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Men of a Certain Age

Last night, TNT premiered it’s new one-hour show, Men of a Certain Age, starring Ray Romano, Andre Braugher, and Scott Bakula.
Men of A Certain Age
Photo Credit: TNT

I haven’t seen the pilot show yet but it certainly looks promising, if just for the peek into a fictional male psyche, alone. There are a lot of things men simply don’t speak about publicly (or to womenfolk): their insecurities, frustrations, or motivation of why they do what they do.

When it comes to getting older, men are notorious for reacting in the most bizarre and outrageous ways*. Hey, I’m not judging, I’m just saying. What is it about getting older that “men of a certain age” seem to struggle with the most?

That will probably be the most captivating part of the show, gaining some insight into what some men have to deal with as they get older. Not to mention, how women and their relationships with us fits into everything.

After dating a younger guy, I admit that there are differences in dating “men of a certain age”  but I wouldn’t necessarily say it is better or worse. In my experience, it seems that the maturity level of a man determines how well (or poorly) he handles a dating relationship. What do you think?

Ladies, have you noticed any differences in dating men in their 20s versus dating men in their 30s, 40s, or 50s? What were they? How did you relate to them in terms of communication?

Guys, is there a particular age that a woman should take a man more seriously when it comes to relationships? How do you think a man’s age impacts his dating behaviors? At what age do men usually change how they relate to women?

*Disclaimer: Of course women react to growing older in bizarre and outrageous ways too. It’s all about the fellas today, though. You’re welcome.

316 comments Add your comment

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:39 am

FIRST! Ah… it feels so good… :lol:

Brad in Jasper

December 8th, 2009
8:42 am

Case by case, really. I’ve known 18 year old guys that were very mature for their age, and 50 year olds that are terminally adolescent. I’d say that applies to the fairer sex to a lesser degree.

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:42 am

Okay, now that that is out of the way… Morning, people!

On Topic: Eh… I don’t know. Personally, I think age is just a number. I’ve seen 40 (hell, even 60) year-olds act like teenagers, and vice-versa. All depends on the individual.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
8:42 am

Well dammit Swiss, I thought I was gonna be first!

Oh well, I dont have much on this topic so I will lurk

Morning All

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:47 am

I will say this, however… I have noticed that men & women tend to differ in their respective M.O’s when it comes to hanging on to their youth. Seems like women tend to focus more on their appearance (anti-wrinkle cream, cosmetic surgery, coloring hair, etc.), while men tend to focus more on lifestyle (going out drinking with the boys, driving sports cars, chasing skirts 1/2 — or 1/3 — their age, etc.). Don’t really have any where to go with that… just an observation… :)

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
8:49 am

Ah, you see, Mo… you made the rookie mistake: You actually took time to try to think of a relevant post. There’s no time for that. You’ve just got to type “FIRST” and hit that submit button ASAP! :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
8:52 am

Im Swiss – yeah, yeah okay you got me! :mad: Its all good, guess that whats I get for trying to have something to say on this topic

William

December 8th, 2009
8:57 am

I think men at the age 40 really appreciate the opposite more but will not necessarily act the fool.

AlphaDog

December 8th, 2009
9:05 am

Please cease with the “I’m First” postings. It doesn’t do anything for the discussion of the day. Also, if you have nothing to contribute to the topic don’t waste our time and space on the page. We don’t care for your “good morning” greetings or wishes for a good weekend. Stay on topic. Just a rant from a man of a certain age!

phil

December 8th, 2009
9:21 am

Saw the first 30 minutes of the show. It was slow! So slow, I couldn’t finish the hour. It seemed they were trying to do an “HBO” type show, but without the freedom that HBO brings. The story line was predictable, the characters are not really that likeable, etc. This was a good opportunity to bring something interesting to the screen, but from what I saw, a bad miss!

LeeH1

December 8th, 2009
9:23 am

Women and girls used to look at me as a man or a possible date for them or a girlfriend. Now I’m looked at as a non-possible. I have more authority and power, but less sex attraction and side-long looks.

Girls used to dress attractively to attract men like me. Now that I’m older, I’ve found that women dress attractively for younger men and flirt with others younger than me.

This doesn’t matter so much since I’m over forty, out of circulation and comfortably married, but it is something that I’ve noticed. Women and girls are very age conscious in dealing and acting with men.

i'm swiss

December 8th, 2009
9:24 am

Alpha — It’s called sarcasm. Have a Prozac & chillax, dude.

Sandy

December 8th, 2009
9:26 am

We thought it will be our favorite show (me and my girlfriend). I’m 58 and she’s 46 by the way.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
9:32 am

@AlphaDog ~ what’s wrong with saying Good Morning or wishing one a good weekend to people you speak to everyday????

GOOD MORNING EVERYONE AND ENJOY THE WORK WEEK!

Sue

December 8th, 2009
9:32 am

Couldn’t find it on our TV – we live in Toronto, Ontario

Timeless

December 8th, 2009
9:41 am

LeeH1, some women are very attracted to characteristics of older men. Some older men have no problem attracting much younger women…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 8th, 2009
9:42 am

Its your state of mind.. If youre happy and you know it clap your hands.. I feel now Im a heck of a catch. Street smart and book smart with a healthy respect for relationships. No longer do I think and I quote Snoop “B’s aint sh!t”. I think they are beautiful flowers that need my water.. Let the soiling begin..

Luvbug

December 8th, 2009
9:45 am

Jim

December 8th, 2009
9:46 am

Guys, wait ’till you get grey hair. Then you become invisible.

P.S. I like it that way.

Max Talbot

December 8th, 2009
9:46 am

I am in my late 30s and can definitely see how my perspectives on dating and relationship have changed over the years. I wasn’t as serious in my 20s – just wanted to get laid – but now am thinking more along the lines of getting married and staying with one woman.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
9:47 am

CLAP, CLAP, CLAP!!!

Wonderwoman

December 8th, 2009
9:48 am

Somewhat agree with the maturity (key word) level of a man (heck any person really) determines how well or poorly he handles a dating relationship. But to me maturity is not based the age, people mature at different ages.

From my experience dating a men in their mid- to- late 20’s is not so much different from men in their 30’s or 40’s. It depends on what you are looking for as far maturity!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
9:49 am

my thoughts are late 30s and 40yr old have just has much mind games as the early 30 and 20 yr old men…age is just a number its expericence I feel that brings out certain behavior along with childhood experience…so the older the better is just like taking a risk like any other choice…

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
9:49 am

INFAMOUS “No longer do I think and I quote Snoop “B’s aint sh!t”. I think they are beautiful flowers that need my water.. Let the soiling begin..”

This statement did have a sense of poetry to it, but I couldn’t help but to immediately get a less than poetic visual image in my head. SOILING?? LOLOLOLOL! (pls excuse me while I go wash my hands) ;-)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 8th, 2009
9:50 am

CLAP, CLAP, CLAP, CLAP, CLAPPITY-CLAP!

2CPTG......grown azz man!

December 8th, 2009
9:50 am

DK, couldn’t agree with you more (hell, I read your posts and think I coulda said the exact same thing, sometimes)….but you’re right, after having “been there, done that,” you gain a newfound respect for a lot of things….relationships, notwithstanding.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
9:52 am

Clapping, clapping, clapping…I can’t stop clapping!

abc

December 8th, 2009
9:53 am

I didn’t watch the show, I doubt I’ll make much effort to do so — I’m not a TV type of guy. It’s just TV, and doesn’t necessarily reflect real life.

Most people will gain maturity as they grow older. Maturity is gained at different rates and to different extents, varying per person. Maturity’s biggest effect on relationships is to bring an aspect of putting another person’s interests before your own; that’s something that’s rare in 20-somethings. I can say that age has had that effect on me, or maybe I just finally got together with the right woman.

“Men of a certain age”, which I gather to be around late 40’s and early 50’s, have hopefully learned to move beyond the superficial, and with impending mortality becoming a clearer concept, pursue that which leads to contentment, happiness, and fulfillment in such a way that it isn’t just all about themselves, but rather for the benefit of all those around them, too.

NY2GA, Inc.

December 8th, 2009
9:56 am

I personally like men that are a bit more seasoned than I. But yeah, when some of them get in their 40’s they can get a little weird sometimes.

It’s called “male menopause”-

Morrigan

December 8th, 2009
9:59 am

LeeH1 – “Now I’m looked at as a non-possible. I have more authority and power, but less sex attraction and side-long looks.”

Welcome to the world that women have suffered in since time began. I used to be able to get away with anything, anywhere; now that I have gray hair and wrinkles (though still a hot figure!), I might as well be invisible. Or a (figurative) punching bag.

Timeless

December 8th, 2009
9:59 am

Wonderwoman, are you serious that dating a men in their mid- to- late 20’s is not so much different from men in their 30’s or 40’s? There’s a world of difference…

TT

December 8th, 2009
10:00 am

Thoiught the show was boring. Was disappointed. Not sure if I will watch again. Don’t think it is worth being tied to the TV for the 10-11 hour.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
10:00 am

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

Good Morning Everyone!… (even you Alpha :wink: )

We can go in a circle about the subject of maturity. While I believe wisdom is gained through experience. Maturity can be gained at just about any age. And age is just that a number. I have friends that had to step up and take charge of their household @ 17 because the their father chose to run out. They got jobs to help out their mother and went on to become the surrogate father for their siblings. I know women who had to step up at a very early age b/c their mom was on drugs and didn’t care 2 sh!ts about if they went to school or not, but they did.

I don’t put too much into age. I put more into the individual and how they react and cope with certain situations presented to them.

Timeless

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

I’m not sure why you guys think grey hair makes you invisible. Most women I have met love grey/pepper hair. They say it adds a sense of maturity and sophistication. Of course, the women themselves have to have some maturity to realize that… :)

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

@NY2GA, Inc. they really are I feel are testing if they still have but tring to be the mature guy they are but the mix is throwing me as I communicate with one…it is weird…I am like ok…moving right along but he doesn’t disappear still there but won’t chose a side to play….lol

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:01 am

hair flip to the ladies! pat on da booty to 2C! lol. good morning!

older men . . . for me to date them they can’t look their age. i don’t wanna date my uncle, k.

Leggs

December 8th, 2009
10:02 am

Hello, Grace. Welcome back!

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:05 am

I love a salt/pepper beard not full but a few hairs here and there is cool and in the head too…@ any age though I’ve seen the 20s, 30s, and so on….

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:06 am

**Maturity can be gained at just about any age.** yep! i know a guy who is 30 yrs old and acts my age.

Grace

December 8th, 2009
10:06 am

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:06 am

@Timeless

I have to agree…. I love salt and pepper hair on a man. Hell I’m young. I’m usually attracted to older men… 35 and older.

Now there are men in my age bracket that exude maturity, balance, and respect also.

NY2GA, Inc.

December 8th, 2009
10:07 am

@Lady J

LOL! So you’ve got one of those, too? My man of a certain age is 44.

Ben

December 8th, 2009
10:07 am

Lots of questions put out there by the blogger and I can’t speak for anyone but myself. There is no certain age that men change in their behaviors. It is completely dependent on the individual. In my 20’s I had 2 relationships that lasted 2 years and 5 years respectively but my behaviors were that of a guy who was still in college and living life much like that. Looking back I certainly wasn’t at a maturity level to nurture a real “adult” relationship. It wasn’t until I was 31 when I began dating my girlfriend that I felt like I had my first “adult” relationship. I’m sure that totally has to do with experiences and maturity and being able to communicate better. Also, she was old enough (29) and secure enough in who she was to bring her experiences into the relationship. The fact that she was her own person and had her own life was extremely attractive. Not to mention she’s super cute.

God, I feel like I just posted on an Oprah message board or something.

Melo

December 8th, 2009
10:09 am

Morning hu hu,huhu Alpha Dawg!

hey folks…

For men,20s is geting laid,late 20 and 30s settling down..40s is reflection as u are settled,late 40s is panic time..this may be the last time to Git It Up without too much adoo so u wanna be taping it once more as u go in the sexxual twilight zone! :arrow:

Thats my sense!

Again Morning folks! :lol:

SlimOne

December 8th, 2009
10:11 am

I like a little salt-n-pepper in a man’s goatee. I thinks it adds a sexy-mature vibe to their look.

However, within the last 2yrs I’ve noticed a more frequent amount of ‘numerically mature’ men trying to approach me. Now I don’t necessarily have an issue with dating an older man but not someone who is older than BOTH of my parents. I think it helps to not have such a large generation gap between myself and someone i’m dating. My cousin’s real estate agent who is almost 60 just called me out the blue a few days ago asking to take me out….Can you say “Hibbee Jibbees!” I’m not interested in dating a guy that is almost twice my age (i’m 31) :shock:

Lady J

December 8th, 2009
10:12 am

he isn’t my man but he is 43 and lets say I am being patient but lol in the inside…I think we are both on emotional rollercoasters….damn laws of attraction bc we have a similar past….LMAO!

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:15 am

**I wasn’t as serious in my 20s – just wanted to get laid – but now am thinking more along the lines of getting married and staying with one woman.**

that’s just a given.

Beautiful

December 8th, 2009
10:19 am

**I think they are beautiful flowers that need my water.. Let the soiling begin..**

that’s nice!

Dream_n~ Soaring above the Fray

December 8th, 2009
10:20 am

lol @ “Hibbee Jibbees:… I haven’t heard that phrase in so long Slim

Every time this subject comes across I have to bring up two individuals in my life. My siter’s boyfriend who is 25 and just attained his master’s degree in business. He is very intelligent respects and admires the hell outta my sister. When he first took interest into my sister, he was ready to meet my parents and express his interest in getting to kow our fa,itly. He is truly a stand up guy.

Then I lok at my uncle who is hitting 40, with over 20 kids, from different women. This guy is still trying to be a playa. He can’t gt a legit job b/c child support will kill him. His BM’s come around for the holiday trying to see who is closer to the family. He doesn’t have an intmate relationship with all of my cousins and it’s quite sad. He still relys heavily on his looks to get him by and whnever he comes around it’s his show. He talks about nothing.. mainly about what new car he has, how much he bench pressess, and a bunch of nothing, ( I told you about this one Prof)

I love him to death, but he neeeds to grow up.

So I don’t necessarily equate maturity with age.