Takes One to Know One
Today Gwinnett Arena is being descended upon by a lot of trucks and dirt for the Professional Bull Riders events that kick off (no pun, intended) tonight. Later today, I have a meet up with PBR’s official “barrel man” Flint Rasmussen for an interview and hopefully I can get a crash course in man wrangling!
I’m secretly hoping he will be dressed just like this. Either outfit would work.
Some of the best advice I have received about dating men - who want to marry – has come from men who have done it and are happy about it. That’s right, happily married men exist and they are chock full of good information single men and women can take heed to.
I just think it’s good practice to seek out people who have reached the destination that you desire. Often times they can offer great insight on their journey, including mistakes and pitfalls.
It could also be helpful to introduce someone you are dating to your trusted married friends. Some of my married guy friends can spot a player from a mile away and are quick to let me know it. They are all, “Game recognizes game. Get rid of him, he reminds me of myself when I didn’t care!”
You know the saying, takes one to know one, right? Well, if you take your date around married friends, you can find out from them if the person you are seeing is marriage-minded. You know, just in case you aren’t totally convinced by spending quality time with them.
What is the best advice you have received from someone who is happily married? What did they warn you about when it comes to relationships?
Have you ever introduced the person you are dating to your friends who are married? Have they ever advised you to run for the hills? Did you listen?
P.S. I’m meeting the happily married Mr. Rasmussen early this afternoon, you can still post questions for him to answer today!
Happy Friday!
2:23 UPDATE:
I had a great meet up with Flint! He was super friendly and hilarious. Flint and his wife have been married 15 years! That’s like TWO seven year itches under his belt, people.
I asked him what has worked for him and his wife all these years. He said, “lots of sex” (YESSS) and also the fact that they really enjoy their time together. She balances him out and can be the “voice of reason”. He also said that the fact that he travels so much for work, doesn’t hurt either! When he goes home, they are rarely apart.
So basically, I need to find a traveling salesman who loves sex and then live happily ever after. Easy breezy RIGHT!?
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Melo
November 20th, 2009
2:47 pm
Raqi??
Wise Diva dont like having sex that much so she str8!
Thats the problem with nowaday chicks,they dont want their hair,make up,nana etc messed up coz they see the beautiful bodies on tv and they dont look like they are ever ruffled.So they wanna take after them.
No wonder the divorce rate.
No huffing and puffing in the bedroom!!!!!!!!!!
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
2:48 pm
Leggs
You watch boxing?? I think it’s too brutal to watch. One minute their face is regular the next minute they are bleeding with knots on their head. I can’t take it.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
2:51 pm
Bingo…I figure if we’re both working, we’re both cooking.
Luvbug???
so by ur marriage version,u gotta bring in the same amnt of bacon then?? haa,what u say??
The moment one brings more over the other,divorce,unless they bring their money up to match,is that it????
Willie Dynamite
November 20th, 2009
2:52 pm
Afternoon All,
Still on topic? If so then me personally, I try not to give advice without first knowing the person I’m advising. My generic answer is the truest I can give which is that it takes hard work. I then let them know it is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life.
Happily married is the only way to be. Anything else will turn into soon to be divorced.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
2:53 pm
oohhh okay Dream_n.thx…hey..you’re not into boxing but barbershops lil lady?
…I might would have heard some scrambled convos about it but our barber has a lounge area…and no-one (except me) sits out there…the sofas are all soooooft n leather, and big flat t.vs. and quiet so i’m good. the quiet area…whew…cause men can talk too!
speaking of…I purchased Don King Boxing on Wii games…caint wait to crack that open.
Luvbug
November 20th, 2009
2:53 pm
Now Melo – I’m talking about sweat equity. Money don’t count.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
2:55 pm
“One minute their face is regular the next minute they are bleeding with knots on their head”
Won’t happen if you protect your face and know when to jab, duck, move and punch and land the punch first. Not everyone winds up “punch drunk” or with knots on their head. Take Muhammad Ali, many, many, many fights he would walk away with not even a scratch on him. Tyson did too only because he never really had a boxing match. He was a wolf just waiting in the cut for his prey and with one pounce….ding, ding, fight over!
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
2:59 pm
@ Dream_n – Start with wrestling…maybe boxing is advance level for you.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
3:00 pm
Money don’t count
LuvBug?????
Money dont count coz u personally have less leverage on it,is that why??
Professor
November 20th, 2009
3:00 pm
Dream!
I love boxing I saw Lalia Ali fight a few times.
One minute their face is regular the next minute they are bleeding with knots on their head” now that was too funny
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
3:01 pm
The fight was between Pacquiao and Cotto. MND and I went to a fight party.
It promised to be a damn good fight. However, the Puerto Rican just could not handle the little Filipino. And it really doesn’t help that Cotto’s face swells up if you blow on him. They should have stopped the fight after the 8th round. (Right around the time his wife and kid left the arena.) That fight had been long over. There was no way he could win after the beating that he took in the 8th.
Willie Dynamite
November 20th, 2009
3:02 pm
whats Pacquiao gonna do with Money Mayweather?
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
3:02 pm
Cee
I went with my bro and they were in there betting/ish talking and what not about the fight… and I believe you.. they CAN talk…lol
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
3:03 pm
Give him a run for his money. And then go to the house with the second purse.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
3:04 pm
love boxing I saw Lalia Ali fight a few times
Proff,its so hooooooott,looking at well toned women in shorts and tanks, going at it,with their strapped tatas jiggling a lil bit.
It dont matter who wins in ma book!
I be sitting courtside,holding my balls wit 2 strong hands.
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
3:06 pm
The funny thing is when I was living in milwaukee, around the age of 9 or 10 I think (don’t quote me). I used to watch WWF and the other one, I can’t remember. My favorite one was Shawn Micheals (darn that man was sexy)…. but I can’t remeber why I jsut stopped watching.. now I don’t like either wrestling nor boxing.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:12 pm
whats Pacquiao gonna do with Money Mayweather?
@WillieD – Don’t start that…what’s the answer?
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:14 pm
PoppaG – Yea, they can talk…when it’s something lke boxing especially about a recent fight! lol… look at you brothers…
Luvbug
November 20th, 2009
3:16 pm
Melo- money don’t count cuz they are both working hard outside the home. Why punish one partner cuz they are earning less for the same hours/time of work? If after a hard days work, we both need to eat and keep the house maintained, why don’t we both do those things?
Oh…and I have dated guys who have earned less and more than me. Come to think of it, I never asked their income or volunteered mine. I know because they volunteered it…they always asked mine though, or found out somehow.
Now I’m asking myself, why they wanted to know so badly?
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:18 pm
@ Dream_n – I understand your dislike…be glad you don’t have a rambunctious boy who starting get into…so this new game i purchased…hmmmm
Willie Dynamite
November 20th, 2009
3:20 pm
styles makes fights. IMO Mayweathers style is perfectly suited to dismantle Pacquiao.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:21 pm
my 3.14 was for you lil maam.
@ Dream_n – oops.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
3:22 pm
@Cee ~ I’ll take the game off your hands.
The clash between Pac Man and Mayweather is going to be a good fight, but Pac Man is going to take him out.
Love, Beautiful
November 20th, 2009
3:23 pm
@WISE
loved your update! stories like that keeps my hopes and dreams alive.
Love, Beautiful
November 20th, 2009
3:23 pm
…that one day he’ll find me!
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
3:25 pm
@Cee … I understood your 3:14 lol
No imagine playing tea party with all those darn stuffed animals, barbie dolls, and baby dolls. Each one having a different voice and you having to remember the names, b/c gosh forbid you call the elephant Sam and not Fred like she instructed you to…
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:25 pm
as a matter of fact i need to up my
cheating“skills” because my SO is probably going to slaughter me a lil man on the Don King game…he has both wrestled and boxed.uh-oh!
Melo
November 20th, 2009
3:26 pm
Why punish one partner cuz they are earning less for the same hours/time of work?
its not so much as punishing but jus acknowledging that they put wrk to get that kinda of bacon which takes care of the house.
My thing is,u want equality in marriage but u dont want equality to be applied to the earnings u bring into it…sounds like a double standard to me,based on subjective whimms or whowver way the wind is blowing(reminds me of the flip-flop commercial that did J-Kerry down)
It takes work to get a lot of money…and work aint all physical,it cld be mental.
Now,here is my advice..as if u need it..Neva look at luv and marriage/relationships as a 50-50 thing.The moment u do that,u bound to look at ur luver,husband or wife more like an advervesary and less like a partner.
If u look at relationships the way i espouse,it dont matter u spend 9 hrs today toiling for some boss u dont know what his underwear look like,u be happy to go home with a smile and put sme in the oven for ur hubby,with a wide smile coz thats the one who be up at nite bringing u medicine if u sick…and not the boss u spend 10 hrs with eveday!
Tell me u kinda feeling soft and tender right now Luvbug!(my seduction skills are well known,careful!)
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:27 pm
I love Wii games!!! i’m hooked!
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:28 pm
Sony Playstations make me sick now…i forget all the slick moves…
Go Wii!
Yea, i got it bad.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:34 pm
@ Leggs – If you go to EB Games on CampCreek (not GAme Stop)…you can talk David down to a resonable price for a Wii…but that will be used…they do guarantee their games though. You need go EARLY in the a.m.
Was there with a friend and she got the PS3 for 230 and they run 299.. catch: he’s the manager.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:35 pm
you didn’t hear the from Cee…before thankgiving…
Professor
November 20th, 2009
3:35 pm
Melo you are a mess! I think I saw you at one of the fights…everyone cheered loudly and one dude in the corner with a matching kenti cloth hat/scarf/gloves set on sat hunched over clutching his balls and spoiled his pants
j/k
Professor
November 20th, 2009
3:38 pm
If u look at relationships the way i espouse,it dont matter u spend 9 hrs today toiling for some boss u dont know what his underwear look like straight comedy…
Dream_n- 6 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
3:38 pm
Noone told me my count down was wrong..lol it has been fixed.
Wise Diva
November 20th, 2009
3:39 pm
Raqi,. nooooo, don’t tell me that. LOL, you know I am already on the fence about marriage most days as it is.
Thanks Beautiful!
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
3:41 pm
Thanks, Cee!
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:44 pm
Going to see them Hawks tonight… see what they do this season.
Dream_n- 6 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
3:45 pm
matching kenti cloth hat/scarf/gloves
lol
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
3:46 pm
no problem Leggs…i thought about it i wouldn’t buy girls used (just me probably) because they usually keep there stuff all neat and “keep” right?
Boys don’t care how it come….as long as it works and get their motor running.
Professor
November 20th, 2009
3:54 pm
Dream, I like all of that crazy stuff Melo say on here so I had to put him out there
We have one hour and six minutes to go…we need to crank up Freaky Friday. I say we start with Wisey and the Bull Rider
czBrat
November 20th, 2009
4:00 pm
Hello All!!
been busy, busy, busy (but lurking) throughout the day. just had to pop in an give a hearty laugh at Prof 3:35. YOU’RE a mess!
have a safe and blessed weekend all. the next time you read the Brat, she’ll be a year older
Melo
November 20th, 2009
4:04 pm
czBrat..happy birthday!!
Dream_n- 6 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
4:07 pm
Some things, I have to read through my hands covering my eyes..lol
Melo is a character
Dream_n- 6 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
4:08 pm
HAPPY B-DAY CBRATZ!!!!!
Hope you have a wonderful celebration.
Luvbug
November 20th, 2009
4:09 pm
Tell me u kinda feeling soft and tender right now Luvbug!(my seduction skills are well known,careful!)
Can’t say that I am…but physical or mental, work is work. I don’t see it 50-50. I see it human-human. No more than a man wants to work all day (mentally/physically) and do all the work at home do I want to work all day and do that either…especially if I have a partner there to help me.
I couldn’t stand to watch a person I love take on all that by himself, while I sit and shoot the breeze.
To each his own
MsM
November 20th, 2009
4:10 pm
It’s been a long and boring Friday here…
Peace.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
4:11 pm
I hate this coming winter and every other winter to come,(barring global warming)
I was out there few mins ago on an errant….
Wont tell u what i saw,but daaaaaamn! I mean daaaaan!!, what a beautiful site,tail and leggs!!!???(i was behind)
Suffice to say,if we were in winter already,that wld have been all strapped up and not as visible.
The Captain
November 20th, 2009
4:12 pm
Love, love will keep us together, think of me baby whenever.
Well just STOP, cause I really love you.
STOP, I’ve been thinking oooof you.
Look at my heart and let love keep us togeeeether, ah whatever.
I will, I will, I will, I wiiiiill be there to stay forever.
Love will keep us together.
Think of me babe whenever
la la la la la la la
The Captain
November 20th, 2009
4:13 pm
That was dedicated to Beautiful, the eternal love optimist. Ain’t love grand?