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Boyfriends are NOT recyclable

Recycling may be great for the environment but it can do major damage on your love life.  Against our better judgments, we sometimes return to old flames and rekindle a romance.  Sometimes it’s for nostalgia’s sake, other times it’s out of loneliness.  A lot of people seriously consider it for the sake of the children.

I wish I could say that it worked for me but it hasn’t, ever. I tried.  Like, three times…with the same guy.  Yeah no, I don’t recommend it at all. Maybe I’m in the minority, though.  Is it ever a good idea to reunite with someone from your past? Isn’t it so so tempting to do so?  Especially when old feelings haven’t completely faded away; or worse they come barreling towards you after a random sighting.

Have you ever gotten back together with a former wife/husband/ or former significant other? If so, how did it work out?  What drew you back to the person?

How long does it usually take before you remember the exact reason you two broke up the first time? In my case, my ex would come back around and pursue me, claiming to have changed.  He said all the right things that I wanted him to say before we broke up.  It wasn’t long before we were back to the same arguments and personality clashes that broke us up.

Would you ever try to win someone back? Do you think someone from your past could show up and convince you to give it another go? What is the statue of limitations on old relationships? More importantly, who can I petition to get it shortened!!?

303 comments Add your comment

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
11:24 am

Dan – My Ex has unresolved issues with her Dad and she just suppresses it. I look for that one also..

Raqi...Seeking Residence Outside of Atlanta

December 2nd, 2009
11:25 am

Wonderwoman, all Tiger needs to do now is buy his wife a big fat diamond, and then get on tv and cry like Kobe did and folks will soon forget about it.

What those people grow thru is just the cost of being Hollywood.

Wonderwoman

December 2nd, 2009
11:30 am

I don’t know if he can just do a “Kobe” and get away with it. He’s attitude by not cooperating may be playing a part. And the other woman coming out the ‘woods’, man this situation might linger for a while.

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
11:30 am

Tiger caught by wife thru his cell record..got money but not street smart….

This cheating thing reminds me of all those blog ladies who have said they wont date pretty boys. LOL

They wld rather date/marry a big fat boy,whose swollen face looks like he biting a frog or tennis ball,walks in a swashbuckling way,making sounds,as if he farting,all becoz they want to mitigate against Cheating.

Who can blame them?? :lol:

SlimOne

December 2nd, 2009
11:33 am

@Leggs…Ooohhh dayum! lololol Seems like these celebs would make these sideline chicks sign some sort of precheating agreement..sort of like a prenup. ;-)

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
11:34 am

DK

If I come across as being “above the fray”, then please accept my apology. I am in no position to appoint myself aS being higher than anyone.. Have you read some of my mistakes??? I’m an analyzer to heart. Once I’m out of a situation or done with a project I will analyze the hell outta something.. (my job helps with that)… No I’m not perfect and would never admit to being so.

Now trying to describe a 5 year relationship through a 115 character post is impossible.

So again.. I’ll leave it at. I was good.

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 2nd, 2009
11:35 am

Melo – whodahell said THAT?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
11:36 am

Dream – Not cheating doesnt mean you didnt do anything wrong.. Theres always room to grow..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 2nd, 2009
11:37 am

You should change that moniker you know it is the Capricorns that ROCK…lol!

Tru that Professor!!

On topic: Have you ever gotten back together with a former wife/husband/ or former significant other? If so, how did it work out? What drew you back to the person?

If you’re my ex then you’re that for a reason and for me one of the reasons was infidelity, which I don’t take lightly. I’m not one to just leave a relationship b/c of sumthing frivolous or stupid BUT when it comes to cheating I’M OUT. Another cause for demise has been that my S.O. at the time and I just grew apart with regards to life’s goals/aspirations,cummunication and me not wanting to have kids out of wed lock(you’re willing to give me your seed and create a life BUT NOT give me your last name…chile please).

Wise get outta my head b/c I JUST went through this situation this past Thanksgiving with the ONLY ex that I was friends with. It’s not that I was tryna recycle what we had b/c the reasons for our breakup still hasn’t changed but we still continued to talk on the phone sumtimes. Either way the expiration date on all of that came but I didn’t want to lose a friend but it was time and I’m okay with that…onward and upward…..seen!?

Happy Birthday Mamba!! If you’re lurking…COME BACK!!

Dan

December 2nd, 2009
11:37 am

@Slim

There was a draft of a non-disclosure agreement that was to be signed and notarized before….I never heard any resolution on it. And it’s been a minute.

PG might know what I’m talking about.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
11:37 am

Tiger’s wife aint going no-where..

Raqi...Seeking Residence Outside of Atlanta

December 2nd, 2009
11:38 am

Chris Brown would be better off now had he cheated on Rhianna instead of hitting her. While they are wrong, one is soon forgotten while the other lingers.

Knowing my brothers, if Mason ever cheated on me and I told them they would not like it. They would probably distance their friendship with him based on whether or not I choose to continue a relationship with him. And will be cordial to him because he is their niece’s father. But let him hit me. There will be no coming back. My youngest brother may find himself serving time. He will never be forgiven and if I stayed with him after he hit me, I know both of my brothers will give me a really hard time from here on out.

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
11:39 am

SexyCool,was said right here…i can pin point one or two names..but..its all good.. there modus operandi is not all bad actually.

just making an observation.

iI wldnt mary a fl;ight attendent myself..or if i were female, a pilot..

Having delt wit hdelta pilots as a shuttle driver once,oh boy…!

Worst whorrres u can ever thunk of..mistress in every city,always cash strapped due to multiple domestic budgets etc…

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
11:40 am

Dk

Of course it’s beyond not cheating..It’s about how you take care of your mate, the way you treat them, respect them. It’s so many more components than “not cheating”..

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
11:43 am

I know both of my brothers will give me a really hard time from here on out.
for hitting u? yes, no doubt..

for cheating u?? dont count on it! :lol:

Men will always be men!

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
11:44 am

There is alot of women/men who throw themselves at married famous/socialite people. And there are alot of married famous/socialite people who feel as though since they are the breed winners and bring home the bacon, their adultres ways should be overlooked.

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
11:45 am

Leggs

December 2nd, 2009
11:46 am

This is more interesting that Tiger’s story. Did any of you hear the playback of a call they took yesterday on the Ricky Smiley show? Yesterday was HIV Awareness – A woman and her husband were riding in to work yesterday morning and they were listening to the show. He told her he just couldn’t go on lying to her any longer and it was time she knew. He was on the DL and had been for five years and is HIV positive. Can you see the visual right now of him telling me that while I’m driving???? Then he makes her stop the car, he gets out because he feels she is not being sensitive to his feelings/needs while he is pouring his heart out about who he truly us. They have been married for over 20 years. How many of you are going to jail for murder???

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
11:47 am

Yea, So many spelling errors in that post.. you get the point though..lol

And Yes Sassy Capricorns do Rock!

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
11:47 am

Melo

This cheating thing reminds me of all those blog ladies who have said they wont date pretty boys. LOL Who said chipmunk cheeks aka Tiger was cute? There is nothing cute about him at all…I never thought he was squeaky clean…this goes back to what my man Melo said…folks will do things if they think they will not get caught

Leggs,can I add this one—> to the list rubbery penises

I will throw someone under the bus if they deserve it no exceptions…I call it the way I see it and the way it happened, if that corn ball does not want to be under the bus don’t jaywalk in front of it

Leggs

December 2nd, 2009
11:50 am

You are truly silly, Professor. I started to leave a blank line for you to fill in, then “rubbery” popped in my head!

Wonderwoman

December 2nd, 2009
11:51 am

SlimOne- How much would I get to keep my mouth shut? How many zeros. (just kidding)
A cheating agreement won’t work, bc people would tell just out of spite.

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
11:52 am

I call it the way I see it and the way it happened So true Professor.

The whole truth and nothing but the truth. It’s not my fault that your truth is that you were an ahole.

Leggs: Now that is a very touchy situation… breaks my heart to hear about these DL bruthas.. smh

Leggs

December 2nd, 2009
11:56 am

@Dream_n, the woman was crying and crying and crying! I guess I couldn’t say I had a “knee jerk” reaction when the cops find you with my heels in both your eyes!

Dan

December 2nd, 2009
11:56 am

Actually WW, it would.

A binding confidentiality agreement with monetary penalities required by the consenting party (the chick or dude signing) and spite won’t help bankruptcy.

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
11:57 am

Leggs, I hope that is not true! I would have given him the business

lurkster

December 2nd, 2009
11:59 am

From what I heard on the radio there is more than one women that has come forth.

Tiger Woods is a mere mortal. Commonly, husbands that are on point in every aspect of the marriage, the great provider, the wonderous man, never giving reasons to doubt are the ones to watch. Most likely to remain loyal are the ones that aren’t sure of themselves and take every means to remain true would more than likely stand the test. Yes cheating is a choice but one that’s often hard to resist. For every man that could do it and not get caught, iron clad, would. No exceptions as most would like to believe.

SlimOne

December 2nd, 2009
12:02 pm

@Wonderwoman – I mean they need something like a confidentiality agreement listing the 3 main next of kin related to the individual they plan on sleeping with. So there would have to be some sort of huge penalty if they were to tell.

But now that I think of it, they either should stop cheating or stop being so willy nilly about what they do…i.e, taking pics, leaving voicemails, buying things in both of their names, and most importantly STOP RAW DAWGIN THE SIDELINE CHICKS!!!

Wonderwoman

December 2nd, 2009
12:02 pm

Dan- Eventually a persons dirt will come out some kind of way, I don’t care if an agreement is signed. Like my grandmama would say:’what is done in the dark will come to the light’.

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
12:02 pm

Leggs, yes I am silly, but for some reason I am not on my game today…I am working in the serious mode and it has put a lid on my creative jokes…I will probably let the lid off, perhaps later today.

Dream~I refuse to dress up some joker or event to make his trifling-cheating-Ike-Turner-a-women.com azz look like a respectable gentleman. The hell with all that I will call his do nothing azz out. Likewise I give my ex’s their props just the same…I refuse to make sugar out of sh!t

Dan

December 2nd, 2009
12:07 pm

@WW

My gramma used to say that too. Granddaddy would say “that’s why you bury it, just to make sure”.

@Slim

Rawdogging the side piece? Come on, son! Who does that?

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 2nd, 2009
12:07 pm

He was on the DL and had been for five years and is HIV positive…Then he makes her stop the car, he gets out because he feels she is not being sensitive to his feelings/needs while he is pouring his heart out about who he truly us.

See that right there is a bytch made move on his part from several angles: First he should’ve told her that a loooong time ago OR just never married her in the first place and lastly his making HER pull ove b.c SHE isn’t being sensitive to HIM…how selfish and f***ed is that. He wasnt being sensitive to HER needs where his “man” was concerned now was he? My “Inner Ike” woulda been on that fool in the middle of rush hour for real.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
12:09 pm

Leggs – I was listenig to that again this morning and they had that Dl Author on there it was crazy.. Talking bout we need more dialouge.. Fool the only dialouge we need is you Gay and stop sleeping with women.. You aint Bisexual.. You Gay..

Luvbug

December 2nd, 2009
12:11 pm

He was on the DL and had been for five years and is HIV positive.

Not to jump in your convo, but …Many prayers to her and to their children (if any). The homosexual issue is one thing (people live how they want to), but the lying and cheating and unprotected sex (unprotected sodomy sex)…lost for words. I do not understand! I do not understand!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 2nd, 2009
12:11 pm

Rawdogging the side piece? Come on, son! Who does that?

Are yo for real? Some men will “raw dog” a perfect stranger so some side na na will for sure get it. What’s the name of that politician that just got busted ’cause his mistress just had his baby? Hell that’s been happening…now that I think on it Jesse Jackson has a daughter with his mistress,too.

Gina

December 2nd, 2009
12:12 pm

Under no circumstances do I do do overs. Unless we chance upon each other some years down the road and we’ve gone full circle from those things that caused the demise, no way hosea

SlimOne

December 2nd, 2009
12:12 pm

@Dan I’m assuming that you meant to say, “Rawdogging the side piece? Come on, son! Who DOESN’T do that?”

Just like with Kobe, wasn’t his ‘lil soldiers’ found in that chicks underwear along with some other guys babymakingjuice??

Or how bout, celebs that end up with this other babies…OH and even though Lil Wayne isn’t married, why does he have like 3 chicks pregnant??

lurkster

December 2nd, 2009
12:13 pm

Rawdogging the side piece? Come on, son! Who does that?

Most

Professor

December 2nd, 2009
12:13 pm

Sassy, my “Inner Ike” would have stomped him to hell…because if he has been doing this for 5 years you just know you are HIV so he would have been tortured like Abu Ghraib

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
12:14 pm

Leggs – Why is is to hard for married men to keep their rubbery penises in their pants!?!

Umm Penises shouldnt be rubbery.. Mine aint.. Should feel like cold Steel in the Hour of Chaos..

Raqi...Seeking Residence Outside of Atlanta

December 2nd, 2009
12:14 pm

How many of you are going to jail for murder???

Raqi jumping up and down on the desk waving a neon sign that says “Jail bound”.

He would not have to had get out of the car, I would have beat his arse out with the heel on my shoe.

Dream_n--1 day until lil dreams bday

December 2nd, 2009
12:15 pm

If she decides to take him back, she not only has to worry about him cheating with women/but men too… but the icing on the cake is having to deal with the fact that she may have aids… Which I know was devasting to her…

Dan

December 2nd, 2009
12:16 pm

And see- where I’m from, we don’t do those kinds of things.

Raw dog the ‘one’ and she becomes ‘the only’

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 2nd, 2009
12:17 pm

Prof – Oh its true… You shouldve heard how that chick was balling on the air.. She was crushed called him a dirty bastard and evertyhing.. She was crying her eyes out and you could feel the pain in her voice.. The sad part is dude knew for two years..

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 2nd, 2009
12:20 pm

Elin should have kept that ish in the house if she’s not leaving Eldrick.
(Effed up statement, but true nonetheless.)

LURKER

December 2nd, 2009
12:20 pm

I am not sure why anyone is put on a pedestal, no one knows what anyone one of us do in the dark until it comes to the light! America has jaded so many into thinking those who have money are suppose to lead morally better lives then the rest of the country.

On that note: WD are you getting all you need from the youngster? :wink:

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
12:20 pm

@Leggs:
Now, 4 a husband cheating with another man DL,thats worse than cheating with a woman,dont u think….??
being passed over coz he finds another man’s arse more appealing??

Daaaamn!!

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
12:23 pm

Elin should have kept that ish in the house if she’s not leaving Eldrick

Scool,she did,untill he feigned anger after she confronted her,went to the car,as if to leave the home temporarily,without shoes on mind u…

Then crashed…

It wasnt Erin’s fault..it was Tiger’s inability to handle his being caught with his pants down! :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 2nd, 2009
12:24 pm

its like a friend of mine posted on FB yesterday: 5 people get swine flu and everybody is washing hands/wearing masks but a gazillion people have AIDS and people still arent wearing condoms. Go figure.

Melo

December 2nd, 2009
12:26 pm

deal with the fact that she may have aids…

Aids is when u get sick of the virus Dream_n

Being HIV positive and having Aids are 2 diff things..