Playing It Cool
Sometimes I marvel at the fact that we singles even manage to make it to the first date. Some of us get up hung up in the approach, showing interest, and determining compatibility part that comes with dating. I think a lot of times we take it way too seriously, pretty much sucking the fun part out of the whole process.
Keeping it simple is virtually impossible. I know women have a tendency to complicate matters when they shouldn’t be, but I have met and dated men who do the same thing. Is it so hard to play it cool until things develop?
There is nothing wrong with being excited about spotting someone you want to get to know more. However, acting desperately can be a real turn off. Nobody likes it when people come on too strong. How do you handle it when someone is a little over the top in pursuing you? Do you find it flattering, annoying, or are you confused by it?
If someone you are interested in seems to be playing it cool, do you take it as a sing of disinterest and back off altogether? Have you ever met someone who was giving you that oh so lovely “mixed signals” making it difficult to determine what they want?
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Kym-Feeling Mighty Fine..this A.M.
November 16th, 2009
8:52 am
Good Morning All,
Yes I find the playing it cool stuff to be a sign of disinterest. To quote a old song ” If you want me say it, if you trust me, do it, if you need me, prove it.” Doesn’t mean you have to stalk me..because I do believe there is a delicate balance between active interest and stalking. So I find the over the top guys a bit untrustworthy. But Mr. Cool and Aloof..ugh!!
Look just say how you feel, cut the crap and lets get this show on the road.
BSandwich
November 16th, 2009
9:08 am
but how do you know if you’re being too clingy?
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
9:10 am
..morning –
Kym – I’s feelin’ mighty fine this morning as well.
So yea, I give all due and respect to a person that is honest with their feelings from jump.
Desperate Domanisha, and Stalker Shelton are on a different mental though…gotta watch out for their antics.
off topic – only one of my team won in the NFL this weekend, The Colts and Patriots game…. College ball was good…LSU won, and Alabama sluaghtered Mississipi St!
Hopeless Romantic
November 16th, 2009
9:16 am
Cool…or cautious? I dislike cool when the guy is trying to show off or impress quickly by saying who he knows, where he goes, and what he does. But cautious is more about revealing bits of information to see if there is chemistry, interest, compatibility
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
9:18 am
@ BSanwich – Do you feel the constant need to be around that person? Are you not alright doing your own thang when not around him/her? Need to “call in” all the time?
If you have codependency issues your SO already know this.
Kym-Feeling Mighty Fine..this A.M.
November 16th, 2009
9:26 am
Off Topic Football..That’s alright Bengals we are coming for the get back. You got us for two this year..but we still the Champs. Colts..All I can say..mighty fine playing fellows mighty fine..Mr. Caldwell is now known as Mr. Cool.
BSandwich
November 16th, 2009
9:29 am
I’ve been working on it Cemeeli
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 16th, 2009
9:33 am
Its a catch 22 for guys because if he comes across too interested, then he looks desperate in her eyes and that will be a turn off. If is comes across disinterested, he will be benched by her in a sense because she wants to be pursued and it comes across as if he is not trying to put in the effort to pursue her.
To me when a woman is over the top and laying it on thick with the text messages, emails, and phone calls, it comes off a little confusing/annoying. You dont really know me yet, so the best thing you can do is show interests and let things develop rather than force the issue.
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
9:36 am
@ BSandwich – I’ll add that being consistent, and considerate, and nice to him/her by nature is not being “clingy” per se…I guess it’s akin to a drink/alcohol…the difference lies in the quantity.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 16th, 2009
9:37 am
Have you ever met someone who was giving you that oh so lovely “mixed signals” making it difficult to determine what they want?
Dating or even trying to get to know someone shouldn’t be so difficult b/c it’s hardly Chinese arithmitic…although some think this piques ones interest in them, playing games is just as it sounds…juvenile and I’m too grown for that.
Merrning y’all
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
9:40 am
i dated a clingy type in college…and i constantly had to hide from dude…it became a nusiance…nice guy…just…just…a bit much.
NY2GA, Inc.
November 16th, 2009
9:53 am
Look just say how you feel, cut the crap and lets get this show on the road-KYM
And there you have it folks.
We’re not kids anymore. It’s fine to be cautious until you develop a comfort level with a person. But, all this pussyfootin’ around (especially if you’re over 30), game playing, being difficult, and acting like your life is a mystery that will unfold in time is just too daayuum much.
Tomorrow is not promised. If you like someone or even love someone tell them. Show them…today. If it doesn’t work out just learn the lesson and move on. At least you lived the moment.
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
9:53 am
GM All!
Hope everyone enjoyed a great weekend. Don’t quite know if I’m feelin today’s topic, so I’ll lurk a while and see what prompts a comment.
p.s. ya’ll really bring me out of my morning traffic funk. THANK U!
SexyCool - Love is fattening.
November 16th, 2009
9:58 am
Three Words Daily – Failure isn’t fatal.
SexyCool - Love is fattening.
November 16th, 2009
10:00 am
Someone playing it too cool is a turn off. If I don’t excite you, then whatdahell are you trying to be around me for? And if I’m not allowed to show my interest in getting to know you then you’re not for me anyway.
Those kinds of games are what make dating a trial and a turn off but the ever necessary evil to getting boo’d up (Nod to Page.)
abc
November 16th, 2009
10:12 am
You’re either feeling it or you’re not. If they’re feeling it and you’re not, then they get labeled as coming on too strong. Just give them a break and cut them loose. If the situation were reversed, wouldn’t you appreciate them being that straightforward?
Don’t “play it cool”. Just be honest, and be yourself. Pursue whatever it is that you want. If they don’t respond, and they won’t be honest with you about it, then oh well. Better luck next time. If they are honest with you about it, then thank them for that, and then move on.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
10:14 am
Good morning!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 16th, 2009
10:15 am
C O O L.. What That Spell? Cool.. In My Morris Voice
I play it how it goes.. Of course Im laid back but if its easy to be with you and easy to talk to you, I just roll with it.. If you make me smile Im gonna smile and let you see that you do it for me..
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 16th, 2009
10:18 am
Thirsty is never a good look. No matter how you phrase it..
Fred G. Sanford, Jr.
November 16th, 2009
10:19 am
@abc
You’re either feeling it or you’re not. If they’re feeling it and you’re not, then they get labeled as coming on too strong.
That’s what it comes down to. Constant attention is annoying/too strong only when it’s coming from someone you’re not interested in.
SexyCool - Love is fattening.
November 16th, 2009
10:25 am
If you SAY you’re interested in getting to know me, then end up acting rather nonchalant about me, that SHOWS me that you are either not as interested as you say or are incapable of showing me emotion on a level that is necessary for ME in a relationship.
I’ll pass.
Kym-Feeling Mighty Fine..this A.M.
November 16th, 2009
10:33 am
@For Real..Oh and since I have been out the last few weeks..Here is my catch up on the news.
Kat Williams needs help. Serious help.
Shooting at the repo man, cause you broke is not acceptable, the repo man’s is doing his job.
Mary Norwood may just win this thang.
and…the serial killer in Cleveland…proves that Americans have really become too self-absorb. Dead bodies smell, Call the police, if they don’t respond, call the media. Someone had to know something was going on.
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
10:39 am
oh, the repo-man shooting…that guy is about to do some serious time…said he thought someone was robbing him??!! WHAT?!! You’re overdue payments by $800, and you knew it the last 10 notices and phone calls the company made.
SexyCool - Love is fattening.
November 16th, 2009
10:41 am
Sitting around the gotdern house all cuddled up and in love and sht, watching the first season of The Wire, my ass is four pounds over the high end of my weight maintenance allowance.
Time to get back to work. Daily workouts and no beverage except water for the next 21 days.
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
10:42 am
a family member said they’d tried to have Katt committed for evaluation last year. seems like a Chappelle repeat to me…
BSandwich
November 16th, 2009
10:45 am
Agreed, IDK!
Melo
November 16th, 2009
10:46 am
$800.00 is proly what?? 2 missed auto payments.That aint enough to invite repo man.
Give dude some slack untill uall have enough info.
If it were me and u out there clunkering with my truck,u wld proly meet the same fate…popo, popo,popo!
good morning!
BriteEyez
November 16th, 2009
10:47 am
GM all!
Infamous – Can you elaborate on your comment about being “THIRSTY”. From your perspective, want behaviors would put a woman in that category?
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
10:47 am
Don’t “play it cool”. Just be honest, and be yourself. Pursue whatever it is that you want. If they don’t respond, and they won’t be honest with you about it, then oh well. Better luck next time. If they are honest with you about it, then thank them for that, and then move on. SLAM DUNK!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 16th, 2009
10:48 am
Kym – I hate to say it.. Well no I dont.. Mary Norwood need to win to break up all the nonsense going on in city hall.. Atlanta needs a new direction and it was almost there until the housing market crashed.. They need to keep going in the direction of making ATlanta a great city not just a good black city.. And I for one dont want to see Kasim turn into Kwame..
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
10:51 am
@ Melo – It was enough to get the repo-man to pick up…if that was 2 payments (too many) and thats what’s stated in your contract…how you feeling justified to shoot the man doing his job. And yea, you’d be going downtown for a long time too. You know when your payments are due…so, you don’t pay the leinholder/bank they come get it, invited or not…
i'm swiss
November 16th, 2009
10:55 am
“$800.00 is proly what?? 2 missed auto payments.That aint enough to invite repo man.”
Dude, you’re in Georgia — one of the quickest/easiest places in the country to repossess and/or foreclose. Try missing 2 mortgage payments & see house fast your furniture ends up on the street…
Luvbug
November 16th, 2009
10:55 am
All this time, I’ve been assuming that guys who were being distant with me were not interested in me. I have never considered that they may have been “playing it cool”…if they were interested in me, too late.
Guys aren’t usually (excluding select metro areas of Atlanta) as expressive as women, but I think they are good at showing you how they feel. Distant=not interested. Not calling=doesn’t want to call you. Him saying, “I don’t want to be in a relationship”=I don’t want to be in a relationship with you. Hanging around my house at weird times of the day=I need to buy a gun cuz this fool just might be crazy…seriously dude, are you stalking me?! No means no.
i'm swiss
November 16th, 2009
10:56 am
“see how fast…” not “see house fast”
oops
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
10:57 am
Morning All
SCool – I love The Wire, I may need to start watching it again. I have all but seasons 4 & 5 on DVD. And chica kudos to you for the ‘nothing but water for 21 days’.
I am a very laid back individual so you wont get much verbally out of me (im a work in progress, trying to get better about that), however I do let my actions say what my words may not always convey. If I am interested then my actions say that and vice versa. But if you are looking for the giddy chick, super emotional, always under you kinda chick….then Mo aint for you.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 16th, 2009
10:58 am
Cee – He better be glad it wasnt one of my guys picking his car up cause all of them are licensed gun owners and will shoot back.. I try to do team building exercises at the gun range as much as possible..
Thats the thing about repo’in you have to be ready for that and know that people are gonna go nutso about losing their ride.. I’ve had dogs sicked on me, got into a fist fight and had to pull that thang a couple times to keep the peace.. Now first rule of thumb.. If you dont want us to get your car just put any piece of your property behind it.. A garbage can or anything because we are not allowed to touch anything on your property except the vehicle we have orders to pick up.. Here lately I’ve been getting motor homes, campers and motorcycles galore but most have been voluntary..
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
10:59 am
@Melo, his payments could be $241 a month. Over 3, repo man a coming for ya!
I’m with Cee on this one. More than likely you know it’s the repo man, and you know dern well you’re behind in your payments.
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
10:59 am
Oh and Happy Burfday to Mo’s Sister who is lurking!! Do it up Baby Girl!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 16th, 2009
11:00 am
$800.00 is proly what?? 2 missed auto payments.That aint enough to invite repo man.”
If it was a buy here pay here they try and get the car after one missed payment..
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
11:03 am
Interesting rule of thumb!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
11:04 am
one of my guys picking his car up cause all of them are licensed gun owners and will shoot back
As they should…I wouldn’t even want do have that job unless i can pack some’n too…knowing i’m going in like Roscoe, and the nutsos might try something.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
11:04 am
Ooh, ooh, ooh! If you guys haven’t seen The Orphan go see it. Pretty good movie. Even as I love to dissect movie, I didn’t see that coming. I got the plot and what she wanted, but still didn’t see that curve ball. Only one clue looking back now that I know. That little girl is bat shyt crazy!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
11:21 am
The Orphan
Leggs thanks…since my favorite time of year is here anyway (Thanksgiving)…that’ll be something to do since i will be chill mode.
i am estatic i don’t havta make anything for Thanksgiving dinner this year…i’m sitting around loafin until it’s time to eat…
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
11:26 am
I know abc landed a slam dunk, but don’tcha have more to say on the topic?
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
11:26 am
Cemeeli – I got dessert duty….other than that Im chillin til its time to eat as well. We are having a family reunion for the holiday.
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
11:31 am
Kat Williams needs help. Serious help. – There ain’t no cure for being short with girl hair.
Shooting at the repo man, cause you broke is not acceptable, the repo man’s is doing his job. – Look at this way he created a new opportunity for another out work dude.
Mary Norwood may just win this thang. – The color of their skin nor their political affiliations will change the corrupt hearts of politician. I say lets dump all politician and put everything to vote by the people. That way I can get some “campaign contributions”
and…the serial killer in Cleveland…proves that Americans have really become too self-absorb. Dead bodies smell, Call the police, if they don’t respond, call the media. Someone had to know something was going on. – yeah but if they call the police where else would they get their penny candy from?
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
11:35 am
thanx Leggs. i’ll check it out. i do luv my scary movies. saw paranormal activity this weekend and it was just HORRIBLE!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
11:35 am
Awww…i love Family Reunions too…i’m just BIG on family!
Mo
So what dessert you making? …as you can see we have the floor to talk holidays, cause this topic went somewhere…
My aunts want me to pick-up some specialy wines (they were reluctant) to ask me yesturday cause they know i don’t divulge…but i know that they can’t find it there and the only WineStyles & World Marker we found it in when they visited is near me…so i gotta pick up some wines…but that’s all.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
11:36 am
On Topic: I am too old and too cool to play it cool.
Repo Man: I really feel bad about what happened and killing someone over your ride is not a good look when you know you did not pay the car note. I remember the repo man coming after one of my friends and she hid that car for what seemed like months and really tore it up…she decided that she would not change the oil or do anything to it and BAM the transmission was almost gone and the low oil light was on…when the repo man finally caught up with her.
As for Thanksgiving I am doing a few sides, deviled eggs and one dessert…some punch.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
11:36 am
“…where else would they get their penny candy from?” You stupid for that one!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
11:37 am
oh – “The Orphan” is horror/scary?…Oh-naw cain’t do that!
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
11:38 am
Happy Birthday to Mo’s sister too. I bought you a tennis skirt and Black Cake to celebrate.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
11:38 am
I ordered a fried turkey so all I have to do is the mac n cheese, yams, collards, rice and gravy, cornbread, apple pie, and sweet potatoe pie.
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
11:40 am
Oh and Mo sister it’s a trick candle on the Black Cake but if you just keep blowing eventually it will go out.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
11:52 am
@Cee ~ trust me, I don’t do scary. I screamed one time only because I was anticipating it being a scary movie. IT’S NOT!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
11:53 am
I ate a whole tray of deviled eggs when i was pregnant with my son…and would relish when folks made em..But now that child hates egg…won’t eat an egg to save his life….
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
11:53 am
Kym: First Cash for Clunker and now this http://www.usatoday.com/news/education/2009-11-11-cash-grades_N.htm?loc=interstitialskip
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
11:56 am
Leggs you ordered the easiest thing to cook. LOL
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
12:02 pm
@Raqi, I know…I know!
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
12:07 pm
Ballwood – You stoopid! She doesnt do tennis skirts anyway! LOL!
Cemeeli – Im in charge of cheesecakes (2) and one 7-up pound cake. I am big on family too so I cant wait to be with all them there cuzins of mine!
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
12:10 pm
I love my sides. I would really feel weird w/cooking little to nothing for Thanksgiving. I have a hard time cooking only a little.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
12:11 pm
Leggs,
Fried turkey is so good though! I do not like the roasted kind since I have been exposed to the fried turkey.
I am sitting here now writing my list so that I can go to the grocery store Wednesday or Thursday. I hate trying to shop and cook at the same time.
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
12:23 pm
Mo – Gurl, u know them crazies are a part of who we are…lol cuzins will be tryna get a Black Friday “crew” together as always…aunts/cousins will be making all sides and desserts, men in charge of meats. Teenagers, kids and babies everywhere…uncles cussin and fussin about the game and not spending all his money on Christmas presents, again…all the babyboomers swaping recent pictures of the kids…i love it!
Melo
November 16th, 2009
12:25 pm
So who invites pple to the Thanksgiving dinner per ur tradition folks?? The host or the patriach/matriach of the family??
Coz im thinking,host may want to invite baby daddy/mama of nephew but others(the big family honcho may not feel same…
How do u navigate that??
This seems like a more interesting topic..i think we done on WD’s,right??
SexyCool - Love is fattening.
November 16th, 2009
12:29 pm
Shopping and cooking at the same time – I just had a visual of a mobile oven on wheels being pushed around Publix with its timer going off.
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
12:30 pm
Leggs I am not cooking this year. We have been invited to the grand-godmother’s house.
This year I get to sit around, watch movies and talk crap with everybody else.
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
12:34 pm
I am actually looking forward to shopping Black Friday this year. My shopping partner is due to deliver her bundle of love within the first week of December so I will be doing my shopping solo this year.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 16th, 2009
12:35 pm
Melo – If they cool like that then it shouldnt be a problem cause after all they are there for the child. It needs to be discussed with the So though cause they might not feel comfy being there..
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
12:38 pm
Professor i never liked the fried turkey my sister ordered every year for the past six years, but this summer my nephew-in-law fried a turkey that was sooooo moist! now i’m looking forward to that more than the traditional roasted bird.
i’ll be bringing my signature cheddar mashed potatoes and mini peanut-butter cheesecakes.
Melo, we really don’t have a matriarch/patriarch thing in our fam cuz mama lives in another country, so hosts invite anyone they choose to invite; all others ask permission to bring additional guests.
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
12:38 pm
Cemeeli – I already got a phone call about the Black Friday outing! And lets not forget about who is in charge of the spirits! LOL! Now Im usually trying to watch football too so we’ll see how that goes! And my sister and I are already prepping ourselves for Grandma getting all in out bizness (ya’ll aint bring nobody with ya’ll, no boyfriends or nuthin??)
Professor – I love fried turkey too and I am so going to miss my mom-in-law’s crabmeat dressing! LAWD HAM-MERCY!!
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
12:41 pm
Is there another way to fry turkey beside peanut oil? Everytime I hear of someone frying a turkey they use peanut oil.
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
12:51 pm
“Is there another way to fry turkey beside peanut oil?” – Chicken grease!
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
12:52 pm
Good for you, Raqi.
@Professor, I remember when a co-worker first told about fried turkey, I called her a liar. Said there’s no such thing. Been in GA for a while but never heard of fried turkey. She brougt one into our department and I fell in love. I ordered one out of tradition. Someone may pop up, but it’s lil leggs and myself. Just wouldn’t feel right if I didn’t have my own leftovers (one of the best parts about Thanksgiving).
@Melo, techincally both of you are the hosts so shouldn’t the guestlist be discussed before the actual invite?
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
12:53 pm
ForReal Thanks, but no thanks.
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
12:55 pm
GM All..
On topic:
Never been a stalker. Never “played it kewl”. Never been overly aggresive.
So I’m going with the honest and open approach. You’d pretty much know if I’m into you or not
As for “Turkey Day”.. I don’t eat turkey.
I’ll be helping my mom in the kitchen to the best of my ability. I have 5 houses to try to cram into 1 day so I know I’m going to be exhausted. I’m the pie girl, so I’ve already ordered them.
SexyCool - Love is fattening.
November 16th, 2009
12:55 pm
If I am hosting something at my house, then I’m inviting whomever I wish.
Ms. Main
November 16th, 2009
12:57 pm
Ooooor Leggs you’re cooking everything but the turkey…lol
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
12:59 pm
waaaay off topic: any of yous have experience with homeschooling?
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
1:02 pm
I have never hosted any event and invited the ex.
My youngest son thinks he has masterminded the perfect scheme to get two of whatever, or to be in one place when he does not want to be in the other. While I allow him to think that, I just don’t want to deal with it all. No need to.
He has never been the type where he wanted his father and myself celebrating whatever holiday together. And even if he was I wouldn’t do it.
Even with the oldest, when he was at home if he wanted to spend the holiday at his grandmother’s he was welcomed to do so. I attended a few events before the nuptials, but now I don’t. Not to mention the knucklehead is his own man now to go wherever he chooses.
Melo
November 16th, 2009
1:08 pm
techincally both of you are the hosts
who is “both of u” Leggs??
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 16th, 2009
1:08 pm
Seriously if my ex invited me somewhere I wouldnt go unless it was purely for the Dude..
Raqi – See now that aint right.. You and Mase should go to the Grandmas house with him.. That shows that ya’ll are a family no matter what and that ya’ll love is as geniune as it gets.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
1:09 pm
Cz- the mini peanut butter cheesecakes sounds divine
Melo- excellent question…I agree with DK it must be discussed the last thing you want is something popping off at the house and some nut breaking the china cabinet!
Mo- you should tell your ex mother-in-law that lil Mo wants some of that crabmeat dressing and meet me at stone crest mall so that I can get a plate of it
Scool…yep I need a cooking mobile unit that can get me to and from Publix as I cook those greens
Hey Dream! I am going to need you to tell folks that you at least made the ice and cornbread.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
1:12 pm
I thought you were talking about you and your wife. Let me re-read that. Skimming is not good.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
1:14 pm
@DK that 1:08 was an interesting point. I was wondering why they would not go to Grandma house…
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No matter what I am hosting at my house I do not invite everyone I like to have a good feel of putting a good group together where everyone will take off their shoes relax and have a good time. So some of my friends are not introduced to all of my friends…I like to keep the dynamics in place
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
1:15 pm
Not good to read while trying to catch the cafteria. Nothing in your post spoke of Queen nor you! Oui vey!
Professor
November 16th, 2009
1:16 pm
And my sister and I are already prepping ourselves for Grandma getting all in out bizness (ya’ll aint bring nobody with ya’ll, no boyfriends or nuthin??)
Mo, I hate those questions…
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
1:16 pm
Professor – luckily me and the inlaws are still cool so I am GOING to have a plate of that dressing! Girl will make you slap somebody! I get it and I’ll let ya know chica, I can spare a spoonful or two.
Now my ex-inlaws have invited me to gatherings they host and I will show my face at least. However if my ex-hubby’s new Boo is there I wont stay as long. I dont want Lil Mo thinking that we cant all be in the same place and be cool. My parents do the same thing w ex-hubby.
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
1:18 pm
Professor – and as for Grandma and her gazillion questions….I hate them as well and have figured out how to cut that conversation really short. At least she isnt trying to play cupid anymore! That was even worse…..
Melo
November 16th, 2009
1:19 pm
You and Mase should go to the Grandmas house with him.. That shows that ya’ll are a family no matter what
DK,but u are contradicitng the Good advice u giving Raqi.
Thanxgiving is a great concept for fam.The few times me and my fam here in the states have done a Thanxgiving dinner,it was real fun watching evebody together,sitting around and then watching football and just seeing all the kids having fun.
Proff/czBrat/Leggs/Cool..etc..i dont mind us talking about it till the actual day….
But we havent made any plans yet…
Melo
November 16th, 2009
1:26 pm
Talking of football:
I really missed Peyton yesterday nite.He was on his game and came back from behind to get that win.It was exciting and really a knee jerker,4 touch down passes,2 interceptions and Reggie wayne’s tchdwon for the win! And really stucck that one in Bellecheck and Brady’s gut. My GolyJessus!!
But I missed it!!!!!!!!!!….(thinking of Peyton & Eli’s DTV commercial) coz my dtv satelite connection was down coz the onchocichos had just finished doing my roof on satrday eve.
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
1:27 pm
Infamous Almost 7 years ago after my mom died all of my family moved up north. My dad, my brother and my sister. My oldest brother was already living there. I would fly up there sometimes or they would come here, but for the most part it was just me and my boys and then my closest friends became my family. My first mother-in-law lives here and she took my second to be her grandson. When they both went over to her house for the holiday I went. But there were times, which were rare occasions back then that the youngest son’s father would take him to his house for the holiday. When that would happen I stayed home or went to a friend’s gathering.
After Mason and I became a couple I did not spend as much time as I did before at the in-laws however I never will prevent either of my sons from going there as much as they please. I began to spend time with Mase and he family or our mutual friends.
Now when our out of state families comes to town he and I are usually the hosts. But it was never about me being part of the family when I would go to the grandmother’s. I would be there because I was taking the boys there.
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
1:28 pm
this is the first time i’m with a serious s/o since my divorce 8 yrs ago. i’ve come to REALLY enjoy the holidays with my family because when i was married we always spent the holidays with the in-laws, and i’m finding it very difficult to ’share’ that time between households (especially since we’re talking about a 90-minute commute between the two)
is it selfish of me to suggest that he do his own thing and i’ll do mine? i know he wants us together, but i’m having a hard time with this one.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
1:30 pm
@Mo ~ “I dont want Lil Mo thinking that we cant all be in the same place and be cool.” That’s my sentiment as well. However, lil leggs doesn’t seem to understand that I don’t want to go to the movies w/her and her father!
I don’t eat stuffing, by that crabmeat stuffing/dressing sounds really good.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
1:33 pm
@czB ~ try to find a way to make it work where you two can spend some part of Thanksgiving together!
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
1:34 pm
is it selfish of me to suggest that he do his own thing and i’ll do mine?
czBrat actually that’s a very common question that I have heard folks ask many times. My oldest friend Doc says before she had kids she and her husband would spend Christmas apart because their families lived on two separate coasts. She said they did it before they got married and continued to do it up until she had her first child.
After the kids they now alternate. If the go to his family for Thanksgiving this year, they will go to hers for Christmas. And then next year they will switch it around. Sometimes the just stay home. It seems to be working great for them .
Melo
November 16th, 2009
1:36 pm
is it selfish of me to suggest that he do his own thing and i’ll do mine?
Are u planning on getting married,Again??
If u are,this may be an opportunity to scope out his fam,see how they wiredetc. 90 minute comute aint that long.They may be crazies etc and u want to see how that may or may not impact u,assuming u get married to him.
But enjoying ur own fam too is a good idea coz u arent married anyway.
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
1:39 pm
Leggs – LOL! Well Lil Mo isnt old enough for that yet but we do handle all the parent stuff together (school, extracurricular activities) and we do have an occasional dinner together.
And Im not big on dressing either but those Bayou Babies put it down with seafood!!
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
1:44 pm
@Melo, I scoped out my ex’s family before marrying him. What a front they all put on, cuz the entire family is full of loonies. Sure I have some in my family, but that sitting around the dining room table like The Cosby Family was gravely misrepresented!
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
1:44 pm
Melo we’ve spent time with each other’s family on several occasions. they got no more/no less crazy than we do.
Leggs my heart tells me you’re absolutely right. my head just refuses to see the point in going to all that trouble.
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
1:50 pm
my sister and I are already prepping ourselves for Grandma getting all in out bizness (ya’ll aint bring nobody with ya’ll, no boyfriends or nuthin??)
Mo hahaha…Gurl, this is familiar.
KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)
November 16th, 2009
1:50 pm
Good afternoon blog fam!
@czBrat…Your situation gives you an opportunity to practice two very important relationship components…compromise and sacrifice. Doing your own thing is the easy way out
Make the most of the situation and enjoy the 90 minute ride together.
Professor--
November 16th, 2009
1:50 pm
cz I agree with Melo I would want to scope his family out. However in the past when I wanted to be with my family I have met up with my dude later and we would go to the movies after dinner was done and sometimes our cousins and friends would be come too.
Mo- Is is difficult to have an occasional dinner together? I mean in a sense that feelings does not start flying and you get confused like…dayum I still love/like him or whoa I am happy we are apart.
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
1:52 pm
we’ve spent time with each other’s family on several occasions. they got no more/no less crazy than we do. it take that back … they got a lot less crazy than we do
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
1:57 pm
but that sitting around the dining room table like The Cosby Family was gravely misrepresented!
LOL Leggs Yep, I have yet to attend a family gathering that some crap don’t go down. Whether someone having to much to drink or someone just being the arse that they are.
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
1:58 pm
Compromise and sacrifice
KP I actually have a piece wrote up to post at my spot about those two words. I will let you know when I post it so you can give me your feedback.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
2:01 pm
@CzB ~ girl, you best stop thinking like that….a solid union will have you thinking otherwise. The relationship itself “is worth the trouble.” Don’tcha think!
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
2:01 pm
written
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
2:01 pm
words of wisdom, KP. now i just have to get my feet to move in that direction.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
2:03 pm
WOW, just read your post KP and I agree 100%!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
2:04 pm
Mo/czBrat Those desserts sound scrumptious. Do that! Honestly though, baking is very tedious! I’ll make meat or a sides ANYDAY, before measuring all the ingredients for baking…Ya’ll good, doing that.
KP – Hey stranger.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
2:04 pm
Not your feet, your thought process then the feet will immediately follow!
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
2:10 pm
Prof
I won’t dare touch a pan of corn bread..lol
but they do love when I come in with that Pecan Pie.
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
2:15 pm
Melo You’re a family guy…It’s funny you mentioned matriarch and patriarchs of the family. Those roles are very important in my fam too. And what’s funny my Unc who turned unintetional patriarch is coming here this weekend in preperation for next weeks family gathering…out of all 11 of his brothers and sisters that can do, he’s the one they call most….then he consults with his older sister who’s the younger of my mom about everything that’s going on with anyone in the family…and not just to be having “chit-chat” either. When he speaks with any of us he just wants to be updated on stuff in the fam….and who’s gonna call him for help next. Whether it’s money, spousal drama, help traveling ect…he just wanna know.
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
2:32 pm
brat: Unless you and ole boy have reached the launch pad I would keep it separate until then. No need to give Uncle Pitts something to talk about next year. Plan something afterwards with him that’s unique to the two of you.
KP: I agree with you 100%. WTH? Dayum Holiday spirit got me agreeing with KP.
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
2:35 pm
Swiss – playin the p-star game with the family this year.
…give me the rules again.
Melo
November 16th, 2009
2:37 pm
Those roles are very important in my fam too
Cemeeli:
u described, kinda how it really goes down with my fam back home.We are huge fam and when it comes to dissemination of info,it all has to be channelled kinda methodically and u got know who to tell first and when u give the floor to which folks to speak.
My oldest surviving grandpa is the patriach now(my grandpa,who was elder died and so did the other siblings)
Yo gotta sme major u wanna do etc??,he gotta know and give his blessings.
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
2:38 pm
I love the togetherness of the holidays. But I don’t love all those bad azz kidz that I have to deal with. Asking questions that don’t concern them or just being loud for no reason. There’s aunts and uncles at one of the places I have to go to and they have over 25 kids between the 9 of them. The kids range in age 5 up to 18. And they always want to play with my daughter’s hair asking why we talk “white” lol. I shake my head at them. Then you have the different BM’s and BD’s coming over side eyeing eachother trying to out do eachother or be in competition with eachother to see who is closer to the family…. It’s beautiful to be with the family, but I leave with a headache.
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
2:44 pm
Dream_n, your holiday gathering sounds like a Tyler Perry movie.
in this country it’s just me & my sibs and our offspring (and their offspring). our holiday gatherings are pretty much like any other weekend that we all get together. the only real difference is the menu. we always have a great time.
SexyCool - Love is fattening.
November 16th, 2009
2:46 pm
Dream’n – it really is okay to opt-out of some of the locations. You did say “five”, right?
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
2:47 pm
Dream_n – You got that “good -hair” gurl?
Melo
November 16th, 2009
2:49 pm
czBrat, how many lingos u speak(aka: where u from?)
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
2:51 pm
@Cbratz
I feel like I am in a movie lol
@SexyC
Please go tell my family that.. Girl opting out is a no no on holidays…
#1 — His mom’s house. I’m still going to go there b/c we’ve been doing that for the last 5 yrs and I realy enjoy the company there
#2 My dad’s family… That’s tradition, been that way since I was a young girl
#3 My mom’s house.. where I will stary my voyage around th ecity
#4 – My dad# 2’s house.. met him when I was 18. He’s a capricorn like me and very stubborn, if I don’t attend it will be hell
#5– Now this one can be optional.. The game night people friends/siblings will get together recap about eacothers day and get the drinks rolling.. optinal, but i need it to unwind from all the drama I will go through during the day.. lol
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
2:54 pm
Cee..
lol.. the lil one is half puertorican so they love brushing and combing her hair..I gotta watch those little suckers.. they might try and cut..
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
2:57 pm
Melo – sound like strong family roots…same her..yea we pretty much stick together. My brother-inlaw (Guana-ian) loves….loves…love how we are …probably reminds him of back home too.
There’s one relative that was off the chain…swindle my son’s music keyboard once…which my Unc who’s the patriarch replaced it..this relative has taken my aunts cars joyriding without their approval, jewlery, money…and he just lives by the De-Nile (denial) River if you ask about the antics. My folks won’t give him 2cents, or a pot to pee-in-now…we feed him but that’s about it…my Unc will put him to work when he come around at times…but he caint get much from him.
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
3:04 pm
Professor – on your 1:50, actually its not hard for us to have an occasional meal together or outing w Lil Mo. However, I tend to be very cautious with that as well b/c we arent getting back together so I dont want Lil Mo to get too used to that. Also, ex hubby has a new Boo and i have gotten the impression that she wasnt too happy about the three of us hanging out together. Not my problem though, IM GOOD! LOL!
Dream_n – my family just doesnt know when to go home! Now Im going to be an out of towner for Turkey Day this year so I wont have the option of leaving going to my own house (as my escape)!
Lord Velonese
November 16th, 2009
3:05 pm
WD wrote:
“Nobody likes it when people come on too strong. How do you handle it when someone is a little over the top in pursuing you?”
Tell them F off
WD wrote:
Do you find it flattering, annoying, or are you confused by it?
Annoying as hell.
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
3:05 pm
Professor – and while I miss ex hubby sometimes, it aint enough to want him back and vice versa im sure! LOL
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
3:05 pm
Dream_n – That’s okay mama…we have 2 other nationalities married into our family. And the one…i’m like please don’t call her the “Blonde Whitney Houston ‘n Bobby” ….but my cuzin’s real name is Bobby…they been callin ‘em that since they got married. Note relating to drug…but cause that boy cain’t do not wrong in her eyes. …smh…
Lord Velonese
November 16th, 2009
3:11 pm
Three Words Daily – I care Because?
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
3:11 pm
Sorry to hear that Mo. I haven’t missed my ex not one time! But I agree, you don’t want the lil ones to think there may be a chance of reconciliation. I’m now doing my happy dance around this office….
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
3:12 pm
Cemeeli my marido has an uncle that I have only met once but I kind of feel sorry for. He is up in age but he cannot figure out why he is always late to the family gatherings. He doesn’t know that they give him the wrong time to meet at the house on purpose. The marido says that this uncle always insist on saying the prayer before eating and with him being an elderly man no one is going to tell him that he can’t. And even when they tried once he still got a few words in. But the problem is he tends to pray too long. Way too long. My marido said that once the uncle prayed for almost 20 minutes. And in saying the prayer he prays for everybody. Which sounds nice but in praying for everybody he tends to tell everyone’s business that has come across his ear.
He prayed that the Lord help the confused (= Gay) cousin, the illegitimate nephew, the niece that cheated on her husband, the grandson the filed bankruptcy and all kinds of stuff. Stuff that people haven’t told some others about. He in his own way is doing a good service but anyone that gets outted doesn’t feel that way. LOL
I have never heard him pray before but Mason had me cracking up one day talking about him.
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
3:14 pm
czBrat, how many lingos u speak(aka: where u from?) just 2 languages Melo. Panama.
Dream_n hats off to your and your determination to please the masses.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
3:15 pm
@LordV ~ I’d be mildly polite in the beginning then when it seems my words have fallen on deaf ears, I’d say something along the lines of your F off!
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
3:18 pm
lol @ Mo… You have to sit and wait it out.. please give Mo strength!!
@Cee Not the blonde whitney!.. that is funny
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
3:21 pm
And in saying the prayer he prays for everybody. Which sounds nice but in praying for everybody he tends to tell everyone’s business that has come across his ear.
I don’t know if it should be laughin at that or not, but i am. Did Unc pray for Damian to come out the closet, and illegitimate family members or what?!!
omygoodness!!!
Melo
November 16th, 2009
3:22 pm
sound like strong family roots
Cee..
over here tho,there is no Big pple in my fam so actually,I am the Patriarch.
Matter of fac,lemme call Queen and ask those in the A to update me on Thanxgiving so i know who want to come to my place…
My lil bro in DC,one in canada and another is a rolling stone(recent divorcee)..one leg in the A,another in canada with his new boo.So its just my sis,her hubby and kids and my fam..i may have to invite them over.(i got paternal cousins in boston too but too much oprah drama with those rugrats(gerlz) and their mama,my auntie, i gota keep them at arm’s length!)
Melo
November 16th, 2009
3:29 pm
czBrat, i met a nice guy from panama yesterday..he runs his own car wash outa stn mtn and was wrking on my truck.
Rqai..that uncle gotta be the last one to arrive.How u gonna Out everybody coz of the gossip u heard??
Uncle prayer: lawd jesus,pray for this fam as we eat our thanxgiven dinner,pray for Raqi my lord,she got a good hubby but hes gonna leave if she dont stop hollering loudly at nite as she enjoys Mason!
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
3:32 pm
Raqi, i’d say someone needs to be ready with a very loud “AMEN” to cut Unc off and errbody jump on the bird! ya’ll being waaaaaay too polite with him & his nonsense. you may think he doesn’t realize what he’s doing, but he does.
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
3:33 pm
Raqi – I had a great uncle like that, prayer for EVA-THANG!! “Lawd thank you for this turkey and the hands that prepared it, thank you for all the fixins for the turkey, thank you for the walmart/kroger/etc that had enough turkeys in stock that we could have one, thank for the delivery company that brought the turkey to the walmart/kroger/etc..” My cousins and I laughed so hard one year, I know he went for over 20mins. Finally they started designating who was grace.
Dream_n – I will be alright, I have my escape route planned! Luckily my brother lives in VA too!
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
3:34 pm
Sorry, meant “who was SAYING grace”
Professor
November 16th, 2009
3:48 pm
@Mo LOL at the new Boo not liking the three of y’all hanging out.
@Leggs…LOL at Lord V…I was thinking if he took and ex-lax, sometimes you have to get ish out of ya he will be okay.
@Dream, you took me back to 1980 with your cousins getting happy over hair…I am going to have to introduce them to the wig shop in collid park on main street.
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
3:49 pm
Cemeeli – Go ahead and laugh ’cause I did.
Melo – Yeah pretty much.
czBrat – He does realize it but he is praying for things to get better for that person or for them to see the “light”. Mason said he means well however it’s at other folks expense.
Mo – Yeah Mason said that is pretty much how it starts out but when he starts thanking the Lord for Aunt Sarah precious hands that baked the mac and cheese he will ask the lord to please help Aunt Sarah’s son during his time of incarceration and help her daughter who likes women now instead of men.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
3:49 pm
Wish I had family here. Can’t get those knuckleheads to leave NYC.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
3:51 pm
I think we all have a praying uncle…hell my uncle went so long praying one time that he started saying the same prayer again. Now I have one uncle that is a preacher that loves food and his grace is less than ten seconds
Professor
November 16th, 2009
3:52 pm
Leggs, do you go home for Christmas?
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
3:54 pm
Professor – Yeah I laughed too! I dont know what the problem is really but like I said, he has to deal with that. When I met her she didnt strike me as the type to have issue with that (since I was at one of HIS family functions) but obviously I was wrong. Oh well!
Raqi – and that is why he is in the position he is in! LMAO!
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
3:55 pm
Prof..
Not a wig shop for the babies lol!!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
3:56 pm
Leggs – Them knuckleheads can get on ya nerves…don’t play it lightly.
I’d move if the right oppurtunity…i think.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
3:57 pm
Dream,
Yes take those babies to the wig shop…LOL
I guess you can tell I am not a mother!
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
3:57 pm
Wish I had family here. Can’t get those knuckleheads to leave NYC.
Leggs i was the first in my fam to come here from NYC. now everyone lives here in ATL. i didn’t have to do much other than expose them to cheaper housing and better weather
i will admit i miss the feel of NYC holidays around rockefeller plaza & times square. the macy’s parade & the holiday windows *sigh*
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
3:58 pm
Mo – Come on now…you are cute as pie and you had the bestestest pie at the last function…j/p…she just gotta learn to take a chill pill…:)
Professor
November 16th, 2009
3:59 pm
Where is Kimmie I would love to hear about her Thanksgiving menu…I know she is cooking up some good food?
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
4:04 pm
Yes take those babies to the wig shop
That mental pic is priceless!!!
You are so silly.. no baby should wear a wig,extentions, or weave…
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
4:05 pm
Prof..
Any relatives that you’d like to be absent at the family gatherings??
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
4:06 pm
Now Jamoca i know when you get in…i know…i know…
Auh, how many ways do the Cuban mamma’s do it?
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:08 pm
I go home every 2 years. I just can’t handle those cold a$$ winters. I know this isn’t right by any stretch of the imagination, but I haven’t been home for Thanksgiving since I left. Mama and I are very close and she has come here to see me, but my siblings and I could really care less about each other. Well, that’s how it has always appeared to me. You can’t choose your family. I do go for Christmas every so often, but really winter and I are arch enemies! No, please don’t call a psychotherapist for me. Basically, I’m good!
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
4:08 pm
Dream_n – i have seen many a baby girl with extentions (braids but extentions nonetheless)! SMDH
Cemeeli – Im sure she’ll be fine. Just needs to get her blood pressure under control!
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
4:09 pm
MMMMMMMMMMMMMM Mo’s pie!!
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
4:11 pm
cbratz
Where you at??
I need to know what time I can come pick up that pot of arroz con pollo???
Mann his mom throws down on that food!
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:11 pm
I definitely miss the sounds of NY.
@Cee ~ I know, looking at me getting a little misty eyed cuz no family here, and if they were here I would probably kick them to the curb after Day 4!
Professor
November 16th, 2009
4:12 pm
Any relatives that you’d like to be absent at the family gatherings??
Dream,
I am in a pickle with this one. I have a relative that owes me money although I would like to see her at the family gathering if she is bringing my money
, otherwise she can keep her goofy looking azz home. So with that said I did not invite her to my house. 
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
4:12 pm
Mo
Me too, and all I can do is shake my head. I don’t understand it…
Professor
November 16th, 2009
4:15 pm
Mo/Dream,
I saw this little girl once just as cute as she could be at the salon around four years old. Her mother had the stylist to give her a perm and she had them to add some hair to her ponytails when the stylist did the baby doll curls….too much!
Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)
November 16th, 2009
4:15 pm
Ballwood – shaddup! LOL!!
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
4:15 pm
LOL @ Dream_n
Leggs, i miss everything about NYC until that first blast of ice-cold winter air slaps the shi!t outta me. then i’m ready to get the he!! on from there! or the stench of pi$$ on the subway stairs.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
4:16 pm
Dream I said take them not let them wear it LOL it will be like a field trip…
Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!
November 16th, 2009
4:17 pm
Professor
lmao!!
That is a pickle.. but hopefully WE can look over the fact that she owes money and have a grand time if she decides to attend a family gathering you’re present at . Right chica!!
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
4:19 pm
@ Ms. Leggs – I’ll come over and hang witcha and eat up all your candied yams and mac n cheese. when you want the company…
Raqi
November 16th, 2009
4:19 pm
Leggs I can see that. I see my baby brother the most because he comes down several times a year. I talk to my father maybe twice a week. There is no grave dislike between all of us but they like it up there and I like it down here.
As I stated earlier, once they all left and went north my friends became my family. I do more with them than my actual family. But it’s all good.
My sister is supposed to be coming at Christmas. It will be nice to she her but if she doesn’t come it will be okay too. I haven’t seen my oldest brother in almost 4 years. We talk maybe twice a month just to check on each other. However he is my goto when I need some “people” advice.
You all have a good evening. Bundle up in the morning, it’s supposed to be a cold one.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:20 pm
I do not like seeing little girls with all those beads in their hair. Just something I never liked and always wondered how they slept with all that clanging on the pillows. 3-2 beads at the end of the braid (of her own hair) is fine.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
4:21 pm
It is difficult to overlook her when begs for what she needs and buy what she wants. The sight of her makes me SICK, so that is why we will not be in the same place…simply put she is not welcomed in my home.
I wish I was a big girl and could overlook her and have fun, but I cannot see her big, rusty azz feet sitting at my table.
Professor
November 16th, 2009
4:23 pm
@Leggs…I hate those beads making all of that dayum noise.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:24 pm
I’m visualizing Cee and lil leggs running to the table to get to the yams and mac n cheese. Lil leggs definitely winning this race. Oh no, Big Cee pushed her making her trip and crash at the base of the fridge! Oh my! Big Cee not even caring just cooping up the food onto her plate!
Ballwood
November 16th, 2009
4:25 pm
Thankgivings…..
Professor enter Big Mamma’s house:
Prof: Heyy Big mamma, awwww I like dat hat girl! Oh, hey dare Auntie Betty how are you? You know you my favorite Auntie. Oh and look at TonDarrius he don got so big.
TonDarrius: Look at what my peepee do when I do this….
Aunti Betty: TonDarrius stop that now don’t nobody want to see that!!!
Prof: yeah specially from no 40 y.o man playin retarded so he don’t have to pay rent.
Big Mamma: Oh lawd yall lock yo pocketbooks in here cuzin Melvin with his thieving arse is here. I wonder where his sister Odella at? Dat heffer borrowed some money from me. Know I’m on a fixed income!
Prof: YOU TOO!!! WHERE DAT HEFFER AT?
TonDarrius: HEYYYYYY ODELLA!! Why you crawling on da flo? Look at what my peepee do when I do this…
Prof
Professor
November 16th, 2009
4:29 pm
TonDarrius: Look at what my peepee do when I do this….
Ballwood you need your behind kicked for that one…LMAO not TonDarrius????
Cemeeli
November 16th, 2009
4:35 pm
@ Ms. Leggs – da babies eat first..but DANG Lil Leggs can run!!
Lol
that was funny.
hopeless romantic
November 16th, 2009
4:39 pm
Gentleman…food for thought: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,573622,00.html?loomia_ow=t0:s0:a4:g4:r2:c0.000000:b0:z5
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:43 pm
#7 is hard for some to learn!
BSandwich
November 16th, 2009
4:45 pm
those are pretty good, Hopeless
hopeless romantic
November 16th, 2009
4:45 pm
Leggs….in terms of #7, hard to learn, or hard to accept?
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:46 pm
@hopeless ~ a little of both!
KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)
November 16th, 2009
4:49 pm
@Raqi, Leggs and Cemeeli…sup ya’ll!
@Ballwood…LOL! KP’s approval rating must be on the upswing during the holiday season. Well at least until my buddies (Truth, For Real, etc.) decide to stone me upon entering the blog site.
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:51 pm
KP got jokes with a hint of truth!
Hello.
czBrat
November 16th, 2009
4:52 pm
home safe everyone. ciao!
Leggs
November 16th, 2009
4:53 pm
Good night everyone!
“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes.”
Peace!