Most women will agree that the relationship with her doctor is not unlike the one she has with her man. She has to be able to trust the person and feel comfortable with them. When you consider bedside manner, very few women will put up with a rude, inconsiderate physician that makes her feel horrible.
That is why I find it so strange that so many women put up with the same behavior from the men that they date. A man’s bedroom behavior says a lot about his personality and character. The same as for women, men probably pay attention to how she handles herself.
I found a list of tips that are recommended for doctors, imagine that these are bedroom tips:
What do you think is good bedside manner is? What would you do if someone’s bedside manner was awful? If you think the person is worth it, do you bring it up?
190 comments Add your comment
Melo
November 2nd, 2009
9:50 am
So guys are playing doc today,is that the topic WD??
Leggs
November 2nd, 2009
9:56 am
Good morning. Yes, if the bedside manner was awful and I’m really into this person, I would sit and discuss with him.
Dan -fighting for (inner) peace
November 2nd, 2009
9:58 am
Naw Melo,
I kinda get what (I think) she’s talking about.
It’s the “bedside manner” that states that a guy is not supposed to enhance whatever self esteem (or body issues) that the woman may have, and vice versa.
It’s the “love her [me] as I am”; and if you don’t keeping it (your concerns) to yourself.
A time honored tradition actually, for both sexes.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
10:06 am
good day…
What would you do if someone’s bedside manner was awful? If you think the person is worth it, do you bring it up?
I hear that song “Ego” …
SexyCool - Meant to be Mint.
November 2nd, 2009
10:11 am
Three Words Daily – God’s in control.
Melo
November 2nd, 2009
10:15 am
a guy is not supposed to enhance whatever self esteem (or body issues) that the woman may have, and vice versa
why get with a lady that u dont appreciate physically…thats like committing a fraud??
Dan: hey shaqueeta,why ur tatas look much smallewr than Keisha’s,my last girl..
shaqueeta: so what u saying Dan,u want deese or not??
Dan:jus saying…ok,neva mind??
queeta:OK THEN,GET WITH KEISHA THEN!!,U MUTHA*&^%$$CKA%%%!!
SexyCool - Meant to be Mint.
November 2nd, 2009
10:18 am
Bedside advice – Do not insert anything anywhere without lubrication.
Dan -fighting for (inner) peace
November 2nd, 2009
10:22 am
For the fellas:
http://www.quibblo.com/quiz/b4oweDR/What-Kind-of-Black-Guy-Are-You
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
10:25 am
@ SCool – okay…Bedside advice
…never say this even though you may have wanted to:
‘What do you want first? The good news or the bad news? Mind you the bad news means there can’t possible be any good news!’
Dan -fighting for (inner) peace
November 2nd, 2009
10:27 am
@Melo
I know a Shaqueeta (actually, something close to it).
But it’s not that, it’s the “I’mma git you sucka syndrome”.
It’s getting her (insert male pronouns for the ladies) back to the crib, outta of the clothes; only to find that her eyelashes are fake, her booty don’t look as good out of the jeans, all that hair ain’t hers, and that she had on Spanx and unleashed the deepest longest breath EVER when taking them off.
For the male/female fairness doctrine He wasn’t as “cut” as the shirt/outfit portrayed (take that in anyway possible).
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
10:30 am
Appropriate bedside manner is.. I get you a towel after we’re done..
Hopeless Romantic Diva
November 2nd, 2009
10:31 am
SexyCool – Meant to be Mint 10:11- thanks for the reminder…..so true!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
10:31 am
with warm water..
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
10:33 am
Bad bedside manner will get you dismissed; so will bad foreplay.
I have tried discussing it with one person in the past. But, er, um, well, yeah, NEXT.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
10:37 am
…something i would be comfortable with him or my Doc saying to me…
“Dealing with nervous patients is always a present.”
…well calm my nerves!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
10:45 am
Yawn…. Topic change please..
On Bedside manners.. Find what your partner likes and do that.. Communication is the key to a vanglorious sexual experience..
Lady J
November 2nd, 2009
10:47 am
Hey SexyCool!!! Love that God is in Control!!! Also how was the concert???
abc
November 2nd, 2009
10:49 am
While it’s being referenced as ‘bedside manners’ and compared to a doctor who likely is that way out of professional courtesy, I’d say a genuine interest, concern, and graciousness in all ways and things is preferable in a romantic partner.
Or, one could say, “don’t be a self-absorbed jerk”.
Leggs
November 2nd, 2009
10:50 am
So, InfamousD, which one is getting up to get the towel? Or are we wiping each other off?
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
10:50 am
@ Infamous – Okay.
I’m sleepy today too…that extra hour…where is it?
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
10:56 am
LadyJ – The concert was off the meter. Ledisi ROCKED it. She is a bad, bad girl!!! Her energy is amazing. LOVED her!!!
Mint Condition – what can I say? Stokely is DA TROOF!!! They are the best band in all the land. The guitar riffs and the sax playing. I almost lost my damn mind.
Then E.Benet came out all mellow and smooth and sent everybody home in love. Oh, baby, wrap them chocolate legs round me.….
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 2nd, 2009
10:56 am
Morning All!
Ummm yeah, what ya’ll already said!
SCool – how was the show??
Lady J – I cant make it tonight chica, Lil Mo has a horrible cold (and Im still trying to recoup from my weekend in B’ham). However I will be cheering my Birds on tonight!!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 2nd, 2009
10:57 am
okay sorry SCool, got the review!! Glad you enjoyed!!
Ms. Main
November 2nd, 2009
10:58 am
It’s not today’s topic but I bought some hawt leather and suede boots Saturday…mmm mmm mmm
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
10:58 am
Leggs – whoever.. It doesnt matter. I like when you clean me up and I clean you up, but thats just me..
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
11:01 am
IDK – I co-sign on the cleaning. And it going both ways.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
11:02 am
@ Main – You…rock that.
@ LadyJ – Hey girlie.
Professor
November 2nd, 2009
11:03 am
Happy Monday!
I hope that all of the blog kiddies had a safe Halloween…lil dream, lil leggs, lil mo and all the others.
I don’t have much to say on this topic I guess my mind is somewhere else. I will try to lurk and see if I come up with anything.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
11:03 am
..n’ the concert sound like it was the place to be…
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 2nd, 2009
11:06 am
Appropriate bedside manner is.. I get you a towel after we’re done..
Funny…but true…
Lady J
November 2nd, 2009
11:10 am
Hey CeeCee!!!!!:) Mo hope he feels better!!! I went three weeks dealing with a sick child….lol Yeah I will be chearing them on!!!! Hope that they will slip up like the Giants! LOL
WOW SexyCool You had a ball and it was a great show!!!!! Glad you enjoyed and thanks for sharing!!!! I will be in the house to see Kem and Willon Dec 30th!!!!! Can’t wait!!! Ive never missed Kem when he comes to Atlanta!!!
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
11:11 am
MND and I went to my church yesterday and are going to his church next week. Is attending church with someone you are dating important to you?
Leggs
November 2nd, 2009
11:11 am
That was the right answer for me. I know some men would have simply said “the towel is for him” and leave it at that. Reciprocity is key!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
11:11 am
SC/Leggs- Hey the cleaning is erotic within itself and if done properly can lead to a round 2 jumpin rather expeditiously…
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
11:12 am
EXACTLY!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 2nd, 2009
11:15 am
SCool – on the church thing, its important in me getting to know him. He’s sharing another part of himself is how I look at it.
Lady J – I think Im gonna go see that show as well with Kem/Will Downing/Kindred.
Leggs
November 2nd, 2009
11:16 am
EXACTLY, InfamousD!!!
@Prof ~ she had a blast w/her friends only to top it off watching Paranormal Activity and sleeping with me last night! She said the movie was very scary and she had to put her head under the covers on some parts.
@Mo, sure hope he feels better soon.
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
11:18 am
Mo – sometimes, we think so much a like, I swear you are in my head.
OH and on the Will Downing – did y’all know that he has been really, really sick?
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
11:18 am
@ LadyJ – Thanks for posting that…didn’t hear about Kem and ‘em
. …his song “Heaven” is that lick, for real!
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
11:19 am
Now let’s see – Deltron Z
Art avenger, let’s start the adventure
Hit ya with nerve gas, absurd blasts
Crashin space craft, I’m bio-enhanced
Hiero advanced series, monstrous evolution
Headed, tooth and nail, scoop the trail
Super-sleuth, a new race
Mad creator, savage nature
World Wide Web, the ebb and flow
Light years from watchful eyes while my thoughts provide
objectives to ostracize the pompous prophecies
Underground societies are hard to lead
Asteroid surfing, castor-oil burping
The darkest side of humanity animated
The grand awakening, plan to take it in
I demand your patronage, mobilize my battletanks
With clusters small, NTR’s to empty Mars
Many MC’s cruise low earth orbit
Easier for me to use my search warrant
Drift by a star, absorb it, and store it
Leave tourists pourous, my galaxy’s gorgeous
Quantum jump – I’m right at your doorstep
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 2nd, 2009
11:20 am
Alright then Infamous….you’re speaking the truth as always!
Leggs
November 2nd, 2009
11:22 am
@SCool ~ yes, he’s been very sick and is bouncing back. He tried to hide it from his children for a long time and even his wife, but she noticed things just weren’t right. He remained in a wheelchair for quite some time, but his faith, his love and his love for his craft has helped him to forge ahead!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
November 2nd, 2009
11:22 am
That Kem concert is gonna be the boooomb! Along with Will and Kindred that’s going to be an awesome show….can’t wait!
Atlanta Gentleman
November 2nd, 2009
11:29 am
Be a good listener, patients may need to be encouraged to express their concerns and anxieties.
If she says ‘A little more to the left’, I listen and respond.
Avoid making any unnecessary personal remarks or jokes, especially when the consultation involves matters of an intimate nature.
If I happen to say something and hear an echo when I am ‘Tipping the Velvet’, I don’t say anything about it out of respect.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
11:33 am
….hol” up…LadyJ – What do you know about Will and KEM?…you only like 12 years old…they don’t play his songs on Nick At Night.
Lady J
November 2nd, 2009
11:46 am
CeeCee STOP IT!!!!!! LOLOL Love Calls is my FAVORITE SONG!!!!!! #10 on his first CD was played @ my Wedding You Are….I saw him @ the Fox and in Lithonia when he came!!!! LOL Kem is apart of my commute daily along with Luther’s Superstar!!! LOL I like Will too….I have his Greatest Hits!!!! Calling me out I am a HUGE FAN and I am happy to be 30 baby! Loving my Youth! LOL Second chance to have a great time but much wiser! LOL
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 2nd, 2009
11:49 am
Leggs – Thanx, kids always bounce back faster than us grown folk! If this weather would go ahead and decide what it wants to do then Lil Mo would be cool!
SCool – yeah I did read that Will Downing had been sick. My folks saw him last year for a Christmas concert w Lalah Hathaway, they said he sounded great.
Professor – my mom took Lil Mo out to a Harvest Festival where he got to trick or treat. And she made me take the candy home! I have hidden it to keep that child from bouncing off the walls! Lil Mo had a blast though
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
11:51 am
@ LadyJ – You’re 30?!! I didn’t know you made it to the 30s club!
Okay, i see ya over there…you got a good genre of music. lol
cool.
…didn’t remember the ‘bells’ either…
Professor
November 2nd, 2009
11:53 am
…stepping in.
I love Kem, but wish the concert was on the 31st NYE instead of the 30th. I love going to concerts on NYE, but I am thinking about going out of town this year because so far I don’t see anything good going on in Atlanta
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
11:54 am
btw – …i’ve heard couple of KEM tracks song at weddings myself…yeah, his songs are great for that venue.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
11:57 am
…almost lunch time…whew…
@ Mo – Give lil man somma that liver oil or castor…caint have the lil men under the weather.
Professor
November 2nd, 2009
11:58 am
Worshipping together is very important to me, however the Bible and the Word is dear to me. So it is difficult for me to share this with a SO unless we are on the same page…I don’t want foreplay making me late for church….that makes me feels like I am playing with God…especially if we are both sitting there together. My conscious is a mess!
Lady J
November 2nd, 2009
11:58 am
I married in 04 CeeCee then stumbled along the blog when the madness started during the sepration/divorce….lol glad that is long behind me….just moving forward and listening to great music over that time has helped me through seriously….Kem sings about real life situations…He always has a deep message only a few understands….most of my friends don’t feel him like I do but I truly connect….Yep this past Aug I turned the big #) and it is different I must say….I call it doing grown woman things…lol:)
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
11:58 am
My bff wants to throw a whole party for NYE – on an old promote and pre-selling tickets type deal. I’m feeling more of an intimate three to five couples inside kinda event.
What to do? Support my bff? Go with my gut?
I’m liking my original thought much better.
Bibay
November 2nd, 2009
11:58 am
Ledisi, Mint Condition and Eric Benet make you continue to appreciate what “real” music is. I was surprised to see a lot of empty seats at the Fox- but I know folks are being careful where they spend their money.
Lady J
November 2nd, 2009
11:59 am
meant 30…lol
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:00 pm
Prof – “My conscious is a mess!”
Mine should be. LOL!
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:02 pm
Bibay – I did notice a lot of empty seats up in the balcony section. That must be why Stokely was on damn near er’ radio station in Atlanta on Friday.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
12:05 pm
I call it doing grown woman things!
…as i’m listening to USHER on my playlist..
LadyJ I got chu…might i add – KEM does have chemistry in his tracks…yea..that’s what you connect with.
czBrat
November 2nd, 2009
12:07 pm
Good Noon All!
visiting each others place or worship is more personal to me than meeting each others family.
SexyCool – glad to hear the concert was a hit!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 2nd, 2009
12:08 pm
Cemeeli – my mother-in-law gives him Cod Liver Oil so Im doing the same! I’ve never taken the stuff but hey it works for him!
Professor – I wish that concert was NYE also but oh well. I havent heard of much going on for NYE either and thats a bummer.
Lady J
November 2nd, 2009
12:09 pm
LOL You are right honey!!!! LOL
Professor
November 2nd, 2009
12:11 pm
SC my conscious has always been like that…I think it comes from my early years I was grounded in my faith and prayed for a lot of things and I received them. So, I feel bad about how He continues to bless me and I am so unworthy…it’s me so skip over my blogs on that topic.
As for NYE if I don’t do the concerts or a sporting events, I like doing the small event with a few couples…in the past when I have done this we did seafood…lobster and crab legs and fried shrimp plus the fixings…played cards…music etc., and a few times we did a breakfast food with champagne and made mimosas.
Bibay
November 2nd, 2009
12:12 pm
SC- I sat down below in the Orchestra section in the center just in front of the sound board. During one of the intermissions was when I saw all of the empty seats.
Eric Benet tickled me with the stories before each song. And Ledisi, she is just on fire.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
12:12 pm
@ LadyJ – You “freed yourself”…Trust, we all need to have that epiphany at some point in our life…I thank GOD daily that i had mine waaaay young.Now…life is much clearer.
Professor
November 2nd, 2009
12:15 pm
Mo’ it looks like I need to plan on being out of the Atlanta area unless I decide to do a bowl game. I am going to look online and see where something good is happening at and maybe go to Miami, Orlando or Vegas or something. Otherwise I will see Kem on the 30th and chill out on the 31st
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
12:16 pm
Lady J – How long were you married… and when did you get divorced
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:18 pm
Prof – No, really. I am >>here<< with you on that. Being raised so strictly in the church and all. (Who would know, right?) Anteeways, I struggle sometimes with feeling worthy. None of us really are. We are worthy simply because we are His own. Nothing more, nothing less. I just have to keep reminding myself that it is because of His grace and mercy and not my worthiness.
But I didn’t REALLY have to say all of that. You know it already. lol
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
12:18 pm
Cod Liver oil is so rank!
@ Mo – Orange Juice and a mint helps with the fish taste.
Yea, mamma gave it to me as a kid as well.
Dream_n
November 2nd, 2009
12:20 pm
Afternoon folks…
Meetings/Training…. are a bore sometimes..
Professor… thanx for asking.. the lil one did not go trick or treating.. it was sooo cold here!! but she went to a Halloween party at my aunt’s where she was traumatized b/c my uncle put on a warewolf mask! She was holding on to me for dear life!!! lol.. it was so funny..
As for the topic..ummm I have nothing today…
THE INFAMOUS DK
November 2nd, 2009
12:20 pm
Ya’ll gonna kill me but I dont like KEMs voice.. All that over singing and howling irks me.. Sorry..
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:20 pm
Bibay – OMG, the story about the high school talent show and the chick following him around the school the next day was hilarious.
And the way he had the fellows singing “I wanna be loved.” MND was singing so loud and so off key. It was too funny. I heart that dude.
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:23 pm
Oh and Ledisi with that Tina Turner/James Brown/Fantasia bo-bo dance she was doing was hot.
I practiced it for MND while I was making Sunday dinner yesterday, stepped in a spot of water I had dropped on the floor and damn near slid under the pantry door trying to keep from falling.
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:23 pm
Oh and Ledisi with that Tina Turner/James Brown/Fantasia bo-bo dance she was doing was hot.
I practiced it for MND while I was making Sunday dinner yesterday, stepped in a spot of water I had dropped on the floor and damn near slid under the pantry door trying to keep from falling.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
November 2nd, 2009
12:23 pm
Lady J – girl you had me laughing with this one..”I married in 04 CeeCee then stumbled along the blog when the madness started during the separation/divorce”! I did the same thing chica!
Professor – I feel you on that.
Cemeeli – yeah I at least provide a starburst or something! LOL
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:23 pm
Double posts? I NEVER do that. LOL….
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
12:24 pm
It’s all good Infamous.
…funny though…
Lady J
November 2nd, 2009
12:24 pm
@THE INFAMOUS DK my friends feel the same way….your not alone but it works for me!!!! LOLOLOL
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
12:32 pm
“visiting each others place or worship is more personal to me than meeting each others family.”
czBrat How so? If you visit his/her church you might not get a real good view of where they came from…family can sometimes fool around and give you more than you need to know. The Usher board and Pastor only know as much as been shared.
i guess it can go either way…
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:37 pm
Cemeeli – I agree with the “more personal” sentiment of what czB is talking about.
My relationship with God is very personal. And allowing somebody into my worship time is important to me because I want to know whether or not, he will worship in like ways, whether he will be free to express himself in praise or whether he could possibly make me feel uncomfortable in expressing mine.
When I am before Him, I am naked and vulnerable. And I really want to know if I can share that vulnerability with him and whether he trusts me enough to let his guard down in the same way.
czBrat
November 2nd, 2009
12:38 pm
Cemeeli what i mean is, i’ve met the families of guys i’ve dated (and they’ve met mine) … not a huge deal. but when you reach the point of attending church(s) together that is a very personal step in the relationship for me. that says so much more, IMO.
Angie aka Beautiful
November 2nd, 2009
12:43 pm
hi ladies! Lady J, Ceemee, SexyC…
long distance lover, how y’all feel bout that? i’m torn.
bbl.
Melo
November 2nd, 2009
12:44 pm
I think I need to go to church some time soon,jus so i see whats gon on over there and see some of my friends.Havent been inside of church in close to nine months.
Some of the pple that go to “my” church tho are dwright scandalous.
Wonder why they even bother?
Melo
November 2nd, 2009
12:45 pm
long distance lover, how y’all feel bout that?
I think its the best for u and ur type.
U come across as an easy lay!
SexyCool - Cloud status - 7.13
November 2nd, 2009
12:45 pm
Ange – LD, I’d pass. But that’s just me.
Angie aka Beautiful
November 2nd, 2009
12:48 pm
that rap song *gucci bandanna* is hot! giggle.
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
12:49 pm
just a light thought with that “personal note” him getting close and fellowshipping with my family…cause they would be more able to tell him if i’m faithful to love, or how indignant or stressed i might get in times of trouble verses my church fam.
czBrat – Yes maam, i can understand your attending one another’s church, and then sharing that personal relationship with God with your SO speaks volumes as well.
Melo
November 2nd, 2009
12:51 pm
how did ur foootball teams do this weekend??
Mine lost,again….
Looking frward to tonite’s funreal in Atlanta.
Melo
November 2nd, 2009
12:52 pm
funeral
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
12:52 pm
@ Beautiful – If you really like him it might work.
Angie aka Beautiful
November 2nd, 2009
12:54 pm
*U come across as an easy lay!*
that wasn’t nice. and you know that’s not true.
@SexyC
yea, i think imma pass.
Ms. Main
November 2nd, 2009
12:56 pm
Cemeeli – @ Main – You…rock that.
I’ll try my bestest!
Angie aka Beautiful
November 2nd, 2009
12:56 pm
@Ceemee
i do like him a lot. it hurts that i can’t touch him though. oh well. what is a gal to do?
Angie aka Beautiful
November 2nd, 2009
12:57 pm
and being friends isn’t an option. or is it?
Angie aka Beautiful
November 2nd, 2009
12:58 pm
ugh!
Kym- No Scrubs
November 2nd, 2009
12:58 pm
Good Afternoon All,
I think what you posted Wisey pretty much sums it up for me. Treat me right and I will Treat you right. The End.
czBrat
November 2nd, 2009
12:59 pm
If you really like him it might work.
Cemeeli, stop it. just stop it!
Cemeeli
November 2nd, 2009
1:04 pm
@ SCool – Yes… family is very important to me…my folks know if i “bring him home” there is prominent role. They also know if i leave my old man in their care, whatever they say or do is cool…
But him attending church with me is special but not AS important.
Kym- No Scrubs
November 2nd, 2009
1:10 pm
Rant for today…
I understand corps are understaffed..I understand you had to bring on younger, inexperienced staff but could you for the sake of all that is right, train these jokers on some from of customer service. Saying I don’t know and passing the call off…ughhh!! Someone just wants to get cussed out today.
SlimOne
November 2nd, 2009
1:15 pm
(In walks Slim with cowboy boots, a neck time, and a jock strap on awaiting the 2-fanga backdoor test)
Hiya folks….long time no blog! Whew it shole iz drafty in here.
I miss you guys!