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Stop That, It’s Creepy

Somewhere on your dating resume, you may have been given the title: The Creepy One. It begins when, for some strange and inexplicable reason, you start to exhibit weird dating behavior.  It is highly likely that many of us aren’t even aware of it when it’s happening.  I think we are completely oblivious about how we are coming across sometimes.

What do you think should be on the “Stop That, It’s Creepy” list? You know what they say, when we know better, we date better, right!?

Ok, I will start with the creepy behavior I have been guilty of:

Miss Pop-up. When a guy I was seeing hadn’t invited me over I made a surprise visit. I showed up, uninvited and unexpected.  It was just driving me nuts that I hadn’t seen the inside of his place.  Turned out, he simply was renovating. He was nice enough to entertain my foolishness, but I know I gave him the “creepy chick” vibe.

Ladies, stop doing drive-bys or showing up to a guy’s place uninvited. It’s creepy. In fact, if you are too nosy and pushy, you could get dropped.

Miss Cling-on. I was smitten over a guy who was the  take home to Mama- total package type. This was the first guy I lost my cool over. I literally pouted when the poor man tried to get some space.  Being that needy – especially that quickly, made him look at me in a totally new light. What a nightmare I was.

Men like to feel needed, but the clingy, I can’t breathe without you – types are – wait for it.. CREEPY.  Stop acting out your insecurities on your man. It’s creepy.

Ladies, have you ever been disappointed in yourself and how you handled a dating relationship?  What kind of creepy behavior do you think scared men off?

I certainly have been on the receiving end before too:

Mr. One-tracked Mind: It is so weird to talk to a guy who will only talk about one topic. It could be sports, sex, or religion, but it’s the ONLY thing he talks about. If you can’t show a woman that you have more than one dimension, she is going to think you are a prison inmate who has been locked in a cell somewhere for the last decade.  Stop being a one-trick pony. Be well-rounded, otherwise,  ummm it’s creepy.

Mr. Octopus: Listen, I like to be groped as much as the next girl, but not by someone I don’t know or like.  If you attempt to palm my butt like a basketball then you’re definitely getting the creepy label. And possibly a throat chop. Or even a flat tire.

Stop acting like a horny teen who just discovered the female body. It’s creepy.  Unless she is on duty at a gentleman’s club, assume the woman wants to be treated like a lady. I think it is important to read a woman’s body language. You will know when and if she wants you to touch her… if you pay attention.

Guys, have you seen behavior from women that caused you to hit pause? Did it end up being a deal breaker?  Have you ever exhibited creepy behavior towards women? Were you able to recover from it?

Happy Friday!

318 comments Add your comment

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
12:59 pm

Leggs, the first time my marido saw me bathe he said it was creepy. LOL Little circular scrubbing motions.

My brother always smell his food before eating it. I wonder how many women are creeped out by it.

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
1:02 pm

Raqi, I’m freaked out by men with long fingernails. Just seems chesterish to me.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 4th, 2009
1:04 pm

Heey Eliiii!!!

On topic: I’ve only had one creepy thing happen to me and that was a guy stalking my FB page. This guy and I have been friends/liked each other since the 6th grade and have NEVER done the “grown up” and he recently joined FB. Whenever I made a comment he always thought it was about him and if I said I was headed out he always wanted pics or if I was talking to anyone that night(and vice versa)….he openly said that he was needy/clingy and I swiftly cut that off like a gangrenous pinky toe. That coming from a man is a HUGE deal breaker.

As for that other stuff like drive bys and the like, that wreaks of desperation and my pride won’t let me do it.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
1:05 pm

Melo

I am not clicking on that video… with you saying sorry animal rights

Nothing good can come of me cliking that link.. I sense nightmares in my future :lol:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
1:07 pm

I think you’ve started something Slim..

Hmmm.. I’m freaked out be guys that sag their pants… I heard that was a mate call in prison :lol: :lol: :lol

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
1:08 pm

Melo

December 4th, 2009
1:09 pm

Dream_n,no u goood…

no video..just words

Here is another one for sme of u, pining on africa but have always been ignorant and been misinformed about it……

http://www.mg.co.za/article/2009-12-04-a-firebrand-leader-in-the-making

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:10 pm

I think it creepy when a person allows their cat or dog to be on the bed while they are getting on with someone. My brother briefly dated a woman that would not make her dog get off the bed. She slept with the dog on/in her bed all the time.

A few months ago we kept some dogs for a friend of my marido and the dogs slept on their owners’ bed. They were three big dogs. That’s creepy to me.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:13 pm

Slim, I know we can’t help how our parts look when we are born, but I do not like men with girly hands. Just ewww. I like the big hands with the long thick finger and you can see the veins on the back of the hands.

Men with skinny girly hands were a big turn off. And to have long nails just makes it worse.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:17 pm

Another creepy thing is men that always wear sunglasses. Always. Indoors and outdoors. Cloudy or sunny. Just always. It’s like they are hiding something. The eyes are the window to the soul.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
1:18 pm

Even Creepier Raqi!!!,if the women allow the cat/chihuahua to lick her cuttie(slim talk) or the dogg to do the back and forth strokes on the woman’s legg. koyi, koyi, koyi,…eeeeeewwwwwwwwwww in imitation :evil: :shock: :evil:

:lol:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
1:21 pm

@ Melo..

So which is true. Is the ritual painless and not cruel or is it as some have described ie: Pulling the tongue out, tieng his privates, stomping on the bull, trying to break the bull’s neck.

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
1:22 pm

Raqi speaking of body parts, my cousin can’t stand guys with big ole girlie booty’s, especially if it sits up high. LMAO She calls them juicy bootys.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
1:25 pm

You got mail.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
1:26 pm

@SlimOne, my first boyfriend in Jr. H.S. had a butt that sat on his back and I didn’t like him because of it. Bet he’s a rocket scientist right now!

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:27 pm

Slim, yeah I never cared for hippy men myself.

M. (pronounced M dot)

December 4th, 2009
1:28 pm

@WD aka Miss Pop-up

How did this end up working out? Did you just pop up at their house? Did you ever pop up and see something you werent ready for? I dont know how I would handle that…

Also the Mrs. Snoop through it all….I had girls snoop through my phone and stuff while in the shower…watch that guys.

@RF1990

Your story was funny but I can tell you what really happened. This girl was dealing with another guy and when she hooked up with you, that boyfriend guilt set in. That’s why she tried to make you out to have done something wrong as a defense mechanism to lie to herself and make it like she did nothing wrong…think about it…

Professor

December 4th, 2009
1:28 pm

…you got mail! :cool:

There must be more creepy stories in this naked city

I agree…

Question for the blog: As you look back on your younger days…did you ever do anything creepy that you regret? Have you ever followed your friends’ advice and done something creepy that you felt was against your nature? Do you write off some creepy behavior based on age?

Have you ever received a creepy Christmas gift

My creepy gift came from the cook at my first job. Yep the same cook that said I could not get out the walk in freezer without kissing him…well I this fool gave me a gift wrapped up and said do not open it in front of your parents, and please don’t let your daddy see it. That fool bought me a teddy! Why would I need a teddy in the 10th grade? :???:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 4th, 2009
1:28 pm

And to have long nails just makes it worse.

Ant to have lond and dirty nails deserves a beat down. It just gives my inner scientist the heebie jeebies. What I wonder is what woman(and her nether region)they’re touching with those long dirty thangs….eeeewwww.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:31 pm

Leggs, Them big hips will have you hitting a split riding cowgirl. LOL

Melo

December 4th, 2009
1:32 pm

Dream_n??

killing of live animals is painful for them ofcourse,but necessary coz those folks gotta eat….its cultural and practical coz in the country,there are no modern butcher facilities where animals can be killed painlessly(if there is such a thing anyway)

so u either shoot them,kill with a sharp spear,a one hit to the head with a sharp dagger or shoot ‘em with a popo,if u got one…
Over here in Conyers(if u care to know) there is a farm where we buy goat meat. They kill them right there(muslim style) while u wait!

Luv it..meat is fresh and ready to cook soon after!

Got it!!!???..qstion and statement… :lol:

Be back…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 4th, 2009
1:34 pm

Why would I need a teddy in the 10th grade?

That’s why he didn’t want you to open it in front of you parents…especially your daddy. Was he much older than you?

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
1:36 pm

Ok back from a long lunch…lets see what I missed.

OMG…the men with long nails- Raqi definetly with you on that and the dog on the bed that just wrong!

I must have a nail and feet fetish…like Eddie Murphy in Boomarang (classic movie, loved it) when he looked at the womans feet after whoopie. A man with bad creepy looking feet, makes me gag!

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:37 pm

Mdot, I meant to ask her a question. I am glad you brought it back up.

WiseDiva did dude not tell you he was renovating his place? I am all for privacy you know, but being too secretive is also very creepy. Especially if he has been to your place.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
1:38 pm

@ Melo,

No melo.. I don’t think there’s a painless way to kill an animal.(at least I’m not aware of it) I was referring to the torture that was described. It seemed a bit brutal to me.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:40 pm

What I wonder is what woman(and her nether region)they’re touching with those long dirty thangs

Sassy, you and me both. EWWW (shudder)

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
1:43 pm

Yeah the men with big ole booties ug!..I guess it reminds me of a friend of mind.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...:-)

December 4th, 2009
1:46 pm

Off topic: Did Tiger’s wife really whoop his a** with a 7 iron?…and is that the reason he hasn’t been seen in public. Someone who claims to have two “reliable sources” from the Woods household said so and I’d like to know if there’s any credence to it.

Dan,abc,East point where y’all at?…I know one of you guys know b/c you always do,or at least it seems like it…shed some light.

Luvbug

December 4th, 2009
1:47 pm

Knew a lady bootie guy in high school (looked like Beyonce from the back)…Heard from a friend a few years ago that he was in jail…tears

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 4th, 2009
1:50 pm

@Raqi

Thats a good point.

Someone mentioned earlier that if you mention that I am going to eat at xyz restaurant or we will be hanging at sxy bar, that sometimes people like to have an accidental meeting.

That is true because Atlanta’s nightlife is small and there is a good chance you know where everyone will be. I had someone pop up on me before to…its crazy..

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
1:50 pm

Sassy I hope not..

@ Luvbug… I too shed a tear when I read that. :lol:

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:51 pm

Sassy, I think it was a #3. I heard it was his practice club that he uses at home. He probably hiding somewhere all swollen and black and blue.

East Point's Own

December 4th, 2009
1:51 pm

@Sassy only rumors… one report I saw from a supposedly credible source said that the Woods won;t let anyone inside the house including the police because she caused “significant” damage to the house near the main entrance… but I don’t know if that’s true or if he won’t let the police in, because they can then snoop around once you let them inside.
Also the initial reports said his mout was bloody and lip was busted… in a manner which sounds inconsistent with a low speed accident.

I do think she hit him and busted his lip though.

East Point's Own

December 4th, 2009
1:54 pm

@ Sassy… I am pretty much tired of the story at this point… all I gotta say is that he should not be paying her to stay… he could have let her get the divorce and pay her $20Million, now it looks like she can get $200-300Million if she stays for 2 years and does not talk about their situation…. I say Tiger must have some major secrets which will damage his endorsements if he feels that its better to pay her $200-300 million in 2 years instead of paying her $20 Million in a divorce settlement now..

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
1:56 pm

EastPoint there was no airbag deployment and the front windshield was not broken so you are correct. His face did not hit anything in that truck, his face ran into that golf club his wife was swinging.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
1:59 pm

Why get married if you’re going to cheat. Isn’t it better to just stay single.

I know you don’t go in saying I’m going to cheat, but come on! You know yourself.
And he’s prolly cheated before he got married to her.

Marriage can be costly :shock:

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
2:02 pm

EastPoint, I was listening to the radio last evening on the way to a friend’s and the radio host was saying that he had dealings with Tiger Woods off the court and when the cameras were off. He says TW is a very rude and unfriendly man. He treats wait staff with disrespect and he is quite callous. He was saying that innocent little boy look that he has for the camera suddenly disappears when in private.

I don’t think he should lose his endorsements because he is not first high dollar icon to get caught up. But I think if he would just tell the people what they want to know he can get pass it and make things right with his wife and family. The media is not going to leave him alone. Attempting to pay people off to be quiet is like writing a blank check and throwing it in the wind.

Do like David Letterman, tell it yourself then you diffuse it.

East Point's Own

December 4th, 2009
2:03 pm

My bad it seems as if my numbers are off… these reports are all over the place some say she (Tiger’s wife) will now get $55 million, others say $80 million, this morining I saw $200Million… so basically nobody knows what the deal is.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
2:10 pm

An who really cares what the deal is. I will never see a dime of that money, nor does Tiger’s infedility affect me the least bit. He’s a human being, his bank account is just larger than mines, he has a mean swing, and he’s more recognizable than the average joe…

If Elin stays or leaves, my bills are still due. If Tigers endorsements remain or get taken away, that car note still needs to get paid.

Professor~

December 4th, 2009
2:11 pm

Sassy- he was like 25 or 26 I was 16. I felt so dirty!!!!!!

Professor~

December 4th, 2009
2:16 pm

If Elin stays or leaves, my bills are still due. If Tigers endorsements remain or get taken away, that car note still needs to get paid.

So true…now we need to call Tippy-Toes-Tiger to see if he like chocolate ladies and if he is willing to pay these bills!

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
2:18 pm

What was Elin Woods doing outside of the house at 2:30am in the morning? CLUBBING.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
2:19 pm

After this incident I guess Tiger will change his name to Cheetah Woods.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
2:20 pm

Prof..

I read somewhere, that there is another girl too, ans she’s a sistah… She has text msgs between her and her friend about him. *allegedly*

So we just might have a chance to get those bills paid!

Melo

December 4th, 2009
2:21 pm

Sassy- he was like 25 or 26 I was 16. I felt so dirty!!!!!!

Proff,forgive me!!!, i jus came in and tired to read this mess to get thr story st8…

all i saw is finger nails and then ur name…

dude tried to feel u with his long index finger nail??? Gross..now,if i picture that,if anybody deserved to do a speak in tongue message,that wld have been u at that point.

“hooooly,hoooly, asha, kasha, asha,Jesus plz say No…!” u wld be saying! eeeeeweeeeeeehh! :lol:

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
2:23 pm

da hell wit Tiger Woods!!!! ain’t no way in the hell I’mma get married with that much loot! ’specially if you know you’re a man-who re….be real wit ya damnself…..

you got that much money, do you seriously think you gon’ find a chic who loves you, for you? Hell naw!!! So play the game too……”what it’s hittin’ for, lil mama? 2 stacks?……shiiid, got it right here in my pocket!”

Professor~

December 4th, 2009
2:25 pm

No Melo…the cook at the fast food place I worked at when I was 16 gave me a teddy for christmas and he was like do not unwrap your gift in front of your parents especially your daddy.

Well Dream I am putting on my bestest freakum dress and we are going to see what is going on with getting this mortage paid off

Melo

December 4th, 2009
2:26 pm

David Letterman??

HIS FIRST APOLOGY WAS JUST NICE! :lol:

Hilarious!

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
2:28 pm

freakum dress lol

Prof.. The line cook at my highschool wanted to talk to me. He used to always switch to watever side I was in to pay for lunch. He was definatley a cute guy, but talking to a line cook at that school, just seemed kinda odd to me.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
2:31 pm

I’m with you 2C. If I had that kind of money I wouldn’t get married.