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Stop That, It’s Creepy

Somewhere on your dating resume, you may have been given the title: The Creepy One. It begins when, for some strange and inexplicable reason, you start to exhibit weird dating behavior.  It is highly likely that many of us aren’t even aware of it when it’s happening.  I think we are completely oblivious about how we are coming across sometimes.

What do you think should be on the “Stop That, It’s Creepy” list? You know what they say, when we know better, we date better, right!?

Ok, I will start with the creepy behavior I have been guilty of:

Miss Pop-up. When a guy I was seeing hadn’t invited me over I made a surprise visit. I showed up, uninvited and unexpected.  It was just driving me nuts that I hadn’t seen the inside of his place.  Turned out, he simply was renovating. He was nice enough to entertain my foolishness, but I know I gave him the “creepy chick” vibe.

Ladies, stop doing drive-bys or showing up to a guy’s place uninvited. It’s creepy. In fact, if you are too nosy and pushy, you could get dropped.

Miss Cling-on. I was smitten over a guy who was the  take home to Mama- total package type. This was the first guy I lost my cool over. I literally pouted when the poor man tried to get some space.  Being that needy – especially that quickly, made him look at me in a totally new light. What a nightmare I was.

Men like to feel needed, but the clingy, I can’t breathe without you – types are – wait for it.. CREEPY.  Stop acting out your insecurities on your man. It’s creepy.

Ladies, have you ever been disappointed in yourself and how you handled a dating relationship?  What kind of creepy behavior do you think scared men off?

I certainly have been on the receiving end before too:

Mr. One-tracked Mind: It is so weird to talk to a guy who will only talk about one topic. It could be sports, sex, or religion, but it’s the ONLY thing he talks about. If you can’t show a woman that you have more than one dimension, she is going to think you are a prison inmate who has been locked in a cell somewhere for the last decade.  Stop being a one-trick pony. Be well-rounded, otherwise,  ummm it’s creepy.

Mr. Octopus: Listen, I like to be groped as much as the next girl, but not by someone I don’t know or like.  If you attempt to palm my butt like a basketball then you’re definitely getting the creepy label. And possibly a throat chop. Or even a flat tire.

Stop acting like a horny teen who just discovered the female body. It’s creepy.  Unless she is on duty at a gentleman’s club, assume the woman wants to be treated like a lady. I think it is important to read a woman’s body language. You will know when and if she wants you to touch her… if you pay attention.

Guys, have you seen behavior from women that caused you to hit pause? Did it end up being a deal breaker?  Have you ever exhibited creepy behavior towards women? Were you able to recover from it?

Happy Friday!

318 comments Add your comment

QC

December 4th, 2009
11:05 am

MORNING ALL – HAPPY HOLIDAYS :)

Sitting Pretty

December 4th, 2009
11:06 am

Y’all are hilarious! :-)

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
11:06 am

Luvbug

December 4th, 2009
11:06 am

The guy that lived under me would creep me out whenever I put my key in my front door he was outside his

I’ve had that one from a neighbor…and stalking from a different guy…these stories are too common…creepy!!

Elijah ....

December 4th, 2009
11:06 am

Good Morning folks!

It is getting too cold for me out here, I think its time to move to Texas!
On Topic: I can’t recall any really crazy stuff, I did have one GF come up to the office on a Saturday unannounced because I used to work a lot of overtime. She wanted to see if I was talking to other ladies on the phone.

Hello Ms. Sassy!
Hello Ms. Professor!

Professor

December 4th, 2009
11:06 am

Dream/Melo, you two are not going to get me going. I am enjoying reading the other stories. Hey I participate everyday and today is my day off! LOL.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
11:07 am

oopss..

WiseD

I too have to keep my laughs muffled.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
11:07 am

Hey Diva!!!!!! Glad to be able to contribute;

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
11:08 am

@Professor ~ how can this be your day off if your handing out awards??

Melo

December 4th, 2009
11:09 am

Congrats Swiss on the closing!!

will miss u tday bro..how can we have creepy day and u not there to give us Swiss versions..next time!

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
11:09 am

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
11:09 am

DW – “AAAA wit a big azz phi!!!!” what up frat!

Spring ‘92 – Mu Pi Chapter

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
11:13 am

Oh yeah!!

Congrats on the closing Swiss!!!!</strong

Wise Diva

December 4th, 2009
11:14 am

Slim One, I didn’t get a chance to comment yesterday but it is SO good to see you on here. I miss your jokes and stories :)

Wise Diva

December 4th, 2009
11:15 am

ohh what about creepy dirty talk? Sometimes fellas, ya talk too much

Sitting Pretty

December 4th, 2009
11:15 am

Creepy Man: MR. I KNOW THE FUTURE

This is the one that as soon as they meet you start reciting that “You’re going to be my wife” speech. It’s usually a turn off to me. I try to give some folks the benefit of the doubt, but I’ve learned that usually nothing good comes of it.
One guy I gave a chance turned out to get increasingly worse with trying to predict “our” future. We went out and he was telling random passer byers that “we” were in love. SMDH…WTH
I had to politely ask him to stop and that he doesn’t even know me to predict any of that stuff. It just got weirder and I had to flee the foolishness.
Moral of the story: No matter how much you believe you have ESP, or you believe in fate/kismet, or you think God is sending you a sign, or your horoscope that day told you you’d find your soul mate…..DO NOT INSIST TO THE INDIVIDUAL THAT YOU’RE GOING TO BE THEIR HUSBAND/WIFE!

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
11:16 am

Here’s a story of one of my gfs who did drivebys to her then boyfriend in Adamsville. I would not accompany her because I never believed in drivebys. Well, after one in particular she calls me the next morning to tell me he must have crept back to her place in the middle of night because she found her bra strapped from one windsheild wiper to the other. I was laughing so hard I was crying…Yes, she took a pic and we pull it out and laugh some more! Man o man, her neighbors got an eyeful that morning. That’s another thing I’ve never done. Leave articles of clothing at a guys house (even though my bra could never stretch that far). I think I call her up right now and reminiscence.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
11:18 am

@ Leggs

We decided at the last minute to cancel the production.. I heard folks were getting a lil sensitive. Our network did not want to acquire any lawsuits.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

We haven’t built that much revenue yet, it would’ve broke us!!!

*******DISCLAIMER***********
Just kidding… sorry I forgot to add that :mrgreen:

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
11:19 am

I know WD…especially right off the bat..the dirty talk on the first is creepy!

Luvbug

December 4th, 2009
11:19 am

Yes, stop leaving clothes at my house “by mistake”…hate that!

Wise Diva

December 4th, 2009
11:20 am

@ RF1990 – wow, that was real shady of him, goodness, talk about the poster boy for cockblocking LOL

Professor

December 4th, 2009
11:20 am

Dream/Melo

My very first creepy experience occurred in the second grade. I was new to the school and the teacher thought it would be a good idea for me to pass out the coats and backpacks so I could learn the other students. Well this little snotty nose fat boy that sat in the back of the class weaseled his way in the closet and when I went back to pull out more coats he was standing in the closet rolling his hips gyrating saying “you gon be my girlfriend and we gon have a million babies.” I slammed the closet door in his face and blocked the door so he could not get out. The funny thing is I always felt sorry for him because everyone treated him bad and I was always nice to him, and would never make fun of him or anything. So I guess he took that and ran with it not realizing that I felt sorry for him.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
11:21 am

Haaaaaa, you didn’t need to add the disclaimer!

Tazzee - it's cold out there!

December 4th, 2009
11:25 am

No time to catch up, but I just watched that youtube and I.AM.IN.TEARS!!!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Now I have to clear my eyes for my meeting.

Hey 2CPTG and PIR!!!

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
11:27 am

Okay.. I howled when I saw 2nd grade.. lmao!!!!

Okay that little perv was wrong on so many levels…

Melo

December 4th, 2009
11:27 am

talk about the poster boy for cockblocking LOL

cockblocking ha?? WD!

Melo

December 4th, 2009
11:30 am

Boy Proff!! :lol:

these thangs start really early, I guess!

:evil:

For Real

December 4th, 2009
11:30 am

That 2nd grade perv is not Craig Mack.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
11:33 am

Yeah the dirty talk that is not only too soon but waaay out there is rather creepy.

Professor

December 4th, 2009
11:34 am

Yeah, Leggs, Dream is correct we didn’t want folks sitting in the corner because they received an award on information they gave to the public. Also when we checked the budget we only had 60K so we did not want to use all of our cash like Dream said

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
11:34 am

WISE Glad to be able to check in a little more often. For a while I was beginning to feel like the black sheep up in this camp. Well, i’m back and I want my big piece of chicken! :-D

Re:ohh what about creepy dirty talk?

OMG!!! YES YES YES…why dudes gotta ask you what their name is during the act??? I always say something slick if i get asked that.

(bed, chandelier, couch and back patio squeaking..)

Dude: oh yeah, you like that huh?

Slim: ooohh yep

Dude: dang girl! I see you throwin it back…wh…what…what’s my name?

Slim: (thinking no he didn’t just ask me that lame sh!t)

Dude: baby girl I said what’s my name?

Slim: You talkin to me? (said while rolling eyes)

Dude: what you mean..(ah ah..pump pump stroke) yeah i’m talkin to you.

Slim: oohhhh mmmmmm…Oh yeah um..what you ask me again?

Dude: WHAT’S…MY…NAME?!

Slim: Ummmm???? dayuum, what IS your name again? Are you Bob? wait wait, no no don’t tell me…you’re Larry right? Wait…no, you can’t be Larry cuz he curves to the left. Dayum baby, whats your name again?

East Point's Own

December 4th, 2009
11:36 am

Don’t show my photo to all of your friends so that they can tell you if they spot me in the streets…

http://hispointofview.com/2009/12/women-depreciate-and-men-appreciate/

Professor

December 4th, 2009
11:37 am

Proff/Dream,

I never said anything to him again neither. I did not jump on the bandwagon and make fun of him I simply did not see him. Years later when we were in the 8th grade or so he asked me why I was so mean and never said anything when he tried to talk or be nice to me. I told him remember that time you hid in the close….

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
11:47 am

:lol @ Slim…

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
11:48 am

Creepy is that intended sexy stare or grin that looks more creepy than sexy.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
11:51 am

I dated this chic when we were both in boarding school at diff locations,back then in high school..

we wrote each other letters during school days and i visited her a cpple of times during the holidays,….we lived in same city.
After high school,we kinda driftd apart as i went to college but we re-connected when we both were wrking and we wld bump into each other in the city,at events,clubs etc…

we kinda decided to rekindle the relationship coz i still had feelings,her body was now way more grown..a lady u can stay and all that….

One saturday she decides I shld visit her abode in the suburbs…

I get there and i see a slew of other chics there..apparently they shared a room or 2…
a homie of mine is also there,hes my best friends’ brother,married but hes a big time philanderER and he hits one of the gerls on the regular,i establish this later…… :evil:
They clear the room and leave it for me and my bird to nik nak…

AS we start to get at it,taking off the clothes and what not..the other ladies have gon outside,in some sort of courtyard,same level and they are transfixed on whats happening in the room,literally gawking……

see,the blinders were razor thin so they were waaaaay worse than see thrus….we were in the open…..
so my whole plays and trick attemmpts are within their sight…

what i didnt know was that old girl was now ,A Big Part Time Hooker(she had a regular gig),she rolled with the big boys with flaw and she broght me in just as courtesy,since we had known each other from back in the day…….

I did not go for 3rd nor 4th base coz as soon as I realized that we were really in the open(melo was really a junior at these things then!!)…melo jnr went stone Cold and i was outa there!

The hookers were laughing their azz off in the meantime,really having a good time…..at my expense!!!!! :evil: :shock: :roll:

Elijah ....

December 4th, 2009
11:57 am

That is our sexy stare Ms. Raqi! :smile:

This reminds me when I had recently called off the relationship with this sista I decided to go visit a female friend of mind who lived in another state. I get a call from my ex and she is crying saying where are you I went over to your house and I did not see your car and I looked thru the windows and did not see anyone in the house.

I let her off easy and told her I am visiting a friend and we’ll talk later about how we are no longer in a relationship!

@Slim…. You are one funny sista! :lol:

Professor

December 4th, 2009
11:59 am

List of creepy encounters:

1. Dude feeling/pulling/scratching on his candy cane like he need some blue star oniment . Why do they do that are they wearing the wrong draws

2. After buying one watered down glass of kool-aid dude think he is your new man and will not leave

3. After I say I am married or have a man dude keeps on asking why are all the good ones taken…still saying stuff trying to get in as if I really want him.

4. seeing a dude on the prowl and he is not together yet he will still try to mack with matter in his eyes and crusty lips

5. Dude telling me what all he did for his ex…I had a guy tell me recently that he bought his ex GF kids a bunch of stuff for Christmas because the kids were in the house with him and did not buy for his own children. He was trying to tell me what a provider he was. Well he was crazy to do all of that and she did not want you.

A guy that wants to move too fast. Hop jump into a relationship get married and tell me the role his wife must play. Shhhhhhit as if I am looking to play Hazel.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
12:09 pm

Okay Prof.. I can dig..
I can list creepy encounters…

#1)
While i was in a dept store walking around with my ex (but current at the time).. This guy was glancing at me, but looking at things I’m sure he had no intention of buying, As soon as the ex went into that da!n electronic aisle, The lil one and I darted to the toys… Here he comes slithering over. Talking about “he” (as in my ex”) can’t handle you. What you doing with him.. I can make you feel things you never felt before.. okay 1st off it’s inapropriate to talk to a woman like that you don’t know, but it’s more inappropriate to talk like that while a child is around.. I mumbled “Boy if you don’t get ur azz away from me”…

Men can be so overbearing at times. Compliments are nice, but ignorance is unhealthy I tell ya!

Professor

December 4th, 2009
12:12 pm

Dream,

LOL now that is real creepy I hate when guys do stuff like that, and doing it in front of lil dream was totally out of line!

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
12:25 pm

I think the creepiest things come from old arse men! One old man in the gas station said, “Hmph lil lady, I’m sure you already got a man, but just know I’ll work Two jobs for a lil taste of your sweetness!” ewwwww

Professor

December 4th, 2009
12:29 pm

Slim please add the dirty old men to the list. One told me he was old enough for my momma and young enough for me I was 17 at the time he was about 50…I hit him with my grocery cart

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
12:31 pm

@Dream_n, you are truly crazier than I thought. You need to share that description!

@SlimOne, you’re simply a funny, crazy gal!

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
12:44 pm

Noooo Leggs!!! lmao… :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
I was dying while typing the description. I was hoping you found the humor in it too!!!! But hey.. I can not tell a lie. That is exactly how I pictured ya. :lol:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
12:45 pm

okay I am officially cracking up my desk again!!! (Leggs, I just went back and re-read it)

Elijah ....

December 4th, 2009
12:46 pm

Everyone have a great weekend! ladies be very careful out there!
It’s time to get back to work! :smile: :smile: :smile:

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
12:54 pm

Never been described like that. Now, that was creepy. Very thankful it’s no where near the truth. :cool:

There must be more creepy stories in this naked city….

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
12:56 pm

I asked two coworkers what are the creepiest things a guy has done that turned them off. One said her ex used to talk in his sleep in a weird voice. It was not his regular speaking voice.

The other said a guy that told her she was going to be his wife on the first date and wanted to introduce her to his parents the very same day.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 4th, 2009
12:57 pm

Happy Friday Eli!!

On topic: Luckily I haven’t had a whole lot of creepy things happen to me…actually I’ve only had one and that was recently on FB. A guy that I’ve been friend with since the 6th grade was stalking my page and when ever I made a comment he always thought I was talking about HIM. Now even though we liked each other we’ve NEVER done the “grown up” and but dude is hell-a-clingy/needy and plainly said so. THAT</strong coming from a man is a for sure 'nough deal breaker so I cut him off like a gangrenous pinky toe.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
12:58 pm

http://www.mg.co.za/article/2009-12-04-mkhize-bullkilling-ruling-promotes-cultural-tolerance

there is one “creepy” one 4 u Dream_n,but not me….I wld be in my very high Element!

sorry animal rights!! :lol: