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Horrors of Dating: Karma

Do you ever hear of those urban relationship myths that talk about couples who get together while one of them was already in a relationship? They will be destined for failure because there has to be some retribution for the way they hooked up!  I don’t know if that is because of some cosmic force or if it’s simply because the wrong people are getting in relationships.

Do you believe in dating karma? I have to admit, if I am sitting through some horrendous date being tortured by bad attitudes or boring men, I wonder if it’s payback. Did I do something in my dating past that is coming back to haunt me now? Who knows if karma really exists or if it is just our way of trying to make sense of things.

Have you ever made a dating mistake or committed some romantic crime that would result in some bad karma?

Do you think we should ever try to make amends and apologize to the ones we did wrong? Not only to ensure that karma loses our address, but to let the other person know we regretted it?

What about break up karma? Do you think leading someone on, pulling a disappearing act, or the jedi mind tricks comes back around?

Happy Friday!

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i'm swiss

October 30th, 2009
8:14 am

Morning all…

Coffee’s on me.

On topic: If there is such a thing as relationship karma, I’m clearly reaping some good karma now as a reward for all the crap I went through with my ex. Incidentally, yesterday was Mrs. Swiss & my 2-month anniversary — and we exchanged the traditional gift of oral s3x…. :lol:

Oh, almost forgot: FIRST! ;-)

MsM

October 30th, 2009
8:27 am

No bad Karma here! I’ve always tried to treat others as I like to be treated, period.

If I unknowingly hurt someone and they didn’t tell me that’s on them… I didn’t know, so I can’t apologize and have no regrets. On the other hand I’ve watched some go round and round, can’t for the the life of them figure out why bad things keep happening to them. Yes, its Karma.

ImAPeach404

October 30th, 2009
8:32 am

I’m convinced I was a horrible horrible spouse/SO in my past life b/c girlfriend cannot catch a break!

Morning all

Hopeless Romantic Diva

October 30th, 2009
9:10 am

I am a big believe in “what goes around comes around”, just like Justin Timberlake croons in one of his songs (although he is just repeating what’s been said for a very long time).

While I am not perfect, like MsM, I try to practice the golden rule- Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

I’ve been told that I have really good emotional intelligence, which means that I am aware when someone I am considering dating has bad karma or just bad vibes. Which I translate into either bad karma, or just bad luck. I try and avoid being sucked into drama as much as possible.

On the subject of luck, I am reading a book now entitled “The Luck Factor” (I am a professional researcher and cannot get enought of fact-driven data and studies). The book discusses years-long studies that gives insights into why some people are more lucky than others. And it offers techniques to improve your own luck. So if you have had some bad karma, maybe this could help.

Have a fun and safe Halloween weekend.

Kym- Early Voting Ends Today!!!

October 30th, 2009
9:10 am

Good Morning All,

Hmmm..I believe in Karma but more in terms of past lives. Like the love and spirit of another follows you from shell to shell thru time. But I can’t say I believe in Karma like divine justice. Because there are too many people who suffer bad relationships and they have been nothing but kind to the one they love. So no I don’t believe the divine is keeping a score card of all your past mistakes, only to sock it to you on the other side. I think sometimes we just make bad choices in mates, but if you learn from those choices you gain a new understanding of yourself and your desires in a mate.

Lady J

October 30th, 2009
9:11 am

me too ImAPeach404!!!! LOL too funny~!!!! Happy Friday! What one put out one will get back and you def attract you and what you are….Look @ the man in the mirror is my goal here lately with working on me! LOL

Cemeeli

October 30th, 2009
9:12 am

good tidings people!

you get out of life what you put in it…Destiny? karma? Destiny?…according to thy faith!

…a little destiny is awaiting me downstairs in the Café’ with a bowl of grits, served hot and crispy….it’s called…Fish on Friday!

Melo

October 30th, 2009
9:15 am

Mrs. Swiss & my 2-month anniversary — and we exchanged the traditional gift of oral s3x….
Oh, almost forgot: FIRST!

Happy first Oral Anniversary Swiss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol:

Professor

October 30th, 2009
9:19 am

Dating Karma…hmmmm

I think I believe in life and the hits and bruises, hugs and kisses…good times and bad times. The reason I say this is because I have gotten some things (bad) that could not have been because of past sins…maybe I paid for future sins or something. There were a moment or two that was beautiful and perfect, which I am not sure I deserved so I am not convinced of this karma dating game.

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
9:19 am

GM All!

Yes. I do believe in Karma. Always have. I believe that a great deal of the stress that invaded my marriage was brought on by my ex’s life choices and negative energy. As for me, since I’ve been on my own, I’ve had nothing but good dating experiences, so I’d say that’s the blessing for trying my best to do right by people :)

QC

October 30th, 2009
9:26 am

Morning All! Have a great day/weekend :)

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
9:28 am

Been here since dark to get a jump on this beast of an account that was added, stopped a Chick-fil-a and got coffee and it’s gone already…yet and still I’m sleepy. The weather ain’t all that pretty from my window. There’s enough candy in this building from the lobby to my floor (and I’m not even halfway up) to go into a sugar coma….who needs it this early in the morning. I could barely comb my hair for the new growth…is Saturday here yet? Yet and still it’s a great day and good to be alive and good to have a job! Ya’ll thought I was gonna be Schleprock through this entire post….not :)

On topic: Yes. What goes around definitely comes around…sometimes thrice or at least it feels like it

ImAPeach404

October 30th, 2009
9:33 am

I think sometimes we just make bad choices in mates, but if you learn from those choices you gain a new understanding of yourself and your desires in a mate.

At this point… I’ve over learned, know myself too well, and could recite what I want in a mate while I sleep. I’m so over it already….

ImAPeach404

October 30th, 2009
9:34 am

I could barely comb my hair for the new growth HA!!!!! You need to go see the Dominicans chile…

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
9:40 am

You need to go see the Dominicans chile… yup yup!

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
9:41 am

ImAPeach404 You need to go see the Dominicans chile…

LOL…..Got a spot reserved for 11:00 am tomorrow.

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
9:42 am

CZBrat….know what? I NEVER do anything to my hair between Friday night and getting to the salon on Saturdays….normally it’s okay but it’s gonna be a hot mess tomorrow morning. I don’t even care. Think I might get my car washed too before I go. I’m sure I’ll be turning heads…lol

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 30th, 2009
9:43 am

Happy Friday :mrgreen:

I think sometimes we just make bad choices in mates, but if you learn from those choices you gain a new understanding of yourself and your desires in a mate.

I second that emotion……

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
9:48 am

no worries Ms.Main. personally, i’ve already decided tomorrow i’m going to be a wookie. the Dominicanas will probably be handing me their cards when we come to their doors for candy :lol:

Dream_n

October 30th, 2009
9:48 am

Good Morning All!!

Karma…yup!

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
9:52 am

I think sometimes we just make bad choices in mates, but if you learn from those choices you gain a new understanding of yourself and your desires in a mate.

…..and truly cognizant because from the very beginning…the selection process, you have come to know and understand every event or happening of that relationship will be directly affected from the choice you made in the beginning. Bad choices never yield good outcomes.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 30th, 2009
9:53 am

i’ve already decided tomorrow i’m going to be a wookie. the Dominicanas will probably be handing me their cards when we come to their doors for candy

cz you ain’t right for that :lol: So ummm are the Dominicans really that good? What salons do you ladies frequent or recommend?

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 30th, 2009
9:54 am

Oh Im a firm believer that what comes around goes around.. Oh yeah and its comes back way harder than you ever imagined..

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
9:54 am

CZ</strong? what are wookies?

Kym- Early Voting Ends Today!!!

October 30th, 2009
9:54 am

Hey there QC!!! Hey there Cee!!

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October 30th, 2009
9:55 am

Three Words Daily – Faith kills fear.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 30th, 2009
9:55 am

Keep believeing you can put bad energy out there and it wont come back to you.. It says that in the bible.. “You reap what you sew”

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
9:56 am

Sassy gurrrrl yessss! as i’ve already admitted on this blog, i put no effort (or professional touch) into my hair, so i can’t recommend a salon :( but even out here in the deep woods of gwinnett, any salon with a dominican stylist will loudly display it on a banner.

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
9:58 am

:shock: @ Ms.Main uh. star wars!

ImAPeach404

October 30th, 2009
9:58 am

@Sassy – yes! they are THAT good!!! Prior to me going, i’d get/need a perm every 4-6 weeks. This year, i’ve had 4 and one time was me using a Just For Me to get my edges under control. They work miracles, you dont need an appointment, they are fast, you can go to anybody you want – you don’t have to worry about getting “stuck” with a certain stylist, and they are cheap! I go to Lilys on Jimmy Carter

Dream_n

October 30th, 2009
9:59 am

Good morning Cee/Ms.Main/Professor!!

Keep believeing you can put bad energy out there and it wont come back to you.. It says that in the bible.. “You reap what you sew”

Yup…what he said

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 30th, 2009
9:59 am

CZ – Hey stop talking bout you dont do your hair and get your wig split.. It is nothing worst than seeing a babe with a birds nest on her head..

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
10:00 am

Good morning Dream_n!! :)

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
10:01 am

Kym- Early Voting Ends Today!!!

October 30th, 2009
10:01 am

@DK I think natural hair is rather beautiful. I have seen some sisters with great natural hair styles. It is all in how you maintain it.

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
10:02 am

SHU’UP DK!!!!!!!

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
10:03 am

CZBrat – Star Wars? If it’s not R2D2, C3P0, princess Leah, then yeah I’m lost…lol

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October 30th, 2009
10:05 am

I am going to address the topic later. Right now, I’m just going to talk about what I want to talk about. Bear with. LOL!

This morning, I was at the Fort McPherson train station. I saw this dude that was absolutely gorgeous. I had to start praying “Lead me not into temptation.” and saying to myself “Do not make eye contact. Do not make eye contact.” LAWD GEEZUS.

Had to check a tech for looking at his watch when I came off the elevator this morning. I was like “Good morning, Dave. Is there a problem with my time? I saw you looking at your watch.” He started stuttering. “Uh, uh, no. I was just surprised that it was that late already. I thought you were getting in major early.” I thought to myself, “Good CYA, Dave. Good CYA.” ~giggling~

And….”You are My Sunshine” is stuck on repeat in my head this morning. Don’t know why it’s not something by Mint Condition….You are my sunshine. My only sunshine.

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
10:06 am

c’mon Ms.Main. you tellin me you know all them but u forgot Chewy??? that’s just wrong!

czBrat

October 30th, 2009
10:08 am

SexyC by chance did that song start playing while you were eyeballin’ big papa????

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
10:08 am

Never really followed Star Wars and I only know those characters becomes in some form or another we got them pushed down our throats. Whether toys/figurines at Christmas, on every dang poster, costumes or the cups/boxes on Burger Kings/McDonald’s kids meals…lol

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October 30th, 2009
10:09 am

czB – lol. Naw. Actually, I was thinking about my sister. She is my favorite person in the whole world.

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
10:09 am

Never really followed Star Wars and I only know those characters because in some form or another we got them pushed down our throats. From toys/figurines at Christmas to every dang poster hangable to costumes to the cups/boxes at Burger Kings/McDonald’s for the kids meals theme…lol

Ms. Main....popping in for a second

October 30th, 2009
10:10 am

excuse the double entries…I was tryna stop and fix my typos

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 30th, 2009
10:11 am

Kym – I wore locs for years, so i know all about natural hair but I also know women that have natural hair and its healthy..

Kym- Early Voting Ends Today!!!

October 30th, 2009
10:13 am

Ok..so what do you mean by bird’s nest?

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 30th, 2009
10:13 am

Ms Main – I love you.. You watch Star Wars.. You wanna get married.. You have passed all requirements just by loving Star Wars.. I’ll be your Han Solo..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 30th, 2009
10:13 am

Peach I’ve been wanting to try it but I’m kinda skiddish when it comes to stylists and my hair,however, I’ve heard good things about them so I’ll give them a try the next time I need a relaxer…..my only issue is I live on the “southside of thangs” in Jonesboro and I’d have to pack a lunch to drive to Jimmy Carter. I’mmore than sure there are some on my end but I’ve only heard good things so Imma see what’s up.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 30th, 2009
10:15 am

You know that I rolled out the bed and pulled this mess back and rolled.. It still takes time to get you natural hair right.. It takes oils time to marinante through it in order for it to be a-ight.. You know what Im talking bout just nappy hair..

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October 30th, 2009
10:15 am

ON TOPIC – Yeah. Have found that starting a relationship with dark clouds hanging about is a sure forecast for stormy weather. Never ended good.

I’m with the Infamous One – the law of sewing and reaping is powerful. Where people go wrong is that they think that they will only reap in the exact fashion that they sewed. It is not so.

I have learned to deal with people on the level that I want to be dealt with. If I do that, then I have done my part which is all I am responsible for. If I do not receive that consideration in return, that person will reap on that seed.