I’ve heard a lot of my single friends voice concerns about getting to know a person and making the decision to get in a relationship with them. Whether you meet online, at church, or through friends, you still have to put in the work and effort it takes to peel away the layers of a person’s personality.
My male friends are especially concerned about women who impersonate a sane and mature woman when she is really the exact opposite. Psycho and immature women are the leading cause of property destruction and restraining orders. (Ok, I just made that up but you know what I am saying!)
Men have a real fear of falling for the wrong woman who has pretended to be someone she’s not just to land him. I think this is one of the main men don’t like us to change after they get with us. Why is she changing after I am “all in to her” and who is she now?!
My friends and I have literally found that some men not only are posers, they actually make up or omit a lot about themselves in an effort to gain our trust. Yesterday we talked about full disclosure in dating. What happens when you get false information?
Have you found that there are a lot of posers in dating? What do you think it takes to protect ourselves from this type?
Maybe this is all the more reason to seek out the low-key, non-flashy types of people. Usually the quiet and cool people don’t feel the need to advertise themselves. Why do they get overlooked so much on the dating scene?
Ladies, do you ever feel like you are Alice in Wonderland surrounded by all these characters that confuse you? How do you handle it? Are you mindful of not being a poser or appearing as one when you date someone?