Have you ever taken the time to think about your past relationships to realize what exactly went wrong? In some cases, I can pinpoint the moment I figured out the person wasn’t right for me, yet it was not the moment I ended things.
When we are single and dating, we are collecting data about who we think is a good fit for us. It wasn’t until I dated a really impatient man when I decided that patience is something I truly like in a man. Now that I have been ignored by a “really busy” boyfriend, I can say with certainty that I appreciate the man that has balance and makes time for what is important.
You see where I’m going with this? We may have endured tough times on the dating scene but it wasn’t a complete waste of time. We should take all that we have learned about ourselves and other people to make the best choices in selecting a mate.
When it is time and the right person comes along, there will be no settling. There should be no confusion, apprehension, fear, or trepidation. This is why so many of the married people tell us, “You will know” when we meet the one.
I tell myself that when I make the decision to commit, the guy will have it all. Not just partially right for me, but truly right for me. What would be the point, otherwise?
Do you think that settling is necessary to be with someone? Is it possible for us to find a person that has everything we want? Can we expect to have it all or is it a fantasy? How realistic are we in our expectations?