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Bonnie & Clyde

I was having a friendly debate with my friend Mark about loyalty in dating relationships. I don’t think it exists.  As humans, we are self-preserving, self-serving people.  Loyalty extends about as far as it can until we decide that our own needs are more important than someone else’s.

He disagreed and said that loyalty is one of the things that people should be willing to prove in dating to lead to a relationship.  Mark and I  joked about how Bonnie & Clyde were known as the most loyal couple in history.

In some twisted way, the fact that she not only stuck by Clyde and covered for him, she  also joined in his crime sprees of robbery and murder. Are women expected to break the law to prove loyalty to their man, though!?

Do you think that loyalty is a realistic expectation in dating? Is it important to you when you are getting to know someone?

How do you know when someone is loyal to you? Is it something you can really prove or a feeling you give?

Do you think that couples have to “keep” their mate loyal?  What kind of person is more likely to be loyal? Is that the kind of character trait you can suss out in dating?

302 comments Add your comment

Stan

November 5th, 2009
8:40 am

I think loyalty in dating exists only so long as both people are after the same goal. Bonnie was loyal to Clyde because she not only loved him, but also saw the best way to making money, for them, was to steal it. Same goal.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
8:50 am

Don’t forget ‘Micky and Mallory’….

I think that loyalty is important. To my mind it’s gotta be me and my lady together against the world. In that sense, the trust that we share to get those goals accomplished is based on the loyalty that has been proven (starts with the little everyday isht too).

As far as “keeping” someone loyal, I don’t think you can. Loyalty, like respect and trust are decision based reactions – they have to be freely given.

My2 cents

@my2: sorry about the copyright infringement

Kym

November 5th, 2009
9:03 am

Good Morning All,

Wisey I kind of agree with you. Loyalty is earned, not automatic. If I am dating someone and it is a serious dating relationship. Not just two people who are kicking it for the heck of it. Then in a serious dating relationship, one would still have to earn the loyalty of another. Loyalty is not blind devotion to a person or their ideas. It is SUPPORT, for that special someone come rain or come shine,even if you don’t agree.

Like if your mate took up stock car racing..okay that stuff is not safe, you express your concerns about their safe, but you show up to the track anyway, to cheer them on.

Professor

November 5th, 2009
9:09 am

This whole loyalty thing is a bunch of crap to me. I think we are loyal when it is conducive to us (what Dan said) same goals. Now in dating I will speculate that if it is not favorable to us we are out. As for marriage I want to say that is probably different and there is more loyalty. Naw, because how many married folks you know talk about their spouses behind their backs etc? How many couples you know work separately instead of together?

Loyalty is one of those things that is coming to an end regardless of where you look: politicians crossing party lines, employees no longer remaining at companies until they retire etc. Having that faithfulness and allegiance is no longer as popular as it used to be.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
9:18 am

@Professor

I would like to disagree with you.

I, for one, would not like to think that loyalty in relationships is not on the decline (aside from the divorce rates). I would hope that people realize that loyalty and trust are essential in a relationship.

I take your point about the politics and business, but that’s a different kind of loyalty (professional loyalty has been eroded since the 80’s), one that has changed as the economic drivers have.

But personal loyalty should be the glue that builds and unites us.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
9:25 am

IMO a certain about of loyalty is necessary in a dating relationship in order to take it to the next level. I believe certain traits take on different levels of service depending on the nature of the relationship therefore the trait itself has to be present and active to get you to the next step.

Let me explain that a little better. There are certain things that I look for in a man and there are certain things that I know are imperative and I expect in a husband. While I did not expect my man to fully act as a husband before he actually became one, I did look for traces of those traits in him to be active to a certain degree. As with loyalty like we are talking about today. Had he never portrayed the act of loyalty while we were dating I would not have wanted to have a relationship with him. And I definitely would not have wanted to have him for a husband.

So yes it is a realistic expectation, however there are degrees.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
9:25 am

…hey there…

…all I wanna say is; Bonnie n Clyde came and made that ‘ride or die’ thing fly!…some would say they’re the Godfather of ride or die…back in their time most folks outlawed them…but they kept pulling capers….

…the epitome of loyal….

mytw♥cents... WWMy2D?

November 5th, 2009
9:32 am

I don’t think there’s much another person can do to directly affect your level of loyalty. It’s ultimately a free-will choice that won’t be instantaneous for most. However, my willingness to be loyal can be indirectly affected by the amount of Consistency, Vision and Leadership skills he shows. Tried to explain this to a dude the other day – it’s not really being disloyal if your girl gets to a point where she’s asking about your other options when a.) She’s more gung ho about your abilities than you are b.) You’ve never expressed a Plan B and c.) You’re clearly not putting in enough work. And this is in reference to his big dream. 5+ years later, any shared goals they have are on the backburner.

No worries, DAN. Send $10 & its yours thru Friday…

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
9:32 am

…today it’s hard as HECK to be down from somma these negros!

@ WiseD – Your topic got me in that mode…i gotta pull out a few of those old movies and watch.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
9:36 am

GM ALL

I don’t know why when I think of loyal I think of a dog and his owner… maybe it’s me..

I like the term trust…And when it comes to trust YES there has to be an extreme amount of trust in a relationship. I want to trust that my MATE has my back and my best interest at heart and vice versa.

I think trust is very important. I should be able to go to my mate and tell him anything. We should be able to confide in eachother. That level of trust comes over time and situations that cause you to portray that quality.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
9:38 am

Loyalty…you either are born with it or not…even folks that think they are loyal will have there loyalty tested at some point….

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 5th, 2009
9:39 am

Good morning blog.

@Do you think that loyalty is a realistic expectation in dating? Is it important to you when you are getting to know someone?

I think the loyalty in dating is really scarce. My brother always says “never trust a woman as far as you can throw them which usually aint far”. That is true mainly because in dating, there is no real obligation for accountability. You may be the flavor of the week for a while but understand if a better situation i.e., another guy comes along they can easily jump ship. This goes for men to. If his relationship is not too bad to leave but not great enough to stay, he can and will leave if a better situation comes along. I know people are going to say what if you want to build something with someone and what about being content? That’s all up to the maturirty of the person, but in dating, people can get bored also so the loyalty can be there temporarilly.

MsM

November 5th, 2009
9:39 am

Want the same thing = ride or die.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
9:39 am

@My2

Somma of us keep saying it over and over again, so to put it more succintly:

Some of these cats don’t have a plan (A or B). They’re just in the world.

I’m guilty of it myself. With a general outline, I proceed about my business. While my “plan” has room for adjustments, some cats are swinging vine-to-vine as they appear.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
9:41 am

Ahhh Yeah Bonnie and Clyde, Bobby and Whitney.. Thats whats up right there..

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
9:42 am

Dan Natural Born Killers was wild. I think they made a video game spin off that.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
9:43 am

@M-Dot

Those situations you speak of are numerous indeed.

But contentment is finding what works for you. If short-terming ain’t what you want, don’t deal. If the “3-month and out” works for you, go all for it.

Contentment isn’t a condition that is actively created, contentment just is.

Which is why adaptability is sooo important these day.

@Dream

Think of loyalty as trust in action.

abc

November 5th, 2009
9:45 am

Loyalty can be defined as putting their interests ahead of your own. That’s a hard thing for Americans to do. Note several stories the past couple of weeks about how Americans stand by and witness violent crime, not becoming involved in order to protect themselves — that’s a glaring example of not being willing to put someone else’s interests ahead of your own.

So, what does it take to motivate you to put someone else’s interests first? That’ll vary per person. It doesn’t just apply to dating either; it could be any situation.

How many of you know anyone who would put your interests ahead of their own? Okay, how many men know anyone like that? I don’t think I’ve ever known anyone who would really set their own interests aside on my behalf. Real loyalty is rare thing, and real loyalty given to men in relationships is far rarer still.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
9:46 am

I agree that you can’t be made loyal, nor does anything someone do or not do really has a baring on how loyal a person will be. We see every day where folks are in relationships where they are being mistreated yet they still remain loyal to that person.

Loyalty is a trait that you possess. However you make the choice as to who you will and will not be loyal to.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
9:47 am

@ M.

I said it the other day…”Sometimes whe use the right techniques with the wrong person”…

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
9:48 am

Loyalty.. Ha! Where they do that at?

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
9:51 am

If you show me loyalty then I will return it.. Otherwise it aint nothing because my brand of loyalty consists of a strict code..

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
9:52 am

Are women expected to break the law to prove loyalty to their man, though!? I sure hope not!

Loyalty is something that is earned. @Rell, I believe everyone’s loyalty is tested at some point!

TMI, but my left ta ta won’t stop itching. It’s like a ping here, a ping there. Any old wives tales on what that may mean (and yes, I washed it).

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
9:53 am

abc I can’t agree with your definition of loyalty. Loyalty is about being devoted, dependable and faithful. As per your definition if both parties put the other’s interest before theirs neither would be actually doing anything at all. They both would be at a standstill.

But loyalty in terms of devotion is sticking with your partner come hell or high water. Loyalty is having their back and being a support system. Loyalty is being true to the one you are with. Putting your word out there and upholding it. That’s loyalty.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
9:56 am

Leggs it probably means you are still not completely pass pause. A PMS symptom.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
9:57 am

never trust a woman as far as you can throw them which usually aint far”

- we need to loose this “cut and burn” mentality when dating…we do this by upgrading ourselves thru mind/body/spirit….hell when i hit the gym or go for a stroll…i meet other liked mind people..thats one point of loyalty…shared experiences…think a sports team…those guys are loyal to on another based on there shared experience and goal setting…same thing that was taught to me growing up being the older sibling…also from my time in the corps…we called it e sprit de corps…loyalty is inspired thru action…shared experiences…and goal setting…its not hard we make it hard with that “old school” way of thinking…one of distrust and disrespect for one another…that i dont get

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:01 am

Loyalty in situations of “just dating” has to be kept to a minimum.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:03 am

Rell, I agree.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
10:05 am

…i am secretly laughin’ at lil mamma sayin “loyalty is that dog/owner thing”…

omy.

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
10:07 am

Three Words Daily – Diversify your life.

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
10:08 am

Yeah, I’m a Ride or Die kinda chick for my man, with a disclaimer – me not fond of jail. Can do no go to jail kinda ish. I don’t like cigarettes or chicks named Bertha.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:10 am

The thing with loyalty and relationships is there will always be something or someone more. However I really love a statement that abc said on here once. That more will not be more to you when you are loyal to the one you are with.

When you can bump your love interest for next new shiny model that cross your path you are not loyal. When you are loyal to that person, I don’t care how wonderful and spectacular the nu-nu may seem, your loyalty keeps you grounded.

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 5th, 2009
10:11 am

@Rell

“think a sports team…those guys are loyal to on another based on there shared experience and goal setting”

So with the sports analogy, and if everyone is so loyal, why are their trades? Why did Johnny Damon leave the Boston Red Sox to go to the RIVAL Yankees? You know why because a BETTER SITUATION CAME ALONG. And as I said in my posts, the loyalty can be there temporarily, but if a better situation comes around, they will be open to listening….And that’s how it is in dating. Women/Men make excuses for this and call it vulnerability.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
10:13 am

@Raqi ~ you got a point there. It’s a weird feeling!

Anyway, church doors are now closed :arrow: “But loyalty in terms of devotion is sticking with your partner come hell or high water. Loyalty is having their back and being a support system. Loyalty is being true to the one you are with. Putting your word out there and upholding it. That’s loyalty.” It’s a wrap!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:14 am

Loyalty keeps you respectful in the presence of others. I don’t care how much of an arse your s/o made themselves look in the presence of your friends, loyalty makes you stick with them when everyone else bails. Loyalty makes you wait until you get home to call them out on their foolishness. LOL

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
10:14 am

M.

Are you really comparing a relationship to a foot ball team???????

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
10:16 am

@MDOT..player for every johnny damon and shaq..there are your ac greens, ronnie lotts, mike jordan, larry bird..etc etc…in life everything is relative…you just have to detect the ‘larceny’ in those players and move on….we splitting hairs on this thing and you know where i am coming from….

Hopeless Romantic Diva

November 5th, 2009
10:17 am

Loyalty is essential in ANY relationship where the individuals have proven (and earned) mutual trust, respect, honor….and overall caring.

I have learned to be loyal to those who are loyal to me…life is too short to waste energy on people who do not deserve my loyalty which is the bomb! Granted, I won’t break the law or my principles for you. I’m too aware of “sick relationship” red flags to go down that path with people.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
10:18 am

Leggs – It means they needs some fondling and Kissin on..

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
10:20 am

Hopeless Romantic Diva – Good Post but dont eva eva eva eva use “Is the Bomb” again, I beggeth you..

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:20 am

Now as for all this jail, breaking the law nonsense, loyalty makes you do what’s in the best interest of that person. And they will appreciate it and thank you later. Call the cops. Turn them in. Loyalty coupled with love will make you put a stop to their craziness before they end up dead somewhere on a street corner or serving a life sentence. However loyalty will not let you miss those weekend visits to see them in the pen. :lol:

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
10:20 am

@MDot

Again, business loyalty vs personal.

Johnny Damon (like Farve) are not professionally loyal, none of us should be realistically.

Personal loyalty is another thing entirely. Would Farve or Damon give up the weaknesses of their friends on the “old” team? Doubtful. That would violate the “bro code”.

Distinctly different from me leaving a young lady for the 2.0 version (or vice versa).

Hopeless Romantic Diva

November 5th, 2009
10:21 am

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 5th, 2009
10:21 am

@Dream_n
@Rell – da rake

I agree with you guys. I was just comparing a LOYALTY aspect.

East Point's Own

November 5th, 2009
10:21 am

@Dream_n Trust is the other end of loyalty. The word Loyalty should not be viewed negatively. The person who trusts someone is expecting that the other person provides loyalty by not doing things to cause a loss of trust.

Loyalty is the result of the things done which allow someone else to put trust in you. A successful relationship needs trust and loyalty. If there is only trust and no one is actually doing the work then its just a bunch of empty promises.

http://hispointofview.com

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
10:21 am

Or dying. Not fond of dying – Can do no get me kilt ish either. ~lol~

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
10:23 am

@InfamousD ~ ding, ding, ding. That’s the second right answer. :lol: :lol:

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:27 am

Leggs that’s the first right answer, but it would have been inappropriate for me to say it. LOL

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 5th, 2009
10:27 am

@Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

You made a good point about personal loyalty. Question from a “personal loyalty aspect”, why do people cheat? Is it a lack of loyalty or placing self happiness over solutions i.e., working it out?

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
10:28 am

Well well I got hands and lips made for fondling and kissin on boobs..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
10:30 am

Loyalty is essential in ANY relationship where the individuals have proven (and earned) mutual trust, respect, honor….and overall caring.
I have learned to be loyal to those who are loyal to me…life is too short to waste energy on people who do not deserve my loyalty…

I agree with that sentiment in that there are some things that must be proven/earned in relationships and loyalty is one of them. However, there are unfortunate situations where some men/women go into it blindly only to later be left jaded,bitter,mad as heyal,etc. Blindly how might you ask?….we’ve all seen people we know that have given blind loyalty, blind love, blind respect to individuals that we know/think/feel shoudln’t get anything but shown the front door.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
10:31 am

East Point’s Own

I understand.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:32 am

SexyCool I agree with not being fond of dying. I have no loyalty for anyone that would knowingly even put me in a situation that could cause me harm.

abc

November 5th, 2009
10:32 am

But, Raqi, the reason that you stick by them come hell or high water, the nature of your devotion, faithfulness, and dependability, is that you put their interests first, before your own. One passes by the shiny new model because of commitment to the one whose interests they hold dear.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
10:33 am

if Mike Vick and the dog clan were anything like Bonnie n Clyde…how ‘bout I’d rather be the pit bull …his folk weren’t reliable AT ALL!

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
10:34 am

@MDot

People cheat because of convenience and out of lust.

Loyalty’s perversion allows them to return to the relationship with a (semi-) clear conscious. donning blog vest

The people that cheat and leave were never really loyal in the first place.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
10:35 am

…i don’t know where that came from…

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
10:36 am

Cemeeli – loving your 9:47

Morning Party People!

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 5th, 2009
10:38 am

@Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

That’s an interesting point Dan. So they can cheat and come back and its cool? The trust is gone then but that has to be re-earned along with the loyalty.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
10:39 am

…i don’t know where that came from…

Yes you do Cameeli b/c I’ve always thought the same thing….it’s jacked up that someone in his own camp/family turned on him and started a whole lotta ish. Where’s the loyalty in that?

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
10:40 am

Question Time:

Give examples of loyalty in regards to a relationship..

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
10:41 am

okay not really a question.. but you get though :)

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
10:43 am

@M-Dot

I’m not saying “it’s cool”, I’m saying it’s done.

Cheating is disloyal to the relationship (as an entity) and the other person in the relationship. But notice I said the perverted form of loyalty. It’s the perversion (and selfishness) that makes the cheater return.

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
10:44 am

Fortunately, I don’t choose mates that are into illegal or get me kilt ish anymore. :grin:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
10:46 am

why do people cheat? Is it a lack of loyalty or placing self happiness over solutions i.e., working it out?

There are a myriad of reasons people stray but per your question, therein lies the answer b/c it pretty much boils down to what you’ve stated.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
10:47 am

Thanks Mo aka Shawty By Nature…my sister from band dance team over yonder-way…have you seen the latest trend in dance uniforms?

after lunch topic

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
10:50 am

@ Sassy -

Yeah, his camp pretty much help send that man “downtown”…not that they we tryna cover their own azz.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
10:54 am

Off topic:

Rihanna is sexy as he!!

back to the regularly scheduled programming….

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
10:54 am

Dude’s loyalty was to himself. He was trying to cover his own ass. See, that’s why I don’t knowingly eff around with folks that do that go to jail kinda ish.

Cause when the cell door slams, I would get diarrhea of the lips. Seriously.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
10:55 am

Cemeeli – LOL! Well being the SWD Alum that I am, I have checked out some of the “latest & greatest” in uniforms. The many wardrobe changes is what gets me, three uniforms for one football game! I just wore my same old ‘bathing suit made of sequins’ (as my dad called it) & white boots for the whole game :shock: ….the horror!! LOL!

okay back on topic before M. puts me in the corner! :smile:

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
10:57 am

@dan….the death blow is coming to chris brown after that specail airs..he will be out of music…she just hit that cat with the death blow…i was like awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww dayum..she all crying looking all vunerable and ish on tv..but whats funny is when i see her all i see is the naked pics…lol

Wise Diva

November 5th, 2009
10:57 am

Loyal is walking your girl’s dog for her and buying her tampons! :)

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
10:59 am

buying her tampons

LOL That’s when I knew for sure he loved me.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:01 am

Let’s not talk about cheating. If another married man approaches me asking for a relationship (yeah right), I’m gonna drop kick his a$$!

@Raqi, I agree, but was being nice. Emotionally, second answer was the first, but medically first answer probably more on target!

@SCool ~ can we start a support group for those still seeking men that may put you in jail trying to prove your love/loyalty?

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
11:01 am

And in hair news, I have traded the ‘creamy crack’ in for texturizer. It works much better for the styles that I where my hair in – especially with my curly sue style that I wear during the week when I’m working out.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
11:01 am

You should see Pebblebrook and Mays…i was :shock:

Yup sequin was the joint…ain’t nothing like that silver and maroon reflecting off the sun in a parade and on the field :) and the team wore whatever I and the Morris Brown captian picked back in the 90s…but NOW!…Wow…just wow!…My mom dukes did not allow me to wear mine without a warmup over it when i was not performing.

Still got my boots…i donated my uniform back to a young lady the year after grad.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
11:02 am

Give examples of loyalty in regards to a relationship..

Dream_n,not undermining ur mate to ur friends,fam members or other outside pple.

Raqi’s 10.14..if u keep on talking about our stuff to ur mama and dem,then u either immature,disloyal or both.Every relationship has its ups and down and u need to know that be4 u sign on the dotted paper.Dont make every argument and excuse to say,”im bailking out”.That wld mean you aint serious not loyal to the relationship.
If u loyal to me,you run thru me and by me…….

Melo

November 5th, 2009
11:04 am

her and buying her tampons

call me disloyal then,i aint buying that unless she down for week with swine flu!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:05 am

Loyalty is when he pays attention to details…

Speaking of tampons, some of you know that the rods are not to be used after giving birth. You have to use the strips. I gave my honey the honey-do list of things I needed after having the baby and he called me from the store when he realized I had listed something other than that little blue box. He wanted to make sure he was getting the right things. LOL

He is loyal to my needs.

Alright, back to the regular scheduled program….

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
11:05 am

Yeah Rhianna is sexy and Chris Brown might as well hang it up.. I feel bad for him.. He shouldnt have put his hands on that chick but nothing is being said how she beat his a$$.. I mean if we gonna air it out lets get it out there.. They fought all the time with her being the instigator but Chris was wrong for beating that chick like that. If he had smacked her up and shook he could prolly come back but closed fist pummelling a chick.. Dude you are cold.. And no I dont condone smacking chicks.. Im not saying its right.. But I understand..

M. (pronounced M dot)

November 5th, 2009
11:08 am

@Leggs

LOL and have guys hit you with the line that “Yeah I am seperated”?

LOL that is code for I am not happy with my wife but it’s cheaper to keep her….now can do you want to be my mistress? LOL :)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
11:10 am

Let’s not talk about cheating. If another married man approaches me asking for a relationship (yeah right), I’m gonna drop kick his a$$!

Okay?! What’s up woth that? The part I don’t understand is that sometimes they have the audacity to get upset when their advances are rebuffed…..GTFOH with that.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
11:10 am

@Raqi/WD

Then colour me just short of “loyal”. I’ll protect you in everyway I can, but the tampons……

@Raqi

No more feminine product descriptions please.

@DK

“..her being the instigator….” <— there's an entire psychological discipline dedicated to those 4 words.

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 5th, 2009
11:11 am

@THE INFAMOUS DK

I was wondering today if we will ever hear the whole Chrianna story…I heard she gave him the gift that keeps on giving….

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:11 am

Loyalty is not suddenly needing to be somewhere else when you come by the house and find that the kitty is shedding her innards.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
11:11 am

@DK…i would have just cut her butt off…i mean he allowed that disrespect so he getting it how he lived..he thought that ish was cute..but i am more shooked at his folks…i would have sent homie on a euro tour or something like that to stick some distance between em….but i agree the close fist treatment was over the top…i would have called security on her or had them come pick me up…but i blame his team for this foolishness..they knew better

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
11:12 am

Oh my god though Rhianna is super sexy.. I put her up there with my Girlfriends Kelly, Amerie and Keri..

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
11:13 am

Rellone of my BMFs – strong co-sign on that 1111a.

You should never let ish like that be okay in your relationship from jump.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:13 am

Loyalty is telling your friends you’ll get with them later because you have more pressing issues to take care of even when it’s just to offer emotional support to your s/o by just being by their side.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:14 am

Loyalty is even when you can’t be there you call to show you care.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
11:16 am

M. – Yeah she gave him herpes.. Thats what Im saying.. Come on with the come on.. its out there already might as well be the face of valtrex..

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
11:18 am

@WD
I knew I wasn’t the only one thinking about loyalty/dogs… lol j/k

SexyC Is the texturizer for short hair?? I thought that was what men put in their hair to give them that wet look…

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
11:20 am

Cemeeli – yeah I always wore warmups while in uniform! And I SOLD my uniform to a chick that made the squad since I was a senior, as for those boots….hmmmmm! LOL

On Chris Brown/Rihanna: like many of you have said I dont condone him putting is hands on her, however I think his camp left him out to dry in this. They could’ve helped him out (like Rell said with the distance, just not allowing it, etc) and I think even now its gonna be worse with this interview coming out. I still love his music and hate to see a young man get trashed, however with actions come consequences. I would like to see them both come away from this, better people, and still successful

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
11:20 am

@ Ms. Main – I’m going to Fresh 2 Go…tell you the review about this location when i get back.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
11:21 am

Mo – You sold yours? Dang i sheist myself!!!…Naw…i was in the hood and knew how things were.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:22 am

Ok, Rhi Rhi hit Chris and Chris hit back. What amazes me with the entire story is what he saw growing up watching his mother get beat. How he swore to himself that he would never hurt a woman like that. Guess all the anquish his mother went through, that he went through hiding a few times because he couldn’t fight back for his mother only to turn around and beatup a woman himself. He couldn’t muster up enough restraint to walk away from the situation. Both parties are outraged and one’s career may never, ever recover. Bet he thought this may be behind him, but now she’s telling her story full of sincerity and remorse something his apologizes seemed to lack.

@SassyMe, how they think it’s flattering is beyond me. It’s insulting to say the least. A co worker noticed my weight gain and is now showing interest in me emailing me asking me for my number. WTH! Emailed back with “WTH is wrong with you, didn’t you just marry 8-9 months ago. Don’t make me hurt you feelings!” End of discussion.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:23 am

True loyalty is voluntary and not forced by way of manipulation. If you have to manipulate somebody you will never know their true level of loyalty. AND if you have to be manipulated you definitely are not loyal in the first place.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:27 am

Leggs usually when a boy grows up seeing a woman get beat into “acking right”, he comes to inwardly think that is the correct way to deal with a woman. Even when he thinks he never will. It’s like a natural instinct until he learns better.

Just like some women grow up seeing their mother, grandmother and aunts emasculating the men in their lives and think it’s the way things are.

Sad but as with little Boy Brown, he has lived now let’s hope he has learned.

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
11:28 am

Dream’n – yes, the texturizer is for short hair. I had been relaxing mine because although I have a strong natural curl pattern I do like to wear it straight, but have to put to much heat on it to keep it straight because I work out so much.

During the week, when I am working out 3 – 4 mornings a week, I just wet it in the shower and foam it and let it air dry. I wear it straight on the weekends – right now, it’s kinda Kandi from RHOA-like.

I switched from the relaxer because it was making my curly sue too straight. With the texturizer, I can still keep my curls but leave it manageable enough to straighten under the hooded dryer.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
11:28 am

Loyal is walking your dog at 5:30 in the morning and you get mugged and your dog bites the he!! out of the attacker even though the attacker has a bat and is beating the sh!t out of both of you…

Now that’s loyalty…..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
11:29 am

gave him herpes.. Thats what Im saying.. Come on with the come on.. its out there already might as well be the face of valtrex..

I know at one point she had oral herpes(HSV-1) i.e.cold sore, but not genital(HSV-2) so ummm so which one did she give him? Actually HSV-1 is more common than we think….several of the herpesviruses are quite common in the general population and alot of people are already infected and don’t know it….mind you that these viruses don’t all have negative sequelae associated with them.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:29 am

something his apologizes seemed to lack.

That’s because he thought he was above having to be remorseful. Somebody done told him wrong. He ain’t all that. And now probably never will be.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
11:29 am

I don’t condone violence but….

That “package” would’ve had me at least angry. “There’s a reason to kick an old man down a flight of stairs, you just don’t do it” – Chris Rock

But yeah at the first sign of foolishness, the D would’ve been out.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:31 am

Simmer down, Leggs, simmer down!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

Yeah and she’s a woman scorned.. She wants to bury dude.. Why now when his album is coming out.. I smell a Beastie Boys “SABOTAGE!!!”.. II hate it for both of them.

czBrat

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

GM All!

i feel like i’m missing sooooo much on the posts lately :(

“But loyalty in terms of devotion is sticking with your partner come hell or high water. Loyalty is having their back and being a support system. Loyalty is being true to the one you are with. Putting your word out there and upholding it. That’s loyalty.”

agree with Leggs, but i absolutely draw the line at being a partner in crime. if my s/o feels that means i’m lacking in loyalty, he can step!

abc

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

When a chick hits you, you leave, else you lose. Period, end of story. Brown loses, as well he should.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

dude is sorry..what da hell yall want him to do…again rihanna has a team behind her…i mean somebody jacking up her head every week..and chris has a team…i mean have you seen his new metro-sexual album cover..no man dressed like that is beating women…folks i blame the dayum yes folks in there camp period!!!…i mean think about it…they both have security teams…where was security..they were at the gas station blocking folks from coming up to the car when chris was filling it up…there is video…google it…iamjustsaying…he should have kept his mouth closed until she spoke….he all on larry king looking a smurf god

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:33 am

And if he doesn’t stop wearing Spandex, he may be laughed at even longer!

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:35 am

@czBrat, thanks but I didn’t say it. I was highlighting the point made by Raqi.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
11:35 am

Sassy – mind you that these viruses don’t all have negative sequelae associated with them.

Yes they do.. The H3ll you say. I get it that 1 is better than 2 but I still aint kissing all on you with 1.. I dont want bumps on my lips..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
11:37 am

A co worker noticed my weight gain and is now showing interest in me emailing me asking me for my number. WTH! Emailed back with “WTH is wrong with you, didn’t you just marry 8-9 months ago.

Leggs that’s just wrong. I wonder if sumtimes it’s an ego thang just to see if they’ve still got it and other times they come with the “I’m not happy at home” shpeel or some just want new pum pum…and if that’s the case buy your wife a wig and imagine.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
11:38 am

no man dressed like that is beating women

Rell you are a fool… I did se that album cover and was not too pleased… I’m all for the metrosexual look but ummmmm

@SexyC

See I need something for my real hair and I’m not sure if a texturizer is good for shoulder length hair… Under my “extentions” I have my hair braided, but for the winter months I want to just let it out, but w/out perming to make it straight….. I could go with a hot oil treatment, but that doesn’t really straigten the roots like a perm does…

Deeva4Life

November 5th, 2009
11:40 am

Loyalty is not suddenly needing to be somewhere else when you come by the house and find that the kitty is shedding her innards.

@ Raqi – LMAO…Awww,my poor computer(wet)screen.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:41 am

No doubt it’s an ego thing. Saw him in cafe this morning. He said marriage wasn’t what he thought it to be. Wife already clamming up. I placed my order and looked at him like he had a dozen heads! No crying on my shoulder B.U.D.D.Y!

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
11:41 am

@Dream_n….still did not get your email?

@leggs..yea you looking good lady…enjoy…you know he on the hunt for some new poo cee….ladies remember variety is the spice of life…the bills can wait until i bust one…then i can hear all your request..lol

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:45 am

This may be gross, but a sign of loyalty.

Loyalty is helping you with that suppository when everything else fails! (Isa sorry)!

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
11:46 am

Dream’n – I don’t see why a texturizer wouldn’t work on your longer hair. At it’s longest point in the top of my head, my hair is over 4″ long and it worked with no problem. In fact, an article that I read at That Black Girl suggests moving to a texturizer.

It’s just that with those little ass jars of it that they sell, you may need two or three boxes to get full coverage.

This is the link to the article:
http://www.thatblackgirlsite.com/thatblackgirlblogs/five-ways-to-keep-your-hair-looking-good-in-this-recession/

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
11:47 am

<eme.Yes they do.. The H3ll you say. I get it that 1 is better than 2 but I still aint kissing all on you with 1.. I dont want bumps on my lips..

DK maybe you misread or maybe I wasn’t clear….not all of the viruses in the herpes family have negative effects on people and some are quite common,actually.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
11:48 am

suppository ?????

Melo

November 5th, 2009
11:56 am

mind you that these viruses don’t all have negative sequelae associated with them

so what a man to do,buy a home testing kit??

melo: hey baby,ummm,im really digging u

traneesha: me to melo,hmmm,feel like kissing u,(she extending her chest area and tatas,tryin kiss melo)

melo: hold up,neesha,wtachu got on ur lip?

neesha: ohh,dis,dont worry,my doc say its not contalageenous..

melo: contalageenous?? what dart mean?

neesha:u just dont wanna kiss me,do u, melo?

melo: wait a minute(melo rushing to the bathroom to get the home test kit)
…..here,lemme me swab ur thang with this cotton and then test to see what u carrying..

neesha: f***^%K dat!!! who u think u are,my gyno or dentist or sme?? i just had a hiv test last yr,u f%^^*** trifling…lemme get out here!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:00 pm

Leggs that joker just talking crap. There is always some lame dude out there trying to get a sympathy f***.

He wants your sympathy and bet you it is based on a lie.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:04 pm

the bills can wait until i bust one

Rell why not let’s get the bills and all the other stuff out the way, then we can f*** all night long.

A woman with a clear head freely gives…

exercising in my office Head, shoulder, knees and toes; head, shoulder, knees and toes.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
12:06 pm

@raqi…i knew you would come back with that…lol..what i meant lets not stress on life responsibilities…and your head should be clear..why are you letting worry creep in…that only happens when you a dayum control freak or a “me” first person….we know what we have to do…but i see who is running the shop on our end!

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:10 pm

@Dream…you thought of a dog with loyalty and I thought about swans

@Melo not a home test kit…lol. If that is what it takes to stop spreading all this mess than do it! On that same note my friend, cousin, uncle, nephew aka my partna and dem posted a lady’s picture on FB (mug shot) with the link from the local tv station telling how she was spreading a disease knowingly and willingly infecting folks.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
12:14 pm

Swans?? How So Professor?

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
12:15 pm

and Rell you sure you didn’t get the email… check again… :)

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:15 pm

Swans are known for being loyal and mating for life at times.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
12:16 pm

Awwww, thanks Rell.

@Raqi ~ exactly. I don’t lend my shoulders to married man. Not interested in the “woe is me” stories. Most of them have been fabricated.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:17 pm

Our shop is dual-controlled. LOL Sorta like a bank vault.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
12:19 pm

@dream_n…nope…send to dwilliams2022@hotmail.com

but i understand the need to make me look crazy

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:22 pm

LOL Deeva4Life. You know they kind I’m talking about.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
12:22 pm

Another corny joke:

Why is an island considered a “T”

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
12:22 pm

Professor I didnt know that…

You learn something new everyday….

Lady J-When we start having unchangeable expectations, we will start to see unquestionable change

November 5th, 2009
12:31 pm

Leggs your last post yesterday was on it!!! I love that quote you left! Thanks Dream_n for understanding a bit of my drama…lol..

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
12:33 pm

Thank you LadyJ. I do hope someone, somewhere can identify with most of the quotes I leave when I’m not being silly. I appreciate you letting me know!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:38 pm

Does anyone know if Dating in the Dark is going to air again?

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:41 pm

Why is an island considered a “T”

‘come on now Ms. Leggs! A T?

ummm…ummm..ummm..

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:45 pm

Alex..i’ll take…’cause it’s in the middle of wa T er.

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:47 pm

Lady J that was a good quote Leggs left us with, but I think Melo’s post did an overshadow as we all ran towards the exit sign

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:49 pm

’cause it’s in the middle of wa T er

Cemeeli that the answer one of my friends gave. The other two, like myself, have no idea.

What’s the answer Leggs?

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:49 pm

Is it not cool to make a tweenboy (10y/o) take Christmas pictures? …there is a studio special going on…and he needs an updated one in something other than school uniform.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
12:50 pm

then we can f*** all night long

Is All nite long preferable to u than, all day long, RAQI??,work aside???????????

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:52 pm

My plate full of veggies and that soup help my brain cells…i had about 10 pieces of candy from my sons treat bag for breakfast.

lol :)

Melo

November 5th, 2009
12:53 pm

What post Proff?? oh u talking ’bout that play i toll’u all about??

We call dat Omaha02171009Square in ma house!

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:57 pm

Melo I am talking about you asking how African “juice” stack up against other juices

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
1:04 pm

Melo okay, I’ll answer.

“All night long” just means we can take all the time we need to get done what it is we need to do. And twice if we want to.

As long as it’s done right, it doesn’t matter with me…morning, afternoon or night.

You know what, I take that back. I actually do have preferences but it depends on other things.

Lady J-When we start having unchangeable expectations, we will start to see unquestionable change

November 5th, 2009
1:07 pm

@ Professor Melo is off the chain!:) Hi Melo!

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
1:09 pm

Sorry, Cee, I typed that wrong:

Why is a “T” considered an island! But, you figured it out. Good for you…{{clapping}} Lil leggs told me that one the other day.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
1:12 pm

clapping???…un-uhn…what’d i win?…

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
1:17 pm

Yall know the song “Taking it to the Streets” by the Doobie Brothers?

Tuesday morning my son was standing in the bathroom singing “Taking it to the Sheets”. I walked in his room and heard him and said “WTH are you saying”. I said hell before I realized it. LOL I told him it’s ‘streets’ and not ‘sheets’. But then I asked him what did he think it was talking about when he thought it was sheets?

Like a deer caught in headlights he looked at me like “oh crap”. But you know his answer was “nothing, I just thought that’s what it said”.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
1:20 pm

@ Raqi – You got a “ladies man” on your hands….do you?

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
1:22 pm

Cemeeli you won some of those Price Is Right parting gifts. A box of Polident, some Swiffer refills and a bag of Blue Diamond Almonds.

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
1:31 pm

Afternoon All,

Too much to read so i’ll just spot check to see what the topic is.

Raqi – Doobie Brothers. How old is ya lil dude?

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
1:31 pm

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
1:32 pm

I don’t need it but i want some more candy…Lemon Heads are addictive.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
1:41 pm

Willie, he is 14 but his dad is 54 and probably listens to such music. He was there this past weekend. Oh he may have heard it at home. The housekeeper usually have the radio playing while she is there. He may have heard it when he got home from school.

Either way he bet’ not be taking nothing to the sheets.

Hopeless Romantic Diva

November 5th, 2009
1:46 pm

Leggs….right on for your 11:41 am post! You go girl

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
1:51 pm

14 hunh, bout that time. I got a 13 yr old that is showing tendencies of being a beast on these chicks. Sweet and caring but conniving and manipulative at the same time. Trying to reign him in right now before its too late.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
2:02 pm

Willie Dynamite,when u succeed,tell me what ur recipe for success was coz i might need ur help too.
My 4 year old has a best friend at school,a girl.His two lady teachers told me that the 2 “friends” are not seperable.
When i asked my son about it,he had had the nerve to explain and elaborate,”daddy,she not my girlfriend,she my friend”
I wonder where that came from.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:04 pm

Hurt people, hurt people
This is always how
Oh, I’ve been
Entered by evil
So someone best
Love me right now

Because I could be
A would be killer
If suddenly
I should be
I would be killer

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:06 pm

@ WillieD/Raqi – I’m readin’ you two on this…and then my friend’s 13 year old son “tried” his daddy this pass Sunday she shared with me.

They (son n dad) were play-wrestling and the son got mad and serious cuase dad had the upper hand…My gf said she and her husband saw when he got upset and the face expression changed…so dad told him to gone on cause he told him that he’d get mad sooner or later.

and ya’ll i’m not married…what if when i do get married my knuckle head think he’ll try my old man…i don’t see him thinking that now at 10, but what if?

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:08 pm

maybe it’s an overthinking…

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
2:11 pm

Melo – cant help you buddy. My son started the same way. Pretty smile with dimples and he has a way with words. Always had friend-girls and women,teachers love him. I got my work cut out for me.

Similac- He will try him, no way around it. Your old man will have to find a way to handle it without pissing you and Real Dad off while teaching a lesson at the same time.

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
2:12 pm

your loyalty will be tested

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:13 pm

Cee – What Willie D said cause if he gets too outta hand The Dad is gonna wanna do something to him cause Lil Buddy gonna twist it up.. Shid I say send to live with his Dad at 12/13 anyway cause thats when hes gonna get to smelling himself.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:18 pm

…does all this come out around 13-14 years old?…I really wanna know the whole deal on this…

@ WillieD – Of course right now i’m the enforcer…but that dude will be bigger than me ina hot minute. I prolly wont be pissed if that goes down ‘cuase i’ve seen some dudes say some’n crazy ‘n get beat by their dad for it (in front of me)…body slam…jackin ‘em up by his neck…hymned up on a wall…under a car…right.

But it’ll be my son’s DAY one day, hunh?

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
2:20 pm

Cemeeli – its inevitable he WILL try your dad and/or his dad. I already had this talk with my ex, Lil Mo will go live with ex-hubby around 12-ish. I would rather we as is parents get to him before some judge.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
2:21 pm

meant ‘we as HIS parents’

And yes Cemeeli, I saw my older brother and cousins get jacked up!! LOL

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
2:22 pm

@Cee

It’s a man thing.

Most everyone has had (father in the life or not) a situation where some older male teaches you your limits.

Not always a physical confrontation, mind you, just sometimes an psychological “I can get you while you’re sleeping” kinda thing.

It’s healthy socialization in my opinion.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:23 pm

Cee – its like a dog when his nuts drop.. He feels like he’s not a pup anymore and he’s a man but all you have to do is thump his lil nuts and let him know he’s still a pup..

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
2:25 pm

Cemeeli that is one of things that have to be considered when marrying with kids.

I never really worried about the oldest, although Mase did have to catch him up in his collar once or twice, but he kinda grew up as Mase being one of his father figures. And he really took to him being his father, since he grew up with a real father in the house.

Now this little one, I don’t know how that is going to go. He has father that he spends time with and I don’t if he will try to put crap in his head about Mason. So far everything is fine. The play ball together. The play chess together. Mason is teaching him how to drive. And he takes him with him when he goes to the barber and to get the cars cleaned. I hope everything stays good.

However I do know that there will be normal man versus man friction eventually but hopefully to a minimum.

Mase already told my oldest that our home is no longer his home. He will help him in whatever way he needs to be helped, money, finding a job, finding a place to live, but he is his own man now. He has got to stand on his own two feet.

He can come visit but he cannot move back in, not unless he gets sick or something. And that I stand behind.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:26 pm

Dang!!!

I hope i’m not around…or hope i just catch the tail end of it..but i really hope i’m NOT there

…Yea WillieD – I will be tested…i been thinkin about that joint since my homegirl shared it with me…

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:26 pm

Cee – Yeah the whole “I brought you in this world and I can take you out” sentence is one of very important significance.. Yeah my Dad gave it to me with that grown man I’ll kill ya dead where ya stand look in his eyes…

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:28 pm

dangit man!!!…talking about boo’d up…

Now that part of it can be jacked up when you have a grow’n pre teen…

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
2:28 pm

Hymmed up on the wall 2 seconds from getting choked out worked for me. After that we are able to talk like folks for now. I’m sure in a few he’ll think he can try me again. Thats when the gloves come off.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:29 pm

Im just sitting here listening to Gnarls Barkley and I think its time for them to come out with another album.. I could use some of that good ish..

Lord Velonese (Hardy Har Har)

November 5th, 2009
2:34 pm

Three Words Daily – Gag, Vomit, Spew

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
2:34 pm

@DK

You don’t have the 2nd album or is that what you’re listening to?

Either way, last I heard, Lo was in the studio working on the Goodie album….so Gnarls needs to stay on hold for my taste.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:35 pm

@ Dan – Yea…my son thinks he’s 10 steps ahead of me now…really quick and witty…hadn’t gotten smartazz with me.

@ Raqi – I agree with you and Dan’s stance. You can not move back “home” once you’re on your own…and yea…i keep a clock on mine.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:35 pm

Willie D – My Dad said “So you think youre a man, huh?” He went downstairs got his snub nose 357 and sat it on the table and said “I brought you in this world and I’ll take you out” with that look in his eyes.. The one thing in our house was respect and my Mom just kept washing the dishes like she was gonna hit me from the left for being disrespectful and it coming to this. I seriously thought I was gonna get jumped on..

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
2:37 pm

Internet trouble.

Great prize selection, Raqi.

Funny comparison to pups lil nut and lil boy trying to “buck” one day.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:37 pm

Dan – Thats what Im listening to.. Just a Gnarls Barkley Party One and two.. “I love Mary, Marry me”

Lord Velonese (Hardy Har Har)

November 5th, 2009
2:38 pm

Three more words – Professor is gay

(Especially for that comment yesterday)

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:39 pm

Dan – Im listening to both of them at the moment.. “I love Mary, Blind Mary Marry me”

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
2:41 pm

DK – I can feel that, kinda like when it gets to that point ‘you know you don fugged up right’. I’m sure you didn’t have no mo problems with pops after that.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:42 pm

@ Infamous – 2:23…gotcha. So when his nuts fall or he get a lil pubic hair…bigman needed be on standby.

thx

Melo

November 5th, 2009
2:43 pm

Mase already told my oldest that our home is no longer his home

I hope he did not communicate as harshly as u make it sound.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:44 pm

Dan – Ceelo is too big for just goodie.. I like to hear him spit with goodie but I like his Perfect Imperfections and Gnarls projects.. That man is Dope.. Drake aint got nathan on Ceelo Green..

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
2:45 pm

We thought we were going to have an empty nest in about 4 years but because he rolled over one night when the stars were aligned just right, we gone be starting preschool in 4 years.

Beautiful

November 5th, 2009
2:45 pm

@ladies
who are you more loyal to? your gf’s or your man? keep in mind how long you have known each person.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
2:46 pm

Cee

He MIGHT not even try your dude. My brother never tried my father. When we were younger we were kinda scared of him. We had the utmost respect fo our father. Now our mother was a different brand. While we did respect her we tried her more than once… WE never won, but we tried lol….

My bro rose up on my mom one day and started yapping at the mouth… She pushed him on the couch and punched him in his chest so hard I thought he was going to have an asthma attack.

Kym

November 5th, 2009
2:47 pm

Cee your son is in what 4th, 5th grade. Next year 6th grade he is going to wake up a whole different person. It is like some genetic code kicks in and they go ape-shyt batty. My son kicked in at 6th grade went into over drive 7th grade, and this year kind of pulled into neutral. He has his moments but I think I have a cooling period until 10th grade.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
2:48 pm

To the men, care to continue sharing your stories on when your father was about to or actually did show you who the “man of the house” was?

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:49 pm

Willie D – You know what I didnt but it was crazy cause I’d seen my dad mad and even fight before (He whipped some dude with his belt after he knocked him out) but I’d never seen him with a look of hurt, disgust anger and danger at the same time.. Yeah I was scared and I knew Moms couldnt intervene in this one and I knew she wasnt gonna intervene. I was on my own.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
2:52 pm

@Deeam_n, my oldest brother got his chest all puffed out and back talked our mother. My mother broke a broom across his back then kicked him in the butt as he was falling to the ground. Mama didn’t play, EVA!

Kym

November 5th, 2009
2:53 pm

Oh yeah and Cee..I am 5′11 ok I can push 6ft in heels. My son is now 5′8 and solid. So yes he will be bigger than me soon. But he knows I am crazy..and I will beat his tail to hell won’t have it if he ever bucks up and tries me. I told him the day he tries is the day he leaves my house..naked and walking. I will love you right or wrong but I will break my foot off in your behind. Plus he has an assortment of crazy aunts, uncles, cousins on both sides of his family. My auntie is 75 and told him “Son don’t let me drive over there with a stick.”

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:53 pm

@ Dream_n – Your point is taken…you might be right…he may not. But since my son is a male…the men in my fam kinda said it my come. Then just recent that my gf experience it’s been on my mind. I want as many point of views to appease my thought after my girlfriend was a frazzled because her son was about to get hurt for real!

If lil Cee“think it” one day…there’s a monkey wrench for that too.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
2:54 pm

Actually he did Melo, but that was because the knucklehead just showed up late one night without any prior notice, and nearly got his head shot off. He has his own apartment. I made it clear with him that that was his place. But he still felt like he could just come walking in the house late at night when he felt he wanted to. Heck he couldn’t even do that when he did live in our house.

Mason told him how it was right then and there. And to let him know how serious he was he called him “Boy” and took the house keys. LOL

I remember once while he was still living down here at with us, I had him on a tight leash. He was working but he was not doing right with his money. He has a son and he needed to buy some things for him. He couldn’t get any money out of me so he went to Mase and was by him that he did not have the pleasure of making that baby so he will not bear the burden of taking care of it. Period.

He wanted to act like a man and do manly things, he’s got to do manly things and be a man now.

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
2:54 pm

Two different brands of loyalty. Apples and oranges, babygirl.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
2:56 pm

Cee – you just gotta get real crazy acting and he’ll shut down cause he aint never seen momma get outta character..

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
2:58 pm

@ Dream_n – I’ve done the hit in the chest already gurl…He is 10…I did it one day and he told me i knock a lil wind…but when he shock it off i was like “ok…not going to jail”…lol

@ Kym – We can get lil retarded when the seed thinks he’s going to try some’n…but I brought him here…so you know.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
2:59 pm

It is like some genetic code

Yep, that voice starts changing and they get some height and weight on ‘im.

One Saturday morning the doorbell rang and this voice outside our door said “I’ll get it”. I didn’t even recognize my own son’s voice. It was nasally and scratchy for so long then like over night it snapped into place and was like 3 octaves deeper.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:01 pm

Cemeeli make him think you gonna drown him. I threw a glass of water in my oldest face once. He was getting ready to talk back. I just doused him with it. And then made him clean up the mess.

Kym

November 5th, 2009
3:06 pm

@Cee girl I thought the last two years I was going to loco myself. I was ready to hurt him and I do mean hurt. But a male co-worker who knows my youngin stepped in and said, here take that boy to family therapy. He’s angry he dont know why…none of us knew why at that age. Let him go and let him get it all out. I asked him how he knew and he said cause he told me. I was floored..but I realized there are somethings menfolks can relate to that we can’t and it worked. It was a helluva year..but it worked. He is only half-crazy now. Plus I learned that his behavior..such as it was(is)…its normal. **Men are just crazy** The End.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
3:06 pm

care to continue sharing your stories on when your father was about to or actually did show you who the “man of the house” was?

back then,it was neva cool to have ur hair all shaved off.But my dad always made sure we were clean shaven,for religious purposes and i didnt like it.I was gonna rebel early on but i come from a big family of uncles,aunts etc and most of my uncles always told me not to rebel on my dad.
But after my 17 birthday,one morning,my dad left me money in da house so that i cld get my hair cut, as he left for work.I didnt utter a wrd,i just gave him a nasty eye.
He came back home that evening and asked me why i hadnt had my hair cut and i told him,”I didnt want to”

He told me to pack up and leave that evening and i called my aunt went to leave with her for a while,till I had my own spot.

We have never been close, ever since!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:06 pm

Cee – Just be sitting there while he sleep and let him wake to you just chilling right beside him. Then whisper to him.. “If you ever disrespect me again remember this moment”

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
3:07 pm

See what I’m reading is Dads/Men will get physical and straight Man-up. But if yall paying attention you see how the women get very creative and sometimes Medieval with it. Dad just may knock you out but Mom will have you limping for a few years cant breathe and isht. Thats why to this day I’m scared of Ma Dukes. LOL!!!

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:10 pm

I realized there are somethings menfolks can relate to that we can’t and it worked.

I know…on point!!!

lol @ Men are cwasi…hehehe

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:10 pm

I can actually feel the chills! That’s a good one and memorable!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:11 pm

Kym – Thats why we be trying to tell ya’ll send em to their dad’s house at a certain age cause its inevitable that he’s gonna try Momma.. Momma is just not scary because it comes a point where you know Momma cant do nothing with ya.. I remember when my Mom ran up on me because I told her I wasnt going to church no more.. She ran up and tried to grab me and I just stood there while she went all in to try and budge me, she was getting no traction. My Dad got up and turned the corner and didnt say a word but I was getting dressed for church..

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:11 pm

Just be sitting there while he sleep and let him wake to you just chilling right beside him. Then whisper to him.. “If you ever disrespect me again remember this moment”

Oh I like that Infamous.

Uh, does that work on husband’s also? LOL J/K

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:12 pm

WillieD – Check dat 3:06….I’m getting school from ya boy Infamous…

…tombout us Moms!!

Kym

November 5th, 2009
3:12 pm

My next move is..He is going to wake up to dirty plates in his bed if he keeps forgetting to wash them and load the dishwasher. Nothing like a fork to the backside to make you remember.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
3:13 pm

Just be sitting there while he sleep and let him wake to you just chilling right beside him. Then whisper to him.. “If you ever disrespect me again remember this moment”

DK I am dying over here…. He!! yeah that would scare the sh!ts out of him…. especially at 10!!!

Please let us know the look on your son’s face when you put the above into action!!!

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:15 pm

@Raqi, yes indeed that one is memorable!

I also like the dirty dishes in the bed. However, may roll over wrong and we’ll find ourselves at the hospital w/lil leggs getting stitches.

Kym

November 5th, 2009
3:15 pm

Well DK my son’s father is among the dead. So all he has is me. I figured I show him my crazy now..I beat him now so the police will never have to beat him later. (I hope)

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
3:16 pm

Need SALMON recipes. Thanks.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:16 pm

Dad just may knock you out but Mom will have you limping for a few years cant breathe and isht.

WillieD-

…i ain’t gon’ lie…i was s.c.a.r.e.d. when i bust him in the chest that day…thank God he’s played football..basketball, soccer…kinda helps…

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:16 pm

Kym I kicked over a bucket of mop water once while my oldest was mopping. I kept telling him to get off the phone until he finished. Which he knew by the time he finished his phone curfew would have passed. After the 3rd time telling him I kicked over the bucket and it took him like 5 time longer to get up all that water than what it would have taken him to just get off the phone and mop the floor.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:18 pm

Oh I got a million of them.. My Father was crazy when I was growing up.. For school he would just come up there and stare thru the rectangular glass in the door and do the come here finger.. He was the embarrass you tactician.. You didnt act bad in school cause he was subject to do anything.. If you didnt do your chores and he came home late at night while youre sleep he would wake you up.. I remember raking leaves and emptying trash at 3 in the morning.. I mean my last whoopin was at like 8/9, he did other things to just keep you straight.. Dang its funny now cause he’s a pussycat for my son..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
3:19 pm

Just be sitting there while he sleep and let him wake to you just chilling right beside him. Then whisper to him.. “If you ever disrespect me again remember this moment”

:shock: I don’t even have kids but that right there scared me.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:20 pm

@ Kym – I keep telling my son he is BLESSED to have the dishwasher on tap!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:20 pm

Kym – send him over there with me.. I wont even put my hands on him but he will understand not to ever disrespect Momma again..

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:21 pm

SCool ~ Crunchy Lemon-Dill Salmon with French’s® Fried Onions
Ingredients:

1 1/3 cups (2.8 oz.) FRENCH’S® Original French Fried Onions
1/2 tsp. dill weed
1/2 tsp. lemon pepper
6 portions salmon fillet (1 1/2 lbs.)
2 tbsp. FRENCH’S® Spicy Brown Mustard

Directions:
MIX French Fried Onions, dill and lemon pepper in plastic bag. Crush with hands or rolling pin.

BRUSH salmon with mustard. Coat top of salmon pieces with seasoned onion crumbs; press firmly to adhere.

BAKE salmon on a foil-lined baking sheet at 350°F for 20 min. or until opaque in center.

Deeeeelish!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:21 pm

SexyCool, I normally cook mine on the grill on a wood board with some lemon juice and little butter and salt. Nothing fancy.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
3:22 pm

Sassy

You so sily…but yea i was a wee bit scared too lol

Kym

November 5th, 2009
3:23 pm

Raqi I am all about waking folks up out of sound sleeps. And taking stuff. Last year I packed the boys entire room I mean everything minus clothes and the bed. And took it out of the house. He was crying “Can I at least keep my DS?” Nope. Gave away the tv and a old video game system.

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
3:26 pm

With all these stories going back and forth bout boys 2 men. I’ll tell you what I am scared of. Raising a Girl. I’m shook right now just thinking about it.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:26 pm

@ Dream_n – My son longs for the relationship with my old man…he actually thinks that loser is cool…If i do the “sitting by the bed talkin crazi” thing, he’d probably call my old man and ask him to rescue him.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:27 pm

LOL Infamous. Try going to the school where your mother was a teacher. Talk about embarrassing moments.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
3:28 pm

I too remember my mother waking me at 4am to wash dishes, dust or whatever other chore I forgot! Whoa the memories…..

okay so has anyone heard the new Ryan Leslie CD? Or B McKnights?

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
3:28 pm

@WD

I have this theory….

The rougish dudes that I know (colder than I could’ve ever been to a woman) all have daughters.

Among 3 dudes, 8 kids, 6 daughters.

In about 12-14 years, I’mma laugh…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
3:29 pm

You so sily…but yea i was a wee bit scared too lol

Dream sumthing like that’ll have a kid tryna sleepwith one eye open chile….he’ll be thinking she crazy……

Tazzee - ready for the weekend

November 5th, 2009
3:29 pm

Afternoon Folks!

On Topic – Loyalty is VERY important to me. I agree that loyalty is earned over a period of time. Once a person is ‘in’ with me, they REALLY have to nut up to get out. When hurt, I may have to step away for a second but I forgive almost everyone.

My fiance’ and agreed early in our relationship that we don’t allow grown folks to live in our homes. The conversation came about when his Aunt’s grown kids were living in her house. After we left there I plainly said that I don’t allow any grown folks to live in my house. As we grew closer and started talking marriage – we discussed in relation to his kids.

My nephew has asthma, so I’m afraid to punch him in his chest. But I did hem him up against the wall by his neck one time. Only had to do that once – for the most part, he’s a good kid. Plus, he thinks I’m crazy.

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
3:29 pm

Got my Dream’n style notepad over here and am scribbling furiously…

I’m lying. Selected text and hit print. LOL!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
3:29 pm

Raqi – i went to school where my mother taught…….OMG! My brother had mom as a teacher….I did not envy him

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:29 pm

My dad would wake you up in the middle of the night.. I remember raking leaves and emptying trash at 3 in the morning.. Then if I was really trippin that belt at 1 in the morning aint nothing nice.. From dead sleep to a butt whooping.. Its like going 0 to lightspeed..

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
3:29 pm

Me too Willie D Me too…..

but I have no choice but to take it day by day…

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:30 pm

Raising a Girl

Raqi faints again and assumes fetile position while weeping

Lord please don’t let her be anything like me. PLEASE!.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:31 pm

I’ll tell you what I am scared of. Raising a Girl. I’m shook right now just thinking about it.

WillieD – I DO NOT wanna switch places with you! I’d rather let that lil dude go through puberty 5 times before raising a me for example…

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:31 pm

@WillieD ~ you’re absolutely right, it’s frightening. Just watching the little girl grown into a beautiful teenager is frightening. I’m very thankful that at least the boys in her school and in the neighborhood know that I will give it my best try and jack them up if they mess with her. Whether I will or not, I want them to believe that I’m crazy enuf to do it. It starts with the belief!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
3:32 pm

The rougish dudes that I know (colder than I could’ve ever been to a woman) all have daughters.

Isn’t that weird how it happens like that. I know a few ruffians myself and they all have daughters albeit,some of them have multiple “baby mamas” but the majority of their children are girls.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:32 pm

From dead sleep to a butt whooping

Infamous, Can you too recall that sudden flash of cold air when your dad threw back the covers? When you felt that you knew what was coming next. LOL

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:35 pm

Mo my oldest brother and sister both had moms for their teacher. I never had to live thru that agony. But I tell you I know she had these antennas that went off when I was acting up, ’cause when I would look up she would be standing right there. And her class was all the way on the other side of the building. LOL

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
3:36 pm

@Sassy

It ain’t weird, I keep telling them it’s instant karma…and I laugh some more.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:36 pm

I see many of us was shaken awake between the hours of 3-4:48 am to either a butt whoooopppingg or to do some more cleaning cuz a minuscule piece of dried up food was found inside the prong of one the forks.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:37 pm

@ Mo – Girl my mom pull the covers back open the windows in my room and waited for the cold air to come in…when i got up to closed the window she was in my room…whaapp, in the back, and pushed me..then said to go clean the kitchen.

It only happened ONCE!

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
3:37 pm

before raising a me for example…

Cee that is so funny…

Willie Dynamite

November 5th, 2009
3:38 pm

Dan – Karma is right, that why I’m scared as heyal.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:38 pm

raqi – The cold air then the whoosh and POP! It all happened before you could open your eyes..

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 5th, 2009
3:38 pm

Raqi – we couldnt pull anything over on mom’s b/c she was a mom & teacher! LOL! I got sent to her room a few times for diarrhea of the mouth in class but that didnt last long. My brother….poor thing! And mom taught English so we werent allowed anything but an “A” in that subject

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:39 pm

Leggs our little lady is only 5 months and is already making demands.

Babies cry because that is their only form of communication until they learn to talk and ask for what they want. But I’m telling you that little girl as an attitude. AT. TI. TUDE.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:41 pm

My dad has never whooped me…i remember he was gettin on to me about somethin’ and my mom over heard the convo…that lady came round the corner…I started profusly apologizing and ran around my dad to get away from her.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:45 pm

Lil leggs has never been whooped by her father either. I did the whooping. Her last whooping you would have thought I shot her with a shotgun. She refused to get up from the floor from her last spanking so each time I had to go in the room she was blocking, I stepped over her leaving her there crying!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:45 pm

Leggs my thing was the laundry. Not folding and putting away that last load in the dryer. I would be watching TV or talking on the phone and either neglect or forget about that last load.

Mom and pop would come home from where ever they went and it was on. My sister would get it because she was just getting home when they pulled up. I would get because of the laundry. And my youngest brother would get it because he didn’t wipe off the counter after washing the dishes. And my oldest brother would get it because he allowed it all to happen. LOL

I see why he became a psychotherapist. He was probably trying to figure out why they held him responsible for what we did or didn’t do.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:48 pm

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:49 pm

Cemeeli When I got older I wished my dad would have whooped me instead of me having to endure his lectures.

Hey man, just beat me and get it over with. A two minute whooping versus and 2 hours (actually 20 minutes) lecture.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:50 pm

Yeah…my mom was the enforcer too.

Momma was gansta…she is sweet as pie now…but when i was in my “trippin stage” she got it straight the first time.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
3:53 pm

I have to agree.

My mom was the beater for the girls and my bro, but my dad would only beat my brother naked with a extention cord! (DAM!N). All he had to do was get his grades up and stop getting U’s… !!!

Man he would take him downstairs in the basement make him get naked and wear him out!!

Now that I think about it. Was that chid abuse???

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:53 pm

@Cee ~ isn’t it amazing how sweet they are now. My mother was a force you didn’t want to reckon with. When I go home I often find myself looking at her sideways wondering when did the “pea pod” people come replace her with this model. I can hardly recognize her.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
3:53 pm

I’ll take a lecture from my dad anyday…Momma had me on lock.

Ya’ll know how dads are about their girls…that was my momma too…she’d cuss any guy out that call hisself tryna holla.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:53 pm

Thats what wrong with alot of these kids these days.. No accountability.. No consequences for their actions at a young age..

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
3:55 pm

Yes, in our day it was child abuse but we didn’t know any better. Heck, the phone was always locked up so we never even thought about calling 911.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
3:56 pm

A comedian said once his mom dared him to call 911 caus e she would kill him before they got there..

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
3:56 pm

Ya’ll know how dads are about their girls

Nah Cemeeli, my hot tail sister made it bad for me. My dad was determined he was going to cut me off in my tracks when it looked like I was headed neaer that dark, evil path she paved.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
4:00 pm

Dream my parents would not whip us all over like that. You had to stand there and take it on the rear end. If you moved it took that much longer.

And Leggs I am not going to call it abuse. Our generations wouldn’t dare think of doing some of the stuff these kids do now. Those whipping are a big reason why.

Our parents could send us down the street and didn’t have to worry about us acting up ’cause Mrs. Nella would whip us all the way back home if we did.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
4:00 pm

child abuse???

Daaaamn..just as well my 15 yr old is so scared of me she wont do non too crazy.

Im itching to burn with an extention cord,that lil tight azz that the young boys at her school are smelling an feeling at. :lol:

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
4:01 pm

True story:

I told my mom’s that I’d call childrens service on her, to wit she responded “Without any bruises, they’re going to leave you here. Worse thing I’ll have to do is talk to somebody a couple of weeks from now, you should be awake by then.” <—never stopped washing dishes to even look at me

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
4:01 pm

Im itching to burn with an extention cord

That’s ^ child abuse.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:03 pm

You said it InfamousD. Forget about taking away a Gameboy or an Xbox. Do like Kym, clean out their entire room! These kids are buck wild and don’t seem to worry about going home once dark falls after they did something wrong earlier. Nothing like trembling all the way home weighing your options or running away now or getting that beating. In my house, I’m the sheriff and there will be no wilding out! (let’s see I have a good 2 more years to see if this is actually true)!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
4:03 pm

Melo – Im itching to burn with an extention cord,that lil tight azz that the young boys at her school are smelling an feeling at

That was a little perved out.. And super creepy.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
4:04 pm

No accountability.. No consequences for their actions at a young age..

Not only that, but they law..

Case in point. My aunt is raising 2 twin boys that are the epitome of bad. The dad isn’t around and they are out of control. She used to beat the he!! out of them, but they got immune to it. They were in school one semester learning about child abuse, the signs and what you can do if you are a victim of CB.
Well the stupid lil mofo called DCFS on his mom when she beat his AZZ for stealing the “dope boys” drugs. You see around their neighborhood, they hide money and dope in a certain spot. Well this little knuckle head stole it and came home with it… his twin told their mom. And my aunt beat his butt b/c she was scared they would come knocking on her door and god knows what would happen. So she beat the meat off of his butt… long story short he called on her it took a lil while to get those kids back. They went to stay with my other aunt until the investigation was over…

I don’t know the details of the case, but I’m sure that mess will be in the system for a while.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
4:05 pm

Dan – you should be awake by then.” <—never stopped washing dishes to even look at me

Wow!!

Melo

November 5th, 2009
4:06 pm

That’s ^ child abuse.

who see dat child abuse??

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
4:06 pm

Naw..never used an extension cord…a belt was it.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
4:07 pm

no creepy,just aware..

At 40 some,u think i can forget what goes on at that age??

If i was feeling chicks at 14/15,same thing is happening….

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
4:08 pm

I guess we have gone full circle. It looks like with most of us Mom and Pop were Bonnie and Clyde when it came to disciplining and trying to raise us right.

Like I told my sons, Mason and I are united. We are one. What one says the other agrees and upholds.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:08 pm

Ok, not “child abuse” it just hurt so much. More like the 8th Amendment (cruel and unusual punishment). Waking a child up just to fold the pillowcases properly. But all of that loving and showing care for us, albeit painful, pretty much kept most of us on the straight and narrow.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
4:09 pm

Melo – The tight lil azz comment was a bit much.. Like you were foaming at the mouth with your wood in your hand while talking about her tight lil azz..

AlisonLovesSean

November 5th, 2009
4:10 pm

I don’t think Bonnie was being loyal when she hooked up with Clyde. She would have run off with anyone who got her out of that town and could come up with a few bucks now and then.

Is loyalty an expectation when you’re dating in the short term, as in hanging out together now and then? Loyalty becomes part of the decision-making process when the two daters consider becoming a couple and only dating each other. Then, their individual past behavior indicates whether loyalty is a strong character trait. If not, that’s a signal to move on. Loyalty is a must in a long-term committed relationship.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
4:11 pm

Kym

November 5th, 2009
4:11 pm

My biggest problem now is grades. My son for whateva reason has one teacher(every other year) who he cannot seem to get along with. I told him everyone is not going to like you. But for whateva reason he has one that gives him hell and he gives it back by not doing the work as if that is punishing the teacher. Now in 6th grade he had a A but his personality just clashed with the teacher. I think it is just “A” type teacher, goofy, nerdy student. “A” type folks and goofy kids don’t mix well. Last teacher was “A” type too. **sigh** 5 more years …just 5 more years.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
4:11 pm

Dream_n, she should have let those dope boys beat his behind. She trying to protect him and he calling the police on her. Hell I would have him locked for stealing. The police would have taken him and kept him.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
4:13 pm

If parents cant whoop their kids,they will keep that anger inside and instead,unleash mental,phsychological and verbal torture.

Might even be worse.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
4:13 pm

…crickets…

sometimes a comment will come across the screen and it’s like @ the movie…———-screeeeetchh———WHAT DA?

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
4:13 pm

The tight lil azz comment was a bit much

Yeah Infamous. This is not first time he has made an inappropriate comment about his daughters. I hope he is just trying to shock folks because those type of comments do make me a little concerned.

Deeva4Life

November 5th, 2009
4:18 pm

The tight lil azz comment was a bit much

Yeah Infamous. This is not first time he has made an inappropriate comment about his daughters. I hope he is just trying to shock folks because those type of comments do make me a little concerned.

@ Raqi – Ditto!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
4:20 pm

Melo – you my mans and nem but you cant speak about your daughters like that at all.. I mean people take that ish serious especially since molesting little girls seem to be on the menu today and yes even by their Dads..

Melo

November 5th, 2009
4:20 pm

ok,i take it back!

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
4:22 pm

Yeah

What Raqi/Dk/and Cee said….

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
4:24 pm

Oh and Raqi I do agree with your 4:11

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:24 pm

@Melo, you have understand, perverts talk like that. No father puts “tight” and “azz” in the same sentence when talking about their child.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:25 pm

narrow little azz, perhaps because parents have been saying this since dust was formed.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:26 pm

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KXXV-TV in Killeen is reporting that all available EMS units near Killeen are being dispatched to Fort Hood.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
4:27 pm

Leggs,I wsnt on that tip but i get ur points…..my bad!

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:28 pm

@Melo, we know you aren’t on that tip that’s why you’re being schooled on that phrase.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
4:44 pm

I remebering For Real’s comment yesterday about Melo knowing how to clear a room!!

lmao…

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:47 pm

@Dream_n ~ I thought I was once again having computer trouble. Too funny!

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
4:51 pm

I am cracking up over here…
Go ahead and it us with a quote so we can gon get outta here Ms. Leggs

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
4:56 pm

Good night everyone! In case you haven’t noticed, this is the “Quit” series:

“Quit making excuses about why you are where you are or why you can’t do what you want to do!” Stop w/the excused and start working on the solutions.

Bye!

MsM

November 5th, 2009
4:56 pm

When he started smelling himself… locking and/or slamming the room door >>> no door
When he seemed unappreciative… slept/lived in the garage all weekend in his pj’s. I’d just purchased him his first real bed, from bunk bed to pillow top queen size. I told him next time, the curb and I dare you to leave.

He never got a whoopin by surprise, one waring and next violation is a** beat’n. We didn’t even go round and round about it, he just bent over.

He’s 18 now, and I know he does his do… just don’t let me catch you. All in all he’s a great son.