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It’s Human Nature, Really?

There is nothing more distracting to a good weekend of football then breaking gossip news reports about a high profile sports figure having an affair.  I take that back, there is one thing more distracting, when said prominent sports figure allegedly argues with his wife and wrecks his SUV about having an affair.

While Tiger Woods is making all attempts at damage control, a lot of people are speculating about the entire situation.  As always, a lot of people subscribe to the school of thought that anyone who is wealthy and powerful will never remain faithful.  Then others think that monogamy is simply not natural.  This argument always perplexes me because I have yet to see it this way.

What does it mean that it’s human nature to cheat? Is that logic simply based on biology?

I remember telling a guy that I wanted to be like the penguins and mate for life.  He argued back that they ALL look alike, so of course it is easier for them to mate for life. GREAT.  So much for my envy of penguin love!

Why do you think our society today views infidelity as a “natural” thing?  It no longer shocks or awes us, does it?

Do you think our generation is learning a different perspective about fidelity? Ladies, were you told outright or indirectly that all men cheat? Is it something you were conditioned to prepare for and deal with when it happened?

Guys how do you think your views on fidelity were shaped?  What is your position on monogamy being unnatural?

258 comments Add your comment

Dan

November 30th, 2009
3:47 pm

@Dream

It don’t. But it does fogg the next few weeks of thinking. EMD

Legg, how long ago was their session?

SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.

November 30th, 2009
3:48 pm

And it don’t give you a license to act an ass. And if you do take it up yourself to act an ass, I don’t have to stay around to put up with it, deal with it or try to overcome it.

Exit stage left.

Melo

November 30th, 2009
3:49 pm

with that kinda sexx Proff,its best to wear high heels when u go to church.

That way,when u walk sideways,with a hunched forward limp,u blame it on the high heels.

I know,u be trying to get some wind and air on ur vjay backside,twen ur thighs,just coz its a lil sore over there coz he hit u backside more times than was desirable and the vjay cream ran out…. :lol: :evil:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 30th, 2009
3:51 pm

Dan – Im not saying it wouldnt have you on cloud nine for a while. But at SOME POINT, reality kicks in. It was stated they had A four hour session, not regular or multiple four hour sessions. At some point you have to recognize the situation for what it is and you cant get around that. You either recogize it on your own or have someone let you know. Either way its going to happen, that you realize that you were just CUT!

Melo

November 30th, 2009
3:54 pm

Good Dyck is Good Dyck

it is Good Dyck…amen to that Dream_n

I took Queen on a weekend trip some 15 yrs ago and we neva went out of the room for 2 whole days…ordering room service for dinner,breakfast,lunch, and dinner,breakfast,lunch..untill we left..

drilling it and drilling it..just so I cld claim my spot..

15 yrs down,every now and then she wll ask”Do u remember that weekend we went to Nyanga for the weekend and we didnt go outa the hotel”"

All i do is nod and smile…

I sympathise with Leggs friend!

Professor

November 30th, 2009
3:55 pm

Dang Melo you are a mess with that one! If you need that much air on the “vjay” you might as well keep your azz at home and not even go to church…just stay home and let the window fan blow some cool air on that thang. :grin: :???: :neutral: :eek: :grin: :evil:

Melo I am done talking nasty with you for the day.

Dan

November 30th, 2009
3:57 pm

I’m just saying:

It’s been iterated ad nasuem here (by woemn) that sex makes women a little silly. And now a 4 hour session and yall talking “reality”?

Come on, son! Something doesn’t add up

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
3:58 pm

She didn’t exactly tell me, but listening to her and her chain of events, about a month ago.

And, if you presented yourself as a “man” in the beginning in the hopes of getting the “goods,” why now appear like a jacka$$ after getting such goods. Still act like a man and not a wolf in sheep clothing.

“…that you realize that you were just CUT!” Dropping the Mike and drawing the curtains!!!!

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:00 pm

Hell, you guys can get a nice romp and she can have you doing somersaults over fire hydrants trying to get back to her place….it affects both parties. Let’s not forget that. You men have gotten silly too. I know cuz I’ve seen it up close and personal!

SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.

November 30th, 2009
4:02 pm

If last week’s lovemaking still has me loopy today, it ain’t the lovemaking. I’d just be a dizzy broad.

You mean to tell me you’re still high off your first ever nut? Come now.

Dan

November 30th, 2009
4:02 pm

@Leggs

Because people lie.

She lied by not telling him that she’s really only been in that (or that) position with one other person in her life and he lied to get the puddy.

It happens, it’s just sad that she learned that lesson this late in life.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 30th, 2009
4:03 pm

Dan – I dont think any one of us women is denying that s3x can have you acting a lil crazy. But from what Leggs said, dude isnt providing that anymore. HELLO??? Anyone else hearing the voices screaming “you were just cut, you were just cut”. What im saying is Leggs is telling her whats up and dude aint contacting her anymore. So what is so cloudy NOW?

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:04 pm

I won’t say she lied especiall if he hadn’t asked her. Nothing wrong with her not telling him she’s his second. She didn’t lie about anything.

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:04 pm

I mean he’s her second!!!

Dream_n

November 30th, 2009
4:06 pm

dude aint contacting her anymore. So what is so cloudy NOW?</strong

Exactly Mo!!!

You mean to tell me you’re still high off your first ever nut? Come now

lmao..

Dan

November 30th, 2009
4:07 pm

@Mo

We’re speaking from the position of having more than 2 partners.

The last dude she came off it for married her. She has NO IDEA that this is not the way of the world. (May have heard stories, but like fat meat and grease…)

@Leggs

An omission is a lie, because it ain’t the WHOLE truth.

Forgive my spelling folks

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:08 pm

@Dan, I knew you would come back with exactly that!

Dan

November 30th, 2009
4:09 pm

@SC

I am. Like a crack addict, I yearn for that feeling every time.

And when I don’t get it, I’m disappointed.

In that sense, I’m a hype.

Dan

November 30th, 2009
4:10 pm

@Leggs

Do you really think dude would’ve still got down if he knew he was number 2 at 40yo?

Really?

SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.

November 30th, 2009
4:10 pm

Mo – “Anyone else hearing the voices screaming “you were just cut, you were just cut”. ”

Officially LMAO.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 30th, 2009
4:11 pm

Dan – okay lets say she is cloudy b/c he is her second ever, when he called and said he didnt want to see her anymore that should have been it. Im still not getting what is so confusing for her. What is not clear about “I dont want to see you anymore?”

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:11 pm

@Dan ~ how plainly can I put this HELL YEAH!

Dream_n

November 30th, 2009
4:12 pm

Do you really think dude would’ve still got down if he knew he was number 2 at 40yo?

Ya’ll dudes still long to be with a virgin.. So I’ll answer that question for ya….Hell Yeah!!! (okay ur turn Leggs) :lol:

Dream_n

November 30th, 2009
4:12 pm

oh you beat me :lol:

Dan

November 30th, 2009
4:14 pm

What?

That’ll be a question for tomorrow…a virgin? Really Dream?

Who have you been talking to (over 18) that wants to deal with a virgin?

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:14 pm

@Mo ~ because, unfortunately, she’s falls in the category of dumba$$ women. They hear what the guy is saying but they put a spin on the words to make them think differently. I actually witnessed this last night when he repeated to me that he said “this is not going to work. I want to keep my dating and coaching duties separate. Don’t want to see a woman on the team, but if you like you can come over and we can talk.” She kept saying “he wants to talk, that’s a start.” No, it’s not a start to open dialogue. It’s the beginning of you being a booty call at his convenience but she doesn’t see it AT ALL!!!!!

Professor

November 30th, 2009
4:14 pm

Mo~I am with you on this one…she was just cut and what is so unclear now.

She might as well take that 40 year old pudsy and go sit down until she is ready to play again and can understand the rules, rather spoken or unspoken to the game. For all we know he Coach-I-hit-the-dugout might didn’t enjoy it as much as she think he did.

Dream_n

November 30th, 2009
4:14 pm

What is not clear about “I dont want to see you anymore?”

I don’t know how clear you can get, but she’s prolly just longing for that companionship she used to have… so when he laid it down.. She got a lil mindboggled, but that statement should’ve cleared that ish up real quick!

SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.

November 30th, 2009
4:15 pm

Mo – What was confusing? I don’t want to see you anymore – but you still can come over and we can talk.

Although, it shouldn’t have been confusing. But really, whatdahell else is there to talk about at this point?

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:15 pm

That was funny, Dream_n!

Melo

November 30th, 2009
4:16 pm

Leggs,describe this friend of urs for me…

Hw she look like..??

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 30th, 2009
4:17 pm

SCool – LOL, Im jus sayin chica! :smile:

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:17 pm

You guys better pray for me when I get back on the saddle. I might lose my damn mind. J/K! Really, I am kidding. Like Professor said, she knows absolutely NADA about the game!

Professor

November 30th, 2009
4:19 pm

He would have been proud to be #2 and he would have given her the 8 hour package with two 15 minute breaks and a 1/2 hour lunch deal if he would have known just to blow her mind even more.

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:19 pm

You know SCool, to hear someone say it and then turn around and find a spin is absolutely amazing to witness. I have no doubt she will stop turning to me for advice because I won’t sugarcoat anything for her!

lurker

November 30th, 2009
4:20 pm

Best, realest comments for today was I’m Swiss, 11:28. Nothing pretentious about it. The fact that he’s not sure what he’ll fall prey to and has a check plan in place in keeping him honest, is what is means to be human. Men that were dogs/playas now on the “no longer a dog” band wagon. Yeah, hind sight is always 20/20. You just ain’t cheating because you’re tired of it. No kudos for you. Women are quick to say it’s a choice (yes it is) because typically women are the (known) victims, when in reality, it takes two to tango. So where are we? Back at I’m Swiss honestly stating, I love me wife and don’t plan to cheat but because I’m human and may fall prey to indulgences, I’ll keep it clean by playing keep away, making myself an open book and keeping myself honest. As much as we may not want to believe it, none of us above commiting anything. Expect for ABC, he’s about as close to Jesus as we’ll see in this life.

Dream_n

November 30th, 2009
4:20 pm

Not necessarily deal with the woman Dan

But “being” with an untouched woman, pure, tight, and all that other ish..

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:20 pm

@Professor ~ she did speak of 3 five-min breaks, but I didn’t hear anything about water/snack break!

Melo

November 30th, 2009
4:21 pm

Shes confused coz(and rightly so coz her vjay lacks experience) there are women out there who still believe that sex is only between long term partners or partners to be…no casual sport sexx..

Shes a good woman bedded by a pudsy snatcher.

She needs sexx/relationship-withdrawal therapy..from Leggs/friend! :lol:

Dream_n

November 30th, 2009
4:22 pm

there are women out there who still believe that sex is only between long term partners or partners to be…no casual sport sexx..

Here we go again…

Professor

November 30th, 2009
4:23 pm

Leggs although my words sound harsh I feel sorry for your friend, because he was probably telling her a lot of sweet nothings on that phone and texting all kinds of crap. Just think about it for a minute…we her being a bit sheltered she probably disclosed everything including the last time she had sex with a man…dildos does not count and he probably knew a little bit more than we are giving him credit. Is she a victim? Not really she just got played and she should pick it up and learn the lesson behind what happened.

i'm swiss

November 30th, 2009
4:24 pm

“Who have you been talking to (over 18) that wants to deal with a virgin?”

LMAO @ Dan — Why do I keep thinking of that line from Wedding Crashers

“We’ve got a Stage 5 Clinger here. Did you hear me??? I said a STAGE 5 CLINGER!:lol:

Melo

November 30th, 2009
4:24 pm

Expect for ABC, he’s about as close to Jesus as we’ll see in this life

hw about Raqi?? lurker??

Dream_n

November 30th, 2009
4:27 pm

We’ve got a Stage 5 Clinger here. Did you hear me??? I said a STAGE 5 CLINGER!”

One of my all tome favorite movies..lmao!! Swiss you a fool.

lurker

November 30th, 2009
4:27 pm

I didn’t say Raqi, you did.

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:27 pm

@Prof ~ your words do not sound harsh to me at all. I don’t necessarily speak with sugar falling from my lips either!

i'm swiss

November 30th, 2009
4:30 pm

Thanks for the compliment, lurker. :-)

Melo

November 30th, 2009
4:36 pm

Professor

November 30th, 2009
4:38 pm

Well Ms. Leggs go home and get all comfy because you have sitting duty tonight. You are going to have to sit and listen to your friend talk this out in her head, but I really think you should do it under all the circumstances.

…stepping out. Y’all be good I cannot wait to see the Saints lose tonight! :evil:

Leggs

November 30th, 2009
4:38 pm

HAAAAAAAAAA, how many went to their inboxes?