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Stop That, It’s Creepy

Somewhere on your dating resume, you may have been given the title: The Creepy One. It begins when, for some strange and inexplicable reason, you start to exhibit weird dating behavior.  It is highly likely that many of us aren’t even aware of it when it’s happening.  I think we are completely oblivious about how we are coming across sometimes.

What do you think should be on the “Stop That, It’s Creepy” list? You know what they say, when we know better, we date better, right!?

Ok, I will start with the creepy behavior I have been guilty of:

Miss Pop-up. When a guy I was seeing hadn’t invited me over I made a surprise visit. I showed up, uninvited and unexpected.  It was just driving me nuts that I hadn’t seen the inside of his place.  Turned out, he simply was renovating. He was nice enough to entertain my foolishness, but I know I gave him the “creepy chick” vibe.

Ladies, stop doing drive-bys or showing up to a guy’s place uninvited. It’s creepy. In fact, if you are too nosy and pushy, you could get dropped.

Miss Cling-on. I was smitten over a guy who was the  take home to Mama- total package type. This was the first guy I lost my cool over. I literally pouted when the poor man tried to get some space.  Being that needy – especially that quickly, made him look at me in a totally new light. What a nightmare I was.

Men like to feel needed, but the clingy, I can’t breathe without you – types are – wait for it.. CREEPY.  Stop acting out your insecurities on your man. It’s creepy.

Ladies, have you ever been disappointed in yourself and how you handled a dating relationship?  What kind of creepy behavior do you think scared men off?

I certainly have been on the receiving end before too:

Mr. One-tracked Mind: It is so weird to talk to a guy who will only talk about one topic. It could be sports, sex, or religion, but it’s the ONLY thing he talks about. If you can’t show a woman that you have more than one dimension, she is going to think you are a prison inmate who has been locked in a cell somewhere for the last decade.  Stop being a one-trick pony. Be well-rounded, otherwise,  ummm it’s creepy.

Mr. Octopus: Listen, I like to be groped as much as the next girl, but not by someone I don’t know or like.  If you attempt to palm my butt like a basketball then you’re definitely getting the creepy label. And possibly a throat chop. Or even a flat tire.

Stop acting like a horny teen who just discovered the female body. It’s creepy.  Unless she is on duty at a gentleman’s club, assume the woman wants to be treated like a lady. I think it is important to read a woman’s body language. You will know when and if she wants you to touch her… if you pay attention.

Guys, have you seen behavior from women that caused you to hit pause? Did it end up being a deal breaker?  Have you ever exhibited creepy behavior towards women? Were you able to recover from it?

Happy Friday!

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Luvbug

December 4th, 2009
10:14 am

The funny part was he still had his church socks on

Giggling

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
10:15 am

Jerome-lol that some serious OCD. They must not have been taking their meds.

My other creepy/perverted experience…I finaly gave in and went out on a date with an older man that persued for like over a year. The dinner started out good, convo was flowing. Then he turned into Mr. Perverted Man…He wanted to talk about $ex. I was like okay lets no go there. He wanted me to go back to his job with. He started trippin. Finanly we ended the date. He was walking me to my car, I get in my car, he then gets on my passenger side and started begging me to come back to his job and he just whips out his junk! I was so scared I didn’t know what to do, so I started crying. And he aplogized and got out the car. He called me like 15 minutes later to see if I was ok, and asked me what was I going to do, and keep asking if I was ok. Creepppy Perv!

D'Andre

December 4th, 2009
10:17 am

In my younger days, I dated a number of “church girls”. I was also a member of the same church so we had some things in common. Mostly, the dating was first base, second base stuff although some of these girls, I later learned (but not first-hand) could suck the chrome off a trailer-hitch.

When I finaly married one of these church girls, it was someone whom I’d been, uh, how to say this politely, around the bases many times. It’s all good, though, we knew we were right for each other and the relationship has lasted 27 years. Three children and 27 years later, it’s still good stuff.

One of these “church girls” I dated, would only let me kiss her sans tongue. I was alright with it at first ’cause most of these girls were dynamite kissers. But a few weeks later I learned this girl had been playing ‘hide the pole’ with one of my high school buddies prior to dating me. She’d been around the block even if it was her first time but was tryin’ to come across as too chaste. It was too disconcerting for me to handle her psycho-baggage from her previous relationship and I had too many other options, so I jettisoned her from my short list. I later learned she had SERIOUS feelings for me but was ashamed of her conduct and was overcompensating with me.

NOW, that would be somewhat trajic of high school/church romance but typical IF it stopped there. But it didn’t. This church girl had been SO embarassed by my dropping her and, apparently, guilt-ridden over her being nailed by one of my friends that she began to circulate a rumor that I was “gay” for not having tried to do more with her. “Gay”, twenty-five years AFTER breaking up with her for having the temerity to close out her account and not marrying HER (instead of my wife).

CREEPY is a word that’s probably not as appropriate as vindictive but such things happen when you date “church girls” – most of whom are otherwise pretty decent people.

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
10:19 am

Melo- heat seeking missle…thats just awkward!!!lol

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
10:21 am

also creeps me out when women wanna come in the bathroom while I’m takin’ a dump…..and start with the questions….”how does this look?” “do you think this matches?” ….dammit, let me shyt in peace…..

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
10:22 am

@Dream_n ~ did you get enough sleep? Looks like lil dream_n had a great time.

“…she said none about no smell…” That’s usually the case, Melo. You may not have smelled it, but pretty sure she did. That’s the same as people who think their shyt don’t stink when using the crapper! Too funny!

Reading some of your creepy stories are making me laugh. The OCD guy, the speaking in tongues, the one creeping out after a 30 min connection, the surprise dinner. Too bad she was so focused on the dinner and acquiring some brownie points that she didn’t see your exhaustion.

For Real

December 4th, 2009
10:22 am

“he just whips out his junk! I was so scared I didn’t know what to do” – So women really don’t like that huh. I mean did he whip fast or slow? I like to whip it out slow and place it beside her pinky toe but that just me. Don’t judge me….

Luvbug

December 4th, 2009
10:22 am

Okay, I take mine back…this other stuff is pretty creepy…funnny…but creepy.

SexyCool - Weekend Wonder

December 4th, 2009
10:24 am

Three Words Daily – Strive for excellence.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
10:24 am

“has a closet full of tin-foil hats by now.” FUNNY!

Melo

December 4th, 2009
10:26 am

and he just whips out his junk!

:shock: :evil:

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
10:27 am

@WW ~ you actually made me LOL. Whipping out his junk and you start crying.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
10:28 am

“could suck the chrome off a trailer-hitch.” Your spin on words is cracking me up….keep it coming!

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
10:29 am

ForReal- Your kinda of sick!

That was not cool what he did, he was older I thought he would have some class, be the getlemen. I’m cranking up my car, telling him to get out my car, I look over and it was just there, the OneEye thang just starin at me!!!

I can laugh now, but in the moment…creepster!

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 4th, 2009
10:29 am

@D’Andre

Interesting story. Honestly, the Church is one pond I prefer not to fish in. Honestly, some of the most flakiest females that I have dealt with have come from here. So overall, I wont really try to talk to a girl in my Church. Plus I volunteer and dont want to have to deal with a girl from my own Church.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
10:30 am

D’Andre??

first base and second base is what…..???

sexx??

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
10:30 am

“whip it out slow and place it beside her pinky toe” I’m under my desk now! My cheeks hurt!

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

December 4th, 2009
10:30 am

@Raqi

I kinda feel where Jerome is coming from. I’m not too much into “surprises” when I have a lot going on either. I think the ride was cool, but I can understand how planning his time was irritating.

If my lady is planning something for me, I’d much rather she tell me “I’m planning XYZ. Are you down for that?” That way, I can plan accordingly. Otherwise, if she springs something on me, I’ll be completely unprepared and will be thinking about the other stuff that the “surprise” is cutting into.

Also, knowing ahead of time gives me something to look forward to. Such was the case the Wednesday before Thanksgiving. Work was getting on my nerves, but knowing I had some QT planned with my lady friend that evening made things not so bad.

For Real

December 4th, 2009
10:31 am

KINDA, KINDA????? I asked you not to judge me. What if I told you I got some candy in my pocket would you still I’m sick? It’s church peppermint!

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
10:32 am

Leggs- I seriously didn’t know what else to do to that crazy man out my car. He was like begging me, feeling on himself like he was on in porn flick!

Since then, I have invested in a tazzer!

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
10:33 am

ForReal- I have a gum problems so I don’t eat candy…And my momma told me not to take candy from strangers.

Professor

December 4th, 2009
10:34 am

Hola People!

These stories are funny so I am going to sit here and read for a while.

Melo…now that heat seeking missle sounds fatal.

Dream…hopefully these stories will keep you awake at work!

Melo

December 4th, 2009
10:34 am

Whipping out his junk and you start crying

@Leggs.. :lol:
she is an emotional chic..a good luver tho i think..such typoes are! :lol:

ooohhh,”ur dyck is so good babeeeeeeeey!!”,, Wonderwoman crying! :lol:

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
10:35 am

LMAO..

peep showing of the one eyed monster= crying

whipping it out slow “vs” fast

suck the chrome off a trailer-hitch

I’m done for today!

D'Andre

December 4th, 2009
10:35 am

First base = kissing
Second base = boobs
Third base = “stimulus” below the belt (to orgasm)
Home run = normal intercourse, or possibly oral.

Yep!

December 4th, 2009
10:37 am

I had a guy I only went on 1 date with semi-stalk me. He was Mr. Octopus on the date and I didn’t want to deal with that, so I never called him again.

One day about a month later, he came up behind me in line at Wal-Mart and said he was watching me since I came in the store. I was in Wal-Mart for about 30 minutes. He had one item – a pack of Oreo’s. The fool asked me to buy them with the rest of my stuff. Said it was the least I could do since I’ve been ignoring him for a month. I told him what he could do with the Oreo’s. Then he proceeded to walk out after me and told me he was stalking me for a while now – said he couldn’t stalk me at my house because he didn’t know and couldn’t find out where I live. So, he decided to just go to places he thought I may show up at – Wal-Mart, gas stations, kroger, etc. I told him he needed help and he just laughed and said he’d see me soon. That was creepy!

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
10:38 am

@ Leggs..

I had so many pics to go through. I was trying not to bombard you and Prof with so many. lol

@ Prof: These stories are definately keeping me awake…. Where’s your story??? :mrgreen:

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
10:38 am

Melo- FO SHO!!!!!!!!!!:)

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
10:39 am

2CPTG I never understood why anyone would want to inhale the aroma or be within 20ft. of someone taking a dump.

One day quite recent my king on his throne and he called me all the way into bathroom to ask me to call his brother and ask him a question. For like 30 seconds I stood there relaying a conversation thru a slightly opened door. Not really liking the situation I handed him the phone and told him to talk to him himself. You know what he said, “tell him I’ll call him back”. Evidently It was okay (to him) having me stand there at the door as the middle man but he knew it was not okay to have a direct conversation while on the throne.

The stuff we sign up for when we say “I do”. LOL

Professor

December 4th, 2009
10:40 am

Dream, these stories are funny. Which story do you want to hear? I have several. You know I used to be a heartbreaker, so I had a few sobbing and stalking back in the day.

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
10:45 am

What about the guy that just flat out asked if I could please give him some ‘head’ as if he was just asking for me to pass the salt. WTF!!!!!!!!

Professor

December 4th, 2009
10:46 am

Tazzee Now dude speaking in tongues is funny! I probably would have kept him around just for the laughs!

You know in Al Green’s autobiography he mentioned when he was running from God he would try to talk to a woman and he would start preaching and speaking in tongues and had no control over the matter. He said once he answered God’s call he was able to control it

SexyCool - Weekend Wonder

December 4th, 2009
10:47 am

I have similiar creepy experiences to some of yours, but for me to come up with actual examples would require some thought. I am totally incapable of thinking at the moment.

PIR – Toucan – Good to read you. Hope all is well.
Hey, Tazzie Mae!!!

RF1990

December 4th, 2009
10:48 am

Once took a co-worker out for her birthday. We shared numerous lunches, but I had wanted go out with her for some time and decided to make it an obviously romantic dinner so she would know I was interested in being more than “just friends.” We had a great time, NO alcohol, went back to her place and went way past being “just friends.” I thought I had done the impossible by actually converting a platonic friend into a lover. The next day at work, I stopped by her office just to say Hello and she launches into a tirade that if I ever came near her again she would file sexual harassment charges against me and have me fired. Needless to say, I stayed WAAAAYYYY away from her after that…to this day, still have no idea what happened?

I’m sure I got the creepy badge one time…went out with an incredibly beautiful & intelligent girl and had a great time. I mean we got along great! A friend who knew her pretty well told me she really liked dirty jokes. I told a few and she kind of laughed at them but then completely blew me off (not in the good way). After months of wondering what happened, I found out she was actually very conservative and my “friend” actually liked her himself and and set me up. I can only imagine what she thought about me.

i'm swiss

December 4th, 2009
10:50 am

Wow…. good stories on here today…

Don’t really have any stories to match what’s already been thrown out there — just the occasional, run of the mill, over-clingy type. Oh, that and then there was my ex admitting to me after the fact that she had staked out my house from her car (after she had left me, mind you) when she knew that I had another chic over…

Unfortunately, I can’t stick around long today — seems like it’s going to be a freakier-than-usual freaky Friday. But, Mrs. Swiss & I are closing on our new house today (finally)! :-D

Be good, folks — don’t blog anything I wouldn’t (which should leave you plenty of leeway…) :-)

Bryan

December 4th, 2009
10:51 am

# 1 creepy thing- Don’t touch my brown eye! EVER!
#2- commenting on every FB post.
#3- Talking about marriage anytime before 6 months.
#4- Not liking a girl you have never met just bc she is my friend.
#5- Excessive(fake) noise in bedroom. And no grunting noise either.
#6- Staring at me. I mean really watch the tv/road/dog I don’t care just don’t watch me.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
10:52 am

Stalking??? lol

What did you do to them Prof?

@ Slim What about the guy that just flat out asked if I could please give him some ‘head’ as if he was just asking for me to pass the salt.

I am dying right now!!

Melo

December 4th, 2009
10:53 am

Proff..i wanna hear them..no holds barred!

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
10:54 am

@Dream_n ~ Thanks for sharing. Feel free to send more.

While in college I had my own apartment. The guy that lived under me would creep me out whenever I put my key in my front door he was outside his. And if by chance he didn’t appear then, as soon as I walked acrossed the living room he would be ringing my bell. I had to threaten him with the police. It was becoming unbearable.

I’ve never been stalked. Wait, I dated this guy when I first arrived here that worked in Pre-trail Detention. He was much older and self-assured. I liked that. Time went by and what was once smooth turned pretty choppy very quickly. He would show up at my job to make sure I was there. He would pop up at my apartment uninvited and he called me all the time. Wow, can’t believe I forgot about this nut. Anyway, Mama came to visit me and she left a few joints on my dresser. He showed up and I tried to hide them but he saw them and went balistic. Told him they weren’t mine but he wasn’t hearing anything I had to say. He wanted me to take a drug test, and if I failed he would report me. Hell, report me to who?? Lo and behold my mother and I escorted him out of the apartment, and he howled and cried under the moon under my window for a few hours before finally leaving. Wow, I’ve forgotten about all of that.

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
10:55 am

Raqi, when you say “I do”, all’s fair after that……takin’ a shyt with the door open, fartin under the covers, going to the bathroom behind your mate, and seein that everything didn’t quite flush, or, buyin’ personal hygiene products for the other party, all that……but let me be just dating, and a chic tells me to “bring me some toilet paper outta the other bathroom,” …..shyttin’ me!

East Point's Own

December 4th, 2009
10:55 am

@Raqi I can’t think of any real reason to have an unlisted number these days…if you don’t want someone to know your number then you have no business calling them.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
10:57 am

RF1990???

did the friendship continue ‘tween u and that guy who set u up badly??

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
11:00 am

I had a Walmart stalker once too before. He told me I might as well go ahead and talk to him because he wasn’t going to leave me alone until I did. Every aisle I went down, he’d be down on the other end waving n ish….so I thought I finally lost him by going to other side….i’m chillin looking at birthday cards and Wah-lah, guess who I see…HIS CRAZY ARSE! I was scared to walk out to parking lot after that.

Sitting Pretty

December 4th, 2009
11:00 am

I had to come out of Lurkerville for this! You all have made my Friday! Too Funny!

I have encountered some creepy stuff in dating. I think the thing that creeps me out the most is MR. I KNOW THE FUTURE.
This is the one you meet and the first thing out of his mouth is “You’re going to be my wife.” That’s usually a turn off to me but sometimes I try to give the benefit of the doubt(sliding scale for physical attractiveness and all the other shallow stuff you base initial decisions on). I went out with one guy that let those ridiculous words come out of his mouth on our first meeting and regretted it. We went out a couple of times and then he proceeded to tell everyone in arms reach that he was in love with me. People just smiled and congratulated us, some even commented how sweeeeet he was. Do you think they’d say the same thing if they knew we just recently met?!?
I don’t care if you have ESP, believe in fate, kismet, have been praying for a sign, or all the stars align on the day we met….it’s still creepy to start plotting out “our” future when we just met!

Wise Diva

December 4th, 2009
11:01 am

Good Morning beautiful people! I had to close my office door, I am laughing way too loud at these comments. Woo! Hilarious!!

Musing, no, that basketball analogy was not a reflection on my lady parts, LOL

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 4th, 2009
11:01 am

@Leggs

LOL your 10:54 am post reminded me of something I saw this week.

“He would show up at my job to make sure I was there”

I was at work this week in the hallway taking a phone call and my friend who works here is dating this guy and we were talking about how he smothers her and its like they are married. She was in a meeting and he was looking in the conference room to make sure she was actually in the meeting! Wierd…

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
11:01 am

Hey Sexy…..always a pleasure to read you too! I was hoping PIR would hang around…..too cold out, so I’m stayin indoors today…..cain’t make no money-at least haven’t made any today; so I’m chillin……waitin’ on Angie to send me a “stimulus” check…

Wise Diva

December 4th, 2009
11:03 am

OMG! PIR and 2CPTG in one day? I am officially having the best blog week ever. *waving*

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
11:04 am

Bryan- for #5..no noise in the bedroom..you must not be talking bout during $ex..that would be just too quite.

dw

December 4th, 2009
11:04 am

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