Somewhere on your dating resume, you may have been given the title: The Creepy One. It begins when, for some strange and inexplicable reason, you start to exhibit weird dating behavior. It is highly likely that many of us aren’t even aware of it when it’s happening. I think we are completely oblivious about how we are coming across sometimes.
What do you think should be on the “Stop That, It’s Creepy” list? You know what they say, when we know better, we date better, right!?
Ok, I will start with the creepy behavior I have been guilty of:
Miss Pop-up. When a guy I was seeing hadn’t invited me over I made a surprise visit. I showed up, uninvited and unexpected. It was just driving me nuts that I hadn’t seen the inside of his place. Turned out, he simply was renovating. He was nice enough to entertain my foolishness, but I know I gave him the “creepy chick” vibe.
Ladies, stop doing drive-bys or showing up to a guy’s place uninvited. It’s creepy. In fact, if you are too nosy and pushy, you could get dropped.
Miss Cling-on. I was smitten over a guy who was the take home to Mama- total package type. This was the first guy I lost my cool over. I literally pouted when the poor man tried to get some space. Being that needy – especially that quickly, made him look at me in a totally new light. What a nightmare I was.
Men like to feel needed, but the clingy, I can’t breathe without you – types are – wait for it.. CREEPY. Stop acting out your insecurities on your man. It’s creepy.
Ladies, have you ever been disappointed in yourself and how you handled a dating relationship? What kind of creepy behavior do you think scared men off?
I certainly have been on the receiving end before too:
Mr. One-tracked Mind: It is so weird to talk to a guy who will only talk about one topic. It could be sports, sex, or religion, but it’s the ONLY thing he talks about. If you can’t show a woman that you have more than one dimension, she is going to think you are a prison inmate who has been locked in a cell somewhere for the last decade. Stop being a one-trick pony. Be well-rounded, otherwise, ummm it’s creepy.
Mr. Octopus: Listen, I like to be groped as much as the next girl, but not by someone I don’t know or like. If you attempt to palm my butt like a basketball then you’re definitely getting the creepy label. And possibly a throat chop. Or even a flat tire.
Stop acting like a horny teen who just discovered the female body. It’s creepy. Unless she is on duty at a gentleman’s club, assume the woman wants to be treated like a lady. I think it is important to read a woman’s body language. You will know when and if she wants you to touch her… if you pay attention.
Guys, have you seen behavior from women that caused you to hit pause? Did it end up being a deal breaker? Have you ever exhibited creepy behavior towards women? Were you able to recover from it?