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Bad Romance

It doesn’t matter how many times Lady Gaga sings it, being caught in a bad romance is like being stuck on a broken carousel being operated by an evil clown. The worst part of it is that we willingly hop on the ride and subject ourselves to the vicious cycle of drama.

You know what they say, the first step is admitting you have a problem. So admit it.  The bad romances you end up with is partly because you are attracting what you are putting out there.  When you have low self-esteem, lack confidence and believe that you don’t deserve better, you don’t get any better. This shows in the choices you make in people that you let occupy your mental space and time.

I was guilty of doing this and it wasn’t until I figured out how great I am  (no, seriously I was slow to realize it) that I started to discover what it was like to date someone else who is great. I had to go through too many bad romances but you don’t have to!

First, how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when it’s bad? It may sound like a strange question but a lot of times we don’t know until it’s too late how bad it is.

Second, how do you get off the cycle of bad romances? What has worked for you?

Third, once you are in a good position to find a good romance, how do you avoid messing it up?  There are definitely some adjustments to be made when you are so used to the bad romances from your past. When it is good, relaxing into it and keeping the drama at bay could be challenging but not impossible.

Getting off the bad romance carousel before 2010? Yes, please! Let’s Discuss

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M. (pronouced M dot)

December 1st, 2009
2:00 pm

@Dan

LOL that’s what I thought. She knew he was married all along I think lol. Some women like that challenge and like to think they can make a man leave his wife…Its an ego/psychological rush for some of them.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:03 pm

Some women like that challenge and like to think they can make a man leave his wife

It’s cheaper to keep her… So I’ve been told :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
2:03 pm

Dream_n – I did catch the whole New Orleans thing and they seem to be trying to capture the New Orleans accent with that. I will pay closer attention though, outside of that I havent seen too much. Also I did see the Carol’s Daughter line that Professor spoke of.

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
2:10 pm

…think i’m going to start wearing make-up…i dig that 80s eyeshadow look…this chic at the Mac counter did my eyes and had me as her prop…she caught 3 sales, and gave me a fly color to try out…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
2:11 pm

This is why some men continue to do the dirt they do. Women let’s please do better.

Unfortunately that’s easier said than done for some women…why I don’t know. I have a woman that I’ve been friends with since ~’92 and for as long as I can remember she’s been making some VERY poor choices in men…it’s like she has to have a man around. Anyhoo, when we first met she only had one child but now she has 4 with 3 “baby daddies”. Last year she married a guy from Pakistan and I was like oooookay then…umm good luck with that.

We hung out for the first time in a while last week and she told me how miserable she was and I’m staring atbrought another child in the mix so now it seems like she has 6 kids instead of 4. Go figure…

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
2:11 pm

@ Swiss Ah, ooookaay. So i see your holiday was good. :) You have cooking skills too?…that helps.

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
2:13 pm

hi bloggers! have a good day. ;)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
2:13 pm

We hung out for the first time in a while last week and she told me how miserable she was and I’m staring atbrought another child in the mix so now it seems like she has 6 kids instead of 4. Go figure…

That should’ve read “We hung out for the first time in a while last week and she told me how miserable she was and I’m staring at her like DUH. Add to that he also brought another child in the mix so now it seems like she has 6 kids instead of 4. Go figure…

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
2:25 pm

another infant found in a dumpster…goodness!

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:26 pm

she only had one child but now she has 4 with 3 “baby daddies” :shock:

No need to comment, the face says it all..

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:29 pm

ooohh,Reed just took this thang!

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
2:32 pm

I knew that Clemmons, the Seattle cop killer, wasn’t going to make it to court, much less jail. He should have arranged to turn himself in at a television station – IN FRONT OF THE CAMERAS. (He would have had a better chance of making it to trial.)

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:34 pm

He was a walking dead man..

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:35 pm

SexyCool?? gerl u funny…

why u think he wanted to go to trial??
He wanted to die instead.

(guilty untill proven innocent..that mafckker)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
2:35 pm

Yeah Dream that was part of the reason I kinda distanced myself from her a little. It’s always some sort of drama from some aspect of her life and it got to be a bit too much for me b/c I felt badly for her. Every convo we had left me looking just like :shock: I can only take our convos/hanging out in small spurts these days.

Raqi

December 1st, 2009
2:40 pm

Reed just took this thang

I hope not.

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:43 pm

its all over the news Raqi

Dan

December 1st, 2009
2:45 pm

The polls haven’t closed yet

And why not Raqi?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:46 pm

G N N is reporting that hes leading by a wide margin!

its over!

Dan

December 1st, 2009
2:49 pm

Rihanna is quoted on Hot97 saying “…if you don’t send [nekked] pics to your boyfriend I feel bad for him.” <– I love her more every day.

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:51 pm

@ Sassy,
I have a friend/associate just like that she has 2 kids though, different fathers also.
But she just hasn’t grown up.. She leaves the kids with her grandmother.. who loves them to pieces and prolly wouldn’t have it any other way, but drama consumes her. She’s still fighting random hoodrats at the age of 24! I had to distance myself from her, and each time I go back around her its the same ish.. Haven’t seen her in a while though…

Melo

December 1st, 2009
2:53 pm

too bad Lil wayne is gon to prison..he cld have handled her(Big forehead) better than Chris Brown :lol:

i hear she got mighty psh skills :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
2:56 pm

Dan – Yeah Rhi Rhi is something else..

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
2:59 pm

I’d take the pics and we can look at them together, I aint sending ish I can’t get back. I may be in the public eye one day…
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK aka DK ALI

December 1st, 2009
3:00 pm

SC – he couldve turned himself in with Barack and soon as he left they wouldve got him

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:00 pm

speaking of parenting,it was daaamn cold this merning…

as i went to board the train,saw this lady(mother??) with 2 kids,about 6mths and 2 yrs..one kid in the pusha thing,the other,standing by her side, with no jacket on..
and the mom was like, telling the boy,nonchalantly,”boooy,put ur coat on,put it on” but doing nothing really to put the coat on the 2 yr old!

parenting for u folks

(and i aint saying none ’bout what the mom looked like and all) :lol:

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
3:03 pm

Notice I said “better chance.”

Melo, that dude didn’t want to die. If he did, he wouldn’t have been running.

BTW – they shoulda shot the sht outta his ass.

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:05 pm

@Dream

I heard a joke you might like.

“Ladies, if your boyfriend ever wants to make a video with you, be sure to scream loudly ‘is it in’, ‘I can’t feel anything’, and ‘are you done already? Again?’ to ensure that he’ll never show that tape to anyone.”

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:06 pm

Dream your friend is 24 but mine is 37 and her “husband” is 26 and when she said that I looked at her like she had a 3rd eye on her forehead ’cause I just couldn’t believe it.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

December 1st, 2009
3:10 pm

‘is it in’, ‘I can’t feel anything’, and ‘are you done already? Again?

:lol: :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 1st, 2009
3:12 pm

Sassy – :shock: her husband is 36 and she is 37??? Well dayum….SMH!

SCool – that dude was crazy…I dont think he had a death wish either, just a heartless individual

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:13 pm

be sure to scream loudly ‘is it in’, ‘I can’t feel anything’, and ‘are you done already?

when they say sexx makes them lose their minds,u dont believe them Dan??

I do! :lol:

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:13 pm

@ Dan

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Genius!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:14 pm

geeks read techy blogs….hehehe…

Swiss Do you read Crave? If so what’s the deal with the ikar app?

SexyCool - Loves Red LifeSavers.

December 1st, 2009
3:16 pm

For some folks, that’s not a joke. It’s reality.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:17 pm

speaking of nekkid pics…i still have the ones of Stacey Dash…now SHE is a BEE YOOOOUUU tiful woman :-)

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:19 pm

@Slimone

That just made my day!

Where do you have them? May I observe you when you look at them next time?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:20 pm

who is that Slim??

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

@ Slim – Who is Stacey Dash?

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

No homo..
That’s how I want to age, gracefully. I want to look 25 at the age of 35.. Hell the way I’m going im pretty sure I’ll achieve that..

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:22 pm

Dan you know I have you locked in my email…I’ll just forward them right over. LOL ;-)

Dream_n--2 days until lil dreams bday

December 1st, 2009
3:23 pm

Who is Stacey Dash

Are ya’ll serious lol..

Think Clueless!

Dan

December 1st, 2009
3:26 pm

@Slim

It more about experiencing the your pleasure seeing her, with you.

Send the pics, but I’d wanna watch you watch her…

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
3:27 pm

Stacey Dash is HOT!!!!

she played butt heads (jason) girlfriend on THE GAME.

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
3:28 pm

how old is lil dream?

Melo

December 1st, 2009
3:28 pm

Slim one..Im in on that send button of ur email!

Cemeeli

December 1st, 2009
3:29 pm

“Are ya’ll serious lol”..

@ Dream_n – I’m not sweetstuff…don’t recall Miss Stac D.

SlimOne

December 1st, 2009
3:30 pm

Dan…nice try. LOL!!!!!

Yeah she is the black chick with the pretty hazel eyes that plays on Clueless.

Love, Beautiful

December 1st, 2009
3:30 pm

Dan yous a freak! lol. (but ain’t nutn wrong wit dat)

Leggs

December 1st, 2009
3:31 pm

What’s the topic?