Takes One to Know One
Today Gwinnett Arena is being descended upon by a lot of trucks and dirt for the Professional Bull Riders events that kick off (no pun, intended) tonight. Later today, I have a meet up with PBR’s official “barrel man” Flint Rasmussen for an interview and hopefully I can get a crash course in man wrangling!
I’m secretly hoping he will be dressed just like this. Either outfit would work.
Some of the best advice I have received about dating men - who want to marry – has come from men who have done it and are happy about it. That’s right, happily married men exist and they are chock full of good information single men and women can take heed to.
I just think it’s good practice to seek out people who have reached the destination that you desire. Often times they can offer great insight on their journey, including mistakes and pitfalls.
It could also be helpful to introduce someone you are dating to your trusted married friends. Some of my married guy friends can spot a player from a mile away and are quick to let me know it. They are all, “Game recognizes game. Get rid of him, he reminds me of myself when I didn’t care!”
You know the saying, takes one to know one, right? Well, if you take your date around married friends, you can find out from them if the person you are seeing is marriage-minded. You know, just in case you aren’t totally convinced by spending quality time with them.
What is the best advice you have received from someone who is happily married? What did they warn you about when it comes to relationships?
Have you ever introduced the person you are dating to your friends who are married? Have they ever advised you to run for the hills? Did you listen?
P.S. I’m meeting the happily married Mr. Rasmussen early this afternoon, you can still post questions for him to answer today!
Happy Friday!
2:23 UPDATE:
I had a great meet up with Flint! He was super friendly and hilarious. Flint and his wife have been married 15 years! That’s like TWO seven year itches under his belt, people.
I asked him what has worked for him and his wife all these years. He said, “lots of sex” (YESSS) and also the fact that they really enjoy their time together. She balances him out and can be the “voice of reason”. He also said that the fact that he travels so much for work, doesn’t hurt either! When he goes home, they are rarely apart.
So basically, I need to find a traveling salesman who loves sex and then live happily ever after. Easy breezy RIGHT!?
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258 comments Add your comment
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
10:51 am
Cee don’t like acronyms today…okay PSH, got that.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
10:55 am
CEE,what does PSH mean??
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
10:55 am
Prof..
I hear ya..
Okay now I wanna know what DSL is..
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 20th, 2009
10:56 am
@Poppa Grande
Good quote. Now a question for you, speaking of respect, I am single and in the dating scene and have noticed an influx of scandelous behavior and women. I know guys do their dirt, but these women out here are on another program right now.
How can guys better screen for these kind of females? If you respect someone, you wouldnt do them wrong right?
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
10:59 am
@ Melo – Porn Star Head.
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
11:01 am
There is nothing new under the sun.
Women have always done dirt.
Don’t you think that Delilah was scandalous towards Sampson?
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
11:02 am
DSL are a special pair of lips that good for PSH
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
11:03 am
“Don’t you think that Delilah was scandalous towards Sampson?”
Yup, she cut all Sampson’s hair off after she’d rocked him to sleep.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
11:04 am
k…i can put it together. ah!
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
11:07 am
Gotcha! PG
Did anyone hear about the father that shot his son execution style touching his 3 year old step sister inappropriately?
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
11:07 am
I’m finding out that even when one respects you, they can still do you wrong.
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
11:07 am
*for touching*
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
11:08 am
You can’t be afraid to take risks, M.
Don’t be foolish about it though. Until people can read others thoughts, meeting a mate will be a risk.
You gotta put on your big boys drawls to be successful.
not directed at you personally, M.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
11:09 am
Melo – Porn Star Head
thanx Cee…now im going back to read Poppa’s entry to see who is porn star head,per his entry…girlfriend or what??
woosh, uall killing me with these new wrds popping up eveday….becky,psh,mhb…etc
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 20th, 2009
11:14 am
@PG
Its all good. No worries. But one vibe I get from Atlanta, is that this is a good place to maybe meet a mate but not settle down. I just have never seen so many married people cheat compared to here. I used to live in Chicago, Minneapolis, and now Atlanta. “If it’s a ring, it aint no thing…” lol
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
11:14 am
Leggs
I’m finding out that even when one respects you, they can still do you wrong.
True. Death is the only certainty in life.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 20th, 2009
11:16 am
Dream I read that story yesterday but read a follow up article today on MSNBC.com. From what I gathered the confessed what he did and the dad barged into the son’s home, made him strip nekkid, took him to a field and shot him in the head. I’m still at a loss b/c even though what the young man did was wrong he did the right thing and told. What makes me even sadder is that he said “no daddy,no” and the father grabbed his head and shot.
Even more tragic is the story about the angel in North Carolina who’s mother sold her to some pedo in exchange for drugs. The smug look/smile on his mugshot makes me wish he gets raped and strangled in prison like he did to that baby…..bastard.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
11:18 am
so if smegirl is PSH or DSL certified,is that a good thing,bad thing or what ladies and gents??? or its a case by case basis??
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
11:18 am
btw – Hey Rell.
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
11:22 am
I brought my lunch tryna be more economical because i know what lies ahead of me…i’on even want it!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 20th, 2009
11:23 am
Dream I read that story yesterday and read another follow up article today on MSNBC.com. I think what the young man did was wrong but he did the right thing by telling of what he did. Sometimes I wonder what would make a parent kill thier own child but I’m not a parent so I don’t know. What I though especially sad was the way he killed him….made him strip naked, took him outside and shot him in the head. I couldn’t help but wonder what the dad was thinking at the time…just before he killed his namesake.
Even sadder is the story about Shaniya Davis. Someone should kick her mom’s azz for giving her child away in exchange for drugs. When I saw the smug smile of the accuser’s mugshot I wished that he gets raped and strangled just like he did that poor baby.
lurkster
November 20th, 2009
11:27 am
and taxes…death and taxes
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
11:30 am
M
one vibe I get from Atlanta, is that this is a good place to maybe meet a mate but not settle down.
the one thing that I think people forget is the time in which we live. Patience is very important.
I feel that since 80s the divorce rate has been sky high. That means that kids that endured their parent’s divorce are now dating and marrying. It is impossible to think that this doesn’t affect the dating scene. I remembered dealing with the mistrust of female. Some remember dad cheating on mom. Mom talking bad about dad and vice versa.
Therefore, patience is important, but incompatible with our fast paced society.
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
11:35 am
Sassy
I agree, both stories were a little hard for me to stomach.
Shooting your own child/selling your child for drugs… What is this world coming to?
We are in the midst of alot of loonies.
Chauncey
November 20th, 2009
11:36 am
Men cheat on women they love, never women they respect.
Chauncey
November 20th, 2009
11:37 am
I’m finding out that even when one respects you, they can still do you wrong.
To agree with you
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
11:39 am
I get from Atlanta, is that this is a good place to maybe meet a mate but not settle down.
ugh!
M Will you not say that? Someone dear to me said this also…But it’s all in a person’s willingness to “be” with the other person…and just “be”…’n could care less what negative gyrate around the tow of them. Atlanta’s scene is just another what? “scene”
choices….decisons…choices…
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
11:40 am
Exactly PG…
My generation wants instant gratification. Working is for pansies and “making it big” is on their mind.
Luvbug
November 20th, 2009
11:40 am
What is the best advice you have received from someone who is happily married? What did they warn you about when it comes to relationships?
I know a few couples who seem to be happily married, but their voluntary advice may work best in their own relationships. I receive the regular if you don’t xyz in the bedroom, he will find it elsewhere and learn how to cook.
They mean well, but I would not trade their relationships with my single status because the people who’ve volunteered their advice to me accept a few things I can’t, adultery and manipulation to name a few.
It works for them, but I can’t manage in those types of relationships and I can’t envision myself married. If I meet a monogamous, loving, responsible guy that I’m at least physically attracted to, I think I could manage the other annoyances, save marriage.
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
11:44 am
Cee
enjoy that lunch.
i am eating leftovers for lunch. Being economical too. Being that they are leftovers from Papadeaux’s, it makes it easier.
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
11:50 am
Dream’n
They are sad stories in the news. I learned to quit watching the news first thing in the morning because of the bad news. The last thing that I like is starting off the day hearing negativity. I hear about the horrible nature of humans all day at school. I was more sad hearing that the lady (who allegedly sold her kid) is currently pregnant.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
11:53 am
@Dream_n, that’s why I watch GMA in the morning. The news is depressing. Also, loonies have always walked amongst us. So many have stopped taking their medication that it appears to be an influx. They’ve always been there. Lack of medication and the pressure of everyday living have people snapping left and right!
Cemeeli
November 20th, 2009
11:54 am
Chicken salad with apple, Stacy’s Pita chips, mandarin oranges, mixed greens salad…
I think the prob is, i’d just rather have something hot/warm today…that’s all. Gimme somma that Pappadeaux’s now!
Wise Diva
November 20th, 2009
11:59 am
Hi everyone, it seems like I need to meet more happily married people, diversify my resources LOL
abc, yes, something like that. That is why I said I would be tying it in my topics ALL week. I didn’t think it was overkill because I tried to balance it out with my same general topics I usually cover. I hope that’s alright, man, you are about as change resistant as I am, LOL
Melo
November 20th, 2009
12:01 pm
i’d just rather have something hot/warm today…that’s all
something warm?? Is that so Cee???
@Leggsthat’s why I watch GMA in the morning. The news is depressing. u actually like depressing news??
Professor
November 20th, 2009
12:10 pm
Melo,
Do you still have the hots for Diane Sawyer? I watch GMA in the morning and I find the broad spectrum of topics refreshing compared to local news. Not to mention when Diane wears her black suit I giggle thinking about what Melo wrote….
Professor
November 20th, 2009
12:12 pm
…I don’t know what I want for lunch today. Shall I trot over to the wing spot?
SexyCool - Lead me not into temptation. Deliver me from sugar.
November 20th, 2009
12:18 pm
I want to be happily married, not JUST married.
Melo
November 20th, 2009
12:18 pm
wing spot?? where..wings is my friday lunch/dinner most times.
GMA and Diane Sawyer.boy!,,Proff, why u wanna spoil my pants??
My main squeeze knows I got real luv for that woman!
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
12:19 pm
@Melo, figure someone would read it that way. The news is depressing, not GMA!
Melo
November 20th, 2009
12:22 pm
I want to be happily married
good for u…!
Its a process,not an event tho.
There are times I have looked at Queen in the eye and felt %^&*$#!*( esp after we argue or disagree…..but i wont take those %^&*$#!*( back coz the happyness i feel inside,even after experiencing those moments soemtimes,is what makes us happy.
Leggs
November 20th, 2009
12:26 pm
@Melo…try W.K. Wings (Ranch style).
Professor
November 20th, 2009
12:32 pm
Melo don’t spoil your pants now!
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
12:36 pm
I’m trying to figure out what lunch will be today.. too
I might just do the subway thing again, the buffalo sandwich is quite tasty.
Professor
November 20th, 2009
12:38 pm
Dream,
You mentioned that buffalo sandwich before, but for some reason subway does not keep the hunger away. I can eat subway and less than two hours later I am hungry.
I will probably have wings for lunch, but I really wanted to take a nap during my lunch break and if I make my wing stop I will not have time for my nap.
Dream_n- 7 days til turkey day
November 20th, 2009
12:41 pm
Professor,
I partner it with their brocolli and cheese soup and a bag of chips and a drink.
and I have learned to not take a nap on breaks… It makes me even more sleepy.. so I suggest going to get those wings..
Raqi
November 20th, 2009
12:42 pm
I want to be happily married, not JUST married
Yep. Doing it any other way would be wasting each other’s time.
Poppa Grande
November 20th, 2009
12:45 pm
When Diane Sawyer is off of GMA, I will watch them again. It just seems to me like she asks stupid questions in interviews.
I remember watching an interview last year following an plane crash. She asked one of the survivors “What was going through your mind as the plane was falling from the sky?” That is a stupid question.
I can answer that question. First you say certain word, then you do that same certain word and need a change of underwear.
Professor
November 20th, 2009
12:49 pm
Poppa
I have notice Diane asking more silly questions and making comments, but she will come right back and say something brillant…I thought it was just me being too serious or something.
First you say certain word, then you do that same certain word and need a change of underwear. Yep that about the length of it!
Professor
November 20th, 2009
12:49 pm
Poppa
I have notice Diane asking more silly questions and making comments, but she will come right back and say something brillant…I thought it was just me being too serious or something.
First you say certain word, then you do that same certain word and need a change of underwear. Yep that about the length of it!