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She’s All In

Sometimes women have a hard time just outright admitting how much she likes someone.  Although we really don’t like it when men do it to us, we can be just as bad with sending a guy mixed signals and being vague.

So how can men tell when a woman really likes him? Sadly, just because she is agreeing to go out on a date doesn’t necessarily mean she actually likes you.  There are other ways to tell she is happy you are in her life though:

1. She is genuinely concerned about your well-being. You may notice that she pays attention to something you need and then fulfill those needs.

2. She doesn’t criticize you harshly.  Women definitely pay attention to your behavior and can see when you are acting like a bonehead.  When she likes you, she can call you out in a respectful manner, handling your ego with care.

3. She doesn’t make outrageous demands on you to prove to her you like her.  A really smart woman does not require a man to spend a boatload of cash on her. In fact, when she really likes you, she will treat you and pay for things. If you feel like a sponsor after only a few months of dating, it’s probably because you are.

Ladies, how can men tell when a woman really likes him? How do you let a man know that you are truly interested? What ways to you show him?

Men, do you know when a woman is leading you on? Can you tell when she is interested in you, for who you are?

It’s not fun being used by anyone, how can we manage to avoid that in dating?

241 comments Add your comment

SexyCool - Definitely All In

November 23rd, 2009
2:27 pm

Not spazzing, Infant. Trust.

The post was more tongue-in-cheek-@ssholish than anything that closely resembles a spasm.

Dan

November 23rd, 2009
2:27 pm

@Dream

Desire controls us all. It’s acting on those desires that get us into trouble.

Like Willie, I’ve never been concerned about just the sex of any particular woman (if it happens it does), for me it’s about how responsible she is for her own happiness. And to my mind, that includes sex – irrespective of whether an action occurs or not.

@Brat

That’s a loaded question. If I told you, it wouldn’t be original (the game is to be sold, not told). But for real, my dating is based on the woman. If I want to get to know her head, I invite her places that allow us to explore one another that way; for her heart, another place; and for her body, my place. j/k

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 23rd, 2009
2:28 pm

@czBrat

LOL

For real though, I am learning more and more to be more selective because for guys it already hard enough in the dating realm. Also I really cant risk just dealing any woman because that’s how check’s get garnished lol…

Also if you are a guy and you get rejected by a woman, that’s not always a bad thing…you dont know this woman from a can of paint so you dont know what kind of issues she has or what you just avoided. Sometimes it’s the people that you dont deal with that makes up who you are also. Let that marinate!

SexyCool - Definitely All In

November 23rd, 2009
2:29 pm

Oh…and I just caught that little dig in there about a “couple of drinks”. And I could come back really nasty on ya’, but that ain’t my style.

Let’s let this sht ride.

Willie Dynamite

November 23rd, 2009
2:29 pm

Hold on, I’m actually agreeing with most of what Rell is saying. I also see the other side. Doesn’t really matter either way to me. I tend to take a harder line against Men. For the most part Men make most women into that person. Most women have to go through so much BS when dealing with men that when they have that Real in front of them its Kryptonite to their system. On the flip side you dont have to be a guy with morals and standards to get PLENTY of puddy nowadays. As evidenced on this very blog the same ones talking bout they cant be got and all that end up getting got.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 23rd, 2009
2:29 pm

CZBRAT – Seeing if you and old Girl are cool before you start flashing your bank at her, thats first off.. Doing stuff off the beaten path instead of rushing to Atlantic Station or Lucky Lounge for the first date.. Everybody trying to show off..

Oh and there are some of out here who dont chase Kitty.. Some of us chase something else..

Rell - da rake

November 23rd, 2009
2:30 pm

I was defending my stance on not giving up the goods within a couple of dates

- why is that even your focus…again most men are willing and want to wait..we like things of value..but if i had a dollar for every lil hood rat that moved from small town america to the city with this i am going to reinvent myself crap i would be rich…be you..we will find out if you are a dirty w h ore or not…if you are on the “AC Green” plan…then live like it….meaning no night time dates…no home visits…no house dates….etc….again you create the scene to get fluck over with your double tongues and ruses you play to seem more than what you are – you dirty w h ores…..we can respect a pro if she tells she is one from day one…we dont want to be the dude that wifes up the hood bicycle….

czBrat

November 23rd, 2009
2:31 pm

Dan, the reason I ask is because it seems to reason that if you’re being original in your pursuits then you should be running into women who are also different. no? if that’s the case, why would there be a need for you to abandon the city? or are you meeting people in very typical setting and finding it hard to get with someone who is willing to try something new?

Willie Dynamite

November 23rd, 2009
2:40 pm

DK – 2:29 Oh and there are some of out here who dont chase Kitty.. Some of us chase something else..
Chuuuuch

Rell – AC Green Plan, mayne yousa fool.

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 23rd, 2009
2:40 pm

@THE INFAMOUS DK

“Doing stuff off the beaten path instead of rushing to Atlantic Station or Lucky Lounge for the first date”

That’s another problem in Atlanta. I try to mix it up. I know alot of people in the service industry that work at unique restaurants and bars around town. But some of the women have been dumbed down so much that they look at your crazy for not taking them to Atlantic Station. I stopped by Fox Sports Grille last night and them women were in there skinnin and grinnin like they were at the state fair just because they were in Fox Sports Grill….lol

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
2:42 pm

@Rell

I guess when you’re talking abou re-inventing yourself. YOu’re talking about these women that have had numerous partners and move across state lines to start over and if that’s the case, that’s not me…

And my “V” is not the prize you get while dating me. That’s just apart of the process of dating… whether it be sooner or later. But later works best for me because I have gotten to know you, and I clearly like what has been shown. And you get to know me on the outside and when you get to get inside… then it will be more than just sex…. You’ll find out that I’m the total package :smile:

Leggs

November 23rd, 2009
2:43 pm

What is so jazzy about wanting to go to Atlantic Station for dinner. Is it the food, the atmosphere or the hopes of seeing a celebrity. Perhaps I don’t get it cuz I’ve never been at night. Yeah, that must be it. Sheesh!

Dan

November 23rd, 2009
2:45 pm

@Brat

My pursuit(s) are of women that I find interesting. That, during our tenure together, I find that are in fact not interesting is entirely a function of my selection process.

As Willie stated, the presentation of an original option throws an ordinary chick. Some try and fit, some don’t.

Melo

November 23rd, 2009
2:47 pm

What is so jazzy about wanting to go to Atlantic Station for dinner

not sure either….but its a young,showy kinda pple hangout.
U knw what i mean..

I got money(see my borrowed clothes) but i got no money to buy a drink!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Rell - da rake

November 23rd, 2009
2:48 pm

running into women who are also different

- yous a dummy for real…again re-read M post about those bustdowns skinning and grinning cause they at lame as fox sports…stats is better and will gladly take a sports fan to a sports bar…if you not a fan…applebees or chillis will do..if i like you i might move the interview process to a place more proper for a bustdown on the come up plan..the cheesecake factory…that covers all bustdown checklist and i will even allow you to take some food home for you and your friends..lol

@PYT
But later works best for me because I have gotten to know you

- Scripple this in your pad….what you seek is comfort you will really know someone…shows like AMW, SNAPPED, and UNSOLVED MYSTERYS have plenty of stories on folks who thought they knew there spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend…etc…so we are talking comfort…you need to know he not going to shoot on your azz and call you a dirty w hore when we done..we get it…but you will never truly know someone

Dan

November 23rd, 2009
2:48 pm

@Leggs

It’s like taking the Red Lobster bag to work (how you suddenly don’t know how hungry you were?). More about where than with whom for somma these chicks out here.

@Dream

But the process you describe (re: 2:42) really shouldn’t take that long if both of you are being honest and up front brokers.

czBrat

November 23rd, 2009
2:52 pm

Me personally, I dont want it if its that easy (never did). my mistake, WD, if i misunderstood that statement. Since you see both sides, I still choose to applaud you :)

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 23rd, 2009
2:59 pm

@Rell – da rake

LOL you said bustdown…are you from chicago?

czBrat

November 23rd, 2009
3:01 pm

@ Dan 2:45. so in the getting-to-know-you process you’re finding that there’s just not enough beneath the surface to excite you? that makes sense. i don’t know how much of that has to do specifically with atlanta, but it sounds like a common problem we all run into while trying to find the right fit.

one thing that my s/o and i have in common is how much we talked about all the things we wanted to try and places we wanted to go right from the start. we decided to date and share all those experiences together and have been “checking them off the list” ever since.

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm

@ Dan, but that’s the problem you don’t know if both parties are being honest. It takes you two, to have conversations and for you to observe their actions as it relates to their words. Hey.. we’re beating a dead horse here…

Do what works for you and keep it moving..

Rell - da rake

November 23rd, 2009
3:03 pm

@M – i am from virginia..but i served in the marines for eight years and hung around alot of dudes from the chi and the D….last four years it was dudes from the bottom, sip, da boot, and bama…and we were all station on the west coast…lol

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
3:04 pm

bustdown

I just cracked up over here…a Chicago term at its best…lol

SexyCool - Definitely All In

November 23rd, 2009
3:06 pm

Well, you should know if at least one party is being honest.

Dan

November 23rd, 2009
3:08 pm

@Dream

We’re not “beating a dead horse”, I actually thought we were having a discussion, but if you want to end it, that’s cool.

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
3:10 pm

@ Dan..

My bad.. I just feel like I’m saying the same thing ans we’re going in circles…

I don’t have the answer as to how long you should wait to become intimate with a potential SO. This is determined by the individual.

Dan

November 23rd, 2009
3:13 pm

@Dream

Naw, I get it. I’m not asking you for an answer; I’m more interested in discussing the issue.

We all good.

Can we talk about how I just realized that after 10 games into the season the entire league knows to throw to whereever Chris Houston is?

Dag.

Luvbug

November 23rd, 2009
3:13 pm

The weird part of society to me is that people assume that a woman is either being manipulated into it by a man when she says yes or is manipulating a man when she says no…it is possible that people just do it because they want to.

What’s sad are the women who get talked into sex for fear of other’s opinions or who copy-paste other people’s standards of sex (without making sure it’s right for them) or who use it as a means to negotiate or manipulate a situation. It’s all about a person (woman) deciding what she’s comfortable with…now if she knows she is doing opposite of what she wants to do…again, that’s a sad situation.

Wise Diva

November 23rd, 2009
3:13 pm

thanks Lurker for the laugh, that’s a first, seeing all the title to my posts in a comment. LOL

I had a great time at the Pro Bull Riding event. It was AWESOME. I took a boy, he didn’t like it, he kept leaving to check the football scores LOL. That was fine by me because I was busy gawking at the riders, there were some hotties in there.

Melo

November 23rd, 2009
3:23 pm

or who use it as a means to negotiate or manipulate a situation.

LuvBurg??

but if its wrking for them and the men they dealing with, whats the problem??

sad are the women who get talked into sex for fear of other’s opinions or who copy-paste other people’s standards of sex

Is it not possible that this is ur opinion of why they do it,and not why they do it??

Leggs

November 23rd, 2009
3:28 pm

“…women who get talked into sex for fear of other’s opinions” Who does this? Surely not women, but perhaps teenagers!

Love, Beautiful

November 23rd, 2009
3:28 pm

hey NY2GA, SexyCool, Ladies!

i had a dreamy w/e. hoping yours was fab also.

i let a man know i’m interested in so many lil ways. don’t have time to list them right now. you know, the obvious ways.

bbl.

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
3:32 pm

women who get talked into sex for fear of other’s opinions

:shock:

Melo

November 23rd, 2009
3:35 pm

women who get talked into sex for fear of other’s opinions

:nice:

SexyCool - Definitely All In

November 23rd, 2009
3:38 pm

East Point's Own

November 23rd, 2009
3:40 pm

women who get talked into sex for fear of other’s opinions
Plenty of adult females do this. How many women can’t make a real decision about their life or relationship without getting advice from someone first? These types of folks are easily swayed by the opinions of others… especially since someone else is always in their bees knees…

http://hispointofview.com

Melo

November 23rd, 2009
3:42 pm

Anybody with open invite to ur thanxgiving lernch/dinner???

I wanna try some of ur food pple….

Anybody wanna hosea me,hello out there!!!!

thanx

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
3:44 pm

Plenty of adult females do this

East, I have yet to encounter these women..honestly.

I mean like Leggs said, I can see of you were in high school, the only virgin.. All your friends were doinf it, and you didnt want to be the outcast. As sad as it sounds it has happened and continues too. but as far as a GROWN woman having sex b/c of others opinions.. That right there is krazy talk to me.

Professor

November 23rd, 2009
3:47 pm

…stepping back in.

Well I just did a quick look at what I missed. Whew! smh

Luvbug
I agree, with your 3:13

Rell - da rake

November 23rd, 2009
3:48 pm

If you are influenced by the opinions of others, you will have no DESIRE of your own. – Napoleon Hill

i posted this on my facebook last week

Melo

November 23rd, 2009
3:49 pm

Whew! smh

we missed u Proff,what u shake ur urhd for?? the verbal(fire) works??

Professor

November 23rd, 2009
3:50 pm

women who get talked into sex for fear of other’s opinions

Not, I said the Professor! There is no way I would worry about what others think

Professor

November 23rd, 2009
3:52 pm

Melo,

Yes I am smh at the verbal fireworks…it never cease to amaze me. As for lernch or dinner I will send you a plate next year.

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
3:54 pm

If you are influenced by the opinions of others, you will have no DESIRE of your own.

I like that quote. Be you..

czBrat

November 23rd, 2009
3:57 pm

ditto Dream_n 3:44. i just find that hard to believe. but i often find myself smh at the behaviors that are considered common these days.

East Point's Own

November 23rd, 2009
4:00 pm

I don’t know specifically of a case where an adult woman had sex because of influence from another, but I have seen women make decisions based upon what their girlfriends told them…etc. You know the single friends are always relationship experts…LoL
It is not a stretch in my mind that a person influenced in such manners would have sex with a dude if the single chick commission decided that he had waited long enough and it is not time to give it up.

East Point's Own

November 23rd, 2009
4:01 pm

that should say… it is now time to give it up.

Leggs

November 23rd, 2009
4:02 pm

Melo, you and Queen always has an open invite…you know this!

@EPO, disagree, I find it hard to believe that plenty of adult women do not do this….just because they’re tall, doesn’t mean they’re adults!

East Point's Own

November 23rd, 2009
4:03 pm

plenty does not mean all, or most, just more than I can count on my fingers and toes… OK???

Timeless

November 23rd, 2009
4:04 pm

@East Point:

How many women can’t make a real decision about their life or relationship without getting advice from someone first?

Ain’t that the truth! Often, dating a woman means dating ALL of her friends and trying to “undo” the advice her friends give her. This makes things harder esp. if her friends are “man-haters” (of which there are many)!

Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day

November 23rd, 2009
4:08 pm

East</strong… Gotcha!