I was having a friendly debate with my friend Mark about loyalty in dating relationships. I don’t think it exists. As humans, we are self-preserving, self-serving people. Loyalty extends about as far as it can until we decide that our own needs are more important than someone else’s.
He disagreed and said that loyalty is one of the things that people should be willing to prove in dating to lead to a relationship. Mark and I joked about how Bonnie & Clyde were known as the most loyal couple in history.
In some twisted way, the fact that she not only stuck by Clyde and covered for him, she also joined in his crime sprees of robbery and murder. Are women expected to break the law to prove loyalty to their man, though!?
Do you think that loyalty is a realistic expectation in dating? Is it important to you when you are getting to know someone?
How do you know when someone is loyal to you? Is it something you can really prove or a feeling you give?
Do you think that couples have to “keep” their mate loyal? What kind of person is more likely to be loyal? Is that the kind of character trait you can suss out in dating?