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Bonnie & Clyde

I was having a friendly debate with my friend Mark about loyalty in dating relationships. I don’t think it exists.  As humans, we are self-preserving, self-serving people.  Loyalty extends about as far as it can until we decide that our own needs are more important than someone else’s.

He disagreed and said that loyalty is one of the things that people should be willing to prove in dating to lead to a relationship.  Mark and I  joked about how Bonnie & Clyde were known as the most loyal couple in history.

In some twisted way, the fact that she not only stuck by Clyde and covered for him, she  also joined in his crime sprees of robbery and murder. Are women expected to break the law to prove loyalty to their man, though!?

Do you think that loyalty is a realistic expectation in dating? Is it important to you when you are getting to know someone?

How do you know when someone is loyal to you? Is it something you can really prove or a feeling you give?

Do you think that couples have to “keep” their mate loyal?  What kind of person is more likely to be loyal? Is that the kind of character trait you can suss out in dating?

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Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
11:29 am

gave him herpes.. Thats what Im saying.. Come on with the come on.. its out there already might as well be the face of valtrex..

I know at one point she had oral herpes(HSV-1) i.e.cold sore, but not genital(HSV-2) so ummm so which one did she give him? Actually HSV-1 is more common than we think….several of the herpesviruses are quite common in the general population and alot of people are already infected and don’t know it….mind you that these viruses don’t all have negative sequelae associated with them.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
11:29 am

something his apologizes seemed to lack.

That’s because he thought he was above having to be remorseful. Somebody done told him wrong. He ain’t all that. And now probably never will be.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 5th, 2009
11:29 am

I don’t condone violence but….

That “package” would’ve had me at least angry. “There’s a reason to kick an old man down a flight of stairs, you just don’t do it” – Chris Rock

But yeah at the first sign of foolishness, the D would’ve been out.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:31 am

Simmer down, Leggs, simmer down!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

Yeah and she’s a woman scorned.. She wants to bury dude.. Why now when his album is coming out.. I smell a Beastie Boys “SABOTAGE!!!”.. II hate it for both of them.

czBrat

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

GM All!

i feel like i’m missing sooooo much on the posts lately :(

“But loyalty in terms of devotion is sticking with your partner come hell or high water. Loyalty is having their back and being a support system. Loyalty is being true to the one you are with. Putting your word out there and upholding it. That’s loyalty.”

agree with Leggs, but i absolutely draw the line at being a partner in crime. if my s/o feels that means i’m lacking in loyalty, he can step!

abc

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

When a chick hits you, you leave, else you lose. Period, end of story. Brown loses, as well he should.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
11:32 am

dude is sorry..what da hell yall want him to do…again rihanna has a team behind her…i mean somebody jacking up her head every week..and chris has a team…i mean have you seen his new metro-sexual album cover..no man dressed like that is beating women…folks i blame the dayum yes folks in there camp period!!!…i mean think about it…they both have security teams…where was security..they were at the gas station blocking folks from coming up to the car when chris was filling it up…there is video…google it…iamjustsaying…he should have kept his mouth closed until she spoke….he all on larry king looking a smurf god

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:33 am

And if he doesn’t stop wearing Spandex, he may be laughed at even longer!

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:35 am

@czBrat, thanks but I didn’t say it. I was highlighting the point made by Raqi.

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 5th, 2009
11:35 am

Sassy – mind you that these viruses don’t all have negative sequelae associated with them.

Yes they do.. The H3ll you say. I get it that 1 is better than 2 but I still aint kissing all on you with 1.. I dont want bumps on my lips..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
11:37 am

A co worker noticed my weight gain and is now showing interest in me emailing me asking me for my number. WTH! Emailed back with “WTH is wrong with you, didn’t you just marry 8-9 months ago.

Leggs that’s just wrong. I wonder if sumtimes it’s an ego thang just to see if they’ve still got it and other times they come with the “I’m not happy at home” shpeel or some just want new pum pum…and if that’s the case buy your wife a wig and imagine.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
11:38 am

no man dressed like that is beating women

Rell you are a fool… I did se that album cover and was not too pleased… I’m all for the metrosexual look but ummmmm

@SexyC

See I need something for my real hair and I’m not sure if a texturizer is good for shoulder length hair… Under my “extentions” I have my hair braided, but for the winter months I want to just let it out, but w/out perming to make it straight….. I could go with a hot oil treatment, but that doesn’t really straigten the roots like a perm does…

Deeva4Life

November 5th, 2009
11:40 am

Loyalty is not suddenly needing to be somewhere else when you come by the house and find that the kitty is shedding her innards.

@ Raqi – LMAO…Awww,my poor computer(wet)screen.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:41 am

No doubt it’s an ego thing. Saw him in cafe this morning. He said marriage wasn’t what he thought it to be. Wife already clamming up. I placed my order and looked at him like he had a dozen heads! No crying on my shoulder B.U.D.D.Y!

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
11:41 am

@Dream_n….still did not get your email?

@leggs..yea you looking good lady…enjoy…you know he on the hunt for some new poo cee….ladies remember variety is the spice of life…the bills can wait until i bust one…then i can hear all your request..lol

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
11:45 am

This may be gross, but a sign of loyalty.

Loyalty is helping you with that suppository when everything else fails! (Isa sorry)!

SexyCool - Ride or Die.

November 5th, 2009
11:46 am

Dream’n – I don’t see why a texturizer wouldn’t work on your longer hair. At it’s longest point in the top of my head, my hair is over 4″ long and it worked with no problem. In fact, an article that I read at That Black Girl suggests moving to a texturizer.

It’s just that with those little ass jars of it that they sell, you may need two or three boxes to get full coverage.

This is the link to the article:
http://www.thatblackgirlsite.com/thatblackgirlblogs/five-ways-to-keep-your-hair-looking-good-in-this-recession/

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 5th, 2009
11:47 am

<eme.Yes they do.. The H3ll you say. I get it that 1 is better than 2 but I still aint kissing all on you with 1.. I dont want bumps on my lips..

DK maybe you misread or maybe I wasn’t clear….not all of the viruses in the herpes family have negative effects on people and some are quite common,actually.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
11:48 am

suppository ?????

Melo

November 5th, 2009
11:56 am

mind you that these viruses don’t all have negative sequelae associated with them

so what a man to do,buy a home testing kit??

melo: hey baby,ummm,im really digging u

traneesha: me to melo,hmmm,feel like kissing u,(she extending her chest area and tatas,tryin kiss melo)

melo: hold up,neesha,wtachu got on ur lip?

neesha: ohh,dis,dont worry,my doc say its not contalageenous..

melo: contalageenous?? what dart mean?

neesha:u just dont wanna kiss me,do u, melo?

melo: wait a minute(melo rushing to the bathroom to get the home test kit)
…..here,lemme me swab ur thang with this cotton and then test to see what u carrying..

neesha: f***^%K dat!!! who u think u are,my gyno or dentist or sme?? i just had a hiv test last yr,u f%^^*** trifling…lemme get out here!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:00 pm

Leggs that joker just talking crap. There is always some lame dude out there trying to get a sympathy f***.

He wants your sympathy and bet you it is based on a lie.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:04 pm

the bills can wait until i bust one

Rell why not let’s get the bills and all the other stuff out the way, then we can f*** all night long.

A woman with a clear head freely gives…

exercising in my office Head, shoulder, knees and toes; head, shoulder, knees and toes.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
12:06 pm

@raqi…i knew you would come back with that…lol..what i meant lets not stress on life responsibilities…and your head should be clear..why are you letting worry creep in…that only happens when you a dayum control freak or a “me” first person….we know what we have to do…but i see who is running the shop on our end!

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:10 pm

@Dream…you thought of a dog with loyalty and I thought about swans

@Melo not a home test kit…lol. If that is what it takes to stop spreading all this mess than do it! On that same note my friend, cousin, uncle, nephew aka my partna and dem posted a lady’s picture on FB (mug shot) with the link from the local tv station telling how she was spreading a disease knowingly and willingly infecting folks.

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
12:14 pm

Swans?? How So Professor?

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
12:15 pm

and Rell you sure you didn’t get the email… check again… :)

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:15 pm

Swans are known for being loyal and mating for life at times.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
12:16 pm

Awwww, thanks Rell.

@Raqi ~ exactly. I don’t lend my shoulders to married man. Not interested in the “woe is me” stories. Most of them have been fabricated.

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:17 pm

Our shop is dual-controlled. LOL Sorta like a bank vault.

Rell - da rake

November 5th, 2009
12:19 pm

@dream_n…nope…send to dwilliams2022@hotmail.com

but i understand the need to make me look crazy

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:22 pm

LOL Deeva4Life. You know they kind I’m talking about.

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
12:22 pm

Another corny joke:

Why is an island considered a “T”

Dream_n

November 5th, 2009
12:22 pm

Professor I didnt know that…

You learn something new everyday….

Lady J-When we start having unchangeable expectations, we will start to see unquestionable change

November 5th, 2009
12:31 pm

Leggs your last post yesterday was on it!!! I love that quote you left! Thanks Dream_n for understanding a bit of my drama…lol..

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
12:33 pm

Thank you LadyJ. I do hope someone, somewhere can identify with most of the quotes I leave when I’m not being silly. I appreciate you letting me know!

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:38 pm

Does anyone know if Dating in the Dark is going to air again?

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:41 pm

Why is an island considered a “T”

‘come on now Ms. Leggs! A T?

ummm…ummm..ummm..

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:45 pm

Alex..i’ll take…’cause it’s in the middle of wa T er.

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:47 pm

Lady J that was a good quote Leggs left us with, but I think Melo’s post did an overshadow as we all ran towards the exit sign

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
12:49 pm

’cause it’s in the middle of wa T er

Cemeeli that the answer one of my friends gave. The other two, like myself, have no idea.

What’s the answer Leggs?

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:49 pm

Is it not cool to make a tweenboy (10y/o) take Christmas pictures? …there is a studio special going on…and he needs an updated one in something other than school uniform.

Melo

November 5th, 2009
12:50 pm

then we can f*** all night long

Is All nite long preferable to u than, all day long, RAQI??,work aside???????????

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
12:52 pm

My plate full of veggies and that soup help my brain cells…i had about 10 pieces of candy from my sons treat bag for breakfast.

lol :)

Melo

November 5th, 2009
12:53 pm

What post Proff?? oh u talking ’bout that play i toll’u all about??

We call dat Omaha02171009Square in ma house!

Professor

November 5th, 2009
12:57 pm

Melo I am talking about you asking how African “juice” stack up against other juices

Raqi

November 5th, 2009
1:04 pm

Melo okay, I’ll answer.

“All night long” just means we can take all the time we need to get done what it is we need to do. And twice if we want to.

As long as it’s done right, it doesn’t matter with me…morning, afternoon or night.

You know what, I take that back. I actually do have preferences but it depends on other things.

Lady J-When we start having unchangeable expectations, we will start to see unquestionable change

November 5th, 2009
1:07 pm

@ Professor Melo is off the chain!:) Hi Melo!

Leggs

November 5th, 2009
1:09 pm

Sorry, Cee, I typed that wrong:

Why is a “T” considered an island! But, you figured it out. Good for you…{{clapping}} Lil leggs told me that one the other day.

Cemeeli

November 5th, 2009
1:12 pm

clapping???…un-uhn…what’d i win?…