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Bad Romance

It doesn’t matter how many times Lady Gaga sings it, being caught in a bad romance is like being stuck on a broken carousel being operated by an evil clown. The worst part of it is that we willingly hop on the ride and subject ourselves to the vicious cycle of drama.

You know what they say, the first step is admitting you have a problem. So admit it.  The bad romances you end up with is partly because you are attracting what you are putting out there.  When you have low self-esteem, lack confidence and believe that you don’t deserve better, you don’t get any better. This shows in the choices you make in people that you let occupy your mental space and time.

I was guilty of doing this and it wasn’t until I figured out how great I am  (no, seriously I was slow to realize it) that I started to discover what it was like to date someone else who is great. I had to go through too many bad romances but you don’t have to!

First, how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when it’s bad? It may sound like a strange question but a lot of times we don’t know until it’s too late how bad it is.

Second, how do you get off the cycle of bad romances? What has worked for you?

Third, once you are in a good position to find a good romance, how do you avoid messing it up?  There are definitely some adjustments to be made when you are so used to the bad romances from your past. When it is good, relaxing into it and keeping the drama at bay could be challenging but not impossible.

Getting off the bad romance carousel before 2010? Yes, please! Let’s Discuss

322 comments Add your comment

Dan

December 1st, 2009
8:15 am

WD, I usually take your point but, a “bad” romance is a misnomer at best.

If you’re dealing or in a relationship that is more work than fun, then that’s a bad decision (getting in/being in that relationship). To assign arbitrary power (”end up in”) to a choice is aviodance at best and denial at worst.

I get that you’re finding yourself in a good and healthy relationship (congrats by the way), but make an honest accounting of choices that led you to the good and the bad so that you don’t “end up in” another “bad” romance.

My2cents.

Good morning all

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
8:56 am

Dan, I think I need one more cup of coffee before I can even ATTEMPT to digest what you said. LOL

SexyCool - It is what it is.

December 1st, 2009
9:01 am

Three Words Daily – Love yourself well.

SexyCool - It is what it is.

December 1st, 2009
9:04 am

Raqi...À l'intérieur et hors

December 1st, 2009
9:18 am

Been there, done that. Bad romance for me was that relationship that felt so right but it was so wrong. And bad. The start of it elated me and the end of it crushed me.

I am very much enjoying my good romance that I have now. It’s all right.

ImAPeach404

December 1st, 2009
9:19 am

First, how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when it’s bad?

I would define a bad romance as one that leaves you unfulfilled. Possibly one in which you give more than you get. However, determining if you are unfulfilled is a bit difficult – for me anyway. I think the best way I’ve heard things described is from “Why Did I Get Married”… the 80-20 Rule. That idea is very palpable to me. I’m not going to get 100% of what I want. I’m just not. I have to decide if what i’m missing is greater than what i’m getting.

In my current situation I feel a little unfulfilled at times and struggle with the 80-20 thing. Would I say it’s a bad romance? Nope. But if things don’t work out its possible I’d be left with that feeling…

Raqi...À l'intérieur et hors

December 1st, 2009
9:19 am

Bad romance is that situation Leggs was talking about yesterday.

SexyCool - It is what it is.

December 1st, 2009
9:21 am

I ‘think’ Dan is saying that ‘romance’ shouldn’t be bad, but a relationship can.

Dan

December 1st, 2009
9:27 am

@SC

Thanks. But the crux of what I said was that choices make a “bad” romance. So when you get in a “good” one, don’t repeat the same mistakes.

Raqi...À l'intérieur et hors

December 1st, 2009
9:28 am

Peachy that 80-20 applies to us all. The key is what makes up the 80 and what makes up the 20. If the 80 consist of the traits and things that are most important in a relationship and that outside of the superficial then it works. That 20 should be left for the shallowness of us all. The things that we may like but it will not make or break the relationship.

None of us are perfect and there will always be something about our mates that we find that we do not like, but as long as I have those things that are most important to me in having a relationship that other is just not that important.

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
9:28 am

My Marriage was a bad romance.. It started out wonderful but ended with explosions and flames.. Today I see me as a free person.. Not just out of a relationship free but free from all the nonsense of going thru the motions. I see myself with someone great but even better than that I see myself being great for them. I took accountaility of what I did wrong in th relationsship and will not make the same mistakes again. I would like to thank my EX for making me a better Man for my next “Latest Greatest Inspriation”.. Hmmmmmm I wonder if I should tell her that… ;-)

Raqi...À l'intérieur et hors

December 1st, 2009
9:29 am

SexyCool, I’m glad you understood it. LOL I was totally lost.

Dan

December 1st, 2009
9:30 am

Hey ladies, next time you feel insecure about the booty, look what other women are risking to get it:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/30/solange-magnano-argentina_n_374716.html

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
9:31 am

Dan – I fools with you Homeboi.. I know you get a hard time but dude seriously you keep it 100..

SexyCool - It is what it is.

December 1st, 2009
9:36 am

I was one who kept getting into bad relationships because I kept choosing the wrong dudes for the wrong reasons and even sometimes, for no reason. Then, I kept staying in those bad relationships because I hadn’t learned how to run like the wind when those warning flags started popping up and kept showing up and then took up residence in the relationship.

I’ve learned better. So, I’m doing better. Have I learned enough of what NOT to do to be successful? Well, time will tell.

Dan

December 1st, 2009
9:39 am

Preciate it DK, likewise

Chink

December 1st, 2009
9:42 am

Whats the top ten signs your in a bad romance…

WD I dont agree with “you get what you attract” It just is what it is sometimes.

Question are males the only species that need space..is it unacceptable for a female to ask for space??

Melo

December 1st, 2009
9:43 am

But if things don’t work out its possible I’d be left with that feeling…

Thats it!!

It started out wonderful but ended with explosions and flames..
smetimes u dont know u are in a bad romance until u Out..

DK, why is that..did u change,did she change,what made ur initial choice,which seemed good,suddenly bad….???

I dont think there are any easy answers out there..the key is just to try and find smebody with whom u enjoy stuff and their company and let things fall wherever they may….

Smetimes ple grow out of that “initial person” or “being”,the one u met and become smething else after u married or tgether for a long time.U cannot attribute that “mistake” to urself per se nor to bad choices..its just how things work out in lyfe with some pple.

Good Relationships and romance are more to do with Luck,coincidence,destiny and a Looooooooong,looooong rope of compromise.

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
9:44 am

Hmmm…

Bad Romance??

Yup, been in one of those and I’m making an effort not to ever find myself in a bunch of crap like that again. It’s all about taking from your experience and applying what you’ve learned. It’s a bad cycle to continue to go through numerous relationships that are not in your best interest. Why put yourself through that type of torture, time and time again… Once you’re out, take the necessary steps to stay out of those relationships and at the first red flag.. chuck the deuces….

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
9:50 am

Melo – We stopped communicating and that was the beginning of the end..

SexyCool - It is what it is.

December 1st, 2009
9:51 am

Before I learned better, I thought that I kept experiencing bad relationships because “that’s how men are.” Once I realized my responsibility and mistakes in my failed relationships, I began to see improvement.

i'm swiss

December 1st, 2009
9:57 am

“…Looooooooong,looooong rope of compromise.”

I read “loooooooong, looooooooong rope of….” and would have bet the farm that Melo was headed in a completely different direction with that…. :lol:

See the expectations you’ve set, Melo? :lol:

Melo

December 1st, 2009
10:08 am

The only bad romance i can think of is like the one Leggs described about her friend.

From the very beginning, girl aint recognizing game,thats bad.If she pushes it and dude stays stuck with her,she may feel happy but it will be most likely coz the guy is geting easy pudsy,not becoz he likes it..see thats a bad romance from jump.

Other than that,the only thing we can do as pple is to pick our poison and target the type of pple we wld rather date,stick with it and let the chips fall where ever.
If all of us were that precise in our choices,u wldnt have all these ugly tales of drama u hear in divorce or break-up situations….Good Relationships/Romances Gone Bad.

It just tell u(us) that we are not really in control of the outcome.

Good morning folks!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
10:14 am

Question are males the only species that need space..is it unacceptable for a female to ask for space??

No I don’t think so Chink….why do you think it’s inappropriate for one to ask for what they need?….albeit if the reason they’re asking for “space” seems shady then that’s another Oprah.

On topic: I agree with Peach on that one b/c I’ve been in relationships where I didn’t feel fulfilled and gave more than I received and just a host of other red flags that I chose to ignore b/c I was in love. Once you know better you MUST do better.

mqew

December 1st, 2009
10:18 am

Chink – I agree, it’s your response after you know.

And it’s what SCool said – It’s running for dear life when flags pop up.

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
10:19 am

Good morning. Yes, Raqi, while reading the topic I thought of my friend. I put on my “logic cap” last night as was suggested because she called me around 7:30 and whined. I can stand a whining woman and told her so. I had to ask how the heck did she let this man get under her skin so quickly. She was moved by their countless hours of convo and how open he was to her with his feelings, etc. Told her she needs to hone in on the art of deception! Anyway, she text then called me this morning to keep her from texting and calling him. I see I will get tired of this quickly.

Ok, bad romance. Personally, once getting out of one I try very, very hard not to get back into one. Main reason why I don’t date all that step to me! You have to be careful and you just can’t go out with someone simply because they asked you.

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
10:20 am

If all of us were that precise in our choices,u wldnt have all these ugly tales of drama u hear in divorce or break-up situations

And that’s the problem. Settling is a word that many have come accustomed to. Why not be precise. We’re picky in everything else in our lives. Where we live, what we drive, what we wear, or what we choose to put in our mouths(don’t go there Melo)

Why not be precise about who we are choosing to spend our time with. We only have limited time on earth and wasting energy on someone who is nothing but a case of bad herpes is not smart.

That goes for starting a union or just being in a relationship. We need to stop looking past the flaws that are staring us un the face. Stop trying to compromise on things you know you can’t, and then in the end, end up resenting that person. Stop loosing yourself in order to please another person. Stop thiking that one day they will change, when it’s been 2 yrs. Stop wallowing in the fact that you just might be alone for a while. Stop thinking that you can’t make it on your own. Stop needing someone to validate your existance.

If we start being picky with whom we decide to let into our personal space, we can limit the heartaches/heartbreaks.

mqew

December 1st, 2009
10:21 am

I said this first –

WD – I don’t know if I agree with this—–> The bad romances you end up with is partly because you are attracting what you are putting out there. When you have low self-esteem, lack confidence etc etc etc <—-
AS, some people are just plain deceptive and very very very good at being deceptive. I mean after they've found out they've been hoodwinked bamboozled and hornswoggled, the onus is on them to kick rocks!!!

ImAPeach404

December 1st, 2009
10:22 am

@Chink – I agree with you about sometimes it just is what it is. I know my heart and my intentions but that hasn’t prevented me from running into a bunch of a-holes.

We stopped communicating and that was the beginning of the end..

You know, this frightens me like nothing else!!! It makes me so sad/afraid when I see couples at dinner and they say more to the server than they say to each other. How does this happen?

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
10:23 am

Chink – Asking for space is BS cause you already know you dont want to be in the relationship.. Its unfair to the other person.. Asking for space is another one of those breaking shady moments I spoke about. Space does just that separates the two people and lets them move in opposite directions.. It may make the heart grow fonder but in all likelyhood it makes the heart grow cold for that person because you begin to see you dont have to have drama in your life..

Luvbug

December 1st, 2009
10:26 am

how do you get off the cycle of bad romances?

Based on my record…I am very honest about my intentions and expectations during every stage of my relationships…sometimes it helps, other times it hinders…I give a guy all the info he needs to make a decision…Again – based on my record – I’ve never stayed in a relationship that I’ve felt bad in (common annoyances excluded)…any major character issues that surface, I resolve with a good bye…Cheating? No discussion necessary…I’m gone.

I’ve hurt some feeling…I’ve had my feeling hurt…in my experience it’s equaled out…mainly because until about a year ago, no guy (I don’t care how perfect for me) had a chance of getting my heart…I just wasn’t ready.

I wish I could have put a few on hold until I was…but as usual, I can’t control life.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
10:27 am

If all of us were that precise in our choices,

Dream_n??

the operative word is “that”…

We can be picky but there is no way(i bet u my house) u can find anybody that is 100% of what u like..NO WAY..that is what “that precise” entailed.
Well,u can wait for ever and ever if like…

Be a NUN :lol:

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
10:28 am

First, how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when it’s bad?

I define a bad romance as a situation that looks good on the outside but that has a lot of issues inside and is just hard to manage. It feels like another task/job rather than something that should be the icing on the cake. I know when it is bad when you two argue and are combatitive about everything.

ImAPeach404

In my current situation I feel a little unfulfilled at times

What area are you feeling unfulfilled if you can put it out there?

Dan

December 1st, 2009
10:28 am

@Dream

Color me surprised by your 10:20.

I really didn’t think folks did/do that. Why would you change who you are for someone else?

Dag, mayne, that sounds a little lost to me.

Melo touched on the “initial person” theme too. Flaws and all, what is the theory behind creating another identity to impress someone that may not be worth it?

I know from Day 1 that I ain’t everyone’s cup of tea, so why hide it?

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
10:28 am

Chink – also people talk about being a man or a woman about the situation.. This is the time to show what you are.. Not you per se but you get it.. If you want space think about it and make the decision to go your separate ways cause keeping that person around until you have moved on is hurtful because 9 times out of 10 they still want the relationship. This door leads to cheating lane.. Dont be a Pu$$y or a coward make a decision and live with it.. At least this way no one else influenced your decision..

mqew

December 1st, 2009
10:30 am

WOW I agree with DK – Ummm yeah ASKING for space is BS. While absence makes the heart grow fonder it is not the same as me asking my SO to kick rocks for a sec. That’s not what that old adage means.

WTHeezy happened to my first post?

ImAPeach404

December 1st, 2009
10:31 am

Once you know better you MUST do better.

Hmmmm… so does this apply to knowing of something that your S/O would like in the relationship? i.e – them saying “It upsets me when you don’t xyz” and “xyz” is something you’re not fully on board with or don’t want to do. Should knowing that by not doing “xyz” upsets your S/O make you do better in that area???

@Leggs – can you direct me to the post about your friend from yesterday (the time you posted it)? Now im curious!

I’ve realized that anything can seem important if it’s the one thing thats missing…

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
10:32 am

IDK

That 10:23 is on point.

That whole notion of needing space for the most part is the beginning of the end. You get that space, and as DK said, you realize that you can really deal w/out all the unnecessary drama. You find out that you are in a good mood more often than a bad one.. You tend to walk with an extra humph in your step… Noe if you need time to sort things out, that’s not necessarily a bad thing, but that time can open your eyes.. believe me.

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
10:32 am

Peach – It happens because instead of dealing with minor issues you overlook stuff and not address it.. Then as soon as the next issue arises you are on one from the last episode, soooo.. It then becomes easier just not to talk to the person to minimize the BS..

Melo

December 1st, 2009
10:35 am

“I need some space” means “I want Out”

Just say it!

Raqi...À l'intérieur et hors

December 1st, 2009
10:35 am

Infamous I agree that the “needing space” commits or excuses can be filed under the BS category. If a person is no longer interested they should state it and move on.

I also agree with statement about the lose of communication being the beginning of the end. Communication in relationships is very important. It’s how you deal. When it’s gone the relationship is pretty much over.

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
10:36 am

Oh and on the space thing.. Last one.. You can get the space and that other person might not wanna come back.. They might enjoy the space more than you.. then you all like oh Ive thought about it and I miss you to find out they dont miss you. Space is a MF.. Work it out or get on gone.. The Yo-yo effect is terrible.

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
10:37 am

Melo

Of course noone is ever 100% of what you are looking for…smh

I’m talking about the BS that you know you can walk away from, but choose to stay and roll around in. I know there’s noone perfect out there..come on now. That’s not what I’m saying at all.

And I’ll pass on the NUN job… :lol:

mqew

December 1st, 2009
10:37 am

DreamN – Yeah it sounds a lil dream-landish. Picky hunh? Ummmm I’m with melo – no one will be OneHunnit.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
10:39 am

Morning Ya’ll

Agreeing with Infamous, asking for space is selfish. Why should I sit back and hang in limbo while you pretend to be indecisive?? Besides how is space defined? Can I date other people while you take advantage of your ’space’ or vice versa? That sounds like you are stalling and its not fair to your SO.

On topic: bad romance? Bad relationship yes, but I dont know about a bad romance

The Truth-Somewhere in the desert playing

December 1st, 2009
10:39 am

Good mornig good people.

On topic: My “relationship from hell” lasted on and off for 4 years. The good thing is I saw early on some things she did to a cousin and also a good friend so I mentally told myself that this one wasnt going to be smooth. Really. The booty was hot though and as long as it kept coming I could put up with alot. Looking back though she was a blip on the screen. For the most part I’ve dated some pretty nice women. Even my marriage wasnt bad, though a few bad weeks and it was over. So goes love. LOL

Hey Chink, 2 things. You really do get what you put out and asking for space is pre bye bye talk. LMAO

mqew

December 1st, 2009
10:46 am

OK so what I said in my first post is –

I disagree with WD that you don’t ALWAYS get what you put out. Some people are just extremely deceptive and extremely good at being deceptive. SO, after the deceit is out, the onus is that person to kick rocks ASAP!

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
10:46 am

I really didn’t think folks did/do that. Why would you change who you are for someone else?

Uhh yea Dan it happens… If we have a 30 something yr old going Coo Coo for Coa Coa puffs over a 4 hr rump session.. then this is not that hard to belive..

(no offense to your friend Leggs)

Dan

December 1st, 2009
10:47 am

@Truth

How much longer you got over there?

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
10:48 am

Hey Truth, Glad you could pop in! How is the desert?

ImAPeach404

December 1st, 2009
10:49 am

It may make the heart grow fonder but in all likelyhood it makes the heart grow cold for that person because you begin to see you dont have to have drama in your life.. AGREED!!!

@ M. – I don’t mind… my main issue right now is the calling. We used to talk ALL the dang-on time. Lots of communication during the work day, after work, all night. Texting when we weren’t talking. I like that, lol. But, it has slowed down. And it leaves me a little unfulfilled. I really enjoy talking to him and I miss the frequent communication. It’s VERY simple and in the grand scheme of things… it’s really my only complaint. I’ve spoken on it and he knows I have issue with it. It’s not enough to make me say “eff it” and stop talking to him and I see him (for a short while) making an effort. The two things that bothered me was when he said “I’m not going to check in” – I dont like that he felt he was “checking in” and the second is that I feel like you shouldn’t start things you cannot keep up.

Thats all… nothing huge :)

Dan

December 1st, 2009
10:50 am

@Dream

I’m not speaking about the people that would mislead you, I’m talking about self deception. The kind that leads to “I’ll deal with it for a little while, (s)he’ll change.”

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
10:50 am

Truth – Honestly my marriage didnt have to end badly we just kept sticking in there trying to faux work on it. Thus tearing it to h3ll.. The key is to end a relationship before it gets all torn to h3ll because its no coming back from that. Respect and everything else goes out the window.. When you dont do it right there is really no way you can be cool until time has healed all wounds.. Then it aint even cool its just whatever you call it..

mqew

December 1st, 2009
10:51 am

Hey Truth – Haven’t read you in awhile… Hope all is well :-)

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
10:52 am

Truth – Oh yeah bring me back a slew of Muslim wives.. I need a harim that understands its all about Daddy D.. Thank you Good Sir and keep your head down and if it gets too hectic.. Run Forrest Run!!

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
10:53 am

Smh, Smh, Smh…..

People don’t want to be picky about who the lay down with/spend their time with, but they wanna blow a fuse if someone dares to bring them out grape jelly instead of strawberry….

and especially if you’ve been in numerous or even one “bad romances/relationships”…

I need this clarrified for me.. because something is just not adding up..

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
10:56 am

Hi!…

well, well, well…methinks someone a.k.a. Ali is extracting the fatty, and telling the real deal about about giving your relationship “space” and calling it like it is…

if we are an “item” how does “space” make our relationship stronger? giving you a “break”, and allowing you “space” are two different playing fields…you have to watch for which fire you’re playing with.

u can find anybody that is 100% of what u like..NO WAY..

Melo

See, this is what sooo true…’n what’s even more genuine about this is that once we realize it, and live according to the fact that we’ll not get everything that we WANT, that our most needed desires will be fulfilled!…love, and realtionship…

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
10:56 am

@ Dan

That stil happens too, believe it or not.. Think about the most outlandish dilema, dealing with a relationship and I can guarantee you someone is going through it/livin it/breathing it…

It’s not healthy, but its life.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
10:56 am

Infamous – “The key is to end a relationship before it gets all torn to h3ll because its no coming back from that.” I had to repost that b/c that is that for real one hunnit!

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
10:58 am

Peach – Those two things can lead to a communication breakdown.. Dont let resentment set in cause then its “I dont give a Fcuk!” Said in my West coast Cali lingo

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
11:01 am

Wow, gone for a few and have a lot to read.

@ImAPeach ~ started at 11:25.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
11:02 am

@ImAPeach404

That’s an interesting issue but not a big issue. Here is my feeling: I think he wants to keep it fresh and not calling as much is a good way of doing that. People like things that are rare. Also, he probably does not want to feel like he is sweating you either. In his mind, you guys will at some point run out of things to talk about. He probably does not want to come across as boring also. Like you said, you like to talk on the phone, so that works for you but I am wondering what made the calls slow down though. Your thoughts?

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:03 am

@ Peach – I can see where to non communcation would be an issue…if you’re doing all the communicating and he’s thinking it’s “checking in”…then that’s a problem.

gotta nip that!

mqew

December 1st, 2009
11:03 am

DreamN I took what you said as you trying to find that ‘perfect’ person. Not that you were trying not to be in a bad relationship. Perhaps I read you wrong.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
11:04 am

Dream_n??

u and i are arguing about sup[posedly diff things.

I said pple cannot be 100%, or “that” precise..

U said “No Melo”, they can be picky……..

I agree on picky, I dont agree on 100% precision,which was my initial stance.U agree in ur 10.37. Som None changed 4 me.

Make sense??

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:04 am

sorry for the bold tag, guys…

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
11:04 am

Dream – Come on babe.. Seriously the jelly reference missed me..

Look if youve been in one or more bad relationship it doesnt make you a bad person. It doesnt make them a bad person.. I mean you two might be at different points in your life..

I want you to come back and say that after you next relationship fails cause it will thn somewhere along the way you find the person that is right for you.. Its trial and error and you seem to be missing the trials.. You are a candidate for an easy skankin.. Somebody gone have you with your booty sideways talkin bout “I know I shouldnt be doin this”

The Truth-Somewhere in the desert playing

December 1st, 2009
11:05 am

Dan, whats up dude? I’ll be over here for 2 more years. I had some major wounds and being over here gives me the best chance to recover. You can save a lot of loot over here so I’ll stay. LOL

Mo, I’m going to let you in on a secret. The desert gets cold. The temps dropping fast. How’s the short one doing? You have him involved in something for the winter?

Infamous, check your mail next week. I’m dropping 6 hotties dressed in all black in a box for you. Oh yeah, these models have been trained all their lives to please. Take a moment to catch up on your rest, you’re gonna need it. LOL

Peach,? Does the closeness of the relationship not replace the need to talk all the time? As things go on there’s naturally less to talk about as daily life and the newness wears off. Thing is its replaces with a closeness thar fills in the wuiet moments. Or you could just go out and do something “different” to jump start things again.

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
11:06 am

Dont let resentment set in cause then its “I dont give a Fcuk!” Excellent point. Walking around with bitterness is a wasted emotion. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, put a smile on your face and ENJOY with or without a partner. Like my friend, she’s letting a man define her existence as a woman! P o p p y c o c k! (Had to split up the word cuz blog machine frowns on the last four letters.)

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:07 am

M. Well, if it comes across as nagging, I can see his side too.

Is that what you really wanna ask Peach?

is what i sense.

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
11:09 am

Truth – Im stretchin now, doin my 123 waybacks and joggin in place.. I got on my Dennis Rodman shorts with my man hanging out the bottom.. I got something for em alright..

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:11 am

a non gender base quote but said by many…—>”i know i shouldn’t be doing this”….and i cain’t help but laugh when i hear it…

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
11:11 am

@Cemeeli

That’s not what I wanted to ask at all. If I wanted to, I would have asked. I am the one that asked her what issue was unfulfilling to her anyway.

I think Peach meant that she likes to talk and communicate with him on the regualar and it slowed down and she wants to know why.

I just think the newness is wearing off maybe…That’s my take.

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
11:12 am

Peach – When he stops by today as soon as he comes in dont say anything, just drop and give him a presidential.. That’ll get him taking again..

Dan

December 1st, 2009
11:13 am

@Truth

Stay up bruh. Get that dough.

@Peach

I’mma agree with Truth on this one. I really like the part of the relationship when I don’t feel the need to ‘entertain’ with conversation, etc.

I get that you ladies like to share, but it gets to be a bit much. Maybe the pullback is his way of saying that. (Of course, asking him would be the best way of finding out)

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
11:14 am

Peach – and push him up against the door too like you taking it from him.. If it doesnt work for him it sure works for me and we can talk tak talk and talk some more.. Im just saying..

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
11:15 am

mqew & Melo : I think my intial post was misunderstood, but yes we agree on the noone is 100%… :grin:

As for Dk.. smh

I’m not missing the trails or errors.. My post was referencing me not dealing with bs that most of us women continue to stand for in a relatonship to try and make it work. I’m talking about being picky as to who you decide to let in. Letting in someone that is equally yolked with you, not just because they look or smell good. I’m talking about getting into a relationship based upon mutual interest, respect, common goals. i don’t think that’s too much to ask for..

That’s the problem now.. most of us are not looking at the big picture, we’re fiaxated on the small detail.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
11:16 am

Truth – I heard the desert gets cold! I remember when you complaining about it being a 130 degrees out there! Lil Mo just finished soccer and now its time for basketball, then another round of teeball. Im loving it!

Cemeeli – I order my popcorn from that site this weekend! I cant wait!

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
11:17 am

Cee – You know you out there bad when you put the OOO on it.. “OOOO I know I shouldnt be doin this”

THE INFAMOUS DK

December 1st, 2009
11:19 am

Dream – Ok I can dig the mutual interest and blah blah blah. But please let me know when you say those words.. so I can say “Dream now turn ya booty the ther way.”

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:20 am

M. okay guy….It all just ties back to the relationship launguage…she’s more of a verbalizer and maybe he’s different and doesn’t as much…

See Truth’s respone about that here: Does the closeness of the relationship not replace the need to talk all the time? Thing is its replaces with a closeness that fills in the quiet moments. Or you could just go out and do something “different” to jump start things again

The closeness of the realtionship could very well trump his desire to “talk” alot.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:23 am

Ali :) yup that “OOOOOH” gets you – I knew i shouldn’t be doing some things i’ve done…Then hey, it’s all in how you recover!

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
11:24 am

“Dream now turn ya booty the ther way.”

Okay.. I’m done. All I can do is laugh.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
11:26 am

I think the logical qstion to ask Peach is,”do u feel insecure in any way??”

Insecure pple,in ma view are the ones who may feel the need for constant talking coz it gives them the satisfaction that “HES THERE” :arrow:

I know that,being the luv doc that I am.

Peach???…..(doing the Ryan CAMERON FRIDAY SONG)

Now its on YOU!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:28 am

Shawty by Nature I seen about 5 or 10 pop corn canisters i want. But then they are all the basic flavors…That site was better.

reminds me of Dale & Thomas…i actually have their account…i wonder if they’d send some new product samples like they’ve have before.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
11:29 am

@Peach
“the second is that I feel like you shouldn’t start things you cannot keep up. ”

@Cemeeli

“she’s more of a verbalizer and maybe he’s different and doesn’t as much…”

I guess the issue is that Peach wonders what happened because he started off texting, calling, all the time etc and then he just slowed down. Like I said, it may be getting to routine and you guys need to switch it up.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
11:29 am

Cee – What the Heezy apparently im Ali now.. Ok cause i do feel like Im the greatest of all tiiiiiiimmmmmeee!!

SexyCool - It is what it is.

December 1st, 2009
11:30 am

Past a quick check in here and there, TheDude and I don’t talk on the phone or text very often. I actually appreciate it.

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
11:34 am

M.

I’m with you dude, that newness does go away.. All that texting and calling in the beginning gradually fades away. That doesn’t mean he’s not still into ya.. It just means that we are now getting over the 1st phase of giddiniess (sp?) and now its time to get down to business…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
11:36 am

Dream – Well Im an Aquarius, I like to ride my bike, like fast cars love new experiences and most of all I like spooning on a nice firm slim fully packed arse..

The Truth-Somewhere in the desert playing

December 1st, 2009
11:37 am

Infamous, lmao.

Peach, personally I love a woman that can laugh and talk but can enjoy a good quiet moment too. A little thing I do is when we’re driving I just stop talkin to see if there is an uncomfortable feeling. If so our spirits just may not be compatible, for whatever reason. Btw, I recommend you follow Infamous’s suggestion.

Mo, I can stand the cold because I can put on clothes to fight it. The heat is just plain wrong. Are you going to put him in something like music or ballet classes too. One thing I wish I had done as a child is learn some musical instrument, mostly because my singing skills just aren’t what I’d like them to be. Ok, its bad.

ImAPeach404

December 1st, 2009
11:37 am

@Leggs – thanks!

@ M. – I do know it’s not a big issue so I try not to make it such. However, I cannot help how it makes me feel. And actually, I hate talking on the phone but I really enjoy him so…
I cannot really say why they slowed down. He says he’s busy at work during this time of the year – fine. I can dig it. But, it’s hard not to think it’s something else. It could be anything. It could be nothing. It could be exactly what he says it is. Not really sure.

@Cee – exactly! I hate the fact that he views it as “checking in” and not just calling. I’m guessing thats something he’s brought along from his last relationship but it’s hard to say. Its all about perception and I dont see it as checking in. I just don’t.

Does the closeness of the relationship not replace the need to talk all the time? …Or you could just go out and do something “different” to jump start things again.

@Truth – I do think we are very close and that helps me not complain so much :) I try to focus on the time that when I start feeling unfulfilled. Something different like what???

trying to keep up! work is kicking my tail this morning :(

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:38 am

“Ali” came to mind when i read the Locs, for some reason…

btw – My favorite quote from Ali is: “I hated every minute of training, but I said, “Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”

SexyCool - It is what it is.

December 1st, 2009
11:39 am

But the thing that’s different from what Peach is talking about is – that’s how we have been from jump.

My advice is to not give phone calls and text messages that much value. What you focus on is what will become a problem. Like I’ve said in the past week, it’s the little foxes that spoil the vine. If everything else is kosher in y’alls sht, then this is definitely a little fox.

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
11:40 am

Well DK I’m a Capricorn, I like to ride on the back of bikes, I too enjoy fast cars, new expriences excite me, and we can definately do some spooning :grin:

MsM

December 1st, 2009
11:40 am

Infamous – “The key is to end a relationship before it gets all torn to h3ll because its no coming back from that.” My ex-husband could not understand this concept. When I decided I wanted a divorce, I really tried to talk to him… we’d had a lot of good years, and we should leave the marriage decently and in order the way we went in. I told him to be careful what he said or did to me, but did he listen? I don’t even LIKE him a little!

Melo

December 1st, 2009
11:40 am

Peach/Dream_n

my Queen calls me too smetimes when im doing my reports and talking to u guys..

I just blow her off and say im busy coz shes that touchy feely type too,smetimes…

oh maybe its just a female thing..esp after u hit that booty last nite..

SWISS?? u can chime in..we on topic now…booteeey! :lol:

DK Aquarius too here! my other lady,Mytwo,knows that :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
11:41 am

Dream – Who am I kidding i love spooning on a nice firm Arse no matter the size..

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
11:43 am

If everything else is kosher in y’alls sht, then this is definitely a little fox.

Very true SexyC…..

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
11:44 am

Cemeeli – My sister and I both ordered a canister (or two). It was harder trying to decide what flavors to get.

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
11:46 am

Unless you think this is indicative of a bigger issue, let this one ride, folk.

MsM

December 1st, 2009
11:47 am

@ Peach… I know what you mean about the slowing of calls/texts, but I don’t think anything is particularly wrong. My S/O of 3+ years and I kept it up for two full years, but now not so much. I think its because we’re entrenched now LOL! I do hate for him to say “I’ll call you right back” and doesn’t, I have to remind him about that sometimes.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
11:48 am

@ImAPeach404

Well you should get something to balance you out. Get a new hobby, do something to balance you from wanting to wait around from him. Maybe he also wants to let the tension (good tension) and excitement build up. That way you arent putting everything on the line and sweating him. It also may be nothing. Don’t jump to conclusions.

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
11:49 am

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking/touchy feely as long as it’s not obsessive…

I love talking, not about nonsense a.ka. gossip (that’s what the girls are for), but about things of substance.. Whether it be politicalor social, or just about how much I want you, care for you… I love a man that can talk about different subjects and express his feelings also……

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
11:50 am

i’ve always thought in every relationship there’s and internalizer and there’s an aggressor…

once you recognize which one you are it’s easier to understand your counterpart…

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
11:51 am

*political, social*…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
11:52 am

MsM – Yeah we tore ours to h3ll and back.. She doesnt like me and i dont give a Fcuk.. I mean I try and put a good face on it but she just wants to be bitter so I let her live with that.. She got a new dude but of course you know she done told him she hates me so he looks at me cross eyed.. I just speak and give him that I’ll pound you into dust if you say something wrong look.. All with a smile of course..

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
11:54 am

Truth – musical instrument yes, ballet not so much! LOL! I play (correction played) 2 instruments so Lil Mo has no choice. Im hoping there will be an interest in a particular instrument, but if not there are many to chose from. Glad you are surviving the cold and you are right, heat is a beast!

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
11:56 am

Cee – You know thats what was wrong in my relaationship.. Im aggressive and she was passive aggresive.. So we bumped heads like a Mugg..

MsM

December 1st, 2009
11:57 am

@ Cemeeli >>>>i’ve always thought in every relationship there’s and internalizer and there’s an aggressor…

I know I’m the internalizer. I tend to let it ride to see where it goes vs. jumping on everything. It’s not always a good thing, but it’s who I am. I don’t see everything as a battle… pick and choose, pick and choose. I don’t handle drama well at all, I’ll stand on the side lines and when you look up I’ll be gone (no foot prints left behind).

Melo

December 1st, 2009
11:57 am

Dream_n..

me and my girl actually gossip..shes my best friend and confidant,the most trustworhty to me..so my gossip about other pple neva resemble AHWives(sheree and swiss girl type) coz we trust each other.

we gossip about our friends

about my siblings and hers

about our parents

But we do talk substance too..
The only thing we dont do that much together is watch movies..

I like to read and watch sports,she likes to watch lifetime,cooking shows(rachel ray etc) and reality shows….

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:00 pm

Ya’ll know what. I need to be in Sex Rehab with that Nicole Nahrain.. She is gorgeous but crazy as a bed bug..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:01 pm

Or find out where that Mz Berry and Jaguar are on Ray J’s show..

That Model chick Amber from sex rehab could get it too but I fear after a 4 hr romp session she would be too hard to shake..

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
12:01 pm

i don’t know where i stand…maybe i’m an “internalizer”…but i dunno really.

Wonderwoman

December 1st, 2009
12:02 pm

Bad romance/relationship I think will happen. But like someone said the earlier posts when those red flags start waving recogonize them and if they keep popping up run!

I do think wanting space could be red flag. I why not talk through the issues at hand and make a decision to work through it or leave. Communication is the key.

The slowin down of the text…ohh been there too girl, hang in there it may be exactly what he says. Don’t let your thoughts take to a place where u question the trust.

MsM

December 1st, 2009
12:03 pm

@ The Infamous >>> She doesnt like me and i dont give a Fcuk.. I mean I try and put a good face on it but she just wants to be bitter so I let her live with that. At this date and time, same here. My S/O of over 3 years just met the ex and all he said is “that guys weird” we shrugged and went back to watching the game on TV. We’ve never bashed our ex’s after all we were with the for a “good” reason at some point and right about now it soooo not important.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:04 pm

Ladies if you wanna make sure your man is straight listen to that Keyshia Cole/Monica “Trust”..

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:05 pm

Cemeeli que estoy de acuerdo en que se tarda un contrapeso para equilibrar cualquier relacion.

Wonderwoman

December 1st, 2009
12:06 pm

Melo- that nice you gossip with your girl. That communicating, and even though the two of you don’t watch the same shows, you can talk about. Sometimes people just like to have someone listen to their interest.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
12:06 pm

…”Trust” is a hit…i saw Monica’s show during the Thanksgiving marathon….i actually thinks it’s one of the better ones…didn’t know she had 2 boys tho.

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:07 pm

Sorry. Cemeeli, I agree to have balance you have to counterweight in any relationship.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:08 pm

MsM – Thats just it.. I look at it like I loved this chick at one point so it aint no reason to be mad now.. Just take the lesson and make lfe better going forward..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:12 pm

Raqi – Yo Quiedo Taco Bell, Mon Frer..

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
12:12 pm

@ Raqi – Maam, i dunno…but my broken spanish says; that understanding your counterpart keeps the balance?

equilibrar = equal or balance?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
12:14 pm

thanx Wonderwoman>

Cemeeli?? whose house was that they(monica an ‘em) were braiding hair in..hers or the mama??

dang!! that kitchen was foul..u cld see dirt thru the HD tv :lol:

Chink

December 1st, 2009
12:16 pm

Wow thanks for the feedback on space!

czBrat

December 1st, 2009
12:17 pm

Hello All!

:lol: @ Melo. yeah, me & s/o gossip too. :razz:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:20 pm

Chink – You can space yourself right on over here so we can get up close and personal.. I’ll pick up his dime that he just dropped.. We can make him regret it.. Then when he see us out i’ll squeeze your bottom for that extra special effect.. Nothing says Fcuk you better than that.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
12:21 pm

@ Melo – That was a house she’d rented…not sure if she resided there, or Mom Dukes…

My family was STUNNED when they realized she was only in her late 20s…one of my Aunts was like…”That girl looks about 40″. now my Auntie that blurted that is 55

Cee was :shock: and just stayed out of that one! lol

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:24 pm

LOL Infamous. I said sorry. I was speaking with my father and typing at the same time.

Tu veux coucher avec moi, Infamous? LOL Just kidding. Lawd, j’obtendrez nous tu pour cette blague deux. LMBO

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:24 pm

Sorry, Cemeeli. I fixed it. But yeah I was agreeing with your statement.

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:25 pm

Enter your comments here

Chink

December 1st, 2009
12:26 pm

Dk Dont make me take you up on that offer…*wink*

LOL …I hate when people make things more difficult than they need to be.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:26 pm

Im starting the rent me foundation.. Im good for Bat Mitvahs, coronations, debutante balls, ex boyfriend get togethers and childrens functions in front of the ex.. I’ll clean up nice, bring out the sports car and generally wow the crowd by “Putting On” Oh and Im also available for reunions and weddings.. I wont even get mad when your friends call me a “Hot Piece of Arse”

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
12:28 pm

time for lunch…this is just outta habit, because i’m not hungry

before i dip…i saw that movie “Hangover”…omygah!!!…well well, is that what men do in Vegas!?!

funny as all get out!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
12:29 pm

Cemeeli – Im an internalizer, I know this for a fact!

Infamous – that song by KCole and Monica is da truf!

okay does anyone watch that show Hoarders on A&E? OMG the way some of those people live is ridiculous!!! One lady had 4000 tons of trash removed from her house! She had 2 dead cats in there under all that and didnt know it! EEEEWWWW!

okay back on topic

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
12:29 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:29 pm

The good part about my foundation is.. Its free.. You know you dont have to get paid to do something you love..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:31 pm

Raqi – Tu Veux a coochie to you too..

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:35 pm

Raqi – Le ce serait mon plaisir pour vous coucher parce que vous êtes un de ceux-là qui si vous werent a épousé travaillerait pour moi.. Im le maçon sûr vous apprécie

Professor

December 1st, 2009
12:36 pm

Hola Happy People!

Whew time is flying today, I just thought about the blog!

So what are we talking about?

Leggs did you stay up all night keeping your friend away from Coach-Good-Dyck-Drilling?

Hey Dream!

Hey Melo!

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:41 pm

Infamous, j’ essaie. Pas parfait, mais j’ essayer. Je pense que mon mari il apprecie. Au moins il agit comme il le fait. Il permit de revenir pour en savoir plus. LOL

Melo

December 1st, 2009
12:42 pm

Hey Proff/Czbrat

Raqi,unless u let me in on what u and DK are talking about,u trying to cheat Mason!

say it aint so! :lol:

Off topic:
i aint a football fan,but it hurt me last nite to see Brady being so hopelessly embarrased last nite..

I caught the end of the 2nd qter and the rest of the game!

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:43 pm

Oh et par la manière mon mari aime lorsque je parle dans ma French langue maternelle, Infamous. LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
12:43 pm

Cemeeli – Im an internalist!

Infamous – that song “Trust” is da truf!

okay does anyone else watch “Hoarders” on A&E?? OMG….I didnt know people would actually live like that!

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
12:45 pm

@Professor ~ see my 10:19, and in that meant to say I “can’t stand”. She’ll be alright after a while. Just text me saying she feels like an alcoholic who can’t stop drinking (just pitiful).

Ok, I need to go to a blog where they speak English.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
12:46 pm

Bien Im sûr il fait et vous donnez m’espère que je trouve que la paix de relation un jour. Apprécier d’Im est libre bien que..

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
12:47 pm

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:47 pm

Nah, Melo. Just playing with Infamous. I ain’t no fool. I likes what I got at home.

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
12:51 pm

Infamous, I hope you do find it because it does exist. There is nothing in this world that I would give in exchange for it. Nothing.

Professor

December 1st, 2009
12:56 pm

Melo I agree I was cheering for Brady, and the Saints Brees right through him. As much as I dislike the Saints they are headed to the superbowl…hopefully they will fumble there.

Leggs…you better to give her the tough love now! I hate to see folks make a fool of themselves in the name of love. If you make a fool out yourself in the name of love don’t keep sitting in the dummy chair

i'm swiss

December 1st, 2009
12:57 pm

Did someone say booty? Melo…? What did I miss? :lol:

RE: Peach’s talking (or lack thereof) dilemma… I think the blog dudes have pretty well summed it up. Guys just don’t like to talk as much as chics. It’s not that we don’t like you, or don’t enjoy talking to you, it’s just that we’re not wired to verbally dissect every minute detail of our lives.

I can’t remember who said it, but I heard a quote somewhere that I think sums it up very nicely from a guy’s perspective: “Intimacy is when you can both shut the h3ll up for a minute an comfortably enjoy silence” :lol:

Dream_n

December 1st, 2009
1:04 pm

it’s just that we’re not wired to verbally dissect every minute detail of our lives

I’m going to leave that one alone :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

December 1st, 2009
1:07 pm

@Swiss

Yeah, I’d change that minute to more time.

But there is NOTHING like a comfortable silence.

i'm swiss

December 1st, 2009
1:08 pm

What’s wrong, Dream — did I say something bad? Do I need to don a blog vest? :lol:

See, yet another reason why we don’t like to talk that much — when we do, we end up saying sh!t that gets us in trouble… :lol:

i'm swiss

December 1st, 2009
1:12 pm

Sorry for the confusion, Dan — I meant minute as in extremely small, not as in the time interval. Sucks how inflection doesn’t come across in text…

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:13 pm

Yeah its a bad day cause if the Aints get a superbowl before the falcons.. Its gonna be heck to pay.. Tampa Bay already got one but dang Falcons get it together..

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
1:13 pm

lol@ Swiss… I was just kidding this time.. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:14 pm

Swiss – Nevermind Dream today she has something on her mind.. She acting like “Who gone check me, Boo” today..

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
1:14 pm

I agree Dan

Comfortable silence is always nice.

Professor

December 1st, 2009
1:15 pm

Swiss I agree with that quote…I love it when only the hearts talk and you can sit there and be happy enjoying the silence. :wink:

But, hell most men mess up the silence with the dayum tv or radio and some of these fools even break out in a whistle. :???:

Melo

December 1st, 2009
1:17 pm

Swiss???

women are smething else…..

see with me,when im content,esp after i got sme like i did,from that other side last nite, i like to just pace around,one hand in ma pocket,whistling some catchy tune….thats my sign of contentment,silent hapyness! :lol: (teereeee,terrreeeee,terrreeeee,im whislting that tune again) :lol:
Most females will want to call u up and get direct,one on one feedback, “so hw was it las nite yada.. yada…. yada”

I dont know if PEACH and dude have gon there yet or they havtnt but…u know…chics jus enjoy it if u keep rubbing on them etc….

Melo

December 1st, 2009
1:18 pm

some of these fools even break out in a whistle.

SEE…no sooner had i put my typing forefinger down! :lol:

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
1:18 pm

Professor, you statement should read: “But, hell most men mess up the silence with the dayum tv or radio and some of these fools even break out in a whistle a bullhorn fart with a funk that will kill a small village.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:19 pm

Ladies the answers to all your problems is a presidential.. If you want him to be quiet give him a presidential.. If you want him to talk give him a presidential… Rinse and repeat..

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
1:19 pm

@Blog

Have any of you heard of or seen the movie “Diary of a Tired Black Man”? Saw it over the thanksgiving weekend and it was very interesting.

Professor

December 1st, 2009
1:20 pm

Well dayum, Melo I posted two minutes before you. I guess I should smile instead of being annoyed with dude breaking out in a whistle…I guess that is a sign that I am putting it down right :grin:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:22 pm

M. – Yes I have seen it and yes its on point…

Professor

December 1st, 2009
1:23 pm

LOL not the fart…LMAO…especially the kind that comes from under the covers and make you wonder what he has been eatingdigesting.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
1:23 pm

Is anyone else a little disapointed in the portryal of the “black princess” and other characters in the new Disney movie…?

Wonderwoman

December 1st, 2009
1:24 pm

presidential???? Do I really what to know!!!

M. (pronounced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
1:25 pm

@THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

I am glad you saw it. I think Tyler should have picked it up, but that will mess up his money because he makes money telling women what they want to here so he would lose alot of his audience I think.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:25 pm

Prof – Hey thats one of my personal favs.. Under the covers.. Aww theres nothing better than a dutch oven..

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
1:25 pm

Wonderwoman

trust me you already know… time to infer

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
1:25 pm

M.Dot – I have attempted to watch that movie. It’s one of the worst wastes of cinematography in creation.

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
1:26 pm

Infamous, is there anything a presidential will not cure for you men? LOL Are you all really that simple to please?

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:27 pm

Wonderwoman – aka a Billy Clint aka a Lewinski aka dome aka slobbin bob aka a jabberwocky aka a loosey aka brain etc..

Wonderwoman

December 1st, 2009
1:27 pm

Dream_n- I am a little disappointed with the characters that I’ve on the trailer. And the advertisement on Disney channel. But I daughter is wants to see it, so next friday we have a date.

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
1:27 pm

And I KNEW most men would see the movie as a work of art. It should have been named – Diary of an Angry Lame Black Man.

The “story” made valid points, but the commentary was crap. (At least what I saw of it until I couldn’t stomach it anymore.)

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
1:27 pm

Aww theres nothing better than a dutch oven

Yall should warn us of those before we pull the covers back.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:28 pm

Raqi – Yes we are easy to please not simple but easy to please..

Melo

December 1st, 2009
1:29 pm

“I guess that is a sign that I am putting it down right”

Professor

If dude is whistling wjhile doing some chore or whistling while sitting with one of his hands on ur thigh,tapping ur knee or sme part of ur body,u str8..no worries.

But if dude is silent,whistling but keeping his distance tween u 2,and not keeping eye contact and generally quiet all day,sme is UP!

Check to see if the house is clean,the bed is made,ur draws are clean and that u didnt leave/drop ur sod or funky smell on the sheets! :lol:

(by sod i mean the lil teeny bit of pup/dudu u may leave out in ur nikkas when u dont wipe good,dries up and pops at the most unwelcome tyme!…when his index finger slides that nikka and he gently ups ur right leg as he tries to slide hisself in der)

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:29 pm

SC – Dont be mad we have to see movies that ya’ll think are works of art all the time.. They have channel dedicated to them.. Dare I say Lifetime or Oxygen..

M. (pronounced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
1:30 pm

@SexyCool – Loves Red LifeSavers.

So what was your biggest issue with the movie? I agree some things were a little unrealistic, but do you think he was right about some of the issues?

Dan

December 1st, 2009
1:32 pm

@Raqi

It’s behavior modification. Pavlov has treats, give a man a Presidential as a reward – see that akright, git right.

@M(dot)

I’ve seen it. It was far to generalized for my taste. Not every cat is like the director envisions us. I know outright dogs and to my taste, he didn’t try to portray that aspect of the community either.

All in all it came off as a wee bit simpish in it’s overall tone. H

Present both sides is all I’m (ever) saying.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
1:32 pm

Wonderwoman

Okay.. I though it was just me, and Yes I have a date to see it also. She actually has the pajamas already.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
1:34 pm

u know im British.if one dude calls another a “sod”…

thats the greatest diss :lol:

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
1:36 pm

M.Dot – I thought the story line between the husband and wife raised valid issues.

(If I am remembering this correctly)
she was
attempting to project this fairy tale story onto their reality, listening too much to what her girlfriends had to say
and not allowing him to be the head of the household.

I also like the way he handled her (to a degree) when he came to pick up the child.

In the scenario outlined in the plot, I could easily see how the wife’s attitude and actions undermined the relationship.

Now as to the commentary – some of that sht was just fckery and foolishness.

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
1:37 pm

Dan – It was a simple movie but I got the premise of what he was shooting for.. It called some babes out though..

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
1:39 pm

Wonderwoman/Dream_n – I havent paid much attention to the trailers and whatnot for The Black Princess. What is it that has you disappointed? And I plan to see it myself though I have no lil girls to take.

SCool – someone gave me a bootleg of “Diary of a Angry Black Man” but I havent watched it. So whats the gist?

Wonderwoman

December 1st, 2009
1:39 pm

It seems the story line I wanted to be more realistic..something these young girls can relate too. And it not just be about OHH there final is a black princess. So far she likes the songs that go with the movie, I want to see the message the movie will portray.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
1:41 pm

@ Mo – lol @ Internalist, me too…i know…i know…somethings are better left unattempted…

Hey Swiss…Did you and the in-laws do a Thanksgiving around Mrs. Swiss cooking skills?…

Quiet Intimacy? I have an App for that. :lol:

Dan

December 1st, 2009
1:43 pm

@DK

It did. But when you’re presenting an idea, particularly in a movie that is predicated on beginning a debate, don’t put shoe polish on boo-boo or try and hide it.

Address it and make your point in spite of/using the facts.

There was no counterwieght, and I’m sorry, but about 1:30 into it I’m looking for one. Can’t take unexamined (Read: self critical) whining from no one – male or female.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
1:49 pm

Mo

This princess comes from New Orleans I believe, the way the characteers talk irks me… and most of the movie, the princess is a frog. There’s also subtle little suggestions about butts and crap…

I guess I have to see it to get a full view of it.

M. (pronounced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
1:50 pm

@SexyCool – Loves Red LifeSavers.

I dont want to give away the plot but the commentary from all around was interesting because you ask 50 people a question, you get 50 answers. It was funny that some of us never want to take responsibility for our actions, like the girl who said men were garbage but she was dating a married guy for 2 years…

Dan

December 1st, 2009
1:53 pm

@Mdot

“I didn’t know he was married though. He told me after I was in love with him…” <– hilarious

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
1:54 pm

Like I said – fckery and foolishness.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
1:55 pm

like the girl who said men were garbage but she was dating a married guy for 2 years :shock:

Smh… This is why some men continue to do the dirt they do. Women let’s please do better.

i'm swiss

December 1st, 2009
1:57 pm

“Did you and the in-laws do a Thanksgiving around Mrs. Swiss cooking skills?…”

Cee — Actually, Mrs. Swiss & I had our own, private turkey day around our mutual cooking skills… :-) Dinner was quite tasty, and dessert was off the charts… :lol:

Professor

December 1st, 2009
1:58 pm

Hey Melo,

Thanks for the insight and it is not the latter.

Dream~like Mo I have not followed the trailers but I will see the movie and buy a few things from Carol’s Daughter in support of the movie. I need to look into it more, and I will let you know my thoughts though. I do remember seeing something that raised my eyebrows.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
2:00 pm

@Dan

LOL that’s what I thought. She knew he was married all along I think lol. Some women like that challenge and like to think they can make a man leave his wife…Its an ego/psychological rush for some of them.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:03 pm

Some women like that challenge and like to think they can make a man leave his wife

It’s cheaper to keep her… So I’ve been told :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
2:03 pm

Dream_n – I did catch the whole New Orleans thing and they seem to be trying to capture the New Orleans accent with that. I will pay closer attention though, outside of that I havent seen too much. Also I did see the Carol’s Daughter line that Professor spoke of.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
2:10 pm

…think i’m going to start wearing make-up…i dig that 80s eyeshadow look…this chic at the Mac counter did my eyes and had me as her prop…she caught 3 sales, and gave me a fly color to try out…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
2:11 pm

This is why some men continue to do the dirt they do. Women let’s please do better.

Unfortunately that’s easier said than done for some women…why I don’t know. I have a woman that I’ve been friends with since ~’92 and for as long as I can remember she’s been making some VERY poor choices in men…it’s like she has to have a man around. Anyhoo, when we first met she only had one child but now she has 4 with 3 “baby daddies”. Last year she married a guy from Pakistan and I was like oooookay then…umm good luck with that.

We hung out for the first time in a while last week and she told me how miserable she was and I’m staring atbrought another child in the mix so now it seems like she has 6 kids instead of 4. Go figure…

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
2:11 pm

@ Swiss Ah, ooookaay. So i see your holiday was good. :) You have cooking skills too?…that helps.

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
2:13 pm

hi bloggers! have a good day. ;)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
2:13 pm

We hung out for the first time in a while last week and she told me how miserable she was and I’m staring atbrought another child in the mix so now it seems like she has 6 kids instead of 4. Go figure…

That should’ve read “We hung out for the first time in a while last week and she told me how miserable she was and I’m staring at her like DUH. Add to that he also brought another child in the mix so now it seems like she has 6 kids instead of 4. Go figure…

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
2:25 pm

another infant found in a dumpster…goodness!

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:26 pm

she only had one child but now she has 4 with 3 “baby daddies” :shock:

No need to comment, the face says it all..

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:29 pm

ooohh,Reed just took this thang!

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
2:32 pm

I knew that Clemmons, the Seattle cop killer, wasn’t going to make it to court, much less jail. He should have arranged to turn himself in at a television station – IN FRONT OF THE CAMERAS. (He would have had a better chance of making it to trial.)

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:34 pm

He was a walking dead man..

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:35 pm

SexyCool?? gerl u funny…

why u think he wanted to go to trial??
He wanted to die instead.

(guilty untill proven innocent..that mafckker)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
2:35 pm

Yeah Dream that was part of the reason I kinda distanced myself from her a little. It’s always some sort of drama from some aspect of her life and it got to be a bit too much for me b/c I felt badly for her. Every convo we had left me looking just like :shock: I can only take our convos/hanging out in small spurts these days.

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
2:40 pm

Reed just took this thang

I hope not.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:43 pm

its all over the news Raqi

Dan

December 1st, 2009
2:45 pm

The polls haven’t closed yet

And why not Raqi?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:46 pm

G N N is reporting that hes leading by a wide margin!

its over!

Dan

December 1st, 2009
2:49 pm

Rihanna is quoted on Hot97 saying “…if you don’t send [nekked] pics to your boyfriend I feel bad for him.” <– I love her more every day.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:51 pm

@ Sassy,
I have a friend/associate just like that she has 2 kids though, different fathers also.
But she just hasn’t grown up.. She leaves the kids with her grandmother.. who loves them to pieces and prolly wouldn’t have it any other way, but drama consumes her. She’s still fighting random hoodrats at the age of 24! I had to distance myself from her, and each time I go back around her its the same ish.. Haven’t seen her in a while though…

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:53 pm

too bad Lil wayne is gon to prison..he cld have handled her(Big forehead) better than Chris Brown :lol:

i hear she got mighty psh skills :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
2:56 pm

Dan – Yeah Rhi Rhi is something else..

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:59 pm

I’d take the pics and we can look at them together, I aint sending ish I can’t get back. I may be in the public eye one day…
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
3:00 pm

SC – he couldve turned himself in with Barack and soon as he left they wouldve got him

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:00 pm

speaking of parenting,it was daaamn cold this merning…

as i went to board the train,saw this lady(mother??) with 2 kids,about 6mths and 2 yrs..one kid in the pusha thing,the other,standing by her side, with no jacket on..
and the mom was like, telling the boy,nonchalantly,”boooy,put ur coat on,put it on” but doing nothing really to put the coat on the 2 yr old!

parenting for u folks

(and i aint saying none ’bout what the mom looked like and all) :lol:

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
3:03 pm

Notice I said “better chance.”

Melo, that dude didn’t want to die. If he did, he wouldn’t have been running.

BTW – they shoulda shot the sht outta his ass.

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:05 pm

@Dream

I heard a joke you might like.

“Ladies, if your boyfriend ever wants to make a video with you, be sure to scream loudly ‘is it in’, ‘I can’t feel anything’, and ‘are you done already? Again?’ to ensure that he’ll never show that tape to anyone.”

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:06 pm

Dream your friend is 24 but mine is 37 and her “husband” is 26 and when she said that I looked at her like she had a 3rd eye on her forehead ’cause I just couldn’t believe it.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:10 pm

‘is it in’, ‘I can’t feel anything’, and ‘are you done already? Again?

:lol: :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
3:12 pm

Sassy – :shock: her husband is 36 and she is 37??? Well dayum….SMH!

SCool – that dude was crazy…I dont think he had a death wish either, just a heartless individual

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:13 pm

be sure to scream loudly ‘is it in’, ‘I can’t feel anything’, and ‘are you done already?

when they say sexx makes them lose their minds,u dont believe them Dan??

I do! :lol:

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:13 pm

@ Dan

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Genius!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:14 pm

geeks read techy blogs….hehehe…

Swiss Do you read Crave? If so what’s the deal with the ikar app?

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
3:16 pm

For some folks, that’s not a joke. It’s reality.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:17 pm

speaking of nekkid pics…i still have the ones of Stacey Dash…now SHE is a BEE YOOOOUUU tiful woman :-)

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:19 pm

@Slimone

That just made my day!

Where do you have them? May I observe you when you look at them next time?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:20 pm

who is that Slim??

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

@ Slim – Who is Stacey Dash?

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

No homo..
That’s how I want to age, gracefully. I want to look 25 at the age of 35.. Hell the way I’m going im pretty sure I’ll achieve that..

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

Dan you know I have you locked in my email…I’ll just forward them right over. LOL ;-)

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:23 pm

Who is Stacey Dash

Are ya’ll serious lol..

Think Clueless!

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:26 pm

@Slim

It more about experiencing the your pleasure seeing her, with you.

Send the pics, but I’d wanna watch you watch her…

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
3:27 pm

Stacey Dash is HOT!!!!

she played butt heads (jason) girlfriend on THE GAME.

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
3:28 pm

how old is lil dream?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:28 pm

Slim one..Im in on that send button of ur email!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:29 pm

“Are ya’ll serious lol”..

@ Dream_n – I’m not sweetstuff…don’t recall Miss Stac D.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:30 pm

Dan…nice try. LOL!!!!!

Yeah she is the black chick with the pretty hazel eyes that plays on Clueless.

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
3:30 pm

Dan yous a freak! lol. (but ain’t nutn wrong wit dat)

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
3:31 pm

What’s the topic?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:31 pm

I wonder what a woman will have done to her muscles in the past in order not to feel a man’s johnson :lol:

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:31 pm

Melo I don’t have your email address…these are from when she posed in Playboy

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:31 pm

Lil Dream will be turning 4! I’m so excited!!

Who is that and what have you done with Dan :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:31 pm

Send the pics, but I’d wanna watch you watch her…

Playa play from the HimalayAAAs…aww sookie sookie nah. That’s slick….real slick. :mrgreen:

i'm swiss

December 1st, 2009
3:32 pm

“speaking of nekkid pics…i still have the ones of Stacey Dash…now SHE is a BEE YOOOOUUU tiful woman :-)

D@mn, Slim — Here I was yesterday talking about avoiding temptation, and today you’ve got to spring that comment on us & damn near cause the Matterhorn to erupt… :lol:

Cee — No, I don’t read Crave… I’m not a pure-breed geek; I just converted to geek-dom later in life purely for professional reasons… ;-)

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:33 pm

Playa play from the HimalayAAAs…aww sookie sookie nah. That’s slick….real slick

I am cracking up at my desk Sassy!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:34 pm

Stacey Dash is HOT!!!!

Not to sound ghey or anything but yeah she is a looker.

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:35 pm

@Slim

Know I had to…

I may regret asking this but where’s Foots and ARed?

I haven’t heard about poledancing “class” in a minute.

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
3:37 pm

Nevermind, I see you guys are staying true to form!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:38 pm

For real though Dream didn’t what Dan said about “watching Slim watch the pics of Staceye” sound all mack-a-licious and whatnot. Almost made me ask if I could watch him watch Slim watch Staceye but sumthing ’bout that don’t sound right….I think.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:39 pm

@ Swiss – Thanks i will check out Web Crawler…just need and app for rentals.

lol @ “geek-dom”…i use teenage-dom.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:39 pm

Swiss – didn’t mean to tempt but you would have to live in an aluminum bubble or a padded room with tinted windows to stay temptation free. If I was a Mrs, we could take Dan’s idea and look at them together. Afterall, folks only buy playboy for the articles. A couple that reads adult material together, definitely plays..oops I mean stays together. LOL!…now put your horn up. ;-)

@Dan I’m not sure where Foots is. I haven’t heard from her nor have I been in the loop in Blogsville to know. I talked to her crazy cousin not too long ago and he is still crazy as ever.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:39 pm

takpat78@gmail… mutha*&%^&#@^& Slim 4 not having my email :lol:

Dream_n??

‘I can’t feel anything’, and ‘are you done already?

since u the one still kinda fresh,ull need the advice…..if a chic were to say that to me, i wld say this:”thats what u get for dating Rappers with greels,they leave ur nana toed Up!” :lol:

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:42 pm

LMAO @ Sassy “Almost made me ask if I could watch him watch Slim watch Staceye but sumthing ’bout that don’t sound right….I think.” ha ha ha Now that was a good one.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:42 pm

@ Slim – …i’ve yet rcvd updated pics of J.

December 1st, already…wow…a month from today it’ll be 2010…

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:43 pm

@Sassy

Wouldn’t bother me in the least bit. Looks like it wouldn’t bother Slim either. But I don’t want to put words in her mouth.

@Slim

You ain’t never lied.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:44 pm

Raqi?? u still around??

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:45 pm

“takpat78@gmail… mutha*&%^&#@^& Slim 4 not having my email”

should no one not have that email…some’n wrong!

crackin’ up :lol:

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:46 pm

Cee Sis just had some pics taken…she posted most of them on facebook. I’ll shoot you a text. That lil thang is walking all by herself and has 8 teeth already and she is only 10 months old…my dad said she’ll be working at her first job by next month. LMAO!

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:46 pm

Sassy you are a fool… lmao!!
But it did sound kinda erotic..!!
WTH.. you got me thinking about Sassy!!!! :mrgreen:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:48 pm

Wouldn’t bother me in the least bit. Looks like it wouldn’t bother Slim either. But I don’t want to put words in her mouth.

That’s what I’m talkin bout Cat Daddy!…lol

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
3:50 pm

It’s the most cited email in blogsville!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:50 pm

Dream now you see what I’m talking ’bout…as I was typing that I had that “huh Shaggy”(best scooby-doo voice) look on my face. Things that make you go hhmmmmm……

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:51 pm

some’n wrong??

CEE,jus means she dont digg me that much! :lol:

SlimOne,are they in my box now..

DO i need to close my door or put on ear phones….

Promise there are no yaheeee,yaheeeeyaheeee sounds!????..the kinda of sounds Asian gerlz make on their porno movies when its in deep or the mouf is working its magic?? :lol:

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:52 pm

Sassy & Dan trying to take Slim back to her college days. hmmmm? lol

i'm swiss

December 1st, 2009
3:53 pm

“…If I was a Mrs, we could take Dan’s idea and look at them together…”

Say, Slim, I’ve got an even better idea — why don’t you bring those pics over & you & Mrs. Swiss can enjoy “reading the articles” while I video — er, I mean watch… :lol:

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:53 pm

@Slim

I got the time, the spot and anything else you need.

@Sassy (see above comment)

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:54 pm

Melo, the SEND button has already taken off. The only reason you’d need to close your door is if….well….you know. Enjoy!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:54 pm

…daddy is prolly spoiling lil miss j…they are sweet at that age…

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
3:55 pm

Too funny, your email is the most cited in blogsville history@

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:55 pm

Daaaamn….Slim!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I appreciate that Slim.
May our friendship get stronger! :lol:

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:57 pm

I appreciate that Slim.
May our friendship get stronger

Melo you are a straight fool!! :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
4:00 pm

Okaaay Dan I feel a tangential convo about to pop off and it’s not even Friday…hell Thursday for that matter.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:01 pm

Slim, girl see what you started? Sounds like something our blogger BiCurious would be interested in…

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
4:02 pm

Sounds like something our blogger BiCurious would be interested in… :shock:

W T H !!!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:07 pm

…calm down Miss Dream_n…don’t get pulled in the fray…it’s nothing serious… :)

…funny…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
4:10 pm

Sounds like something our blogger BiCurious would be interested in…

Dream we had/have one here that I’ve read so far but she never answered my question “Does it taste like chicken?”….lol.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:10 pm

@Melo you are a fool lol

@Cee EVERYone spoils her. So I can’t place the blame on just one person. :-)

@Sassy nope it’s not Freaky Friday or Trifling Thursday but it is Tentilating Tuesday. LOL j/k

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
4:11 pm

I like how you said that Slim. That’s what’s up :lol:

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:14 pm

Dream_n, these pics are het!!(not hot) for sure..i know some of uall ladies want a piece of the action..Just say so!

Im sending them to Queen,see if she gets jealous…”who send u that??”

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:15 pm

…like PoppaG would say…well says to me “grown folk stuff”…

Ha!

Dan

December 1st, 2009
4:15 pm

Wait I missed a woman that named herself Bi-Curious? Where was I? Why was I not informed?

I call shenanigans!

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:16 pm

Titilating….

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:19 pm

@ Dan – No, you were here. And 6′1′ was on the prowl…

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
4:19 pm

Melo..

I can appreciate a beautiful body, male or female. Taking care of your appearance is a necessity for me.

No homo :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

December 1st, 2009
4:20 pm

I mean, SD has always been cute; but I ain’t know she was getting it in like that.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:21 pm

Taking care of your appearance is a necessity for me

thats whats up Dream_n…..u got that email right??..

Lets see that body….

Dan

December 1st, 2009
4:22 pm

@CeeMee

Couldn’t been. Cause that would’ve gone in a more interesting manner.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:23 pm

Once u semd those pics Dream_n, im done..

U and Slim will have played ur part..

I aint even playing those lotto numbers that i had planned to play tonite ..

This,in my email box,is a bigger lotto

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
4:24 pm

Your quota for body watching has been met for today… Melo :mrgreen:

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:24 pm

She must have some secret youth serum lol

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
4:26 pm

Not airbrushed?

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:27 pm

@ Slim – Awww…i’m an easy target. Makes me want another one.

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:30 pm

Awww, Melo is full.

MsM

December 1st, 2009
4:31 pm

Send SD pics to mgp63@yahoo.com (mgp = miss good puddy)

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:33 pm

@Cee I haven’t yet given up on idea of having a little crumb snatcher but I do know my lil booger won’t measure up to my little Juicy Jaws! She follows the cat around saying Tat! Tat! She hasn’t gotten that C pronounciation down just yet. lol

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:37 pm

what show was that chic on?? SD??

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:39 pm

Slim – Aren’t they just sweeet?…Yeah, you should have one, stop playin with him and get you some ack right…hahaha…

…squirrel!… :)

…soooo, anyway I babysat 2 of my relatives baby last week…and found out there is another lil snatcher due to in our fam. in May…:)….

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
4:40 pm

Heading out early – gotta go make my vote count.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:42 pm

Well my cousin had her son 16hrs before my sis had hers. She is preggo again and is already due this month. I was like chile, you know you ain’t wait no six weeks. Her son is 10 months just like Jas…I told her, you know that stuff all up in there was still bus’ wide open. The soldiers didn’t even have to swim or fight for the egg. They just hopped right on in.

MsM

December 1st, 2009
4:48 pm

ARed? I don’t know what it is… I lie, old girl’s post most of the time just plain annoyed me. I think I’ve been reading more/blogging more since she’s not put her pennies in LOL:)

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:48 pm

lol @ keep the babies coming…she’ll be a tiied momma too.

oh :)

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:49 pm

It’s not always easy to find quotes that tie in with the changing subjects. This may be one of those times. But seems like we’re all trying to get and keep that fire!

“Fine” isn’t the way you want your life to be; “Fine” isn’t the way you want your romantic life to be; “Fine” isn’t how you want to describe your career, your health, or your finances.

Screw fine. You want FANTASTIC. You want BRILLIANT. You want on Top of the World, Splendid, Magnificent, Can’t-be-tamed, and better yet, Ridiculously on FIRE! You want that 4-hour marathon! :cool:

Carry on Residents….Peace!

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:51 pm

Slim,seems like everybody in ur fam is having babies except u??

gerl,whatchu saving that coochie for?? :lol:

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:52 pm

The blog has sanctioned me!

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:52 pm

It’s not always easy to find quotes that tie in with the changing subjects. This may be one of those times. But seems like we’re all trying to get and keep that fire!

“Fine” isn’t the way you want your life to be; “Fine” isn’t the way you want your romantic life to be; “Fine” isn’t how you want to describe your career, your health, or your finances.

S c r e w fine. You want FANTASTIC. You want BRILLIANT. You want on Top of the World, Splendid, Magnificent, Can’t-be-tamed, and better yet, Ridiculously on FIRE! You want that 4-hour marathon! :cool:

Carry on Residents….Peace!

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:53 pm

Melo How bout a husband before baby?…is that too much to ask in 2009 almost dayum near 2010?

I saw my dad this past weekend and when I stated I might just not worry about having a kid, this fool says…well what else are you gonna do with the next 10yrs of your life? WTH??? Dad jumping on the biological clock ticking bandwagon

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:54 pm

It’s not always easy to find quotes that tie in with the changing subjects. This may be one of those times. But seems like we’re all trying to get and keep that fire!

“Fine” isn’t the way you want your life to be; “Fine” isn’t the way you want your romantic life to be; “Fine” isn’t how you want to describe your career, your health, or your finances.

S c r e w fine. You want FANTASTIC. You want BRILLIANT. You want on Top of the World, Splendid, Magnificent, Can’t-be-tamed, and better yet, YOU WANT THAT FIRE! You want that 4-hour marathon! :cool:

Carry on Residents….Peace!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:56 pm

“How bout a husband before baby?…is that too much to ask”

oh…beat me to it.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:58 pm

MsM??

Ared is good pple…just imagine if we three(MsM,Ared and melo) were in a thresome….

jus good mix and match… :lol:

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