Hurts So Good
There is nothing like the emotions you go through when you are falling for someone. I liken it to what I think falling out of an airplane would feel, but I haven’t skydived yet so I am speculating. You are taking a calculated risk. You have your parachute and your tandem partner that you trust completely.
You take the leap and you have an initial feeling of utter bliss and joy. The moment you fall out feels surreal and unbelievable. Then perhaps you look at exactly how high you are and maybe start to panic a bit. You hope that your rip cord works and that you and your partner won’t fall too badly because you know it will hurt if your parachute doesn’t open.
I know this makes falling in love sound terrifying and exhilarating all at once. That’s kind of the point, really. It can be the best feeling in the world when it’s good. When it’s bad? Ouch. It doesn’t matter how scary it is, most of us won’t stop chasing that feeling of being in love.
Have you ever been in love? How would you describe the emotions? How did you know that it was love and not lust? What about that infatuation phase? Is it a dangerous thing to mistake infatuation for love or is that a natural part of it?
What do men think when they feel that first surge of strong emotions about a woman? What if they aren’t prepared for it and it catches them by surprise?
Recently, singer Alicia Keys asked an interesting love question on Twitter: “In love is it better to go for the choice that is smart or the choice that has spark?”
I am not sure if the smart choice would be without spark, wouldn’t that make it the settling choice? What are your thoughts?
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Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:45 am
@SCool ~ you have detention for that!
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:46 am
M.
Some women try to get you where it’ll hurt the most and that’s in your pockets.
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
11:46 am
It’s just a cycle…every so often it happens. Spats on here happen frequently.
tiring…but yea…
M – Go with your gut. Some relationships are “business” anyways.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:46 am
Infamous – Love is when I don’t pocket that couple of twenties that fell out of your pocket in the wash. LOL I love you too much to steal from you.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:48 am
Love is when he makes my lunch for me while I get the baby dressed and fed.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:48 am
Honestly I only know one married person on the blog.. Well 2 if you count I wanna hit you right now Melo.. I like to hear Raq speak because its good to see her come froma bitter scorned chick to a housewife.. Its progression.. It gives me a staunch track shoes on runner from relationships that my sweet thang is out there.. I aint saying marriage but she is out there..
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
11:50 am
Love is when I don’t pocket that couple of twenties that fell out of your pocket in the wash. LOL I love you too much to steal from you.
Raqi –
Can’t you just say to that – Baby, thanks for leaving that for me. I need it for ____ anyway…you’re so sweet.
But you’re right…just sayin.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:52 am
Love is when I pat your booty while were talking to friends or family and we immediately have to go..
czBrat
November 13th, 2009
11:52 am
well, i was trying to avoid the smut posts, but i surely don’t like the fight soooooo …. carry on blog buds! i’ll fan myself while i read
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 13th, 2009
11:53 am
@Cemeeli
True That!
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:54 am
Cee
I like that response lol
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:54 am
No it obvious I don’t put too much time in reading cowards…now kiss my azz you coward azz bytch that likes to slither in and change your moniker. Why not be upfront? Dang I forgot fear keeps you hidden behind your computer and you still change your name? Whew you are such a trashy punk…grow some balls even if they are blue.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:54 am
Love is H E A D all the way home after we just left our friends and family.. With me having my hand down your pants..
Trust it can be doone its an art to driving and fondling..
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:56 am
LOL Cemeeli. I think that man’s love for me and his money are running neck-and-neck.
Me: Mason, I found $40 in the wash, is it yo….
Him: Where is it? Give it to me.
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:57 am
Never saw returning money as love…I have told the customer in front of me at QT dropped your money. I always thought of it as just the right thing to do regardless of my relationship with the person
Rell - da rake
November 13th, 2009
11:57 am
what it do…whats cracking in this piece today
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 13th, 2009
11:57 am
I personally like hearing Raqi’s POV as well. I want another long term relationship so Raqi (along with some folks off the blog) provide some positive examples. Cause Lawd knows there are enough unhappily married folks out there….
Infamous – keep’em coming. That 11:52 is it Boo!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 13th, 2009
11:57 am
Whats up Rell, how do?
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:58 am
Love is when I pat your booty while were talking to friends or family and we immediately have to go..
LOL That ain’t love, but hell it is sho damn good.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:58 am
Cee – No that wouldnt be right cause thats his money.. Now if you give it to him and he gives it to you cool.. but dont do it like that..
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:58 am
its an art to driving and fondling…
LOL…as long as we are not in my car!
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
11:59 am
WillieD, Ctha1, PoppaG, Raqi, Melo, Swiss, mqew…..all married, right?
Tazzee, JtJ…and i think Hef, are soon to be…
good mix.
Professor
November 13th, 2009
12:00 pm
Rell you are putting out some good ones…I need to wrap up my reports and I may go get some wings for lunch
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:00 pm
Infamous imma follow your lead.
Love is when we are sitting at the table having dinner at a friends house you subtly slide your hand halfway up my skirt.
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
12:01 pm
@ Infamous – I’m just talking. I’m not bout to take nothing he aint giving me…
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
12:02 pm
Although marriage is not the a venue I want to attend.
It’s great to hear everyones POV whether their married, stable relationships, or just dating.
I enjoy diversity and this blog gives me that on a daily basis..
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:04 pm
Love is when he’s got me helmed up against the car in the far end of the parking lot near the bushes and I can feel every throb of that pulsating slong pressed against my cashmere making her flow fluids like the Victoria Falls.
Rell - da rake
November 13th, 2009
12:04 pm
i love raqi..that women is real and learned from her setbacks…love her loyalty..keep spitting love this place would be boring without you and your honesty
@professor…i am putting out some good ones?
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
12:04 pm
I have a comment, but let’s just say I’ve been told!
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
12:04 pm
i like putting on a coat or jacket and find some money you didn’t remember leaving. It’s like “gifting” yourself.
do it all the time.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
12:06 pm
Cee – I got you.. Now if you come up to me nekkid with that same 40 bucks in your hand I might not even trip on it.. See how that works.. Seduction is a dangerous brew for a dude..
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
12:07 pm
@Raqi ~ pure d LUST (12:04) wrapped with the silver lining of LOVE!
Professor
November 13th, 2009
12:07 pm
Sorry Rell I meant DK…
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
12:08 pm
Well, i don’t listen to Raqi – she’ll get cha pregnant. But we do make purty(pretty) babies…
lunchtime!
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
12:09 pm
Shucky Darn…..Don’t mind me…just felt like typing that. LMAO!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:11 pm
Love is when I throw on leg out the bed in the morning attempting to start my and he catch me by other pulling back into his “loving” embrace.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:12 pm
Love is getting off the phone before I attempt to type anything else. LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
12:15 pm
Love is a sweet kiss and a deep look into her eyes as we lay, while running my fingers thru her hair.. Or if she has a short cut one hand massaging that scalp, softly..
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:17 pm
Now if you come up to me nekkid with that same 40 bucks in your hand I might not even trip on it
Infamous, I put his car key down in my pants once to stop him from leaving. He said “now you know I don’t have a problem reaching in getting that right?” Well he did reach in to get it, however no only did he not leave, WE didn’t leave the house for three whole days.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
12:17 pm
Love is when your boo is standing in the line at some store and all the dudes are checking her out, while you casually stroll up and feel on her booty..
czBrat
November 13th, 2009
12:19 pm
Love is when he asks me at 8:30 am what I want him to pick up for dinner on his way home so there will be no wasted time between coming through the door and falling into each others’ arms for the evening.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
12:20 pm
Love is washing her hair in the sink and after rinsing the conditioner out pull her pants down to help let her hair air dry.. You know with all the heat of the hair dryer.. Heat non the less but without the dryer..
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
12:20 pm
Love is a special massage under his jacket at the movies.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
12:20 pm
without the heat of the hair dryer..
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:21 pm
Love is when you are standing line, Infamous, and she (I) lean my head on his arm and inhale his wonderful aroma that puts a smile on my face and makes the kitty jump, jump. LOL
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:22 pm
Love is washing her hair. Period.
arSON
November 13th, 2009
12:25 pm
love is… NOT dicking down your ex hubby (may he RIP) best friend!
*you may not continue with your regular schedule broadcasting*
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:25 pm
Love is when he understands these words “Baby I am just tired tonight”, like I did last night. LOL
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
12:26 pm
Love is a special massage under his jacket at the movies.
LOL SexyCool, Yep.
arSON
November 13th, 2009
12:27 pm
love is… ensuring that all of your off spring have the same last name!!