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Should we be thankful for dating?

Thanksgiving is the holiday that invokes gratitude and appreciation.  You can count your blessings and say what you are thankful for because it allows you to recognize what you have.  We can even appreciate the dating game, for better or for worse.

Of course it is no fun being rejected or getting dump, but a lot of our dating experiences are fun.  I would even argue that if we took the time to really think about it, there are few things we actually regret.  By the way, if this is not the case, then you may need to evaluate why you are constantly picking the wrong people. Or perhaps you are picking the right person and handling things the wrong way.

At any rate, what do you appreciate about the dating game? Which experience are you most grateful for?

If you took the time to find the lesson, which was the most important one you learned?

I think each date is like taking a little step toward the person you want, so we may as well make it a meaningful step. Do you think we should be thankful that we are single and dating?

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Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
9:04 am

Good Morning All :grin:

Hmmm what am I grateful for as it relates to the “dating” world….
Not really a dater, but I am thankful for my dating experience. I am thankful that I came out realizing that I’m worth so much more. I’m thankful that my family and friends stood by my in the midst of my naiveness. I’m just thankful for my story…

Without going through the trails, I wouldn’t be the woman I am today…
And that’s a helluva a woman might I say….. :lol:

Professor you’re normally 1st.. I took your title!!! lol

czBrat

November 25th, 2009
9:05 am

GM All!

Should we be thankful that we are single and dating? Being single has allowed me to learn more about myself. Dating has allowed me to learn about others. I have had great dating experiences with very few regrets, and each date was a step toward finding the person I want AND toward being the person I want to be in a relationship.

The most important lesson I’ve learned did not come from dating, it came as a result of my divorce. Never let someone be your priority when you are only their option.

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
9:11 am

cbratz

“Being single has allowed me to learn more about myself.”

I can honestly say that that statement is so true. Although it’s only been a short time. Being single allows you to reflect on everything, good or bad…..

Professor

November 25th, 2009
9:20 am

Happy Thanksgiving Eve!

I am with czBrat dating has allowed me to learn about others and being single has allowed me to learn more about me. When it is all said and done in the words of Dream those experiences have made me a helluva woman.

Also I would like to add that the dating game has allowed me to learn to share a little bit. I was never made to share for the most part growing up and that is one of my flaws. However being in a relationship has taught me how to compromise more and share just a little.

Wings (())

November 25th, 2009
9:26 am

Good Morning and Happy Thanksgiving!

Ahh………Finally a day to off!

I think each date is like taking a little step toward the person you want, so we may as well make it a meaningful step.

Exactly! Every experience that I’ve ever had, made me who I am….I am grateful for them all!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mx_vdEZQnBc

Enjoy!

ImAPeach404

November 25th, 2009
9:30 am

I’d say the only thing dating has allowed me to be thankful for is allowing me to determine what I don’t want out of a mate and relationship.

Thats about it…

Morning all

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
9:31 am

compromise

I’m stubborn, hard headed, all that..lol
But that word is definately part of making a realtionship work. A relationship can’t progress if everyone is working for themselves…

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
9:34 am

Things I am thankful for as it relates to dating/relationships:

1. Learning more about myself as it relates to what I like and what I don’t like.
2. Knowing what I will and will not do for love or in hopes of love
3. Experiencing some fun things…sunrises and sunsets…going some places I never thought about
4. Learning new things…preparing a new dish or learning about a new sport or something
5. Meeting new people…I have met some cool people in the dating arena and yes some ended in the FZ, but it was all worth it
6. Always having a date…it is cool knowing you have someone to escort you rather it is to the movies or to a benefit gala.
7. Making my heart smile…I am thankful for those simple loving moments that were heartwarming…although the relationship did not last I still can reflect and my heart smiles
8. Being able to share and compromise more
9. Having someone that makes me want to do better…that partner that makes me feel like I can conquer the world…my biggest cheerleader.
Knowing that I am capable of loving someone so much and knowing that I am capable of walking away when I need to without any bitterness or regrets.

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
9:34 am

Things I am thankful for as it relates to dating/relationships:

1. Learning more about myself as it relates to what I like and what I don’t like.
2. Knowing what I will and will not do for love or in hopes of love
3. Experiencing some fun things…sunrises and sunsets…going some places I never thought about
4. Learning new things…preparing a new dish or learning about a new sport or something
5. Meeting new people…I have met some cool people in the dating arena and yes some ended in the FZ, but it was all worth it
6. Always having a date…it is cool knowing you have someone to escort you rather it is to the movies or to a benefit gala.
7. Making my heart smile…I am thankful for those simple loving moments that were heartwarming…although the relationship did not last I still can reflect and my heart smiles
8. Being able to share and compromise more
9. Having someone that makes me want to do better…that partner that makes me feel like I can conquer the world…my biggest cheerleader.
Knowing that I am capable of loving someone so much and knowing that I am capable of walking away when I need to without any bitterness or regrets.

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
9:37 am

Dream,

Compromise is huge for me. I was not made to share I was the baby and my interest and wants were not the same as my older siblings. At school I did not share, because I really did not play with the toys at school…I did not want to share and I knew I had better stuff at home anyway.

So I can see myself growing which is a good thing.

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
9:41 am

Hmmmm I like that list.

Another thing I am thankful for (when being in a relationship)..

Is having that person to comfort you when you are down. That person that wipes your tears when you cry. That person that brings you home your favorite food when they know you’ve had a stressful day. That person that allows you to be silly. That person that understands even when you don’t utter a word…

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
9:46 am

Professor,

I too was the youngest in my immediate family. The one that was/is spoiled. When I got into the relationship with the ex, the concept of compromise was new. I was so used to saying no let’s do this, let’s go here. I was not compromising at all. I had to learn that. I have not fully mastered it, but I’m definately learning.

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
9:50 am

Dream,

I am still a student to the art of compromise, but like you I am learning and trying.

Luvbug

November 25th, 2009
9:51 am

Why my computer restarted itself?

Cuz nobody told me not to Google Uncle Peaches

Come on people…disclaimer please

:cry:

Luvbug

November 25th, 2009
9:53 am

I first want to state the good things about my family, since I put the bad news about them out in the world yesterday. Despite the challenges, I like that..when we’re together and everybody is content…we can watch Washington Journal then turn around and watch Kat Williams then turn around and watch The Universe. I like that they are diverse in beliefs and promote critical thinking. They are entrepreneurial and community focused. I love the best parts of them dearly.

Now…gratefulness in dating…I appreciate each for different reasons. One for being my first love and showing it without conditions…another for being my friend and ally…we don’t talk often, but when we do, it’s like he’s my brother (he will call me on my bs sometimes)…actually I can see him married (not to me of course) and want nothing but the best for him…and another for being my first (first,first) and being so gentle and patient and tender that I knew the difference when I tried out others…I literally thanked God for him after I tried the others.

SexyCool - 5 Star Chick

November 25th, 2009
9:55 am

Three Words Daily – Blessed! Enough said.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 25th, 2009
9:57 am

At any rate, what do you appreciate about the dating game? If you took the time to find the lesson, which was the most important one you learned?

Well,well,well….what am I thankful for? I’ve learned what/what not to accept in a mate/relationship and that first and foremost I must value myself above all else. I’ve also learned that I MUST get out MORE!!

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 25th, 2009
9:59 am

Wise went all deep on me this morning. Not in a thinking, reflective mood.

All I have come up with (so far) as relates to this topic:

I am thankful I ain’t killed nobody and ain’t nobody killed me.
(If I think of something that is not retarded, I’ll be BACH!! – Arnold Schwarzdude impression. I slay me! ~lmao~)

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
10:03 am

Ladies, Can you name one specific thing from one of your exes that you’ve learned and kept with you while going through the dating process.

East Point's Own

November 25th, 2009
10:06 am

I wonder why its only ladies who are thankful for dating this morning????
hmmmm….. what could the reason be???? I wonder… LoL

http://hispointofview.com/

East Point's Own

November 25th, 2009
10:08 am

Oh for you people looking for a good dating activity go check out the movie Skin… I wrote a lil bit about it on my blog. It is showing at one or two theatres in ATL this weekend….

http://hispointofview.com

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
10:10 am

Ladies, Can you name one specific thing from one of your exes that you’ve learned and kept with you while going through the dating process.

One lesson I learned that I have kept with me and often reflected on is you cannot be “in one minute and out the next” I would always want to flee when things got bad…my ex taught me to stick with it

Another one,I had one ex that would lay down his feelings and talk…he taught me how to do the same in a relationship

Mo (aka Moeisha-my nose is as red as Rudolph's but I feel MUCH better!)

November 25th, 2009
10:12 am

Morning All!

okay since I know I wont get much work done today is okay to start slacking now??

BRB – to post on the topic :smile:

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
10:12 am

I know we are talking about being thankful, but do we have any regrets out there? Seriously have you dated someone or saw something in yourself while dating that you regret? Maybe you have not fully come to terms with whatever it was…example did it take you too long to leave the relationship

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
10:13 am

Mo~chica I am with you on that…let the slacking begin!

East Point's Own

November 25th, 2009
10:14 am

Did I miss the memo??? should I not be here today? Is there a game on this morning? Is Magic City serving breakfast today?

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
10:21 am

Is Magic City serving breakfast today?

:lol:

East, express what you are thankful for!

i'm swiss

November 25th, 2009
10:22 am

@ EPO — It’s not just the ladies… I’m thankful for some things in my dating days, too…

I’m thankful for all the fine booty I’ve had the good fortune to sample during my man-ho days. (And even the not-so-fine-looking-but-felt-fine-with-the-lights-off booty) :lol:

I’m thankful for all the chics who gave it up on the first date.

I’m thankful for the 3-ways.

I’m thankful for PSH.

I’m thankful for good hygiene. (And for the belly-button test.)

But mostly, I’m thankful that now that I’ve put all that mess (albeit a fun mess) behind me, I’ve been blessed with the best wife any man could ever hope for. :-D

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
10:24 am

Hmmm regrets??

Yea, I regret wallowing in a bad relationship. I regret that I didnt change the dynamics of the relationship sooner.

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
10:26 am

Swiss

You are a straight fool!!! :lol:

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 25th, 2009
10:29 am

Lessons:
Take Total Responsibility.
Make better choices.

Regrets:
That I didn’t make better choices sooner.

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
10:31 am

Swiss,

What is the belly button test?

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
10:32 am

@Dream and Scool…those are my regrets too, when I take a look in the rearview mirror

czBrat

November 25th, 2009
10:36 am

Ladies, Can you name one specific thing from one of your exes that you’ve learned and kept with you while going through the dating process.

from the ex-hubbs i learned my true worth. from an ex i’ve learned the importance of a true friendship within the relationship. from the current s/o i’m learning that a strong man who loves and feels loved WILL BE THERE … ALWAYS!!!

Professor & Dream_n i’m also the baby of the bunch, but i have no problems with sharing nor stubbornness (sp). however, i have NO patience :) i’ve not yet conquered that flaw. working on it :)

Melo

November 25th, 2009
10:36 am

my kids will smetimes say,mummy/daddy,u the best dad ever….

In the same vein,Swiss,u the best blogger ever,so far today!! I second and Thirds ALL that post!..

the back alley quickie
the in the cramped car blow job
the in 1st class train ride sexx on the top bunker,with my young brother on the bottom bunker bed,listening and pining :lol:

the car breakdown sexx whilst riding to the city with my friend,courtesy of the 2 females who gave us abode for the nite

Lord I wanna thank u for the 2 days of hotel,sexx arrest/detention while on vacation for the weekend in the Kruger mountain resort with the woman who became my Queen….

To all the women who did not make it thru the whole nite coz they bailed out, complaining that my libido was too much to bear,i thank u!

For these wonderful Rugrats that we enjoy this coming meal with and the promises of tomorrow and their fine characters that give hope that they wont follow the path of their dad,

I thank u Lord!

Morning folks and Happy Thnxgiven. :lol:

Luvbug

November 25th, 2009
10:37 am

Regrets

My stubbornness gets me every time…no is my default…so by the time I’ve analyzed the situation and switched to yes, sometimes it’s too late.

Mo (aka Moeisha-my nose is as red as Rudolph's but I feel MUCH better!)

November 25th, 2009
10:38 am

Regrets – being too optimistic even when the truth was staring me in the face. Also not speaking up on feelings soon enough.

Now on being thankful: I am thankful for my ex, who helped me to see that sometimes the argument is worth it and that you cant take back words so be careful what you say (i knew that but he reinforced it). I also learned alot in reference to my tolerances, what I can and cannot deal with in a relationship, what I can give and not give.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 25th, 2009
10:39 am

I’m heading out for an appointment. Most of you probably won’t be here when I get back.

Enjoy your holiday.

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
10:42 am

What is the belly button test?

I was scared to ask.. lol

Mo I like your 10:38

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
10:46 am

Mo~ I am with you on that 10:38

Melo~No comment :shock:

Swiss…I am not going anywhere until you tell me about this belly button test. Melo, do you know what it is? Tell me…

Melo

November 25th, 2009
10:48 am

What is the belly button test?

It is the smell/sniff test u do,be4 u go down there! :lol:

If its funky up there on the belly,its funky down there too..

i'm swiss

November 25th, 2009
10:49 am

“What is the belly button test?”

Professor — The belly-button test is the “field test” for determining a chic’s level of hygiene prior to diving in down under. A belly-button test is conducted as follows:

1) Begin kissing around the neck area, slowly working your way down to the breasts and then stomach.

2) When you get just below the belly-button, stop and take in several deep breaths through your nose.

3) Continue with the deep breath with each progressive move downward.

4) At the first hint of any foul odor: ABORT!

:lol:

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
10:52 am

I am cracking up right now!!!! lmao!!!

That is the funniest thing I have ever read!! You men are so silly!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha-my nose is as red as Rudolph's but I feel MUCH better!)

November 25th, 2009
10:53 am

OMG not the Belly Button test! I remember Swiss mentioning that before!

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
10:56 am

Swiss and Melo :???: :grin: :smile: y’all are crazy!

Wonderwoman

November 25th, 2009
10:58 am

I have to whole heartly agree with ImPeach 9:30am post. I’m thankful that I’ve learned what I don’t want out of a man/relations before I make a final committment (marriage). I’m also thankful in dating, that I’ve been able to keep true to myself.

Two things that I’ve learned and keep in mind that I’ve learned from two of my ex’s. One, to recongize that men express their love & caring feelings in different ways. Instead of questioning it, understand it and appreciate for what it is. Second, from my very first beau, he told me to always have my man’s back.

The only regret I think I have in relationships is not ending the relationship when I knew it was time. But I’m thankful in this last relationship I have gotten better.

Melo

November 25th, 2009
11:00 am

4) At the first hint of any foul odor: ABORT!

Dream_n/Professor:

If u can picture ur computer screen,stricken with a virus,ur computer will freeze,and smetimes make a zeeeeee….zzzeeeee sound as u frantically try to make it work…

Thats what the ABORT in swiss descrptition above does,once u figure out that its not olfactorily and nasopharyncally safe to do so!

Head up…check….u look right,u llok left….

baby..”i think there is sme movement downstairs..lemme check it”,as u start dressing up!

Professor~thankful

November 25th, 2009
11:06 am

LOL at the ABORT

Dream_n- 1 day til turkey day

November 25th, 2009
11:07 am

olfactorily and nasopharyncally

Melo you are a character…

i'm swiss

November 25th, 2009
11:14 am

Melo — That’s a good escape plan. I’ve also found faking a kidney stone to be quite effective — particularly in cases where the results of the “belly-button test” actually make you vocalize “OH my DAMN!” :lol: That way you can blame your outburst on the pain & use it as an excuse to escape. :lol:

Now, I don’t want to sound too stereotypical, but I have to say… I’ve pretty much been the United Nations of dating, and it’s been my experience that black women perform much better on average with the belly-button test than any other group — at least those that I have experience with… Maybe pure coincidence, but I’m just sayin’…. :lol: