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Men of a Certain Age

Last night, TNT premiered it’s new one-hour show, Men of a Certain Age, starring Ray Romano, Andre Braugher, and Scott Bakula.
Men of A Certain Age
Photo Credit: TNT

I haven’t seen the pilot show yet but it certainly looks promising, if just for the peek into a fictional male psyche, alone. There are a lot of things men simply don’t speak about publicly (or to womenfolk): their insecurities, frustrations, or motivation of why they do what they do.

When it comes to getting older, men are notorious for reacting in the most bizarre and outrageous ways*. Hey, I’m not judging, I’m just saying. What is it about getting older that “men of a certain age” seem to struggle with the most?

That will probably be the most captivating part of the show, gaining some insight into what some men have to deal with as they get older. Not to mention, how women and their relationships with us fits into everything.

After dating a younger guy, I admit that there are differences in dating “men of a certain age”  but I wouldn’t necessarily say it is better or worse. In my experience, it seems that the maturity level of a man determines how well (or poorly) he handles a dating relationship. What do you think?

Ladies, have you noticed any differences in dating men in their 20s versus dating men in their 30s, 40s, or 50s? What were they? How did you relate to them in terms of communication?

Guys, is there a particular age that a woman should take a man more seriously when it comes to relationships? How do you think a man’s age impacts his dating behaviors? At what age do men usually change how they relate to women?

*Disclaimer: Of course women react to growing older in bizarre and outrageous ways too. It’s all about the fellas today, though. You’re welcome.

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SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:19 am

Oh, and Deb – Take your own advice. It’s solid.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:20 am

Met a guy round 50ish we exchanged numbers, the next morning I was overthrown with chain text messages….aaaaaaarrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhh I nipped that in the bud really quick! :mrgreen:

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
11:22 am

@Infamous ” I have a hint of grey in my goatee and in my hair but will I get a silly looking dye job.. Nope”

Mayne I wish my stepdad felt the same way..He dyed his hair, eye brows and mustache jet black and to me he look like a dayum fool! Bruh, it’s just not believable. LOLOL! I’m jus’ sayin doh

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:22 am

Hey Cee! I’m missing my fish and grits :evil:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:23 am

You know what,

That’s something that I’ve heard alot. Texting instead of calling.

How can you genuinely get to know someone through text msgs. You can’t hear their tone, the way they laugh….

I text my friends, I wouldn’t text a potential mate I’m just getting to know… seems silly.

Deb in Kansas

December 8th, 2009
11:25 am

I’ve communicated to him that I don’t like texting but somehow he always goes back to it. I get the impression of multiple dates because we can be good together for two weeks, and then all of sudden, he does something to piss me off (he may be testing me but that is immature also). I have women in the building looking at me strangely, and he says that they are just ‘hating’. These women have seen us in the hallway talking. The chemistry is great! Last time we were together I stated that it had been a long time, and he said “well, it didn’t feel like it”. So I know he feels the chemistry too. I just don’t like the way he runs hot and cold. One week he is chasing me, and the next week he is pissing me off. I am looking for a serious relationship, and not looking for someone to put me on the emotional highs and lows. Feels like a game is being played.

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
11:27 am

Good Day All!

ditto Cee. very well said.

I gladly submit to a man who can lead me with sincerity and confidence. His age is irrelevant. It only matters that I can trust and enjoy them …. and vice versa.

Hey Leggs, Dream_n, Mo, SexyC, Melo, DK :)

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:29 am

Again, Deb – Trust your instincts.

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
11:31 am

I don’t have a problem with some text communication – but, if that is your only method of reaching out to me – Houston, we have a problem.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
11:31 am

Deb I’m echoing SexyCool on that one.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:31 am

Deb,talk to him str8 up and say,”why u bloweing hot and cold on me,whats up”

the answer shld tell u if hes seriuos,lying and just doing games….

has he taken a sip yet?? :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:33 am

Morning czBrat !!

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
11:34 am

Hey Grace hey czBrat.

My grandfather told me a man will lead and respect his women/family and for me to just be a woman. Not to be trampled on by some knuckle head, that doesn’t know his role…just know mine.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:36 am

@Slim One

“I of course cannot speak for all, however, any guy friends that I’ve discussed dating an older woman with said it was sort of as if she took the lead…ESPECIALLY if she was well off $$$.”

What if money never came up and it wasnt a matter of who made more, like you guys never even knew who made what but just careeres, but when they went out, she paid at times, he paid at times and it’s cool? Could this still work? I know you could check salary.com and get an idea but what if genuinely she didnt know how much he made, but just that he was younger but still pulled his weight?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
11:36 am

CeeZy Peezy cover girl what hannenin

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:38 am

M.

I’m getting the feeling that you are into older women, but feel that they are using you as a boy toy??? :wink:

Professor

December 8th, 2009
11:38 am

Wassup Alpaha, Dream and Melo

…sorry to step in so late, but there must be a full moon out there shining!

***As for a grown azz man or woman texting like they are tying on a 1970s typewriter is indeed a sign of something. I knew of a dumb azz cat that would text worst than a high school girl and I asked the dummy about it…sometimes you have to call them to the carpet**** Stop all that dayum texting and lying NOT cool.

Dream~girl your uncle is the truth…get him tested against Melo so we can confirm that Zulu warrior and get the tribe going strong.

On topic: I have dated older and younger. The older one tried to be young and the dayum younger one tried to be old. Hell I just wanted them to be themselves. Riddle me this: Why is that this young fella will not stop calling me…I paid for a service and he received my number on the invoice and has been calling for a couple of weeks? I really do not want to call and complain and he gets fired, but dayum I don’t want some snotty nose kid dialing me either :???:

Willie Dynamite

December 8th, 2009
11:40 am

Morning All,

Good comments from most in here.

Deb – You are officially in the Rotation. Accept your position and come off the bench when called or become a Free Agent and hit the Market.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:41 am

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

I am afraid you are wrong..lol I really dont deal with women on a relationship level who are over 30. :)

Cemeeli

December 8th, 2009
11:41 am

Hey Ali.

Covergirl?…man, if you knew the day and the life of for real.

Professor

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

Deb

I have women in the building looking at me strangely, and he says that they are just ‘hating’.

Well Lady, I will tell you this when women start acting crazy throwing insults and acting a fool it is over a man usually. I have seen this in person and online. For some dumb azz reason you have immature women that get mad at the woman instead of the man keeping it moving.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

Hello czB. Hello InfamousD! Gray in your goatee sounds strokable!

@Professor ~ why can’t you simply call him back and ask him to stop
calling?

@Deb ~ you’ve been given some wise advice, take heed! You already know what you need to do.

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

M., sounds like you’re asking for advice on how to handle ya stable……

Bruh, listen to me..a woman gon’ peep yo game…from head to toe! Now, if she’s never had a male role model and shows no respect for men, then you’re fighting an uphill battle! Can that mountain be conquered? of course. How do you do it….easy…..first of all, YOU have to be confident in who you are! Meaning stand your ground…ALL the time! Yeah, you gon’ do some compromising, but compromising ain’t a sign of weakness; You also gotta know with whom you’re dealing with, and how to finesse her into buying into your program…..if she ain’t buying what you’re selling, then you gotta be man enough to know when to cut your losses. BUt it’s when you try to force feed her, is when she’s going to rebel; It’s like coaching a team – only one person is the head coach; Everyone else has to fall in line with his program – yeah, he’s gon listen, and take SOUND advice from his assistants (if he wants to be successsful), but ultimately the success of the program rests upon his shoulders….if not, you’re destined for anarchy.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:44 am

opps.. I guess I do not have a career in psychology. :lol:

I’ll stick with the teaching thing..

What’s your age M.?

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:45 am

Well, WillieD..u have gone there..

I was trying to eliminate the possible reasons then come str8 at the issue…talk of taking it slow….

Did the panties come off slow Deb??

Hey czBrat/Proff..hey beybeees! :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:48 am

Hello InfamousD! Gray in your goatee sounds strokable

Well Alrighty then Leggs!! :wink:

What’s up lady??? (Professor)

czBrat

December 8th, 2009
11:49 am

Professor I know you dont want to cause probs for the kid, but you may have to bring that to someone’s attention. They cannot have an employee accsssing a customer’s info for personal use. There is some liability there. He’ll have to learn that lesson the hard way. Be smart & safe … NIP IT!!

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:49 am

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

Good tips.

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

Coming up on 27. Curious, what does it matter? How old are you?

Melo

December 8th, 2009
11:49 am

yea M,i wanna know ur age too…

a chic did not have a daddy growin up and she rebeliious?? either u can handle her or u cannot…
If u cant,just move on….no,i mean tap it.then move on…..(thats good for ur experience too,by the way.its not all selfish as some ladies wld have us believe) :lol:

Dont make it ur responsibility to teach a grown woman how to respect a man..she will get that from her dating experiences if she truly wants to learn.
Unless ofcourse if u are a gluton for girlfriend drama! :lol:

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:50 am

Well let me call on all these offiicers and detectives that try to use their position of power to get numbers.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:52 am

@Melo

LOL that is some hilarious advice. Thanks…

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
11:52 am

BTW Deb, those women are’nt looking at your “hating.” They’re looking at you because he’s feeding them some off the wall BS about you. As WillieD stated, you’re about to be put into rotation and the best thing for you to do is become a Free Agent and hit the Market = keep it moving!

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
11:54 am

@Dream_n ~ alls good in my world…I’m still clapping!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
11:55 am

Melo u are so silly!!!

@ M~~~~ just asking.

I’ll catch up with you in 3 years. The bday is in 19 days and counting!!!

I have to give a hearty shout out to my Capricorns Sassy/Professor :mrgreen:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
11:57 am

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

Its all good. Just was wondering…Dating in Atlanta is a trip. And Im a capricorn to.

Professor

December 8th, 2009
11:58 am

@Professor ~ why can’t you simply call him back and ask him to stop
calling? Leggs the first time he called me I told him the unit was working well and thanks. Well when he called again I told him look I am not interested and he said there is something about you that I cannot describe, but I really like. He went on to say when he saw my face he said please dont let her be married! Well I had enough and I cut him off and told him not to call me and he called two or three times yesterday.

~czBrat–you are right I need to nip it!
Well let me call on all these offiicers and detectives that try to use their position of power to get numbers. I can at least respect the real officers that use their power, what bothers me more is the fake azz officers that pretend :mrgreen:

Did the panties come off slow Deb?? Melo stop smiling and get back to work!

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
11:59 am

M., I normally charge for that kinda knowledge, but since you’re genuinely seeking advice, you get a pass……

Professor

December 8th, 2009
12:00 pm

Thanks for the shout out Dream Capricorns in the house!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
12:03 pm

Aww shucks M.

Older than me (check)
Capricorn (check)
From the Chi (dbl check)
What else you need to know. I think we gotta blog match!!!!

lmao :lol: :lol: :lol:

I kid I kid!!!

SexyCool - Is ya' happy?

December 8th, 2009
12:05 pm

Deb’s issue is that she has already did the lay-down with this dude, it was good and she genuiunely likes him. Deb also probably feels as if she is mature enough and has experienced enough that she can play this game on her terms. And perhaps she could if she were not already caught up.

I have been in Deb’s exact position. With Shthead, I saw the bllsht coming. Problem was, I wanted to believe that the bllsht was cotton candy. In the end, my choices left me cheated on, lied to and having wasted damn three years of my life.

Live better. Learn better. Do better.

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
12:06 pm

I see we have a professional in the building…2CPTG what do you normally charge? I have a few dilemas I need sorting out…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:07 pm

Professor – Tell him your boyfriend works for the UFC andhe doesnt like men trying to holla..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
12:07 pm

@2CPTG……grown azz man!

Thanks man. Any other advice? I am single with no kids and would like to avoid as many mistakes as possible. What’s your feeling on Church women?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

Dream – Thats why you should thank your lucky stars for this blog and the info you get for free.. This is stuf that should be in self help books.. I know mine should..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

@Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

Lol Im Jan. 7 and I have a twin sister

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

And my brothers are twins also. No joke.

Deb in Kansas

December 8th, 2009
12:09 pm

@Melo. The panties were slow enough…fifth date. We have been hot and cold for almost a year, so it is definitely time to get off of rotation, and become a free agent. I have dated others since we’ve met but only to get over him. However, as you all have advised, I will definitely (try to) move on. (At least give me an “A” for effort.) There are plenty of fish in the sea. I continue to read your blogs on a daily basis, so if anything changes, I will keep you posted. BTW, even though we are on the same floor, I stay hidden in my cubicle to avoid running in to him. So at least I am trying. Peace.

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
12:10 pm

Dream_n….ask away….cain’t charge my kinfolks; I was just kidding with M., cause his emotions are clearly evident.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:10 pm

M. – The thing with church women is this.. Yes get ya one that loves the lord but not a bible thumping, holy roller zealot. You have to sex any babes mind before you take her under your wing..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
12:12 pm

M. – Dang well you should tell a chick about the twinsssss thing immediately cause she might have a gut full of humans instead of a human..