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Stop That, It’s Creepy

Somewhere on your dating resume, you may have been given the title: The Creepy One. It begins when, for some strange and inexplicable reason, you start to exhibit weird dating behavior.  It is highly likely that many of us aren’t even aware of it when it’s happening.  I think we are completely oblivious about how we are coming across sometimes.

What do you think should be on the “Stop That, It’s Creepy” list? You know what they say, when we know better, we date better, right!?

Ok, I will start with the creepy behavior I have been guilty of:

Miss Pop-up. When a guy I was seeing hadn’t invited me over I made a surprise visit. I showed up, uninvited and unexpected.  It was just driving me nuts that I hadn’t seen the inside of his place.  Turned out, he simply was renovating. He was nice enough to entertain my foolishness, but I know I gave him the “creepy chick” vibe.

Ladies, stop doing drive-bys or showing up to a guy’s place uninvited. It’s creepy. In fact, if you are too nosy and pushy, you could get dropped.

Miss Cling-on. I was smitten over a guy who was the  take home to Mama- total package type. This was the first guy I lost my cool over. I literally pouted when the poor man tried to get some space.  Being that needy – especially that quickly, made him look at me in a totally new light. What a nightmare I was.

Men like to feel needed, but the clingy, I can’t breathe without you – types are – wait for it.. CREEPY.  Stop acting out your insecurities on your man. It’s creepy.

Ladies, have you ever been disappointed in yourself and how you handled a dating relationship?  What kind of creepy behavior do you think scared men off?

I certainly have been on the receiving end before too:

Mr. One-tracked Mind: It is so weird to talk to a guy who will only talk about one topic. It could be sports, sex, or religion, but it’s the ONLY thing he talks about. If you can’t show a woman that you have more than one dimension, she is going to think you are a prison inmate who has been locked in a cell somewhere for the last decade.  Stop being a one-trick pony. Be well-rounded, otherwise,  ummm it’s creepy.

Mr. Octopus: Listen, I like to be groped as much as the next girl, but not by someone I don’t know or like.  If you attempt to palm my butt like a basketball then you’re definitely getting the creepy label. And possibly a throat chop. Or even a flat tire.

Stop acting like a horny teen who just discovered the female body. It’s creepy.  Unless she is on duty at a gentleman’s club, assume the woman wants to be treated like a lady. I think it is important to read a woman’s body language. You will know when and if she wants you to touch her… if you pay attention.

Guys, have you seen behavior from women that caused you to hit pause? Did it end up being a deal breaker?  Have you ever exhibited creepy behavior towards women? Were you able to recover from it?

Happy Friday!

318 comments Add your comment

ImAPeach404

December 4th, 2009
8:35 am

I dont know about “creepy” but it puts me on alert when I know a dude is stalking my FB page.

One way to know they are doing it is if they leave comments on your pictures. But not like all in one day. They do it over weeks/months. Seriously – my friend and I have been talking for months now and he is still looking through my pictures lol.

Good morning all!

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
8:45 am

G’mornin…..something about rhetorical questions drive me up the wall….or, chics who’re too needy and smothering…then there are those that are too mushy….then…..the ones who think just because they tell you they love you, you’re automatically s’posed to love ‘em back – nah, don’t work that way…

morning Cemeelie, and Angie….if y’all out there..

J.W.

December 4th, 2009
8:54 am

Please ladies do not stare at us while we sleep! That will get you kicked out our place real quick!

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
8:57 am

Good morning. I can honestly say I have never “popped up” over any guy’s house. I’ve never been insecure enough to do this, nor am I the clingy type. Don’t believe in drivebys either. In my late 20’s and early 30’s I had a few gfs that would do this and I looked at them in a different light and have tried to talk a few out of doing it! Not my style.

Hope all have a great day!

Tazzee - it's cold out there!

December 4th, 2009
8:58 am

Good Morning!

The creepiest thing I experienced was this guy that would break out shouting in tongues while on the phone. We would be chatting, I’d ask how was his day and he would start with saying he had a great day, he’s blessed and before I know it he would go in. To make matters worse, he was also Mr. Octopus.

My creepy was always undercover – clingy in my mind. You know writing my name with his last name. Imagining what our kids would look like, stuff like that, LOL.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:00 am

Creepy behavior I have come across…

The one guy that I dated for like a month that only liked movies where people, especially women, were being mutilated, tortured and killed.
The movies he would name were basically movies I had never heard of so I figured they were some low budget movies that he bought at out of the storage room at some hole in wall Chinese restaurant stored in wooden box buried in the floor. I remember we went to see 8MM when it first came out. After that I never returned his calls again.

The one guy that talked about his mother waaaay too much. It was borderline inappropriate. That lasted about a week.

Behaviors I find just creepy in general…

Momma’s Boy: As I mentioned up top, a man with an “odd” relationship with his mother.

Video Game Fanatics: There is nothing wrong with enjoying a round of Madden or auto racing on the console every now and then. But guys who live for it and it only are quite creepy to me.

Mr. No Sense of Humor: A man that has no sense of humor, never gets the joke, or never smiles is just creepy.

Mr. Taxi: A man that never learns how to drive is creepy to me. I don’t know why. He just is.

Mr. Hairy Lips: I have never met or dated a “Mr. Hairy Lips” before but one of my friends dated him. This is a man that takes no interest in a woman other than to kiss the hairy lips. Don’t get me wrong, a good “kisser” is to die for, but my friend said that the only form of interaction this guy wanted with her was to kiss the hairy lips. She said it was like everything else about her was invisible to him. When they would get together (only twice) he would go right to the lips. No infiltration, no nothing else. Cree-py.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:01 am

Hey there Mr. 2CPTG.

ChimingIn

December 4th, 2009
9:01 am

I had to chime in…I’m sure I’ve done some creepy things but I’ll have to think on that.

Recently a guy sent me a d!ck pic. I thought that was creepy. We’d only gone out a few times, had not done the do, heck we hadn’t even made it to second base!

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:02 am

that would break out shouting in tongues while on the phone

Tazzee, please tell me you are kidding.

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
9:06 am

My creepy experience was with a guy I met one weekend that seemed cool but then turned into Mr. Possessive & Overly Emotional in a matter of hours. Met him on a Friday, he asked what I was doing the next day which I already had plans to go to movies so come Saturday he is texting and calling me as if I was suppose to drop my plans with movie guy to be with him. I’m like dude! I already had plans and I just met you yesterday. WTF!

So following weekend was a holiday and I had family in town, doing a whole bunch of running around. I had informed him that this weekend wouldn’t be a good time for me but that I’d hit him up when time permitted. I get a Angry text at 3am calling me a liar…that he thought I wanted to build something with, have a family with blah blah blah! I’m like Black Rob “Like Whoa!” All this from a dude I only had a 30 minute convo with at Barnacles. lolololol I’d hate to see his reaction if he had bought me a drink or something.

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
9:08 am

@J.W. ~ I heard men do that more than women.

Hello, 2C. How ya doooooooinnnnngggg?

Creepy behavior – softly tickling me while sleeping. It makes the hair on the nape of my neck stand at attention.

ImAPeach404

December 4th, 2009
9:09 am

Please ladies do not stare at us while we sleep! LMAO!!!!!!

Mr. Taxi: A man that never learns how to drive is creepy to me. I don’t know why. He just is

@Raqi – What if he’s from NY? Does he get a pass?
And Mr. Hairy Lips might of also been Mr. Insecure About His Dizzle

Tazzee - it's cold out there!

December 4th, 2009
9:09 am

ChimingIn – at least you’d been out with the guy that sent you one. I got one from a guy that I’d only talked on the phone and exchanged a few texts with. Needless to say, we never went out.

Raqi – nope, not kidding. I met him fresh out of college – a friend was trying to hook us up. Back then I thought – well maybe he’s just that excited about God and decided to go out with him. Then the Octopus showed up :lol:

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
9:14 am

D!ick pics are nothing compared to my cousin having this dude who she had not talked to in YEARS sent her a video of him wacking off. The funny part was he still had his church socks on. LMAO!!!!!!!!!!

Perception is Reality (truer words have never been spoken)

December 4th, 2009
9:14 am

Waaaaaaaaaaving at you Wise!

This is HILARIOUS to me! Let’s see I have a long dating resume but would you believe I have ABSOLUTELY no CREEPY tendencies? Yeah… I’ve been a bit ..CREEPTASTIC in my day.

To be specific:
I’m Ms. You Made Me Do It – you know the chick who does something completely bonkers and then manages to spin things around and blame it on ..YOU? *SMH* Turns out that works very well in a relationship early on but then becomes quite creepy and dare I say it? Transparent as time goes by … Luckily that chick is on hiatus..I mean gone forever ;)

oh and Ms. Mind Reader has been officially retired too .. Y’all know Ms. Mind Reader? The chick who seems to know everything you are thinking … y’all connect on so many different levels, it’s hella cool cuz it’s like she’s in ya head ? But the reality is, she’s just nosey as hell and knows all ya passwords so she’s literally reading your ish when you’re not around .. CREEPY! She gone too. (FOR REAL )

Anywhoo – just wanted to stop by this here thing and say hey Wise! See ya!

2CPTG — is that REALLY you? Oh me oh my! How YOU doin?

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:15 am

Peachy: It’s one of the weird quirks I have I guess. When growing up about 90% of the boys around my age learned to drive before us ladies. Around the age of 13-14 (I have one at home) the vast majority of boys are ready to get behind the wheel. Every time I met, meet or hear of a man that CANNOT drive I just find it very strange.

On Mr. Hairy Lips, my bff said she touched it and it felt very promising but she could not get pass those first to encounters to ever find out if it was any good. She said she didn’t think she was going to find out so she ran.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:19 am

LOL Tazzee the only thing that could have made him more creepy is if he started speaking while being Mr. Octopus. Have you ever seen the youtube video of the guy getting married and started speaking in tongue during the ceremony and getting the holy spirit? I had it in an email. Let me see if I still have it.

ChimingIn

December 4th, 2009
9:19 am

**Tazzee** I got another set of d!ck pics from a guy I meet on facebook (friend of a friend) that I HD never meet in person, just phone calls,texts and fb chat. Go figurei

For Real

December 4th, 2009
9:22 am

What up Blog Fam! I had to drop this for the BLog. Enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEkomaBTppY

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:24 am

ChimingIn

December 4th, 2009
9:24 am

**slim** WOW!! I guess pics aren’t that bad

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
9:27 am

I just deleted a creepy sexual thing I’ve encountered. Didn’t want to jump of Freaky Friday before 10 a.m. :lol: :lol:

Leggs

December 4th, 2009
9:31 am

Ok, I see it has already jumped off.

@Raqi, I’ve seen that video…hysterical!

East Point's Own

December 4th, 2009
9:33 am

1.Don’t ask me any questions about anybody on my myspace or facebook page if we just met within the last 30 days…even after 30 days it still shows me that either you are a snooper, suspect me of cheating with anybody of the opposite sex,or you are insecure

2. DOn’t invite any of my online friends to be your friend, until you have at least met them in person…and even then its suspect.

3. Don’t ask me where I am going tonight and then show up there if you were not invited.

4. Don’t call me from a private/unlisted number when I know your phone normally shows your name/number…

5. Don’t let me catch you snooping around my house/room.

I think that’s enough for now
http://hispointofview.com

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
9:35 am

Hey Raqi…Hey Leggs….and ummm, am I seein’ ghosts? Is that REALLY you, “Perception”? Gal, what have YOU been up to? I just might hang around today….

Jerome

December 4th, 2009
9:37 am

Three in recent memory:
1. Miss Dinner Plate Thief.
Could not resist reaching across the table fork in hand to spear something off my plate. No warning and no asking – just a sudden lunge and poof! a quarter of my meal had disappeared. I love to share, but ask, slide your plate over and I am happy to put a serving on it for you to sample. Perhaps I am too territorial, but it just seemed tacky and rude.
2. Miss Nice idea but bad timing.
I travel for my job – usually out of town for 2-4 day stretches. My days are very busy and long. When I get back to Atlanta, I need time to decompress and re-charge. She met me at the airport one week unexpectedly to pick me up (I usually cab it to and from the airport). Wanted to go over to her place for a late dinner. I declined as I was tired and asked her to drive me home. She pouted and whined but I insisted. She ended up dropping me off 4 blocks from my condo. Sent me a text message late that night with a picture of her dining room table. She had planned a romantic, surprise dinner. Called me a jackass and I never heard from her again. Had I known, exhausted as I was, I would have agreed to go. Guess I need some help in the ESP department.
3. Miss Totally Connected in Every Way.
Text messages (10-15 times/day), email, phone calls during the day and Facebook.
Texting has its place, but if there are more than 3 texts, it is a conversation and better suited to a phone call. I am a consultant and paid by the hour by my clients. They deserve my full attention when I am on the clock and I am not given to “just called to say hi” phone calls when with clients and co-workers. I don’t Twitter and I don’t do Facebook. She ended up creating a Facebook page for me. That was that and it took me 3 months and the threat of a lawsuit to get the idiots at Facebook to take down the page. I am all for keeping the lines of communication open, but I do not want an electronic umbilical cord.

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
9:38 am

Gm All…

I’m still sitting here pondering if I’ve done any creepy things to me ex in the begining…. hmmmm “I’ll get back to you on that one”

I’ve had guys do creepy things while I parked my car and walked across the street, like making a complete illegal u-turn and riding on the side of me….

Why do guys do that? Ya’ll gonna get maced one day :lol:

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
9:39 am

For Real I just sent you something freaky deaky Oooh wee. enjoy lol

2CPTG

December 4th, 2009
9:40 am

ok, just watched that youtube video…….damn, wonder how he acts when he “busts” one……

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
9:40 am

DOn’t invite any of my online friends to be your friend, until you have at least met them in person…and even then its suspect.

East , now that is funny!!! Especially if you dont’ know them..

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:43 am

Leggs, yeah that video clip is quite funny.

Jerome, I think your number was actually a nice gesture from her. She was trying to surprise you and may have thought you would be happy to see her or happy enough to at least “rest up” at her place.

EastPoint, What’s wrong with being called from a private number? Have you ever stopped to think a person could be calling you from someone else’s phone who has their number unlisted?

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
9:46 am

LOL 2CPTG. Yeah especially since some say that the “O” is some type of spiritual happening. I bet he was all over the place that evening.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
9:46 am

creepiest thing I experienced was this guy that would break out shouting in tongues while on the phone

Lol :lol: Tazzee girl!!…the guy was a fraud,liked u but becoz u mentioned God,thoght he cld impress,…Funny!

There are some tendencies u ladies mention,and i have only heard about them since i crossed the Atlantic,like that dyck texting stuff..weird, i must say..
Weird creepy stuff??

only 2 incidents come to mind for me…

After my seperation, i went to a soccer game one day,large crowd and the old chic knew i would be there coz my team was playing.As im leaving the stadia,after the game,going to my car and i am on one side of the street, I see her on the other side,watching my every movement..i gathered she had been in stadia too coz she knew my fav sitting spot and was kinda in my midst during the entire soccer game,just watching me ..Creeped me out! :evil: :shock: :roll:

2nd incident is not in same vein but close…me and Queen had been dating serious for a period and communicated almost daily by phone or me driving to her aprtment every other nite after wrk..this one friday, i just wanted some space and did not return her calls at wrk nor go to her place….

she just caught a ride the next day, saturday morning,strolled right into my cabin,unannounced…..just as well, it was just me and i cared for her that much! but wow,waht if i had decided to seek some alternative High! :lol: :lol:

Morn folks!!!,Hey Proff,Foots(where u at sweetie)Leggs,Tazz,Kimmie,Raqi,Blogsville and Jane Doe! :lol: and the real queen herslf…Wiiiiiiiiise Diva!!

For Real

December 4th, 2009
9:48 am

Slim: Give me 3.8 more seconds and I will, will, will, AWWWWW DAYUM too late!

Jerome

December 4th, 2009
9:49 am

No denying it was a nice gesture. All she needed to do was say I’ve prepared a nice dinner” and I woulda bit the bullet. But she was so focused on the ’surprise’ aspect of it, that she was not reading my mood or condition very well.

Regarding Eastpoint and private/unlisted number calling. Some people will call, get your VM, then immediately call back with a number block to see if you answer. Then they will jump on your azz because they think you are call screening.

Wonderwoman_TGIF

December 4th, 2009
9:50 am

Friday Finally Here!!

2CPTG- I am quilty of the rhetorical questions or asking too many questions. I don’t know if thats creepy or really annoying. A current freind of mine gives me a blank stare, thats when I”ve gone too far! lol

I have two creepy experiences with men: 1) I was living in CO had no friends there, but I met a guy from GA a month after moving there. And we stared dating on our first date he called and wanted me to wear a certain color. I was like ok thats a little strange. And he is the only guy I know that talked so much, to the point I would start daydreaming while he’s talking. He would call and hang up, then call back seconds later. I would ask why he would do that, he was like someone could be listening. And when he took me to his apartment, instead of making one turn and he would be at his apartment. He would drive around the building, saying you never know who’s watching you. I think he had OCD or something. It was weird creepy.

SlimOne

December 4th, 2009
9:51 am

For Real: Is it too early to see if we made a baby yet? lol

Dream_n~ Exhausted

December 4th, 2009
9:54 am

Sitting back laughing and shaking my head… Please tell me this is not what I have to look forward to….. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

M. (pronounced M dot)

December 4th, 2009
9:54 am

I have a few creeps I can add to this list:

1. Mrs. I am suddenly mad and am changing my mood but I am acting like nothing is wrong.

I personally cant stand this. I had an ex that used to do this and it is the worst. I also dated a girl and one day we were just talking and laughing and she asked what I had planned later that week and I mentioned that I was going to the Hawks game with my friend and her entire mood changed. 15 min later, she said I think I am going to head home. I will talk to you later. I was perplexed but then later in the week she mentioned that she didnt like that I was going to be hanging out with another woman under ANY circumstance.

Ladies, we cant read your mind. If you are mad, tell us why. Sometimes we do stuff inadvertently that makes you mad. Let us know and not have to guess!

2. The Mrs. You call me but I text you back but never take your calls

Point blank, these women usually have guys already and just gave you the number as an ego boost. That happens alot.

@East Point’s Own

I agree with your point. If I just met you, do not ask questions about women in my friends list or pictures. It shows your insecurities.

Jerome

December 4th, 2009
9:54 am

LOL Wow Wonderwoman! Your CO dude sounds a bit like an old college mate of my mine. Used to drive past his driveway 2 or 3 times before entering. Also, when riding an elevator with other people in it, he would punch in a floor 1 or 2 above or below and get off then take the stairs. I am sure he has a closet full of tin-foil hats by now.

For Real

December 4th, 2009
9:57 am

Slim: No but Imma need 20 mins and a what-you-ma-call-it bar before we can try again.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
9:57 am

I just went in the break room,was alone in there so i decided to release a heat seeking missile..pheeeeeeeew…
a nice, sexxy lady i like and talk to on the regular here at wrk walked right in….

cld the funk have made her feel creepy…..? she said none about no smell.. :lol:

MusingLee

December 4th, 2009
9:59 am

Morn’in All! You all have me crackin up this morning…I’ve already seen the word “dizzle” and some dude wearing church socks..LMAO

Wise Diva are you saying that you have a set of basketballs back there?!?!?

Musing now singing his version of Eric Benet’s Chocolate Thighs…Substituting the phrase “Hair Lips.”

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
10:00 am

Jerome, I guess your situation is a true example of people are just different. I can honestly say that of all the men I know personally, they would have found it rather pleasing to have their woman waiting at the airport to take them home after a stay away from home for work. You wouldn’t have to be bothered with the taxi. You get to see your woman after being away from her for a few days. I don’t think she would have invited you over if her intentions weren’t to take care of you.

Let me ask you this, had she expressed her plans would that have changed your mood? Just her wanting to be with you and take you to her place was not enough to change your mood?

I am just asking.

Raqi

December 4th, 2009
10:03 am

Mrs. I am suddenly mad and am changing my mood but I am acting like nothing is wrong

LOL Mdot So you find every woman on God’s green earth creepy.

Melo

December 4th, 2009
10:04 am

Jerome?? i think its normal for a guy to want to go to his cabin and not to the woman’s place….

the woman shlkd have mentioned surprise, at least,just to wet ur apetite..she left no option for plan b in her planning..

that leaving u 2 blocks off ur place was creepy and proly good for u coz she had anger issues u gladly avoided…..

the mrs texting all the dayme time..now thats creeepy! :evil:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 4th, 2009
10:07 am

@Raqi

You know what I mean. Like I can see if we get into an argument on the spot, then I can see a reason for you being mad with me but for a sudden shift without an explanation, that is wierd.

Luvbug

December 4th, 2009
10:08 am

I think the guys I’ve dated may come up with something, but I don’t know. I am a loner. I’m sure that turns off some guys. I can’t imagine my personality being matched well with a Will Smith (bubbly type)…love all that energy, but I have to take it in doses…he probably talks in his sleep…I’d have to hit him with a…I’ll stop there.

I’m also goofy. I am serious or goofy with no in between sometimes. I grew up laughing at everything. Any small funny thing sets me off. Don’t care what the circumstances…church, masjid, funeral…even during family prayers at family gatherings (grandma thanks everybody – five minutes minimum). Once the giggles set in, I can’t stop. I have to excuse myself…I used to get in trouble in school for laughing…writing on the chalk board “I will not laugh in class. I will not laugh in class”.

ChimingIn

December 4th, 2009
10:13 am

Just thought of two more…
1) a guy that worked in my old building would meet me in the lobby as I was leaving and walk me to my car. While it was sweet on one hand it was stalkerish on another and one day he asked me who was that guy I was walking to lunch with…I was like WTH!! I had to shake him
2) a security/property manager in my current building asks me for numbers and then plays them and gives me the tix. The next day he asks if “we” won I’ve told him I don’t play the lotto. He’s given me scratch off tickets. And one day I swear he followed me to the garage.

Diamond Dave

December 4th, 2009
10:14 am

Mr Creepy. Oh yeaaahhhhhh