The other day I saw a music video of singer Joss Stone entitled The Chokin’ Kind. The song kind of haunted me a little because it reminded me of the pain of a past relationship.
I only meant to love you
Didn’t you know it babe
Why couldn’t you be content
With the love I gave
I gave you my heart
But you wanted my mind
Your love scares me to death
Oh it’s the chokin kind
That’s all it is.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I didn’t want the month to end without discussing it here. I believe much of the abusive behavior of a relationship arises in the early dating stages. Most people won’t punch their date or verbally attack someone they’ve only just met, but there are red flags. I think it starts with control issues and escalates from there. We often disregard things that we shouldn’t. What are other red flags? How do you avoid dating an abusive person?
Would you date someone who had been abusive in a past relationship?
Have you ever dated someone whose behavior was suffocating? When did you notice it? How do you handle it?
I wanted to share a few statistics from the Domestic Awareness Project:
1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape.
Three women are killed by a current or former intimate partner each day in America, on average.
Over 22 percent of women and 7.4 percent of men surveyed, reported being physically assaulted by a current or former partner in their lifetime.
It’s staggering looking at the numbers, but behind these statistics are real people, who have experienced painful abuse. What more can be done to raise awareness?
Do you think that men should do more to end violence against women? In a call to men, the Domestic Violence Awareness project listed the first thing men can do: Acknowledge and understand how sexism, male dominance, and male privilege lay the foundation for all forms of violence against women. What are your thoughts?