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Full Disclosure

In an attempt to understand the male psyche, I asked a few men the question that a lot of women have pondered.  Why won’t men tell everything? I got a lot of great insight about this.  Apparently, it’s one of those “be careful what you wish for” kind of things that we think we want but probably won’t like it.

What makes some men avoid telling it all is the reactions they think they will get once the disclose what they are truly thinking.  It’s not about any fear (well not physical fear, hopefully) of women, but it is the dread of getting the cold shoulder, bad attitudes, and having the sex come to a screeching hault.

It takes a long time for some men to even trust their mate with their inner thoughts.  During that time, he is observing how the woman responds to stress, disappointment, anger, etc.  This tells him a lot about her character and maturity.  Once they get that trust, often times they are more willing to share with you what they are thinking and feeling.

Guys, when do you feel that you can give full disclosure to the women you are dating? How can a woman show that she is trustworthy?  Why are some men drawn to the type of woman they can’t trust fully and stay in a relationship with her?

Ladies, have you ever dated someone who told you everything? I am talking full disclosure and honesty about who he was, his intentions, etc. Was it a great experience? Did you find that you had to adjust to that type of honesty all the time?

When you are exploring a relationship, do you want to know everything about the person you are dating?

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For Real

November 11th, 2009
12:54 pm

Raqi: “There is something about you menfolk having your guard down in your nekkidness.” – So long as I have socks I’m good to go. Beside women always aim for the wang.

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
12:58 pm

ForReal, man come on. You know how things just happen. LOL It’s not like I initiate the deep convos. Things just have a tendency to find that path sometimes. Hell it takes too much energy trying to remember “okay I am not allowed to speak of XYZ while he is washing his balls” in addition to not talking about certain things right after he gets, while he watching the game, while he is punching numbers on his calculator, while he taking a nap, and so on. LOL

Hell if left up to you all no time is the right time. I’ll make a deal, if no other time is the right time, that time when you want to get some and your attention is on me, that will be the time to talk. After we talk we can move on to other business. LOL

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
1:00 pm

Beside women always aim for the wang.

That’s funny as hell but you all probably do think that. LOL

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
1:03 pm

Lunch= A chicken ceasar salad on pita bread with a side order of fries.
Fruit punch for a drink and 1 slice of pecan pie to top it off…. :) yummmm

okay back on topic..

Leggs

November 11th, 2009
1:16 pm

Lunch – tortilla wrap with honey ham with alpha sprouts, cucumber, lettuce, tomato and ranch dressing downed with a Fanta Orange!

Leggs

November 11th, 2009
1:24 pm

@Raqi, what was the final verdict….smorthered chops or chicken fettucinni (sp?)?

czBrat

November 11th, 2009
1:25 pm

lunch – t.b.d. probably gonna treat myself to that steak homewrecker i’ve been craving all week (if i make it through this last hearing without strangling my son!!) :)

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

Lunch = Cracked pepper turkey on honey wheat bread, with romaine lettuce, tomatoes, spicy mustard and smoked gouda cheese. Washing it down with Lipton Citrus Green Tea.

MELO

November 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

There is something about you menfolk having your guard down in your nekkidness

so its ur man and who else who do this u observed??

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
1:29 pm

Leggs, the chops with mashed potatoes and steamed green beans.

MELO

November 11th, 2009
1:32 pm

Altho i will say this,there is some wrinkle of truth to it.(u a darn good playa Raqi)! :lol:

Evey man will give a lil inch,as long as she is not attacking his anatomy,to an equally nekked lady,esp when they about to do it.
Its just being charitable,esp just be4 u make her all lay down,missionary or from the back.
Its only charitable to want to attemtp to give an inch in those circumstances. :lol:

Tazzee - Give Us Free!

November 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

Afternoon Folks!

My fiance’ pretty much knows everything. The one thing that I usually don’t tell folks, I told him – without being asked. We were having dinner and I felt that he needed to know. There might be some other things he doesn’t know – but it’s because he didn’t ask and I don’t think it’s a big deal.

Professor and Cemeeli – I was at Subway and asked for lemon peppers on my sandwich instead of banana peppers….it’s about that time, LOL.

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

Melo, thinking back I can say that I kinda remember whitebread being like that. My first husband and I were so young I didn’t really pay attention to much and he really didn’t have guard to put up at the time.

SexyCool - Something Church About Me

November 11th, 2009
1:45 pm

Lunch – Stouffer’s spaghetti with meat sauce and steamed spinach. Water.

(Exciting, huh?)

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
1:46 pm

Oh gymtime 4 lunch,…And what i ate for lunch is – Crab salad (i made it – yay!) and flat bread chips…green tea…

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
1:48 pm

Tazzee – I like how you operate.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 11th, 2009
1:48 pm

Lunch – Potato from Jason’s Deli (Pollo Mexicano) with some Mango tea

See ya’ll after I eat! :smile:

SCool – I actually love Stouffer’s Lasagna (when I dont feel like making it…talk about time consumming)

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
1:49 pm

lol @ the popular Lipton greentea…i had sparkling raspberry.

SexyCool - Something Church About Me

November 11th, 2009
1:49 pm

Cemeeli – I so applaud you on the lunchtime gym dedication.

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
1:55 pm

@ SexyCool – Thanks…my stuff is fallin’…hahaha…you know what i’m talking about.

That Stouffers lasagna is perfect for anytime you don’t wanna make it yourself. folks like their mac n cheese too. Marie Challender’s makes decent pot pies…

Leggs

November 11th, 2009
1:58 pm

On full disclosure, how many of you would date a person who spent 10 years in jail for robbery as a teenager? You know being young and dumb, but has since grown up??

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:00 pm

LOL Melo. If we are about to do it there is a very good chance that we are not discussing much or disagreeing about anything?

What is funny though, I did something twice and the first time I just did it out of frustration. Upon observing something that happened, the second time I did it on purpose just to confirm what I thought I noticed the first time.

That ^ sentence rambled on kinda like you do. LOL

But anyhoo, we were disagreeing…no we were arguing once and we were both in the closet getting undressed. I was frustrated with him so I balled up my shirt and threw it at him. He is pretty quick and he knocked it to the floor and said “aight stop throwing stuff at me”. We continued to talk and when I took off my cami I balled it up and threw it at him. He caught it. We said a few more words then I went in to take a shower. I turned back to get my robe and not only was he still holding my cami but he put it to his nose and smelled it.

Several months later we were having a mild disagreement and we were in our bedroom. Again getting undressed. I took off my shirt and was getting ready to put it on the bed but then decided to ball it up and throw it at him. He caught it and threw it back. I was well aware of what I was doing. I was into finding out what he was going to do with the slip this time than I was into what we were talking about. So I took of my slip and threw it at him and told him to stop being a hardarse. Just like I thought he may do, he caught it and held on to it. I went into the bathroom and came back out he was laying back against the bed still holding the slip then he threw it at me. What happened after that is not in line with what we are discussing. LOL

But I now know a new tactic. LOL Toss my recently worn delicates at his head and he will simmer down. Yall get distracted my our feminine essence.

Not really but something like that.

Leggs

November 11th, 2009
2:01 pm

Of course grown up. You know what I meant!

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:01 pm

I like the Stouffers lasagna also. Never had the spaghetti.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:02 pm

I have yet to prepare lasgna, but the Stouffers lasagna I have to agree is very tasty..

For Real

November 11th, 2009
2:02 pm

Lunch = Big Arse burger from Tited Kilts. Hooters is in trouble.

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:02 pm

Leggs Juvenile offenses are excusable.

Leggs

November 11th, 2009
2:06 pm

@Raqi, cute story. I was told I was old fashioned because I wear slips. A person told me if someone could see through their clothes, they had no problem with it. Well, I don’t think it’s a nice look so I still wear a slip.

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:06 pm

Dream_n, I make lasagna at least once a month. I only buy the frozen kind for when we are going out and I can just throw in the oven for the lad to eat while we are out.

It’s not my favorite dish to make because there are too many steps but if I say so myself it taste pretty good.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:09 pm

Leggs..

Not that I could prolly work with.. As long as it was a “1″ time offense and it was in his adolecent/juvenile/hardheaded years…

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
2:09 pm

yes i am tooting my own horn. My lasagna is that business…and they’ve all said it is so…

they = girlfriends i know can cook, momma, co-workers…AND…drumroll…the behind scenes staff from “While You Were Out”

Yea, i was on that show…

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:11 pm

Raqi

Yesterday my mom had me make spaghetti. She sat back and told me what to do and in the end it came out fairly well. Not exactly like hers, but close.

I know you would appreciate this, given the prayer you lead on my first day on here.

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
2:12 pm

@ Leggs – Where are all the full slips?

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:13 pm

Leggs

My dresses and skirts are too tight to wear slips…. *shrugs*…

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:14 pm

Cemeeli were you really? Did they do a good job? I used to watch it and I thought the materials they used were sorta crappy. What were you final thoughts about it?

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:15 pm

Yep Leggs I am slip and camisole wearer. My momz instilled it in me.

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
2:15 pm

@ Dream_n – Do you own one? No, every dress skirt don’t need a slip.

Tazzee - Give Us Free!

November 11th, 2009
2:16 pm

For Real – When they opened that Tilted Kilts place, I wondered about it. Then I saw a commercial while watching college football. Yeah, I won’t be going there to eat, LOL.

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:16 pm

Dream what did you do with the sauce? Scratch or Jar.

MELO

November 11th, 2009
2:17 pm

Raqi, well i think u have a way of putting ur thoghts across to ur man when in a ceratain situation.Im sure it has its effecct.

Wld u consider that as u manipulating him in some way…coz ur man comes across as not the argumentatrive type,no wonder the continous holding pof the shirt etc…kinda shocked and caring that u angry at the same time….
Right??

Now me and Queen dont do that.

When she angry,more than likely, im angry too,so we just eye ball each other,silently,like 2 bulls about to fight. :lol:

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:18 pm

Cee..

No, I don’t own own either.

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
2:18 pm

Crappy! Ding..ding..ding…ddddddDINGIIIIIING!

Yup Raqi

The work was redone less that six weeks after they’d came for the show. This was one of my close friend mini manison and she wanted a new spin on her husband’s “cave”…he is a Marine, and girl lemme tell you how we were looking at the finished WHILE on camera.

:shock: :razz: :shock:

Raqi

November 11th, 2009
2:18 pm

every dress skirt don’t need a slip

Yes it does. LOL

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:20 pm

Jar.

Ragu w/ meat is what it was called… but ironically there was no meat in there… Go figure

SexyCool - Something Church About Me

November 11th, 2009
2:20 pm

Is this National Shoot Up the Workplace month? Two dead, two wounded in Oregon….WTH?

Leggs

November 11th, 2009
2:20 pm

What happened “While You Were Out?” Never heard of the show. Did you guys come in take over someone’s something?

@Raqi ~ I’ve made lasagna from scratch once. It was my ex’s favorite meal. He truly enjoyed it. But it’s work to make.

Cemeeli

November 11th, 2009
2:20 pm

@ Raqi – No it don’t…i can wear some of mine without a slip…Or…are you being facetious?

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:21 pm

You can’t put a slip under those “herve ledger” dresses. You sould just look all bunchy…

Willie Dynamite

November 11th, 2009
2:23 pm

Afternoon All –

Full Disclosure is a definite no go. Even being married I am smart enough to know that nothing ever ever ever will be better with full disclosure. Now I will tell the truth 99% of the time but it will not be the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Most men will take the path of least resistance. I mean if I had the choice of telling you a partial truth but truth nontheless vs the whole truth and another 30 minute discussion then its a no brainer.
I however, will and always have been been totally forthcoming about my intentions.

Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first

November 11th, 2009
2:23 pm