Hurts So Good
There is nothing like the emotions you go through when you are falling for someone. I liken it to what I think falling out of an airplane would feel, but I haven’t skydived yet so I am speculating. You are taking a calculated risk. You have your parachute and your tandem partner that you trust completely.
You take the leap and you have an initial feeling of utter bliss and joy. The moment you fall out feels surreal and unbelievable. Then perhaps you look at exactly how high you are and maybe start to panic a bit. You hope that your rip cord works and that you and your partner won’t fall too badly because you know it will hurt if your parachute doesn’t open.
I know this makes falling in love sound terrifying and exhilarating all at once. That’s kind of the point, really. It can be the best feeling in the world when it’s good. When it’s bad? Ouch. It doesn’t matter how scary it is, most of us won’t stop chasing that feeling of being in love.
Have you ever been in love? How would you describe the emotions? How did you know that it was love and not lust? What about that infatuation phase? Is it a dangerous thing to mistake infatuation for love or is that a natural part of it?
What do men think when they feel that first surge of strong emotions about a woman? What if they aren’t prepared for it and it catches them by surprise?
Recently, singer Alicia Keys asked an interesting love question on Twitter: “In love is it better to go for the choice that is smart or the choice that has spark?”
I am not sure if the smart choice would be without spark, wouldn’t that make it the settling choice? What are your thoughts?
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Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:11 pm
Love is being by your side when you are fighting that nasty flu bug.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:12 pm
Love is picking up his used kleenex that he obviously did not even try to get into the trash can.
MELO
November 13th, 2009
2:12 pm
Luv hurts so Bad so much that Cemeeli is always speechless,completely dumb for words!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:13 pm
Love is when he says “I love you”.
Elijah ....
November 13th, 2009
2:13 pm
@Sassy that is what I’m talking about!
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
2:13 pm
@ WillieD – Yup.
love is – when you thinkin’ “damn dem ooooosss”.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:13 pm
Love is when he says “I love you” and you can actually believe him.
Wise Diva
November 13th, 2009
2:14 pm
everyone needs to go to church this weekend *smh*
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 13th, 2009
2:15 pm
Well alright nah Dream with that 2:00….it’s right about then your back starts to hurt but who cares at that point.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:15 pm
Love is thinking about how much I love the fact that today is Friday and I don’t have to work tomorrow.
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
2:16 pm
I agree on the shirts!
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
2:18 pm
You’re right Sassy who cares about pretty much anything at that point lmao!!
Wise D
But if I’m not getting it, is it all that bad to think about it?? lol
Elijah ....
November 13th, 2009
2:19 pm
Dream_n so you speak in tongues? How many of you ladies have spoken in tongues from sexing?
Luv is hitting dat booty so good that tongues speaking happens every month!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 13th, 2009
2:20 pm
All I can say Eli is it’s Fridaaaay
It hurts so good your toe nails hurts!
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
2:20 pm
Raqi
but I’m pretty sure you’ll be up around the same time with the little bambina and all.
It’s funny how it takes me time to get the lil one up on the weekdays, but on the weekends she’s the first one up @ 6 wanting some breakfast .. lol
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:21 pm
everyone needs to go to church this weekend
Love is when you are singing his praises and you never made it out of bed to church.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
2:22 pm
where they do that at?…
Sassy you a fool… but foreal where do they do that at Leggs
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
2:23 pm
Eli
My mom would back hand you for putting tongues in the same sentence with sexing!!!
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
2:24 pm
love is endurance
love is an enourmously noisy secret
love is “to pieces”…
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:24 pm
Dream_n I get “to sleep in late on Saturdays”. Saturdays are his day to get up with her. Most of time he just go gets her and brings her into bed with us until he is ready to get up.
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
2:25 pm
Raqi – Just last night, I said, “I know I’m really not supposed to be saying this epecially RIGHT NOW, but THANK YOU JESUS!!!”
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
2:27 pm
Love is attentive intimacy
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 13th, 2009
2:27 pm
But if I’m not getting it, is it all that bad to think about it?? lol
No Dream you’re human and it’s kinda hard not to on this blog at times…
How many of you ladies have spoken in tongues from sexing?
As I smile and stare outside….oh the memories
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:28 pm
but THANK YOU JESUS
LOL SexyCool. We have to be careful with that. Like the time he whispered in my ear while exploding, “Sweet Mutha of Jezuz”.
I was like Lord please forgive us both. LOL
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
2:31 pm
@SassyMe, no where. Just my way of saying everything is tingling it feels so good!
@Dream_n, if a person is bad just by thinking about it then I’m the poster child! Come over here and sit with me.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 13th, 2009
2:31 pm
My mom would back hand you for putting tongues in the same sentence with sexing!!!
Naw Dream not the “backhand”..lol. I mean he is kinda borderline blaspheming but he didn’t mean it. But on the real you know he has a valid question. I’m on your side Eli
Elijah ....
November 13th, 2009
2:31 pm
Luv is when your SO gives you the pudsy even though you is mad as hell at ya! Then when it gets good she starts making the cooing sounds while still looking mean!
Shout-out to Mrs. Raqi for and giving to Mr. Mason when she does not want to give!
Tazzee - Love being loved.
November 13th, 2009
2:33 pm
Cemeeli Don’t pay Willie Dynamite no mind, I’m loving your posts.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
2:35 pm
My words may run together.. speaking mumbo jumbo, but naw not tongues lol
Getting in my car driving over to sit with Leggs
Elijah ....
November 13th, 2009
2:36 pm
@Dream_N it better me making you speak in tongue then World Changers (Mr. Dollar) teaching you how to speak in tongue! Did I just say that!
Short-out to all the shawty’s who are determined to receive Johnson like no other women in the world!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:36 pm
LOL Elijah Yeah sometimes you have to do it when you just not feeling like it. However reciprocity is the bonding agent.
We take care of each other…but not always with a smile. But you know no one is beyond being persuaded.
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
2:38 pm
love is taboo? yeah right!
love is “for sho’”
love is – why keep asking me?
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 13th, 2009
2:41 pm
Just my way of saying everything is tingling it feels so good!
That’s what’s up Leggs
I was like Lord please forgive us
Been there but went a different route….was receiving some “cunilingus” soo soo soo good it made me sit up and scream “OH GOD!!”. I felt confrused b/c it literally exploded from my lips(dirty pun soo intended) but I haven’t done that since…wanted to but haven’t.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
2:50 pm
Love is…
Getting a phone call at work that he’s been arrested. Getting off work driving to the police station to get the keys to the truck to move the truck from a “no parking area” only to get to the jail and the officers are acting like a bunch of aholes and will not give you the car keys. Then driving to where the car is only to find out that someone has flattened 2 of his tires. Calling a tow truck to tow the truck to the back of his moms house. Panicking b/c I can’t get in touch with him to get more information. Calling my mom to pick up poo and take her to her house until everything is finished. Waiting for the tow truck to get there to tow the truck.. following the tow truck to his ma’s house. Going back up to the jail to get some info. Learning that he’s in ther over a missed court date for a traffic violation. Waiting until the next morning to see what his bond will be to get out (barely sleeping). Getting up to go to court having to hear about 25 diff cases before he finally comes out, learning that his bond was $750. Cursing at myself b/c I wanted to use that money for something else. Paying the bond and waiting almost 5-6 hrs for them to let him out… (i ain’t doing that ish again…
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:54 pm
HurtsLoves So Good when you gush so strong it gets up his nose and he is blowing his nose on the sheet but smiling so hard at his accomplishment you can hear his jaws cracking.Elijah ....
November 13th, 2009
2:55 pm
Let it out Sassy that means when you are feeling good and happy, GOD comes to your mind! Let it flow! Let it flow!
Like IKD stated earlier it is my duty to please that booty and if you start shouting out the lord’s name, I know am pleasing dat booty!
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
2:57 pm
..for you Tazzee
love is like a trip abroad, but you didn’t pack your heart – he keeps it at home
love is like a football game – an high impact sport
love is preserving the chains to the heart
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
2:58 pm
love is like a trip abroad, but you didn’t pack your heart – he keeps it at home
Cemeeli, I like that.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
2:59 pm
Eli
smh at your 2:36….
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 13th, 2009
3:00 pm
Let it flow! Let it flow!
I did Eli….in more ways than one!!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
3:00 pm
Cemeeli, hear is one my parents taught me.
Love is when you kneel down beside the bed and pray together each night. A family that prays together, stays together.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
3:03 pm
Love is when I tripped over his baggage and feel in love and he now helps me carry mine.
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
3:03 pm
A friends love is…
when God gives them an assignment and they obey, becuase their heart is pure.
that’s for you Tazzee – My YOUR day be a blessing not only as a union of two, but a testimony to the downtrodden.
Let God’s blessin rest on it…
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
3:03 pm
If I don’t call God’s name at least one, he’s not doing it right.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
3:07 pm
Love is when he chews two oreo cookies and his teeth and gums are covered black and I kiss him anyway.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
3:08 pm
Love is understanding that his faults and mishaps shape him into the man that he is striving to be
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
3:09 pm
Love is looking beyond his mistakes and helping him to become stronger
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
3:10 pm
Love is being able to walk away….
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
3:12 pm
I was so waiting for your last post Dream_n! That is so very true!
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
3:13 pm
last but not least…
love is when you put your selfishness aside, and wait on God…