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I’m Not Happy

I know a lot of us would like to be in relationships right now but sometimes we tend to forget that they take a lot of work and effort.  When the tough times hit, like they inevitably will, we aren’t always prepared for it.  This is when you find out what your relationship is really made of, good or bad.

When a woman is unhappy, she probably has a change in her behavior towards her partner. Because men have innate differences from women they feel the need to want to fix it.  They actually care a lot about why their woman is unhappy and want to do what they can to improve it.  It’s almost as if they take it personally when their woman isn’t satisfied and fulfilled.

Ladies, have you ever dated a really moody guy? I am not referring to the random cranky mood but a guy who has a lot of bad moods, how did you handle it?

Guys, do you think that your woman’s unhappiness is a reflection of your relationship with her? Does it bother you when she is unhappy?

Do you think we are responsible solely for our own happiness in a relationship?

209 comments Add your comment

Raqi

November 6th, 2009
3:03 pm

how old is this couple

Tazzee, that’s the question I want to know the answer to.

Grown folks playing sex games??? I sure hope not.

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
3:07 pm

@Tazzee – I’m Happy!!!

Its all good. He is 32 and she is 29 I think. Also he was married before. He was one of those guys who got married to early and didnt get to finish his player stage. I think he got married like mid 20’s.

LURKER

November 6th, 2009
3:08 pm

Happy moments!

When I come over and cut the grass, edge and clean up around the house! Time for you to ZIPPPPPP!

When I change your flat tire on I-285! Time for yout ZIPPPPPPP!

When I take you on vacation! Time for you to ZIPPPPP in the morning, noon and Evening!

M.Dot… Dude needs to step out tonight and get his groove on, Go to the club tonight and get some of this hot ATL Booty! Problem Solve ZIPPPPPP!!

Willie Dynamite

November 6th, 2009
3:13 pm

Afternoon All,

mdot – what advice did you give you buddy?

Melo

November 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

got married to early and didnt get to finish his player stage

u in god place to help him out…

Tell him, this one wil go the same distance if he persists with her.

Melo

November 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

u in good place to help him out

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
3:15 pm

@Willie Dynamite

I told him dont worry about what her tangibles were. If you really are cool with the holdout and want to stay with her, stay, but if you know deep down inside you are NOT, leave. That’s alot better than cheating on her and her labeling you a jerk forever. Dont feel bad walking away. He needs to value himself, his happiness, and most importantly his MANHOOD.

Melo

November 6th, 2009
3:18 pm

M dot??

u like this homie?? u grew up tgether…

If it were me,he wldnt be my friend,let alone give him advice on this.

:lol: :lol:

Dream_n

November 6th, 2009
3:18 pm

Dream_n

November 6th, 2009
3:19 pm

and that’s about all you can say… and leave it at that.

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
3:20 pm

@Melo

We real cool. I just think he succumbed to the pressure from society and a woman to get married rather than hang fun take his time and get married when HE was ready.

Willie Dynamite

November 6th, 2009
3:26 pm

good advice, other than that stay out of it. I’d go so far as to let him know not to discuss this with you anymore. That is unless you like hearing a grown azz man whine about something that is totally in his control. furthermore, he’s too old and been there done that to bring up the societal pressure angle.

Melo

November 6th, 2009
3:30 pm

pressure from society and a woman to get married
Mdot??
I dont know if i can draw a pic,dream or imagine a beautiful enough pic of a woman i wld be pressured enough to marry without compromising her first.

Even Dianne Sawyer still has to be prequalified same way! I jus wont hit her at the same frequency tho.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 6th, 2009
3:30 pm

That chick smells desperation on dude.. She knows he will marry her if she provides the right pressure..

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 6th, 2009
3:33 pm

Oh they ram rodding Chris breezy.. That chick said that it was a dangerous obsession on both parts.. Equally.. Diane just let her skate on to the next question instead of asking her what equally meant and did she ever hit Breezy..

Leggs

November 6th, 2009
3:35 pm

Just got back from a funeral, what’s the topic? I’m drained and too much to read.

Cemeeli

November 6th, 2009
3:35 pm

Mo – I need a Pepsi and some fiyah popcone…what cha got chica.

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
3:35 pm

@Willie Dynamite

I agree…Good tips.

@Melo

You know what I mean…like that person that you went to school with that HAD to get married ASAP. That guy that signed up with the first team that gave him a tryout….

@THE INFAMOUS DK

You are probably right…she is a lawyer and maybe got caught up in that Cosby Show image….

Cemeeli

November 6th, 2009
3:37 pm

@ Ms. Leggs – They (my dizzy co-workers) have been messin wit me…can i get you to hire the slap-a-h tribe? :(

…sniff…I had to take a silly 30min break, my boss left early…nobody wanted to work after 11, and my best team player is on vacation.

Chardonnay

November 6th, 2009
3:40 pm

This topic is pretty simple and straightforward, and in light of tonight’s interviews with Chris Brown on MTV and Rihanna on ABC, I will say this: When you are unhappy in a relationship, you leave—point, blank, period. No one deserves to be mistreated and/or abused because the other person is unhappy with themselves. It is not my fault that someone else’s life sucks!! One thing that I have learned is to never settle for less than I deserve, and had I learned that sooner, I would not have had so many inappropriate and abusive relationships where I was being abused on a regular basis. My advice to young women is to get yourself together, get your education, build a career for yourself, and as my paternal grandmother taught me, leave these men alone! If it is meant for any of us to have a meaningful relationship, it will happen on its own when the time is right. Life is too short to be unhappy, especially in a relationship when half the time the person is not good enough anyway.

LURKER

November 6th, 2009
3:42 pm

@Arson…. The reason Raqi goes on and on when she is blogging is because when she gets long winded with Mason he goes ZIPPPPPPPPPPP!

SEXYCOOL has SUPER C and she got to put that in play! It’s a blessing!

Lioness ….W8 you my man? W8 yes I am ZIPPPPPPP!

Melo

November 6th, 2009
3:42 pm

M dot??

proly some other lawyer is hitting her when she does those long,complicated cases and she has to stay late at the office or fly outa town!
That “im reformed” talk will work on a lame dude.

Dream_n

November 6th, 2009
3:43 pm

This day is dragging….

Raqi

November 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

Infamous I have my DVR set to tape that interview tonight on 20/20.

Willie Dynamite

November 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

DK – True dat 3:30

Cemeeli

November 6th, 2009
3:45 pm

when did the Chris B. and Rihanna interviews air?

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 6th, 2009
3:46 pm

Chardonnay – You come across as a angry lesbian that just jumped the fence recently and went to the otherside..

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 6th, 2009
3:48 pm

Chardonnay – and abusive..

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
3:50 pm

@Melo

That may be true. That’s why if he is not happy, he should have been left.

LURKER

November 6th, 2009
3:52 pm

Chardonnay… Where you on the RAY-J love show? If so you are fine! :wink: I will handle you with tender luving care!

THREE WORDS to live by…… ZIPPPP,!ZIPPP,ZIPPP!

Now that’s power, power for the people! :smile:

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 6th, 2009
3:52 pm

Melo – thats the crazy part.. She prolly got some dude on speed dial that she can call to dust her off..

I met a chcik that was celibate but she would do oral.. come on ma’am. You play wayyy tooo much..

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
3:54 pm

@THE INFAMOUS DK

LOL That’s what this chick does. I would rather have nothing than her sending me out all blue in the face…

Willie Dynamite

November 6th, 2009
3:54 pm

That lewinsky or Becky is not considered Sex nowadays. Ha ha ha. Just another way to stay reformed and born again.

Cemeeli

November 6th, 2009
3:54 pm

hahaha…an angry lesbo…good Lord.

…enjoy your weekend folks.

Raqi

November 6th, 2009
3:55 pm

Mdot let me ask you a question.

What cave did this guy crawl out of and how long has he been mopping floors at McDonald’s?

I mean, any half way decent looking guy that is gainfully employed will not have any problem getting a woman these days. I am not trying to put your friend down in my sarcasm, but there are just too many women out there looking for him to be chasing his tail.

Now on to other news…Has only seen Couple’s Resort or Retreat (which ever it is)? I am going to see that tonight and was wondering if it’s going to be worth the cost of a babysitter. :lol:

Leggs

November 6th, 2009
3:56 pm

When dating, there will be moments of happiness as well as moments of unhappiness. The difficult part is finding out which one when you seem to be dating yourself. (lol).

@Cee ~ slap-a-h tribe consists of some dangerous women. Be there in 6.5 mins!

Melo

November 6th, 2009
4:04 pm

Mdot??

does she carry a bible with her all the time,or talk Jesus eve now and then??

she prays publicly be4 she has a meal??

That may not even matter tho.
I know women here at wrk, who will solemnly bow theri heads down on the table when about to eat lunch,rise up and lace u with a funky &*()%$$! exepletive in the same breadth if u cross them.
Thst why my prayers are always silent count.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 6th, 2009
4:04 pm

Cemeeli – here is a pepsi, slightly frozen and some cheddar popcorn w a lil caramel popcorn mixed in! Enjoy!

Melo

November 6th, 2009
4:05 pm

Thats why my prayers are always silent count

Wise Diva

November 6th, 2009
4:05 pm

Raqi, I want you to get a date night but that movie choice, um no. Not worth the $, not even on a matinee

Melo

November 6th, 2009
4:10 pm

I met a chcik that was celibate but she would do oral.. come on ma’am

DK??

was she ok with u finguring her as u enjoyed her talents??

Leggs

November 6th, 2009
4:12 pm

How come oral is not considered sex. I don’t get it!

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
4:14 pm

@Raqi

I think he is a well qualified guy and why he wants her I am not sure. You like what you like.

Now me being a young bachelor in Atlanta, here is my breakdown on the women/dating scene:

Pros:

1. Alot of well qualified people.
2. A melting pot.

Cons:
1. First, the ratio is not as high as people say. Maybe 3-1 not 20-1.
2. Atlanta women (not all but some) have HUGE ego’s and most guys dont want to wait out for her to come around and cooperate.
3. Also we have alot of AVERAGE looking women here who pass of fat for being thick.
4. Alot of immature women who still like to play games (the Im busy game, phone games, chase games)

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 6th, 2009
4:17 pm

@Melo

I dont even know…lol

Leggs

November 6th, 2009
4:17 pm

@Raqi, you could honestly look at the promos and see it’s not worth a babysitter.

For Real

November 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

“How come oral is not considered sex. I don’t get it!” – Cause you can’t get prego!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

Melo – I would just enjoy the fellatio then proceed to plaster her face.

Melo

November 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

Mdot??

If that woman does oral,then its a qstion of dude’s handling.

Its wack!
How many of u guys here ask ur wet women,”so can i come inside now??”

:lol:

For Real

November 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

Raqi: Save your money and go see Black Dynomite.

For Real

November 6th, 2009
4:21 pm

Leggs: Oh and doing it in the butt ain’t sex either.