8th, 2009
12:16 pm

Good luck Deb!
(for a moment i thoght Deb was intimidated coming back,coz of the true comments)

str8 up chic!
u see, Proff..us guys knbow when a chic is asking a ceratin question,what the underlying message is which remains unsaid…..

i mean grwon grwon man,that is..

M..all women are good untill u strt dealing with them,so “Church women” or not,its all the same..

Treat everybody the same untill they show u a different side.
The only women i wld advise u not to date,at ur age, and in-experience,are strippers and pros…..

shove strippers my way! :lol:

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
12:18 pm

Deb – Wishing you the best, babygirl.

Wise Diva

December 8th, 2009
12:22 pm

Hello everyone! Fantastic dialogue going on today…sooo enjoying it

@ Mr. 2. Clearly it’s time for another guest post :)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 17days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:22 pm

….Capricorns in the house!

We all over the place!!!….belie’ that :mrgreen:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
12:25 pm

Sassy

i think I’m going to put my counter on too… :mrgreen:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:29 pm

Do it Dream guul(said in my best ATL twang)….do it! :)

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:29 pm

Hey Diva…..got plenty of time on my hands these days, so holla at me…..

Willie Dynamite

December 8th, 2009
12:31 pm

M-Dot – Just need to re-read anytime you are in doubt.

M., “church” women are still women aren’t they? Don’t be intimidated, nor apprehensive to approach them; however, if you’re not on par with her spiritually, then don’t try to be. Be YOU, young bruh….nothing more, and definetly, nothing less!

Professor

December 8th, 2009
12:32 pm

Deb, you can do it, and by it I mean whatever is best for you and will make you happy. “It” is difficult to feel all good and giddy when you know games are being played. So stay strong

Melo I agree when I feel BS is being played I ask straight up and I am very candid…if games are being played I want to accept the game or walk away, but not knowing I am in the game is not good. At least I want to decide to play or not.

M. are you two identical? I used to read and study up on twins all the time back in the day. I remember those Time Life books that talked about strange things and there was a case listed where one twin felt labor pains when her twin sister went into labor…how many twins have a secret language early on etc.

Cee's #1 Fan

December 8th, 2009
12:34 pm

Miss Lady you are on point.

A true woman!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
12:40 pm

Sassy – I feel you on this chica…”Sumtimes I wonder if I have some type of sticker on my forehead that says I only want to date younger men but oh well.” Ex-SO was younger than I and sometimes I feel like I have a stamp on my forehead that attracts younger men. I swear I think ex-SO put voodoo on me, him being from the N.O and all. :smile:

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:41 pm

#1 Fan, I concur…..you can tell Cee had some old school upbringin’….then, on top of that, talkin bout she knows how make giblet gravy from scratch (yeah, I remember)!!!!! shiiiid, tell me what dude wouldn’t appreciate that……

Melo

December 8th, 2009
12:41 pm

Is Raqi ok..she aint on duty yet!

how about Kimmie,Foots,Tazzee etc??

Melo

December 8th, 2009
12:42 pm

Cee’s #1 Fan??

she got a man! :lol:

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
12:45 pm

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:48 pm

Sexy, that’s some “get-back” for ya!!!!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
12:50 pm

Damn.. Is it ever THAT serious????

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:54 pm

2Can – on top of it all Cee calls her guy “her old man”.. Thats old school

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
12:56 pm

SCool – well dayum….you just never know what some folks will do. WOW

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
12:59 pm

I swear I think ex-SO put voodoo on me, him being from the N.O and all.

Mo you didn’t have one of them Creoles did you?….lol
I’ve been told that I have a young spirit and I’m like uummmm okay…I’d rather have that than a granny mentality. Over the weekend two guys BOTH almost 9 yrs my junior commented on the fact that I look young(I do get that often) and I said thank you and silently thanked God,my peeps(I got good genes) and Oil of O’lay cause I do believe in taking care of myself. As a matter of fact my paternal grandfather looks the same now as he did when I was a child….the same!

JtJ

December 8th, 2009
1:01 pm

Hey Leggs, Slim, SexyC, Melo, etc.
@ Slim & M. —Questioning if a relationship with more than 5 yrs age-difference between them can work.
I believe a relationship with an age difference of ten years or less can definitely work. My fiancé is 8 yrs older than me and we have a very good relationship. I have found that at his age (38) he definitely has more patience for things in his life, while I just turned 30 and desire to be more patient with all aspects of my life. I personally know of a couple who have a 20 yr age difference, they started dating when she was 29 and he was 49, and they have been together for almost 20 years. I can’t say that their marriage hasn’t had its ups and downs, but “ they’se still be together!!! If you truly love/care/committed/understand/- a person and they love you, then the relationship can and will work.
When the age difference is that great, I can’t see it working when one person is barely legal 18-20 dating/marrying someone who 40+. The balance is not there because one person is just starting to understand life and being independent, while the other has experienced 20 years of independence, careers, relationships, etc and have somewhat settled into their own.
Happy Birthday to all my fellow Sags!!!! I plan to celebrate my birthday this weekend !!! YEAH!!!

JtJ

December 8th, 2009
1:02 pm

Oh….Hey Cee!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:06 pm

Sassy – You were talkin bout me in your earlier post.. Street smart and book smart.. Just thought you should know

Melo

December 8th, 2009
1:08 pm

hey JtJ!! we looking frward to that wedding girl..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
1:10 pm

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

LOL thanks for the advice, I was just dialoguing. No emotions are evident.

@Professor

We are all fraternal.

@THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

Thanks lol. The reason I asked about the Church women because I know sometimes people like to put them on a pedestal like they dont have a past or havent made mistakes. I dont want to turn the topic to dating and Church but in the dating arena, it is an area that comes up. I try to stay away from them anyway until somebody decent steps up. I met 1 so we will see…

Tazzee

December 8th, 2009
1:10 pm

Afternoon folks.

They spelled ‘heifer’ wrong in that article. That is all

Sassy Me...juicy fruit..feeling yummy with 16 days til my birthday :-)

December 8th, 2009
1:15 pm

DK I just described what I would like…but if that’s you ¿Cómo estás Papi?…..how YOU doin’ :)

Got a date with the gym read y’all in a lil bit…..

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
1:20 pm

Hey, JtJ. I agree that dating someone 10 years and under may put less strain on the relationship. Glad to read that the couple w/the 20 yr age difference made it work for them. That was a good read.

As being stated over and over, it’s not really about the number, but more about the amount of brain cells one wants to use to make the relationship work. I have a 60 year old interested in me, but he’s 60 and oldish acting. I need someone who can dance and walk briskly w/o throwing their hip out! :cool:

No one has stepped to me in my church, but have been told a few have asked about me = punks!

Sagittarians rock and sometimes Capricorns. :wink:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:26 pm

Mannn….. R.Kelly’s TP2.com is in rotation right now..

Forgot how good this CD was.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
1:27 pm

hey Tazzee! Hw Mr You??

Aquarious….is the shizznit,as Lioness wld say!

Tazzee=taken

Scool=taken

Cee= taken

JtJ=taken
czBrat=taken
Melo=taking :lol:
Deb=going

MIA is the bizzness! :lol:

Grace

December 8th, 2009
1:34 pm

No one has stepped to me in my church, but have been told a few have asked about me = punks! – :lol: :lol:

Tazzee

December 8th, 2009
1:34 pm

Hey Melo! He’s doing well, thanks for asking.

What in the world are you taking? :lol:

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
1:37 pm

Anything he can get, Taz. Anything he can get.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:38 pm

Melo what is going on over there in Uganda????

They’re proposing the death penalty for gays/ Heard about that yet?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:40 pm

Grace – You have to be careful getting at women at church. Its a very delicate balancing act that goes on, so dudes have to ask about you in hopes it gets back to you.. This way you can smile a little more when you see them.. I call it LRIF (Long Range Innocent Flirting) or LHPF (Little House on the Prarie Flirting)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:41 pm

Grace – Besides no one wants to be known as the church house whuore..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:44 pm

Melo – You are right. Aquarians rule the world..

Hey where is Lioness? If youre reading get your butt back in here and holla at cha folks..

Melo

December 8th, 2009
1:45 pm

Tazzee..taking left overs! :lol:

Dream_n? had not heard about it but….
In africa in general,they are not that tolerant on gays and lesbians…the societies are not as permissive as well as not educated..

The more educated pple are,the more liberal they may become or if not,at least,more tolerant of other views.

African govts are more dictatorial,corrupt and not tolerant..They use ignorance to misgovern,manipulate and misinform so as to remain in power.

Not surprised Dream_n by that extreme measure.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
1:45 pm

I see it differently. I wouldn’t smile at them any harder than normal. They should smile at me more in the hopes I notice them. They were quick to let someone know they were interested. Well, if you think you’re interest in me was conveyed, show me your pearly whites!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
1:48 pm

hmmmm Aquarians rule the world???? They are too nice and passive for me then come with a bomb of wrongs when stuff pop off….well I shouldn’t say they maybe him…lol

I’m a Leo/Lioness lololololol

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
1:48 pm

Leggy Poo – Come on now.. You cant be doing al that in the church house.. You have to be subtle, advances have to be warranted and wanted.

Professor ~ :evil:

December 8th, 2009
1:49 pm

DK Ali

You are on it! LRIF (Long Range Innocent Flirting) or LHPF (Little House on the Prarie Flirting) that is what happens at church! well said

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:53 pm

Thanx for the insight Melo… Man you have me reading up on things I wasn’t really too open to reading or trying to think about!!!

(Long Range Innocent Flirting)…. that’s funny DK.. plus you don;t want too many nosy church folks in ya bidness… they can get messy!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray~with 19 days until my Bday!

December 8th, 2009
1:54 pm

kinderbabe

December 8th, 2009
1:55 pm

hey, Leggs! and what do you mean sometimes Capricorns rock??? what’s up w/that man?? lol Now, I know how to close out the year, new year’s eve baby!! Capricorns all day!

o.k. i didn’t even read all the posts…lol

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
1:55 pm

Of course I know that, but since you’re asking others about me, how about showing me your interest YOURSELF. I don’t like standing in the greeter’s hall hearing “girl, did you know so and so was asking about? I think he’s interested. So next Sunday in church make sure you fan yourself and bat your eyes a little more so he’ll know you’re interested to.”

If you aren’t married, I see nothing wrong with you coming up to me and saying hello!

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
1:56 pm

Went on a few dates with a church dude – a minister. His ass was as crazy as nuts I’ve met on the street. Come to find out – he was projected this successful Godly image in church, but didn’t have a job, a car and was ‘renting a room’ in this older lady’s house.

See SexyCool run!!!