Takes One to Know One
Today Gwinnett Arena is being descended upon by a lot of trucks and dirt for the Professional Bull Riders events that kick off (no pun, intended) tonight. Later today, I have a meet up with PBR’s official “barrel man” Flint Rasmussen for an interview and hopefully I can get a crash course in man wrangling!
I’m secretly hoping he will be dressed just like this. Either outfit would work.
Some of the best advice I have received about dating men - who want to marry – has come from men who have done it and are happy about it. That’s right, happily married men exist and they are chock full of good information single men and women can take heed to.
I just think it’s good practice to seek out people who have reached the destination that you desire. Often times they can offer great insight on their journey, including mistakes and pitfalls.
It could also be helpful to introduce someone you are dating to your trusted married friends. Some of my married guy friends can spot a player from a mile away and are quick to let me know it. They are all, “Game recognizes game. Get rid of him, he reminds me of myself when I didn’t care!”
You know the saying, takes one to know one, right? Well, if you take your date around married friends, you can find out from them if the person you are seeing is marriage-minded. You know, just in case you aren’t totally convinced by spending quality time with them.
What is the best advice you have received from someone who is happily married? What did they warn you about when it comes to relationships?
Have you ever introduced the person you are dating to your friends who are married? Have they ever advised you to run for the hills? Did you listen?
P.S. I’m meeting the happily married Mr. Rasmussen early this afternoon, you can still post questions for him to answer today!
Happy Friday!
2:23 UPDATE:
I had a great meet up with Flint! He was super friendly and hilarious. Flint and his wife have been married 15 years! That’s like TWO seven year itches under his belt, people.
I asked him what has worked for him and his wife all these years. He said, “lots of sex” (YESSS) and also the fact that they really enjoy their time together. She balances him out and can be the “voice of reason”. He also said that the fact that he travels so much for work, doesn’t hurt either! When he goes home, they are rarely apart.
So basically, I need to find a traveling salesman who loves sex and then live happily ever after. Easy breezy RIGHT!?
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258 comments Add your comment
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
12:53 pm
Well, she is taking over for Charlie Gibson when he retires. Hopefully, they will let him stay retired. This is his third attempt to retire.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
12:55 pm
“What was going through your mind as the plane was falling from the sky?”
Its actually a fav qstion of emale presenters…Robin Roberts asks that qstion too…….
Speaking of Hill Harper,how many of u caught him on V this morning..he was saying some good things ofcourse…..entertainment wise….no speak of rough patches in relationships and geting up again…but thats another topic….
Untill Frank asked him..”how come u aint coupled up? (or sme like that)
I noticed a stutter,stagger and a daze(like Mike Tyson just jabbed Evander) then he picked himself up to talk of a some long distance..yada yada…..
Revealing to me,if u ask!
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
1:00 pm
Just saw Hill at the Blackberry store on the A concourse.
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
1:02 pm
SexC
Is he short?
He looks tiny…
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
1:05 pm
Very.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:05 pm
how come u aint coupled up
It’s just not for everybody. I once read a wise saying “Marriage is not for everybody; and everybody is not for marriage”.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
1:05 pm
Very.
No wonder!!!
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:06 pm
Isn’t he like 5′8″ or something?
Professor
November 20th, 2009
1:06 pm
Melo I heard a few minutes of the interview…what I heard was pretty entertaining though.
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
1:06 pm
But then too – I’m kinda tall, so, a LOT of dudes are short to me.
Love, Beautiful
November 20th, 2009
1:07 pm
i’m rockin’ to TREY SONGZ *INVENTED SEX* & PLIES *PUT IT ON YA*.
who wants to join me? hehehe.
where’s my baby 2C?
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:09 pm
I am trying to think of one short guy ( > 5′10″) that I know personally that is NOT married. I can’t think of one.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
1:11 pm
Raqi..so how do u sell such practical ideas(relationships) when u havnt experienced them urself……to complete satisfaction.
Can a whrrre teach another woman how to be a good housewife/wife etc.
can a rolling stone/man teach another man how to be a good husband/provider?
can an engineer teach a student how to be a good economist
can Bush teach/school Barack or any another president on how to get a lick in the white house,while the staffers are busying about in the vicinity without being caught or attracting their attention??
Qstions that need answers ladies and gents!
LERNCH TIME LERNCH TIME LERNCH TIME!!!!!(yes,i said lernch)
Love, Beautiful
November 20th, 2009
1:21 pm
@WISE
my best bud is married and happy. check this out! she went thru the same type of breakup as me (cheating husband) and look at them now.
do you guys remember me telling you a story about my friend who called me and said he’s cheating on me what should i do? i told her to stay and work on their relationship. you guys did not hesitate and ripped me a new one! tisk tisk.
sorry to say that you were wrong AGAIN. lol.
good for them. kudos to me.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:23 pm
A woman tried to hire a hitman to kill her husband after being married only 6 months.
An annulment would have been less complicated and she would still have her freedom. smh
Love, Beautiful
November 20th, 2009
1:27 pm
JOKE
a comedian said that he was married for three years and it took him five years to get divorced. lol. he said that he could have killed her and been on parole by now.
lol. he stupid!
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
1:29 pm
@ PoppaG – I enjoyed my free & healthy lunch…Friday’s are usually harder not buy lunch.
i’m good..
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:29 pm
Marriage takes the hardest hits when it comes criticism.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:31 pm
I missed our free company funded lunch today because I was at the doctor’s office. Any other time they would have been late with the delivery but today I hear they were here at 11am sharp. Go figure.
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
1:36 pm
Marriage takes the hardest hits when it comes criticism.
Naw.. I think every subject has it’s critics. Not one more than the other.
Homosexuals would surely disagree.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:46 pm
Yesterday when Mason got home he was telling me that Michael Baisden was talking about the majority of women under 30 can’t cook. I was thinking about how my parents make all of us learn to cook. Not only is it a lot healthier than eating out but it is cheaper. My oldest can cook and I am teaching the middle to cook and I will teach the baby. It’s really a necessity of life IMO.
But I was thinking about by the time my daughter turns 30 and her father finally lets her date and marry she will probably be the exception when it comes to women knowing how to cook, cooking at home or men finding women than can cook. Willing to do is a whole other issue.
Thinking about the average age (less than 30) of mothers today that have had babies within the past year chances are very high that the mother does not cook, does not know how to cook, nor sees any real purpose for doing it. Most pride themselves in having better things to do than nourish their own bodies with food prepared with their own hands.
The average kid today probably gets fed fast food or frozen dinner or bologna sandwiches 4-5 times a week and will never learn to cook. And I will imagine that it will get worse within the next several years. My daughter whether she like it or not will be among the exceptions. The rule will be women no longer cook or know how to cook.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
1:47 pm
baby boy u slippin and you startin’ to look bad, whats wrong wit u boy u don lost yo swagg. Get with this pimpin…
…try it out, try it out, try it out…hay …try it out…try it out…try it out… chu’ get wit my pimpin, my pimpin, my pimpin…yeah
Professor
November 20th, 2009
1:48 pm
Can a whrrre teach another woman how to be a good housewife/wife etc.
Maybe, but I am going to let the transformed whrrre’s chime in on that one
can a rolling stone/man teach another man how to be a good husband/provider?
<Maybe…I will let the transformed rolling stones speak.
can an engineer teach a student how to be a good economist
He better teach them about time and money management in this day…not the same, but try to direct them to the finance dept
can Bush teach/school Barack or any another president on how to get a lick in the white house,while the staffers are busying about in the vicinity without being caught or attracting their attention??
Bill we need cha on this one
Lernch Time for me too! I will be back! I like the point you are making!
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
1:48 pm
What you invest your time and money in is where your heart is.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
1:50 pm
anybody ever change the lyrics to a song to make the words/lyrics fit for you? ex; like if the song is “girl/she/her”…you replace it with boy/he/him? lol
i do it…it works…
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
1:53 pm
Cee
good for u. Healthy and Free.
Actually I am not working at the moment. So, it isn’t hard for me to have a hard and free lunch. The firm was letting people go and offering packages. I volunteered for one. I went to Vegas to the fight last weekend thanks to it.
I was terribly busy thanks to school anyways. Now, I don’t have to schedule bathroom breaks on outlook anymore.
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
1:56 pm
Congratulations, PG!!!
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
1:58 pm
Maybe, but I am going to let the transformed whrrre’s chime in on that one
Prof
You are funny…
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:00 pm
Poppa you are third person this year that I have heard do that. The two that I know personally had been with their company nearly 30 years.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
2:00 pm
lol @ scheduling bathroom breaks on Outlook…wow…but i KNOW what you mean…trust me.
PoppaG – Sorry to hear about the Firm’s cut backs…but it seems you are okay with it. Still blessed!
The American People
November 20th, 2009
2:04 pm
The president has already admitted that the policy he seeks on Cap and Trade will cause our electricity bills to ’skyrocket.’ Sadly, those hit hardest will be those who are already struggling to make ends meet. Change we can believe in.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:04 pm
You know Poppa, just sitting here thinking, for the right package I could see me doing that right now.
Now would be the perfect time, but doing it I would want to be able to contribute a certain lump sum amount into our retirement plan.
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
2:05 pm
PG – If any of your no longer employed counterparts would like a free resume evaluation, have them email it to me at:
idiaresumes@gmail.com
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:10 pm
Oprah Winfrey is ending her show in 2011.
I wonder where will she go from there. I wonder how long will it be before no one remembers her or even knows who she is. I was talking about Phil Donahue once and my son asked ‘who is that?’ I used to love to watch Phil.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:11 pm
I wouldn’t be surprised if she ran for a political position.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:16 pm
Congressional Speaker Oprah Winfrey?
Senator Oprah Winfrey?
Congresswoman Oprah Winfrey?
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:18 pm
The First Lady, Mrs. Barak (Oprah) Obama.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
2:18 pm
@Raqi ~ Oprah is creating/opening her own network…yes inded, her own network.
<…can a rolling stone/man teach another man how to be a good husband/provider? Don’t kow if he can teach him how, but bet he can provide insight into what not to do in the hopes of becoming a better man. As you guys say here, isn’t this what S Harvey is trying to do. Give advice of areas he screwed up!
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
2:19 pm
btw – What fight last weekend in Vegas?
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:27 pm
What will the nature of her network, Leggs?
Wise Diva
November 20th, 2009
2:31 pm
I just updated my post about the meetup I just had. Check it out! This concludes my pro bull riding coverage….for now
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
2:34 pm
…so did a new Firm call with an offer?
PoppaG None of my workmates heard of the fight…what fight? You went to Vegas for something other than fight…
Professor
November 20th, 2009
2:35 pm
Dream,
We are >>>>here<<<<
I wasn't trying to be funny
Dr. Stevens
November 20th, 2009
2:37 pm
How about that 5% added tax on ALL cosmetic surgery under the new healthcare bill, the Botox Bettys are going to have to shell out even more money now.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
2:37 pm
All I heard on GMA this morning was she was creating her own network. Not even a hint on its format was given. It was stated that the First Lady may be the only one capable of hosting another talk show of Oprah’s caliber. Meaning, she may be the only right now that people will gravitate to, who they feel are trustworthy and of good moral character, along with being very intellingent.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
2:38 pm
All I heard on GMA this morning was she was creating her own network. Not even a hint on its format was given. It was stated that the First Lady may be the only one capable of hosting another talk show of Oprah’s caliber. Meaning, she may be the only right now that people will gravitate to, who they feel are trustworthy and of good moral character, along with being very intelligent.
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
2:38 pm
CEE
There was a fight last Saturday I believe, with some puertorican guy and another guy. I’m not into boxing, but my boys were talking about it at the barber shop.
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
2:39 pm
WiseDiva now you know married folks don’t be having sex. LOL
Liking each other and liking to spend time with each other means a whooooole lot. It takes more than love, you better like ‘em.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
2:43 pm
@Dream_n, the fight was stopped in the 11th round. Pac Man (Manny Pacquano ?) pulverized Miquel Cotto. It was brutal!
Luvbug
November 20th, 2009
2:45 pm
@Raqi – Willing to do is a whole other issue
Bingo…I figure if we’re both working, we’re both cooking. IMO, if both partners are working outside of the home, one fe/male should not expect the other to do all the cooking and housekeeping alone.
Now…if one partner is not working, I think it’s only fair that s/he carry the cooking and housekeeping and not leave it for his/her partner to complete after a hard days work.
If “must cook” is required for all men…well I’m single, so that answers that. In that regard not wanting marriage keeps me safe from the guys who wanna break out the cookbook right after the papers are signed. WTW?