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Stop That, It’s Creepy

Somewhere on your dating resume, you may have been given the title: The Creepy One. It begins when, for some strange and inexplicable reason, you start to exhibit weird dating behavior.  It is highly likely that many of us aren’t even aware of it when it’s happening.  I think we are completely oblivious about how we are coming across sometimes.

What do you think should be on the “Stop That, It’s Creepy” list? You know what they say, when we know better, we date better, right!?

Ok, I will start with the creepy behavior I have been guilty of:

Miss Pop-up. When a guy I was seeing hadn’t invited me over I made a surprise visit. I showed up, uninvited and unexpected.  It was just driving me nuts that I hadn’t seen the inside of his place.  Turned out, he simply was renovating. He was nice enough to entertain my foolishness, but I know I gave him the “creepy chick” vibe.

Ladies, stop doing drive-bys or showing up to a guy’s place uninvited. It’s creepy. In fact, if you are too nosy and pushy, you could get dropped.

Miss Cling-on. I was smitten over a guy who was the  take home to Mama- total package type. This was the first guy I lost my cool over. I literally pouted when the poor man tried to get some space.  Being that needy – especially that quickly, made him look at me in a totally new light. What a nightmare I was.

Men like to feel needed, but the clingy, I can’t breathe without you – types are – wait for it.. CREEPY.  Stop acting out your insecurities on your man. It’s creepy.

Ladies, have you ever been disappointed in yourself and how you handled a dating relationship?  What kind of creepy behavior do you think scared men off?

I certainly have been on the receiving end before too:

Mr. One-tracked Mind: It is so weird to talk to a guy who will only talk about one topic. It could be sports, sex, or religion, but it’s the ONLY thing he talks about. If you can’t show a woman that you have more than one dimension, she is going to think you are a prison inmate who has been locked in a cell somewhere for the last decade.  Stop being a one-trick pony. Be well-rounded, otherwise,  ummm it’s creepy.

Mr. Octopus: Listen, I like to be groped as much as the next girl, but not by someone I don’t know or like.  If you attempt to palm my butt like a basketball then you’re definitely getting the creepy label. And possibly a throat chop. Or even a flat tire.

Stop acting like a horny teen who just discovered the female body. It’s creepy.  Unless she is on duty at a gentleman’s club, assume the woman wants to be treated like a lady. I think it is important to read a woman’s body language. You will know when and if she wants you to touch her… if you pay attention.

Guys, have you seen behavior from women that caused you to hit pause? Did it end up being a deal breaker?  Have you ever exhibited creepy behavior towards women? Were you able to recover from it?

Happy Friday!

318 comments Add your comment

Professor~

December 4th, 2009
2:31 pm

LMAO…Line Cook at your high school :shock: Girl he was wrong! girl for some reason it seems like those cooks are off the chain. Hell I stopped going to Picadilly because the cook creeped me out!

Melo

December 4th, 2009
2:32 pm

But if u look at this Tiger thang,2CPTG,some wromg with him brother…

Ellan or whatever her name,is a nanny brains girl..
all the sluts coming out, are club/liqor store type chics..

noone that i have had so far is a sharp shooter upstairs,or holds a decent,respectable job,not even a sports agent,anhor type chic with aome redu and decency….

even myself,at my net worth thats less than 0.00000000001 % of his,I dont play with bar chics…..gimme a damnn sexxy cpa,cfa,investment banker,hr, or lawyer or model type chic,no strokkers type chic when im worth 0.000000000000001 of a mill net wrth,let alone $500million.

Some aint right with this picture!

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
2:33 pm

I also don’t like dudes that give you the Head-to-toe once over, looking like the Wolf in the story Little Red Riding Hood. Just gives me the creeps….and please, please, please don’t come telling me how sexy and slim I am with your bible in hand. :shocked:

Professor~

December 4th, 2009
2:35 pm

Melo~I agree, but as a man you can say that, but I was thinking the same thing tiger plays with those little income and lame azz jobs with no brains. Now watch the replies because I (with vjay) mentioned income and unskilled workers

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
2:36 pm

Has anyone ever ran into their boss/teacher years later, and they tried to hit on you?

When I was going to this reggae spot with my best friend, my teacher spotted me there. It was awkward at first, but after a couple of drinks I loosened up. He was telling me about how he always gave me a hard time at school b/c he liked when I expressed my opinion about things. Now don’t get me wrong, he was a goodlooking guy, but again it just didn’t seem right. I had the fear someone would see us together and think that I was hooking up with him when we were in back in school.

Which brings me to another question..

Has anyone let someone go that that they regret

SexyCool - Weekend Wonder

December 4th, 2009
2:36 pm

“talking to a line cook at that school, just seemed kinda odd to me.”

And was probably illegal for him.

Professor~

December 4th, 2009
2:36 pm

Slim I dated a preacher once very briefly and he said more than that with the bible in his hands on the church grounds! :???:

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
2:37 pm

2CPTG, I kinda agree with you. The problem with having that kind of money is you never know who is in it for the money and who is not. You won’t know until the money is gone but you take the chance of getting with the wrong person(s) on the journey to find out.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
2:40 pm

Melo…..that’s how you know it was all about the coochie….no brains, require no game! Them CPA type chics you mentioned, woulda had Tiger recallin’ his Stanford education in order to get at ‘em……but them bar chics, tip her azz a few hundreds, and it’s on!!!!!

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
2:41 pm

Oh shoot.. If “someone is on here”..
You know that was around the time when “he” was letting anyone in that club that paid the cover.. lmao!!!!

MsM

December 4th, 2009
2:44 pm

I was 16 and hitchhiking (Van Nuys, CA) and an old white dude in a pick-up stopped and offered a ride. I accepted and hopped in, we drove a minute and the next thing out of his mouth is I’m a para***somthing and I can’t do the do but I’ll give you $100 if you su*k it for me… Well hell, as soon as he stopped at a traffic light I was out.. he was yelling that sh*t after me as I was running in the other direction.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
2:48 pm

Raqi, a dude like me ain’t takin no chances! dammit, you weren’t there when I was on the come-up, so you damn sure ain’t bout to jump on the bus now…..

Melo

December 4th, 2009
2:49 pm

woulda had Tiger recallin’ his Stanford education in order to get at ‘em

2CPTG??
no waay…with that loot,any chic can be made to sing,u know that!!!

For a man lacking confidence,at least thats how it comes out about Tiger, seeing he picks those types,ur money makes u upgrade….well,maybe im putting too much brains into it! :lol:

now all the lil sluts are coming out,like cockroaches, when the lights in the kitchen are put on…..ta, one drops,…….ta! ta!, 4 other cockroaches drop..tatatata……them cockroaches keep droping! Poor tiger :lol:

every bar slut now wants at least 60,000k to tell her story!! :lol:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
2:51 pm

@ 2CPTG

What about the Lebron/Savannah relationship.
That “seems” pretty honest. Would you be more inclined to stay with a woman that was with you from the beginning as opposed to one who you attracted after increasing your bank account?

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
2:52 pm

MsM

I don’t know whether to laugh or send you an e-hug.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
2:53 pm

that’s why, I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, my wifey aspirant gon’ come from my pool of already known associates….not some new chic who sees only the exterior……”chic, you’on know shyt about me, you just see a brother shinin’ and you wanna get on my team…but what we can do, is…….”

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
2:55 pm

2CPTG, that’s what I was sitting here thinking. The only way to really get with someone and have a better chance of them being there for you and not your money is for them to have to have been there thru the struggle. It’s like when you read about different entertainers that marry their high school sweethearts or the one that footed the bills while you were out there making $100 a week doing standup. There is a better chance for true love and affection there.

Either that or marry someone that has just as much or more money than you do.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
2:56 pm

Dream_n….yo answer right there ^^^^^

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...:-)

December 4th, 2009
2:56 pm

Thank you East Point.

Professor that wsa nasty wrong and I’m sorry you had to go through that…..that dude sounds like some kinda perv.

Have a good weekend y’all…..stay warm however you can ;)

Melo

December 4th, 2009
2:59 pm

2CPTG

at least let ur money enable u to upgrade if u lack confidence like he seemds he does..

with aht kinda money,any woman can be made to sing! :lolL:

Poor tiger..

I luv his golf tho….mad luv for it..

Now he has to make 60k hush payments or let the sluts collect their 60k “tell my story” payments! :lol:

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
2:59 pm

Raqi, I agree…..why da hell y’all think Oprah ain’t got married? cain’t nobody match that…..’cept maybe a Bob Johnson, or somebody like that…..

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
3:01 pm

Melo, as far as those gals, seling their stories, I wouldn’t even care…..ain’t comin’ outta his pockets!!!! The one he gotta worry about is his wife…prolly gon’ go pull a Kobe, and lace the shyt out of her now…..

Professor

December 4th, 2009
3:02 pm

Has anyone let someone go that that they regret

I will say this I dated a wonderful guy in college and I think of him every V-day. He was the bestest and that is one I should have really kept. The breakdown in our relationship was my fault…he was a great guy, and I hope with all my heart life is treating him well.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
3:04 pm

2CPTG, I thought I heard where one of Tiger’s women was going to do an interview but was paid off by him not to. I don’t know how true that is though.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
3:04 pm

I thought maybe the men (even women) would’ve learned something after the Steve Mcnair situation. Very tragic story, but a lesson nonetheless.

Professor

December 4th, 2009
3:05 pm

Melo,

He better buy those sluts a Gucci bag with some matching shades and leave about 2K in there. Hell if he give them 60K he is going to create a riot them sluts are not used to the 60K I think we need to start using 50K as the new number.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
3:06 pm

of course, Professor…..the thing I like though, in my instance, is that I’m still cool with all of ‘em…..

can you say, “no good, but so good!!!”

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
3:07 pm

Awww Professor.. a tear just dropped.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
3:09 pm

2CPTG

the pre-nup is being re-wrked out.Now thats quick..can u say ching ching….

Jasper Pannevick,the dude/golfer who introduced him to the nanny chic-wife-now says,she shld have thumped him with a driver! Ouch!

Tells u no man has it all..u either good in school,but lame with girls or lights out when u read a book but a mad pants down rapper and sleek with the hood chics….
America is great fo sho!! :lol:

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
3:10 pm

Tiger dumb anyway…in fact, I’mma gon’ say it, ANYBODY who cheats in a marriage is a loser in my book! throughout all my faults and shortcomings, I do not disrespect the sanctity of marriage…..if you ain’t ready, don’t do it…..

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
3:10 pm

When I read that Melo (about the pre nup being re-written) it confused the heck outta me.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
3:11 pm

thought maybe the men (even women) would’ve learned something after the Steve Mcnair situation

the lesson we men get is that there is plenty coochie out there to be got got! :lol:

hw about u ladies Dream_n???? :lol:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
3:12 pm

I do not disrespect the sanctity of marriage…..if you ain’t ready, don’t do it…..

Simply put. I agree

Professor

December 4th, 2009
3:13 pm

2CPTG I am horrible with keeping in touch and when my dad died I was trying my best to just finish school and try to make it in this world…I had to grow up.

Dream, yep he is worth a thought every now and then…he truly makes my heart smile. Now, all of these losers can find me on FB, that is one person I would love to see a friend request :wink:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
3:13 pm

Melo,

I hope you learned a little bit more than that.. lol

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
3:14 pm

Melo, I read where Jasper Parnevick said how disappointed he was because he introduced them. My bff and I both thought it was funny because he introduced him to his nanny. Not his sister or his wife’s friend but the nanny. The nanny who is also from Sweden.

East Point's Own

December 4th, 2009
3:15 pm

@Dream_n~ Exhausted That’s why I said there must be some details he does not want to get out in the open, otherwise re-writing the pre-nup makes no sense…he is trying to keep her mouth shut about something, or he really has no sense if he thinks she is not planning on cashing in on the pay day.

Ole gilr might have married him with the plan of waiting for him to mess up, knowing she could trick him into paying her somehow… LoL

http://hispointofview.com

Melo

December 4th, 2009
3:17 pm

Dream_n??
rewrked coz she initially was due some certain amnt if they broke up,very little in comparison to his net wrth..

Now,coz his johnson was caught still dripping with slutt funk,she renegotiated and said,”i lick u all this dammn time,now u put me thru this embarrasment..im gonna walk”",,,and he says..

“instead of buying u a ring,like Kobie did..i give u more,so u dont talk..”

(i be ur lawyer Dream_N if u like, for that divorse thang) :lol:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
3:18 pm

I never put it past anyone now a days East.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
3:21 pm

Facebook done renewed a lotta old flames……old trysts too, I might add!!!!!

Professor

December 4th, 2009
3:24 pm

Ok, What is wrong with the nanny, and why is it funny that she was introduced to him and not someone else? Is it difficult to understand that Tiger and the nanny may have enjoyed a lot of the same things? Is Elin not human, or is she less because of her job title…just saying

Melo

December 4th, 2009
3:24 pm

Raqi,that nanny is no diff to the Thai/asian girls and Russian gerlz we see on the internet,who pine 4 american men so they get papers….same kind

what did Tiger,his mom etc see in the woman.really….a nanny!!

Luvbug

December 4th, 2009
3:27 pm

gimme a damnn sexxy cpa,cfa,investment banker,hr, or lawyer

I’m thinking a rich guy who wants to be married would count that breed out…if it’s true that women only go for money…a smart chic is the last chic…Finance? Law? Your money good as gone after I do…not a penny left…no clothes…nothing…she might leave you a pamper

D'Andre

December 4th, 2009
3:27 pm

The difference between “creepy” to guys and girls is in the eye of the beholder. Keep this in mind, ladies.

In my younger days, I was a very good athlete. Started and lettered in basketball and baseball all three years into high school. No, I didn’t miss a year. When I went to HS it was only 10th, 11th & 12th grades. I was a well-above average talent in baseball (87-89 mph fastball) but never played college. I would have liked to but my talent was not overwhelming AND my parents didn’t want me to pursue sports in college. Something about growing up and being responsible.

Nevertheless, as with most big name HS athletes with better-than-average looks, the women are around and some even come looking for you. This revelation didn’t occur to me then, but it’s funny to reflect on it now as a middle-aged father of three. You see, I have a son who looks very much like I did in HS and is maybe a tad better pitcher than I was, too. He’ll likely get a baseball scholarship.

About 30 years ago, I was playing HS-level baseball in the summer leagues in my hometown and really living the life of Riley – carefree & few responsibilities. It was a golden time in everybody’s life back then. More so than today, I think. No cellies, no internet – you communicated directly with people – face-to-face. The only thing valuable I had was a ‘69 Ford Falcon. Bench seats, thank you, God.

I was pitching that day and from what I remember we got beat. Close game but we got beat. I was particularly disappointed because I wanted to be the next Tom Seaver. I remember talking to ‘Susie’ throughout that game. She was the batgirl for the team that day. They had those back then. It was good for morale. You’d agree especially if you saw Susie. Not a stunning brunette but cute, brown-eyes and a slim, lithe, feminine body with two wonderously arranged C-cup…well, you know.

Now, Susie wasn’t my girlfriend. In fact, it is probably more accurate to say that Susie was the girlfriend of a couple of guys. Maybe, that’s why I didn’t think much of our conversation. Just talk. Although, she clearly (to someone else, maybe) was angling for a bit more. I can’t say I hadn’t been with Susie before, but we just stayed at third base. But there was no denying that we had “chemistry” as they said back then.

Anyway, after the game I was talking with one of my buddies, Patrick, a solid ball player in his own right. We were musing over the game and walking toward my car and I offered Pat a ride home. He lived a couple of houses down in our neighborhood and his father was the coach. Just as Pat was opening the passanger door, out pops Susie from the floorboard with those dangling, er, participles and all that feminine musk. I was kinda shocked at her but in a good kinda way.
I still offered Pat a ride home but he graciously declined. And then it was all about me and Susie and finding homeplate. Did I say thank you for bench seats?

I tell this story not because it’s unique. I’m certain it’s not. I tell because had this same event occurred to a woman, the police would have been called and a “stalker” charge leveled against Susie’s alter-ego. So-to-speak. Creepiness is in the eye of the beholder and though Susie is long gone from my life, I always smile when I think about her.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
3:27 pm

I hope you get a raise this year, Professor. That 60K has been mentioned too much this year. Fingers crossed (LOL)!

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
3:27 pm

2CPTG, LOL So you showing them how you rolling now? Be honest, you get a kick out of telling some of the ones that were not interested before you came up to “get gone”.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
3:28 pm

Professor, it was becuase she was from Sweeden!!!! lmao!!

I kid I kid!! Do I need to put up a disclaimer… hehehehehehe

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
3:29 pm

Melo, you talking about those mail order brides. LOL

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
3:29 pm

Leggs….LMBO.

Professor

December 4th, 2009
3:31 pm

Thanks Leggs you can uncross those fingers because I received a great raise and I made bonus, so I am good! LOL