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Bedside Manner

Most women will agree that the relationship with her doctor is not unlike the one she has with her man.  She has to be able to trust the person and feel comfortable with them.  When you consider bedside manner, very few women will put up with a rude, inconsiderate physician that makes her feel horrible.

That is why I find it so strange that so many women put up with the same behavior from the men that they date.  A man’s bedroom behavior says a lot about his personality and character. The same as for women, men probably pay attention to how she handles herself.

I found a list of tips that are recommended for doctors, imagine that these are bedroom tips:

  • Be a good listener, patients may need to be encouraged to express their concerns and anxieties.
  • Be non-judgemental, avoid stereotyping patients on appearance or cultural or social background.
  • Avoid making any unnecessary personal remarks or jokes, especially when the consultation involves matters of an intimate nature.
  • Acknowledge the patient’s emotions and that they may be feeling frightened or anxious and need reassurance.
  • Approach all patients in a caring and considerate manner.
  • Remember, patients have busy lives, be mindful of waiting time

What do you think is good bedside manner is? What would you do if someone’s bedside manner was awful? If you think the person is worth it, do you bring it up?

190 comments Add your comment

Melo

November 2nd, 2009
9:50 am

So guys are playing doc today,is that the topic WD??

Leggs

November 2nd, 2009
9:56 am

Good morning. Yes, if the bedside manner was awful and I’m really into this person, I would sit and discuss with him.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 2nd, 2009
9:58 am

Naw Melo,

I kinda get what (I think) she’s talking about.

It’s the “bedside manner” that states that a guy is not supposed to enhance whatever self esteem (or body issues) that the woman may have, and vice versa.

It’s the “love her [me] as I am”; and if you don’t keeping it (your concerns) to yourself.

A time honored tradition actually, for both sexes.

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
10:06 am

good day…

What would you do if someone’s bedside manner was awful? If you think the person is worth it, do you bring it up?

I hear that song “Ego” …

SexyCool - Meant to be Mint.

November 2nd, 2009
10:11 am

Three Words Daily – God’s in control.

Melo

November 2nd, 2009
10:15 am

a guy is not supposed to enhance whatever self esteem (or body issues) that the woman may have, and vice versa

why get with a lady that u dont appreciate physically…thats like committing a fraud??

Dan: hey shaqueeta,why ur tatas look much smallewr than Keisha’s,my last girl..

shaqueeta: so what u saying Dan,u want deese or not??

Dan:jus saying…ok,neva mind??

queeta:OK THEN,GET WITH KEISHA THEN!!,U MUTHA*&^%$$CKA%%%!!

SexyCool - Meant to be Mint.

November 2nd, 2009
10:18 am

Bedside advice – Do not insert anything anywhere without lubrication.

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 2nd, 2009
10:22 am

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
10:25 am

@ SCool – okay…Bedside advice

…never say this even though you may have wanted to:

‘What do you want first? The good news or the bad news? Mind you the bad news means there can’t possible be any good news!’

Dan -fighting for (inner) peace

November 2nd, 2009
10:27 am

@Melo

I know a Shaqueeta (actually, something close to it).

But it’s not that, it’s the “I’mma git you sucka syndrome”.

It’s getting her (insert male pronouns for the ladies) back to the crib, outta of the clothes; only to find that her eyelashes are fake, her booty don’t look as good out of the jeans, all that hair ain’t hers, and that she had on Spanx and unleashed the deepest longest breath EVER when taking them off.

For the male/female fairness doctrine He wasn’t as “cut” as the shirt/outfit portrayed (take that in anyway possible).

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 2nd, 2009
10:30 am

Appropriate bedside manner is.. I get you a towel after we’re done..

Hopeless Romantic Diva

November 2nd, 2009
10:31 am

SexyCool – Meant to be Mint 10:11- thanks for the reminder…..so true!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 2nd, 2009
10:31 am

with warm water..

SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13

November 2nd, 2009
10:33 am

Bad bedside manner will get you dismissed; so will bad foreplay.

I have tried discussing it with one person in the past. But, er, um, well, yeah, NEXT.

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
10:37 am

…something i would be comfortable with him or my Doc saying to me…

“Dealing with nervous patients is always a present.”

…well calm my nerves!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 2nd, 2009
10:45 am

Yawn…. Topic change please..

On Bedside manners.. Find what your partner likes and do that.. Communication is the key to a vanglorious sexual experience..

Lady J

November 2nd, 2009
10:47 am

Hey SexyCool!!! Love that God is in Control!!! Also how was the concert???

abc

November 2nd, 2009
10:49 am

While it’s being referenced as ‘bedside manners’ and compared to a doctor who likely is that way out of professional courtesy, I’d say a genuine interest, concern, and graciousness in all ways and things is preferable in a romantic partner.

Or, one could say, “don’t be a self-absorbed jerk”.

Leggs

November 2nd, 2009
10:50 am

So, InfamousD, which one is getting up to get the towel? Or are we wiping each other off?

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
10:50 am

@ Infamous – Okay.

I’m sleepy today too…that extra hour…where is it?

SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13

November 2nd, 2009
10:56 am

LadyJ – The concert was off the meter. Ledisi ROCKED it. She is a bad, bad girl!!! Her energy is amazing. LOVED her!!!

Mint Condition – what can I say? Stokely is DA TROOF!!! They are the best band in all the land. The guitar riffs and the sax playing. I almost lost my damn mind.

Then E.Benet came out all mellow and smooth and sent everybody home in love. Oh, baby, wrap them chocolate legs round me.….

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 2nd, 2009
10:56 am

Morning All!

Ummm yeah, what ya’ll already said! :smile:

SCool – how was the show??

Lady J – I cant make it tonight chica, Lil Mo has a horrible cold (and Im still trying to recoup from my weekend in B’ham). However I will be cheering my Birds on tonight!!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 2nd, 2009
10:57 am

okay sorry SCool, got the review!! Glad you enjoyed!!

Ms. Main

November 2nd, 2009
10:58 am

It’s not today’s topic but I bought some hawt leather and suede boots Saturday…mmm mmm mmm

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 2nd, 2009
10:58 am

Leggs – whoever.. It doesnt matter. I like when you clean me up and I clean you up, but thats just me..

SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13

November 2nd, 2009
11:01 am

IDK – I co-sign on the cleaning. And it going both ways.

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
11:02 am

@ Main – You…rock that.

@ LadyJ – Hey girlie.

Professor

November 2nd, 2009
11:03 am

Happy Monday!

I hope that all of the blog kiddies had a safe Halloween…lil dream, lil leggs, lil mo and all the others.

I don’t have much to say on this topic I guess my mind is somewhere else. I will try to lurk and see if I come up with anything.

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
11:03 am

..n’ the concert sound like it was the place to be…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 2nd, 2009
11:06 am

Appropriate bedside manner is.. I get you a towel after we’re done..

Funny…but true…

Lady J

November 2nd, 2009
11:10 am

Hey CeeCee!!!!!:) Mo hope he feels better!!! I went three weeks dealing with a sick child….lol Yeah I will be chearing them on!!!! Hope that they will slip up like the Giants! LOL

WOW SexyCool You had a ball and it was a great show!!!!! Glad you enjoyed and thanks for sharing!!!! I will be in the house to see Kem and Willon Dec 30th!!!!! Can’t wait!!! Ive never missed Kem when he comes to Atlanta!!!

SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13

November 2nd, 2009
11:11 am

MND and I went to my church yesterday and are going to his church next week. Is attending church with someone you are dating important to you?

Leggs

November 2nd, 2009
11:11 am

That was the right answer for me. I know some men would have simply said “the towel is for him” and leave it at that. Reciprocity is key!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 2nd, 2009
11:11 am

SC/Leggs- Hey the cleaning is erotic within itself and if done properly can lead to a round 2 jumpin rather expeditiously…

SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13

November 2nd, 2009
11:12 am

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 2nd, 2009
11:15 am

SCool – on the church thing, its important in me getting to know him. He’s sharing another part of himself is how I look at it.

Lady J – I think Im gonna go see that show as well with Kem/Will Downing/Kindred.

Leggs

November 2nd, 2009
11:16 am

EXACTLY, InfamousD!!!

@Prof ~ she had a blast w/her friends only to top it off watching Paranormal Activity and sleeping with me last night! She said the movie was very scary and she had to put her head under the covers on some parts.

@Mo, sure hope he feels better soon.

SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13

November 2nd, 2009
11:18 am

Mo – sometimes, we think so much a like, I swear you are in my head.

OH and on the Will Downing – did y’all know that he has been really, really sick?

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
11:18 am

@ LadyJ – Thanks for posting that…didn’t hear about Kem and ‘em :) . …his song “Heaven” is that lick, for real!

THE INFAMOUS DK

November 2nd, 2009
11:19 am

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Hit ya with nerve gas, absurd blasts
Crashin space craft, I’m bio-enhanced
Hiero advanced series, monstrous evolution
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Super-sleuth, a new race
Mad creator, savage nature
World Wide Web, the ebb and flow
Light years from watchful eyes while my thoughts provide
objectives to ostracize the pompous prophecies
Underground societies are hard to lead
Asteroid surfing, castor-oil burping
The darkest side of humanity animated
The grand awakening, plan to take it in
I demand your patronage, mobilize my battletanks
With clusters small, NTR’s to empty Mars
Many MC’s cruise low earth orbit
Easier for me to use my search warrant
Drift by a star, absorb it, and store it
Leave tourists pourous, my galaxy’s gorgeous
Quantum jump – I’m right at your doorstep

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 2nd, 2009
11:20 am

Alright then Infamous….you’re speaking the truth as always!

Leggs

November 2nd, 2009
11:22 am

@SCool ~ yes, he’s been very sick and is bouncing back. He tried to hide it from his children for a long time and even his wife, but she noticed things just weren’t right. He remained in a wheelchair for quite some time, but his faith, his love and his love for his craft has helped him to forge ahead!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

November 2nd, 2009
11:22 am

That Kem concert is gonna be the boooomb! Along with Will and Kindred that’s going to be an awesome show….can’t wait!

Atlanta Gentleman

November 2nd, 2009
11:29 am

Be a good listener, patients may need to be encouraged to express their concerns and anxieties.

If she says ‘A little more to the left’, I listen and respond.

Avoid making any unnecessary personal remarks or jokes, especially when the consultation involves matters of an intimate nature.

If I happen to say something and hear an echo when I am ‘Tipping the Velvet’, I don’t say anything about it out of respect.

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
11:33 am

….hol” up…LadyJ – What do you know about Will and KEM?…you only like 12 years old…they don’t play his songs on Nick At Night.

Lady J

November 2nd, 2009
11:46 am

CeeCee STOP IT!!!!!! LOLOL Love Calls is my FAVORITE SONG!!!!!! #10 on his first CD was played @ my Wedding You Are….I saw him @ the Fox and in Lithonia when he came!!!! LOL Kem is apart of my commute daily along with Luther’s Superstar!!! LOL I like Will too….I have his Greatest Hits!!!! Calling me out I am a HUGE FAN and I am happy to be 30 baby! Loving my Youth! LOL Second chance to have a great time but much wiser! LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 2nd, 2009
11:49 am

Leggs – Thanx, kids always bounce back faster than us grown folk! If this weather would go ahead and decide what it wants to do then Lil Mo would be cool!

SCool – yeah I did read that Will Downing had been sick. My folks saw him last year for a Christmas concert w Lalah Hathaway, they said he sounded great.

Professor – my mom took Lil Mo out to a Harvest Festival where he got to trick or treat. And she made me take the candy home! I have hidden it to keep that child from bouncing off the walls! Lil Mo had a blast though

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
11:51 am

@ LadyJ – You’re 30?!! I didn’t know you made it to the 30s club!

Okay, i see ya over there…you got a good genre of music. lol :cool: cool.

…didn’t remember the ‘bells’ either…

Professor

November 2nd, 2009
11:53 am

…stepping in.

I love Kem, but wish the concert was on the 31st NYE instead of the 30th. I love going to concerts on NYE, but I am thinking about going out of town this year because so far I don’t see anything good going on in Atlanta

Cemeeli

November 2nd, 2009
11:54 am

btw – …i’ve heard couple of KEM tracks song at weddings myself…yeah, his songs are great for that venue.