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Boyfriends are NOT recyclable

Recycling may be great for the environment but it can do major damage on your love life.  Against our better judgments, we sometimes return to old flames and rekindle a romance.  Sometimes it’s for nostalgia’s sake, other times it’s out of loneliness.  A lot of people seriously consider it for the sake of the children.

I wish I could say that it worked for me but it hasn’t, ever. I tried.  Like, three times…with the same guy.  Yeah no, I don’t recommend it at all. Maybe I’m in the minority, though.  Is it ever a good idea to reunite with someone from your past? Isn’t it so so tempting to do so?  Especially when old feelings haven’t completely faded away; or worse they come barreling towards you after a random sighting.

Have you ever gotten back together with a former wife/husband/ or former significant other? If so, how did it work out?  What drew you back to the person?

How long does it usually take before you remember the exact reason you two broke up the first time? In my case, my ex would come back around and pursue me, claiming to have changed.  He said all the right things that I wanted him to say before we broke up.  It wasn’t long before we were back to the same arguments and personality clashes that broke us up.

Would you ever try to win someone back? Do you think someone from your past could show up and convince you to give it another go? What is the statue of limitations on old relationships? More importantly, who can I petition to get it shortened!!?

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LURKER

December 2nd, 2009
12:26 pm

DL men come on now! Their is an island that all of you can go to and leave these women to me and DK! We will fulfill our duty to satisfy all that booty! :lol:

Mamba Happy-B-Day come back with your sweet sexy azz! :wink: I miss reading ya!

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
12:29 pm

And see- where I’m from, we don’t do those kinds of things.

Maybe YOU don’t do things like that, but you can’t speak for every man, you’re not in every man’s bedroom, car, garage, kitchen when they are indeed RawDogging the side piece.. or at least we hope not.. :lol:

LURKER

December 2nd, 2009
12:32 pm

Look I carry a 3 pack of condoms at all times, so hollar at yo boy!

Random Thoughts:

The Professor…. Needs some dizzy for 2010!
Dreamn….. Looking for a walk on the beach and a cookbook 2010!
Whatever happened to Sybil,Sybil,Sybil?
Amazon did you show your pole dancing skills to the express?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
12:33 pm

Prof – That chick was crushed on the air.. She had fear, rage and panick in her voice at the same time.. She had that mad black woman crying voice.. Screaming but not screaming.. “I cant beliiiieve he did this too me that dirty bast–rd” Uncontolable sobbing.. It was rough tho hear that that early in the morning. I dont know what I would do but it would not be to let her out the car.. I would prolly start by slamming her head into the dashboard numerous times and go from there..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
12:34 pm

czBrat

December 2nd, 2009
12:35 pm

Hi All!

Nope. No recycling for me. That’s why I stay long enough to KNOW I’m done!

Now I’ll try to go back and catch up on what yous are really talking about :)

Sybil

December 2nd, 2009
12:36 pm

I have gone nowhere. I lurk until somebody calls my name.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 2nd, 2009
12:36 pm

And this thing with Tiger gets messier by the day!

Leggs – I would have been UNDER the jail if I had been the woman in that car! And how selfish of him to claim she isnt being sensitive to his bytch azz needs… WTF-eva!

lurkster

December 2nd, 2009
12:39 pm

AMEN LURKER to your comment about placing people on pedestals. Everyone of us is capable of anything. You may not but it’s not due to being born above it. Except ABC

LURKER

December 2nd, 2009
12:41 pm

you folks are funny

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
12:41 pm

@Lurker~well, well, well…it is always amazing to me how some one that reads a few lines and come up with some jacked up solution to a misdiagnosed problem. With that said I think you need to give up the dizzle in 2010 because it is obvious you keep something stuck in that azz hole.

@DK I am glad I did not hear her…I hate to hear things like that. In fact I had a very distant associate that witnessed something similiar with one of her friends. Her friend found her man (child’s father) in the heat of the action with his BFF. Long story short he beat her azz and said he thought his friend was her because they had been drinking and taking shots. The last I heard they were working on their relationship

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
12:42 pm

Even tho Phil Mickleson is laughing and spiting Tiger,Tiger is still numero uno.
The moment he became friends with Jordan,thats when the dye was cast..
Jordan aint loyal to no woman.. :lol:

lurker

December 2nd, 2009
12:43 pm

Her friend found her man (child’s father) in the heat of the action with his BFF. Long story short he beat her azz and said he thought his friend was her because they had been drinking and taking shots. The last I heard they were working on their relationship

nasty on every level!!!! hope i can keep lunch down on this one ugh!!

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
12:45 pm

The last I heard they were working on their relationship

working on whaaat..a man thats fcking his own male BFF??
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

U women are all the same,i tell ya!

Luvbug

December 2nd, 2009
12:45 pm

Another issue is the “language marketing” and misleading “demographic marketing” people use nowadays…DL (instead of cheater/liar)…Gay (instead of homosexual)…Thick (when over healthy weight applies)…and others.

It’s harder to solve problems when people don’t use real words and descriptions…they join a team and fight as a group, instead of disseminate the scenario and allow for honest discussion.

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
12:50 pm

Melo,

I thought it was foul on all levels, but apparently old boy had her thinking it was the shots. Basically he was suppose to go to the club that night with his boys and she was headed out with her girls and grandma was watching the kid. Long story short something happen and she went home early and found him with his BFF…the last I heard they were working on everything and he had his girl feeling like it was her fault

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
12:53 pm

Okay that story is wrong on so many levels…

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
12:53 pm

Luvbug~I see where you are going/coming from on that 12:45! I agree I never thought about it from that standpoint.

lurker

December 2nd, 2009
12:55 pm

Long story short he beat her azz and said he thought his friend was her because they had been drinking and taking shots

now this situation calls for beating the crap out of him with golf club, calling the morgue for him and dialing 911 to pick me up cause after a situation like this i’ll be daggone if i run when done. it’s worth the jail time.

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
12:55 pm

he had his girl feeling like it was her fault

Proff??

those are the consequences of falling in luv…

Yu do things u neva thoght(when single),u wld do…!!!

A lot of u females on this board,confronted with the exact same issue about somebody u luv dearly and have married,wld do the exact same thing.

Trust me on that…

lurker

December 2nd, 2009
12:55 pm

scuse me, prison time

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
12:56 pm

calling the morgue

…now that is a good one!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 2nd, 2009
12:57 pm

Luvbug – you mean Gay instead of DL! LOL! Those dudes kill me trying to make a distinction between the two “im not gay Im DL”….GTFOH! SMDH

lurker

December 2nd, 2009
12:57 pm

A lot of u females on this board,confronted with the exact same issue about somebody u luv dearly and have married,wld do the exact same thing.

got a cousin that did. she caught him, had a nervous breakdown, wearing pampers and all and stayed after she recovered, til he left her some years down the line. she’s all the better for him leaving her. punk

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
12:58 pm

Melo

I know love makes you do what you said you would not, but seeing my man in bed with his BFF and than getting beat down would make me leave. I don’t believe in getting hit on and I would have nightmares seeing him with dude.

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
12:59 pm

A lot of u females on this board,confronted with the exact same issue about somebody u luv dearly and have married,wld do the exact same thing.

Sorry, but no. You are completely off mark with that statement. Marriage or not, if my husband was found in bed with his best friend.. That right there is grounds for immediate termination and medical attention stat!!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
1:00 pm

Prof – Stop playing aint no way a dude feel like a chick.. And… The first thing you do is rub that thang to get it moist.. So what you rub down there and feel what.. Some hairy ballz and a bozck and claim its her. WOW! Even if you never touched the person and was blindfolded as soon as they grab the johnson to give a presidential you would be able to tell MAN hands..

SlimOne

December 2nd, 2009
1:02 pm

Well even some of the “DL” dudes out there that only receive oral pleasures, don’t believe they are gay because they aren’t reciprocating and it’s just plain Dome to them…WTF-ever!

SlimOne

December 2nd, 2009
1:05 pm

Matter of fact, this guy one of my friends tried to hook me up with about a year ago, just recently came out to her that he was gay (but still likes women) and was now in a gay relationship. Whew! Boy did I dodge a bullet!!!!!

(Slim now kissing her bible & throwing out a couple Hail Mary’s!)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
1:05 pm

Melo – You cant talk about anyone being loyal to their wife.. I gotta call you on your BS.. Stall Tiger out cause you cant cast any stones..

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 2nd, 2009
1:07 pm

Professor – Im with the you, having walked in on him and having the visual etched in my head would keep from even thinking of staying with old dude! Also I would be making him feel like an azz..”so you and Alex been slob-nobbin today?? Oh wait maybe ya’ll been tea-bagging”..sorry azz

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
1:07 pm

Dk~ I never gave it much thought when she was telling me the story. The only thing I thought was this and I will admit it and blog men please correct me if I am wrong. Dudes better no who they are getting drunk with and if they are drinking some moonshine that makes Kevin looks like Keisha…well they may need to drink a virgin daiquri(sp) I really try not to let stuff like that get in my head and I hate hearing about it on a lot of levels…is that the kind of thinking we are teaching and does love make folks that crazy that you don’t see the bull ish and do you have to have a two parent household at any cost????

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
1:08 pm

You cant talk about anyone being loyal to their wife..

DK,dont understand what u saying??

Luvbug

December 2nd, 2009
1:09 pm

@Professor

Yeah, I’m guilty of it too in some ways, if not many. Sometimes, when my behavior is questionable (facts may not completely be in my favor), I can get my way a little easier if I trump it with religion or I’m black, or female, or poor or whatnot.

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
1:09 pm

Mo~ I might be wrong but that visual would have taken the love from me. I refuse to be in love with a lie and chasing after a lie. I would have gotten tested and moved on and let him and “Alex” pay the rent…LOL at tea bagging

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
1:10 pm

Melo – You bashing Tiger and Jordan but you be on the prowl and trying to get some extra too.. The pot cant call the kettle black..

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
1:11 pm

(Slim now kissing her bible & throwing out a couple Hail Mary’s!)

Okay!!! lol

If you have had any sexual encounter with the same sex, and this goes for male or female.. You are indeed a homosexual, gay or whatever you want to call it.

You can choose to live your life the way you want to, it just becomes a problem when you sneak around on your mate.

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
1:11 pm

Dont know if any of u caught Wonder Sykes ovar the weekend..

she did a joke about Tiger being caught by his wife,cheating and the wife beating her with golf clubs and smashing the windshield..

she or he was about right! :lol:

Raqi

December 2nd, 2009
1:12 pm

My theory is when your man start wanting to poke around your back door the tendencies of gay are there. You better watch out.

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
1:12 pm

You bashing Tiger and Jordan but you be on the prowl

@DK… I aint bashing,im just calling a spade a spade…

u call me out when im caught :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
1:13 pm

Prof – Drank dont make no dude look like a chick.. Thats already in your mind if you like dudes when you drunk.. Classic Repressed Emotions.. Cause you know that drank brangs it out..

And people need to stop blaming stuff on the alcohol.. Know your limit.. Alcohol only gives you liquid courage to do what you been thinking bout doing..

mqew

December 2nd, 2009
1:14 pm

I’ve advised a friend to go back to their wife albeit cheating wife. My rationale
-He wasn’t/isn’t over her
-Her proclamation of changing
-The kids (he’s a psycho analyst studying/research kids of divorced parents)
His rationale for not as yet
-I don’t know what she put him through (true)
-He don’t know if he can trust her again (shrug by me)
-She likes to kick it

Of course I’ll never know, but he knows the difference that his presence will make in his kids lives, period. They are 4 and 7 boy and girl respectively. In this day and age I think it’s worth it…

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
1:15 pm

Raqi,

I used to say that and I caught a lot of slack by men saying that it was just another position or form of sex, and that as a woman I was not being open minded.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
1:15 pm

Melo – I dont have to know what you doin.. You do.. Thats all that matters.. Just dont be a hypocrite.

Luvbug

December 2nd, 2009
1:16 pm

wearing pampers and all

Not the pampers!?

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
1:17 pm

My theory is when your man start wanting to poke around your back door the tendencies of gay are there. You better watch out.

Raqi you hit it right on the nail!! My BF and I say that all the time. As arse is an arse and if he wants to get in youre, what’s so different about going in Alex’s arse after a shot of jack daniel.

Raqi

December 2nd, 2009
1:18 pm

men saying that it was just another position or form of sex

Professor, that is a load of crap. Literally. A butt hole is a butt hole. They both secrete crap. If a man has urges to stick his dizzle in dung, he is willing to engage in a homosexual act.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
1:18 pm

Prof – I would definitely say a two parent house is better than one.. I would also say if you can work it out try, but if it isnt there and it aint working.. Bounce..

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
1:19 pm

Just dont be a hypocrite

am i on the prowl or are u saying i do it??

I been here what?? 5 yrs now…..
No cookies on ma record just yet….

LURKER

December 2nd, 2009
1:24 pm

@Prefessor I notice you mentioned being drilled in the azz a lot, is that where you like it? I can take care of that for ya!

DL men you are gay, gay, gay come out of the closet! Leave these good women to me!

Tiger will be alright, his woman will endure thru it all!
Sybil I am glad to see you are still around!