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Hurts So Good

There is nothing like the emotions you go through when you are falling for someone.  I liken it to what I think falling out of an airplane would feel, but I haven’t skydived yet so I am speculating.  You are taking a calculated risk. You have your parachute and your tandem partner that you trust completely.

You take the leap and you have an initial feeling of utter bliss and joy.  The moment you fall out feels surreal and unbelievable.  Then perhaps you look at exactly how high you are and maybe start to panic a bit.  You hope that your rip cord works and that you and your partner won’t fall too badly because you know it will hurt if your parachute doesn’t open.

I know this makes falling in love sound terrifying and exhilarating all at once.  That’s kind of the point, really.  It can be the best feeling in the world when it’s good.  When it’s bad? Ouch.  It doesn’t matter how scary it is, most of us won’t stop chasing that feeling of being in love.

Have you ever been in love? How would you describe the emotions? How did you know that it was love and not lust? What about that infatuation phase? Is it a dangerous thing to mistake infatuation for love or is that a natural part of it?

What do men think when they feel that first surge of strong emotions about a woman? What if they aren’t prepared for it and it catches them by surprise?

Recently, singer Alicia Keys asked an interesting love question on Twitter: “In love is it better to go for the choice that is smart or the choice that has spark?”

I am not sure if the smart choice would be without spark, wouldn’t that make it the settling choice? What are your thoughts?


402 comments Add your comment

Beautiful

November 13th, 2009
3:13 pm

**Well, i don’t listen to Raqi – she’ll get cha pregnant. But we do make purty(pretty) babies…** funny!

LOVE IS PAIN!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 13th, 2009
3:14 pm

Oh god! oh god! oh god!

Beautiful

November 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

@SWISS
where are you? you forgot to add the slurpin’ sound. lol. jus pretend you eatin’ a peach. *wink*

clutchin’ pearls…

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

Elijah – Get it right its IDK not IKD cause I dont be Ike Turnering nobody.. I let Desmond do all the beating..

SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.

November 13th, 2009
3:16 pm

Yep, IDK – something like that.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 13th, 2009
3:16 pm

DK

What you doin’ over there… Are you mocking the ladies?? :grin:

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:17 pm

Love is what love does.

Love don’t pay the bills, but what love makes him do (get out and go to work) gets the bills paid.

Cemeeli

November 13th, 2009
3:17 pm

Paying the bond and waiting almost 5-6 hrs for them to let him out… (i ain’t doing that ish again

Maybe not for the wrong one…but auh, love abounds.

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

This one is for Leggs

Love is when he lets me hold the remote to the television.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 13th, 2009
3:20 pm

You just might be on to something Cee

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 13th, 2009
3:21 pm

SC and Dream – Just reminicing over here.. Thoughts and Sounds Vol 1.. Oh God! Oh My F—ing God! What are you trying to do to me? Boy you trying to make me love you doin all that..

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 13th, 2009
3:21 pm

Raqi – “Love don’t pay the bills, but what love makes him do (get out and go to work) gets the bills paid.” Say it again chica

Love is going to watch him play basketball even after a long day at work and fighting traffic to get clear across town and seeing him smile at the sight of you.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 13th, 2009
3:22 pm

Cee – See thats what Im talking bout.. You might be cute as the dickens but you still Rocky Ford Decatur..

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:23 pm

Love will have you wearing a diaper and driving 900 miles to get your man, despite the fact your dumbarse is married to sombody else.

I was watching the television the other day and they mentioned that astronaut. That wasn’t love, that was stalking and just plain crazy.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 13th, 2009
3:23 pm

Love is going to watch him play basketball even after a long day at work and fighting traffic to get clear across town and seeing him smile at the sight of you.

I like that one Mo!!!

SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.

November 13th, 2009
3:24 pm

Do I know you? No, really. ~laughing~

Bedroom talk is universal. Obviously.

MELO

November 13th, 2009
3:24 pm

Luv is when she says,”Yes, I swallowed..mmmmmmmmm,licking her lips,L.L.Cool J fashion!”

:lol:

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:25 pm

Love is going to watch him play basketball

Mo Yep and don’t even like basketball but I beez there with bells and whistles on being his biggest courtside cheerleader.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 13th, 2009
3:28 pm

Love is watching his face light up when you come out of the washroom in that new Victoria S. black/lace baby doll lingerie with your hair curled and bouncy walking to the bed pouting cause you wanna play….

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 13th, 2009
3:28 pm

Dream_n/Raqi – cause he just likes to know that you ARE his biggest cheerleader. On and off the court…

Tazzee - Love being loved.

November 13th, 2009
3:29 pm

Cemeeli – now you know you got me teary eyed. So I’m going to think of something to make me laugh, like Anthony Perkins :lol:

Leggs

November 13th, 2009
3:30 pm

Good one, Raqi….

Love is going to watch him play basketball even after a long day at work and fighting traffic to get clear across town and seeing him smile at the sight of you. Worth repeating!

Cemeeli

November 13th, 2009
3:33 pm

Sis, i typed it with a misspell i’m sure…i was teary eyed typing it. Real talk, i was more happy for you and Mr. than the assignment God had you bring to me!

God has great things in store for you all sis…

SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.

November 13th, 2009
3:34 pm

Love is him coming to watch you play softball after he’s been at the office all day. Arriving at the park still wearing his button down with the Polo sweater vest and khaki’s, carrying a to-go order of fried catfish from The Pearl.

Cemeeli

November 13th, 2009
3:35 pm

Anthony Perkins and the guy clapping at you on the Cruise ship had me and lil Cee crackin up…

We’ll call the Cruise guy – “The Happy Preacher”

Rell - da rake

November 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

carrying a to-go order of fried catfish from The Pearl.

-checkmate!!!

love is ——————— when i find again i will let you know…right now i cant remember anything worthy to speak of…love is milkbox to me!

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

Al says, “Love with make you do thangs”.

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

Rell - da rake

November 13th, 2009
3:40 pm

i am like ri ri – F love….lol…now who face can i leave my DNA on tonight…get your blue lights ready CSI style…it never washs off beeeeeeeeeeeench!!!

SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.

November 13th, 2009
3:42 pm

Rell da retard….boy….you stoopit….

Check and Mate!!! Hilarious!!!

Elijah ....

November 13th, 2009
3:42 pm

My Bad IDK!

Sexy Cool….. You are one bad azz sistas! Always speaking so openly and honestly is so refreshing! PSH is what I’m talking about! :smile:

One of my favorites is having a women who does not curse start spewing all kinds of F-words at you when you have taken her to cloud 9! :wink:

Some of you ladies are talking like you know how to support your man! When does support that come in the relationship?

Leggs

November 13th, 2009
3:43 pm

@Rell, you don’t want the blue lights…sounds like you want the Red Light Special.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 13th, 2009
3:44 pm

Rell lmao @ that 3:40… yous a fool

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:46 pm

Talking about Love got me wanting to go home and listen to some Luther this evening.

One look in your eyes and there I see
Just what you mean to me
Here in my heart I believe
Your love is all I’ll ever need
Holdin’ you close through the night
I need you, yeah

Tazzee - Love being loved.

November 13th, 2009
3:48 pm

Rell – you will find it again. Until then, have fun and don’t hurt nobody. ;-)

Love is spending your birthday weekend cleaning and dressing his wounds after he fell of his motorcycle. Especially when the site of blood, pus and stuff like that makes your stomach turn.

Love is taking it in stride when you realize that your 40th birthday is on the same day as your future step-daughter’s high school graduation, when you’ve been planning to do something really big for your 40th birthday ever since your 35th.

I guess my big thing will be the fact that I’ll be a Mrs. on my 40th ;-)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 13th, 2009
3:48 pm

Rell – you’se a fool dude!! LOL

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 13th, 2009
3:50 pm

Raqi

Ahh man.. I luv me some Luther.. and Peabo Bryson..

Baby can you stop the rain from falling……

Tazzee - Love being loved.

November 13th, 2009
3:50 pm

Love makes you just want to break out in song at random moments.

Love is when you let him use your bathroom. That’s for Professor :lol:

Rell - da rake

November 13th, 2009
3:51 pm

@Leggs…last time i had a red light special i was in a far off land on a street name for its low tones in speak…what i want is a decatur special from an around-the-way fillet…..what you doing in about an hour

lol

IT NEVER WASHES OFF!!!

Raqi...Living love in progress

November 13th, 2009
3:51 pm

Especially when the site of blood, pus and stuff like that makes your stomach turn.

Tazzee True indicator that you was a goner. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 13th, 2009
3:53 pm

Love is when I have one of those explosions and it gets all in her hair, she doesnt get mad..

Professor

November 13th, 2009
3:54 pm

…stepping in for a moment.

Are we talking sappy or freaky?

Shoot let me check for Melo, Dream and a few other names and that will tell me. Hold on…let me see

Cemeeli

November 13th, 2009
3:55 pm

love is leaving work to hit traffic, stop and pick up a “purple” Vitamin water, jalapeño cheddar cheetos, sitting at in the school’s driveway for ’bout 15-20min until he burst the car doors telling you about his 14th Friday Celebration at his new school, and asking you to play the Friday song…looking into your rearview at what you know is your lil-look-a-like.

Love is..

~ Ya’ll have a good one.

Professor

November 13th, 2009
3:56 pm

@Tazzee…dang I haven’t let one use my bathroom yet! LOL, but I believe you.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 13th, 2009
3:56 pm

SC – If I dont say “Yeah Baby” in a low deep voice, then you aint doin something right.

SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.

November 13th, 2009
3:57 pm

Shucky darn….Eli – blushing again. :oops:
Just sharing the view from my window on the world.
As my boy on FB says, “It only has to make sense to you and Him.” And I’m finding that most of the time He and I are the only ones that it makes sense to anyways.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 13th, 2009
3:58 pm

and if Im saying “Damn Baby” trying to change up the stroke then you puttin in serious work..

SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.

November 13th, 2009
3:59 pm

Love is me asking him to leave “it” on my back. ~remembering~

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 13th, 2009
4:00 pm

Prof

Love is mopping the floors for HIM

Professor

November 13th, 2009
4:00 pm

Seriously, love is not keeping tabs I hate when someone brings up what they have done for me. So love is giving from the heart without any motives…simply giving.

Now that was my nice thought of the day. I have spoken in tongues before and vice versa some of you guys are sopranos with all that screaming and yelling… :wink: