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Top Ways to Get Approached

In any social setting, single people tend to sabotage themselves without even knowing it.  If you, in fact, want to be noticed and approached, you really need to find ways to signal that you are not going to reject someone who is interested.

While we may look fabulous in our outfits, a lot of women are oblivious about their body language. Crossed arms, eyes on their blackberries, or no smiles can pretty much guarantee you will not be approached!

So ladies who get approached, what is your secret!? Do you find a way to stand out and get a man’s attention? Do you ever approach men? If you have or would, what about the man would compel you to do so?

Guys, what are the top ways women can get approached? When you see someone that catches your eye, what is the first thing you notice that sends you over to where she is? What would make you do a u-turn and go the other way? How long does it take before you decide that you will get her number?

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Dan - The Karl Malone of Love

November 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

@Brat

gotcha.

SexyCool - Cloud Status - 9++

November 9th, 2009
4:02 pm

Mdot, sweetie, sugahlump, babyboy, I am 37 years old. Perhaps when I was MUCH younger, I probably did play some games, but like my dad says, “When you learn better, you do better.”

I have no interest in games or bllsht at this point in my life.

However, I can honestly say that I have never cancelled a date when I really could have gone unless I really didn’t want to or couldn’t go.

As to the playing busy when I’m not, hell, I can do that ish to my sister, one of my bffs or my momma. That has nothing to do with a dude. It just might mean that I really want to finish watching this episode of RHOA before I listen to you go on about your latest fight with Derrick.

czBrat

November 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

hmmmmm. i have “worked” at being an honest and responsible person (among other things, of course), so that i might be “deserving” of such in a mate and, YES, that is exactly what i “wish” to welcome into my life when the time is right. at the risk of bringing religion into the discussion, feel free to read “wish” as “pray”.

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

@SexyCool – Cloud Status – 9++

All of these can be test but we can call them expectation for you ;)

Honesty-In the early stages, you may ask him a question you already asked before and know the answer to but you want to make sure he is not lying to you.

SexyCool - Cloud Status - 9++

November 9th, 2009
4:06 pm

And yeah, what Raqi said in her 4p.

SexyCool - Cloud Status - 9++

November 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

Mdot – yo’ ass is giving me a headache.

I don’t test my man. That is all.

Raqi

November 9th, 2009
4:09 pm

Oh yeah, Mdot and there are a bouquet of “I don’t do(s) and I never have(s)” that we often hear because some folks have never been given the chance with anyone to actually f*** up.

Meaning not too much experience in that arena of life. LOL

You would be surprised at the number of women within the age range of SexyCool and myself (37-41) that have yet to experience certain things in life.

Leggs

November 9th, 2009
4:09 pm

Bet every woman agrees with Raqi’s 4:00 post. I do.

Dan - The Karl Malone of Love

November 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

@Raqi

Every “don’t”, until they “do” (women esp. in that regard)

SexyCool - Take two of these and call me in the morning.

November 9th, 2009
4:16 pm

Um, yeah. Whatever.

Raqi

November 9th, 2009
4:18 pm

I am feeling something hearty for dinner tonight. Maybe a stew, or soup or some chili.

It feels like the temp is dropping.

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 9th, 2009
4:21 pm

@SexyCool – Cloud Status – 9++

LOL calm down…I just asked you a question. It’s amazing how some people act like they never messed or made a mistake in life. Nobody is trying to give you a headache. Its a public blog and you dont have to respond. :) Now take some advil.

Raqi

November 9th, 2009
4:21 pm

SexyCool why don’t they understand that we all live, but some of us have learned?

czBrat

November 9th, 2009
4:22 pm

well Raqi, i’m starving and i’m seriously feeling like a homewrecker burrito from Moe’s :lol: but tilapia is on the menu tonight. your suggestion sounds perfect for tomorrow’s heavy rains though.

SexyCool - Take two of these and call me in the morning.

November 9th, 2009
4:23 pm

Mdot – one word – facetious.

Raqi

November 9th, 2009
4:26 pm

SexyCool and Leggs if you two are anything like me, I wouldn’t trade nothing for my life experiences.

All the mishaps and screw ups just make us the wiser women we are today.

Now on that note, I’m calling it a day. Goodnight all.

SexyCool - Take two of these and call me in the morning.

November 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

Exactly, like Raqi said, my mishaps and screw ups are many. Hell, a lot of them have been chronicled right here on this public blog for all the world to see.

I have no shame for the flaws in my character or the mistakes that I make. I am human. We all miss the mark.

But here again, I am grateful for the life experienced, the lessons learned, the wisdom gained.

Leggs

November 9th, 2009
4:37 pm

No doubt, Raqi. All that I’ve experienced has helped to mold me into the person I look at in the mirror everyday and how how I interact with others.

For Real

November 9th, 2009
4:40 pm

brat: Got you… you are praying that you are deserving of God’s blessing.

Leggs

November 9th, 2009
4:46 pm

Good night!

“Quit arguing with people about the same old foolishness! Respect their position and keep it moving!”

Love yourself, VALIDATE yourself, and laugh at others when they don’t understand!

GA Girl

November 9th, 2009
5:18 pm

Recently, I was having dinner with family members at Six Feet Under on a Saturday evening prior to our annual Oakland Cemetery tour. There were a group of ladies having dinner and drinks in a booth in front of mine. One lady stood out from the rest. Why? She was sooooooooo loud! Everyone in the bar area heard her conversation as well as her laugh. She thought it was cute but it wasn’t. I thought it was me feeling this way because I was so close to her loudness; however, I did notice people in the bar area looking at her in disgust. It’s OK to be a lady without being so loud. Who would want to approach someone like that?