Hurts So Good
There is nothing like the emotions you go through when you are falling for someone. I liken it to what I think falling out of an airplane would feel, but I haven’t skydived yet so I am speculating. You are taking a calculated risk. You have your parachute and your tandem partner that you trust completely.
You take the leap and you have an initial feeling of utter bliss and joy. The moment you fall out feels surreal and unbelievable. Then perhaps you look at exactly how high you are and maybe start to panic a bit. You hope that your rip cord works and that you and your partner won’t fall too badly because you know it will hurt if your parachute doesn’t open.
I know this makes falling in love sound terrifying and exhilarating all at once. That’s kind of the point, really. It can be the best feeling in the world when it’s good. When it’s bad? Ouch. It doesn’t matter how scary it is, most of us won’t stop chasing that feeling of being in love.
Have you ever been in love? How would you describe the emotions? How did you know that it was love and not lust? What about that infatuation phase? Is it a dangerous thing to mistake infatuation for love or is that a natural part of it?
What do men think when they feel that first surge of strong emotions about a woman? What if they aren’t prepared for it and it catches them by surprise?
Recently, singer Alicia Keys asked an interesting love question on Twitter: “In love is it better to go for the choice that is smart or the choice that has spark?”
I am not sure if the smart choice would be without spark, wouldn’t that make it the settling choice? What are your thoughts?
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Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 13th, 2009
12:28 pm
Raqi – ^^^^5 on that 12:22
Love is laying on his chest and he’s rubbing your butt.
Love is when he LOVES the dress you are wearing (the one that accetuates all the right parts) and finds out you have no panties on underneath.
czBrat
November 13th, 2009
12:28 pm
DK i do believe you’re an undercover sweetheart. i’m willing to forgive you for disliking flip-flops
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:28 pm
Love is when he says “I got this” and you can lay your head down and sleep in peace.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:29 pm
DK i do believe you’re an undercover sweetheart
czBrat we peeped his tenderness long time ago. LOL
Ballwood
November 13th, 2009
12:30 pm
Raqi: I said it before and I will say it again. You are one quirky chick but you know how to keep your man. Keep it up! Oh and do you have a sister that would like to date? I just added an extension to my seat on my Chromed out Huffy with 22″ for a good woman.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:31 pm
Mo, love is those unexpected compliments or that wink of approval.
czBrat
November 13th, 2009
12:34 pm
LOL @ Raqi
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
12:36 pm
CZ – I can be a charming SOB specially when I want to do my duty and please that booty.. Afterall I am an Aquarius.. Float on playing in the background
I just like creative relations.. I like it to be interesting and not regular..
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:37 pm
Ballwood, my sister will chew you up and spit you out. Luckily her husband is a real cool cat and has about 4 more lives left before she totally destroys him. LOL
arSON (lol @ the hypocrisy)
November 13th, 2009
12:40 pm
I hereby appoint “SHE WHO IS LONG WINDED” queen of this here blog! all hail the queen!!!
*bowing*
*barfing*
and now *laughng*
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
12:40 pm
Love is waking up to him smiling and looking at you.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:41 pm
Love is when he puts his foot down and insists that he will not accompany you to another wedding or chick event but by the time you are ready to walk out the door he is standing there in that beautiful jet black suit looking all suave and debonair and smelling good ready escort like a king should.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:42 pm
Love is waking up to him smiling and looking at you
That can be creepy also. LOL
Professor
November 13th, 2009
12:42 pm
Although I would not call a lot of these post love (probably none of them) they do make for tender moments…
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
12:42 pm
Body heat dries the wet spot.
czBrat
November 13th, 2009
12:45 pm
WOW! i do have a weakness for the waterbearers DK.
now. with all this lustful chatter going on, how many ‘representatives’ are in the room today? i’m wondering if everyone would really put it down as they’ve claimed, or does this stuff just make ya *look* good in blogland???
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 13th, 2009
12:46 pm
Raqi – love the unexpected compliments and winks!
Professor
November 13th, 2009
12:46 pm
I think only a person’s partner can judge how well they put it down.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:46 pm
Love is when he….
Wipes your tears
Brushes your hair
Gives you a piggy back ride
Rubs your back
Makes you laugh
So gently fold your delicates
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:47 pm
If those folks don’t get here with our lunch imma go into a diabetic comma. LOL
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:48 pm
Body heat dries the wet spot
One more added to the list of the advantages of having a king sized bed. Avoiding the wet spot.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
12:50 pm
SMH @ your 12:42 Prof…. lol
Tender moments I do agree..
czBrat
November 13th, 2009
12:51 pm
love the unexpected compliments and winks!
Mo i just HATE those!
j/k that’s what really makes my heart go squish. those moments make it very difficult to resist the ‘fall’. *sigh*
Professor
November 13th, 2009
12:53 pm
Not sure of all the topics, but I see some tender moments here which made me go down memory lane and my heart smiled.
I will say this I have always been careful, and I have not had life to reside in my womb Arson I never saw myself with children by different men, being a single mother by choice or doing the blended family thing.
@ Dream…yea they are just tender moments, but the recipient may see it as love I just see gibber gabber
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
12:54 pm
Prof – cosign on the 1246p. I was thinking the other day about the discussion regarding sexual confidence. It really doesn’t matter how sexually confident I am if it’s not pleasing to my partner.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
12:55 pm
Donde esta los hombres hoy????
I wanted to know when they knew they had fallen in love with their woman….
arSON (lol @ the hypocrisy)
November 13th, 2009
12:55 pm
guys I would love to stick around, but my computer time is up @ the public library! I will leave you with this… the great Confucius once said ” keep an eye on your best friend because he will dick down your wife in the end”
hasta viernes puntas!
Professor
November 13th, 2009
12:56 pm
Yea SCool,
I read Super H E A D’s book and she mentioned how her PSH was not pleasing to one of her partners…you really have to learn the person you are with.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:56 pm
Feed me, Seymor.
Elijah ....
November 13th, 2009
12:58 pm
Good Afternoon Folks!
Hello Ms. Professor!
Hello Ms. Leggs!
I luv the ladies who are have spontaneous sexual combustion going inside and outside the bedroom! I get extra excited when I am performing like Mr. Swiss mentioned the other day and your eyes start rolling around and you are now exhausted from the continous O’ssss.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:58 pm
Don’t hate me because I am beautiful.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
1:01 pm
It really doesn’t matter how sexually confident I am if it’s not pleasing to my partner.
SexyCool and Professor I agree with that. What’s the use of doing it if we both aren’t enjoying.
(Well there are times under special circumstances to do it, but that’s a topic for another day.)
Professor
November 13th, 2009
1:03 pm
Hey Elijah
I would stick around and chat, but I am heading out in about 5 minutes I need to get some wings
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
1:04 pm
Prof
That’s so true.. Not everyone enjoys everything. What works for one may not work for the other. Gotta be careful with that one… it can be quite embarassing lol
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
1:06 pm
My sleep number is 65. My blood sugar is 60.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
1:07 pm
I get extra excited when I am performing
Why was that funny to me..
Elijah ....
November 13th, 2009
1:07 pm
Love is taking your SO on 3 day weekend vacation for 3 days full of eating,sexing,eating and sexing!
Luv is becoming a master of what your SO like in the bedroom, and how your SO like it bedroom.
Will someone send the real Dream_n back to the blog this week dream_m is a closet _ _ _ _ _.
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
1:08 pm
Awww shucks now…all these tender moments have me misty eyed cuz I ain’t gots me no love! Really, J/K!
Wise Diva
November 13th, 2009
1:09 pm
there are some really sad and miserable people in the world, goodness. I feel bad for them
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
1:10 pm
Hi Elijah…pray tell, what list did you put me on? I like to know whose company I’m keeping.
Wise Diva
November 13th, 2009
1:11 pm
and Dream_n – ok now I completely hold you responsible for the freakiness level of the blog, you are the culprit. LOL! I’m going to have to start calling you spice girl
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
1:12 pm
Love is when you get that text message that says “muah”.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 13th, 2009
1:18 pm
Umm okay so with it being Friday and all let me just say that when I saw the title I thought it was gonna be one of those convos but I see it’s not
Moving on….
Wise said it best with “This is especially crucial to me because I battle indifference and apathy with men sometimes, not only can I picture them out the door, I can see myself putting my foot on their back to help them out
This is soo where I am right now….
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 13th, 2009
1:18 pm
SCool – mail call chica
Professor
November 13th, 2009
1:19 pm
Weekend getaways are the best…messing up the hotel’s sheets…lol
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
1:21 pm
@SassyMe, I said the same thing with my first post.
BSandwich
November 13th, 2009
1:22 pm
Love is when socializing with your friends at a party and if she’s talking with her friends on the other side of the room, looking at her and winking.
Wise Diva
November 13th, 2009
1:22 pm
bwahaha! You guys have to hand it to me, I bring my A game with some of these titles for the blog entries. hehehe. Actually, it’s slightly mean of me to be so misleading. Forgive me?
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
1:23 pm
lol @ Elijah The real Dream_n is standing up lol
Sometimes you gotta let loose!
@ WD
NO, blame swiss!!!
I still had that mental pic when I went home last night!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
1:26 pm
“Hurts So Good” is when them dang hip and thigh muscles done got that workout and you are reminded with every step you take. Ride ‘im Cowgirl.