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Think Outside the Box

I have pretty much been on all the traditional dates you can imagine. You know, the safe and predictable ones. I know that I am not the only one who is tired of going to dinner and a movie for a first date, am I?  I think it’s time we all shook things up a little.

Why not use the remaining weeks of 2009 to think outside the “dating” box and move out of our ridiculously safe (read: dull) comfort zones.  Let’s all make a list of the most outrageous, non-traditional, completely out of your character date activities you can think of and then go do it!

We all need to participate so we can all report back to share how great/terrifying/outrageous thinking outside the dating box really is.  We could even vote on who has the best idea and who was the bravest!

You know a great place to start? How about in a bull pen!

The Professional Bull Riders are charging in to town (har!) this weekend at the Gwinnett Center. Ladies, if you want to meet men you have to go where they have a good time. Events like this are filled to the brim with guys and yours truly will have an inside track: the hilarious and talented Flint Rasmussen.

I’m going to meet up with him on Friday for a quick interview to learn more about the sport and pick his brain on how to handle the manliest of men. I bet he could provide a lot of outside the box ideas, too, so I’ll be taking notes.

Who is up for the challenge? What kind of outside the box activity can you do with a date? What can you do that would be completely out of character for you?

What would you do if money were no object and you wanted to go the adventurous route for a date. Where would you go and what would you do?

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Dream_n- 9 days til turkey day

November 17th, 2009
10:30 am

Prof

You can’t be skipping days!

Raqi

November 17th, 2009
10:31 am

Yes, Cemeeli, one of my friends used to do it with her guy. They just did a casting of her pregnant belly. She is very “hands on” like that.

Raqi

November 17th, 2009
10:34 am

LOL Leggs. Think back to those nights when your lil leggs was a tiny one and you were up with her and her ear infections, teething and whatever else those little critters encounter.

We are dealing with an ear infection right now. Not much sleep or anything else in past several days. LOL

Leggs

November 17th, 2009
10:37 am

Awww, those ear infections and all that crying is very aggravating for all parties involved (especially the baby). Sorry, but had to laugh at “or anything else in the past several DAYS!” Too funny. It’s all relative!

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
10:42 am

@ cxBrat – the Ngorongoro area is part of the Serengeti National Park.

We think alike…I want to have the entire District to me an boo, nothing else.

Dream_n- 9 days til turkey day

November 17th, 2009
10:46 am

Has anyone actually did the hiking thing..

How was that?

abc

November 17th, 2009
10:53 am

The less traditional these ideas are, the more they sound like simply doing things that are fun with your SO, and less like a date-date. Like, not really a date at all, just going and having fun, in all extreme likelihood with someone you’re already well familiar with, if not in a relationship with. I suppose you can call fishing, a beach trip, or hiking a date, but it doesn’t sound like one to me. More like, what are you into today? Want to go hiking, a drive into the mountains? Let’s take a long weekend, do you like Rosemary Beach or Gulf Shores this time?

Speaking of beaches, I’ve decided after our last Caribbean trip that as far as beaches go, there is little or no reason to go anywhere but the FL panhandle. Those are among the best beaches in the world. Beaches on Aruba, Barbados, Curacao, even St. Maartens don’t even come anywhere close. St. Lucia was different, with black sand and all, and striking scenery.

mqew

November 17th, 2009
10:53 am

Bratz – I love the idea of going to Wine country. THAT would be nice to do in Italy or something…

Raqi

November 17th, 2009
10:54 am

LOL Leggs. Aunt Flo called and said she was packing her bags and headed this way. Several days will quickly turn into a couple of weeks considering all things.

Melo

November 17th, 2009
10:55 am

For Real

November 17th, 2009
10:55 am

“What kind of outside the box activity can you do with a date?” – Okay I was told I should retire my “Backpak” but I can break it out. Who is game?

Leggs

November 17th, 2009
10:56 am

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA.

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
10:57 am

The North Pole…b-y-o-p.

For Real

November 17th, 2009
10:58 am

Oh and if money is no option I wouldn’t waste it on a date.

czBrat

November 17th, 2009
11:02 am

Dream_n we’ve hiked the trail at Chateau, Stone Mountain and Providence Canyon. It’s something we enjoy. None were that challenging.

abc you are right about the panhandle. Destin/Ft Walton is a favorite vaca spot for fishing, dining and shopping. As for the caribbean, in Panama you can find both white and black sand beaches.

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:03 am

@ abc – The Panhandle is a beautiful place…hmmm…i’m so glad…i’m so glad!

:grin: :grin: :grin:

Raqi

November 17th, 2009
11:05 am

abc you are right. IMO the first thru the third dates should be rather low key and something that would not take the interest away from the two parties talking and getting to know each other.

I think all of dating ideas mentioned would be better suited for individuals that are beyond the just meeting stage, however they are good ideas for having fun and enjoying each other’s company.

Voice of Reason

November 17th, 2009
11:06 am

Going to give blood to the Red Cross

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 17th, 2009
11:08 am

Also, you two could also volunteer with an elementary school reading to kids or tutoring in math or science.

Dream_n- 9 days til turkey day

November 17th, 2009
11:12 am

abc

I have to disagree. The traditional date would be going to a restaurant and sitting down to eat. How many times have people done that…or going to a movie.. yeah traditional but not really a good idea for a date IMO.

I’d rather go to a cooking class, have a picnic, go on a hot air balloon, or hiking on a trail. While it is out of the norm. I think the conversation would be a little more light and fun as oppossed to sitting at a restaurant. JMO

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:13 am

No one mentioned getting matching tattoos?

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:16 am

Not adventurous, but can be unique date…Chocolate baths at the Hershey Town Spa in PA…that place is beautiful…

czBrat

November 17th, 2009
11:18 am

not a date, but my s/o has asked if he could join me at my tuesday night volunteer work. i think that will be some great outside-the-box ‘us’ time.

czBrat

November 17th, 2009
11:19 am

Cee i was going to mention getting tatts together (not necessarily matching). or perhaps just being there for your date while they get inked. that’s fun too.

abc

November 17th, 2009
11:21 am

Movies make poor first or 2nd dates, because you just sit there and watch the movie, without much interaction. I suppose you can talk about the flick afterwards, but… big deal.

Having a nice meal for 1st, 2nd or 3rd dates (or later), on the other hand, gives a great opportunity to converse and get to know them a bit. You have to eat anyway, so why not? Dates don’t all need to be carnival rides, and frankly, hiking, beaches, etc. are more along the lines of being relaxing, not entertaining. I’d say that if it takes that much to amuse a person of interest or potential interest that they’re not interested in a nice dinner and whatever afterwards, then they’re probably not that much into me, but are rather just looking to be entertained. I’m not the entertainment committee.

Leggs

November 17th, 2009
11:21 am

That’s so sweet czB!!

abc

November 17th, 2009
11:26 am

Picnic maybe, but that’s just another meal, only in an outdoor setting; classes and balloon rides aren’t ‘getting to know you’ dates. You’d not be focusing on each other much at all.

Melo

November 17th, 2009
11:27 am

or perhaps just being there for your date while they get inked. that’s fun too

Wld that be as good and as non-traditional as sitting there watching as she/he gets her teeth cleaned/pulled??

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:28 am

heehehe…abc i’m laughing at that dang “entertainment committee” right now…ha!

Dream_n- 9 days til turkey day

November 17th, 2009
11:30 am

It’s not about being entertained or having someone entertain you. We can both got to comedy show to be entertained.

Usually you talk on the phone before you get to the date. You try to grasp what kind of person you’re dealing with and what some of their general interets are. Now me for instance … I want to be come a teacher. So if my date said be ready around 11 or 12 we’re going out, and he takes me to volunteer at a school with children. I would be more than estatic. Or if my date knew that I enjoyed to cook, and he took me to a cooking class to prepare a dish that I’ve never tried before. I think that would make for great conversation.

Some people are more traditinal on certain things and some aren’t.

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:32 am

Oh…oh..ohhhhhh….Watching the History Channel then visiting moon, stars and quasars…

lol :)

czBrat

November 17th, 2009
11:34 am

Dream_n your 11:12 is absolutely right! and for those who want to try a cooking class, i believe the Williams Sonoma in PC offers them free.

Leggs

November 17th, 2009
11:43 am

When I need a pick up here at work, there are certain songs I like to hear. George Michael’s FAITH is playing now. Love this song! BRB, going to dance around the office!

czBrat

November 17th, 2009
11:44 am

yeah, Leggs, i really <3 him for that :)

abc the cooking classes we’ve taken have allowed me to see him interact with others, which does offer insight on a date. you still do the traditional sit-down meal when you’re done so there’s plenty of conversation time as well.

problem is, when you do the ‘interview’ date at the restaurant people are more apt to bring their reps. when you do something that’s active and engaging you are more likely to be your natural self – giving unplanned reactions and comments in that situation. that’s the REAL you … and that’s who i want to meet.

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:44 am

czBrat – The next time you visit Williams could you pick Cee up that Le Creuset Teakettle? :wink:

Merry Crimmus to me…

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:46 am

@ Leggs – You are funny dancing around the office. Have fun girl.

SexyCool - Smiling.

November 17th, 2009
11:47 am

Should I approach? Should he approach?
Should I give him my number? Should I take his?
What is too much attention? What is just right?
Is this the representative? Is this the real person?
Kiss on the first date? When do I sex?
What about this probationary period?
What is a date? What isn’t?

Sht is just too freakin’ complicated.

Raqi

November 17th, 2009
11:50 am

LOL abc you are right. If you got to layout a three ring circus to get and keep someone’s interest they probably just aren’t that into you.

Actually once you become okay and comfortable with each other just doing nothing, then you are good. Those adventures and excursions should be saved for someone you are “good” with.

SexyCool - Smiling.

November 17th, 2009
11:54 am

Cosigning Raqi’s cosign.

Sunday, MND and I stayed in all day cuddled up on the couch, watching television. He cooked breakfast and I cooked dinner, then made us sandwiches later in the day. It was perfect.

Melo

November 17th, 2009
11:54 am

Should I approach? Should he approach?
Should I give him my number? Should I take his?
What is too much attention? What is just right?
Is this the representative? Is this the real person?
Kiss on the first date? When do I sex?
What about this probationary period?
What is a date? What isn’t?

Sht is just too freakin’ complicated

that seems like too much trouble.
Why do women put themselves under so much sheeyyyyyt and unnecessary stress!!

Guys??? we see her,we like her,approach and say hie,she likes u too,agrees to sexx today… Yessssssssss. She says No…maybe, next time.

No big deal… :lol: keep it simple ladies

SexyCool - Smiling.

November 17th, 2009
11:57 am

Um, Melo – that was not a statement about the female state of mind only.

And certainly not mine…it was just a recap of conversation on this blog in the last few weeks – from both sides.

Cemeeli

November 17th, 2009
11:59 am

A Pepsi bath is kinda cool…it cost what $.50. and Mo keeps 10 on her persons any given moment.

Melo

November 17th, 2009
12:01 pm

SexyCool..nope,thats a female right there Cool,im sorry.

What man wld ask themseleves if they shld sexx the chic now or later??

Not even Rev, Bishop…(put the name here???) :lol:

Poppa Grande

November 17th, 2009
12:02 pm

First Dates that I planned in the past….Dave and Busters, Malibu Grand Prix (Norcross), Bowling, Gun Range, Paint ball, Q-Zone (Laser Tag), pottery. Sometimes, I varied it by listening to the female’s interests. If she was a girlie girl, sweating activities wouldn’t go over well. In that case, high museum or botanical garden was more often used.

FYI, Viking has grilling and cooking schools. They are located in the Brookwood Shopping area on near the Amtrak Station on Peachtree Street (Near Wolfgang Puck express)

Poppa Grande

November 17th, 2009
12:03 pm

As far as Thanksgiving goes, the we are not cooking. The Busy Bee is catering our dinner.

Leggs

November 17th, 2009
12:04 pm

@czB, like your breakdown of the “interactive” date when cooking together.

I’m loving having all this office space to myself. Come January I believe I will have company so right now I’m taking advantage of my alone time, especially when boss is away!

Professor

November 17th, 2009
12:08 pm

Dream

Girl, you know I can change the rules…the reason I only count business days because on the weekend I am having fun eating plenty of food chilling.

I have done the hiking thingy and most of the dates people listed except for the money no object dreams…I really do not have those because I am planning for a few big events now. Listed below are just a few things I have done outside the box:

1. horseback riding- I go a lot and I love sunrise and sunset rides
2. day trips…hop on a plane catch a play or go eat a hotdog or something in a city I like…I am not big on driving so I have to fly.
3. racing…during breast cancer awareness I like to see what my car can do on the track
4. cooking classes
5. hiking
6. concerts, plays and sporting events out of town
7. Wine tasting
8. Massages (couple massages and a day at the spa)
9. apple, pumpkin and berry picking
10. Private pilot lessons

Melo

November 17th, 2009
12:10 pm

http://www.cnbc.com/id/33971461

Maybe Tyler Perry shld help out with his studio and generate more employement in the city.

Thinking outside the box...

November 17th, 2009
12:31 pm

…this ia like last Friday’s topic since all anyone did that day was think “inside the box”!

Leggs

November 17th, 2009
12:33 pm

I would think Paint Ball would be an interesting first date.