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Meeting the (Crazy) Family

Let’s face facts, people. Some of us come from families that are a little…eccentric.  You have to be sure that when you bring someone home for the holidays they can actually handle seeing you in your family element.

If you are brave enough to take someone home for the holidays this week, you should warn them about what to expect.  Especially if you have a wide cast of crazy characters in your family that could possibly embarrass you.  Let them know what to expect!

Have you ever gone home with your date for the holidays? Did it end well? How do you know if it is a good time to bring someone around your relatives? May I suggest you watch Meet the Fockers for homework before bringing someone over.  You can learn what to do when you meet crazy relatives of your date!

Who is the most outrageous family member that you actually worry about introducing your date to?

What are your Thanksgiving Day plans this year?

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Professor~First again?

November 24th, 2009
8:28 am

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Professor~First again?

November 24th, 2009
8:32 am

My Thanksgiving plans includes plenty of eating, shopping, watching sports and hanging out with family…oh yea eating some more this holiday weekend for the most part…

As for meeting the family I have always introduced dates to my family little by little, because my family is huge and it is almost overwhelming meeting everyone at one time. So usually my beau will meet three or four people here and there, months prior to a big event. That method works well because he sees some familiar faces in the crowd.

Happy Turkey Day to all!

Dream make sure you update that countdown!

ImAPeach404

November 24th, 2009
8:35 am

Good morning children!

Well… This year I’m bringing my fren-fren to my brothers house and then we’re headed to his moms house. Everything should be cool on my side of things – no crazies. However, I’ve been forewarned that his family can get “ghetto” and they might embarrass him. My understanding is that he has begged and pleaded with his sisters not to get in my business and they have agreed… we shall see. I think the bright side is that ole boy is going through a divorce and everyone HATES his (ex) wife… they are very excited to meet his new woman who has brought him out of his funk. So, I think I start off with automatic brownie points. I’m really looking fwd to Thursday!

Does anybody have any advice/pointers for me???

mytw♥cents - mytw♥tatas - d♥scentavos - Fallen Angel - Albino Tigress

November 24th, 2009
8:59 am

I’ve been regaled with the tales of crazy, which I quite enjoy. Mostl ppl shield us from the cuckoo. I’ve only been exposed to sane mama who asks about ne years later & cool cousins. Although my perspective on what’s true crazy is skewed cuz the Cents’ are chock full o’ chaaracters.

I have yet to expose anyone to my ultimate crazy… Bittersweet, The Master Blaster and whatever else my CRAZY Daddy may have nicknamed himself. Accord ing to him, he is quite unconcerned about having anymore grandchildren, my not being a spinster if it means Swissie’s cuzns or our Latino brethren… and basically is ready to go upside any man’s head that may be having impure thoughts bout his baby. Or so he says & I kinda believe him… I figure why test the theory & get some dude hemmed up who ain’t really tryna go the distance. Tho how well he endures will suggest how our story ends. ;)

Torn about Turkey Day, still debating where me & my Seafood Stuffing will land… Depends on how much driving I wanna do.

ImAPeach404

November 24th, 2009
9:06 am

I’ve been regaled with the tales of crazy, which I quite enjoy.

Me too Cents! My family is so vanilla and wholesome that I love seeing families that are the exact opposite of mine :)

mytw♥cents - mytw♥tatas - d♥scentavos - Fallen Angel - Albino Tigress

November 24th, 2009
9:09 am

Questions…

PEACHY, I’ve been wondering bout you dating thru his divorce. If I may ask, has it been drawn out & were you aware that he wasn’t fully detached? Seems like an added degree of difficulty to navigating a potential relationship cuz the breath of fresh air effect may be hard to continue living up to…

PROFESSOR, Non bloggy, but speaking of crazies reminds me of somebody recently escorted out uhm not so graciously. Wondering if there’s an HR rhetoric for time of day in regards to separating folks from companies? We debated the inhumanity of it all and really who might not have a mini meltdown first thing in the mornin’ fresh outta traffic then have to be put out there? Literally.

Raqi

November 24th, 2009
9:12 am

Holidays and family? (deep sigh and eye roll

Professor~First again?

November 24th, 2009
9:20 am

MYTWO- the time of day is very important. While most associates say they do not want to work all day and than get fired. It is often best to wait until the end of the workday to ensure that others have left or will be leaving soon so the dept will not have all day to talk about what happened. If the person being separated did something of gross misconduct the termination should be swift…meet them in the parking lot with security along with their box if you have to. Usually early morning terminations are not good.

@PEACH just take good notes of the family and be polite, but most of all relax and be yourself.

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 24th, 2009
9:24 am

My thanksgiving plans are different this year. I am heading to Dallas, TX and we are having a big thanksgiving dinner with 3 blended families (our side, my uncles side, and the grooms side) on thanksgiving day because my cousin is getting married saturday. She also has 12 bridesmaids, so I am interested to see what the single ladies will look like. I am one of the only one out of my family that will be traveling to the wedding unattached…hehe…lol

@ImAPeach404

My advice is to watch out for slick disrespectful comments. There will be someone who is not totally on board with you in this dating situation, therefore people like to make slick comments so dont allow yourself to be disrespected.

Professor~First again?

November 24th, 2009
9:29 am

M.

I noticed you mention the slick comments. Do you feel that PEACH should respond to those comments if made, or take the high road and not go there with the family member? Personally I have about 50-11 (fifty ‘leven) ways of getting someone told from extremely polite and proper to the max, and sometimes I chose not to engage which I feel is also a sign of control.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
9:31 am

Three Words Daily – Constantly seek improvement.

ImAPeach404

November 24th, 2009
9:33 am

@Cents – We talk a lot. And I mean… A LOT! He is very very open and from what I can tell, it’s been over for a very long time. We did have a situation a few months back where he went to her house and there was a dude there. He said it did hurt him and I cannot fault him for that. They were married for 14 years. I don’t imagine the feelings just drop off like that. We’re working it out. And you’re 100% right – the “fresh air effect” can be difficult to keep up. I’ve said on numerous occasions that he needs to know the different in being into me b/c he’s into me and being into me b/c I’m not her.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
9:35 am

TDay Plans – I am flying solo for the whole meal for the first time in life. Normally, I am part of a cooking crew at my family’s houses or a guest at a friends.

MND and I have invited people over. Will report back next week whether or not I will ever host a meal of this magnitude solo ever again in life.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
9:35 am

Thanks, Leggs for the recipe help.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
9:37 am

BTW – I found my pound cake recipe. Now, I’m torn between yours and mine. (Yours looks easier.)

Dan

November 24th, 2009
9:38 am

Last year I took my ex to the family gettogether for New Year’s. I warned her that my fam is me on 10. the blog aside, the D is not that bombastic or cocky, esp. compared to my fam (but I love ‘em all).

I told her about the nosy cousin, the inappropriate comments once the alcohol began to flow, and to not believe any embarrassing stories about me as they were likely exaggerated for effect.

All in all she was mildly amused, had a good time, and noticed where I got somma my tendencies from.

Ultimately, being around a strange family (for your SO or her’s) is a wee bit disconcerting; one should expect extra scrutiny (up to rudeness). Not one to tolerate foolishness, I personally don’t stand for it from my fam toward my SO’s and shole don’t stand for it from [her's].

And as most guys know, the family simply wants to know that you won’t be intimidated by them and that the young lady (gentleman in the ladies’ case) is in good hands.

The D will be leaving early and likely lurking for the rest of the day – so Happy Thanksgiving to all!

Professor~First again?

November 24th, 2009
9:41 am

SCool, how many folks are you cooking for? Will anyone bring a covered dish?

Uncle Peaches

November 24th, 2009
9:42 am

Who is the most outrageous family member that you actually worry about introducing your date to?

Probably me. Uncle Peaches.

Uncle Peaches

November 24th, 2009
9:43 am

Good morning MeMe, as in Melo, good morning ladies

Dream_n- 2 days til turkey day

November 24th, 2009
9:44 am

Good Morning All!!

I am getting very excited about gaining at least 5 lbs on Thursday… (but hopefully in the right areas! i need a little more meat!!! lol

I think the exes family is fairly sane.. I just hate that when everyone comes in you have to get up and give them the kiss on the cheek.. It’s tiring.. but I do it b/c it’s something his mom is very adament about.

As far as my dad’s side family… Well that’s a circus that I’m ready to be entertained by :lol:

Prof.. thanx for the reminder on the clock!

Leggs

November 24th, 2009
9:46 am

Good morning!

You’re welcome, SCool. Since your recipe is “heavy,” try mine and then you can compare which one you like best. Also, flying solo cooking is relaxing and you’re better able to concentrate and flow at your own speed. A glass of wine w/nice music on while in the kitchen is so relaxing. Don’t burn anything!

@ImAPeach ~ enjoy the day w/his family and don’t laugh out loud at anything they say about his ex! Keep smiling, stay polite and respectful and LOL on your ride back home (lol).

My Thanksgiving plans have changed thanks to lil leggs. She wants her father to come for Thanksgiving dinner since he lives alone and she’s his only other family here. I really wanted to look at her sideways, but knew I couldn’t. He went through her to get to me knowing the most I would do would offer to bring him plate! Yes, I agreed he can come and have dinner w/his daughter!

Dream_n- 2 days til turkey day

November 24th, 2009
9:49 am

I’m getting my drinks together for the conclusion of the night with the gamers… Berry Ssangrias, Margaritas, Strawberry Daquiri, beers (for the beer drinkers). I now it’s going to be a great day. Being with family no matter how off the wall they are is always great!!! This is the 2nd Thanksgiving w/out the “mom” (grandma)… I think its going to be a little tough yet again! but we’ll manage!!!!

Are there any members of the family that you guys are hoping doesn’t show up?

ImAPeach404

November 24th, 2009
9:49 am

Lol @ Raqi… stories please!!!

@Prof – Being myself is easy and I plan on doing so! I’m real nice, friendly and can hold a convo with anybody. I’m just concerned my real self will come off as fake lol.

@M – I’ve definitely thought about meeting up with that relative who doesn’t like the situation and thats one aspect I am very worried about. I’d like to think I’d take the high road and nicely put them in their place or not say anything at all but… I am from Decatur…

He has assured me that everyone hates her and I am demanded there by his mother. My hopes is that if she takes to me (and the situation) that others will fall in line.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
9:50 am

Six to eight total. No covered dishes. I’m doing the whole meal.

Ham
Baked Chicken
Dressing
Mac and Cheese
Yams
Greens
Corn
Rolls
Pound Cake
Sweet Potatoe Pie

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 24th, 2009
9:50 am

@Professor~First again?

I think she should take it up with her man and let him handle it. This should diffuse the situation. If it continues, she may need to say something herself.

Dream_n- 2 days til turkey day

November 24th, 2009
9:54 am

ImAPeach

I say have a good time. And it’s definately a plus if his mom has taking a liken to you. If someone says something out of line, I’m sure he will speak up on your be half so you won’t come across as being rude or defensive.
But have fun..it’s always a lil nerve wrecking to meet the new family.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
9:56 am

Who says anybody will say anything?
You get what you expect. If you expect messiness and bllsht, I’m sure something will happen that can be taken as just that.
Go with no expectation other than to have a good time.
If something pops off, address it. Otherwise, be free about that sht.
Seriously.

Tazzee - a little crazy myself

November 24th, 2009
9:59 am

Morning folks!

My family’s crazy and his family is crazy. Once we realized that – we weren’t nervous about it. I’m still nervous about him meeting my mother. Prayerfully she’ll be sober when that time comes. If not, he’ll understand because his mom used to be strung out too – but she’s clean now.

He’s more of a ‘family at all costs’ person than I am. I don’t deal with family that stress me out – so he encourages me to interact with the crazies more. It’s a good thing.

Because I have to work Friday, we’re spending Thanksgiving here. But we’re going up to NC Friday afternoon so he can meet another one of my crazy uncles and my crazy cousin ;-)

ImAPeach404

November 24th, 2009
10:01 am

@Sexy – Good luck!!! I still don’t think I could do the whole meal. Is anybody bringing anything??? I can’t wait to hear how it turned out!

@Leggs – “dont laugh out loud at anything they say about the ex”… check! And, that was very nice of you to have her father over for dinner – I’m sure he appreciates it even more than she does.

Professor~First again?

November 24th, 2009
10:09 am

M. thanks I like that move…let him diffuse the situation if anything happens.

Peach I know you will do just fine and they will enjoy your company. Also I really hate it when you are being yourself and folks think you are being fake…hey that is how it is sometimes.

@SCool…great menu will you start cooking tomorrow afternoon.

@Dream…I cannot wait to eat, but I have no interest in gaining 5 pounds I am thick enough…LOL (actually that is a joke I am a size 4).

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
10:10 am

I’m doing prep work tonight – cutting, dicing, baking the cornbread for the dressing, peeling potatoes…you know, the fun stuff. I need a sous chef. ~lol~

Dan

November 24th, 2009
10:14 am

@SC

Good luck on that meal.

@Tazzee

Congrats again. I hope the uncle’s and cousin’s put him through the ringer (out of love of course).

Dream_n- 2 days til turkey day

November 24th, 2009
10:14 am

Leggs

What’s on the menu for your dinner?? Will you be making one of his favorite dishes?? :smile:

I actually think that you inviting him over for the Sake of lil Leggs is really selfless..

Professor~First again?

November 24th, 2009
10:16 am

I need a sous chef.

Me too! I am going to start my prepping tonight and I am going to check my list one more time to see if I need anything else.

Tomorrow night let the cooking begin! Everything is in order and I am so ready to get started.

ImAPeach404

November 24th, 2009
10:16 am

@Sexy – why’d you have to go and put up a list??? Now im hungry!

@Dream – she has taken a “virtual” liking to me – we’ve never met. I guess he’s told her a lot about me. I definitely don’t want to come across as rude/defensive so I plan on doing my best to be polite if anything starts to smell funny. Hopefully if anything pops off, he’ll be around and can defend me as M. stated. I’m nervous excited lol.

My family’s crazy and his family is crazy. Once we realized that – we weren’t nervous about it LOL @ Tazzee!!!

Melo

November 24th, 2009
10:17 am

Morning folks!

@Leggs are u and ex hubby cordial??
Nice gesture for u to let him come over for dinner,i like that!

@ImAPeach404, u are the default place holder,and they hated the ex,so yu know,every move u make will be silently scrutinized,watched,talked about in ur absence,u name it.Just be urself and not try, at all costs to be the opposite of what u heard about ex. That way,u wont have no pressure,either they like u or they dont and u keep it moving.

It wld be nice tho if u offer to help here and there….

On topic:
No crazies on this end.My pple are alll scattered and for those that are in GA we did not plan on a thanxgiving dinner so its just me and my girls. In the past,i had my uncle,aunt and cousins over at the house and one of my crazy friends was there,drunk and wilding out.
He has been on a slippery slope and is away in some other state.

Happy thanxgiving!

Dream_n- 2 days til turkey day

November 24th, 2009
10:18 am

I have volunteered my services to my mom, and the big sis is coming over tomorrow to help with the feast…

Does anyone know an easier way to peel the sweet potatoes, those things are hard to peel with a knife!!!!

Dream_n- 2 days til turkey day

November 24th, 2009
10:20 am

Prof!

A size 4!! Well hot dayum :lol:

Melo

November 24th, 2009
10:20 am

@SCool, u dont have turkey on ur list,u wont be making it??

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
10:21 am

Dream’n – A potato PEELER.

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
10:22 am

MND said that he prefers a baked ham over baked turkey. So….there ya’ have it.

Dan

November 24th, 2009
10:23 am

@Dream

A potato peeler can be used on a sweet (or regular) potato.

@SC/Prof

I’d offer my assistance (as I am non degreed sous chef) but I’m getting ready to go to Hosea’s Feed the Hungry tommorrow and do some barber work. And by getting ready, I mean shopping for new clipper to use.

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 24th, 2009
10:25 am

@ImAPeach404

So this guy is seperated but not completely divorced? I think as long as everyone is moving forward, everything is ok. You should just enjoy yourself and have fun. So are you seeing your family for thanksgiving or not?

Dream_n- 2 days til turkey day

November 24th, 2009
10:26 am

Thanx SexyC & Dan…

I’ve never eaten Turkey on Thanksgiving, my mom cooks this chicken with no head and puts dressing around it.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 24th, 2009
10:26 am

Mornting y’all :mrgreen:

What are your Thanksgiving Day plans this year?

This year I’m volunteering at a church to help feed the homeless/hungry. I usually do this on Saturdays throughout the year but I haven’t on Turkey day b/c I usually spend it with fam from out of town. Wednesday evening we’ll be at the church prepping food and Thursday morning we’ll serve breakfast(dine in) and fix thier Thanksgiving meal to go, cleanup the church and be out. Thanksgiving dinner will be at my brother’s home this year and I’ve got my fingers crossed with high hopes for my sister-in-law and her “burning abilities”…

Lady J

November 24th, 2009
10:27 am

Happy Thanksgiving MIA Blog!!!! I must admit I’m NOT ready to meet anyone’s family and sure not ready for anyone to meet mines…I’m good! LOL Enjoy your day!:)

mytw♥cents - mytw♥tatas - d♥scentavos - Fallen Angel - Albino Tigress

November 24th, 2009
10:35 am

PROF That’s my thinking too, but I think this case was an added bit of jackassedness… ain’t nuthin pop off overnight that hadn’t already been apparent the day, weeks or months before with her. Oh well.

PEACHY I’m hoping for the best for you two. Regardless of all else, I hope the meal is tasty, cuz you KNOW they’re gonna force you to fill your plate then ask how it tastes… I’m soo the wrong one for that move cuz I’ll tell you if it’s Mmm mmm good or just smile politely if I feel otherwise.

Anyone else ever snack first so they’re not stuck. Thinking. Why the hell didn’t I grab a Happy Meal on the way over? Oh, just me…

ImAPeach404

November 24th, 2009
10:36 am

@Melo – thanks for the advice. I’m bringing my world famous banana pudding… that should get’em on my good side :)

@Sexy – lol @ a potato peeler! I was thinking the same thing!!!

@M. – separated but not divorced, yes. We will be going to my brothers house first and then off to his moms.

speaking of Hoseas Feed the Hungry… did anybody see the video of Paula Dean getting smacked in the face with a ham???

Thanks everyone for the advice and the encouragement! I really really appreciate it. I’m off to do some work now. Yall have a wonderful day!

SexyCool - The Upgrade

November 24th, 2009
10:39 am

Left the potato salad off my list.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 24th, 2009
10:40 am

Anyone else ever snack first so they’re not stuck. Thinking. Why the hell didn’t I grab a Happy Meal on the way over?

Fortunately mytwo I haven’t had that misfortune…..however there has been a “cause for concern” once or twice,though.