My Thanksgiving plans includes plenty of eating, shopping, watching sports and hanging out with family…oh yea eating some more this holiday weekend for the most part…

As for meeting the family I have always introduced dates to my family little by little, because my family is huge and it is almost overwhelming meeting everyone at one time. So usually my beau will meet three or four people here and there, months prior to a big event. That method works well because he sees some familiar faces in the crowd.

Happy Turkey Day to all!

Dream make sure you update that countdown!

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I’ve been regaled with the tales of crazy, which I quite enjoy. Mostl ppl shield us from the cuckoo. I’ve only been exposed to sane mama who asks about ne years later & cool cousins. Although my perspective on what’s true crazy is skewed cuz the Cents’ are chock full o’ chaaracters.

I have yet to expose anyone to my ultimate crazy… Bittersweet, The Master Blaster and whatever else my CRAZY Daddy may have nicknamed himself. Accord ing to him, he is quite unconcerned about having anymore grandchildren, my not being a spinster if it means Swissie’s cuzns or our Latino brethren… and basically is ready to go upside any man’s head that may be having impure thoughts bout his baby. Or so he says & I kinda believe him… I figure why test the theory & get some dude hemmed up who ain’t really tryna go the distance. Tho how well he endures will suggest how our story ends.

Torn about Turkey Day, still debating where me & my Seafood Stuffing will land… Depends on how much driving I wanna do.

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Questions…

PEACHY, I’ve been wondering bout you dating thru his divorce. If I may ask, has it been drawn out & were you aware that he wasn’t fully detached? Seems like an added degree of difficulty to navigating a potential relationship cuz the breath of fresh air effect may be hard to continue living up to…

PROFESSOR, Non bloggy, but speaking of crazies reminds me of somebody recently escorted out uhm not so graciously. Wondering if there’s an HR rhetoric for time of day in regards to separating folks from companies? We debated the inhumanity of it all and really who might not have a mini meltdown first thing in the mornin’ fresh outta traffic then have to be put out there? Literally.

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MYTWO- the time of day is very important. While most associates say they do not want to work all day and than get fired. It is often best to wait until the end of the workday to ensure that others have left or will be leaving soon so the dept will not have all day to talk about what happened. If the person being separated did something of gross misconduct the termination should be swift…meet them in the parking lot with security along with their box if you have to. Usually early morning terminations are not good.

@PEACH just take good notes of the family and be polite, but most of all relax and be yourself.

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M.

I noticed you mention the slick comments. Do you feel that PEACH should respond to those comments if made, or take the high road and not go there with the family member? Personally I have about 50-11 (fifty ‘leven) ways of getting someone told from extremely polite and proper to the max, and sometimes I chose not to engage which I feel is also a sign of control.

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@Cents – We talk a lot. And I mean… A LOT! He is very very open and from what I can tell, it’s been over for a very long time. We did have a situation a few months back where he went to her house and there was a dude there. He said it did hurt him and I cannot fault him for that. They were married for 14 years. I don’t imagine the feelings just drop off like that. We’re working it out. And you’re 100% right – the “fresh air effect” can be difficult to keep up. I’ve said on numerous occasions that he needs to know the different in being into me b/c he’s into me and being into me b/c I’m not her.

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Thanks, Leggs for the recipe help.

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Last year I took my ex to the family gettogether for New Year’s. I warned her that my fam is me on 10. the blog aside, the D is not that bombastic or cocky, esp. compared to my fam (but I love ‘em all).

I told her about the nosy cousin, the inappropriate comments once the alcohol began to flow, and to not believe any embarrassing stories about me as they were likely exaggerated for effect.

All in all she was mildly amused, had a good time, and noticed where I got somma my tendencies from.

Ultimately, being around a strange family (for your SO or her’s) is a wee bit disconcerting; one should expect extra scrutiny (up to rudeness). Not one to tolerate foolishness, I personally don’t stand for it from my fam toward my SO’s and shole don’t stand for it from [her's].

And as most guys know, the family simply wants to know that you won’t be intimidated by them and that the young lady (gentleman in the ladies’ case) is in good hands.

The D will be leaving early and likely lurking for the rest of the day – so Happy Thanksgiving to all!

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Who is the most outrageous family member that you actually worry about introducing your date to?

Probably me. Uncle Peaches.

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Good Morning All!!

I am getting very excited about gaining at least 5 lbs on Thursday… (but hopefully in the right areas! i need a little more meat!!! lol

I think the exes family is fairly sane.. I just hate that when everyone comes in you have to get up and give them the kiss on the cheek.. It’s tiring.. but I do it b/c it’s something his mom is very adament about.

As far as my dad’s side family… Well that’s a circus that I’m ready to be entertained by

Prof.. thanx for the reminder on the clock!

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I’m getting my drinks together for the conclusion of the night with the gamers… Berry Ssangrias, Margaritas, Strawberry Daquiri, beers (for the beer drinkers). I now it’s going to be a great day. Being with family no matter how off the wall they are is always great!!! This is the 2nd Thanksgiving w/out the “mom” (grandma)… I think its going to be a little tough yet again! but we’ll manage!!!!

Are there any members of the family that you guys are hoping doesn’t show up?

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Six to eight total. No covered dishes. I’m doing the whole meal.

Ham
Baked Chicken
Dressing
Mac and Cheese
Yams
Greens
Corn
Rolls
Pound Cake
Sweet Potatoe Pie

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ImAPeach

I say have a good time. And it’s definately a plus if his mom has taking a liken to you. If someone says something out of line, I’m sure he will speak up on your be half so you won’t come across as being rude or defensive.
But have fun..it’s always a lil nerve wrecking to meet the new family.

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Morning folks!

My family’s crazy and his family is crazy. Once we realized that – we weren’t nervous about it. I’m still nervous about him meeting my mother. Prayerfully she’ll be sober when that time comes. If not, he’ll understand because his mom used to be strung out too – but she’s clean now.

He’s more of a ‘family at all costs’ person than I am. I don’t deal with family that stress me out – so he encourages me to interact with the crazies more. It’s a good thing.

Because I have to work Friday, we’re spending Thanksgiving here. But we’re going up to NC Friday afternoon so he can meet another one of my crazy uncles and my crazy cousin

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M. thanks I like that move…let him diffuse the situation if anything happens.

Peach I know you will do just fine and they will enjoy your company. Also I really hate it when you are being yourself and folks think you are being fake…hey that is how it is sometimes.

@SCool…great menu will you start cooking tomorrow afternoon.

@Dream…I cannot wait to eat, but I have no interest in gaining 5 pounds I am thick enough…LOL (actually that is a joke I am a size 4).

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@SC

Good luck on that meal.

@Tazzee

Congrats again. I hope the uncle’s and cousin’s put him through the ringer (out of love of course).

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I need a sous chef.

Me too! I am going to start my prepping tonight and I am going to check my list one more time to see if I need anything else.

Tomorrow night let the cooking begin! Everything is in order and I am so ready to get started.

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Morning folks!

@Leggs are u and ex hubby cordial??
Nice gesture for u to let him come over for dinner,i like that!

@ImAPeach404, u are the default place holder,and they hated the ex,so yu know,every move u make will be silently scrutinized,watched,talked about in ur absence,u name it.Just be urself and not try, at all costs to be the opposite of what u heard about ex. That way,u wont have no pressure,either they like u or they dont and u keep it moving.

It wld be nice tho if u offer to help here and there….

On topic:
No crazies on this end.My pple are alll scattered and for those that are in GA we did not plan on a thanxgiving dinner so its just me and my girls. In the past,i had my uncle,aunt and cousins over at the house and one of my crazy friends was there,drunk and wilding out.
He has been on a slippery slope and is away in some other state.

Happy thanxgiving!

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Prof!

A size 4!! Well hot dayum

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Dream’n – A potato PEELER.

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@Dream

A potato peeler can be used on a sweet (or regular) potato.

@SC/Prof

I’d offer my assistance (as I am non degreed sous chef) but I’m getting ready to go to Hosea’s Feed the Hungry tommorrow and do some barber work. And by getting ready, I mean shopping for new clipper to use.

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Thanx SexyC & Dan…

I’ve never eaten Turkey on Thanksgiving, my mom cooks this chicken with no head and puts dressing around it.

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Happy Thanksgiving MIA Blog!!!! I must admit I’m NOT ready to meet anyone’s family and sure not ready for anyone to meet mines…I’m good! LOL Enjoy your day!:)

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@Melo – thanks for the advice. I’m bringing my world famous banana pudding… that should get’em on my good side

@Sexy – lol @ a potato peeler! I was thinking the same thing!!!

@M. – separated but not divorced, yes. We will be going to my brothers house first and then off to his moms.

speaking of Hoseas Feed the Hungry… did anybody see the video of Paula Dean getting smacked in the face with a ham???

Thanks everyone for the advice and the encouragement! I really really appreciate it. I’m off to do some work now. Yall have a wonderful day!

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Anyone else ever snack first so they’re not stuck. Thinking. Why the hell didn’t I grab a Happy Meal on the way over?

Fortunately mytwo I haven’t had that misfortune…..however there has been a “cause for concern” once or twice,though.

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Oh, yeah…the spirits. Need to get MND’s input on that. I have what I like. Need to find out if he wants to add to that.

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I applaud all of your doing volunteer work Thanksgiving Day to help another…..CLAP, CLAP, CLAPPING!

@SCool ~ your menus sounds delicious and I’m sure you’ll do just fine.

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JtJ – I’ve got family in Quincy. Slow down by my Auntie’ house on Rittman Lane and yell out the window that I said, “Hey!!!”

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My thanksgiving plans as usual is with the Mom’s family. This is my Mom’s side (the gorgeous lady’s). My mom has three sisters. This is the calmer side of the family (except for the family gossip that women do). My daddy side won’t be visited, too much drama goin on down there!

My dilenma just about every holiday, is actually getting my special “friend” to introduce me to his family. We have been dating for two years and I have not meet his Mom or other family members (except his daughter). I find it odd and a bit frustrating.

Any advise? should I give him to time to bring it up? Is not meeting the family a “red flag?

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GM All!

most important thing i learned when i met the ex-hubb’s fam (and i was NOT forewarned) is that he came from a long line of addicts (drugs and/or alcohol). i was only 17 at the time, so that was a bit overwhelming. current s/o & i both have great fams. they’ve met and we’ve all socialized so it’s all good. thank you God!

Dream_n i recently had my very first grown-up card/domino night so your plans to play after dinner sound GREAT! i think we should do that too.

things have been hectic for me lately so i’m not cooking. i will just make peanut butter/chocolate mini-cheesecakes and my signature cheddar mashed potatoes as an offering to whomever’s doorstep i show up at my nieces and my brother have all issued invites to their homes, so we’ll be in good company no matter what.

btw …. still haven’t decided if i’ll be making the trip to the s/o to share a lil time @ his Tday throwdown

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Yall talking about those SPIRITS, now you really want folks acting out their true crazy. Liquor tends to make folks a little braver than normal and they lose all sense of tact.

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peanut butter/chocolate mini-cheesecakes

Cbratz.. those sound absolutely delicious..
And do the game thing.. it’s great to unwind after all the family mingling….Plus you can do it at the family gathering.. After all the catching up and food.. incorporate a game and it’ll add a great spin on the evening

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WonderWoman I was about to say that dude sounds like he is probably married but when you mentioned meeting the daughter that a great indicator that he is not.

Maybe his mother gives women a hard time and he is trying to protect you from that. However, if that’s the case IMO he should be willing to at least introduce you to her and tell her to be on her best behavior.

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My dilenma just about every holiday, is actually getting my special “friend” to introduce me to his family. We have been dating for two years and I have not meet his Mom or other family members….Is not meeting the family a “red flag?

There are certain angles from which one could answer this question. Are you two in an exclusive relationship?….has he met your fam? I ask b/c the fact that he’s allowed you to meet his daughter is a big step for some in a relationship. That being said,therein lies my dilemma b/c most people don’t take introducing an SO to their children lightly…so why not the rest of the fam,right?…plus it’s been TWO years. Anyhoo, it could be that he just isn’t ready OR for whatever reason he’s apprehensive about you meeting erryone else….he could possibly be embarassed or something BUUUT whatever you do let HIM be the one to decide when the intro happens…DON’T PRESS. I can understand your wondering if that’s a red flag or not and maybe a conversation needs to be had between you two…just remember not to seem confrontational about it. Ultimately you will have to make a decision on what to do should this not change, just don’t let it be a dicision made rashly in haste.

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@Wonderwoman

The meeting the family thing is a touchy issue. From a guy’s perspective, a guy is not necessarily quick to bring a woman around his family because maybe he is not that SURE of you and/or CONFIDENT in you and the relationship YET. My mom has only met 1 girl that I ever dated. Guys dont just like to bring a woman around because of 2 reasons:

1. You dont want to be looked at as a guy who is unstable with women. What happens when the next family gathering happens and you are not with him. Suppose if you two break up? He know his nosy Aunt Sally is going to ask a ton of questions and he just doenst want to be bothered.

2. You dont want to come across that you have to many women. It’s ok for your friends to see your dating rotation but your parents wont look at it as the same.

My advice to you, dont worry about him bringing it up to you but also dont frame your plans around him and his thanksgiving either. Have yourself some flexible plans and dont just wait around for him to bring it up. Flip it on him. If you have plans go ahead with them.

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I think I’m with SexyCool
on this one… 2 years is a very long time not to meet the parents.. or hell a cousin or an aunt.

Is family in another country????

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@Raqi ~ I’ve invited another girlfriend and her daughter over just a little while ago to balance things out for me. She wants her father there and he will be. I don’t want to give the allusion of a happy family sitting down to dinner, so I have to put a little crack (other guests) in the picture just to keep things real.

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Wonderwoman my thoughts are that if he daughter is very young and not likely to understand who you are, then if he has something to hide he feels she’s no thread to telling on him. but on the brighter side, if he does not have a good relationship with the rest of his family but his daughter means the world to him, then don’t stress and don’t read too much into his choice to delay your intro to the rest of them.

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“his” and “threat”. sorry

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@Dan~ I have a few onions you can chop before heading down to Hosea…

@Dream~ my mom cooks this chicken with no head and puts dressing around it. For some reason that made me laugh…I would not eat a chicken with a head on have you seen a real chicken before? My grandma used to have biddies I even had a pet chicken before.

@MYTWO things like that gives HR a bad name…I really hate to hear that…being fair and consistent is a must…respect is a must…personal feelings aside.

@Scool…I think we should give “MND” a new name he is no longer new…he is fitting right in with your like…I would say “MD” but let me think some more.

Hey Melo!

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Have ya’ met any of his friends? Does he take you OUT? Or do y’all spend quality time inside? (House dating?) Have you been to his house?

WonderWoman, in other words SexyCool is asking you “Is he married?” LOL

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LOL Leggs. Yeah cracks indicate separation.

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LOL @Dan. I too have never eaten a chicken with it’s head still on.

@SCool, you have mail.

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@Raqi

“a guy does not know after two years of dating a woman if she’s the one or not?”

I think they are still getting to know each other and the jury can still be out. I think so many people value the opinions of their families that they are waiting to see something in their SO that shows them that this is the one for sure…no doubt about it.

Also I think a guy could be scarred to bring her around his family and mother because your family does not have the LOVE GOGGLES on like you do…therefore, they can see through your SO alot better than you. So in that sense, reality will kinda of set in.

Like if you bring your guy around your dad, your dad can spot a player.
Like if you bring your girl around your mom, your mom can spot an alter motive.

Like for me, I am a twin. My twin sister is good at screening women for me, picking up the nonverbal language and stuff that I may not see. Get it?

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Prof

When I re-read it, it did sound kinda odd.. lol.

It’s a full body chicken with no head. She used to scare us with it when we were younger!

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Dream’n – I don’t know anybody who bakes a chicken with the head still on.

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Dream-LOL it was so funny. The cook in me thinks your mom is baking a hen with some cornbread dressing on the side.

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think they are still getting to know each other and the jury can still be out

M dot so what have they been doing for the past two years (730 days, 104 weeks) if not getting to know each other?

I think so many people value the opinions of their families

Naaah, after two years (in fact even less than that) you should be telling your family this is who I have chosen to be with, either like it or shut up.

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Um, 2 years, not meeting the family? Ion know, smell fishy.

After 2 years, that’s proposal time to me(unless we jus been “dating” in the nocturnal visit sense).

@Prof

No onions for the kid, I do not need my nose that wide open for that event. Matter of fact, I’m thinking about catching a cold.

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Melo, of course it’s going to depend on the reason for the distant relationship. if her s/o is someone who wants to better himself but his fam thinks that makes him uppity and has never been supportive, then that’s something you’re going to understand and probably side with him. if there was a history of abuse that he has had a difficult time overcoming or something they feel he should just accept and/or hide, that would be another reason he is distant from you but should you “walk” because of that? i’m just saying, there could be circumstances.

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I met this one cousin that if you talk to her for longer than five minutes she will totally zap every ounce of energy you have with her sad stories.

Raqi – that’s my older sister with her negativity.

Dan – thanks. My uncle that’s like a father had a private meeting with him. Some other cousins met him at my engagement party – this is the first time that they will all have him on their turf, it shall be very interesting.

Not to mention he’ll meet my BFF’s parents on Thanksgiving Day.

SCool – My invitation to dinner got lost in the mail – I’ll be by on Saturday for leftovers

I’ve already said I’m cooking Thanksgiving dinner next year – I’m starting to mentally prepare myself right now…

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“It’s a full body chicken with no head” Too dang funny. Who talks like that that. No disrespect Dream_n, that was too cute. It’s called “a whole chicken.”

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When I have brought the issue up he has said his mom don’t like people over, so he rarely brings people by (never heard that reasoning).

Wonderwoman I will say this…I would (a) tell him that I would like to meet his family as since his mom does not like people over we can have brunch or dinner at a resturant or we can do something at my house or his house. The reason I say that is because I do know some folks that does not keep a company friendly house…nasty, dirty, broken etc. Or (b) I would ask him to level with me because I am feeling like something is going on and even if you do not bring people to your mom’s house,…why have I not met your cousins? Afterwards I would pull the plug if he gave me some BS.

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and they’re a bunch of mean drunks. throughout our 18 years together i left his family gatherings in tears more than once.

cz chile you ain’t said “naan”….the family I visited with has a family of drunks,addicts and a trick baby(that’s how they refer to her b/c she’s mulatto and they ignant). The grand mama is the matriarch and looking at her you’d think she’s as sweet as apple pie…well one evening her grand son kept saying “granny,granny” and she looked down at him and said “whatchu want lil nugga?”…my jaw dropped.

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Hey Elijah. BTW what happened to the lemon pepper wings??

Dream~ please make your sweet potatoes and let me know how they come out! I always like to google recipes because sometimes it helps to have measurements to go with what you already know. .

I want to add an apple pie or peach cobbler to my menu, but I am not sure yet…

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WonderWoman, when I was dating my youngest son’s father I met his brother. His brother hung out with him a lot. I met some of his friends. We would have parties and invite them and they would have us over. I not only went to his house, I lived in that house for 7 months.

The thing was that brother was also cheating on his wife. Those friends were that select group of friends that don’t know you have another life or the type that are not going to say anything. His mother and father lives in Naples. And that house? It was the not the same house that was clear across town for the house that his wife lived in.

He didn’t have any kids. My son is his first and only.

How did he get away with it for so long?

1. His business allowed him to be able to use “going out of town for 2-3 days at a time” excuse.

2. I allowed myself to be blinded to the truth.

But even back then being 25 years old, I would have found it odd and called him out had I never met his friends and family.

I am not saying it’s the same in your situation, but in the words of SexyCool…I’m just saying.

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Heeey Eli!! What are you doing this Turkey day?

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@ Sexycool….You know that’s what they do down there. My fiance just rolls down the window and waves at everyone as we roll through. Even if he don’t know them….he still waves.

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Eli – I kinda wondered about that whole dynamic of HFTH. I volunteered during Easter but it was the day before during set up and before any cameras were there. We had a ball!!!

I love genuine folks that do stuff for genuine reasons. Fakers turn my stomach.

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Love my fam but…its a “challenge”. I plan exit strategies and everything. I’ve never invited anyone to meet them. They may meet my mom and a few aunts or cousins on the fly but that is about it. I wouldn’t describe them as crazy, just mean or unnecessarily snide…and competitive and nosey. I can always expect some “big boned” (you know the real term I wanna use) aunt to make the traditional “you must be anorexic because you didn’t eat six servings” announcement. That’s small, but multiply that by a thousand similar condescending comments and it can get a little tense.

I did enjoy the times I spent with the families of my exs. Their family make ups were a lot like mine – regulars, hoods, and snooties – minus the rude. I can only remember one time an ex’s family (mom) gave a bad vibe (my perception of course). Her personality was outgoing, mine low key and quiet, so I’m thinking she thought I was asking superior. I don’t know.

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I allowed myself to be blinded to the truth.

i dont think she knows what that means Raqi..explain the process

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Melo, simple. You see what you want to see. The evidence is there and clear the whole time, but you choose not to see it.

Or as it seem in her case, you make up excuses for him and/or except any excuse that he gives you.

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@ Luvbug

I’m with you, but only for my dad’s side of the family. My mom’s side is questionable with some of their acts, but they are very nice….

Besides the over abundance of kids there.. I have to deal with the jokes about Dang we didnt make any enchiladas for your baby, or why isn’t she eating the chiken, do you want us to wrap it up in a tortilla?? Just crazy ish that gets on my nerves.. Or they’ll mock they way my sister and I talk, grown folks and their kids… I tell ya sometimes I just want to go in on them, but I don’t out of respect for the aunts and uncles, but those kids do get tripped or pushed accidently sometimes.

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Leggs, are you willing to share that peach cobbler recipe??? If so please send the info to my addy

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I’m the type that if I like you I give you the benefit of the doubt. I have no other reason or proof that there is another. The bottom in a sense,his words contridict his actions.

And two years for dating, and we can’t take it to the next level it’s enough.

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Wonderwoman – I wish you only the best, much happiness and peace of mind – and all the strength that your screen name implies. You do you, BabyGirl. Damn what the rest of us think.

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Oh and I forgot the maneuvering to find out who made what…you know some people…well, I’ll just say sometimes I bring a few crackers and whatnot.

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I didn’t know Puerto Ricans eat enchiladas. You learn something new every day. I have worked with a Puerto Rican for about 5 years and his food have some of the same spicies as Mexican but it’s not really the same stuff.

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@ JtJ – Don’t tell me lil sweetstuff been bobbing around in her FSU outfit? How are those plans?

@ SexyCool – Maam, you doing the “Dang thang” this time? Country menu and nothing i can’t pronounce lol …mmm…all that sounds good!

and i’m eating tuna…sorry crap!

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Dream_n that’s just funny. all your posts are cracking me up today (and that’s usually Professor or Leggs ). one of our Tday sides is always the standard coconut rice ‘n peas.

Leggs u gotta share that recipe. i’m not big on desserts or baking but others in my fam are. send it to czBrat84@yahoo.com pleeeeeeease

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Are you serious??

I eat enchiladas, arroz con pollo, chuletas and I’m black…
I didn’t know cretain foods were only designed for a specific race.. but hey I learn something new every day too

LMMFAO

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Swiss

On a serious note, Yes, It’s the adults and the kids. The ignorance of the parents have trickled down to their offspring and it gets rather annoying at family gatherings over there.

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Hey Ceemee (waving) Happy Turkey Day

Although I will not be doing a turkey. I needed something diff this year.

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“New Orleans, but I’m inviting extended family to our new home.”

1. Everyone over the age of 16 will be cursing in regular convo

mqew If this ain’t the daggon truth…it ain’t in ya, girl!…

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Ceemee – you should have seen my jaw drop. I was like wa wa wa (twistin my head watching people to see if they were going to get a shoe thrown at them)

Melo – BFF Best Friend Forever

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Hey everybody….

Hold up..

where is everybody sleeping??,in the hotel or they gon be sme in the living room,others in beds upstairs and maybe some sleeping on the porch??

Coz im trying to see where sexx is gon fit in all this food,football and liquor thing…

When its all over,the eating,talking,football and liquoring,aint it gon down some place??

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Um question (before I go), how does working at Hosea’s do anything for a resume?

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Hello Cee. Enjoy your family, and I already know you’re thankful for quite a bit. Keep forging ahead.

@czB ~ I don’t have a recipe in terms of measurements. It’s all in my head but I’ll see what I can jot down.

BFF = Best Friends Forever.

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@ mqew – my friend her younger sis is here from NO…she holding a grown’folk conversation on her cell phone to include….

…mofo..baybah…another slick mouf cussword…okay i’ll meet you deh <== there, bye gahdammit!

I'm thinking like dag, for real!?!!?….

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how does working at Hosea’s do anything for a resume?

It depends..but usually on certain types of applications(college,fraternity/sorority,certain types of jobs) volunteering is a plus and if you can tie it in with a reputable,long standing association like Hosea Feed the Hungry then that might raise an eyebrow.

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*their*

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SCool ~ you get all the recipes?

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Y’all talking about a “relationship resume”. Ion bother with that mess.

I mentioned it because this is my first time going (after years of “planning to”). I found a way to use a talent to help some folks. But that on me (and the blog I guess) and not something to be used to enhance my reputation in anyone else’s eyes.

Ewww, people do that?

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Now, I’m officially laughing….printing and laminating.

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…stepping in late as ever trying to catch up

Dream you took the words from my keyboard with that 12:47 post. It is ignorant as hell not to think they we don’t eat food from other cultures…if that was the case the Chinese food would have been out of business before they ever opened shop in America!

Wonderwoman~ chica, I know you will do what is best for you! I am wishing you the best!

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“You have member of your family that show a theis azzez?? Is it because the Mrs. is a different race??”

@ Dream_n — I do have one cousin in particular who is about as stereotypical white-trash racist as you can get. And he has been that way since loooooong before Mrs. Swiss & I ever met. I’ve never gotten along with the guy & have made a point to have nothing to do with him since the day I left home for college 17 years ago. Any family event where his family (and potentially he) might be there, I’ve avoided ever since. Of course, now, he’s run off on his former wife (with whom he had 3 kids before marriage) and is shacking up with some other woman (with whom I understand he has another 2 kids without being married) and has no contact with his parents or siblings. Good riddance, IMO.

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@Professor, Professor…. Lemon Pepper wings are here when you want them,how you want them, just let me know when you are ready for them!

Sassy…. I will be in the great State of Tennessee breaking bread with some thick relatives!

Ah….Ms. SexyCool…. It is a lot of fun serving at the HFTH but too many servers are just like here take the food and keep it moving! When serving we need to engage and encourage folks!

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Ms Cee, I can see you’re “full” while typing that and your fingers had a mind of their own (LOL). I’m know as “nubby” to my email buddies. Can’t seem to type a lick when emailing them.

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Leggs – Would love to get out and get someone else’s good food. Hit me with your email addy again simplynd@gmail.com

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Swiss cousin is a “rolling stone”?…

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I will be in the great State of Tennessee breaking bread with some thick relatives!

Now see there Eli just for that one of those same “thick” relatives gonna step on your “pinky toe”….lol.

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Tropical Rojo at it’s best.

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uall luv mac and cheeese..i dont see the appeal.

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SCool – Are you going to the Hawks game Thursday? We’re going after dinner, I’ll probably be too stuffed to cheer like I normally do.

Cemeeli – Hey Lady!

I need some recipes. If anyone wants to send me some recipes, feel free. I’m planning to start cooking more once football season is over. Tazzee@gmail.com

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I need some recipes. If anyone wants to send me some recipes, feel free.

OOPS!!! Tazzee Sorry I forgot. Give me a minute. LOL

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We haven’t talked about post dinner plans yet. I’m playing it by ear.

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Melo – Personally I don’t care for Mac N Chz either, but It’s a very popular item on my Personal Chef and Catering menu. People can’t get enough of it. I think that it’s that everyone tries to find the best recipe for it and others love trying to eat the best.

I use about 8 cheeses in mine. And is very expensive to make…. for me and my recipe.

I’ve been making it sooooo much through catering, I don’t want it on Tday <——- thanks whoeva said that

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try eating it with FuFu

@Raqi

that wld be a tripple dose of cholestorol…

maybe with lipitor as dessert, on my side,that cld wrk!

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Dream_n — Yup. I would hate to have to whup his a$$ over some stupid comment that he would undoubtedly make.

But avoiding he & and his family is definitely no skin off my back. The guy is just a total waste of carbon in my opinion, and while the rest of his family is not that bad, I’ve never really felt I was missing anything by not being around them.

There’s really only 1 negative affect this guy has had on me & it’s all because he looks almost exactly like Andy Murray the tennis player. Consequently, I just can’t bring myself to like Murray, even though I really like his game….

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@SCool, hope everything turns out to your satisfaction.

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Reading through the different comments lead me to believe we are All related alot closer then we think lol. omg. Some of the folks discribed could be identical twins to my family members separated at birth.
You have the Loud, the un cooth, the no shame, the cocky, the nosey, the drunks, The deaf mutes(those who just look and dont utter a word,or one word reponses..You have those that give the Messy looks(a few of them)You have the trouble makers(You dont even bother to invite but manage to find out and show up) You have those that aint laid eyes on you or communicated with you in 15yrs plus(although they had your number or access to it. but have the Gall to ask for money..huh? You have those who Will instigate and Start an arguement with another relative whom was Just waiting to show out. (You have to defuse the situation imediately or it could escalate in to an all out brawl..ruining the whole evening for everyone. Usually Alcohol IS the leading factor to cause the loose tongues and dig up OLD BONES

Of course you have those that think they are Rich and So MUCH Bigger than you and constantly bragg about Material things ie house car or how much they spent on their kids clothes. Or bragg about this one and that one in college(who cares?) Or who just had a New baby. and then you have the Pleasent ones that just mesh with total strangers greeting them with a warm smile and conversation(those are the ones I wish were the only ones that Shows up! wishful thinking I suppose. but atlas!

None of this will come in to play for me as I will have a quiet thanksgiving giving dinner with all the trimmings. The guest? My 3 Purebred German Shepherds. I will cook, watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving day parade. then Then Miracle on 34th Street the Original while i sip on Egg Nog. Now thats my idea of Thanksgiving LoL. Not inviting any guest nor or am I going to any family or friends and I have alot of both. Quiet and peaceful. Who says a person cant have a Thanksgiving dinner with all the trimmings and give thanks to the Lord without guest? Its not like I will be lonely. My dogs will surely provide excellent company and I dont have to worry about cleaning up, defusing arguements, or someone having to much to drink. My dogs dont drink lol!

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snoring

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do you like or eat that?
@Raqi
Tell me what it is made of and how coz i dont recognize the name.Sounds spanish name to me…

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????? I am almost with you as it relates to being boring! However I have enjoyed chatting about menus and family gatherings…I would not say boring, but more like it is time to change the topic a little. So you are first ask a question to the blog to get the conversation rolling

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Question: If you could invite one person to your Thanksgiving dinner…living or deceased…famous or non-famous who would you invite? Would you serve anything special to them?

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@Sassy…. You know likem with thicknesss!

Since I have been in the south, a lot of people tend to add sugar to the food! Why do so many folks put sugar in the food is that a tradition?

????…. Do you care to chime in? Or sit like a bump on a log making negative comments! Too many weak azz/negative folks around here!

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“…if his daughter is of an age of recognition, then you’ve probably met the person who means the most to him right now.”

Well said!

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Or sit like a bump on a log making negative comments! Too many weak azz/negative folks around here!

Amen to that Elijah!!

@ Professor.. I would have to invite me grandmother… I would bring her a pecan pie

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“If you could invite one person to your Thanksgiving dinner…living or deceased…famous or non-famous who would you invite? Would you serve anything special to them?” – I know you said one but there is something extremely appealing to me about them.

Richard Pryor – Fried turkey and whatever liquor he wants
Prince – Craklin Bread and vodka

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@SCool you cheated…bringing all those folks to the table…LOL

@Dream…is that a Sara Lee pecan pie or homemade???? j/k

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…Richard Pryor and liquor, shoot you could sellout that dinner,and Prince is the man!

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sugar in collards=NO

sugar in avocado=NO

sugar in milk=NO

mustard in food=Hell No

mustard and ketchup in fries=Hell Hell No,i mean NO!

Peanut butter or plain butter in Corn porridge = yummy…. YES YES YES……

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Professor..

That’s Boston Square pecan pie…

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oopps Bakers Square… my bad

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Bakers Square Awwwww I miss that place. (you from chicago?)

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@RAQI and uall

strictly speaking,fufu is a nigerina term.

whence i beckon from,we do not eqat fufu per se altho most africans will say fufu as a generic term to mean african dish.To the purists,its wrong.
In southern africa,the(almost) equivalent as in staple food but not the same(as ingredients wise) is sadza,isichwala,nzima,ugali etc…those are terms used in south/africa..zimbabwe zambia,tanzania,kenya…

thats jus plain corn meal and water…

As for the sanchoho/puntajuga../escoriro dish u mention(im trying speak spanish)..well..CzBrat has ur answer!

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hey JtJ, Lady J, Mytwo, Swiss . . . all!

i love meeting the females of his family (mom, aunts, sisters, cousins). girl talk is fun to me and i always get it straight from them.

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Jesus and I would serve bagels and lox. Raqi, I love it

Tazzee there is nothing like homemade ice cream after a good meal!

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where is dat heffa ARED? yea, i miss her. so!

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mqew
Yup

@ Sassy.. Sugar on grits is the only way to go with butter!!!

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“on the flip I’ve seen some put salt on watermelon”

Don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it… salt on watermelon is delicious!

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Is it a breakfast food?

5. serve as breakfast….u can mix that with butter,peanut butter,some cheese if u want etc..just same way u eat grits.

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i’ve seen the sugar on grits and salt on watermelon too.

luv ur spanish Melo.

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Sassy you are right. My sister puts sugar in her grits but will not eat it in oatmeal. Some people just have preferences.

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@mqew

http://www.yumyum.com/recipe.htm?ID=17871

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mustard in food=Hell No

Gotta have mustard on my big soft pretzel and turkeydog and veggie burger and hot/cold sandwiches

ketchup in fries=Hell Hell No,i mean NO!

Blasphemy! Fries with out ketchup…that’s like a squirrel without a nut sir.

I would invite Frederick Douglass…that seen he describes in his book when he fought the guy in the barn/shed…sometimes I think about it when I’m at work…I think we all have those moments…or at least think about em.

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Yeah…I have some family elders that I’d invite too. There are a lot of grey areas in my family history that I would like some light shed on.

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Melo, it’s pretty much grits then. Or hominy.

Corn porridge, hominy, grits all the same.

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Did I say I’m 46 and s/o is 52… He knows who’s who…Now the only person I really have uneasy feelings about s/o meeting is my brother Why you ask? My brother is the type that will ask you for money and when you say no he will proceed to drop dimes (old ones at that) LOL (old, forgotten or just plain nobody else’s business, period!). Oh, bye the way I’ll be see him Thanksgiving (Lord help me!)

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Blasphemy! Fries with out ketchup…that’s like a squirrel without a nut sir.

@ Leggs.. thank you! lol

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ForReal you are a fool boy. LMBO

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oops i meant Luvbug..

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My brother is the type that will ask you for money and when you say no he will proceed to drop dimes (old ones at that)

Hilarious

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GRITS – FAKE CREAM OF WHEAT

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@ FOR REAL How do you come up with the skits… brilliant! LOLOLOLOLOLOL

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My brother is 44 and still lives with/around mom.

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Leggs – everytime I hear that song Grandma’s Hands I cry. It’s a doggone shame… One time I was in church and I held hands with this elderly woman – her hands felt just like my Grandma’s.

Yeah – Grandma’s are the best, well at least mine was.

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While dressing…..

Mase: Go get da doh!!

Raqi: Where is my bra, and why you can’t get the doh?

Mase: You invited him!

Raqi: Fine! Who is it?

Jesus: It I your Lord and Savor Jesus.

Mase: Oh my dayum! You going to hell Raqi!

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Don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it… salt on watermelon is delicious!

Ummm from what I’ve read about you(esp. that 101 course from last week), there are a few things you like to eat that I ain’t trying and that is one of them….lol. But to each his own.

Who started the sugar n grits thing?…for those that do it what’s the reasoning behind it?…I mean other than the obvious(taste) why sugar?

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Sassy

1st.. that comment to swiss was funny

2ndly… Grits are gritty and bland w/out butter or sugar. What elese would you use to give it some flava!

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Melo your 3:09 scares me

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When cooked right grits are thick and creamy and IMO best served with salt, pepper and occasionally cheese. If you want to get country getcha some ham and red eye gravy.

Or some liver or breakfast steaks and gravy with homemade biscuits.

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pretty much….Czbrat

in most cases,crazies have no financial input in the dishes anyway,so they have no clout.

Dream_n..in the country,not city,we kill our own animals.

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ForReal LOL. You are a nut.

Imma tell him he ain’t going to hell because “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled”. That’s right out of Jesus’ book itself.

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Never had them creamy and still not gritty

Mqew that’s because “Quick Grits” is an oxymoron. LOL

Grits are to be cooked slowly.

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AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH….. Some people will never grow up…. Negativity will surely consume them. I thank goodness for my bubbly attitude. It takes too much energy to constantly be negative.. Man it really shows ones character.

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Leggs, Melo and Professor: Wometimes when lurking, you guys are a riot but somedays, FIZZLE. Sure everyday won’t be knee slapping and side stitching but there’s only so many menu listings one can read.

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Qatar, so they getting married in Macon?

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I remember Wheatina.

Almost sounds like a name from the hood….doesn’t it?

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What is wheatina? I never heard of it.

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awww…more engagements! Congrats!

I came back just in time.

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Leggs check your mail.

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If you want to get country getcha some ham and red eye gravy.

That went over some of y’alls heads, I know. Grits n shrimp or fried fish is the bomb diggety…but obviously it’s a matter of taste as to what we like in/on them. However Imma have to go in on the Cream of Wheat….what is that ish all about.

Dream I know about butter/salt in grits just NOT sugar…..NOT. It’s cool though, it’s our differences that make it all fun n interesting.

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it’s our differences that make it all fun n interesting.</strong

You are absolutely correct Sassy.

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Raqi – When I was cooking the Shrimp n Grits for a restaurant I used heavy whipping cream and cheese after they were made by the sous chef with water. I always had to have someone else taste the grits though…

Ceemee- grits—-> the FAKE CREAM OF WHEAT. Yeah I said it

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Sassy – Be adventurous (sp?) try grits with butter and sugar

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lawd the simpin of men…we go all out for her fantasy of the romatic proposal and a lavish wedding..but we have no instructions for marriage when she wants to become the flannel pj wearing soccer mom…why do women need all that to feel loved?

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I think if I new someone/friend/relative who recently got engaged, I’d probably scary the bejesus out of them. (After the celebration – I’d wait awhile before I dug in).

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@ Cee..

I’m not sure of his profession, but they were a black couple. That I do know.

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Oh…he actually didn’t take the ring that she had just been looking at out until he popped the official “Will you marry me?” question.

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I don’t know, Melo.

What about you?

Is “til death” important or will you put in a few more years then quit her so you can chase 20 year old tail and be the dirty old African man?

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SCool Tell your sister I said CONGRATULATIONS!!! That is so awesome!!!

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Cee

Yes! That’s the proposal I’m referring to.

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Cemeeli and mqew – now why can’t a person like Cream of Wheat AND Grits? Cream of Wheat is a cereal to be enjoyed with butter, sugar and a little pet milk. Grits is a side to be enjoyed with shrimp and scallops, fish, eggs and bacon and a host of other things

and I ain’t no sissy!

Melo – til death do us part, even if I have to kill him myself just kidding

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i have 2 stories…both are not so “romantic” as for as proposal or/and a wedding ceremony…

the first one is the proposal…

my gf and her babydiddy had been off and on for a year or two…the last year they were “off” it was for a good 6-9 months. What’s funny is they usually are not a couple when Mother’s day OR Father’s day holiday rolls around…kinda weird it happened like that twice. They reconcile and this time mother’s day pass…he’d taken her on her “dream” trip and they are really strong in it this time…and then father’s day comes for his day and He proposes to her…He comes over to her place during the time she’d would be in bed he calls her to tell her he’s coming over and it was 12:00am father’s day. As soon as he enteres the bedroom – BAM – on one knee “will you marry me?”…she’s in her head rag, pjs and crying…

She said that during her crying and screming episode she’d pushed out a “Happy Father’s Day” and he says = “Baby none prior or after this one will be better”…

awwww….i think that’s so sweet and gansta! lol

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Sorry Dream_n – Yea, supposingly that couple is what i’d mentioned.

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…stepping back in. So what are we talking ’bout?

Is my favorite uncle here yet?

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Leggs, Amen on that 4:19…in fact I am going to charge these voyeurs for my jokes…send my $$$ by pay pal

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Leggs,is jus a plan

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mqew – Digin? Give us more…give us. How long is a while?

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Well,Well,Well, I see some nonsense going on with these grits! When did grits start going with regular food? hehehehehe!

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Hey Ceemee I just know that it seems that everyone is getting a divorce… I certainly have my opinions about that !!!

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mqew – you’d mentioned after the engagement you what a while before digging in…how long? and for???

Or

…are you talking to those that are for a “thirst”?

thirst = cain’t wait.

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okay …

I gotcha mqew…i thought that what you meant…

k.

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