We all know that it is just a game between both sexes aimed at the ultimate goal – to get some – and yes, ladies, this means you do the same thing!

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since im often considered the hopeless romantic amongst my friends, I think I would def fit that category. being romantic is just my nature (still to this day dunno if that’s a good thing or a bad thing), but i hate to be cheesy-romantic or generic/cliche romantic, because i feel sometimes it just doesn’t come off as genuine enough. but since im in a new relationship & still on that probationary period i guess you could say lol these are my five thing i’d like to do for my boothang….scratch that…insert: WILL DO for my boothang

1. she just got a new job @ loveculture & i recently talked to the manager bout how excited she is about working there so i thought on her first day i’d send her sum white calla lillies, since she hates roses

2. being frm louisiana & georgia & just recently moved to cali (bay area). well she like been here all her life and she has a really big pride for the bay area & all forreal she really puts on for her city no doubt so i was thinkin since she rarely gets the chance to go to san francisco i could take her away for sum downtime across the golden gate.

3. her bday is two days after vday & she’ll be turning 21 so she takin a road trip 2 to atl wit her friends, but ill be workin so i can’t come (damn military) so i thought since i won’t be able to come i’d help her out by filling her tank up, gettin the oil changed, giving her sum extra money, reserving the hotels along the way, cleaning out her car before she leaves, & slippin a lil gift card in the glove compartment. i feel like damn its the least i can do, cuz i kno all she’s worried about is what outfit to wear, what club to go to, & places to shop lol

4. Ok this might seem stupid, but although she is very much on her grown woman bi she still a lil kid @ heart and me too for that matter ya know so i was thinkin i would get her this build-a-bear & name it after her uncle meredith who passed away a while ago. he was like a big influence in her life so i think somethin to remember him by would do her some good as far as rememberance.

5. it maybe a bit on down the line & i kno they say promise rings are played out, but i believe if you make it mean something than it’s function is simply that to cement a promise that i will keep to her. i want it to symbolize the promise and let her know wherever i am in the world im still making damn good on that promise. im thinkin three stone, princess cut in white gold….idk still thinkin bout that one. oh well its a start…

all i kno is that i try to put meaning behind the things i do. i consider gestures far more thoughtful than romantic, but when i do i hope it comes across as either. as long as its appreciated, because i swear on my soul @ the end of the day when all is said and done I just wanna know i made her happy and know im thinking about her even when she doesn’t think i am. thats what makes me feel like im on my job.

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I’m not dating now and it’s been so long since I’ve had romance that I think I’ve forgotten what it feels like. I think to romance a guy, I might make his favorite meal and serve it to him. Or maybe a massage after a long day, (just a massage). Maybe I’ll run him a tub and light some candles, turn on a game for him to watch while he’s in the tub. I think maybe for me, some things I would like are kind of old fashioned, like surprising me by sending flowers. Going to dinner, and dancing and a nice walk. Maybe doing something to make me laugh, anyway like I said, I think I may have forgotten how to be romantic.

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GM All!

List at least five romantic things you want to do for the person you are dating now
1.have a home-cooked meal waiting when he gets home
2.invite him into my bubble bath & sponge him
3.call him in the middle of the day & suggest a hotel room for the night
4.spend a day hanging out with him & his kids
5.turn off my laptop & give him my undivided unattention

Then list five romantic gestures that you would want done for you
1.have my car detailed & serviced
2.let me sit across your lap while i play on my laptop for hours
3.kiss me & tell me to have a good time when i make plans that don’t include you (and really mean it!)
4.spend time alone with my kids
5.laugh when you feel like choking me

Do you think that your romantic gestures would be well-received? ABSOLUTELY Will the person be able to tell that it was a romantic gesture? FOR SURE! Does it count if they don’t? MOST DEFINITELY.

(czBrat now exhausted … wants to go back to bed but gotta commute. see yas on the other end.)

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Romantic Gestures I would greatly appreciate from him right now:

1. Breakfast in bed

2. Wash the windows while I watch listening to some nice music

3. Read to me

4. Get a sitter, pick me up from work and surprise me with a night of dinner and dancing, retiring in a plush hotel and the end of the evening with candles and a bubble bath.

5. Allow me to do absolutely nothing for an entire weekend

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Panda turning of the game for him to watch while relaxing in the tub is a good one.

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I will share this…there were times when I dated and I knew the guy cared because of how he treated me etc., but the relationship lacked that romantic tone. So, when I stepped up and started doing small things he stepped right in.

Raqi…I hope you and Mason are feeling better today. I will do the making the coffee and tasting it to make sure it is just right, and I will take the coffee to him, I guess you can say I do that in lieu of breakfast in bed.

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Happy Hump Day

List at least five romantic things you want to do for the person you are dating now. (lol let’s rewind back 5 yrs.. now I can answer)

#1- I used to wait for him in his room to come home after work (night shift) and have Wendy’s waiting for him so we can talk about our days and eat his fav food ….. I think he’d really like if I did that again…simple but it worked

#2– I would like to take a boat ride around Burnen(?) Harbor just the two of us.. (and capt’n of course)

#3- I would like to pull out all of our pictures and talk about the good memories we had.

#4– He could go to a store and pick out any lingerie he finds appealing… and I’d model it for him while sipping some wine (which i absolutely hate/but he likes) and eating chocolate covered strawberries..yum

#5– I would get plane tickets to Puerto Rico.. So he could visit his grandmother/aunt… whom he hasn’t seen in yrs…

ahhh good times *tear*

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Raqi @ 9:31

I promise… taking care of him is REALLY romantic!!! He might not feel well enough to do anything about it now, But when he fells better, I can assure you he will! LOL

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I believe what she has to say is important and i am honored that she chose to share it with me…

Overly After 20 years you still feel that way? How inspiring!

LOL at me, cz and professor wanting our car detailed!!!

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I haven’t been dating in a while but I do remember, and miss, romance. The big thing for me is that a large part of a relationship is not so much about getting love but giving love.

During this period of time of being single I watch how couples relate to one another and it seems that there isn’t a lot of romance out there. I could be wrong but I don’t see a lot of hand holding or having one’s arm around each other. Do women shy away from these actions or public displays? For myself the part of intimacy isn’t always with the obvious goal in mind. You can be intimate without going to bed.

1. Find out what she likes and unexpectedly get her something related to it.

2. After a long day at work, draw her a bubble bath and have some relaxing music playing for her.

3. When out or even at home, stop whatever you are doing, don’t say anything and cup her face with both of your hands, look into her eyes and give her a kiss, no tongue, just a kiss.

4. Buy a card or flowers when it is not a birthday or anniversary

5. Above all else, tell her that she is beautiful and listen to her, make her feel that she is worth being around.

For myself, I’m probably wrong but I don’t think that I really need that much, have to think more about that one. But I do now that on the surface women need security while men need validation.

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I’d really like to have flowers delivered

ImAPeach:

Have you ever had the edile arrangements?? They are absolutely superb.. Beautiful Decor…and a tasty treat!

Prof… Why am I not surprised mop is #1 on your list.. lol

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Atlanta Gentleman….#3 would totally knock me out(in the very best way)!! If a man sent me a card or flowers, or brought me my favorite bottle of wine, he’d get a heartfelt and sincere show of appreciation and gratitude….but #3….I’d go weak in the knees and stop breathing.

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@Atl Gent- I love your #3

@Dream I like a man that can mop and get the brake dust off my tires that is Sexy

I am really looking forward to taking some notes from the fellas to see what they would like done for them

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Do guyz enjoy bubble baths?????

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Morning All!!

Things I would do/have done:

Send him flowers

Make a CD of songs that make me think of him and give it to him

Make him a basket full of his favorite goodies

Read Erotic Literature to him

Bring him lunch on a whim

Mail him a love letter/sent a message in a bottle to him

Wash his hair/massage his scalp

Things I would like to have done:

Send me flowers (calla lillies or tulips, no roses)

Write me a letter

Have my car cleaned and detailed

wash my hair

Read to me

Be okay with having a good ole fashioned make out session (that doesnt have to lead to s3x)

allow me to fall asleep while laying on you

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@Raqi – hang a “no smoking” sign from your rear view mirror.

@Atlanta Gentleman – on the tell her she is beautiful comment, i’d like to add this. If you discover something about your partner that they do not like about themself and tell them it’s something you like or find beautiful, it will make them feel really really good. I have moles on my face/neck and they aren’t super noticeable but i HATE them!!! Yesterday I was in the bathroom and my “friend” was all in my grill! He was like “I’ve never noticed your moles before… they are beautiful!” and his eyes just lit up and he had the biggest smile on his face. He didn’t know I didn’t like my moles – I’ve never told him. But the fact that he suddenly noticed and he loved them… man, it made me feel so nice.

@Dream – I’ve eaten an edible arrangement lol. And yes! They are tasty!

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@Mo I like this one **Read Erotic Literature to him**

I have done the care bag when my ex was sick…homemade soup,cough medication, cough drops, crackers and juice…

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5) Stock my fridge with his favorite beverages

Thanks for reminding me of this Hopeless. Stocking the fridge and pantry of your SOs favorites is very thoughtful

Fellas can you provide me some honest feedback on a gesture I started??? About 3 months after we began dating, I started a journal. And basically it’s a journal to him and what I’m doing is just writing down things we did and talked about each day. I plan on giving him this as a bday present next year (November). Would you guys find this interesting or a snooze fest? Would you read it or toss it in the corner?

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Dream I had to leave yesterday, but my roll call was sort of serious

Elijah> I spit fire LOL, because I can, but really I am never upset just cracking a few one liners…maybe I will get a gig at Uptown

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@Dream_n

Yup…South Side and a Chicago Public School product!

@ Blog

It seems like a lot of women here just want a maintenance man….lol just go to Home Depot! J/K!!!

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Peach

I know you said fellas, but I did a similar scrapbook for my ex and he loved it! I have done it twice and it went over well…mine were pics, movie stubs and just stuff from things we had done…and I had to substitute with going online and getting pictures because I do not save a lot of that stuff…each page had a theme and I wrote a note on what I remembered most and how it made me feel.

It went over very well I guess because it was from the heart!

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IMO the things that touches the deepest are those things outside of the normal realm of being “romantic” or “romantic gestures”.
There are certain things that are just textbook romance. I think the most unique the gesture and centered around your mate’s personal living the better.

For husband to send me flowers is textbook doings for me. But if helped me plant some flowers or even went out and handpicked some flowers for me that would be very special.

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@ImAPeach404

Cool idea. Also, save receipts from dates, ticket stubs, etc, just to make it more special.

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Professor will you make sure we don’t get turned away at the door???

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@Professor – That sounds really nice!!! I love to write but im not good at saving things, lol. I appreciate your comment and letting me know it was well accepted. It takes time to do stuff like that and I’d hate to think dudes could care less, lol.

It seems like a lot of women here just want a maintenance man…

Yea M. and yall looking for a momma

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Mdot no woman that really appreciates her man is looking for a maintenance man. Just know that the things you all do or can do to make our lives little less hectic and a lot more comfortable counts for a lot.

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@Raqi – I like what you said about sending flowers vs. planting/picking. Tis true but for the gal whom doesn’t have a man who follows the “text book”… receiving flowers can be a big deal.

@M. – thanks for the tip!

@cz – the older I get, the more pop up! I actually had about 40-50 of them removed earlier this year but the Dermatologist told me that the larger/darker ones are not so easily removed on AA skin w/out concern for scaring.
We’ve been together about 4 months and yesterday was the first time he ever saw them which means I probably make a bigger deal out of them than anybody else.
He said “God decided you were so beautiful that he sprinkled your face with beauty marks” that was kind of romantic now that I think of it….awwww!

@AtlantaG – yes, I do include my thoughts… the good the bad AND the ugly!

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Wise Diva,
Relax and let love take its course. A male friend of mine told me something over 15 years ago, that remained with me throughout my dating days. He said that a man could smell a desperate woman. I believe this is true. When ladies meet men, they’re already sizing them up in term of looks, character, career, and material things. It’s as if we’re completing this mental checklist while we are conversing with these guys. You’re right; you don’t want trash or a loser. However, you may want to relax, have fun during your date, and if it doesn’t work out, thank God you escaped a possible dead-end relationship.

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@Dream – Thank you

Just know that the things you all do or can do to make our lives little less hectic and a lot more comfortable counts for a lot. Well stated Raqi

@M. – did you have a bad experience with eating somebodys cooking? I use to work with this lady who would always bring desserts to work. I used to tear them up until she told me she had 11 dogs…

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czBrat – YOU GO CHICA!! LOL! okay you made it this long so you can go ahead and sport ya ponytail! Baby steps, one day at a time.

ATL Gentleman – thank you! And I feel the same way, I love for my SO to run his fingers through my hair…so relaxing

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@ CZ- I will take the door off the hinges, so don’t worry about that!

@ Peach…I did more of a scrapbook and I am not good at saving things either so I had to get creative and go online. For the Hawks game I did not have the tickets, but I went online and printed off the final score and the headline from the newspapers article.

@M. that was funny about the maintenance man. Seriously I really enjoy doing things from the heart and I like receiving those special thoughtful gifts…I guess you can say I am like the line from Lyfe’s song, …someone that is slow to take and quick to give…it must be nice (cooing like Lyfe)

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CZBrat: Thanks for clearing up the car cleaning details!!

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Mdot you know what is super romantic? Cooking together. Since you have an issue with a woman cooking for you the two of you getting in the kitchen and putting together a nice meal would be the epitome of romance. Feeding eat other little taste samples while sipping a glass of wine (or beverage of choice) and listening to some soft music can be H.O.T. So can you standing behind her with your hand on hers stirring a pot and inhaling that awesome aroma together.

Make it happen how you need it to happen.

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@Raqi

I guess people didnt read my list lol that was on my post. #5

5. Let’s make a complicated recipe from start to finish (go to the supermarket, cook and interact together and eat together.)

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Sorry Mdot I was reading from bottom of page up.

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Would you guys find this interesting or a snooze fest? Would you read it or toss it in the corner?

That wld depend on ur guy,his mental make up…

I see my Queen doing the same type of thing.She is a hopeless romantic and wld proly do stuff like that coz she sees “romance flashing signs” in the most mundane stuff.
Give it a try tho!

For me,the most romantic thing that i did once, that really took her by surprise and for which she still talks about is when she was prego with my son,almost nine months and i send a lady home to give her a full body massage.The lady even broght all her equipment(small folding bed)etc and they did the do in my daughter’s bedroom.It was a complete surprise to her.By the time the lady was done,Queen went to sleep and the lady was gone..the house was peaceful and i wasnt even there.
Its always on her mouth.
The things she does for me that i wld consider romantic?? Funny thing is,she does stuff that,upon reflection here,u wld call them romantic but i neva think about it that way,altho i shld:
1) buys me all my underwear
2) buys me most of my dress shirts,i neva ask her to
3) she plants a kiss on my cheek as she leaves for wrk and im lying in bed,tho not asleep.
4) always packs my lunch and leaves it on the counter or fridge
5) if u like how i smell,she picked the fragrance

Anything i wld do for this woman,she will proly find romantic.She likes holding hands when we go out in public,smetimes i have to shake the hand off me being me!

I cannot list here the things i wld want her to do for me coz i think she has done more for me than i have to her.
But then,if i did,I wld have a large clothing and laundry bill coz she wld spoil her clothing and underwear at the most remote and mundane of my actions.

I kinda play hard to catch with her and her emotions.
Im sure she finds that romantic too.Its not deliberate,its just my mental make up.

Morning folks!

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@Professor

LOL no worries its just funny how women have a honey do list change this light bulb, climb to the roof and adjust the satelite, wash the windows on the 2 floor, etc….

@ Guys

What do you call your list for the woman in your life and what is on this list? The Beau Do List?

Wait…this may be…chauvinistic not intentionally! Just want to hear the opinions!

@Raqi

No worries!

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Could “detailing the car” be a euphemism?

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Melo…

I know have a new respect for you… lol

M. I don’t think its so much of a honey to do list…

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A lot of folks mentioned things they do/would do everyday such as preparing dinner, helping getting his tie right, etc…. at what point do things that were romantic become routine? I mean at some point don’t those things that happen on a schedule have to be taken off the list of romantic things???

http://hispointofview.com

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helping getting his tie right, etc…. at what point do things that were romantic become routine?

East it’s not just helping with the shirt and tie but it’s more of when and how it’s done. It’s not something to do every day. It’s the approach. The look in my eyes. The whisper of my voice. The sexiness of my grin. The gentle touch of my hands against his back, shoulder and chest.

I agree some things are just routine and that is why I did not list cooking. I cook all the time. And did not include him giving me gifts because he does quite frequently. The romance of a gesture depends a lot on the timing.

Cheesecake is my crack. But I like it even more because I don’t eat it every day.

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And East that’s why I said it’s all about getting outside of the textbook gestures of romance. i.e. Candlelight dinners, walk in the park, etc.

However I do agree with ImAP when she says that when you are not getting those things it is special when you do. Textbook or not.

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1. Plan/cook his favorite meals
2. Pick up/buy something nice for him
3. Send a hawt message when I know he got a scheduled conference call…(did that once and he came out and said I had to come out of the call for that one AND took a flight in)
4. Engaged with him and his son…even sweeter when his son gave my daugter an unexpected smack…on the mouth…awwwww
5. Stroke him…when he needs it

Back to the cotton fields

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Hey Proff!

I know have a new respect for you

why is that??

didn’t go over too well… lol

Find a romantic book urself and read to him a passage or 2 and hear what he has to say??
He may not be wired that way..we all dont find romance in the same things.
My Queen wants me in the room as she watches a lyfetime movie and im reading my magzne.I dont get it,but she does.

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ImAPeach, the journal sounds like kind of an extreme idea to me. If my girl did that, I’d shutup and be as gracious as possible, but I’d think it was very weird. Writing down a record of our interactions? Hmmm. Weird.

Our way of being romantic is to take care of each other, in all ways. Consideration and respect for the other that outweighs self-interest is the key. I know what she likes; I do those things. She does the same for me. At that point, any activity is romantic.

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YAWN, you really need to do better.

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Melo:

You usually talk about and discuss crude things.. so to hear you speak about ur wife in that manner and to hear what you did for her is quite refreshing….. is all

MO: Yeah, its hard to be nice to a person when you are going to spend your weekend moving back in with your moms

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@Dream_n for some reason I think you mentioned throwing in the towel in a few months. Have you changed your mind?

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Proff..

No, the towel has been thrown in and he will be leaving this weekend… and I will be moving at the end of the month..

I sent the text to try to put some humor in the whole situatuion, but it didn’t work… it’s bitter sweet ya know…

I’m sad as hell, but trying to keep a smile on my face at work… and trying to keep from breaking down… but in the end its the best for all 3 parties involved…. me, lil dream, and him…..

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Dream_n??

Its the timing,like Raqi said.

What wld be the point in romancing somebody you’re getting rid of??

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Professor – Not Green Eggs And Ham! LOL! “Would you like them in a box, would you like them with a fox”…..

Dream_n – hang in there chica, it’ll get better but dont try and ignore how you feel.

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Dream

Ignore the my 12:29 I guess we were typing at the same time

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Professor – I LOVE Oh the Places You Will Go! Since I have Lil Mo, I have rekindled my love for Dr Seuss (Cat in the Hat, Green Eggs ‘n’ Ham, 1 Fish 2 Fish Red Fish Blue Fish, etc). Plus one year I helped my sister make green eggs and ham for her kindergarten class, she had read the book to them

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Ahhh that was really sweet of your sister to make the green eggs and ham for her class. I know the children got a kick out of it.

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let’s not forget Marvin K. Mooney!

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In a box, with a fox
In the rain, on a train
In a house, with a mouse

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Professor/Dream_n – “I do not like them on a train, I do not like them in the rain, I DO NOT like Green Eggs N Ham, I DO NOT like them Sam I Am!”

Oh and then there is “The sun did not shine it was too wet to play, so we stayed inside on that cold, cold wet day” Cat in the Hat!

The kids did like the green eggs n ham, it was cool.

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Professor – If not for Lil Mo I wouldnt know those few lines!!

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I still remember a lot of the nursery rhymes and my favorite the theme

Sunny Day
Sweepin’ the clouds away
On my way to where the air is sweet

Can you tell me how to get,
How to get to Sesame Street

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Yep Mo should change her moniker…

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Going back to catch up which is something I rarely do, but I want to see if I can get some ideas on ‘pampering’ MND.

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Oh now I am so game on the nursery rhymes!! LOL!

Peter, Peter Pumpkin Eater had a wife and could not keep her
Put her in a pumpkin shell
And there he kept her very well!

And ya’ll dont want to get me started on School House Rock:

Conjunction Junction whats your funnnnction? Hooking up words, and letters and phrases!

Hey SCool!

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Bad thing about coming on the blog this late, I have no idea what the topic is?

I read a little, and you guys have a lot of interesting romantic notions. Just be true, games put away, open, honest and like to laugh and I’ll find you romanceABLE!

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That’s my Jam

Conjunction Junction whats your funnnnction?

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five romantic things . . .

1. nice full body massage
2. cook him dinner while he watches the game in peace
3. read to him while he lays his head on my lap
4. take him out on a date (my treat). even if it’s a sports event or hangin’ out at the sports bar
5. fullfilling any of his fantasy

most of the above are only for the guy i’m seriously dating.

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Mo

You did not take it back to School House ROck.. lol!!

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Sorry Leggs …lol

Yes ladies Proff/Mo/czbrat….

back on the topic!!!

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We are going to spend a nice anniversary tomorrow wiping each other’s nose and sipping lemon tea. LOL

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having a problem with my best friend. everytime she calls, it’s always about her issues. i’m really tired of hearing about the drama. i love her to death, but dayum. had to vent.

anyhoo… bbl.

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Dream_n of the things that I mentioned in my first post I asked one of the gentlemen that works with me which would he find romantic from his wife. He said trimming the whiskers and buttoning his shirt.

I have heard before where guys think their woman shaving or shaping them is romantic and sexy. My husband has never really said whether it’s romantic/sexy to him or not. He just allows me to do it.

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Hello everyone! Ok, Dr. Seuss. I like Go Dog Go, but can’t think of any lines!

@Mo, that kid break was probably necessary.

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School House Rock…rocks! I can only pop in and out…just inherited another huge account. There goes my free time with my nose to the grind…hey, that rhymed

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Hey Leggs.

Yeah he must like something about it since he allows me to do it occasionally.

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Talking of Small gestrures:

an unexpected text to a cobweb infested flame of urs, while shes at wrk,saying sme like,”babe, i be over tonite” may be jus enough to soil her pants and be viewed as romantic…by her.

All this small gestures stuff has a lot to do with where a woman is,mentally and sexually.

One of my signature moves while still a bachelor was to buy a “current” interest, a sexxy set or 2 of underwear(matching bra and honey holder) esp. and be4 i extended the hand of friendship.
Small thing…?? but Big thing coz they wld be ready to invite themselves over for an extended weekend stay.
When ur gift makes a woman start seeing and conjuring images in her lil brain,u know u have scored big time!(sex,kids,husband,trip tgether,nakked,arm in arm…..??)

U neva go wrong with that kinda donation.
Again,Timing is the key.

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Loved “I’m Just a Bill.” Putting that into song was a great way to memorize how a bill becomes law.

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LMBO @ Ms. Main! it’s hard on the plantation gurl!

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Raqi

I think small things like that can be perceived as romantic.. not romantic in a sense of a candle light dinner or sending flowers, but nonchalantly doing little things effortlessly to help him out… It may seem small but inside he’s bursting with appreciation..

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Ya’ll know big brother is ALWAYS watching. They probably said if I can blog, I can take another account…sigh

Ms.Main…

I’m with you.. after my laugh/cough outburst yesterday… Big Brother may be watching a little harder than usual..

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I think small things like that can be perceived as romantic.. not romantic in a sense of a candle light dinner or sending flowers, but nonchalantly doing little things effortlessly to help him out… It may seem small but inside he’s bursting with appreciation..

i think Raqi made a great point when she said it’s all in the approach. if you’re helping your s/o with little things but you’re very matter-of-fact or disconnected through it all, that’s not so romantic. but if you’re sharing the tenderness in doing something for him, then handing him a pair of stinkin’ socks can just about be the highlight of his day!!!

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Oh…and another topic that came up with MND and I was about being appreciated and not taken for granted.

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Oh and I really like the scrapbook/journal idea that you guys talked about. MND is the kind of guy that would appreciate that. I will start one.

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CZBrat/Dream_n – It would irke my former manager to no ends, that someone was playing games….she had them removed from the pc and yes, for any other game you can access….access denied. Here recently, they just blocked our gmail and yahoo access. No complaints here cuz I neez my job.

Leggs, one thing I know about learning…for children…singing and visuals sticks so much better than expounding to them daily.

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Oh no, Mr. Zip. Raqi, For Real cannot be rubbing off on you. In the words of My2, “I reject that.” ~lol~

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irk

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No complaints here cuz I neez my job.

*raising my glass* Here! Here!

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And yet, I read it that way anyway. HILARIOUS!

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LadyJ – It’s funny to hear the radio spots advertising the concert because the commercials are really heavy on the Eric Benet of it all. While MND and I are prepared to enjoy Mr. Benet AND Ledisi, it’s Mint Condition that has us both excited. LOL!

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SexyCool I am right with yall!!!!! Mint Condition all day honey!!!!!!!!!!! Sigh!!!!:( Have fun though!

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CZBrat – i’ve pretty much decided i’ll start bringing my laptop to work. that way i can FB & blog all i want no matter what restrictions they want to place on THEIR network.

There’s always a work around…lol

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Also whisper something cute in her ear

As u plant the kiss on her neck,in shhhhhhhh tone,”u were on fire last nite”

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Leggs – it seemed like I remember liking the movie the first time I saw it. As a date night movie, it was not a good choice at all. We didn’t even watch the whole movie.

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Hey Mo…Swing by Monday for MNF @ the spot…lol the crew will be there…read between the lines….Can you believe I haven’t been there in 3 months…Monday will be a great time as I pray the Saints don’t kill us! LOL Hope to see ya!

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Afternoon folks!

I’m also taking notes, but we do a lot of what was mentioned. But I think I’m going to do that scrapbook thing and give that to him as a wedding gift.

Crooklyn – LOVED.IT!!! I’m like Leggs, it was similar to my childhood. Many a dream has been disturbed to re-wash dishes so we wouldn’t get Tomaine (sp?) poisoning Oh and I’ve fallen asleep in front of a few plates because I didn’t want to eat what was before me – while my sister and step-brother were watching TV.

Concert – Eric Benet is who I REALLY want to see. I’m pretty sure I’ll fall in love with Mint Condition after the concert but I’ve never heard a full MI album. Oh and Ledisi is my girl! Eric Benet puts on a VERY sexy show

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One of the older ladies here actually carries in her purse packs of those forehead thermometer strips. I didn’t think those still existed.

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Because of Crooklyn, I am banned from being able to choose the movie. However, because of a bad dining experience we had at this spot called Five Seasons Saturday night, he has banned himself from choosing where we eat out.

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he has banned himself…

LOL

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Do you guys have any idea how far “just whisper something in her ear or kiss her on her neck before she leaves for the day” will last a woman’s mind. It can make some go in the bathroom and touch themselves until actual contact can be made. Words are powerful (LOL).

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It can make some go in the bathroom and touch themselves until actual contact can be made.

Leggs you owe me for the cleaners bill for my suit and to retype some forms. I spit lemon tea reading that. You totally surprised me with that one. LOL

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Leggs

WOW!!!!!

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Mo – I think Mint Condition must have come out when I was ‘in church’ as my BFF likes to say. No secular music from 1992 – 2000, so I only know the REALLY popular songs like Pretty Brown Eyes. I have a Mint Condition station on Pandora so I’m trying to catch up.

Leggs – liver and brussel sprouts for me. Oh and I forgot about going down South for the summer. I think I’m going to try and watch that movie this weekend.

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Tazzee my brother had brussel sprouts, which he hated, for breakfast many mornings. If he hadn’t finished his dinner by the time my mom was ready to go to bed, she would put his plate in the fridge and put it back in front of him at breakfast.

Everyone else was eating eggs, bacon, grits and he was eating the night before brussel sprouts.

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Do you guys have any idea how far “just whisper something in her ear or kiss her on her neck before she leaves for the day” will last a woman’s mind. It can make some go in the bathroom and touch themselves until actual contact can be made. Words are powerful

Or be certain to wipe slowly…too fast may cause a burst

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Tazzee – okay chica, you are good then cause you would have missed all their stuff til recently! I actually have all their cds, including the one SCool mentioned and even some soundtracks they were on.

Raqi – my parents did that ‘unfinished-dinner-for-breakfast’ deal too. My dad’s favorite line “aint no bones in that”

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Mo I only had to do it once with my youngest son and he started forcing anything that he didn’t like down. Once he was acting like he was going to throw-up I told him he would be eating it if he did. I didn’t really mean it but he didn’t have to know that. LOL Either way I never had any trouble getting him to eat to this day.

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ok. i never did the “if you don’t eat it you’ll see it again tomorrow” thing, but i was notorious for puting food in front of my kids and my response to their blank stare was “but that’s your favorite”. then they’d shrug and get to eatin. i hate that they’re too old to fall for that now

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Ok, perhaps it’s just me, but the blog topic = Small Gestures, Big Return. Isn’t that the same as my 3:02!

@czBrat ~ don’tcha think that’s a happy place. I’m cracking up over here!

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Yeah Leggs I totally didn’t see that one coming. LOL
Here I am feeling all feverish and achy sipping my hot honey lemon tea and you shocked me. Or as I read a few of us. LOL

But yeah leaving the right words in the ear will have a special one eagerly waiting to get back to you at the end of the day.

And a nice text or email sent can really left the spirits when your S/O is having a hard and/or not so good day.

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Isn’t that the same as my 3:02!

Leggs yes it is.

The bad girl in me earlier was thinking more in line of how the bible says the tongue is a “small” member…but I am feeling too bad to even finish my thought. LOL

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Mo, my thing is if you are not allergic to it and/or it will not make you sick you are eating it.

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@Raqi, some of those can be the best comments, when you don’t see it coming. Sorry, you’re feeling all achy! Hope you feel better soon.

Meant to laugh behind “you guys can act all brand new…” Just playing with you!

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Raqi – I threw up once, they didn’t make me eat it though. I was a stubborn child so it might still be there.

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your S/O is having a hard and/or not so good day

RAQI/LEGGS..

isnt it funny how “hard” to men and women is taken so so differently.
To a man,hard is when hes finding it difficult to put back,the engine or transmission that he took down or the jack buckled up under the weight of the car and hes trying to get it up so he can put the tires back on.
To a woman,she will say:

Leggs:ohhh,Keisha,it has has been hard for me these past few months..

Keisha: whats wrong baby,whats the ptoblem?

Leggs: well,u know ever since Jack left,it has been hard for me every nite

Keisha: i know leggs,just be strong sweetie,god is good

Leggs: i know keisha, i know, u dont know how hard it is to just sleep all nite on ur own.

Keish: i know,trust me,i dont know what i wld do if Tyrone were not here

Leggs: baby,u so luck.I havent had any in ma mouf in a minute and its daaanmn hard!(leggs,wiping tears with a tissue)

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Ok, ok, I’ll behave (maybe).

As picky of an eater as I am, I’m thankful Mama never made me eat it the next day. Also, thankful that lil leggs isn’t as picky as I am.

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one benefit of being a czBrat … if i didn’t like what was on the menu, the nanny made me something else.

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I’m going to kick your arse for that skit, Melo!!! You are a bonafide nut.

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Raqi – Heck if I’m revved up…gotta be careful…lol

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…stepping in for a hot second.

What are we talking about? Did the fellas tell us what they like? I am trying to get ready to pamper my next one.

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:green: !

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:green:

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it’s “mrgreen”

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Other men said they have seen angels,
But I have seen thee
And thou art enough.
~ by G. Moore ~

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!

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From the lack of response from the guys, I ask this question: Is it that the guys only care about romance because we do? And do things that result in a ‘happy ending’ satisfy their definition of/need for romance?

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Romantic Gestures that I like:

A wink from across a crowded room

Offering me his jacket on a cool evening

Ordering my favorite dessert for me while I stepped away from the table

Offering me a taste of something he ordered on his fork/spoon

A nice lower back rub while waiting in line or to be seated

A kiss on the back of the hand while riding in the car

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SexyCool, IMO with more than a few guys it is all about the “happy endings”, but what many of them do not realize is when they play their romantic cards consecutively in right order they could walk a woman to her door after a nice evening out, give her a hug, place a nice kiss on her cheek, turn to walk away and she will be pulling him back to her.

While the happy ending should not be the only reason a person does wonderful things for their s/o, doing those things gives them a better chance of reaching those desired endings.

Make the right woman happy, she’ll make you happy without fail.

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My dad and Mom were watching RHOA…. and there was this episode where they were somewhere and Kandi and AJ were talking to Kim… while they were talking they were eating… All of a sudden my Dad was like “That’s what I’m talking about” I mean he was really fired up.. my mom and I were like” What?… He was like now why did she have to eat off his plate… She has her own plate in front of her…..

What is the big deal about that.. is it so bad if I want to taste YOUR chicken lol

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@Dream_n, I saw that and I said to myself, “she just reached over and took something off his plate.” A lot of people don’t like that. However, perhaps they have that understanding that’s it’s ok for her to do that.

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Yeah what Leggs said. LOL

My husband is a big meat eater and we had that situation in the beginning when it would come to catered events because the servings of protein would be so small. Now it’s not a big deal since we agree. I usually take a piece and then sweep the rest onto his plate before he even ask for it. I don’t mind him eating from plate, just ask me first.

I try to remind him to eat a sandwich or something before we leave the house when I know the event is catered.

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Actress Essence Atkins met her husband on Match.com – Stay positive my online dating friends.

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Leggs – mute buttons are necessary when on a conf. call while reading this blog!

I am definitely finding that out.

Raqi, Make the right woman happy, she’ll make you happy without fail.

That is one of the truest and most endearing things that I learned, too late, after my first marriage and is something that will always be my reference point for whenever I get back ‘out on the scene’.

SexyCool – I ask this question: Is it that the guys only care about romance because we do?

I guess that because I am older and a little bit wiser, I am not looking for a ways to a mean in that respect. I enjoy romance because it resonates with something in my soul, sharing that connection with someone else while on this journey we find ourselves on.

Love is a friendship set to music.
~ Joseph Campbell ~

Pardon the quotes but I read a fair amount and study Philosophy to an extent but I do also enjoy a good Marx Brothers movie from time to time and smiling is always good for the soul!

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Yeah. I don’t mind the eating off my plate. At all.

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I’ve said many times before, a man that has a problem with me eating off his plate couldn’t be MY man.

Melo – after I said yes, he called more people than I did to recount the story. Well, his story was just that I said yes because all his folks knew he was going to do it beforehand. He had it on his FB page long before I did (some folks I wanted to tell in person first). I don’t know if it’s all because he just wants to make me happy or he actually likes it but he did consult my BFFs before the proposal. Whatever the reason, I love his romantic gestures.

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AG – “I enjoy romance because it resonates with something in my soul, sharing that connection with someone else while on this journey we find ourselves on.”

I’m finding that MND is this way and learning things like that about him fill me to overflowing.

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@AtlGent, this will help:

http://www.karaokebus.tzo.com/blog_formatting.txt

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Yeah right after I taste that piece of meat on your plate…

u can have my meat and any other meat baby!

good nite pple

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I think my fiance’ does it for the same reason Atlanta Gentleman stated. I say that because he just does the little things out of nowhere and he’s not looking for anything in response. He takes care with it too. Like for my birthday – when I got home that night there were balloons EVERYWHERE. He didn’t spend a lot of money, the thoughtfulness of the gifts were right on point. It showed that he paid close attention to me and my habits.

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I hope everyone has a good evening. Time for some more ‘extra curricular’ activity tomorrow.

I enjoyed being here.

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Tazzee

I never got to hear the story of the proposal… When you get time tell it again soon!!!!…. I’m a sucker for a love story!

Night All…

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