Hurts So Good
There is nothing like the emotions you go through when you are falling for someone. I liken it to what I think falling out of an airplane would feel, but I haven’t skydived yet so I am speculating. You are taking a calculated risk. You have your parachute and your tandem partner that you trust completely.
You take the leap and you have an initial feeling of utter bliss and joy. The moment you fall out feels surreal and unbelievable. Then perhaps you look at exactly how high you are and maybe start to panic a bit. You hope that your rip cord works and that you and your partner won’t fall too badly because you know it will hurt if your parachute doesn’t open.
I know this makes falling in love sound terrifying and exhilarating all at once. That’s kind of the point, really. It can be the best feeling in the world when it’s good. When it’s bad? Ouch. It doesn’t matter how scary it is, most of us won’t stop chasing that feeling of being in love.
Have you ever been in love? How would you describe the emotions? How did you know that it was love and not lust? What about that infatuation phase? Is it a dangerous thing to mistake infatuation for love or is that a natural part of it?
What do men think when they feel that first surge of strong emotions about a woman? What if they aren’t prepared for it and it catches them by surprise?
Recently, singer Alicia Keys asked an interesting love question on Twitter: “In love is it better to go for the choice that is smart or the choice that has spark?”
I am not sure if the smart choice would be without spark, wouldn’t that make it the settling choice? What are your thoughts?
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Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:00 am
The mental picture I have knowing you’re about to pour honey, whip cream whatever you like and eat off me gets the engine roaring.
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
11:00 am
Well darn Dream_n – okay…
let’s see more “Or” ’cause you’re somewhere…lol…
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:01 am
…there is nothing like being awakened by the tongue, instead of the alarm clock. That tongue needs to start at the neck and end at the Y
Disclaimer…please kindly skip my post if you don’t like the content, because for the next 30 minutes if not for the entire day I am going to go at it!
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
11:03 am
Raqi – you don’t need to add an “Or” maam, you’re just “in” it…but not Love though…you on “that stuff!”
hahaha
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:03 am
I hear ya’ Leggs I am a full course meal…pour the chicken gravy on me if you have to…LOl
Where is Melo?
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:05 am
“…rolls you over nibbling your neck while he mounts you and well…” I actually snorted reading that line!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:07 am
Prof – Thats right.. Squirming is good..
Leggs – Well Damn.. Honey and Whip Cream?
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:08 am
Ok, Professor, I’ll try to keep up with you.
@Dream_n, nothing to be scared of. It’s very exhilarating being bad in public!
@Elijah, you’ve been summoned before the court!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:09 am
Im telling ya’ll pulling over in a parking garage and getting to it is the best.. Especially downtown at night, anything goes leaving peter st..
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
11:10 am
Three Words Daily – God fixes things.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 13th, 2009
11:10 am
Here we go….
To get my juices flowing…kisses on ‘that spot’ on the back of my neck, rubbing the small of my back, whispering/kissing my ear, playing in my hair
Or
him being straight out of the shower fresh, catching him off guard (he’s watching the game but you CAN get his ahem, attention)
okay back on topic, I agree with Dream_n I like love. I dont expect it to be perfect but I do expect it to be genuine, selfless, respectful and reciprocated
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:11 am
STAMINA
I need stamina. I am an all nighter.. I’ll give you breaks
but when the blood is flowing and the juices are running….. You have to be able to keep up.
It’s something almost exciting and exhilarating about S!X and the one you love.. It’s powerful I tell ya powerful.
If this is a dating blog...
November 13th, 2009
11:12 am
…and I have been reading it for quite some time, why the F do we have all these married folks chiming in?
And Professor, you are one big tease, but I like your dream world! So, as Rod Stewart sang, “spread your wings and let me come (mispelled on purpose) inside”!
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:13 am
Dream_n, I say be bold and take it there. With the model homes usually the onsite agent will show you around, but if there are two or three model homes they will show you the first one and you are on your own with the other homes or just say we are going to check these last two homes out and we will stop by your office on the way out. Go in the master bedroom closet or bathroom…hell take the bed and do a quickie or some SUPER Heavy foreplay…
There is nothing like being freaky and bold while on vacation…
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
11:14 am
Happy love is a beautiful thing. I wish I knew more genuinely happy couples.
As to the topic – I’m kinda living this right now and er, um, well…my emotions are too jumbled up to speak clearly on it. Just picture me humming and smiling and raving unto the joy fantastic.
But more than anything, feel me being over the moon that we find ourselves moving to the same rhythm, at the same time, to the same depth of emotion. THAT is what is most magical.
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:14 am
Squirming, trying to get away is fun, even when you bump your head on the headboard!
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:15 am
Leggs
I just might have to try that one..
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:15 am
Prof – Speaking of being awakened.. There is nothing like being awakened to a cute set of lips around Desmond.. I tell ya.. Thats the quickest way to get some.. Like the little Boy Max said in Where the Wild Things Are “Let The Royal Rompus begin”..
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:17 am
If you were verbally teased by me it means your sorry, lame azz did not meet the criteria and I was trying to let you keep some PRIDE! Stop changing your moniker and hiding out like a bytch it is not cute!
As for the married folks always talking…I will let them handle that.
Back to DK not peter street!
I remember there was so much traffic leaving the Prince concert and we were stuck trying to get out. We finally just made out and did a few things right there in the lot…
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:18 am
Hey there are erogenous zones all over the body and I study them on each person.. My favorite is the back of the knees.. H3ll I even like to bite ya booty a little..
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:20 am
@ Prof
I think I would be worried about someone coming in lol… I ain’t there yet… but it does sound exciting.
MsM
November 13th, 2009
11:20 am
H3ll I even like to bite ya booty a little..
Well, right on man!
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:21 am
@If this is…some of the married folks live vicariously through this blog. You know who the Chief is, right?
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:23 am
I tell you what, one the biggest misuse of words is “making love” when referring to sexual intercourse.
Making love is thru deeds and actions that take place around the house, outside of the house, when you two are miles apart.
Getting between the sheets is just expressing gratitude for and sharing of the love that has been made elsewhere.
Elizabeth Adalyn is a product of our expression of love. LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:24 am
I also like to watch it release its love juices.. That is a good one for me.. I like to see her get to where she wants to be and all that extra lube is all over me.. Face included..
How could I have been "verbally" teased...
November 13th, 2009
11:24 am
… when this is a written blog? Obviously you are not an English professor! And, you have no idea who I am, so please try not to equate me with your other “lame azz” acquaintances – it takes a real beotch to call someone to whom you are not acquainted a “bytch”.
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:26 am
@Dream_n, when you do, it will be a memory forever etched in your memory.
I remember getting my groove on on my deck in the snow.
I’ve heard some names but never a “Desmond.”
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
11:26 am
I actually don’t consider the married folks as living vicariously. I see them providing insight from the other side most often.
Because really, there is nothing so great to be vicariuosly lived through most of what we share. We’re kind of a humdrum regular kind of crew, some buppies, some BAPS, some all american girls and guys, our resident African, the expected white guy, the young ones, the old ones, the wise asses and me. ~giggling~
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:27 am
Leggs – Desmond the D is special..
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:28 am
Naw..
I like the term “making love”.
“That is a good one for me.. I like to see her get to where she wants to be and all that extra lube is all over me.. Face included..”
Well Dam!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:29 am
Raqi – Thats your version of love.. My version of love consists of High Heels, a apron and a home cooked meal.. The gratitude to be shown immediately after the meal.. Preferably on the kitchen table.. I’m just saying..
Cemeeli
November 13th, 2009
11:30 am
“I actually don’t consider the married folks as living vicariously. I see them providing insight from the other side most often.”
agree…
@ Mo – You got pop corn today?
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
11:30 am
IDK – I like how you think.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:31 am
You know what I like too, is when He’s tasting the rainbow and it’s sooo good that you try to pull away to get your senses right, and he takes his hands grabs your hips and pulls you even closer to his mouth and just starts devouring you like it’s his last supper!! AAHHAHA!!!! I love it!
Professor
November 13th, 2009
11:32 am
You are a stupid Bytch if you think English Professors are the only ones exist go study your GED book and let your lame azz lurk the rest of the day. If you were so real your dumb coward azz would not have to slither in here under a different moniker. Now enough of me playing with trash…I am back to teasing on Freaky Friday.
Oh yea I am a Bytch…that is how I ruffled your raggly azz feathers when you read me sucker!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:33 am
SexyCool now you know don’t no married person know anything about dating. Hell I wouldn’t even know where to begin when it comes to talking about dating a man, learning what it takes to make a relationship bloom. Hell actually knowing what it takes to deal with a man on the daily and getting insight to how he thinks. Ain’t no married woman gone know anything about that. Didn’t you know that girl?
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 13th, 2009
11:34 am
How could I have been “verbally” teased…
Why all the hostility today?
It’s friday.. folks are going to enjoy the weekend… Get off on the blog posts and genuinely enjoy themselves… Join in
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:34 am
Sexy – You know I like how you think.. Ummm Hmmmm
MELO
November 13th, 2009
11:36 am
Where is Melo?
Taking notes honey..back to school again. With this MIA crowd u learn eveday.
Always a learner myself!
Carry On!
Morning!!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:37 am
Infamous Love is when I season that steak without the overload of salt and put it on the grill without dropping it first and serving it on a plate that has not been licked by a dog, even after that hardarse has acted like a jackarse.
That’s love. Clean, healthy service with a smile. LOL
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:38 am
@Raqi, I feel the same way. Making love and sexing is not the same thing. I have said it many times!
Geez, Professor...
November 13th, 2009
11:39 am
…what a low class skank you must be! And your writing abilities “if you think English Professors are the only ones exist” – what the heck does that mean? I said you must NOT be an English professor – your reading comprenhension is lacking, too. Me thinks thou needs a new moniker under which to write since you have blown your cover using this one!
M. (pronounced M dot)
November 13th, 2009
11:40 am
@Raqi…Living love in progress
Great point. The dating game is always changing. People out of the game don’t really have a clue like someone who is out here in the game. What worked for someone in 1988 probably is irrelevant now.
@Blog
I have a question, what does love really have to do with anything? Does it serve as a blinder to reality in the dating game?
Its interesting because yesterday I attened a business mixer in midtown and had a great time. I met a guy who is a divorce attorney I asked what was the biggest divorce that he closed lately….He told me just last week, he closed a deal for a HNWI where she got 2 homes, 6 cars, and $55 Million! What happened to all the love and bliss and why did it cost him $55 million? The guy said M., I dont care what you have to do. Get a PRENUP!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:40 am
Raqi – Love is me getting you where you need to be and fore going the getting me where I need to be.. Making sure youre good before me.. And thats sexually or whatever..
SexyCool - 13 is my favorite number.
November 13th, 2009
11:40 am
And to your question about what you like the new boo to do…..hell, at this point, all MND has to do is touch me most of the dern time.
But er, um…him putting hickies on my tummy right above my tattoo…Well, that’s why I just got to work at 11a.
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:40 am
Yep, Leggs ’cause too many out there having sex and love is no where to be found. Hell a bunch of them don’t even like each other.
Leggs
November 13th, 2009
11:41 am
Sure should have said some of them live vicariously. I say that to mean the stuff they say here they wouldn’t say to their mates. The married ones that flirt with other bloggers are in fact living vicariously on this blog. No doubt, they all offer a slew of insight. But vicariously, some of them are living!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 13th, 2009
11:41 am
Raqi – And thats not love what you spoke off.. Thats a good upbringing because you do right in spite of..
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 13th, 2009
11:41 am
Infamous – you are my dude!
sparking some memories, WHEW!
Dream_n – public places are a go chica! You just have to be at that point where you just dont give a phluck! TOTALLY co-signing that 11:31
Cemeeli – I keep popcorn on deck chica, you know we never can tell what may pop off in here!
Raqi...Living love in progress
November 13th, 2009
11:43 am
Making sure youre good before me.. And thats sexually or whatever..
Now that is spot on right there Infamous. Love is putting the other person needs before your own. Or at least right up there next to yours.