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Playing It Cool

Sometimes I marvel at the fact that we singles even manage to make it to the first date.  Some of us get up hung up in the approach, showing interest, and determining compatibility part that comes with dating.  I think a lot of times we take it way too seriously, pretty much sucking the fun part out of the whole process.

Keeping it simple is virtually impossible.  I know women have a tendency to complicate matters when they shouldn’t be, but I have met and dated men who do the same thing.  Is it so hard to play it cool until things develop?

There is nothing wrong with being excited about spotting someone you want to get to know more.  However, acting desperately can be a real turn off. Nobody likes it when people come on too strong. How do you handle it when someone is a little over the top in pursuing you?  Do you find it flattering, annoying, or are you confused by it?

If someone you are interested in seems to be playing it cool, do you take it as a sing of disinterest and back off altogether? Have you ever met someone who was giving you that oh so lovely “mixed signals” making it difficult to determine what they want?

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Cemeeli

November 16th, 2009
3:58 pm

Mo – Come on now…you are cute as pie and you had the bestestest pie at the last function…j/p…she just gotta learn to take a chill pill…:)

Professor

November 16th, 2009
3:59 pm

Where is Kimmie I would love to hear about her Thanksgiving menu…I know she is cooking up some good food?

Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!

November 16th, 2009
4:04 pm

Yes take those babies to the wig shop

That mental pic is priceless!!!

You are so silly.. no baby should wear a wig,extentions, or weave…

Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!

November 16th, 2009
4:05 pm

Prof..

Any relatives that you’d like to be absent at the family gatherings??

Cemeeli

November 16th, 2009
4:06 pm

Now Jamoca i know when you get in…i know…i know…

Auh, how many ways do the Cuban mamma’s do it?

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:08 pm

I go home every 2 years. I just can’t handle those cold a$$ winters. I know this isn’t right by any stretch of the imagination, but I haven’t been home for Thanksgiving since I left. Mama and I are very close and she has come here to see me, but my siblings and I could really care less about each other. Well, that’s how it has always appeared to me. You can’t choose your family. I do go for Christmas every so often, but really winter and I are arch enemies! No, please don’t call a psychotherapist for me. Basically, I’m good! :cool:

Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)

November 16th, 2009
4:08 pm

Dream_n – i have seen many a baby girl with extentions (braids but extentions nonetheless)! SMDH

Cemeeli – Im sure she’ll be fine. Just needs to get her blood pressure under control! :smile:

Ballwood

November 16th, 2009
4:09 pm

MMMMMMMMMMMMMM Mo’s pie!!

Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!

November 16th, 2009
4:11 pm

cbratz

Where you at??
I need to know what time I can come pick up that pot of arroz con pollo???

Mann his mom throws down on that food!

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:11 pm

I definitely miss the sounds of NY.

@Cee ~ I know, looking at me getting a little misty eyed cuz no family here, and if they were here I would probably kick them to the curb after Day 4!

Professor

November 16th, 2009
4:12 pm

Any relatives that you’d like to be absent at the family gatherings??

Dream,

I am in a pickle with this one. I have a relative that owes me money although I would like to see her at the family gathering if she is bringing my money :evil: , otherwise she can keep her goofy looking azz home. So with that said I did not invite her to my house. :cool:

Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!

November 16th, 2009
4:12 pm

Mo

Me too, and all I can do is shake my head. I don’t understand it…

Professor

November 16th, 2009
4:15 pm

Mo/Dream,

I saw this little girl once just as cute as she could be at the salon around four years old. Her mother had the stylist to give her a perm and she had them to add some hair to her ponytails when the stylist did the baby doll curls….too much!

Mo (aka Moeisha-tired as h3ll)

November 16th, 2009
4:15 pm

Ballwood – shaddup! LOL!! :smile:

czBrat

November 16th, 2009
4:15 pm

LOL @ Dream_n

Leggs, i miss everything about NYC until that first blast of ice-cold winter air slaps the shi!t outta me. then i’m ready to get the he!! on from there! or the stench of pi$$ on the subway stairs. :mad:

Professor

November 16th, 2009
4:16 pm

Dream I said take them not let them wear it LOL it will be like a field trip…

Dream_n- Gotta luv impromptu game nights!

November 16th, 2009
4:17 pm

Professor

lmao!!

That is a pickle.. but hopefully WE can look over the fact that she owes money and have a grand time if she decides to attend a family gathering you’re present at . Right chica!!

Cemeeli

November 16th, 2009
4:19 pm

@ Ms. Leggs – I’ll come over and hang witcha and eat up all your candied yams and mac n cheese. when you want the company…

Raqi

November 16th, 2009
4:19 pm

Leggs I can see that. I see my baby brother the most because he comes down several times a year. I talk to my father maybe twice a week. There is no grave dislike between all of us but they like it up there and I like it down here.

As I stated earlier, once they all left and went north my friends became my family. I do more with them than my actual family. But it’s all good.

My sister is supposed to be coming at Christmas. It will be nice to she her but if she doesn’t come it will be okay too. I haven’t seen my oldest brother in almost 4 years. We talk maybe twice a month just to check on each other. However he is my goto when I need some “people” advice.

You all have a good evening. Bundle up in the morning, it’s supposed to be a cold one.

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:20 pm

I do not like seeing little girls with all those beads in their hair. Just something I never liked and always wondered how they slept with all that clanging on the pillows. 3-2 beads at the end of the braid (of her own hair) is fine.

Professor

November 16th, 2009
4:21 pm

It is difficult to overlook her when begs for what she needs and buy what she wants. The sight of her makes me SICK, so that is why we will not be in the same place…simply put she is not welcomed in my home.

I wish I was a big girl and could overlook her and have fun, but I cannot see her big, rusty azz feet sitting at my table.

Professor

November 16th, 2009
4:23 pm

@Leggs…I hate those beads making all of that dayum noise.

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:24 pm

I’m visualizing Cee and lil leggs running to the table to get to the yams and mac n cheese. Lil leggs definitely winning this race. Oh no, Big Cee pushed her making her trip and crash at the base of the fridge! Oh my! Big Cee not even caring just cooping up the food onto her plate!

Ballwood

November 16th, 2009
4:25 pm

Thankgivings…..

Professor enter Big Mamma’s house:

Prof: Heyy Big mamma, awwww I like dat hat girl! Oh, hey dare Auntie Betty how are you? You know you my favorite Auntie. Oh and look at TonDarrius he don got so big.

TonDarrius: Look at what my peepee do when I do this….

Aunti Betty: TonDarrius stop that now don’t nobody want to see that!!!

Prof: yeah specially from no 40 y.o man playin retarded so he don’t have to pay rent.

Big Mamma: Oh lawd yall lock yo pocketbooks in here cuzin Melvin with his thieving arse is here. I wonder where his sister Odella at? Dat heffer borrowed some money from me. Know I’m on a fixed income!

Prof: YOU TOO!!! WHERE DAT HEFFER AT?

TonDarrius: HEYYYYYY ODELLA!! Why you crawling on da flo? Look at what my peepee do when I do this…

Prof

Professor

November 16th, 2009
4:29 pm

TonDarrius: Look at what my peepee do when I do this….

Ballwood you need your behind kicked for that one…LMAO not TonDarrius???? :lol:

Cemeeli

November 16th, 2009
4:35 pm

@ Ms. Leggs – da babies eat first..but DANG Lil Leggs can run!!

Lol :) that was funny.

hopeless romantic

November 16th, 2009
4:39 pm

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:43 pm

#7 is hard for some to learn!

BSandwich

November 16th, 2009
4:45 pm

those are pretty good, Hopeless

hopeless romantic

November 16th, 2009
4:45 pm

Leggs….in terms of #7, hard to learn, or hard to accept?

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:46 pm

@hopeless ~ a little of both!

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

November 16th, 2009
4:49 pm

@Raqi, Leggs and Cemeeli…sup ya’ll!

@Ballwood…LOL! KP’s approval rating must be on the upswing during the holiday season. Well at least until my buddies (Truth, For Real, etc.) decide to stone me upon entering the blog site.

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:51 pm

KP got jokes with a hint of truth! :lol: Hello.

czBrat

November 16th, 2009
4:52 pm

home safe everyone. ciao!

Leggs

November 16th, 2009
4:53 pm

Good night everyone!

“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes.” :cool:

Peace!