It’s Human Nature, Really?
There is nothing more distracting to a good weekend of football then breaking gossip news reports about a high profile sports figure having an affair. I take that back, there is one thing more distracting, when said prominent sports figure allegedly argues with his wife and wrecks his SUV about having an affair.
While Tiger Woods is making all attempts at damage control, a lot of people are speculating about the entire situation. As always, a lot of people subscribe to the school of thought that anyone who is wealthy and powerful will never remain faithful. Then others think that monogamy is simply not natural. This argument always perplexes me because I have yet to see it this way.
What does it mean that it’s human nature to cheat? Is that logic simply based on biology?
I remember telling a guy that I wanted to be like the penguins and mate for life. He argued back that they ALL look alike, so of course it is easier for them to mate for life. GREAT. So much for my envy of penguin love!
Why do you think our society today views infidelity as a “natural” thing? It no longer shocks or awes us, does it?
Do you think our generation is learning a different perspective about fidelity? Ladies, were you told outright or indirectly that all men cheat? Is it something you were conditioned to prepare for and deal with when it happened?
Guys how do you think your views on fidelity were shaped? What is your position on monogamy being unnatural?
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Love, Beautiful
November 30th, 2009
2:16 pm
and she needs to treat him like she got other options! which she prolly does. he’s blockin’ the ONE. jus sayin’.
Melo
November 30th, 2009
2:21 pm
but Scool/Beautiful..wldnt that be faking it..u know,geting killed softly inside but putting up a pretense.jus sayin’…??
If she does that,im sure hell come back for her….
But they wil be jus phluccking each other again…….
Sexx is addictive!
I think Leggs’ friend is addicted!
Love, Beautiful
November 30th, 2009
2:21 pm
starting my facebook page tonight! my lil sis and sister-n-law has been on me for months to get wit da program. lol. they IM each other all day talkin’ bout nutn. they silly. lol.
Love, Beautiful
November 30th, 2009
2:24 pm
@Melo
if she takes a look around, she will then notice all that she has been missin’. it’s not faking.
(been there)
SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.
November 30th, 2009
2:29 pm
Melo – In this scenario, she will only die if she allows herself to do so. She needs to take charge of the frickin’ situation and turn the tables on o’boy.
He is the one that set the rules of engagement. She didn’t ask for the game, but since she’s being forced to play it, she may as well do so by her rules and she should play to win. (Although, there is no real winner in this kinda bllsht. It’s all figurative, at this point.)
As to sex being addictive, she just needs to find a new drug. That is all.
Melo
November 30th, 2009
2:29 pm
it’s not faking..
@Beautiful
its faking if u pretending not to like it…..
I think she shld jus get under another man,like u always recommend!
That will take away her hunger,dont u think…
Melo
November 30th, 2009
2:30 pm
As to sex being addictive, she just needs to find a new drug.
we agree!
SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.
November 30th, 2009
2:33 pm
Actually, I should have said a new supplier for said drug of choice.
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:03 pm
Melo fell in love with that comment…he almost dropped his lernch
He told her he didn’t want to mix things only after he got his chocolate balls twirled around a creamy snatch
Leggs, I am working on my math and two months should not have = a four hour romp session.
Dream…keep working on your yams…did you use a recipe? Make the adjustments and cook them again this Sunday. Keep going for it until you master it…
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:05 pm
This should sum things up nicely. A different supplier for said drug of choice sounds right, but won’t happen in her case. This is the 2nd man she’s been with in her entire life. She’s newly divorced about 1.4 years and her ex husband has been the only man she’s been with. When she told me this last night, I was floored and can easily see why she latched on so tightly. However, her heart is going pitter patter and she hasn’t stored any ammunition to hold the fort down. She doesn’t know how!
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:07 pm
Leggs does your friend get a lot of “play” when y’all hang out. Is she attractive and used to getting attention from dudes? I am trying to figure out why she cannot shake him after two months…I saw the fact that he drilled in her for four hours, but other than a musty exchange of body fluids she should be ok.
Dan
November 30th, 2009
3:08 pm
@Leggs
She’s a goner.
I doubt she gave him this information ahead of time.
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:09 pm
1.5 years!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 30th, 2009
3:11 pm
Raqi – long story chica. Lets just say I was devastated.
SCool – so agreeing with your 2:07.
Leggs – old girl needs some help! Seriously she is really about to get her feelings hurt, poor thing
mytw♥cents - mytw♥tatas - d♥scentavos - Fallen Angel - Albino Tigress
November 30th, 2009
3:11 pm
Since when was cheating Not a CHOICE? Desire is human nature, true. But when you choose a spouse, you choose to not explore any other options. So if/when folks cheat, it means (to me) they didn’t choose their mate that day…
As for Tiger, let that man have his business.
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:12 pm
@Dan, yes, she’s a goner, but as long as she picks me to talk to, I’ll be throwing her a lifejackjet. I won’t let her go down making a fool of herself. After a talk or two, I know when to let grown folk make a fool out of themselves.
@Prof ~ I’ve known her for about 3 years, but she just started opening up to me in the past 8 months. This is the most she has ever shared with me. She’s a friend, but not a bff type of friend.
Dream_n
November 30th, 2009
3:13 pm
No recipe, just watched my mom and tried to imitate her, once she was finished
I am working on my math and two months should not have = a four hour romp session.
When will they learn….
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:13 pm
@Dan ~ yes, he knew all about her divorce. Not sure if he knew her ex was the only man she’s been with.
I think this new dude is trying to drive home a point!!!
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:14 pm
Leggs I just read the 1.5 years…I take it coach-chocolate-dingle-ling was even better than her ex-husband he had her running drills and she saw a future and all of the other ish. I hope she can shake coach-wicky-dicky and move on with her dignity in tact. Although I am not a mother I cannot see letting my child’s coach see my thongs.
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:18 pm
Don’t mean to contradict myself, but I will talk with her as much as I can before I realize these folk are grown and there’s but so much I can tell her.
@Mo ~ yes indeed, she’s about to have her feelings messed up. Now, she’s going to sit in the corner because she gave up the cookie thinking they had something going. I told her until you guys have the talk about being exclusive, all bets are on the table!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 30th, 2009
3:18 pm
Boy ya’ll funny.. Its OK for a woman to break shady but when a dude do it.. Oh he is basically looked as if he robbeb the Pope.. He aint did nothing she didnt wanna do and thats that.. Everybody involved were willing participants and the sooner we start looking at situations like that verses male/female the picture will begin to become clear.. Step out the Matrix People.. I got them red Pills over here, 2 for 5 Patna
Dream_n
November 30th, 2009
3:19 pm
Professor you are a straight fool!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 30th, 2009
3:20 pm
And most of ya’ll in here tripping.. Knowing ya’ll would be tweekin if ya’ll got handed a four hour beatdown. Cats aint handing out real beatings these days and when ya’ll get one its all good.. I can tell who can appreciate a tantric session as opposed to those who cant..
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:20 pm
Dream~Girl they will never learn! They are going to throw those thongs to kingdom come and still not recognize the game. You cannot call a foul after two months you know it was just boot-tay (saying it like JJ Evans Good times)
As for the yams and all other recipes this is what I do…I find a simple recipe online because measurements and technique helps. Add the pizzazz of your mothers cooking…cinnamon, nutmeg, sugar and flavoring it will let you keep things in proportion and you can still add a little soul to it…that is how I learned to cook.
If you are doing other dishes like pasta and stuff just add your extra garlic and seasonings, but the measurements helps a lot or try doctoring up a can of yams to get the feeling of cooking them.
SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.
November 30th, 2009
3:21 pm
Dream’n – I have a perfect yam recipe, if you want it.
Dream_n
November 30th, 2009
3:21 pm
Infamous
“Its OK for a woman to break shady”
Who said that that ish was okay either way??
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:21 pm
“…shake coach-wicky-dicky” Good one. You come up with the funniest names for that flippy flop thingamajig!
SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.
November 30th, 2009
3:23 pm
But, IDK, in THIS situation, she’s not breaking shady. She should just play the hand she was dealt. That is all.
Melo
November 30th, 2009
3:24 pm
@Proff,just as well,its so soon after Thanxgiving so i give u sme slack coz i quickly understood…
Any other time and day,this statemnt wld have had me scratching my brains:
Dream…keep working on your yams!!
melo wld be like:
whats the Proff telling Dream_n to do,really???! Puerto Rico guy did what on them??? 
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:25 pm
@InfamousD ~ let me speak for myself. Even with a 4-hr session I’m not latching on as if I just had my last meal. She’s going about this all wrong and she looks foolish in his eyes as well as mine. The only difference is how she looks to me doesn’t matter to her. She’s asking how I see things and I can only tell her. She’s a weak woman (latching on so soon dragging her self-esteem) who’s been played and now she doesn’t know what to do about it. When her phone rang and she showed me the caller ID, the first thing that came out of my mouth was Aretha Franklin’s song Jump Jump Jump To It……come now, have some dignity about how you handle this and she’s going head on with her nose being wide open by two clothes pins!
SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.
November 30th, 2009
3:25 pm
And like Prof said, always add a bit more seasoning than is called for and your own touch to just about any recipe.
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:26 pm
Leggs/Dream y’all know I have 101 names for that peter-wee-ter
Dream_n
November 30th, 2009
3:26 pm
Sexyc
I would really appreciate that.. and if you have any other recipes.. “simple ones” for now.. pls send them to my email.
martin_sharde@yahoo.com
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 30th, 2009
3:26 pm
Dream – Because first of all women will rationalize their BS until is sounds good and will have her cheering section cosigining the nonsense..
Melo
November 30th, 2009
3:26 pm
I saw the fact that he drilled in her for four hours
Boy!!! what did u have for lernch Proff….u unstaoppable with ur mouf!!
Drilled??
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 30th, 2009
3:28 pm
Sexy – Well you my dear I know could appreciate a 4 hr session.. Especially with the “I was looking in the mirror Comment”..
Melo
November 30th, 2009
3:29 pm
think this new dude is trying to drive home a point!!!
no point to drive home
Leggs..u funny..
jus drive home the juice juice!
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:29 pm
“…first of all women will rationalize their BS until is sounds good and will have her cheering section cosigining the nonsense..” Only if they got the right “yes” women in their clique! I’m not that person.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 30th, 2009
3:31 pm
Infamous – All Im saying is, she needs to recognize the situation for what it is and for what it aint! The whole thing is wrong b/c of how she sees it. She was cut to him and he’s treating it as such. That is a disaster waiting to happen. The smoke does have to clear, even after a good dyck down….reality bites
Dream_n
November 30th, 2009
3:35 pm
DK
Yea immature women who get their mind all clouded over sex… puh lease..
Now a 4 hour session may have my in the kitchen making him a bowl of cereal in the am
(being exclusive and him my man that is),
but it will not have my blinded to reality… and I will not co sign BS.. Trust!
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:35 pm
Melo…LOL with the yams! I quickly saw what you meant when I read it but you know I do not give out advice on how to freakum on the blog…naw I was not telling Dream to put that yam juice on ole boy and make him sticky wicky after she blindfold and handcuff his azz put the leftover yams on him hell its a recession no time for all that cool whip and berry ish.
As for the drilled part…if dude is hitting and swinging that chocolate corn dog for 4 hours he is drilling and killing the poot-nanny
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:38 pm
@Dream I agree totally with that 3:35
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:38 pm
She had a great time and was very sore! As I stated a while ago, that’s the kind of sex that has you walking funny!
SexyCool - Um, yeah. So.
November 30th, 2009
3:39 pm
IDK….ssshhh!!! Hush up now.
Dan
November 30th, 2009
3:40 pm
@Mo, et al
I’m with DK. After a 4 hour session, y’all ain’t thankin about what is or what aint. thinking about what just happened….stop playin
Professor
November 30th, 2009
3:42 pm
Leggs thats the kind of sex that was made for Friday night and if you do it Saturday night you better not try to make it to early service…walking funny in church looking wore out after a four hour stand off. You will have the ushers talking ’bout ya.
Dream_n
November 30th, 2009
3:42 pm
Let me start off by saying to each their own…
There is nothing wrong with a 4 hour romp session if the guy/girl is not your man/woman.. As long as both parties are okay with it. But if he/she shows you himself after that session please believe it. That’s where some women’s logic get a little fuzzy. Just cause he called you 4 x’s that week to get up with you on Saturday night, does not make him your man if you guys didnt talk about it first. I suggest talking about where the relationship is b4 giving up the goods.
Melo
November 30th, 2009
3:44 pm
walking funny in church looking wore out after a four hour stand off. You will have the ushers talking ’bout ya
Laaaaaawd Jesus!!
Dream_n
November 30th, 2009
3:45 pm
I’m with DK. After a 4 hour session, y’all ain’t thankin about what is or what aint. thinking about what just happened….stop playin
This is true Dan, but just because we’re talking about it, it doesn’t mean that we have some how lost our train of thought…. come on now…
Good Dyck is Good Dyck… but that ish does not give you amnesia.
Leggs
November 30th, 2009
3:46 pm
@Dream_n, you nailed it. Going for a Fanta!