She’s All In
Sometimes women have a hard time just outright admitting how much she likes someone. Although we really don’t like it when men do it to us, we can be just as bad with sending a guy mixed signals and being vague.
So how can men tell when a woman really likes him? Sadly, just because she is agreeing to go out on a date doesn’t necessarily mean she actually likes you. There are other ways to tell she is happy you are in her life though:
1. She is genuinely concerned about your well-being. You may notice that she pays attention to something you need and then fulfill those needs.
2. She doesn’t criticize you harshly. Women definitely pay attention to your behavior and can see when you are acting like a bonehead. When she likes you, she can call you out in a respectful manner, handling your ego with care.
3. She doesn’t make outrageous demands on you to prove to her you like her. A really smart woman does not require a man to spend a boatload of cash on her. In fact, when she really likes you, she will treat you and pay for things. If you feel like a sponsor after only a few months of dating, it’s probably because you are.
Ladies, how can men tell when a woman really likes him? How do you let a man know that you are truly interested? What ways to you show him?
Men, do you know when a woman is leading you on? Can you tell when she is interested in you, for who you are?
It’s not fun being used by anyone, how can we manage to avoid that in dating?
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Melo
November 23rd, 2009
1:01 pm
LUAO in ATL??
u male or female??
Melo
November 23rd, 2009
1:04 pm
czBrat,u back from the mtns??
hw was the weather up there??…tell me u were skin to skin up there!
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
1:06 pm
I will say this – this society is way too weird about sex.
Professor
November 23rd, 2009
1:07 pm
Melo you better hush before Uncle Peaches get you.
czBrat I hope you had a wonderful birthday weekend too!
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 23rd, 2009
1:08 pm
@SexyCool – Definitely All In
Good point. So when guys are in the FZ, is there ever any coming back? I think thats the hardest thing in the world is to get out of the friend zone.
Another thing I notice that women in Atlanta are pulling is when they meet a guy, they want to be friends first. I dont think they mean that. If its a guy they really like, they want to date him not be his friend.
Thoughts?
@Dan
True that.
Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day
November 23rd, 2009
1:13 pm
thanx.. cbratz.
I am welcoming this very short week.
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
1:21 pm
M.Dot – I have slipped and fell on an FZ dizzle in the past, but it didn’t bring them out of the zone.
And I’m not going to tell a guy that I truly believe there could be something with that I want to be friends first. (I refuse to intentionally place MYself in the FZ.) Because if I say that, then I have just put into place different rules of engagement on how we interact and I have forfeited some of my rights. (lol) And IF I say that to a dude, I have determined that I have very little romantic interest in him.
LURKER
November 23rd, 2009
1:29 pm
To WISE DIVA….
I know the it’s complicated feeling can occur during the dating process but I will provide you with full disclosure to ease your fears so that the Alice in Wonderland fantasy that you want can be achieve! Since you have a sense of adventure I will think outside the box during our dating phrase because I do subscribe to the men with-out fear club.
Since it takes one to no one thru the dating process I will give you all the time you need because playing it cool will not put a smile on your face. We will not worry about when the time is up inregards to sexing, because once I know she is all in I am going to put dat luving on you so you can say this luving hurt so good!
Timeless
November 23rd, 2009
1:30 pm
M dot: I see this alot in Atlanta where women want the benefits of a relationship but since they don’t have it all in 1 package yet with the guy they want, they PIECE it together.
Agree.
SCool: yes, this society is not direct about sex. Sex is still a taboo. It’s different in Europe and South America, for example, where sex is treated as a fact of life.
czBrat
November 23rd, 2009
1:32 pm
Thanx Melo & Professor. We had a great time and, yes, plenty of skin-to-skin
The weather was quite mild actually, but Sunday back at home was all yucky & rainy so we continued the cuddling with an afternoon of football: Steelers 
Colts 
SexyCool you’ve mentioned before that your s/o did not (physically) fit your pre-conception of ‘your type’. do you mind sharing how and when you decided to let him know you wanted to pursue a relationship if he wasn’t initially someone of interest? if i’m wrong feel free to correct me. i ask because that situation sounds similar to my own.
Rell - da rake
November 23rd, 2009
1:34 pm
@quasimoto…a fool…lol…yea you still not answer the questions…lol…fake arse
@lmao..i cosign
Dan
November 23rd, 2009
1:38 pm
@SC
This society is not weird, people are.
I’ve stated my interactions with truly sexually liberated women (love them to Deaf!), and it’s not a age, race, socioeconomic or even religious objection that they have overcome; they’ve (IMO) shed the expectations of others.
At some point, the imaginary “haters” and “people that judge you” really shouldn’t matter.
Regardless of religious affiliation or nuture, I like people that think for themselves. These people have questioned long held beliefs and come to a decision. Now, if that means she wants me to wait 6 months to a year before she expresses physical intimacy – cool; that’s my decision to wait.
What irks me more than anything dating in the “A” is that platitudes and the lemming logic has replaced substantial thought. Few people actually have original thoughts anymore.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 23rd, 2009
1:39 pm
Whaddup.. Mayne ya’ll make this dating ish too hard.. Its as simple as Do you like me? Check Yes or No and go with the flow from there..
If a chick ask me comeon lets go out then she paying cause for one you cant just call me up and Im at your disposal to take you on a date..
you know whats even funnier.. Women think just cause they are giving you some tw@t then you should be all good.. That for suckers.. I want you to bring more to me than just your wet spot.. Or prepare to be dismissed.. Seriously.. I can get cooch when I cant eat..
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 23rd, 2009
1:42 pm
@SexyCool – Definitely All In
LOL I agree with your 1:21 post. Its funny because I have met women that have said and believe that logic. They know deep down if this is a guy you like, you dont want him treating you like a friend mainly because you wont be a PRIORITY. You can be cool, but if you really like a guy, you dont want to be a backup. You want to be the starter, #1 chick. Also if you become friends and really get to know the guy and he will become more real to you and you will get to see his flaws so the chances of you wanting to be with him the same as the beginning wont really be there as much.
Is that a true statement?
LURKER
November 23rd, 2009
1:42 pm
In America we have created the princess/queen syndrome: That is why so many people are single and cannot find a mate! Standards are great to have but superficial requirements/wants will wreck a potential relationship!
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
1:43 pm
czB – you are correct.
From probably about our third date, MND was asking me what my intentions were with him. While I initially found him to be a really ‘nice guy’ and was learning that he seemed to also be a ‘good man’, I wasn’t as into him as he was into me.
And while from jump he was pretty much saying that his intentions were to see how far we could take the relationship because he was ready to settle down, I was telling him that I was looking forward to getting to know him and figuring it out as we went along.
After we had been dating for a little more than a month, he came over one night and we starting mixing cherry rum and cokes. We got a little tipsy and a little amorous. One thing led to another. He rocked my world and I’ve been gone every since.
The very next time he asked me about my intentions, I told him that I wanted to see how far we could take the relationship because I was ready to settle down.
LOL!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 23rd, 2009
1:46 pm
What irks me more than anything dating in the “A” is that platitudes and the lemming logic has replaced substantial thought. Few people actually have original thoughts anymore
@Dan- I thought it was just me.. Everybody dressing like everybody, everybody go to the same spots, everybody doing the same thing.. No one is clever anymore..
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 23rd, 2009
1:49 pm
Computer love (computer, computer love)
Computer love (lookin’ for my computer love)
Computer love (hey)
Computer love (computer love)
You know I’ve been searching for someone
Who can share that special love with me
And your eyes have that glow
Could it be your face I see on my computer screen
Need a special girl (ooh yeah)
To share in my computer world
I no longer need a strategy
Thanks to modern technology
Chorus:
Shooby doo bop shoo doo bop I wanna love you
Shooby doo bop (I wanna love you) computer love
Shooby doo bop shoo doo bop I wanna love you
Shooby doo bop my computer love
Rell - da rake
November 23rd, 2009
1:50 pm
@dk…word i have gotten more sex offers then offers to line my pockets with green or women wanting to foot the tab for a night out…but they will let me hit first then say hey can you mind taking me to pappaduex…lol
M. (pronouced M dot)
November 23rd, 2009
1:51 pm
@THE INFAMOUS DK
“I want you to bring more to me .. Or prepare to be dismissed.. ”
I am with you on this because in Atlanta, alot of women think just because they are attractive that that’s all it takes. What else are they bringing to the table besides curves and a weave? What is messing it up for guys like me in Atlanta is that other guys are not REQUIRING anything more than her physical appearance. As long as she is thick everything is supposed to be cool? They are either bringing something to the table or taking something away from your table….
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
1:53 pm
Actually, Dan – it is THIS SOCIETY that is weird about sex. As Timeless points out in his statement, other cultures do not have the kinds of hang ups that American people do.
Is it better for you since I included YOUR word – people? LOL – totally teasing….
Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day
November 23rd, 2009
1:54 pm
What else are they bringing to the table besides curves and a weave
Now that is some funny ish.. right there.
Rell - da rake
November 23rd, 2009
1:55 pm
@m/dk…thats why i dont mess with weave queens..most of there money is going to the upkeep of that yaki…which means less dollars invested on me….two…i am really tired of the term thick…no yousa a heavyweight..and you need to leave the cheddar biscuits alone and pick up a jump rope…thick is only cut below the mason-dixon line..anywhere else you would be a BBW….lol
Dan
November 23rd, 2009
1:58 pm
@DK
No one wants to be clever. It’s much too easy to “seen” than to be original.
It’s soooo superficial sometimes, it makes me think of moving. But I’m an optimist.
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
1:58 pm
The sugar cravings always set in after lunch.
Sheesh….I’m struggling. I can hear the vending machine calling my name.
Dan
November 23rd, 2009
2:00 pm
@SC
Society affects/creates limitations. I’m all about the subculture.
I’d rather find my personal level of hell (shout out to My2) and stay in it. I’ll deal with the consequences when they arrive.
Professor
November 23rd, 2009
2:01 pm
czBrat…I am happy you all had a great time. I am hoping that is nippy Thursday because I do want to use my fireplace.
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
2:02 pm
I’m eating an apple, but in my mind, it’s a powdered donut.
Melo
November 23rd, 2009
2:03 pm
What is messing it up for guys like me in Atlanta is that other guys are not REQUIRING anything more than her physical appearance
Ofcourse u not serious!
U be true to urself and what u looking for,u find it plenty.
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 23rd, 2009
2:03 pm
@ Rell
“no yousa a heavyweight..and you need to leave the cheddar biscuits alone and pick up a jump rope”
LOLOLOL
Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day
November 23rd, 2009
2:05 pm
I have to disagree on the weird part. So am I not weird if the panties are off within a couple of weeks, or if I’m down for anything on the first night out with you.
Let’s just call it what it is, it isn’t weird it’s called “Personal Preferences”.
In this society SEX is a major component asn id you’re not on the banwagon to give away the goodies rather quickly then you are A. putting the puddy on a pedastool or B. Being weird about sex (wateva that means) …. You aren’t just trying to weed out the posers,imposters, or lymp dyck men…
I GOTCHA
Professor
November 23rd, 2009
2:06 pm
…stepping out it sounding like the lonely hearts club in here.
Willie Dynamite
November 23rd, 2009
2:06 pm
Afternoon All,
I agree with most of the posts today. It is a very personal choice as to when to give up the goods. Some women are shocked that there are men that will turn down your puddy. Some Men really do not subscribe to the whole ‘Girl he havta wait 6 mos for this pot o gold’. I understand both sides of the equation. Me personally, I dont want it if its that easy (never did). I am also not gonna wait for 6 months because thats what you have in your mind as an acceptable time frame. If we dating and things are flowing then its the next logical step. If not then I guess its just my lost, right. My thing has always been what else you have besides your puddy. I mean if you make that the goal then when I conquer that whats next?
Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day
November 23rd, 2009
2:07 pm
*and if you’re not*
M. (pronoucned M dot)
November 23rd, 2009
2:08 pm
@Melo
I got you. That’s why I am not lowering my standards rather than just settling. Sometimes you dont always have to make lemonade when you are given lemons….
czBrat
November 23rd, 2009
2:08 pm
I’m eating an apple, but in my mind, it’s a powdered donut. LMAO
Dan & DK, may I ask what you guys do that is clever and original when dating?
THANK YOU! to Melo’s 2:03.
Timeless
November 23rd, 2009
2:09 pm
Dan, you said “This society is not weird, people are.”
Isen’t society made up of people???
Timeless
November 23rd, 2009
2:11 pm
What is messing it up for guys like me in Atlanta is that other guys are not REQUIRING anything more than her physical appearance.
The above, unfortunately, is true.
Some women are shocked that there are men that will turn down your puddy.
Also true! You should see the shock in their eyes when I tell them “Have a nice life!”.
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
2:14 pm
Dream’n – okay, first off. I am not the one who started the whole “Who’s a prude? Who’s a ho3?” conversation. I don’t care what any other chick does with her va-jay-jay and I don’t have an opinion or judgement about it.
But when I say that THIS SOCIETY is weird about sex, that’s exactly what I mean. THIS SOCIETY as a whole is way too freakin’ concerned about what goes on in other people’s bedrooms and what they do with their bodies? Why is @nal sex still illegal in some states? Why was it ever? When was it ever any body’s business what Johnny wanted stuck in whatever orifice of his body that he wanted something stuck in?
No, I’m not judging you personally. You can have your pristine pouch surgically removed and preserve it in a freakin’ jar for all I care. It ain’t mine and I ain’t got nothing to do with it.
Like I said, you do you and I’ll do me. MY statements about what I do with MY body are not meant to be an example, a case study, an indictment, a suggestion or any doggone thing else about what YOU do. It’s just me talking about ME.
I’m just saying….
Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day
November 23rd, 2009
2:16 pm
Willie Dynamite
I like the way you think.
And to clarify for you, It’s not about putting a time limit or time table on when you are to have sex. It’s about not letting your sexual desires control you. You should want to feel out that person, get to know them, learn them, see if their action match up with what they are telling you. We talked about the representative being sent in about a month or so ago.. and many people agreed that within the 6 week time period you are still grasping who that person is. You dont truly know them. I’m not knocking anyone for having S!X, that’s part of being a human.. We’re going to have sex. But let’s not let every tom dick and harry stick it in and play with it…
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 23rd, 2009
2:17 pm
@Willie Dynamite
I agree with your 2:06 post. That’s a slippery slope and that’s where a lot of WOMEN mess up at because they make themselves a QUEST. What do you do once you conquer a quest? You find another one. She is not a challenge anymore. I am not saying women need to close the deal super fast, but also dont make a guy chase your around 285 even while you know you like him just to stroke your ego, make you feel sweated, desired, and give you notes to compare with your girlfriends.
czBrat
November 23rd, 2009
2:17 pm
now if i had Rell’s mentality, i would say to Timeless, M dot and WD that you’re all full of crap because all men chase the kitty and nothing but the kitty. but i am NOT of that mentality! instead i say good for you for being men with morals and standards. there are women out there equally moral and happily waiting to meet you
Leggs
November 23rd, 2009
2:18 pm
“I’m eating an apple, but in my mind, it’s a powdered donut.” You are crazy.
That’s why I am not lowering my standards rather than just settling. Sometimes you dont always have to make lemonade when you are given lemons…. Couldn’t have said it any better. Just look at the lemon, recognize it’s rotten and keep it moving….
Rell - da rake
November 23rd, 2009
2:18 pm
@dream – love its cool if you wait…i have no problem with it…if thats you..what i hate is chicks that feel the need to bring it up..sometimes its not on our minds right away specially if find the one that piques our interest…its only when we smell blood in the water is when the game changes…meaning you telling us how we not going to get ect etc…you do it to yourselfs really…most men want that one ….we all know one good women is worth 20 bustdowns
SexyCool - Definitely All In
November 23rd, 2009
2:19 pm
And that last post came across kinda angry…but it’s not…
Dan
November 23rd, 2009
2:19 pm
@Timeless
A society is a collection of people, cultures and traditions. The components of each being individual and collective.
@Dream
Weird is different; and as I live by my own standards, weird (for me) is anything different from how I do things.
@WillieD
Right on to that whole 2:06!
Rell - da rake
November 23rd, 2009
2:23 pm
@ca…bench fluck you…do you know me…of course not…so you dont know my mentality…you benchs kill me thinking ya ish is gold…bench
Dream_n- 3 days til turkey day
November 23rd, 2009
2:25 pm
SexyC
Okay let’s back away from the comp and take a deep breathe…
I am not judging anyone personally. I was defending my stance on not giving up the goods within a couple of dates. I could care less what you or anyone else does in the comfinement of their bedroom, but as for me it takes more than a couple of drinks and a cute smile to have me on my back screaming. If what I said in my posts offended you or struck a chord with you, I apologize. I am not one to judege nor point fingers at someone b/c of their choices.
You and I differ on this particular subject, and that’s quite okay. No need to spasm out on a difference of opinion.
MsM
November 23rd, 2009
2:26 pm
Like I said, you do you and I’ll do me. MY statements about what I do with MY body are not meant to be an example, a case study, an indictment, a suggestion or any doggone thing else about what YOU do. It’s just me talking about ME.
@ SexyC … Alright then. I’m a straight up freak, but I don’t freak with just anybody… LOL
czBrat
November 23rd, 2009
2:27 pm
speaking of spasms …….