This Time I Want It All
Have you ever taken the time to think about your past relationships to realize what exactly went wrong? In some cases, I can pinpoint the moment I figured out the person wasn’t right for me, yet it was not the moment I ended things.
When we are single and dating, we are collecting data about who we think is a good fit for us. It wasn’t until I dated a really impatient man when I decided that patience is something I truly like in a man. Now that I have been ignored by a “really busy” boyfriend, I can say with certainty that I appreciate the man that has balance and makes time for what is important.
You see where I’m going with this? We may have endured tough times on the dating scene but it wasn’t a complete waste of time. We should take all that we have learned about ourselves and other people to make the best choices in selecting a mate.
When it is time and the right person comes along, there will be no settling. There should be no confusion, apprehension, fear, or trepidation. This is why so many of the married people tell us, “You will know” when we meet the one.
I tell myself that when I make the decision to commit, the guy will have it all. Not just partially right for me, but truly right for me. What would be the point, otherwise?
Do you think that settling is necessary to be with someone? Is it possible for us to find a person that has everything we want? Can we expect to have it all or is it a fantasy? How realistic are we in our expectations?
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SexyCool - Loves Orange LifeSavers, too.
December 3rd, 2009
4:23 pm
It’s TheDude’s.
Melo
December 3rd, 2009
4:23 pm
If she couldnt have kids what was she supposed to do?
she cldnt coz i pumped,for three whole years…..
Nothing..
now u speaking semantics coz having diffcutly and not being able is one and the same thing to me,if u talking about 3 mths or so…then thats having difficulty..3 yrs is inability unless u get checked to prove otherwise
Zulu dont play..on average..
2 hits, a woman i do shld be good.
I wanted to check that out at the doc,she wldnt want to go…..
Leggs
December 3rd, 2009
4:28 pm
@Melo, not every hits their target. Did you think perhaps God felt the two of you together should not be parents! I’m just saying. I two g/f here in Georgia w/me and we’ve been friends since h.s. Two of us have children and the other desperately wants a child but can’t. Doctor says there’s nothing wrong with her nor her husband. My g/f and I believe since her hubby is such an Ahole and a cheat perhaps God has blessed them but not letting them become parents!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
December 3rd, 2009
4:29 pm
Melo – LMAO! There are some women who cant BEAR children (i.e lacking or something happening with her reproductive organs) and some women just have problems getting/remaining pregnant (carrying a baby to term, ectopic pregnancies, etc). I was just trying to understand what you were saying was the case.
SlimOne
December 3rd, 2009
4:30 pm
Melo I wonder if she already knew what her issue was since she wouldn’t want to go to at least find out what the deal was. If it were me, I’d want to know. I would see a man being more hesitant about getting his jewels checked out than a woman.
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:31 pm
Come now – you know I was being facetious.
I know…you guys are a riot
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:32 pm
CMS – silly wabbit makes the both of you. why even mention if you’re so past it? are you getting your ego stroked over this. i’m sure life goes on for her as well. sometimes you men are about as silly the women you the same about
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:33 pm
Come now – you know I was being facetious.
I know…you guys are a
riotstupidMo (aka Moeisha)
December 3rd, 2009
4:33 pm
SlimOne – I wondered that too, she may have known that she couldnt have kids….or she was doing something to ensure she wouldnt get preggo and didnt want Melo to know. Most women will get checked more willingly than men so that seems odd to me too
Melo
December 3rd, 2009
4:36 pm
Did you think perhaps God felt the two of you together should not be parents
he calls the shots so maybe,it was meant to be… there is a tricky/drama part to the whole saga but the blog wont hear it….u will
@Leggs
now if u bring Him..im gon let it slide
@MO YES u right,there are some woman who cant have kids and i think thats why she didnt want to go have checked fopr 2 reasons:
1 u know some pple dont wanna hear the truf
2 there is a stigma ova there if u cant have kids,worse when u are a man tho.. i was str8(thats the drama part u wont hear)
i thihnk she didnt want to be ostaracised if we found out the truth..
i dont blame her..we talking 3rd world!
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:36 pm
that’s the problem with us lurkers, can’t ever tell which one came from under the bridge lol
i didn’t say stupid but i can agree some days
CMS
December 3rd, 2009
4:36 pm
Lurker-Why mention it? Because someone introduced it as a subtopic, and I wanted to comment. Is my ego stroked over this? Over what, I’m sort of in the middle of an ongoing conversation? Yes life goes on for every one but tricks are still for kids.
SexyCool - Loves Orange LifeSavers, too.
December 3rd, 2009
4:36 pm
Yeah…that too.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
December 3rd, 2009
4:39 pm
Melo – Ok, then yes I could see her being VERY hesitant. That sheds a different light on the situation.
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:40 pm
i didn’t say stupid but i can agree
some daysevery daySlimOne
December 3rd, 2009
4:40 pm
I can definitely see how it could make one feel, whether male or female, to not be able to reproduce…especially men because they all think their SEEDS are gold. And i’m sure some female in the world has gotten terribly mad at her impotent man and made the mistake of having to pick her face up off the floor cuz she called his Golden seed——-Dog water
Melo
December 3rd, 2009
4:41 pm
@MO ansd Slim
actually,there is a number 3 MO to ur answer..yes,she proly had sme to hide..that was my read altho i wasnt sure..
prior,when we waere dating,she had an op on her tubes…i found out by chance when i visuted her house to find her and her big sister not talking..i inquired as to the reasons,nobody cld tell me altho it related to some female gossip tween them 2 and presumably about sme big sis had said to a friend/sibling etc..not sure.
when we cldnt have kids for 3 yrs, i had a flashback…
that destroyed it!
Ostrasized(sp)4.36
I was str8 ( only LEGGS privy to drama)
killing uall! 
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:43 pm
CMS nothing to get all giddy over. you was open at one time she wasn’t now she is and you ain’t. bad timing. nothing to get hyped over
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:43 pm
4:40 lurker, you funny
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:46 pm
CMS, i hope you ain’t married cause you being open times past, like tiger, don’t count if you already taken. just sayin lol
Leggs
December 3rd, 2009
4:46 pm
Stop messing with the residents, Melo!
Apparently quite a few of the lurkers like “stupid.”
Melo
December 3rd, 2009
4:50 pm
LURKER??
mail call!
oh shyt!..do caps on the spell matter?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
December 3rd, 2009
4:54 pm
Alright Im outta here, ya’ll behave tomorrow and I will read ya’ll monday!!
L8tr!
SexyCool - Loves Orange LifeSavers, too.
December 3rd, 2009
4:54 pm
Just send it to lurker@lurker.com
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:55 pm
Melo yep, that’s a different LURKER lol
lurker
December 3rd, 2009
4:55 pm
a riot i tell ya
Leggs
December 3rd, 2009
4:55 pm
Good night everyone….And This Time, I Too Want It All!!!!!!
“Excuses can be lies packed with rationalization” ~ Dedicated to Mr. Tiger Woods.
Enjoy your evening and stay warm cuz it’s gonna be colder than a witch’s tit!
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