It’s Complicated
There seems to be an attitudinal shift in men when they meet a sexually confident woman. Of course, the type of shift depends on the man and his outlook and moral values. It can put some men at ease because he knows that there is an experienced woman who is comfortable with herself and her sexuality.
While other men may wonder if she is truly confident as she says. A confident woman won’t trade sex for love. There is no need to use sex to validate her. She doesn’t think sex will get or keep a man in a relationship.
What does the traditional man think of sexually confident women? What about the modern guy? Are the younger men today more confident with a sexually confident woman then their older counterparts?
Ladies, do you feel comfortable discussing sex when you meet men? Are you the one to bring the topic up? Do you think find that the men you date are judgmental about your perception of sex? How do you handle that?
Guys, when you meet women who are sexually confident, what kind of response do you have? Are you surprised? Is it a turn off? Do you think women should keep it to themselves until you two become involved?
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mytw♥cents... WWMy2D?
November 10th, 2009
8:57 am
Well first, I think there’s probably a wide variance in people’s definition of ’sexually confident.’ I’d be surprised if what lots of men will say is sexual confidence isn’t what I’d just consider as forward. So there are like two or three Jedi Mind tricks wrapped up in this one…
Dan
November 10th, 2009
9:01 am
Yeah, I’m kinda wondering myself what you’re talking about WD.
There really isn’t a definition (contextual or otherwise) for the term. So how are you defining ’sexually confident’?
mytw♥cents... WWMy2D?
November 10th, 2009
9:25 am
Generally, I enjoy hearing the male POV, often already agree with it and/or am ready to take stock in it. However, when it comes to women being very aggressive and/or very sexually expressive from the gate, I doubt I’ll ever believe the whole “We don’t hold it against you,” rhetoric. Why not? I’d hold it against me. It’s colored my view of me in the past when I wasn’t the aggressor, but allowed a quick progression, so it only stands to follow.
I can’t imagine me initiating a convo about sex up front, although I’d participate in a (non vulgar) chat if it’s not like 15 seconds after we met. If it’s too soon, I’d just say sumthin like that’s a bit much at this juncture, maybe I’ll share my thoughts on that in the near future, tho…
Jedi Mind Tricks are designed to cover all eventualities. From JMT 247 You’re so sweet and innocent, I bet you wouldn’t even know what to do with a (insert euphemism for manly parts here.) to JMT 742 You’re so much talk, but I bet you wouldn’t even know what to do with a (insert euphemism for manly parts here.) Don’t know why ladies are still falling for this one. And then strut away thinkin’ they showed him. Heavy sigh…
Dan
November 10th, 2009
9:33 am
The Jedi Mind Trick only worked on the “weak minded”:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1rlThKe1qo (1:04)
Soooo, another abdication of responsibility My2? Not you……not you
Dream_n
November 10th, 2009
9:33 am
Enter your comments here
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
9:39 am
Good Morning All,
Sexually confident??
Are we referring to the woman that believes her (blank) is laced with gold or the brutha who believes that he is King (blank)….
Maybe there needs to be another term thrown out there… idk
Jeff
November 10th, 2009
9:42 am
There is such a fine line between confidence and arrogance. And I’ve never met anyone (man or woman) who actually said they were horrible in the bedroom.
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
9:52 am
IMO as far as “modern” men are concerned, the only advantage of the new sexually confident woman is making it easier for men to get sex. Point blank. F*** political correctness.
Today is Tuesday and I hate Tuesdays.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
9:54 am
Ladies, do you feel comfortable discussing sex when you meet men?
Not within the first few weeks of going out. No there will be no discussion of sex until I feel comfortable. I don’t discuss sex with strangers. Call me a prude ,stuck up or watever.. (im used to those adjectives anyway
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
9:54 am
Murnin.. Theres a fine line between sexually confident and being a graden tool.. I tell you what ladies stick to being pursued and let us do the pursuing.. Its the natural order of things.. The more we try to make up new definitions and modern mannerisms we seem to mess ish up.. Let nature take its course and be a lady.. Now when we get nehind closed doors then jump off the ceiling fan, to the wall, to the dresser and so on but dont do too much cause your sexual confidence might scare a dude.. Let him take it to the freakiness level he can handle.. Dont stick your thumb in your butt on the first encounter is what Im saying.. Break that out after a few months..
Jeff
November 10th, 2009
9:55 am
Raqi, you are right. It’s so much easier to get l**d nowadays. But it’s also harder to find an emotionally stable woman capable of a deep relationship. Just my experience and observation. But thanks for the easy sex.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
9:57 am
And dont be out here giving that Becky to ever dude you meet.. I know some of ya’ll might know this but its alot of ya’ll that dont..
abc
November 10th, 2009
9:58 am
Please define ’sexually confident’.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:03 am
Sexually Confident = Loose or having a penis mentality
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:05 am
Just like so many other phrases that have been invented by men to their advantage, the “sexually confident woman” is just another one of them that we women have fallen prey to.
It’s your sex and you have the right to give it to whomever you want to have it and in whatever time frame you choose.
Despite this new popular belief, women cannot “date” like men. We will catch feeling before long.
My definition of a sexually confident woman is a woman that is not afraid to explore with her partner. A woman that is not afraid to say what it is she wants and likes. In times past it was said that women are not suppose to speak of the enjoyment and pleasure that sex gives. But we come to learn that sexual pleasure is just as much a woman’s right as it is a man’s. And being sexually confident IMO is stating that fact. I enjoy having sex.
Sexually Confident it is not being promiscuous in the name of self-assurance. But that’s just my opinion.
Bo
November 10th, 2009
10:05 am
I only date strippers.
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:06 am
Thank you Infamous for your 9:54 comment.
Hopeless Romantic Diva
November 10th, 2009
10:06 am
To me, a sexually confident woman not only understands and embraces her own sexuality, as part of the whole package…which includes her keen sense of smartness, compassion, humor, etc., but also feels confident about when and with whom she shares part of her package with. The sexuality doesn’t define the woman, but rather enhances who she is.
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:07 am
@DK
“but dont do too much cause your sexual confidence might scare a dude.. ”
Please explain.
abc
November 10th, 2009
10:08 am
I would find that quite unattractive in a chick. I’d figure, recreational use only.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:11 am
Dan – Alot of dudes say they want a freak but then when they get one become all insecure about where she got her freakiness from and what she be doing before they met. Hey at this age we aint virgins and everybody done been got, so with that being said enjoy they ride cause I know any dude that dated a chick after me better be ready cause she has been taken as far as she wanted to go..
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
10:11 am
If you’re confident in any aspect of your life, what so people want to normally do?? Show it off right?
I think I’m going to go with DK’s assesment of the term sexually confident.
How does one get to be sexually confident.. someone or some people had to inflate that ego….
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:14 am
@DK
Knowing that “everybody done been got” makes it easier for me to just let her do what she do.
I don’t rightly care who or where she got ‘it’ from. My two main concerns with sex are diseases and pregnancy, beyond that “let the good times roll.”
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
10:15 am
Three Words Daily – Stop doubting yourself.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:15 am
Dan – Exactly.. Heck Ive wanted to shake a few dudes hands behind some of these babes..
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:18 am
I mean I like a chick to ge me.. Just come in the house and she have already pushed play.. Well Im from the pull over and freak something in the car school or the anytime anyplace mindset, so I guess Im different. I dont judge anyone though so its all good.
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:18 am
The problem today is guys want you to live up your sexually confidence and you barely even know him. I met plenty of them in my days of dating. They don’t know you and have no intention of getting to know you, but if they can get that sex on the grounds of you being “confident” in yourself that’s what they try to work with.
Guys that shirk the responsibilities and duties that come with being in a relationship are the ones that seek out the “sexually confident-out to prove I have nothing to fear” type of women.
Women cannot date like men. Live with it. It ain’t gone change.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
10:19 am
Sexual confidence from window on the world – As my knowledge of and comfort with my sexual self increased, along with my self confidence, my sexual confidence did as well. It didn’t make me loose. I just started getting better and more frequent O’s.
I agree with DK in letting a dude take the lead on the level of freakiness – especially since I’ve never been with a dude that was not freakier than me. (Y’all nassty – lol) However, I have been with a guy that was not as freaky as me or as freaky as he thought he was. (Big letdown.)
And last but not least, one thing that I’ve learned about those that preach about being so concerned with diseases and pregnancy are the first ones to want to ‘just put the head in.’
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:22 am
Ms. WiseDiva can you please tell us the definition that was meant to be conveyed in your entry so I can stop rambling on in the wrong (or maybe not) direction.
Are we talking sexual confidence as in no-strings attached continuous separate encounters?
Or sexual confidence by way of being uninhibited within your relationship or agreement?
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:24 am
are the first ones to want to ‘just put the head in.’
LMBO. Thanks SexyCool. My Tuesday is looking better.
East Point's Own
November 10th, 2009
10:24 am
Even women who appear to be sexually confident, tend not to be once they let their guard down and speak honestly. I had such a conversation this weekend with a woman who I have been going out with, and she made the first move to take our relationship sexual, and she says that she has no problem with making the first move or approaching men. But this weekend she talked about how sometimes she is nervous before having sex, or that she sometimes is concerned about her performance… and its not just her, I have had talks with several women who have said the same thing, although they appear to be sexually confident, as long as they don’t chose to let their guard down and reveal their true feelings. I am not saying that all women who appear to be sexually confident are not, but I think a lot are just playing the part for one of many reasons.
http://hispointofview.com
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:25 am
SC – Dang the just let me put the head in.. For real.. Dudes still do that.. I just break out a condom and thats lets a chick know where I am. They will either not say anything or ask what you doing with that..
You missed my or “Penis Mentality” part of it.. I have two best friends with the penis mentality and they aint having sex unless they feel like it. I always laugh at their dudes cause Im like they are running ya’ll dudes..
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
10:26 am
I do not equate sexual confidence with promiscuity.
abc
November 10th, 2009
10:27 am
Now, one can say that sexually confident is about lack of inhibition, neurosis and/or hangups, or one can say that sexually confident is throwing it around to pretty much anyone you can get. From the tone of Diva’s post, I take it that the intended meaning is a woman of significant enough sexual experience that she isn’t shy about hitting a guy up. That’s at least as unattractive as a promiscuous man — actually, from a man’s perspective, that’s even less attractive.
I figure that chicks who are most devoted to the mythical promiscuity of men are women with promiscuity issues of their own. Guys, what’s so difficult about keeping it in your pants? Women, how about just crossing your legs? Ever consider that when you finally meet ‘the one’, you may regret all the recreational sex — or that they might wish you’d not been loose? Or that being promiscuous might turn them off of you, and you lose out?
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:28 am
@Dk
I’m saying, I’m not judging either way. Just be consistent is all I ever ask.
@Raqi
There is a mindset for chasing loose women, I’ll grant you that. But this mindset is not universal to all men. Some of us have different motivations and (standard blog line) “it’s on a case by case basis”.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
10:31 am
abc
Head nod to your 10:27…
East Point's Own
November 10th, 2009
10:31 am
But back to the question, I love a woman who is truely confident sexually. I can do without the self doubt, and the fear of what other people might think, etc.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
10:32 am
Let me start over.
I do not equate sexual confidence with promiscuity. Instead, I view it as when I reached a point where I was totally at ease with my body.
Let’s face it. When you first start having sex, you don’t know as much as you need to know about the act, the way it can bring you pleasure and the effect that it can have on you mentally and emotionally.
As I became more aware of myself sexually and began to develop a sexual identity, my sexual confidence increased. I learned to draw lines that are not to be crossed sexually and became more sexually expressive within my partnership.
And I could ramble on….but I think you all get the gist of what I’m saying.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
10:33 am
Think about a sexually confident man…
When I hear that, I don’t think of a man who is in a committed realtionship. Someone who is just slanging the D to one woman. I think of a man who is out there showing his skills to every Lisa/Kay and Cindy that wants to enjoy the ride… JMO
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:34 am
@EPO
Ooooohhh, you spilling secrets! Stop it.
@abc
Longing for the horse-drawn buggy, or a return to the “malt shoppe” days of dating doesn’t make it reality.
The reality is that by a certain age, a woman has done all she gone do. She’s tried it, decided for/against, and had grown accustomed to having things “[her] way”. Likewise for a man.
As for promiscuity, that’s an almost ancient concept based on a social construct of what is and isn’t appropriate. That’s something that can’t be judged in that way anymore.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:34 am
SC – No go on I dont get where youre coming from
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:36 am
Dang I like to do it so I guess I need to go see Dr Drew in Sex Rehab.. Im a fiend ya’ll a fiend I tell you!
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:37 am
But this weekend she talked about how sometimes she is nervous before having sex
EastPoint but that doesn’t mean she is not confident. Heck I occasionally feel a nervous butterfly and I am married having sex with the same man on the regular. Sometimes it can be an anxious type of nervousness. It happens.
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:40 am
abc I agree with your 10:27.
When it comes to the happenings within my relationship, I am very confident and willing to please.
But when I was dating I had nothing to prove to anyone. I tell you I met some real clowns back in those days. LOL
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
10:40 am
As for promiscuity, that’s an almost ancient concept based on a social construct of what is and isn’t appropriate. That’s something that can’t be judged in that way anymore.
Dan judged in what way anymore… I’m kinda confused… The defintion of promiscuity has not changed…
Whether you agree with it or not, it’s still what it is… loose at the legs..
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:44 am
If you out here having sex like a dude. You are loose. It doesnt matter what you think or what new fangled fancy term you put on it..
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:45 am
@Dream
Promiscuity can be defined as having ‘too many’ sexual partners. Well the individual having sex with you defines ‘too many’. Maybe 6, maybe 7, maybe 1. Whatever the individual’s definition, it’s no longer relatable or subject to judgement because the judgement of society has changed.
That the judgment of right/wrong hasn’t changed for an individual is, at once, honorable and disconcerting.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 10th, 2009
10:46 am
Mornting all
Dan ^5 on that 9:54.
Professor
November 10th, 2009
10:46 am
Hola!
Hmmmm…nothing really is coming to me on this topic. Off the cuff I think of men that think they have that good stuff and that mess is wack. Just because one has confidence does not mean substance is there.
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:47 am
Pardon my spelling errors
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:48 am
As for promiscuity, that’s an almost ancient concept based on a social construct of what is and isn’t appropriate. That’s something that can’t be judged in that way anymore.
Dan you probably feel that way because promiscuity is to your advantage being a man that would rather have no-strings attached sexual encounters.
i'm swiss
November 10th, 2009
10:48 am
“Dont stick your thumb in your butt on the first encounter is what Im saying.. Break that out after a few months..”
LMAO @ Infamous… I have to co-sign your post (while laughing my arse off). Personally, whenever I’ve dealt with women who were the sexual initiators from the start, I can’t help but assume that they are f@#%ing everything with a dyck (and probably some things without).
Oh, and speaking of Becky… The last Becky I went out with truly lived up to the reputation. Chic was a superfreak — on date 1. Scared the bejeezus out of me… Of course, I did f@#$ her before moving along…
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
10:50 am
Dan
IMO… and it’s just that…
If you’re an adult and you’re having sex with more than 1 person at a time.. then you fall into that category.. whether you’re a man or a woman…
Good Morning Prof!!
“Just because one has confidence does not mean substance is there.”
and there you have it!
mytw♥cents... WWMy2D?
November 10th, 2009
10:51 am
Clean off your foggy glasses, straighten ya pocket square and unbutton the blazer, Dr. DAN. You’re so ready to pontificate that you missed my clear statements of what I DID and what I ALLOWED. Which were then followed by shock & dismay that some of these tactics still work.
A woman can be sexually confident without proving it to you, personally. And then the bond you foster through learning each other will continue to build it. Though some of you say you love th confidence, it’s also grounds for the insecure men to wanna question where and with whom you learned THAT?!?! Just hush up and reap the benefits…
abc
November 10th, 2009
10:52 am
Preponderance of promiscuity doesn’t change its definition nor negate its meaning or value. It just means a lot of people are promiscuous these days. Whether they like the word or concept is immaterial to the concept itself.
Now, I’m not slinging arrows. I’ve been promiscuous. Takes one to know one. It’s not something that I’m pleased with at this point, nor something I think doesn’t count as a mistake just because that’s the way I was.
SlimOne
November 10th, 2009
10:52 am
@DK I haven’t read all comments since your Becky comment but I find that dudes want to carpet munch before they even know my last name. So is THAT ok because the dude is taking it to that level before the lady or what? I mean, dudes haven’t even found out if I wipe from back to front or front to back yet…but he wanna clean up what I missed with his tongue??!!!
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:54 am
@Dream
You are more than entitled to your opinion.
@Raqi
See above. But that’s not why I feel like that.
The thought process that abc espouses today is the opposite of what you said yesterday. That “the totality of your decisions make you who you are (paraphrasing of course)”.
So while, he [abc] or anyone else may not like it, it’s done. Wishing that something wasn’t so doesn’t make an event or a choice disappear.
My thought process with all of this is the “here and now”. I can’t change yesterday and won’t predict tomorrow. Just “here and now”. All else is foolishness to me.
Dan
November 10th, 2009
10:56 am
@abc
You are promiscuious, it can’t be undone.
@SlimOne
Killin me slowly…..
Professor***taking no prisoners today
November 10th, 2009
10:57 am
Hey Dream!
LOL…too many people think they can do jobs and get fired for lack of performance…too many people think they can sing and get boo’ed off of the Apollo…too many people think they can cook and that ish have everyone meeting up at McDonald’s…too many people think they are cool when they are lame as hell…too many people think they can knock the boots when they have their partner irrated and annoyed as hell. Just because one partner say you are good does not mean you are…it just mean your no hitting it right azz is 1-7.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
10:58 am
Katt Williams is smiling HARD in his mug shot. Like I told one of my gf’s, I am convinced that this is research for his next comedy album.
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
10:59 am
A woman cannot date like a man is a double standard that I have never had the desire to challenge. It is what it is.
Fact is women cannot date like men and a woman only hurts herself trying to prove differently.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
10:59 am
Dan – That’s like saying. “You are a drug dealer. It can’t be undone.”
Whatever.
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
10:59 am
Slim – Ohhh They wrong for that too.. You can put your mouth on ever chicks box..
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 10th, 2009
11:01 am
A woman can be sexually confident without proving it to you, personally…. Though some of you say you love th confidence, it’s also grounds for the insecure men to wanna question where and with whom you learned THAT?!?!…
Mytwo I feel you on that and as I read it the words “double standard” comes to mind. Some claim to want it but when they get it they’re looking like
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
11:01 am
You are promiscuious, it can’t be undone
On that note…
Dan
November 10th, 2009
11:03 am
@SC
You are who you were. You are who you are.
The incorporation of your past life (ie good deeds, misdeeds, etc.) into your present life is what experience is.
So if you were once a drug dealer, you still are. That you function now as teacher, lawyer, or police officer does not negate the past. To me that’s growth.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
11:04 am
Now that just sounds straight crazy.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
11:09 am
Thinking about Dan’s logic…
If a person murdered another human being… Even if he/she never murders again..
Wouldn’t he still be considered a murderer?
DJ Sniper
November 10th, 2009
11:11 am
I agree with Dan. Thankfully, I’ve never been the type of guy who gets insecure whenever I’ve been with a woman who definitely has skills in the bedroom. I’ve never assumed that a sexually experienced/confident woman got that way due to a high number of partners. As long as I was reaping the benefit, I was cool.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
11:12 am
If I weighed 300 pounds last year and I only weigh 150 this year, am I still obese?
If I worked out yesterday and came in the house smelling like skunkish, but I took a bath, am I still stinky?
If I was a security guard at the mall three years ago, but now I am a doctor, I’m still a security guard?
Double-you Tee Eff?
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
11:15 am
Ive murdered many people.. On the spades table and I’d do it again.. Oh and also online on my PS3.. Im known as Owned U and I bust heads on a regular..
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
11:18 am
LOL SexyCool, girl you know Dan is still a first grader. Ain’t no way in the world he could have moved on from there. Once there always there.
Isn’t that what you are saying Dan?
Dan
November 10th, 2009
11:18 am
If you were an alcoholic a year ago, you’re an alcoholic today that doesn’t drink;
If you were an arsehole 6 months agao, you’re an arsehole today that doesn’t say the things he once did;
Changing behaviors or lifestyles or towns doesn’t change the impulses, just how you respond.
If she was a garden tool in Pasadena, she still is in Nashville, that she’s now the “preacher’s wife” means she just don’t act that way.
Dan
November 10th, 2009
11:20 am
@Raqi
I am still a first grader with a college degree. Do I act as I did in the first grade, no. Do I still have the impulse to, yes. But the fact that I don’t is called maturity.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
11:21 am
ROTFLMBAO!!!
Raqi – you stoopit.
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
11:21 am
So Dan a doctor is really not a doctor if he worked the fries to get himself thru college? Is he merely the fry guy that gets to write prescriptions now?
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
11:21 am
Wow.
Some Other Mike
November 10th, 2009
11:21 am
Has anyone else noticed a sharply increased number of breakups recently? Over the 4 weeks, I’ve seen 5-6 public dumpings, and have seen reports of at least three more from online forums I frequent.
abc
November 10th, 2009
11:23 am
Good points on both sides of the ‘if you ever were you still are’ issue, but still being a 1st grader, only 30 years old and with a degree? Oh, come on… what first grader impulses are still active in you?
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
11:24 am
SexyCool LOL. Girl, when you think you have read it all…wonders never cease.
I need some lunch now.
Professor***taking no prisoners today
November 10th, 2009
11:25 am
@Some other Mike…Crimmus is around the corner Santa is not buying this year it’s a recession
@SCool and Dan…I see both sides on this one…LOL those examples are funny tho
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
11:25 am
Oh, come on… what first grader impulses are still active in you?
Exactly, abc. If he’s a grown man still thinking and wanting to act and react like a 6 year old…
Raqi
November 10th, 2009
11:27 am
Over the 4 weeks, I’ve seen 5-6 public dumpings
It’s called publicity.
Dan
November 10th, 2009
11:28 am
@abc
I got kicked out of first grade for calling the other kids stupid because the couldn’t read. I still have that impulse today.
The difference now is, I try to find a corrollary or example for other people to relate to, instead of voicing my frustration.
That, and I like naps. I want to take one right now matter of fact.
SexyCool = SexyConfident. ~laughing~
November 10th, 2009
11:28 am
I do not deny that all of the things that I have been in the past contribute to who I am today. However, I am not still all of those things. If I were, I’d be crazier than batsht.
And you would still be immature – by your logic.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
11:30 am
LOL…
If I weighed 300 pounds last year and I only weigh 150 this year, am I still obese?
Why am i still cracking up at that one.
abc
November 10th, 2009
11:30 am
Occupations maybe… I’ve had a lot of jobs, and I can say that I still identify myself with them in one way or another, from janitor or roughneck to what I do now. Crimes, chronic behavior, they seem to stick. Behavior that’s strictly about personal choices, like eating/obesity, promiscuity (I suppose that could be chronic or compulsive), rudeness or lack of grace, those seem to be more transitory, to me. The born-again could certainly purport the death of the old man and birth of the new.
Dan
November 10th, 2009
11:32 am
@abc
It’s called conditioning.
Ms. Main
November 10th, 2009
11:35 am
Dan, can we draw at “recovering/recovered?”
Ms. Main
November 10th, 2009
11:35 am
The born-again could certainly purport the death of the old man and birth of the new.
I’m a believer!
abc
November 10th, 2009
11:39 am
It’s a separate topic, but I consider it very interesting that literacy rates aren’t that much better now than they were in the 1930’s. At least 50% of the adults in Middle Georgia can’t read well enough to read the road signs. 36% of H.S. students in GA don’t graduate with their class. If isolated by ethnicity the numbers get quite a lot worse. We have an education problem.
I’m not sure a lack of patience for illiteracy or being prone to napping is strictly a matter of maturity. We’re the same people we were as children, though, deep down, that’s undeniable — hopefully with a bit of personal growth, at least.
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
11:45 am
We have an education problem
I can agree with that, and not just in GA, but everywhere… well for some of our children at least…
Tazzee - What a lovely weekend!
November 10th, 2009
12:05 pm
Preponderance of promiscuity doesn’t change its definition nor negate its meaning or value. It just means a lot of people are promiscuous these days. Whether they like the word or concept is immaterial to the concept itself.
Good stuff
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 10th, 2009
12:06 pm
where is Melo when You need him.. He would get ya’ll straight..
Professor***taking no prisoners today
November 10th, 2009
12:13 pm
Dream….LOL…
If I weighed 300 pounds last year and I only weigh 150 this year, am I still obese?
Why am i still cracking up at that one.
You are cracking up because depending on the height yep he/she is still obese.
Dan
November 10th, 2009
12:17 pm
Twas the thought of the excess skin that does it for me.
Willie Dynamite
November 10th, 2009
1:01 pm
Afternoon All,
Does everything really have to be this complicated?
Dream_n (One action can change the course of your life forever..Be wise think first
November 10th, 2009
1:10 pm
Prof
I didn’t think of it that way.. now that is funny… 5′3 150… lmao!!
Willie
If people didn’t make it complpicated… what would we be debating???
Professor***trying to stay dry
November 10th, 2009
1:18 pm
…stepping out for lunch. I guess I will eat some soup. I need some cheese toast to go with it.
Willie Dynamite
November 10th, 2009
1:23 pm
Dream_n – Thats true plus its really a lot of complicated folks out here. You single yet?