It doesn’t matter how many times Lady Gaga sings it, being caught in a bad romance is like being stuck on a broken carousel being operated by an evil clown. The worst part of it is that we willingly hop on the ride and subject ourselves to the vicious cycle of drama.
You know what they say, the first step is admitting you have a problem. So admit it. The bad romances you end up with is partly because you are attracting what you are putting out there. When you have low self-esteem, lack confidence and believe that you don’t deserve better, you don’t get any better. This shows in the choices you make in people that you let occupy your mental space and time.
I was guilty of doing this and it wasn’t until I figured out how great I am (no, seriously I was slow to realize it) that I started to discover what it was like to date someone else who is great. I had to go through too many bad romances but you don’t have to!
First, how do you define a bad romance? How do you know when it’s bad? It may sound like a strange question but a lot of times we don’t know until it’s too late how bad it is.
Second, how do you get off the cycle of bad romances? What has worked for you?
Third, once you are in a good position to find a good romance, how do you avoid messing it up? There are definitely some adjustments to be made when you are so used to the bad romances from your past. When it is good, relaxing into it and keeping the drama at bay could be challenging but not impossible.
Getting off the bad romance carousel before 2010? Yes, please! Let’s Discuss