accessAtlanta

City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

Bad Romance

It doesn’t matter how many times Lady Gaga sings it, being caught in a bad romance is like being stuck on a broken carousel being operated by an evil clown. The worst part of it is that we willingly hop on the ride and subject ourselves to the vicious cycle of drama.

You know what they say, the first step is admitting you have a problem. So admit it.  The bad romances you end up with is partly because you are attracting what you are putting out there.  When you have low self-esteem, lack confidence and believe that you don’t deserve better, you don’t get any better. This shows in the choices you make in people that you let occupy your mental space and time.

I was guilty of doing this and it wasn’t until I figured out how great I am  (no, seriously I was slow to realize it) that I started to discover what it was like to date someone else who is great. I had to go through too many bad romances but you don’t have to!

First, how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when it’s bad? It may sound like a strange question but a lot of times we don’t know until it’s too late how bad it is.

Second, how do you get off the cycle of bad romances? What has worked for you?

Third, once you are in a good position to find a good romance, how do you avoid messing it up?  There are definitely some adjustments to be made when you are so used to the bad romances from your past. When it is good, relaxing into it and keeping the drama at bay could be challenging but not impossible.

Getting off the bad romance carousel before 2010? Yes, please! Let’s Discuss

322 comments Add your comment

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:24 pm

She must have some secret youth serum lol

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
4:26 pm

Not airbrushed?

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:27 pm

@ Slim – Awww…i’m an easy target. Makes me want another one.

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:30 pm

Awww, Melo is full.

MsM

December 1st, 2009
4:31 pm

Send SD pics to mgp63@yahoo.com (mgp = miss good puddy)

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:33 pm

@Cee I haven’t yet given up on idea of having a little crumb snatcher but I do know my lil booger won’t measure up to my little Juicy Jaws! She follows the cat around saying Tat! Tat! She hasn’t gotten that C pronounciation down just yet. lol

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:37 pm

what show was that chic on?? SD??

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:39 pm

Slim – Aren’t they just sweeet?…Yeah, you should have one, stop playin with him and get you some ack right…hahaha…

…squirrel!… :)

…soooo, anyway I babysat 2 of my relatives baby last week…and found out there is another lil snatcher due to in our fam. in May…:)….

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
4:40 pm

Heading out early – gotta go make my vote count.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:42 pm

Well my cousin had her son 16hrs before my sis had hers. She is preggo again and is already due this month. I was like chile, you know you ain’t wait no six weeks. Her son is 10 months just like Jas…I told her, you know that stuff all up in there was still bus’ wide open. The soldiers didn’t even have to swim or fight for the egg. They just hopped right on in.

MsM

December 1st, 2009
4:48 pm

ARed? I don’t know what it is… I lie, old girl’s post most of the time just plain annoyed me. I think I’ve been reading more/blogging more since she’s not put her pennies in LOL:)

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:48 pm

lol @ keep the babies coming…she’ll be a tiied momma too.

oh :)

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:49 pm

It’s not always easy to find quotes that tie in with the changing subjects. This may be one of those times. But seems like we’re all trying to get and keep that fire!

“Fine” isn’t the way you want your life to be; “Fine” isn’t the way you want your romantic life to be; “Fine” isn’t how you want to describe your career, your health, or your finances.

Screw fine. You want FANTASTIC. You want BRILLIANT. You want on Top of the World, Splendid, Magnificent, Can’t-be-tamed, and better yet, Ridiculously on FIRE! You want that 4-hour marathon! :cool:

Carry on Residents….Peace!

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:51 pm

Slim,seems like everybody in ur fam is having babies except u??

gerl,whatchu saving that coochie for?? :lol:

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:52 pm

The blog has sanctioned me!

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:52 pm

It’s not always easy to find quotes that tie in with the changing subjects. This may be one of those times. But seems like we’re all trying to get and keep that fire!

“Fine” isn’t the way you want your life to be; “Fine” isn’t the way you want your romantic life to be; “Fine” isn’t how you want to describe your career, your health, or your finances.

S c r e w fine. You want FANTASTIC. You want BRILLIANT. You want on Top of the World, Splendid, Magnificent, Can’t-be-tamed, and better yet, Ridiculously on FIRE! You want that 4-hour marathon! :cool:

Carry on Residents….Peace!

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
4:53 pm

Melo How bout a husband before baby?…is that too much to ask in 2009 almost dayum near 2010?

I saw my dad this past weekend and when I stated I might just not worry about having a kid, this fool says…well what else are you gonna do with the next 10yrs of your life? WTH??? Dad jumping on the biological clock ticking bandwagon

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
4:54 pm

It’s not always easy to find quotes that tie in with the changing subjects. This may be one of those times. But seems like we’re all trying to get and keep that fire!

“Fine” isn’t the way you want your life to be; “Fine” isn’t the way you want your romantic life to be; “Fine” isn’t how you want to describe your career, your health, or your finances.

S c r e w fine. You want FANTASTIC. You want BRILLIANT. You want on Top of the World, Splendid, Magnificent, Can’t-be-tamed, and better yet, YOU WANT THAT FIRE! You want that 4-hour marathon! :cool:

Carry on Residents….Peace!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
4:56 pm

“How bout a husband before baby?…is that too much to ask”

oh…beat me to it.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
4:58 pm

MsM??

Ared is good pple…just imagine if we three(MsM,Ared and melo) were in a thresome….

jus good mix and match… :lol:

[...] how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when … Read more Here Bad Romance By Wise Diva Yaab Tagged as: bad romance, broken carousel, doesn, GaGa, lack confidence, lady, [...]

[...] how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when … Read more Here Bad Romance By Wise [...]